Are you a people pleaser? Or maybe you know someone who is?
Sometimes, we do things to please people, and to make or keep them happy so that we can improve our relationships – and all it does is backfire on us. Sheesh!
Why does people pleasing backfire on us?
Because it’s a form of manipulation.
People pleasing is actually what I call, “giving to get.”
Whenever we’re giving to get in our relationships then we’re trying to control and manipulate someone. Is that loving? I hope you said, “NO!”
Do you know anyone who is actively interested in finding a partner who would like to be controlled and manipulated in exchange for affection and care? Isn’t that complete and total co-dependency?
Giving to get blocks the flow of Love.
Giving to get is an illusion within the illusion – it’s an illusion of Love, but it’s not Love.
Can we experience real Love when we’re focused on creating an illusion of Love? Not so much.
If you’ve been giving to get, and enegaging in manipulation, and you feel guilty and ashamed of it, there’s an immediate solution that’s deeply healing. It’s called forgiveness.
If you’d like help with self-forgiveness, sign up for my How to Get Over It free workshop. It’s available for you to download or listen to online right now. Did I mention that it’s free?
Real Love is about being Real. There’s no manipulation needed. It’s a deep practice. It’s profoundly transformational and healing. Once you get the hang of it, you’ll be so grateful you decided to get REAL!
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