In my life experience, one of the most common things I see is that people get hurt and offended and then they feel justified in attacking back. AND the really intense part of that whole painful mess is that it happens so fast that we don’t even really know what’s going on.
If we’d like to get to the bottom of it and turn the ship around, we have to have a great willingness to let the upset go in favor of Peace. Most people don’t have enough motivation. For me, Self-Love became my great motivation. I actively choose to Love myself and so not being at Peace is not worth it, it’s an attack upon my very Self.
When I look deeply into things, there can be a great heart opening and a change.
Example: yesterday, I had a moment with a loved one. They said something snarky to me and I felt a bit attacked. I knew the thing to do in that moment was to withdraw and just let it all be.
I gave it up to Spirit to teach me about the meaning of it and the value of it. I know that everything works together for good and there are no exceptions. Before too long I remembered that this person says snarky comments to everyone they love and it’s not personal to me. I could really feel that was true and that felt like a healing to me.
I returned to the scene of the “crime,” so glad and grateful that I hadn’t retaliated or escalated in any way. We actually spent the next couple of hours talking and enjoying each other connecting in a beautiful way.
Then, as God would have it, it came into my mind, that something I had said was perceived as a threat and that’s why I got the snarky comment. I saw it plain as day. I hadn’t intended it that way – but that doesn’t matter so much. People don’t need a reason to take offense and react with attack. It all happens so fast.
What I did easily see was that my willingness to not be offended and instead have compassion was also an extension of compassion to my former self who was CONSTANTLY making snarky comments.
Also, I saw that my willingness to not be hurt and to go back into the “fray” was an affirmation of my loving acceptance and that brought more Love between us.
I am so grateful I can choose a better way.
It’s a moment-by-moment practice that builds our mastery and keeps our Peace. It’s beautiful!
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