Archive for the ‘Forgiveness’ Category

Freedom From Fear

Thursday, June 21st, 2018

One great thing about being on this path and actually doing the work of healing the mind, is that as you progress you can see the choice points. This means you create a lot less trouble for yourself. Which is SUCH a good feeling.

I can remember when I began to really get that my upset was caused by me and that I had the power to make another choice. I began to actively celebrate my decision to turn away from the thinking that was so painful and caused so much distress.

Deep down, I knew that I had the power to choose a higher thought.
Still, I continued to choose to affirm that life was happening to me and it wasn’t my fault.

I can remember feeling that thinking it was happening TO me rather than BY me was some how preferable. For a long, LONG time, I put so much energy into blaming others.

People often tell me that they’re amazed at how much I accomplish. Well, it’s because I don’t invest my energy in a lot of things that take up huge amounts of time.

So many have told me they’re plagued by a fear of not having enough time to live the life they’d like, but that’s a made up story. Instead, they’re investing their time and energy in things that are wasteful and draining of energy.

I used to binge watch tv SO OFTEN.
I did it to escape.
Now, I occasionally make a date with myself to enjoy a favorite program for a few hours, but I don’t feel like I’m wasting time. It feels fun and restful.

I don’t feel guilty afterwards.
It’s like having a big ice cream sundae.
If you do it in moderation, it’s a wonderful and enjoyable thing!

If you’re doing something you enjoy in a way that dulls your senses, in order to escape from the pain of this world, it’s delaying the healing due to overwhelm.

I’m so familiar with feeling afraid that I don’t have what it takes, and instead choosing to escape, and delay my healing due to overwhelm. Enough! That’s not helpful.

And that’s precisely why I’m offering this free class today!
I’ll share what’s helpful so we can break these patterns and live a life that’s fulfilling!

Freedom From Fear!

Register now and come join me LIVE on VIDEO and let’s join together to eliminate fear from our experience!

TODAY! FREE CLASS – Join me in my Freedom From Fear LIVE VIDEO class. This is my gift to you – all you have to do is register. Please come and bring your questions – invite a friend to join us. It’s FREE!

We’re an expanding global spiritual community of prayerful people willing to be co-workers with God. We’re waking up together and finding freedom in our hearts. I’m so grateful for this!

If you find what I’m sharing helpful, won’t you please share at facebook and twitter to let others know? Thank you!

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Fear Buster

Tuesday, June 19th, 2018

Spiritual practice is a fear buster. It’s the only thing I know that really works and heals the root causes of fear. And yet, sometimes being worried and afraid feels so familiar that we cling to the habits of fear.

When we’re afraid all the time, we’re less likely to take risks and take chances, so we play small to play it “safe.” Playing it safe can also be extremely painful.

For a long time I thought that the time wasn’t right to take risks. I was waiting for things in the world to align. I thought I needed things to be different in the world before I could be successful.

One of the greatest learnings I’ve had is that Spirit always provides what’s needed for the highest and best to unfold. My job is to trust that and not second guess God.

It’s definitely a learning curve.

I’ve also learned that fear is optional. We can get used to living without fear as a motivator. We don’t have to frighten ourselves into doing things. In other words, we don’t have to berate ourselves and chastise ourselves in order to get things accomplished.

We can learn to be that loving parent that encourages and inspires.

I’d much rather inspire myself with a vision of Beauty and Love then motivate myself with a threat of lack and loss.

I encourage you to look at the reasons behind your choices. I wrote about this recently – the ends is in the means. If we’d like to have prosperous ends, we must employ the means for prosperity which are always going to be Love and gratitude, gratitude and Love!

Through the simple practices of Love and gratitude we bust up fear. Fear has no power. Love is the ONLY power and gratitude helps us to remember to choose Love!

I have a free class I’m offering on Thursday – Freedom From Fear – register now and join me LIVE on video!

TODAY RADIO SHOW: my topic is Fear Buster

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We’re an expanding global spiritual community of prayerful people willing to be co-workers with God. We’re waking up together and finding freedom in our hearts. I’m so grateful for this!

If you find what I’m sharing helpful, won’t you please share at facebook and twitter to let others know? Thank you!

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Rejection

Monday, June 18th, 2018

I used to have a real problem with rejecting people. I would sense some kind of criticism or rejection coming my way and I’d try to beat the person to the punch, so to speak. I was playing an ego game of “I’ll reject you before you reject me.”

Like attracts like. And nothing changes unless someone decides to do something differently.

I started to experience a lot of healing in my life when I made the decision to shift that pattern. I decided to develop the patience to hold my tongue. It was very important to me and I really made up my mind to do it.

I put Spirit in charge of showing me all the opportunities to be patient and shift things. What I discovered was that in the time of being patient I could hear my heart’s call to be loving and compassionate.

I used to take offense SO easily. It was a big challenge for me not to go off like a rocket at the slightest provocation. I was deeply insecure, and that was the cause of my fear-based reactions, but I didn’t realize it.

I was SO defensive. And that was exhausting. Pretty quickly, it was obvious that it was just so much easier to live a life without rejecting others. Other people’s rejections became a point of compassion rather than me taking it personally.

Taking time for the pause. Being patient. Giving myself a chance to just BE with what was occurring allowed me to remember that I was much more interested in being loving than being right.

Now, I can feel that I was rejecting God’s Love.
Now, I know that it is my calling to extend Love.
All are called. We can answer this call every time it appears.

I learned to be grateful for the times when i got triggered because it brought my awareness to an opportunity to extend Love and change my life, which I surely did.

It seems overwhelming, but it’s really about only a few things:

Decide what’s most important to you and commit to it to the best of your ability in the moment.
Ask Spirit for assistance and guidance.
Follow the guidance you get.

This is how we transform our lives from being a giant pain in the butt to being a healing presence! It works!

Are you interested in stepping up your game and sharing your talents?
Would you like to inspire others?

Jon Mundy and I are offering 3 Trainings in August. If you’d like to learn about these trainings in inspirational writing, teaching and speaking, click here for more information. These retreats are open to anyone who’d like to build their skills AND do some deep spiritual healing of patterns of unworthiness!

We’re an expanding global spiritual community of prayerful people willing to be co-workers with God. We’re waking up together and finding freedom in our hearts. I’m so grateful for this!

If you find what I’m sharing helpful, won’t you please share at facebook and twitter to let others know? Thank you!

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Fear Undone

Friday, June 15th, 2018

I can remember when I would have shock waves of fear that seemed to shoot through me like lightning waves. I’d have a thought that would produce a rush of adrenaline and an energetic shock that moved through me in a way that my heart would start racing instantly. The worst was late at night or first thing in the morning.

Once I had a mild panic attack that was a whole different kind of fear but felt almost foundational – like my very core was threatened.

If only someone could have told me then what I now know! And A Course in Miracles says it so well:

“All fear is ultimately reducible to the basic misperception that you have the ability to usurp the power of God.” ACIM T-2.I.4.

I understand that it seems hard to believe that all fear comes from judging, and from thinking thoughts that are untrue. It can seem as though fear comes from what’s happening in the world. It can seem like there’s a monster out there that’s upsetting us, but all of the causes or fear are in our own mind.

Our opinions are what’s frightening us. When we affirm our judgments and opinions we’re affirming that we’re the ones who decide who is good and who is bad, who is right and who is wrong, and in doing so we become the usurpers. We’re usurping God. We become guilty of spiritual patricide. And that’s really scary.

We can train our mind to see beyond appearances and recognize only the truth, or we can continue to learn to live with fear and bend ourselves to it’s uncomfortable distortions of reality. I move that we love ourselves enough to stop frightening ourselves and live in Peace.

Consider if there’s someone in your life that you really love and adore – would you yell at them? Frighten them? Torture them? Manipulate them?

You wouldn’t do those things if you truly loved them. Those behaviors have nothing to do with Love. They are the distorted behaviors that fear brings.

What judgment do you have that could possibly be worth holding onto when you know that it will cause your own suffering? Think of all the things you’ve done to try to end your suffering that haven’t really worked.

Would you try the one thing that actually works?

Or do you feel that you can have your judgments and the fear you experience is unrelated?

I don’t think I could have believed giving up my opinions would relieve me of fear. I only know that it works because I have been giving up my judgments as part of my daily spiritual practice for more than a decade and as a result, I don’t have much fear. Most of the fear I experience these days is annoyance.

I can’t remember the last time I felt one of those shock waves of fear, but I can remember feeling joyous and grateful yesterday. I feel grateful and thankful even now as I write this.

I let God be God. I am part of God, and I don’t need to judge anything or anyone anymore. I’m not interested in being a usurper. I prefer to feel free and harmonious ALL of the time. I am intent on it. I am closer to my goal every day! And for this, I am so very grateful! I am loving myself free of lack, attack and limitation. It’s happening now.

If you’re finding what I’m sharing to be helpful, won’t you please share at facebook and twitter to let others know? Thank you!

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Regret

Wednesday, June 13th, 2018

Do you ever feel under-appreciated? Do you think it’s because of what others are doing or not doing? I used to feel that way. And I used to let it eat up a bunch of my energy. I actually used to keep score and watch and wait to see if people would forget to appreciate me.

I would actually feel a deranged kind of victory if I “knew” they’d forget me and then they did. I got to be right about how wrong they were. I got to feel justified in my victim status.

I’d regret that I’d ever done anything nice for them in the first place. I’d resent that I’d wasted my energy. I kept cycling through this pattern for years. If only I’d realized that I was only doing things for others in order to get appreciation and recognition. No amount of outside recognition could complete me as long as I believed I was lacking.

Every time I did things to get appreciation I was affirming that I, of myself, wasn’t enough. I had to earn the Love and appreciation. The cure? Self-Love.

I knew I had gotten past that pattern of resentment when I helped to organize a HUGE event that was my idea and brought a great deal of benefit to many hundreds of people and was deeply healing and spectacular.

The whole event was my idea. I worked on it tirelessly. It was a major success.

And not one acknowledgement of me and my genius idea, my hard work, nothing, not even a mention of my name from the stage, from the ones who got the “credit.” And I was totally okay with that, because my reward was the healing that everyone had. I was completely fulfilled. Things were perfect, just as they were. I was filled with gratitude. I didn’t need anything more.

Have you ever felt taken advantage of? I used to feel that way a lot, and I haven’t felt that in a long time and I know why. No one can take advantage of me without my consent. I don’t give that consent anymore.

When I used to give of my time, energy, money, attention and affection in order to GET something then I used to feel taken advantage of. In actuality, I was manipulating people to try to get something from them. Like attracts like.

If you feel unappreciated then you’re probably giving in order to get something. It’s worth looking within to feel if you’re having any sense of resentment and ask “am I giving to get anything in return?” If you’re giving to get then you’re setting yourself up for upset.

Why set yourself up to be bothered? That’s not self-loving.

If you’d like others to be more loving toward you, be loving towards yourself.

I’ve learned that when I’m giving from the overflow of God’s bountiful goodness then I don’t need any recognition or appreciation. I’m giving because I have been given to. Being in the flow of Love is more than enough reward – it’s TRUE abundance!

A Course in Miracles tells us: “To have, give all to all.”

To have the consciousness of one who HAS, give love (which is all) to all. Don’t hold back Love and then you’ll feel the flow of Love in your life. Love is so much more enjoyable than resentment and regret. Flip the switch in your mind by loving yourself free of these limiting thoughts and habits. We have more important things to do with our energy and time! It’s time to shine!

Would you like to share your gifts and talents with more authenticity and confidence?

Three new trainings co-led by me and Jon Mundy. Registration is open now with Early Bird Pricing & Payment plans!

Training #1 – Inspirational Writing
Thursday August 16 to Sunday 19th
3 nights

Training #2 – Leading/Creating A Workshop –
Includes how to lead my Forgive & Be Free Workshop
Sunday August 19th to Thursday 23rd
4 nights

Training #3 – Inspired Speaking – Giving An Inspiring Talk
Thursday August 23 to Sunday 26th
3 nights

All three consecutive events will be held at Scottsdale Plaza Resort, in Scottsdale Arizona, right next to Phoenix. Click here for more info and registration!

Come for 1, 2 or 3 of these professional trainings. Power of Love Ministry is developing a ministerial/teacher training and these are part of the curriculum for that training.

TODAY is my Sacred Circle day! This is my monthly membership program that gives you a weekly call of group spiritual counseling. Join my Sacred Circle and you can ask me any question you would like on the phone, on line or in writing! I love it! We have an awesome group of people who are doing the deep work! Try my Sacred Circle for a month and see! 4 spiritual counseling calls with me each month – ask me any question! Join me live or get the download later.

We’re an expanding global spiritual community of prayerful people willing to be co-workers with God. We’re waking up together and finding freedom in our hearts. I’m so grateful for this!

If you find what I’m sharing helpful, won’t you please share at facebook and twitter to let others know? Thank you!

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Suicide

Saturday, June 9th, 2018

I learned yesterday that TV chef and storyteller, Anthony Bourdain killed himself yesterday. Seems like it was just the day before that fashion designer Kate Spade ended her life.

I have worked with many people who felt suicidal as well as with many people whose loved ones have taken their own lives and it is just about the most devastating thing I know of.

Inevitably, people who are “left behind” feel that there must have been something they could have done, should have known or must’ve missed. They feel intensely guilty that they didn’t or couldn’t do something to prevent the “waste” of life.

Others feel intensely wounded because they feel as though their connection with the person ought to have been enough for them to live for. They take it personally. They make the meaning of it that if they were more lovable their loved one would have had reason to live.

All of these interpretations are of the ego.

In my understanding based on all my many conversations with the loved ones of those who took their lives and with those who have contemplated taking their life, the reason for suicide is primarily one reason and one only: they feel that life is no longer worth living.

Often, the decision for death happens in a flash. People simply catch a glimpse of a life of misery without end or escape and choose to end their lives.

I remember some years ago L’Wren Scott, fashion designer, model and Mick Jagger girlfriend took her own life.

People so often think that their life would be worth living and so much better if only they were wealthy, famous, talented, or beautiful. It’s absolutely an illusion.

There’s really only one worthwhile reason to live this life, and it’s to grow in the ability to Love through being loving, extending Love, sharing Love and receiving Love.

If we’re not actively extending Love and receiving Love we’re going to feel out of sorts, and out of tune with the infinite. Fortunately, we can extend Love even if we’re all alone and bed ridden. We can be a profoundly loving and light filled presence right where we are, at any moment.

Suicide is no answer to the problem.
Forgiveness IS the answer to the problem.

I had a time when I felt very strongly that I would like to be able to leave this world and I would have done it if it weren’t for the people I love.

I’m so very glad and grateful that the Love of my family and friends was clear enough that I couldn’t make the choice to end my life. I’m so grateful for every part of my journey so far.

There are still times when the intensity of the density of this world discourages me, but I don’t stay there. For the last few years, every night before I go to bed, no matter what I pray and meditate. No matter if I’m falling asleep in the chair while I pray. I stay in my chair until I’m complete. I don’t go to bed without praying for you, me and everyone else. Every day.

I’ve had people take my Finding Freedom Bootcamp and tell me that afterwards they were no longer suicidal. The practices in that class wiped them clean of that level of despair.

I’ve had people I didn’t even know personally call me and tell me they wanted to kill themselves before their children came home from school that day. Self-forgiveness got them out of that mind set. It worked fast.

Self-forgiveness is the way out of most suffering. If you haven’t yet experienced my free How to Get Over It workshop then please, give it a go!

I strongly encourage you to please have a forgiveness party instead of a pity party. Please do it – if not for yourself, then for someone you Love. Be a support to them if it’s not for your own happiness and Freedom, do it for them.

Have a friend or two or three over, have a pot luck, order in some great take out, listen to the workshop and do the work right there together and share. Do it with your sister, your brother, your neighbor.

What a powerful gift you’ll give yourselves and it costs you nothing except the time, energy and food – and it can bring you a deep and lasting healing. It’s the best anti-inflammatory and the best anti-aging method there is!

Here’s what I absolutely know: Your life is worth living. You are a treasure to God and to me. Let’s live our destiny. Let’s do it together!

We’re waking up together and finding freedom in our hearts. I’m so grateful for this!

If you find what I’m sharing helpful, won’t you please share at facebook and twitter to let’s other know? Thank you!

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Self-Sabotage

Friday, June 8th, 2018

One of the side benefits of being a minister and a spiritual counselor is that I’ve talked with at least 1,000 people about their ways of self-sabotage and so I’ve learned a lot about the topic. Now, I can see the sabotage coming and so I don’t engage.

I used to feel as though my own self-sabotage was like some kind of monster from the deep that would grab a hold on my leg and pull me right down, under the surface so that I felt like I was drowning and there was nothing I could do.

I really hated that feeling of being pulled down, down, down by the ego. It felt so strong, I didn’t have the strength to resist. It felt easier to just let it drag me down and then try to make a come back later.

Now, I know that we can interrupt the patterns that drag us down. These fear patterns SEEM like they have so much power, but they really don’t. God has ALL the power and there is NO other power anywhere, ever, at any time.

A Course in Miracles tells us that we’re much too tolerant of mind-wandering. Our mind wanders to thoughts of separation, which frighten us, and we stay there, adding more and more to the story like adding to a house of cards until we collapse into some really blatant form of self-attack, like drinking an entire bottle of wine or some other self-wounding which leaves us feeling like a total loser.

And, of course, that’s frightening to us.
It’s also more evidence to the ego that we’re an idiot and cannot be trusted at all.

Fortunately, none of this really means anything. Only Love is meaningful. In that same section of ACIM that I just referred to, Jesus says to us:

“The correction is always the same. Before you choose to do anything, ask me if your choice is in accord with mine. If you are sure that it is, there will be no fear.” T-2.VI.4.

If we’d truly like to make sure our choices are in accord with Jesus, we can ask him to remind us to ask him. We can ask the angels to remind us too. All of heaven will absolutely support us if we’re willing to receive it.

Sometimes it seems to me that the most fundamental form of sabotage is convincing ourselves that we’re on our own when we never are and cannot be. It’s completely an illusion.

Let’s join together and decide that we will not be party to this insanity anymore! Enough!

Today, let’s have the courage to realize there is no monster under the bed, there is only the idea of one. It’s a shadow. We are the Light!

We’re an expanding global spiritual community of prayerful people willing to be co-workers with God. We’re waking up together and finding freedom in our hearts. I’m so grateful for this!

If you find what I’m sharing helpful, won’t you please share at facebook and twitter to let others know? Thank you!

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Infinite Patience

Thursday, June 7th, 2018

On Tuesday this week, I got news from the hotel that we booked for the teaching events in August that they’d like to charge us an additional $25,000 for the meeting room. Of course, that’s a deal breaker. So, I’ve followed my intuition to find us a new venue, and I think I’ve found it, but it’s nowhere near the NY hotel we had before.

I don’t know why things happen the way they do. I only know that my guidance is to follow my intuition and trust. I am guided to have faith that I’m being guided and led and there’s not one thing to worry about. All is well.

I’ve found that by living and working this way, life is not stressful. I’ve learned that it’s a far more harmonious and happy life when I trust that EVERYTHING in this universe is working together for my good. Everything is organized and gently planned by one who’s only interest is my good.

I feel safe not because I’ve organized my world in a way that I feel insulated and protected, but because Love is my protector. I prefer to make choices from a loving heart.

I spent so many years investing my precious energy in anger and resentment. I learned a lot from that, and I don’t need to do that anymore. Done.

There’s a distinct difference between being patient and being passive. I’m not a particularly passive person, but I’ve learned the value of patience. With patience, I am demonstrating my trust in Spirit.

I hope to be able to announce the new plan tomorrow, and if that doesn’t happen, well, I’ll just keep trusting!

We’re an expanding global spiritual community of prayerful people willing to be co-workers with God. We’re waking up together and finding freedom in our hearts. I’m so grateful for this!

If you find what I’m sharing helpful, won’t you please share at facebook and twitter to let others know? Thank you!

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Label

Friday, June 1st, 2018

I notice that the ego uses labeling as a method to help sort and separate who is good and who is bad. Labeling is placing a meaning on things. I notice that I have a thought from time to time, in reaction to seeing something that is done differently than the way I’d prefer it, and that thought goes something like this:

“Why is it so hard to …”

Why is it so hard to pick your clothes up off the floor?

Why is it so hard for you to just ask me what I’d like instead of thinking you know based on information from a year ago?

Why is it so hard to just tell me what you’d like?

Why is it so hard to just put your dirty dishes in the dishwasher?

… and on and on and on.

I realized that the whole purpose of asking those questions was to find the answer, which is always a label.

Why is it so hard to pick your cloths up off the floor? Because there’s something wrong with you.

Why is it so hard to just tell me what you’d like? Because you’re difficult.

Why is it so hard to just put your dirty dishes in the dishwasher? Because you just don’t care and you’re selfish.

… and on and on and on!

The questions I was asking weren’t helpful to my Spirit.
They were just an excuse to label things as a problem.

I’ve learned that labels are an ego tool for helping increase a sense of separation, and I don’t need that anymore. I’ve learned all that I can from feeling separate and I’m not interested in that anymore!

Are you aware of ways that you look for labels?

Let’s abandon the label making habits and extend compassion instead. It’s far more productive. In fact, it’s healing!

We’re almost there! I’m getting ready to announce three new trainings for those who are interested in professional training for your spiritual expansion. These three events are going to be co-led by Jon Mundy. Registration information is coming early next week!

Training #1 – Inspirational Writing
Thursday August 16 to Sunday 19th
3 nights

Training #2 – Leading/Creating A Workshop –
Includes how to lead my Forgive & Be Free Workshop
Sunday August 19th to Thursday 23rd
4 nights

Training #3 – Inspired Speaking – Giving An Inspiring Talk
Thursday August 23 to Sunday 26th
3 nights

All three consecutive events will be held at The Time Hotel in Nyack, NY, a mere 45 minutes from either midtown Manhattan or Laguardia airport. Click here for more info about The Time Hotel.

Come for 1, 2 or 3 of these professional trainings. Power of Love Ministry is developing a ministerial/teacher training and these are part of the curriculum for that training. Registration information is coming soon!

We’re an expanding global spiritual community of prayerful people willing to be co-workers with God. We’re waking up together and finding freedom in our hearts. I’m so grateful for this!

If you find what I’m sharing helpful, won’t you please share at facebook and twitter to let others know? Thank you!

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Miraculous Relationship Repair

Wednesday, May 23rd, 2018

I’ve experienced some extraordinary relationship healing in my life and I’m so very grateful. For me, there’s been nothing more upsetting to me than the difficulties in my relationships. They have challenged me to the core of my being. I’m so glad that I learned that this is precisely what relationships are for.

I’ve learned not to walk away from a difficult relationship.
I’ve learned to never give up on myself or anyone else.

Instead, I’ve come to absolutely know that the thing to do is to give it UP to the Higher Holy Spirit Self for miraculous healing. This method works, but that doesn’t make it easy. Whenever we’re triggered it’s challenging. Triggers help us to identify when it’s an opportunity to eliminate an old pain patterns

Relationship attachments can be like an alien parasite. It makes me think of the terrifying movie, Aliens with Sigourney Weaver (LOVE her!). Remember when the member of the crew was on the operating table and the alien exploded out of his belly? I went through a period where I was undoing the ego at such a rapid rate that I felt that I was pregnant with an alien baby terrorist that was trying to eat me alive from the inside.

It’s that feeling when the third chakra is going through such an intense cleansing. The third chakra, at the solar plexis, is all about our self-perception. When we’re perceiving ourselves as the ego, the small, selfish self, then it’s a constant battle with an inner terrorist. We’ll project it outward into ALL of our relationships and never feel self.

When we’re projecting it outward we’ll think someone else is the problem, but if we’re the one who is upset, it’s our thinking that is the problem. And that’s a GREAT thing and here’s why:

Wouldn’t you rather have your thought be the problem then thinking it’s YOU or THEM?
Thoughts aren’t people, they’re just thoughts.
How can we really be mad at a thought?
Thoughts have no power unless we choose to think them!
We have the power to decide not to think the thought that upsets us.
And we have the power to decide to let the Higher Holy Spirit Self take the errant thought out of our mind FOREVER.

Our willingness is required.
We choose the thoughts we think, whether we are aware of it or not.

When we’re willing to shift identification to the Higher Holy Spirit Self, then we can begin to see clearly what every relationship is for. Then, we can have holy relationships. It’s intensely challenging, but THANK GOD we don’t have to figure out HOW to make it all happen.

We only have to allow.

Now is the time we’re all learning about Self-Love – Self with a capital S. This is the curriculum, and we can delay, we can avoid, but we’ll still have to do the curriculum eventually. Let’s get to it! Heaven is at hand!

The best way to get to it is really focus on loving yourself IN all of your relationships.

If you’d like some relationship support – check out my A Course in Miracles radio show – there are SO MANY episodes on relationship! Act now, and you can have them all!

I also take relationship questions and offer counseling in my Sacred Circle Spiritual Counseling calls. Try it for a month and ask me any question that you’d like.

TODAY is my Sacred Circle day! This is my monthly membership program that gives you a weekly call of group spiritual counseling. Join my Sacred Circle and you can ask me any question you would like on the phone, on line or in writing! I love it! We have an awesome group of people who are doing the deep work! Try my Sacred Circle for a month and see! 4 spiritual counseling calls with me each month – ask me any question! Join me live or get the download later.

We’re an expanding global spiritual community of prayerful people willing to be co-workers with God. We’re waking up together and finding freedom in our hearts. I’m so grateful for this!

If you find what I’m sharing helpful, won’t you please share at facebook and twitter to let others know? Thank you!

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Rising Up From Despair

Tuesday, May 22nd, 2018

It’s very common for people to go through a period of despair on the way to rising up out of the ego’s quagmire. I certainly did. Despair is a systemic hopelessness.

When we believe many of the ego thoughts and move into a place of feeling that there’s no hope for us then despair is quick to follow. It feels natural, in a way.

If we believe the insanity of the ego we’ll feel trapped.
If we feel trapped without a way out, then we’re going to feel despair.

We can actually choose not just to be hopeful, but to be visionary. We can hold a vision of Love for our lives. Being willing to hold a vision can feel impossible when we’re hopeless. I get that.

We don’t have to have a vision of total transformation, but we can. We can just have a vision for small things that we enjoy to keep encouraging us.

Having a vision of even a small bit of happiness can make a huge difference in our life.

Spirit is such a powerful thing – and we can let it teach us how to heal the despair by giving it to Spirit for healing.

A willingness to be hopeful even about something small – like being hopeful about having your favorite ice cream or watching your favorite tv show can be transformative.

Energetically, being hopeful about ANYTHING can be life sustaining. I find it’s very helpful to ask for a sign that we’re on the right path!

We don’t have to live in despair, it’s a choice. We may not know how to find the choice, but Spirit does. Let’s give Spirit the heavy lifting of removing our despair and pointing the way. Let’s ask for a sign today!

Sometimes a cat video can really help lift our hearts. This is my favorite cat video – take a look – it’s only 2 minutes. Consider bookmarking it in your browser to watch when you’re feeling hopeless. May this precious cat’s experience be a blessing in your life.

TODAY RADIO SHOW: my topic is Rising Up From Despair

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Sin

Saturday, May 19th, 2018

A couple of years ago I had one of those crazy travel days. It all started the day before when the Delta Airlines computer system went down – but I didn’t know it. Twenty years ago I would have called this situation a nightmare, but now I know it’s just part of my dream. I had 10 hours at Newark airport trying to get a flight to Atlanta. My original 8am flight was cancelled the day before when the whole Delta Airlines system went down, including their notification system, which didn’t notify me.

Oddly, when I checked in at the airport, they assumed that I knew my flight had been cancelled. Even though I was there at 6:30am, they checked me in for a flight that was leaving at 11:30am – 5 hours later, without mentioning to me that I was being put on a different flight than what I’d bought. Okay, that’s weird.

Somehow they didn’t think it was odd that I was showing up 5 hours early for my flight. My original flight was a 2 hour flight. They rebooked me through Cincinnati for a total travel time of 7 hours. I thought all this was pretty odd, but it was just the beginning.

10 hours after I had arrived at the airport on Tuesday I finally gave up trying to get on a flight that day. I had been bumped so many times and the current flight I was standby on had been delayed 3 times and was now delayed a full 5 hours. I had totally missed my two events that day.

When something like this happens, I could be upset. Many people around me were upset, but for me, it was just one of those days where I don’t know what anything is for. I’m trusting that the Higher Holy Spirit Self will let me know if I need to. We work on a need to know baiss.

Clearly, a lot of people were learning things. I was able to be helpful to a number of people who were upset. I was helpful simply by not being upset and being compassionate. I felt that, in a VERY real sense, I was there to hold the light. That’s why it was happening to me.

After having the whole day in the Delta section of Newark airport, I decided that was enough and I’d see if I could go to Atlanta the next day. I managed to get a flight, upgraded to 1st class, which was nice – or so I thought. Spirit had something else in mind.

I was seated next to a “born again,” “saved,” southern baptist christian. We ended up talking for 2 straight hours. We had some different perspectives on things and we talked about them.

He was very invested in his belief in sin, and I do not believe sin is a real thing.

He believed that making people feel guilty about their sins could possibly save them from sinning some more, and I feel that guilt only drives people to more painful beliefs and behaviors, i.e. more “sinning” and more guilt.

He believed that we can judge the people we Love and that it’s a necessary and good part of life. I know that Love and judgment are opposites and that judgment is always a cause of suffering.

We had a lot more differences in beliefs and understandings. It was a lively conversation. He really wanted to prove he was right, which I certainly understand.

I asked him if my brother had the right to sell me into slavery just because the bible said he did. And he said, “yes.” He started to really get into it with me about how if the bible said my brother had a right to sell me into slavery then that took precedent over any rights I had as a woman in the world today. He knew what he was saying was insane, but he was committed to being right and he didn’t have anywhere else to go.

Out of compassion, I didn’t need to point out that it was a pretty insane premise. He already knew he had stepped off the deep end.

I let him know that my main aspiration in the conversation was to support him in seeing that judging isn’t loving and “making” people feel guilty is not what Jesus taught.

He agreed that Jesus taught forgiveness.
Forgiveness and judgment are opposites.
Jesus taught us not to judge.
Judging leaves us feeling guilty.
Guilt and forgiveness are opposites.
Shaming people to motivate them is judging them and also trying to make them feel guilty.
Jesus taught us not to do that.
He taught us to forgive and to Love, no matter what.
Shaming people and loving people are opposites.

However, it’s not so easy to see these simple points if that’s not how you’re raised. Projection is perception. We see what we believe, not what’s actually there.

I began to feel that the reason I’d been delayed a day and switched to this flight was to sit next to this man and talk with him. You never know how the ripples that are caused by being compassionate will flow.

When we sat down, he’d been utterly convinced that judging was essential to living a moral life. By the end of our conversation, he could see that judging wasn’t loving and maybe it wasn’t the moral high ground, maybe forgiveness was. That was a REALLY big shift in only 2 hours. He really shifted his perspective and was willing to entertain that perhaps his shaming of friends and family to get them to stop being so darn sinful might not be the method that would best achieve his goals.

I didn’t make it my job to shift him. I can’t shift anyone but myself.

I did make it my response-ability to Love him and hold that he had the capacity to see the Truth that sets him free.

I could feel that he yearned for the Truth. People will settle for thinking they’re right and abandon the search for the Truth. I’ve done that. That’s an easy one because the Truth can seem hard to find when we aren’t interested in finding it.

Fortunately the Truth is written in our hearts and that doesn’t ever change. When we’re searching for the Truth we don’t have far to go. Phew! The kingdom is permanently located within.

We’re an expanding global spiritual community of prayerful people willing to be co-workers with God. We’re waking up together and finding freedom in our hearts. I’m so grateful for this!

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Grief & Grieving with ACIM

Tuesday, May 15th, 2018

Human grief is something that many people don’t know much about. Those who experience it often don’t want to talk about it because it’s completely overwhelming. Many times we deny our feelings of grief and think it’s something else.

A Course in Miracles tells us all healing is at the level of the mind, but how does that help when our loved one has died? When we’ve lost the job we loved? When our friend no longer wants to be our friend? When our house is lost in a storm? When our marriage feels broken?

When there’s a great sense of loss, it can feel like we’re lost in time and space. It’s a time when we can feel acutely that we’ve lost connection with God, that we’re undeserving and the good that we had is now gone and it’s getting even worse than before.

A time of grief can feel like a time of hopelessness and aloneness. It can feel as though no one understands our pain. The constant reminder of our loss is inescapable and oppressive and yet, we often cling to it.

There’s a way out of the pain, the shock, the sense of hopelessness that is our grieving when there’s an intense sense of loss. One thing is to not make our feelings wrong or bad.

Our feelings are helpful in that they’re showing us the effect of our thinking. It may seem impossible not to dwell on the sense of loss. Don’t make that wrong. Self-compassion is the loving expression that can help us to move through our grief.

We CAN get to a point where we feel the loss without the pain. This is possible. I’ve seen it in my life when my loved ones have died. It can be SO difficult and yet, it’s still possible. Our willingness to let Spirit heal our heart is required. Just a little bit of willingness can go a long way.

Love is our healer. Our life is for loving. When a loved one “leaves” it can feel like we’ll never be the same – and we won’t, but that doesn’t mean we can’t enjoy life again.

If you feel that you’re grieving, I am grateful to connect and pray with you today. I pray that I offer something in my radio show today that will support your moving out of the pain. You are loved.

TODAY RADIO SHOW: my topic is Grief & Grieving with ACIM

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Fear Reducer

Saturday, May 12th, 2018

I can remember when I would have shock waves of fear that seemed to shoot through me like lightning waves. I’d have a thought that would produce a rush of adrenaline and an energetic shock that moved through me in a way that my heart would start racing instantly.

Once I had a mild panic attack that was a whole different kind of fear but felt almost foundational – like my very core was threatened.

If only someone could have told me then what I now know! And A Course in Miracles says it so well in so many ways:

“All fear is ultimately reducible to the basic misperception that you have the ability to usurp the power of God.” ACIM T-2.I.4.

I understand that it seems hard to believe that all fear comes from judging, and from thinking thoughts that are untrue. It can seem as though fear comes from what’s happening in the world that frightens us. Yet, the truth is it is our opinions that are frightening us precisely because when we affirm our judgments and opinions we are affirming that we are the ones who decide who is good and who is bad, who is right and who is wrong, and in doing so we become the usurpers.

We can train our mind to see beyond appearances and recognize only the truth, or we can live with fear. I move that we love ourselves enough to stop frightening ourselves.

Consider if there’s someone in your life that you really love and adore – would you yell at them? Frighten them? Torture them?

You wouldn’t do those things if you truly loved them.

What judgment do you have that’s worth holding onto when you know that it will cause your own suffering? Think of all the things you’ve done to try to end your suffering that haven’t really worked.

Would you try the one thing that actually works?

Or do you feel that you can have your judgments and the fear you experience is unrelated?

I don’t think I could have believed giving up my opinions would relieve me of fear. I only know that it works because I have been giving up my judgments as part of my daily spiritual practice for over a decade and as a result, I don’t have much fear. Most of the fear I experience these days is annoyance.

I can’t remember the last time I felt one of those shock waves of fear, but I can remember feeling joyous and grateful yesterday. I feel grateful and thankful even now as I write this.

I let God be God. I am part of God, and I don’t need to judge anything or anyone anymore. I’m not interested in being a usurper. I prefer to feel free and harmonious ALL of the time. I am intent on it. I am closer to my goal every day! And for this, I am so very grateful! I am loving myself free of lack, attack and limitation. It’s happening now.

We’re an expanding global spiritual community of prayerful people willing to be co-workers with God. We’re waking up together and finding freedom in our hearts. I’m so grateful for this!

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Not Playing Small Anymore

Thursday, May 10th, 2018

You gotta wanna see to be shown and sometimes it isn’t pretty. There’s no big or small in the All In All, each moment becomes a Divine access point of unprecedented creativity and this can be terrifying if we’re not really walking the talk.

It’s scary because I have access to ultimate creative power in the universe and if I’m still choosing to judge people, still criticizing, taking offense, gossiping and harboring resentment then I’m not safe. If I’m sending out attack thoughts, then I’ll KNOW that I can’t be trusted with a creative power that affects others. Of course I’ll play small in order to avoid hurting others.

If I’m talking trash in my mind, of course I’m going to sabotage myself and play small – I can’t be trusted to play in the big leagues. Using the power of positive thought, I might get things off the ground and start to fly, but, if, in my heart, I’m judging others and terrorizing them in my thoughts, then I won’t get far and might even crash and burn. It’s better to play small and stay small.

Not content to play small, I decided to study the laws of creation. I discovered that the judger always feels judged and the attacker always feels attacked. It’s unsafe the minute those voices start chattering.

Through prayer and consistent spiritual practice I’ve developed the desire to live without judgment. I decided to let the Holy Spirit Self dissolve my capacity to judge others.

Judge, judge, judging all the time kept me living a limited life and that’s not my life anymore. Love set me free to explore a very different kind of life. I’m finding Freedom has been my destiny all along. Freedom feels so good – I know I’ll never go back.

Now, it’s so much easier to be compassionate than it is to complain. Change didn’t happen overnight and it didn’t happen because I took a workshop or read a book. You gotta wanna.

I let myself deeply desire to remember my true identity and to feel free and joyful. I surrendered the doing of it to the Divine a hundred times a day. I made the commitment and that commitment made me available to the healing. I decided to prove God and see for myself. You gotta wanna see to be shown.

I’m not playing small anymore. I AM willing to be a Divine Access Point for God’s great Love. I choose Love and Love Chooses Me!

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Opening the Door to Prosperity

Monday, May 7th, 2018

I’ve learned that blame blocks prosperity. Eliminating blame has helped to eliminate debt in my life.
A Course in Miracles reminds us that our thought combined with belief is a power that can literally move mountains.

We can open the door to prosperity or we can close it – it’s our choice.

For a long time I really didn’t realize that my life was reflecting my belief system. Or more accurately, I didn’t realize that I was so attached to my thoughts of lack and limitation. I was experiencing so much lack and limitation and I was blaming others for it.

Imagine! I was blaming others for my circumstances even though I had been studying the Law of Cause & Effect for more than 15 years! It’s extraordinary how we can deceive ourselves when we’re intent on it.

I decided to take responsibility for my thinking, my emotions and my circumstances and that’s when things really began to change for me. That’s how I learned that resentment, retreat, hurt, jealousy, blame, and thoughts of revenge block prosperity. I got inspired to forgive and forgive and forgive!

Are you blaming anyone for your circumstances? Are you blaming anyone for how you feel? Are you blaming anyone for the limitations you’re experiencing? Would you like that to change? Would increasing your prosperity inspire you to stop the blaming, forgive and move on?

Living with lack and limitation is completely optional – you can change your experience – we all have the power to focus our attention on Love and open up the floodgates of prosperity!

Forgiveness is the way. If you’d like to have some forgiveness support you can register for my free How to Get Over It free forgiveness workshop.

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Allow Your Healing

Sunday, May 6th, 2018

Prayer has helped me heal my life.

A Course in Miracles tells us that “prayer is the medium of miracles.” ACIM says, “Prayer is a way offered by the Holy Spirit to reach God.” And “reaching” God, that connection, heals our mind, and transforms our lives.

I prayed so many times to simply be loving, to resist being mean and unkind. I truly was willing to let go of the past forever and I’ve been amazed at the miraculous healing transformation. That’s why I teach prayer as foundational to everything that offer.

Prayer is often misunderstood, but ACIM is very clear, “Prayer is a stepping aside; a letting go, a quiet time of listening and loving. It should not be confused with supplication of any kind, because it is a way of remembering your holiness.”

You may not know this about me, but I was trained as a Science of Mind Practitioner at the Agape International Spiritual Center. I’ve been steeped in the New Thought teachings of affirmative prayer. Once I learned the power of prayer, no matter how low and desperate I felt, I kept praying. Prayer works.

As I write this we’re wrapping up my Spiritual Counseling Training Intensive in the beautiful Blue Ridge Mountains of North Carolina. I feel so blessed to be able to share what is the most valuable thing in my life – connection with Spirit.

For so long I really struggled with resistance and reluctance. I had a deep desire to be able to share spirituality as a minister, teacher and counselor, but I still had a deep sense of unworthiness that got in my way. Fortunately, I prayed A LOT and I found the way out of that unworthiness and now it is the foundation of what I share in all of my offerings. It’s the reason why I write daily inspiration and why I’ve been recording a new prayer and posting it each day for 11 years now.

Prayer works. Spiritual practice heals.
Spiritual practice is more than a few minutes a day, it’s how we live our life.
Spiritual practice is an active practice of non-judgment, which is what true forgiveness is.

And yet, so many times I would pray for healing, but then not allow it. I would block the healing insights, the inspiration of Love, the clear guidance. I’d block all that I’d prayed for with my judgmental and unkind thoughts.

Many of us have a willingness for healing, but still, we don’t allow it. We pray to receive, and then don’t actually allow ourselves to receive because of that ancient guilt and unworthiness.

Our own Higher Holy Spirit Self will give us all the healing we need if we allow it, but instead we treasure our judgments and opinions and build little altars in our heart and mind to keep them right in front of us, gathering evidence to try to support the case that they are worthwhile.

I finally realized that I was blocking my answered prayer by ruminating on my hurts and keeping the blocks to Love alive in my heart. I was feeding the fire of my Self-destruction, but I didn’t know it.

I thought that if I could hold onto my resentments and never forget the past hurts that I’d somehow be protected from future hurts. I dedicated so much energy to trying to protect myself, never realizing that it was those active resentments and regrets that were hurting me now.

A Course in Miracles tells us that we have no actual problems. It’s just the incorrect perception of an imaginary problem. We believe we are no longer unified with our Creator and that’s why we think we have a problem, and because we think it, we feel it and because we feel it, we believe it and on and on. That’s why we believe in punishment. We punish ourselves and we punish others.

This intense sense of separation began with a tiny mad idea. It began with a crazy thought that wasn’t even true. What was that thought? I believe it was some version of “better than and less than.” Without the belief in better than and less than, separation thinking would have died out. If we didn’t like comparison so much it would have died out.

In my Masterful Living Course community we say, “compare and despair.”

Forgiveness is the way out of all of this. It’s the only way out and it works. Forgiveness has literally saved my life. Forgiveness is letting go of the meaning I made of things. It’s letting go of the belief in better than and less than. I prayed thousands of times to forgive everything and it continues to work.

I prayed to forgive everything in all directions of time and space.
I prayed to forgive what I could remember I’d been offended by and what I didn’t.

True forgiveness is developing the ability to really practice the ACIM lessons. Lesson 25 helped me so much. “I don’t know what anything is for.” If I’ve gotten so lost in the tiny mad idea of better than and less than that my perspective is completely off, how can I know what anything is for? If I’m upset, I must have decided wrongly.

A lot of people say they’d like to forgive, but they don’t actually mean it. What they really mean is, I’d like to be free of this pain AND hold onto my judgments about what happened. That’s not forgiveness. That’s a fantasy of forgiveness.

When I first began teaching forgiveness workshops, in fact, in the very first workshop I ever did back in 2000, I learned a lot from the people who attended. One of the primary reasons that people were coming to my workshops or to a counseling session with me was that they had forgiven, but they didn’t feel free. They hadn’t actually forgiven, but they’d said they had. If they had truly forgiven they would have felt free.

So often I heard stories from one wonderful person after another who told me that they’d forgiven, but they were still so bothered and upset about what happened. I heard things such as, “my father molested me when I was a child. I have forgiven him so many times. I really just want to move on, but it still bothers me and I can’t seem to get free. Why can’t I let go?”

In a very real sense, it doesn’t matter why.
Our Higher Holy Spirit Self knows precisely why. Let’s commune with the Higher Holy Spirit Self by the means of prayer and simply ask Spirit to lift the burden from us. That’s what Jesus tells us in ACIM. He asks that we stop trying to do everything ourselves and actually ALLOW the healing to happen.

I learned HOW to ALLOW the healing.

I’m very practical. I’ve had enough of BS. I really don’t wish to read a lot of books and gather more information. I’m truly focused on healing my mind and sharing with others helps me to “get it” more clearly. I love joining with others. I love being the two or more gathered in the name and the nature of Christ. The technology we have today allows us to do this.

With the technology we have we can transcend time and space to pray together and to join together.

BTW, I did an episode of my weekly A Course in Miracles weekly Radio Show not long ago on Your Communication Link with God and you can search through the archive for episodes on whatever topic you’re interested in – there are so many on relationship and forgiveness.

Recently someone told me they got engaged to be married and they attributed it to their living A Course in Miracles. They said they’d really listened and applied what I shared in my episodes of my radio show about relationship. It’s all about the application, the allowance, the living it. Listening isn’t healing. It’s the active practice of forgiveness that opens our heart to live the Love.

Forgiveness is the way. If you’d like my help with it you can find my How to Get Over It free forgiveness workshop on the events page at JenniferHadley.com.

I encourage you to be the two or more who are gathered and do the workshop with a friend or loved one. I give you everything you need. Plan a get together, have some food, listen to the workshop together, pause the recording and discuss, and do the actual work together, share. Dedicate an afternoon or an evening to it. It costs you nothing and gives you everything.

Go for it! Let’s all learn HOW to ALLOW our healing.

Joining together for our healing, for the active practice of joining with Spirit, and allowing my healing is precisely why every day I write inspiration and record a prayer to go with it. You can join me in cultivating the willingness that raises us ALL up so we can be truly helpful in this world.

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Releasing Blocks to Prosperity

Thursday, May 3rd, 2018

I really struggled with the blocks to Prosperity in my own mind. It was so challenging to keep trying to change things in the world, when the issue was inside my own mind and I didn’t realize it. It was like one of those horror movies I haven’t seen where the killer is calling from inside the house.

It took me a long time to see that having faith, placing my trust in Love (God) would open up my mind and change my experience of Prosperity. The big shift came when I realized that since God is all that there is, EVERYTHING I receive, I receive from God. I had the shift in my awareness and then came the shift in my life.

Recognizing that EVERYTHING I had or would have came from the unlimited source (God) helped me to also understand that EVERYTHING I gave, I gave TO God.

One place to receive from and once place to give to. That makes it easy to be in the flow of Prosperity.

I realized that, since there’s just this one – I could stop keeping score. I could give wherever I felt called to give and not have a thought that anyone owed me anything – including a thank you.

I also realized I could receive without thinking that I owed anyone. No strings attached anymore. God has no strings because God is not a manipulator.

God is unlimited and unprecedented source and supply – I could, if I chose, learn to receive without limits. How cool is that?

You see, it’s all in the mind.
The flow starts in the mind and then shows up in your life.

Would you like to open up the flow? Here’s a simple tip for you:

If you have strings attached to anything then you’re not in the flow.
Thinking someone owes you a thank you, or recognition or even any small amount of appreciation is giving to get. Let it go and open up the flow.

Are there any people in your life that you think OWE you?
If you KNEW that your experiences of lack and limitation were tied to that thought, would you be willing to give it up?

Forgive the debtors and the trespassers to open up the flow of prosperity in your life. You can get my free “How to Get Over It” forgiveness workshop on the home page of JenniferHadley.com – it’s a great way to start releasing the blocks and opening up the flow of abundance – won’t you please share with someone now and open the flow for yourself?

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We’re an expanding global spiritual community of prayerful people willing to be co-workers with God. We’re waking up together and finding freedom in our hearts. I’m so grateful for this!

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What Forgiveness Isn’t

Friday, April 20th, 2018

Who taught you how to forgive?
What did they teach you?
How did they teach you?

Most of us were taught forgiveness from our family. And many of those who taught us taught us that forgiveness means you’re tired of being upset, and you don’t want to torture yourself anymore, but you’re never going to forget what happened. But that’s not true forgiveness. That’s fantasy forgiveness. And without true forgiveness there’s no way you’ll ever feel free and be able to stop the suffering and move on.

In order to understand what true forgiveness is, it helps to understand what forgiveness is not.

Forgiveness isn’t saying “I forgive” and still holding onto your opinions about what happened the past.

Forgiveness isn’t saying that what happened is okay and you don’t mind that it happened.

Forgiveness isn’t opening yourself to further hurt and betrayal.

Forgiveness isn’t something you can do with your intellect.

Forgiveness isn’t pretending that what happened didn’t hurt, or bother you.

Forgiveness isn’t just keeping calm and carrying on.

And most especially, forgiveness isn’t looking at something devastating and destructive that happened, labeling it bad and horrible and then saying “I forgive.” That’s insanity. It’s false just like the little child who says “I hate you” to his parent, but doesn’t mean it for one second. They’re just upset with what happened, they feel attacked, and their interpretation of what happened (that they were were attacked) justifies their retaliation. That’s the immature, ignorant and painful way of the world.

True forgiveness isn’t labeling something bad and wrong and then saying “I forgive it.” That’s self-delusion.

When you say “I forgive” and it still bothers you, then you know for sure that you are clinging to your interpretation of what occurred. We cling to our opinions and judgment, our labels of things because we made them. Again, this is what children do. They hold onto something so tightly and they project their interpretation onto every subsequent similar experience.

Like a child who goes to pet a strange dog and the dog snears, barks and frightens them. The child then makes the meaning that dogs are scary, they’re not safe, they can’t be trusted, and they can hurt you.

Here’s what true forgiveness is:

It’s letting go of the meaning you made of what happened.
It’s releasing your attachment to your interpretation of what occurred.
It’s saying that your opinions about the people, events, occurrences and everything related to this experience are not valuable to you anymore.

True forgiveness means I’m willing to say that your opinions and judgments about the past aren’t worth having. That’s how I get free – by releasing your attachment to the past.

The only way to stop repeating the same thoughts, upsets and experiences is to let go of my mental and emotional attachment to the underlying beliefs that sustain those thoughts, upsets and experiences.

True forgiveness is my decision to make Love a greater priority than my judgments about the past. It’s letting go of the past. I can’t let go of the meaning I made of the past until I realize that it’s not actually valuable to me.

Are you ready to Stop Playing Small? It’s not too late to sign up for my retreat that starts on Thursday, April 26. I’m planning a time of transformation for us!

You can combine the Stop Playing Small Retreat with the Spiritual Counseling Training Intensive and get a discount! Plus we have payment plans and early bird special is on now!

My Spiritual Counseling Training Intensive is not just a professional training, it’s a deeply healing opportunity to let go of false beliefs. If you read the things people have said about how their lives change as a result, you will see that this is an opportunity for profound lasting personal healing.

If you’re willing, let’s do it together! Changing our lives and healing our minds is so much easier when we are the two or more gathered together for the same purpose. To this end, I’m offering another Spiritual Counseling Training Intensive in May and my Stop Playing Small retreat right before, at the end of this month.

I haven’t offered a Stop Playing Small Retreat in for a couple of years, so if this interests you, please join! We practice and learn Self-Love in Spiritual Community and it’s a powerful healing and life-changing experience. We can accomplish a lot in a short time when we come together focused on transformation.

We’re an expanding global spiritual community of prayerful people willing to be co-workers with God. We’re waking up together and finding freedom in our hearts. I’m so grateful for this!

If you find what I’m sharing helpful, won’t you please share at facebook and twitter to let others know? Thank you!

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Undoing the Errors

Tuesday, April 10th, 2018

There are many different kinds of errors that we make, or so it seems. Sometimes our errors are that we were unloving and unkind. Sometimes it’s simply that we weren’t very observant and didn’t notice what was going on and we made a choice that ended up seeming to work against us.

Sometimes there are errors of not being helpful, and instead being passive or withholding. So much time to make so many errors! And the aftermath is feeling stupid, bad, wrong, hopeless, helpless, guilty, ashamed, resentful, regretful, and a few more painful places to dwell.

There is an answer. There is a way to undo all the errors, and we can choose it, if we’re willing to we can actually have a healing. We can let go of the painful past. It does require willingness and it does require one of two other things.

We must either be so committed to ending our suffering that we’re willing to stop focusing on the problem and start focusing on the solution.

Or, we must be Self-loving, and care enough about ourselves to stop punishing ourselves.

Either desiring to stop the pain OR Self-Love (which often will propel us to stop the pain), will open our mind enough that if we combine it with some real willingness we can give the heavy lifting to the holy spirit. And this is the topic of my radio show today!

Let’s get out of suffering.
Let’s choose Self-Love
Let’s be done with the past.
Let’s stop playing small and open to a beautiful and bright future!
Even if you don’t believe it’s possible, you can still succeed!

If you’re a little bit willing, the Higher Holy Spirit Self will show you the way!

My Spiritual Counseling Training Intensive is not just a professional training, if you read the things people have said about how their lives change as a result, you will see that this is an opportunity for deep personal healing. You can combine the Stop Playing Small Retreat with the Spiritual Counseling Training Intensive and get a discount! Plus we have payment plans and early bird special is on now!

Real change, lasting transformation and healing is available. If you’re willing, let’s do it together!
Changing our lives and healing our minds is so much easier when we are the two or more gathered together for the same purpose. To this end, I’m offering another Spiritual Counseling Training Intensive in May and my Stop Playing Small retreat right before, at the end of April.

I haven’t offered a Stop Playing Small Retreat in for a couple of years, so if this interests you, please join! We practice and learn Self-Love in Spiritual Community and it’s a powerful healing and life-changing experience. We can accomplish a lot in a short time when we come together focused on transformation!

TODAY RADIO SHOW: my topic is Undoing The Errors

You can listen in LIVE on my radio show – click here for details – or you can click here to get the download later at iTunes or Stitcher for Android. All the previous episodes are free at iTunes & Stitcher right now! Transcripts and more are available here: LivingaCourseinMiracles.com. You can subscribe to the podcast and get the show every week automatically on your phone, iPod, iPad or computer. Check it out! And if you enjoy the radio show, will you please write a review so more people find the show? The more reviews, the more iTunes and Stitcher show it to people! Thank you!

We’re an expanding global spiritual community of prayerful people willing to be co-workers with God. We’re waking up together and finding freedom in our hearts. I’m so grateful for this!

If you find what I’m sharing is helpful won’t you please share at facebook and twitter to let’s other know? Thank you!

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Emotional Intensity

Sunday, March 25th, 2018

Haven’t we all learned that when we’re looking to change our ways and get out of the patterns that are so sticky, addictive, compulsive and intense that going cold turkey can be really challenging. The challenge is that we’re faced with our “stuff.” When we’re looking to really shift and clear the pattern it can be so helpful to take a break from feeding the pattern – and that will mean that your emotional attachments to the pattern will come up in your face – and that’s not easy.

When we avoid making changes its because we don’t want to deal with the emotional intensity that change sometimes brings. We’d rather play small than face the challenge. It happens to us all and in various areas of our lives.

What can be helpful is to realize that we have an inner strength that is FAR beyond our knowing – and many have rarely tapped into it. It’s ours for the asking. It comes from our Higher Holy Self and to access it we must put the Higher Self in charge. It’s a lot of surrender to the highest wisdom within us. The wisdom is not outside, it is our true nature.

Here’s a great way to access that power: I AM statements.

I AM is the name of our Higher Holy Self – We share the same Higher Holy Self with everyone – including all the great Ascended Masters. (Jesus, Buddha, Quan Yin, etc.) I AM statements invoke the higher wisdom of the Holy Self to activate and take over – Miracles come from this practice. Try it and see! Some simple I AM statements I use all the time with great effectiveness are:

I AM willing to have a healing now.
I AM is the only intelligence acting in my mind and body.
I AM the purity of Love.

We often think that the body is addicted to things – addicted to sugar, alcohol, drugs, tobacco, sex, etc. The body isn’t really addicted, it’s the mind. So we heal the addiction in the mind – and the fastest way I know to do it is to give the healing to the Higher Holy Self.

My I AM Presence is healing, resolving and dissolving all attachments, cravings, addictive and compulsive tendencies back to the root cause so that I never experience them again. I AM willing to have a healing now. I AM grateful for my healing now.

The slippery slope is when we say, “I’m just going to have a cookie” and then a bit later we say “well, that didn’t cause a problem, so I’m going to have a few more cookies.” And then later we say, “well, I already blew it today, so I might as well have some cake and ice cream, and then start again tomorrow.”

Of course there’s nothing wrong with having a cookie because it’s not about the cookie. It’s about how quickly we give ourselves permission to venture into self-sabotage and that place of “I already blew it, so I might as well blow myself up entirely!” That’s where Self-Love comes in. When we truly Love ourselves, we’re able to make decisions that are loving and supportive.

Loving ourselves is the way to transform all suffering. For real.

Changing our lives and healing our minds is so much easier in community. We are an expanding global spiritual community of prayerful people willing to be co-workers with God. To this end, I’m offering another Spiritual Counseling Training Intensive in May and my Stop Playing Small retreat right before, at the end of April. (If you can’t make this Counseling Training in May, there will be one in October.) We practice and learn Self-Love in Spiritual Community and it’s a powerful healing experience. It’s a living, loving, beautiful expression of Spirit’s Love.

If you feel that you’ve been playing small in any way, I’d love to support you in breaking free of that. If you’re feeling called to do this work with me, please trust that and allow Spirit to provide what is needed so that you can answer the call you’re feeling. We can do this together!

We’re waking up together and finding freedom in our hearts. I’m so grateful for this!

If you find what I’m sharing is helpful won’t you please share at facebook and twitter to let’s other know? Thank you!

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Offended

Friday, March 23rd, 2018

I used to be the queen of taking offense. It’s so easy to be offended by things in life. For much of my life this was my habit. I would look for things to be offended by.

When I deepened my spiritual practice and committed myself to releasing all negativity and keep my focus on being loving and compassionate, I started to have many realizations that supported my intention to change my life.

There were two main things that I realized that were very helpful to me.

First, I realized that one of the reasons why I took offense so frequently was that it was deeply upsetting to me. In being upset, I would feel “alive.” The energy of being upset gives us the false sense of being energized and having a purpose, a reason for living. It’s a strange kind of “I’m upset, there for I am.”

Think about that. The ego is nothing. It has no power. Yet, if we take offense and get upset, it’s as if we’re taking our life-force and pouring it into the ego. The ego seems so alive and powerful when we’re offended.

If we’re identified with the ego, we need to find life. The ego has no life of it’s own. Spirit has life, the ego doesn’t. Being upset is a false sense of life.

Recognizing that I was settling for a false sense of life, instead of real liveliness, I decided to quit taking offense and replace that habit with being loving and kind.

Secondly, when offended, we can feel powerful. When we’re offended, we feel SO right. When we’re taking offense, we’re the ones who are better than whoever we’re offended by.

When we don’t have a direct sense of personal power because we’re living from the only power there is, which is Love, then we may look for some false sense of power. In which case, power OVER others (which is an aspect of being offended) will be an acceptable compromise.

Recognizing that the feeling of power over others actually makes me feel icky, and energetically depressed because it’s a denial of unity and oneness, I decided to replace that habit of being righteously offended with being compassionate.

Realizing that being upset frequently isn’t self-loving, I replaced it with being self-nurturing and focusing on loving thoughts and prayer.

I’m so glad that I saw how self-destructive the habit of being offended is. I don’t wish to take offense anymore. There’s no benefit in it for me. I’m done with it.

I’d rather focus my attention on extending Love and being truly helpful. I’d rather focus on what makes me happy rather than being upset. It’s the Power of Love in my heart!

Changing our lives and healing our minds is so much easier in community. We are an expanding global spiritual community of prayerful people willing to be co-workers with God. To this end, I’m offering another Spiritual Counseling Training Intensive in May and my Stop Playing Small retreat right before, at the end of April. (If you can’t make this Counseling Training in May, there will be one in October.) We practice and learn Self-Love in Spiritual Community and it’s a powerful healing experience. It’s a living, loving, beautiful expression of Spirit’s Love.

If you feel that you’ve been playing small in any way, I’d love to support you in breaking free of that. If you’re feeling called to do this work with me, please trust that and allow Spirit to provide what is needed so that you can answer the call you’re feeling. We can do this together!

We’re waking up together and finding freedom in our hearts. I’m so grateful for this!

If you find what I’m sharing is helpful won’t you please share at facebook and twitter to let’s other know? Thank you!

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Forgiveness & Freedom

Wednesday, March 14th, 2018

If you knew, I mean really KNEW that your spiritual practice could relieve all your suffering, your pain, your confusion and any sense of limitation you had, would you be willing to place more focus on it?

I’m a big fan of writer Malcolm Gladwell. His book The Tipping Point is a great one and my favorite of his books is Outliers: The Story of Success. I highly recommend Outliers: The Story of Success to all spiritual seekers and here’s why: In Outliers, Gladwell tells us how it is that some people can be so completely OFF THE CHARTS successful. Gladwell is an investigative reporter tackling the subject of what makes some people so much more successful than others and some of the key things he discovers really struck me.

One of the main contributions to people’s success is that they have a really STRONG PASSION for their chosen field. They LOVE it. They would do it for free. And, in their passionate pursuit, in their hunger and thirst for engaging in whatever their passion is, they put in at least 10,000 hours of practice. At least TEN THOUSAND HOURS of practice.

What I realized when I first read Malcolm’s book is: I did that. In passionate search for understanding my Divinity and connecting clearly to the Oneness of all life and knowing God with my whole heart, I put in at least TEN THOUSAND HOURS of practice. In doing so, I reached a tipping point. In forgiving and forgiving and forgiving and doing all of the spiritual practices that I’ve been guided to do (mostly by Spirit, but also by some teachers in the visible world as well), I finally cleared away enough of the blocks to have a clear connection and maintain it.

When I started this practice, I didn’t think I could get to where I am in this lifetime. I didn’t think it was even remotely possible. I say that because I’d like to encourage YOU to aspire to something beyond what you even think is attainable. And I am here to support you if that’s what you’d like to do. That’s why I take time to write this blog and record the prayers every day. This is my passion!

What do you need to get to your tipping point?
It takes willingness.
It takes a hunger and a thirst for BEING the Love in your life. You must be willing to recognize that YOU are the love of your life. Underneath everything you think you are, but you’re actually not, is the purity of God’s Love.

Are you willing to let everything else go? If you are, all else will be added unto you. How cool is that?

Class starts TODAY, Registration closes TOMORROW: When you join us in my Finding Freedom Spiritual Bootcamp and align with others who are ROCKING their healing you’ll wonder why you waited till now!

If you need a payment plan, just ask! Register now and make this the year that changes your entire life! Click here to learn more!

In my Finding Freedom Spiritual Bootcamp class we focus on truly living ACIM and we join together to bring on miraculous breakthroughs. The next Finding Freedom Spiritual Bootcamp begins on March 14th. I’ve added some new things for you to check out! It’s truly better than ever.

Plus my Finding Freedom Spiritual Bootcamp is fun a way to get into a powerful spiritual community of like-minded souls who are committed to doing this healing work together NOW. Doing the deep work together keeps us from procrastinating and delaying our healing.

Spiritual Community is a powerful healing experience. It’s a living, loving, beautiful expression of Spirit’s Love. We are an expanding global spiritual community of prayerful people willing to be co-workers with God. To this end, I’m offering another Spiritual Counseling Training Intensive in May and my Stop Playing Small retreat right before, at the end of April. (If you can’t make this Counseling Training in May, there will be one in October.)

If you feel that you’ve been playing small in any way, I’d love to support you in breaking free of that. If you’re feeling called to do this work with me, please trust that and allow Spirit to provide what is needed so that you can answer the call you’re feeling. We can do this together!

We’re waking up together and finding freedom in our hearts. I’m so grateful for this!

If you find what I’m sharing is helpful won’t you please share at facebook and twitter to let’s other know? Thank you!

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Interrupt Victim Patterns

Monday, March 12th, 2018

Do you have a repetitive cycle of being a victim in some way? A lot of people do. Do you ever have fantasies of being a victim? Have you ever let people take advantage of you, just so you could make them feel guilty and bad about it afterwards? These are some crazy patterns we get to deal with in our earth experience! No wonder it can feel so intense.

All those victim stories and victim mind trips take up a huge amount of energy. It’s a bit like the criminal mastermind who works so hard to find a way to steal, cheat and lie to get money when they could apply that same genius capacity to creating something wonderful and achieving abundance that way. These are the crazy negative patterns that suck the life out of our life. And they CAN be healed – this I know, because I’ve proved it with myself and those who participate in my classes.

A single belief is the foundation for a myriad of negative thoughts. It’s as though the belief is a host for a bunch of spiders building negative web patterns that are very sticky in our mind. Let’s give the Higher Holy Spirit Self the heavy lifting.

What’s SO valuable is to recognize them and interrupt them. As much as possible
Interrupting these patterns is a BIG part of healing them.

When we interrupt the pattern, rather than investing in it as usual, we begin to see that we are not the pattern.

The victim pattern isn’t part of us, no pattern is. The pattern has no power or volition until we invest our belief in it.

There aren’t any REAL benefits to being a victim, but it can seem like there are. That might seem crazy, but next time you feel the victim story running in your mind, the next time you start fantasizing about being a victim in some way, shape or form, ask yourself what the value of that is to you. Ask yourself what is the perceived benefit? Is the benefit that being a victim offers really what motivates you?

Interrupting the pattern makes such a difference in our lives!

You can do it when you give the heavy lifting to the Higher Holy Spirit Self! You make the decision to interrupt the pattern of victimhood and then when the opportunities come, be willing to choose what’s unfamiliar. No one else can do it for you, but all of life does it WITH you when you say YES! Why not decide now?

Our decision to be our true self, rather than acting like a victim, makes a real difference. Hold to the decision, partner UP, and be willing to practice. You’ll be amazed at how quickly you can release the patterns of a life time!

Would you like support to shift your thinking, eliminate the negative patterns and improve your life? My intention is to inspire you to take your practice deeper. I’ll also be talking about ways that you can do that with me. More is possible than we can even imagine – truly! People are joining my spiritual bootcamp class for truly living A Course in Miracles – you can too!

Registration closes on Wednesday: When you join us in my Finding Freedom Spiritual Bootcamp and align with others who are ROCKING their healing you’ll wonder why you waited till now!

If you need a payment plan, just ask! Register now and make this the year that changes your entire life! Click here to learn more!

In my Finding Freedom Spiritual Bootcamp class we focus on truly living ACIM and we join together to bring on miraculous breakthroughs. The next Finding Freedom Spiritual Bootcamp begins on March 14th. I’ve added some new things for you to check out! It’s truly better than ever.

Plus my Finding Freedom Spiritual Bootcamp is fun a way to get into a powerful spiritual community of like-minded souls who are committed to doing this healing work together NOW. Doing the deep work together keeps us from procrastinating and delaying our healing.

Spiritual Community is a powerful healing experience. It’s a living, loving, beautiful expression of Spirit’s Love. We are an expanding global spiritual community of prayerful people willing to be co-workers with God. To this end, I’m offering another Spiritual Counseling Training Intensive in May and my Stop Playing Small retreat right before, at the end of April. (If you can’t make this Counseling Training in May, there will be one in October.)

If you feel that you’ve been playing small in any way, I’d love to support you in breaking free of that. If you’re feeling called to do this work with me, please trust that and allow Spirit to provide what is needed so that you can answer the call you’re feeling. We can do this together!

We’re waking up together and finding freedom in our hearts. I’m so grateful for this!

If you find what I’m sharing is helpful won’t you please share at facebook and twitter to let’s other know? Thank you!

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False Identity

Thursday, February 22nd, 2018

There have been times when I’ve been counseling someone who has the appearance of being “stuck” in their story – they appear to be repeating a tale of woe and victimhood. For some of us this story from the past can feel really thick and dense and sticky.

Very often when something disappointing or painful, something upsetting and terrifying happens to us, where we feel betrayed and abused, we can draw conclusions about our self-worth and our value. The ego mind loves to interpret and make meaning of things. The ego mind is like a meaning making machine – and it’s all false! In every case where the ego is making meaning and interpreting the events of our life, it’s a story – it’s not the truth.

If you choose to believe the story the ego mind has made up, then it’s like you’ve taken it on and it becomes your prison. Literally, it can seem like you wear it like a garment. It will become to seem like it’s your identity. The false interpretation, the negative meaning becomes a false identity. It’s amazing how quickly you can lose sight of your true identity as a pure being of light and love and become convinced that you’re a completely false identity. People will stay in the story for decades.

Some people become so attached to the false identity, and so invested in it, that it completely deforms their whole life experience. You know this is happening when you are looking around your life every day gathering the evidence to support your story. If you’re gathering evidence to support why you are limited and in lack, then you’re convinced of the story.

The good news is that the Truth will ALWAYS set you free when you’re willing to believe it.

This is one of the reasons why I love stories of redemption. My own life has become a story of redemption and now I’m able to shine God’s Glory rather than continue to perpetuate the ego’s story.

The question to ask yourself is what will you choose to pour your precious life energy into:

Your story or Your Glory? Your history or your Freedom?

It’s time to choose.

Your glory is the glory of God and when you focus on choosing Love the glory of God naturally unfolds because Love is your true identity and it is always GLORIOUS!

If you choose the story and you feel the pain and restriction of the limitation and lack – choose again! Don’t look back – choose again! Onward and upward!

We’re waking up together and finding freedom in our hearts. I’m so grateful for this!

If you find what I’m sharing is helpful won’t you please share at facebook and twitter to let’s other know? Thank you!

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