Archive for the ‘Self-Esteem’ Category

Suicide

Saturday, June 9th, 2018

I learned yesterday that TV chef and storyteller, Anthony Bourdain killed himself yesterday. Seems like it was just the day before that fashion designer Kate Spade ended her life.

I have worked with many people who felt suicidal as well as with many people whose loved ones have taken their own lives and it is just about the most devastating thing I know of.

Inevitably, people who are “left behind” feel that there must have been something they could have done, should have known or must’ve missed. They feel intensely guilty that they didn’t or couldn’t do something to prevent the “waste” of life.

Others feel intensely wounded because they feel as though their connection with the person ought to have been enough for them to live for. They take it personally. They make the meaning of it that if they were more lovable their loved one would have had reason to live.

All of these interpretations are of the ego.

In my understanding based on all my many conversations with the loved ones of those who took their lives and with those who have contemplated taking their life, the reason for suicide is primarily one reason and one only: they feel that life is no longer worth living.

Often, the decision for death happens in a flash. People simply catch a glimpse of a life of misery without end or escape and choose to end their lives.

I remember some years ago L’Wren Scott, fashion designer, model and Mick Jagger girlfriend took her own life.

People so often think that their life would be worth living and so much better if only they were wealthy, famous, talented, or beautiful. It’s absolutely an illusion.

There’s really only one worthwhile reason to live this life, and it’s to grow in the ability to Love through being loving, extending Love, sharing Love and receiving Love.

If we’re not actively extending Love and receiving Love we’re going to feel out of sorts, and out of tune with the infinite. Fortunately, we can extend Love even if we’re all alone and bed ridden. We can be a profoundly loving and light filled presence right where we are, at any moment.

Suicide is no answer to the problem.
Forgiveness IS the answer to the problem.

I had a time when I felt very strongly that I would like to be able to leave this world and I would have done it if it weren’t for the people I love.

I’m so very glad and grateful that the Love of my family and friends was clear enough that I couldn’t make the choice to end my life. I’m so grateful for every part of my journey so far.

There are still times when the intensity of the density of this world discourages me, but I don’t stay there. For the last few years, every night before I go to bed, no matter what I pray and meditate. No matter if I’m falling asleep in the chair while I pray. I stay in my chair until I’m complete. I don’t go to bed without praying for you, me and everyone else. Every day.

I’ve had people take my Finding Freedom Bootcamp and tell me that afterwards they were no longer suicidal. The practices in that class wiped them clean of that level of despair.

I’ve had people I didn’t even know personally call me and tell me they wanted to kill themselves before their children came home from school that day. Self-forgiveness got them out of that mind set. It worked fast.

Self-forgiveness is the way out of most suffering. If you haven’t yet experienced my free How to Get Over It workshop then please, give it a go!

I strongly encourage you to please have a forgiveness party instead of a pity party. Please do it – if not for yourself, then for someone you Love. Be a support to them if it’s not for your own happiness and Freedom, do it for them.

Have a friend or two or three over, have a pot luck, order in some great take out, listen to the workshop and do the work right there together and share. Do it with your sister, your brother, your neighbor.

What a powerful gift you’ll give yourselves and it costs you nothing except the time, energy and food – and it can bring you a deep and lasting healing. It’s the best anti-inflammatory and the best anti-aging method there is!

Here’s what I absolutely know: Your life is worth living. You are a treasure to God and to me. Let’s live our destiny. Let’s do it together!

We’re waking up together and finding freedom in our hearts. I’m so grateful for this!

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No Poison Policy

Wednesday, May 30th, 2018

Yesterday I was sharing about turning Jealousy into Victory, as that was the topic of my radio show this week. I shared that actively energizing jealousy, or any other upset, is like taking poison. Feeding the fire of upset is one of the most self-destructive things we can do. I know A LOT about this because I dedicated a couple of decades of my life to that practice and I learned a lot, which is now helpful to me in sharing with others, but it also was an investment of a huge amount of my precious life, energy, time, attention in perpetuating my suffering.

I developed a “no poison policy” once I realized what I was doing and how debilitating it was. It took me years of being a spiritual counselor and working with hundreds of people before I finally saw just how destructive feeding the flames of upset is.

As I was sharing in my radio show yesterday, the ego is made up of a series of false beliefs. Every part of the ego’s thought system is completely false, predicated on the delusion of an illusion. When we’re actively believing things that are false, and perpetuating those beliefs, we’re going to dedicate large amounts of our time, energy and resources to find more evidence to support our delusions.

Because our beliefs are false, no amount of evidence will suffice, because there is no actual evidence. The premise is false and the evidence is just as false as the premise. The ego invented fake news, fake reporting, false claims, false theories, and all of the systems of thought that perpetuate them. It’s a big house of mirrors and cards that leads down a sinkhole of suffering.

Truth is true, always and for everyone. Truth is liberating because it is in alignment with our divinity and the divinity of all life.

If you’re feeling upset, simply ask the Higher Holy Spirit Self to tell you the truth, and help you see the truth.

Declare your willingness to remember the truth that sets you free.

Do a 180 turn away from collecting information to support the false claims.

If you hear yourself saying something like “and another thing…” stop. It probably doesn’t need to be said.

If you hear yourself complaining, stop talking.
If the complaints are in your thoughts, change the channel. Start reciting a poem you know, or a prayer or even a song. “Row row row your boat, gently down the stream. Merrily, merrily, merrily, life is but a dream.” That’ll work just fine. It doesn’t need to be something fancy. You don’t have to change the channel to a mystical download from Spirit, you can just turn your attention elsewhere.

The point is stop allowing the poison to proliferate.

Let’s be Self-loving enough to get away from the painful, delusional thought system we made and head back home to Spirit’s liberating thought system so we can remember how to learn through Joy instead of through suffering.

I used to be willing to poison myself to punish others. It doesn’t work, not really. And it’s sure not worth it. It’s about the same as investing all your wealth and health in revenge. Revenge isn’t ever what the ego promises it will be. That’s why there are so many stories about the pain and suffering of revenge.

Holding onto resentment is a form of revenge.
It’s also a form of complaining.
None of which is life-force enhancing or happy making.

Tell the angels and the Higher Holy Spirit Self that you’d like to become aware of every opportunity to choose Love instead of self-destructive, punishing, painful and poisonous thoughts and behavior. Ask for the maximum assistance in choosing what will support you in being loving, kind, patient and generous.

You will receive so much support that you’ll be amazed at how alive the field of Love around you is and that’s a deeply healing experience.

All of life will support you in a very active way if you allow it.
Adopt a No Poison Policy and see how things change for you.
It’s so much more fun to see how we can be supported than to complain about being a victim.

Like John Lennon and Yoko Ono said in their song, “war is over, if you want it.” The crucifixion is over if you want it.

This is one of the reasons why I offer my weekly Sacred Circle Spiritual Counseling call – it’s a subscription program for people who would ike to receive counseling with me – or just listen to others being counseled. We’re all one, so those who have been participating for years find that others will ask their questions. You can submit questions in writing if you can’t join live and then get the download later. I love these weekly calls. There’s SO MUCH healing happening in our Circle. Check it out for a month and bring your questions!

TODAY is my Sacred Circle day! This is my monthly membership program that gives you a weekly call of group spiritual counseling. Join my Sacred Circle and you can ask me any question you would like on the phone, on line or in writing! I love it! We have an awesome group of people who are doing the deep work! Try my Sacred Circle for a month and see! 4 spiritual counseling calls with me each month – ask me any question! Join me live or get the download later.

We’re an expanding global spiritual community of prayerful people willing to be co-workers with God. We’re waking up together and finding freedom in our hearts. I’m so grateful for this!

If you find what I’m sharing helpful, won’t you please share at facebook and twitter to let others know? Thank you!

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Self-Love Liberates

Thursday, April 12th, 2018

I have a niece and three nephews, plus a goddaughter and other children in my life. Some of them aren’t children anymore. Loving them as they’re growing up, from infancy to adulthood, I’m aware of how completely I Love and accept them, although sometimes I don’t understand or don’t like their choices, the Love I feel is constant and unconditional.

As I observed these beautiful beings coming into my life and “falling in Love” with them, I realized that I was not so loving with myself. Where I wouldn’t judge them at all, I would be very hard on myself for the same behaviors. Having this realization really helped me.

In large part because of my Love for these children, I realized how incredibly hard on myself I was. I made a decision. I decided to do things differently.

I started to treat myself the way I would treat the precious children in my life. I began to practice Self-compassion in a big, big way. It was truy healing and life-changing for me.

One of the techniques that really helped me was to imagine my nephew Alex when he was 3 years old. He was such a cuddly sweet little muffin of a boy. He has a huge heart and so wide-open to life. He was incredibly easy to share Love with and he was very affectionate.

When I would feel upset with myself, I’d think of Alex. Precious boy. And I knew I would never, EVER in a million years yell at that sweet boy or say one unkind word to him. So, I decided to extend to myself the same kindness and compassion.

Again, it’s the decision that’s so important.
We are deciders.
Deciding is how we change our life.

Back in December, 2017, I did two radio show episodes on the topic of the Holy Spirit’s Rules for Decision and you can click to download or listen to that episode here.

Be willing to pause when you’re in a self-attack and think of someone you dearly Love. Someone who is so completely precious to you. Consider if you’d speak to them the way you’re speaking to yourself.

See if you can begin your self-talk with words like: Darling, sweetheart, precious one.

I would remind myself that I am the Beloved of the THE Beloved and my thoughts are powerful and precious. This one thought was very helpful to me in remembering to have compassion for myself.

Children learn best when they feel safe and loved, not when there’s a threat of punishment. The same is true of adults and ourselves. Love is our healer. Compassion is Love. Love is what we are.

The way to get in touch with our true identity is to value ourselves. It’s not that complicated.

The more loving we are, the more we can tell that the false belief feels false and the more we can notice that the Love feels real. Our willingness greatly improves our ability to recognize the true from the false. If we’re not willing to know the truth, we’ll just keep swimming in the false, until we feel like we’re drowning.

Self-compassion is a practice we can learn until we no longer feel attracted to punishment. The more we practice compassion with others, the easier it is to practice compassion with ourselves and vice versa.

Today’s a good day to practice!

My Spiritual Counseling Training Intensive is not just a professional training, it’s a deeply healing opportunity to let go of false beliefs. If you read the things people have said about how their lives change as a result, you will see that this is an opportunity for profound lasting personal healing. You can combine the Stop Playing Small Retreat with the Spiritual Counseling Training Intensive and get a discount! Plus we have payment plans and early bird special is on now!

If you’re willing, let’s do it together! Changing our lives and healing our minds is so much easier when we are the two or more gathered together for the same purpose. To this end, I’m offering another Spiritual Counseling Training Intensive in May and my Stop Playing Small retreat right before, at the end of this month.

I haven’t offered a Stop Playing Small Retreat in for a couple of years, so if this interests you, please join! We practice and learn Self-Love in Spiritual Community and it’s a powerful healing and life-changing experience. We can accomplish a lot in a short time when we come together focused on transformation!

We’re an expanding global spiritual community of prayerful people willing to be co-workers with God. We’re waking up together and finding freedom in our hearts. I’m so grateful for this!

If you find what I’m sharing is helpful won’t you please share at facebook and twitter to let’s other know? Thank you!

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Spiritual Counseling

Wednesday, April 11th, 2018

People often ask me, what is the difference between a Spiritual Counselor and a traditional therapist? A psychologist is sometimes more focused on how did you get where you are then how you’d really like to experience your life now.

As a spiritual counselor I’m focused on where do you want to go and who do you need to BE to get there. Understanding exactly how I arrived where I am, while often interesting and also useful, is not necessary to healing.

As a spiritual counselor, I know that the past can be healed in a nanosecond. As Ernest Holmes taught, healing doesn’t take time. “The only time it takes to have a healing is the time it takes to have a realization.”

Love is the healer.

Love does all the work.

Our nature is Love.

To have a healing, let Love rule your heart.

A Spiritual Counselor offers counseling/therapy sessions similar to a traditional therapist. In the session, we work with you to set a strong intention for healing, expansion and clarity in order for the release of limiting beliefs and painful experiences. Rather than focusing on the past and how you got to the present moment, we support you in being clear about where you’d like to go and how you will get there. In keeping our attention on the healing and changes that you desire for your life, relationships, body, finances, creativity, career and more, we are able to support you in identifying the root causes of the things you’d like to change in your life. By focusing on healing the root cause of all issues, and discovering what’s needed emotionally and mentally for you to live the life you desire, we bring transformation, and relief – often with what can sometimes feel like miraculous results.

  • We believe you can live the life you desire, even if you do not.
  • We believe you can live a truly miraculous life.
  • Together, we are the two or more who are gathered in the name and nature of Love.
  • Love is our true nature, and Love heals all wounds.
  • We are here to show you how to heal the past and live a life of Love now.
  • It’s our strong intention to aid you in having a healing so pervasive that you never experience the issues again.

When your strong intention to transform and transcend limiting beliefs joins with our strong intention for deep healing, we are in the place where transmutation and miracles happen!

Our work is transdenominational, and is beyond the realm of religion. All faiths are welcomed.
I’ve trained my mind to be able to know the Truth for the person I’m counseling and that’s what it means when people talk about “holding the space.” It’s holding the space of Love so that anything unlike Love can fall away. All shadows disappear in the light.

Our minds have been trained to hold judgments and opinions. I’ve learned to think of those thoughts as trash and clutter. In learning to hold my mind free of the false, I’m cultivating a pristine awareness of Truth. This is the most important aspiration I have. This is what allows me to be a beneficial presence. And, wonderfully, it is also my personal path of healing.

As a spiritual counselor, I’ve learned that I can be tremendously and truly helpful to my clients in supporting them in having a healing revelation. This is my joy. All boats rise on this tide of Love!

My Spiritual Counseling Training Intensive is not just a professional training, if you read the things people have said about how their lives change as a result, you will see that this is an opportunity for deep personal healing. You can combine the Stop Playing Small Retreat with the Spiritual Counseling Training Intensive and get a discount! Plus we have payment plans and early bird special is on now!

Real change, lasting transformation and healing is available. If you’re willing, let’s do it together!
Changing our lives and healing our minds is so much easier when we are the two or more gathered together for the same purpose. To this end, I’m offering another Spiritual Counseling Training Intensive in May and my Stop Playing Small retreat right before, at the end of April.

I haven’t offered a Stop Playing Small Retreat in for a couple of years, so if this interests you, please join! We practice and learn Self-Love in Spiritual Community and it’s a powerful healing and life-changing experience. We can accomplish a lot in a short time when we come together focused on transformation!

TODAY is my Sacred Circle day! This is my monthly membership program that gives you a weekly call of group spiritual counseling. Join my Sacred Circle and you can ask me any question you would like on the phone, on line or in writing! I love it! We have an awesome group of people who are doing the deep work! Try my Sacred Circle for a month and see! 4 spiritual counseling calls with me each month – ask me any question! Join me live or get the download later.

We’re an expanding global spiritual community of prayerful people willing to be co-workers with God. We’re waking up together and finding freedom in our hearts. I’m so grateful for this!

If you find what I’m sharing is helpful won’t you please share at facebook and twitter to let’s other know? Thank you!

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Healing with Self-Love

Sunday, March 18th, 2018

I haven’t read the book, A Wrinkle in Time, but I took my niece and nephew to see it last night. I love one of the major themes in it. Other people teach us how to love and accept ourselves. It’s a beautiful thing.

In the movie, it’s clear that the root causes of fear and violence are a lack of Self-Love. Many people have told me that they don’t know how to begin to love themselves. I get it! One of the major issues is that many of us have been raised by people who didn’t model it.

When we don’t have clear examples of Self-Love then we don’t know what it is. Self-Love IS recognizing that we don’t love people because they have no issues. We don’t love people when the conditions are right. That’s not what Love is. Love, as Shakespeare said so beautifully, “Love is not love that alters when it alteration finds, … it looks on tempests and is never shaken.”

This means that someone can behave unkindly, foolishly, thoughtlessly, and still they are quite lovable. We all fall down every day. I know I do. And the way I get back up from the fall is through my spiritual practice of self-forgiveness.

Self-forgiveness is a practice non-judgment.

The other night I was out with a friend at a gathering of people. I didn’t realize it, but I was walking around with my dress pulled up and tucked into my slip – a classic kind of exposure that you see in the movies. I’d gone to the bathroom and pulled my dress up to use the toilet, but then it got tucked into my slip and I didn’t realize it.

Fortunately, a kind woman told me and I adjusted my clothing. I was a little bit embarrassed. It definitely bothered me for a moment. No one wants to walk around with their undergarments exposed. Well, actually, a lot of people do because they like the attention, but I’m not one of them! LOL!

My momentary embarrassment didn’t last long because I didn’t hang onto any judgment of myself. I’m not a bad person, or a foolish person because I tucked my skirt in my slip. I’m not even a careless person. It just happened. It is what it is.

We can realize that we love others even when they fart, and fall down, and have spinach in their teeth. So, we don’t have to make a meaning of it when we discover something about ourselves that we’d rather not have everyone know.

I once was teaching a group, and I was wearing all white, white pants, white top, etc. I had been teaching for a while and we took a break. When I went to use the bathroom I discovered that I’d started menstruating and I didn’t know it and my white pants were showing blood. It happens. This is life. The meaning to make of it was “I’m a woman, I’m fertile, I’m experiencing my natural cycles.” No judgment needed. Fortunately, I was in my home and I could change clothes.

When we have real Love for ourselves, we don’t judge. We accept. We soothe ourselves. We nurture ourselves. No punishment ever. That’s what Love is. Love is patient, love is kind, never jealous, never harsh. Since Love is what we are. Let’s allow the Love to shine through in our thoughts and watch the whole world change!

Let’s teach only Love, for that is what we are.

We practice and learn Self-Love in Spiritual Community and it’s a powerful healing experience. It’s a living, loving, beautiful expression of Spirit’s Love. We are an expanding global spiritual community of prayerful people willing to be co-workers with God. To this end, I’m offering another Spiritual Counseling Training Intensive in May and my Stop Playing Small retreat right before, at the end of April. (If you can’t make this Counseling Training in May, there will be one in October.)

If you feel that you’ve been playing small in any way, I’d love to support you in breaking free of that. If you’re feeling called to do this work with me, please trust that and allow Spirit to provide what is needed so that you can answer the call you’re feeling. We can do this together!

We’re waking up together and finding freedom in our hearts. I’m so grateful for this!

If you find what I’m sharing is helpful won’t you please share at facebook and twitter to let’s other know? Thank you!

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False Identity

Thursday, February 22nd, 2018

There have been times when I’ve been counseling someone who has the appearance of being “stuck” in their story – they appear to be repeating a tale of woe and victimhood. For some of us this story from the past can feel really thick and dense and sticky.

Very often when something disappointing or painful, something upsetting and terrifying happens to us, where we feel betrayed and abused, we can draw conclusions about our self-worth and our value. The ego mind loves to interpret and make meaning of things. The ego mind is like a meaning making machine – and it’s all false! In every case where the ego is making meaning and interpreting the events of our life, it’s a story – it’s not the truth.

If you choose to believe the story the ego mind has made up, then it’s like you’ve taken it on and it becomes your prison. Literally, it can seem like you wear it like a garment. It will become to seem like it’s your identity. The false interpretation, the negative meaning becomes a false identity. It’s amazing how quickly you can lose sight of your true identity as a pure being of light and love and become convinced that you’re a completely false identity. People will stay in the story for decades.

Some people become so attached to the false identity, and so invested in it, that it completely deforms their whole life experience. You know this is happening when you are looking around your life every day gathering the evidence to support your story. If you’re gathering evidence to support why you are limited and in lack, then you’re convinced of the story.

The good news is that the Truth will ALWAYS set you free when you’re willing to believe it.

This is one of the reasons why I love stories of redemption. My own life has become a story of redemption and now I’m able to shine God’s Glory rather than continue to perpetuate the ego’s story.

The question to ask yourself is what will you choose to pour your precious life energy into:

Your story or Your Glory? Your history or your Freedom?

It’s time to choose.

Your glory is the glory of God and when you focus on choosing Love the glory of God naturally unfolds because Love is your true identity and it is always GLORIOUS!

If you choose the story and you feel the pain and restriction of the limitation and lack – choose again! Don’t look back – choose again! Onward and upward!

We’re waking up together and finding freedom in our hearts. I’m so grateful for this!

If you find what I’m sharing is helpful won’t you please share at facebook and twitter to let’s other know? Thank you!

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Justice

Friday, February 16th, 2018

One of the strongest patterns that people have is an upset related to justice and feeling things aren’t fair. I hear it from a lot of people. I get it.

The hurt, anger, the fear and doubt that people feel because they believe that “life just isn’t fair to them,” is really intense and painful. And it just keeps happening to them over and over again. Because they believe it, they keep seeing it. As it says in A Course in Miracles, perception is projection.

The ego is an attacker, and, conversely, it always wants to punish. It has a pattern of choosing to go through this repeating pattern:

Perceive an attack from someone
Defend against the attack (make it real) rather than answer a cry for Love
Use that perceived attack as an excuse for attacking
Punish the attacker
Feel guilty and ashamed for being so unspiritual
and move into regret, feeling bad and wrong, justified in self-attack
(the attacker always feels attacked
or
Increase resentment, harbor a grudge and polish a grievance
Make decisions that are negative such as “I’m never going to trust them again.” “I can’t trust anyone, they always let me down.”

Result:
The attacker always feels attacked.
The judger always feels judged.

It’s a hamster wheel of injustice, hurt, anger, resentment, and it is a HUGE drain on our energy that lowers our vibration and teaches us through pain and suffering.

Let God handle the justice. Our job is to answer the cry for Love, and release all judgments.

The lover always feels beloved.
Let’s go for that.

The ego gathers evidence to support our false beliefs and it just makes it seem more real, more permanent, more fixed, but that doesn’t actually make it true. It’s just what we do, until we’re willing to change our minds.

The false beliefs need a lot of evidence to prop them up.
The truth is true and resounds throughout the universe.
The truth is what we are, the truth is: We are perfect Love.

Sometimes we cry out for Divine Justice even though in our mind, our opinions and judgments are not just at all.

It’s precisely because we cling to our opinions, which are unfair, that we feel the world is unfair and unsafe. And it’s why we feel we need to bring our own justice.

It’s our beliefs that are manifesting as an unsafe, unfair world – and we have the power to change our mind, which DOES change the world!

Today we’re in a new moon phase – it started yesterday. New moon is a time of planting seeds. Let’s plant the seeds of a loving world that feels safe and honoring to ALL.

When I made the decision and the commitment to look for the perfect Beauty in everyone, I began to see it in myself and forever undo the idea that there was something wrong with me.

There IS a divine justice. It’s ALWAYS operating.

IF we’re willing we can feel Spirit’s perfect justice and feel safe again. This was a topic on my radio show and you can click here now to get the download of my episode on Divine Justice! Check it out!

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Mindfulness

Thursday, February 15th, 2018

When I bring my attention fully into the present, into the now, then I can see that each and every moment contains a choice. The choice is always between love and something other than love. As I keep a commitment to being mindful it’s possible for me to choose love more often.

As I am mindful of the choices I make, I am also mindful of their outcomes. Now that I am more mindful, if I choose fear, anger or some other form of suffering I can see that it was my choice.

Right there in that moment of knowing that I made a choice, there’s another opportunity to choose love and forgive myself. I witness that love has an intelligence all of its own. This makes every moment of my life a work of art.

In their book EMBRACING THE BELOVED: Relationship as a Path of Awakening, Stephen & Ondrea Levine write, “Those who suppress the ego instead of just letting it recede into the heart make the same merciless error in judgment as those who, attempting to cure serious illness, believe they must ‘filter out all negative thoughts’ in order to be healed … They do not recognize that what leaves the ‘negative residue’ is not the thought, no matter how dark or fearful, but the negative reaction (holding), as opposed to the healing response (letting go), to that moment. That a ‘positive’ thought grasped is less healing than a ‘negative’ one met with mercy.”

Focusing on being able to respond rather than react as my spiritual practice changed my life and helped me heal my relationships.

I’ve made a commitment to be mindful as part of my daily spiritual practice. I may not always succeed, but when I do, I meet any dark and fearful thoughts with mercy.

In this way my daily practice is healing and I share the benefit with all beings because I am one with them. And that makes even the most challenging day a blessing to us all.

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The Love of Your Life

Tuesday, February 13th, 2018

Years ago I realized that there was a wonderful opportunity to shift my life in a way that would really bring more Love into my experience. I decided to BE the love of my life instead of looking outside myself to someone else.

The more I’ve lived AS the love of my life, I’ve found that it’s naturally easier for me to be more loving with others, and that brings more Love in my life.

Like attracts like.

When we love ourselves, if other people behave in ways that are unloving, it bothers us less and less. We can see their behavior as the cry for Love that it is and we can respond with compassion.

When we love ourselves, we can have more compassion for others, which means we can extend Love to them, rather than take things personally. That saves a HUGE amount of time, and energy that we formerly invested in being upset.

No longer investing in being upset is one of the great acts of Self-Love.

Compassion is loving understanding. Being able to respond with compassion brings more Love into our experience too. In this way, we are more and more in the flow of Love and staying there. There’s no need to leave. The habits of criticizing and attacking fall away and are replaced with genuine loving kindness and a lightness of being takes over.

No matter how entrenched we are in feeling alone, unlovable, unworthy, or bad, we can turn it around very quickly when we let Spirit show us how. This is one of the most valuable things we can learn and that’s why it’s a focus of my classes. We can easily be much more happy when we’re wiling to change our minds.

The power of decision is ours. We can decide to BE the love of our life and let Spirit show us how. With Valentine’s Day being tomorrow, it’s perfect timing to make this powerful shift!

TODAY RADIO SHOW: February is relationship month on my radio show and today my topic is The Love of Your Life.

You can listen in LIVE on my radio show – click here for details – or you can click here to get the download later at iTunes or Stitcher for Android. All the previous episodes are free at iTunes & Stitcher right now! Transcripts and more are available here: LivingaCourseinMiracles.com You can subscribe to the podcast and get the show every week automatically on your phone, iPod, iPad or computer. Check it out! And if you enjoy the radio show, will you please write a review so more people find the show? The more reviews, the more iTunes and Stitcher show it to people! Thank you!

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Heal

Sunday, February 11th, 2018

Yesterday I was asked “what is healing?”

It’s so valuable to ask simple questions and to allow Spirit, the Higher Holy Spirit Self give you the answer. When you get it direct from Spirit rather it brings with it an energetic that is enlivening and can also be transformative.

So, what is healing?

Healing is the release of the blocks to Love in our awareness. The blocks to Love are our beliefs, which come from the decisions we’ve made – in this life or any other.

I’ve found that the truth is profoundly liberating. “The truth sets you free” isn’t just a saying, it’s truth!

Truth is: we are already perfect. We are already as holy as holy can be. We can’t become any holier than we already are.

Our responsibility and our opportunity is to give up the idea that we’re not already there. That’s pretty much all there is to awakening.

Healing is all about giving up the blocks to Love.

When you feel a need to prove that you’re right, there’s a block to Love.
When you judge your self, there’s a block to Love.
When you complain, there’s a block to Love.

If we only pay attention to a few opportunities to choose Love, rather than the block, each day,

No matter how badly every day has gone until today, we can make a loving choice now and turn the whole thing around.

Our time for healing is now. The opportunity to heal is now.

When we’re doing this healing work on our own, we can easily get discouraged and distracted. It helps so much to work together with other like-minded souls, and to consistently Partner UP.

We’re learning to remember union, unity and oneness. It’s an active choice that we make. If we miss 1,000 choices, just grab the next one. Love is so powerful, it heals anything. ANYTHING!

Let’s give up any idea that we have to figure out HOW to have a healing and focus on choosing to be in the flow of Love that IS healing.

We’re doing such amazing work this year in Masterful Living, and we have payment plans and even some partial scholarships. If you have ANY interest, please click here to set up an exploratory call to learn more about Masterful Living! These exploratory calls are my gift to you! You’ll get clarity about what’s best for you, and they’re done by spiritual counselors, not sales people. I don’t have any sales people, because your intuition is your guide!

Together, let’s give up all the time wasting and delaying tactics of the ego. Let’s roll up our spiritual sleeves and see what magnificence looks and feels like! You have until Feb 12 to decide or wait until next year.

If you’d like the support of a simple program that’s proven to work, and a community of beautiful, committed, like-minded souls from all over the world, then don’t hesitate to join us in Masterful Living 2018click here to discover what awaits you!

Masterful Living Course 2018 registration reopened
until tomorrow, Monday Feb 12 only!

We’re doing the deep work and the healing is revealing itself in our lives! If you’d like to join me in my year-long Masterful Living Course 2018 then please click here to learn more now.

Register now and if it’s not for you, you can always cancel – no obligation. If you’re willing, I’m willing. If this is right for you, you WILL know it. Trust your intuition!

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Studying VS Learning

Saturday, February 10th, 2018

For years, I satisfied my ego by studying spiritual teachings and making small amounts of progress in the transformation of my life and the healing of my heart. I invested SO much time studying, without actually diving into do the deeper healing work.

Reading lots of books and listening to lots of audios is a great way to get the ego to feel like it’s doing a great job. However, I couldn’t settle for that. I had a deep desire to truly have a breakthrough and to KNOW GOD.

Reading books isn’t a way to know God. That’s pretty obvious, right? Yet, we do read books thinking it’s going to deepen us spiritually.

Gathering information can be interesting, but information doesn’t have the power to heal. Our healing is the release of the blocks to Love. Books can inspire us tremendously, but without application, it’s just a momentary high.

I have a number of books about spirituality that I LOVE, some I even take with me wherever I go, like A Course in Miracles. As much as I treasure the teachings in the books, without the practical application of them in my life, nothing in my life changes.

It’s my willingness to be in tune with the Infinite Spirit that shifts my awareness, heals my mind, opens my heart and changes things in my life for the better.

Studying teachings is wonderful, but unless it inspires us to actually do something different, to make a more loving choice, to see with new eyes, we’re not actually investing our time wisely.

Our willingness to hear more clearly, see more clearly, know more clearly and feel more clearly the opportunities to choose Love is the place for us to put our attention. When we do, it’s miraculous how much healing can happen so quickly. Decades of wandering in the desert are harvested instantly. We come home to our true identity in Spirit. These are the blessings that are ours to receive in each moment. Let us claim them, now.

Let us remember that we already KNOW the truth that sets us free!
We’re doing such amazing work this year in Masterful Living, and we have payment plans and even some partial scholarships. If you have ANY interest, please click here to set up an exploratory call to learn more about Masterful Living! These exploratory calls are my gift to you! You’ll get clarity about what’s best for you, and they’re done by spiritual counselors, not sales people. I don’t have any sales people, because your intuition is your guide!

If you’d like the support of a simple program that’s proven to work, and a community of beautiful, committed, like-minded souls from all over the world, then don’t hesitate to join us in Masterful Living 2018 – click here to discover what awaits you!

Masterful Living Course 2018 registration reopened
until Monday Feb 12 only!

Together, let’s give up all the time wasting and delaying tactics of the ego. Let’s roll up our spiritual sleeves and see what magnificence looks and feels like! You have until Feb 12 to decide or wait until next year.

We’re doing the deep work and the healing is revealing itself in our lives! If you’d like to join me in my year-long Masterful Living Course 2018 then please click here to learn more now.

Register now and if it’s not for you, you can always cancel – no obligation. If you’re willing, I’m willing. If this is right for you, you WILL know it. Trust your intuition!

If you’re finding what I’m sharing to be helpful won’t you please share at facebook and twitter to let others know? Thank you!

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Ending Self-Doubt

Friday, February 9th, 2018

Self-doubt is insanity. It’s plain crazy! Self-doubt is when the ego mind says:

“You don’t have what it takes”

Spirit ALWAYS has what it takes to do whatever it would like to do.

ALWAYS.

When we’re aligned with ego we’ll be filled with doubt, BECAUSE the ego can only accomplish that which is not worth accomplishing. THEREFORE it’s naturally filled with doubt.

What the ego can accomplish is only of this world, and has no lasting value.
What the ego can accomplish is only that which can lead to your suffering.
The value of suffering is that it PUSHES us to wake up and choose Spirit.

That’s about all the ego really has for us at this point. Motivation to stop suffering.

What does that motivation really come from? Increased suffering!

Is that any way to live?

Unfortunately, yes, it is, and I have lived that way and it absolutely got me to the point where I said

“I have had ENOUGH. I AM choosing GOD!”

Phew!

Who knew that in this world one of the best things that could ever happen is that my suffering would become intolerable and I would totally give up and surrender my life to the Higher Holy Spirit Self and then be grateful for everything I’ve experienced? What a wild ride!

I’m so glad to learn that Spirit never fails.

And if you’d like the support of a simple program that’s proven to work, and the company of some beautiful, committed, like-minded souls from all over the world, then don’t hesitate to join us in Masterful Living 2018 – click here to discover what awaits you!

Masterful Living Course 2018 registration reopened
until Monday Feb 12 only!

Together, let’s give up all the time wasting and delaying tactics of the ego. Let’s roll up our spiritual sleeves and see what magnificence looks and feels like! You have until Feb 12 to decide or wait until next year.

We’re doing the deep work and the healing is revealing itself in our lives! If you’d like to join me in my year-long Masterful Living Course 2018 then please click here to learn more now.

Register now and if it’s not for you, you can always cancel – no obligation. If you’re willing, I’m willing. If this is right for you, you WILL know it. Trust your intuition!

We’re doing such amazing work this year in Masterful Living, and we have payment plans and even some partial scholarships. If you have ANY interest, please click here to set up an exploratory call to learn more about Masterful Living! These exploratory calls are my gift to you! You’ll get clarity about what’s best for you, and they’re done by spiritual counselors, not sales people. I don’t have any sales people, because your intuition is your guide!

If you’re finding what I’m sharing to be helpful won’t you please share at facebook and twitter to let others know? Thank you!

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Energetic Weather

Thursday, February 8th, 2018

On Monday and Tuesday of this week I noticed that I felt a strange energy. I had a sense of feeling irritable for no reason at all. It was weird, but it’s nothing that I haven’t felt many times in the past, but it’s not something I feel very often now.

I noticed the feeling was still there on Tuesday, but not as strong. Wednesday, there was still an edge, but not as noticeable. I was talking with a friend yesterday who shared that Monday had been a really difficult day for them. I remembered how I’d felt on Monday, and it was a confirmation of what I’d been feeling then, that there was something energetic that was going on.

Then, during the Sacred Circle yesterday, I remembered that Monday had that HUGE drop in the stock market. Hmmmm.

I don’t know the reason for what I’ll call this energetic weather, but I’ve learned that spiritual practice really does support us in being able to be much more grounded, centered, focused, and responsive rather than reactive.

One of the reason why I share this is because when things like this occur, we often tend to think there’s something wrong with us rather than, there’s something going on and we’re feeling affected by it. I share so that people might realize that there is some real intensity happening now, and most of us are feeling it. It’s not personal.

AND, it’s actually helpful. When we get triggered we can take it as a cue to call forth healing. Now’s the time for us to open to receive all the healing we can! It’s ours for the asking!

Also, I’ve learned not to take things personally when people blow up and have meltdowns and that’s SO helpful in not creating more mess in my life. It used to be that when I got triggered I’d have to retaliate, protect, and defend. It was like digging a hole and then jumping in. Ugh.

The more we increase our spiritual practice and connection, the more we’re eliminating our blocks to Love, and the more energy we have to stay balanced in any storm. It’s amazing how strong and beautiful we are when we feel connected to Spirit.

This is SO worth practicing. Spiritual practice not only saves time, it makes life much more beautiful and precious. No amount of striving in the world can accomplish what we can accomplish through deepening our spiritual practice.

And let’s remember that ALL THINGS really do work together for our good. Even when it’s hard to believe.

IMPORTANT ANNOUNCEMENT: Because of recent sharing in this year’s Masterful Living Classes and Community Calls, I’ve decided to reopen registration until midnight on February 12th. If you missed the opportunity to join us earlier in the year, IT’S NOT TOO LATE. We’re doing such amazing work this year, and we have payment plans and even some partial scholarships. If you have ANY interest, please click here to set up an exploratory call to learn more about Masterful Living! These exploratory calls are my gift to you! You’ll get clarity about what’s best for you, and they’re done by spiritual counselors, not sales people. I don’t have any sales people, because your intuition is your guide!

If you’re finding what I’m sharing to be helpful won’t you please share at facebook and twitter to let others know? Thank you!

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Guilt As A Motivator

Saturday, February 3rd, 2018

One of the most painful things we do in our relationships is to lay guilt on people in order to motivate them. It’s so manipulative and it really sucks the Love right out of our relationships. I’ve done a few radio shows about this topic and one that you may find helpful is called Cultivating A Guiltless Mind.

As a teacher and a spiritual counselor, I’ve talked with so many people who feel so pained by their loved ones trying to manipulate them by saying things that are designed to make them feel badly about their choices. I’ve talked with an equal number of people who don’t even realize that their manipulations using guilt are what’s poisoning their relationships.

This manipulation by guilt-tripping is so common, people don’t even realize that they do it. It’s so completely accepted in our world, that seems normal. It seems like it’s a “natural” part of our relationships.

Alienating people with guilt leaves us in a lonely, cold place. We can change that. There IS a better way.

One of the most extraordinary and wonderful benefits people have from actually doing the work that I recommend in my classes is that they have A LOT more Love in their lives. It takes real courage to look within and to make changes. It means being willing to travel into unknown territory and it often means being willing to be vulnerable.

Life without regret is so much more enjoyable. I know that for a fact.

I used to lay guilt trips on anyone and everyone. Manipulation was my constant activity. I thought I was clever for being able to be so manipulative. I’ve learned a lot and I’m not going back.

I encourage you to learn about the subtleties of “guilting” other people and to actively eliminate them from your way of relating to others. You’ll feel SO much better about yourself ALL of the time. It’s worth it!

If you’re ready to dump the old habits that drain you mentally, emotionally and physically, and replace them with habits that support you and increase your capacity for being loving and feeling connected to Spirit, come join me! We’re gaining REAL momentum this year! Join my New Year’s Rocket Fuel classes! We’re off to a powerful start – jump in and join us now! This class comes with my New Year’s Reboot class and a full month of my Sacred Circle. This is my best deal all year long! Click here for more info.

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The Long View

Friday, February 2nd, 2018

I’ve learned the value of working towards succeeding in the long view. I’ve learned to hold the vision that Spirit gives me for the changes that are possible and then it’s my job to energize that vision and call it into being. In some spiritual teachings it’s called “holding the form.”

For instance, many years ago, when Whole Foods first had a store in my neighborhood in Los Angeles, they had a lot of organic produce. It seemed REALLY expensive compared to what was available for non-organic produce at other stores. (FYI, I also shopped at Trader Joe’s, my favorite store to this day.)

Although the organic foods where much more expensive, I decided to purchase them, not just because I wish to eat organic foods without toxic pesticides, I wished to support the growth of that industry. I like to give financial support to people who are doing the work that I feel is most valuable and most supports the world I’d like to live in.

I realized that it might cost me $200 more per year to eat organic, but I felt that was the only way to support that industry, and those farmers, and bring the cost down. Since then, the price of organic produce has gone down. And it continues to go down as it is more and more popular.

I knew that it took years for a farmer to be able to turn their farm to organic and I was in it for the long view. Sometimes we invest in the big picture, even though it seems like our little choices won’t add up to changing the big picture. In truth, it’s quite often that our little changes and efforts are the only thing that CAN change the long view.

I’m very excited about our future right now. I hold the long view that in 10 years time, in America, we will have many seats in congress and in local public offices held by women, and particularly women of color. Beautiful, brilliant women who truly care about children, housing, economics, and the welfare and well-being of the people in these United States.

I’m holding the long view and it feels SO good to me. I’m loving it! Right now, I look in the news each day and I simply say “Wow! Who ever thought THAT would happen?” Things are changing, they’re blowing up, they’re falling down, and I have faith in the vision of unity in the long view.

What are you holding for the long view of your life and your community?

If you’re ready to dump the old habits that drain you mentally, emotionally and physically, and replace them with habits that support you and increase your capacity for being loving and feeling connected to Spirit, come join me! We’re gaining REAL momentum this year! Join my New Year’s Rocket Fuel classes! We’re off to a powerful start – jump in and join us now! This class comes with my New Year’s Reboot class and a full month of my Sacred Circle. This is my best deal all year long! Click here for more info.

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Regrets

Thursday, February 1st, 2018

I used to feel that I had SO MANY regrets that it was a heavy weight upon my heart. I created new regrets every day because I was so often making sarcastic and hurtful remarks to people around me. I used to intentionally say and do things to irritate and aggravate people. It was so unkind.

I used to feel compelled to be consistently agitating people around me. It was one way that I could feel that I had some power. I had the power to annoy people and to make them feel badly about themselves.

It’s surprisingly easy to poke people in a way that makes them feel worse about themselves. So many of us feel that we’re not good enough, something’s wrong with us, or unworthy that it’s extremely easy to poke them in a sensitive spot. That’s one way to control and manipulate people. It’s the way of the bully.

The bully is always attacking in order to compensate for feeling badly about themselves. Unfortunately, it just creates a more intense feeling of grasping at straws. It takes a huge amount of mental and emotional energy to maintain that behavior and it makes it difficult to accomplish much else. I know this so well.

Now, I live without regrets. Not only do I not attack people and engage in lots of sarcasm, I simply don’t wish to live in the past. The opportunity to give and receive Love is in the present moment and that’s where I feel refreshed and renewed.

If you have regrets, a consistent and dedicated practice of forgiveness will support you in releasing that habit. Self-forgiveness is the way of mastery! It’s amazing how much can be healed so quickly!

If you’d like help with that, get my free forgiveness workshop “How to Get Over It.” Invite a friend over and do the workshop together. Have fun with it!

If you’re ready to dump the old habits that drain you mentally, emotionally and physically, and replace them with habits that support you and increase your capacity for being loving and feeling connected to Spirit, come join me! We’re gaining REAL momentum this year! Join my New Year’s Rocket Fuel classes! We’re off to a powerful start – jump in and join us now! This class comes with my New Year’s Reboot class and a full month of my Sacred Circle. This is my best deal all year long! Click here for more info.

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Healthy Boundaries

Wednesday, January 31st, 2018

Yesterday, on my radio show, I was talking about having healthy boundaries. This is a question I hear frequently, “what does healthy boundaries mean?”

Healthy boundaries means loving relationships that are respectful, honoring and not in any way co-dependent, manipulating, controlling or abusive. Understanding what healthy boundaries are is a big step towards having them.

It took me until I was in my 40’s before I realized that I didn’t know what healthy boundaries were. I had all kinds of co-dependency and dysfunction happening in my relationships.

I cleaned up my act, and Spirit led the way for me. Now, it’s easy to maintain healthy boundaries. I barely have to think about it.

This has made a HUGE difference in the quality of my life.

Having healthy boundaries improves the quality of your life and your relationships. It improves your health and well-being. This is a major issue for all of us.

If you think you might have boundary or co-dependency issues, this episode of my radio show might be helpful to you. Click here to check it now!

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Generosity

Monday, January 29th, 2018

When I was the spiritual leader of the spiritual community that is now called INSPIRE LA in Los Angeles, one of the things we made a big part of our mission was to connect with and honor the elders and their wisdom. This was so important to me. I deeply value the wisdom of the elders who have learned so much through their years of living life.

Not all elders are particularly wise, this we know, but regardless, they deserve our respect. It’s so worth taking the time to seek out and talk with the elders of the community.

One thing we discovered was that a local housing development for the elderly it was very common that, towards the end of the month, residents wouldn’t have any money left to buy food. Their social security checks would have run out in the last days of the month and they’d literally be without food. So, we decided to start having pot lucks at the end of the month (with LOTS of leftovers) to have a festive and fun experience, while also providing necessary food to help them get through that lean time.

I encourage you to look around your area, and see if you can find where there might be elderly people near you, who are living on their government checks, and who might be tightly budgeted and very much in need of some support come the end of the month.

I once visited a lightworker, who gave so much to their community and who was quite financially challenged. Part of how they made it through the month was because a neighbor brought them food each week – simple offerings of bread and cheese, maybe some fruit – to help them get through the lean times.

Invite Spirit to help you identify those people in your area for whom it would be absolutely be life-changing for you to bring them $20 worth of food a couple of times a month. Or perhaps there’s an older person in your neighborhood that finds it tremendously difficult to get out and go to the store when the weather is rough.

These are considered “old-fashioned” values, and I’m old-fashioned in so many ways.

Spirit will point the way for you if you’re interested and willing. It’s extraordinary what a difference you can make in someone’s life and you’ll be so glad you did!

And if you have children, bring them along and let them see what loving your neighbor REALLY means. This is the true generosity, it’s being generous of Spirit and extending Love in practical ways that profoundly improve the quality of people’s lives!

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Sleep Deprivation

Sunday, January 28th, 2018

People often tell me that they have issues with sleeping and it really bothers them. I used to have all kinds of issues with sleep deprivation. I used to start to panic if I thought I wasn’t going to get a good night’s sleep. I had this belief that if I didn’t get a good night’s sleep I’d get sick. Because I believed it, guess what? I experienced.

In the last dozen years or so, I’ve noticed that sometimes Spirit wakes me up in the middle of the night to pray and meditate for a couple of hours. I’ve learned to be obedient and get up and do what I feel called to.

I notice that if I get up fro a couple of hours in the middle of the night to pray, then go back to sleep around 4:30 for an hour or two, I wake up feeling just as rested as I would if I’d not gotten up. That’s how Spirit is.

The last couple of nights I’ve been waking up almost hourly to pray for a friend who is going through something very traumatic. I don’t feel the worse for wear in the morning or the next day, because the prayer is so restorative.

What’s exhausting about not sleeping well is worrying about it. Fretting is tiring.

If sleep is an issue for you, here are some things that might help you.

  • Get off your screens for at least 2 hours before bed.
  • Don’t drink a lot of liquid before bedtime.
  • Pray and meditate before bed. It’s really wonderful for your sleep time!
  • Call the healing angels to help you sleep well and wake up restored and refreshed.
  • You can always read some A Course in Miracles – reading out loud is wonderful – it recalibrate the vibration of your body, your room and everything around you.
  • Remember that ACIM says, “Rest comes from waking, not from sleeping.”

Give the fretting to the Higher Holy Spirit Self for healing and rest in the arms of the angels. Count your blessings. Be grateful. These are wonderful nighttime practices that are recalibrating and healing!

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GO Time!

Saturday, January 27th, 2018

Recently, I had a conversation with a friend who was feeling resistance to following their guidance. I used to have that challenge and it was very intense for me.

I felt guided to write and to share in workshops and classes, but I felt so much reluctance. I could feel that the energy of my spiritual potential was being sublimated rather than expressed and it felt SO UNCOMFORTABLE.

People resist following their guidance because the don’t see how the resources necessary will arrive. I know, because I felt that way too. My ego wanted to know how it would all work out before I went down the path.

I’ve since learned that it’s best to just go. It’s best to just say yes.

What is needed will arrive when it’s needed.

Part of the purpose is for us to practice placing our trust in Spirit rather than the ego. Having trust in Spirit awakens our faith. That’s part of the purpose.

Now is the time for us to leap, and to learn to trust. NOW is GO time for the light workers of the world! Spirit doesn’t know how to fail. Place your faith fully in Spirit!

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Strength

Friday, January 26th, 2018

Sometimes it feels very sticky to let something go. The very idea of letting something go can feel like a wound. I remember feeling that way. I felt that it was a sign of strength to be a grudge holder. What I learned was that it doesn’t require strength to hold a grudge, it requires a willingness to endure suffering – and that is not even remotely what strength is.

Strength is when you have the willingness to open your heart and stand in a place, committed to being Loving, while the strong winds blow. Trees are such a good example of beautiful beings that have the ability to withstand the storms of life and still keep offering, with incredible generosity, food and shelter to all who come near. I love trees for their amazing givingness.

Here’s how I learned to let go, to forgive and to move on: I learned that it’s the most loving thing to do for ME. It improves the quality of MY life.

And I learned how to forgive – once I learned that, I started to share what I learned. There is a precise formula that works. It really, really works, and it’s totally free! It’s available to everyone.

Give to Spirit your interpretations of events, let them go to Spirit for healing.

If you’d like more help with this, check out my free workshop – it’s available for you right now. I encourage you to go for it! Invite a friend over and do it together!

Click here now to get my free HOW TO GET OVER IT forgiveness workshop. You don’t deserve to suffer so you can hold onto the hurt. Give it to Spirit for healing as an act of Self-Love! That’s what REAL strength is!

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High Resolve

Thursday, January 25th, 2018

In Masterful Living class yesterday we were sharing about our experiences of repeating the same lessons. It can be quite discouraging to go through similar experiences again and again. I know for myself repeating the same lessons made me feel like a total spiritual loser.

One thing that I often felt was that my promises to myself, my agreements with myself and my learning, would simply fade into the dark corners of my mind.

It was a great help and inspiration to me when I read the writing of Reverend Howard Thurman (1899-1991), a beautiful writer and considered one of the most inspiring of the Christian mystics in recent history. I share with you now a beautiful essay that inspires me year after year. I share it hoping that you too will draw inspiration and motivation from it as I do.

The Moments of High Resolve

Keep fresh before me the moments of my high resolve.

Despite the dullness and barrenness of the days that pass, if I search with due diligence, I can always find a deposit left by some former radiance. But I had forgotten. At the time it was full-orbed, glorious, and resplendent. I was sure that I would never forget. In the moment of its fullness, I was sure that it would illumine my path for all the rest of my journey. I had forgotten how easy it is to forget.

There was no intent to betray what seemed so sure at the time. My response was whole, clean, authentic. But little by little, there crept into my life the dust and grit of the journey. Details, lower-level demands, all kinds of cross currents — nothing momentous, nothing overwhelming, nothing flagrant — just wear and tear. If there had been some direct challenge –a clear-cut issue — I would have fought it to the end, and beyond.

In the quietness of this place, surrounded by the all-pervading Presence of God, my heart whispers: Keep fresh before me the moments of my High Resolve, that in fair weather or in foul, in good times or in tempests, in the days when the darkness and the foe are nameless or familiar, I may not forget that to which my life is committed.

Keep fresh before me the moments of my high resolve.

From For The Inward Journey by Howard Thurman

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Behavior Modification

Tuesday, January 23rd, 2018

So many self-help programs focus on techniques that aren’t actually helpful. In fact, they leave us feeling more dejected and more hopeless than before we started. Self-help programs are often centered around the idea that there’s something wrong with us. That’s not helpful!

For many years I really worked at behavior modification. I focused on that because I didn’t really believe it was possible for me to change the underlying causes of my behaviors. I believed that at least if I could * change the behavior then I could feel somewhat better about myself. Only it didn’t really work. And it was a lot of effort to try and control myself.

I’ve been so impressed, year after year, watching people in my Masterful Living Course as they heal things at the root cause. I say “heal it to the root, to have new fruit!”

Some folks will encourage you to have coping strategies and ways of managing things. I’ve definitely come to see that it’s much easier and faster to go for healing the behavior by healing the mind that instigates it.

Having a coping strategy doesn’t shift the mind that holds a false belief.

I don’t honestly know how to heal things at the level of the mind, but I know how to call forth a healing, to accept it, to allow it and to receive it. Spirit takes care of the how, our job is to allow.

It takes courage to be willing to let the negative habits go, because when we do, we’re changing our identification. When we let go of the habits that keep us locked into a negative view of ourselves, then we start to see ourselves as we truly are – and that’s a big shift. It often shifts everything in our life, and it brings new experiences which can be a bit disorienting and challenging – certainly they are intimidating to the ego.

Fortunately, Spirit will guide us if we allow. There’s a way out of suffering and it’s ours for the asking!

TODAY RADIO SHOW: On my radio show today my topic is Behavior Modification.

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Spiritual Maturity

Monday, January 22nd, 2018

This is part 3 of a 3 part series. You can start with Part 1 – Spiritual Information – before you read this.

It’s possible to become masterful at collecting information, even information from the best spiritual sources, powerful teachers and writers and still be closed off, angry and miserable.

I used to think, “I know these spiritual principles. I’m such a good student. I get A’s on everything.” That was my ego, enticing me to stay stuck in my intellect rather than moving into my heart. The ego is always trying to figure out what the Spirit already understands. It’s a lot of smoke and mirrors formed around wild goose chases and interminable rabbit holes.

Part of what was so time and energy consuming was my obsessively, compulsively thinking about how to figure things out. I was convinced that finding an intellectual spiritual method would help me heal. I thought if I read all these books, and listened to all these classes, and listened to lots of audios it would somehow heal my mind. But I’m here to say that it does not. I’ve done the research.

There’s a wonderful teaching from the Bible, that when you come back into your heart and you’re reborn in the Spirit, then all the years that the locusts have eaten are given back to you. All the time that you think you wasted, it’s given back to you.

How is it given back to us? Because now, by virtue of moving into your heart, having self-compassion, loving yourself, forgiving yourself and everyone else, forgiving the debts and the debtors, the trespassers and the trespasses, then we can live in the moment. We can live the Love, and all that we had blocked, all the learning that we had blocked, we can now harvest it. So, it really is like all the time we wasted is given back to us.

Every single moment offers us an opportunity to do this, to return to the beginning through forgiveness. Forgiveness is a spiritual practice that brings us to a place of being able to finally learn the lessons from our errors. Without forgiveness we must keep repeating the errors.

When we don’t forgive, it’s a kind of arrogance we’re adopting that says “I think I know what everything is for, and I’ve decided it’s not for my good.

These judgments prevent us from really understanding what things are for. Which prevents us from harvesting the learning from our experiences. Without any learning, we’re just repeating the same errors and feeling more and more foolish.

When we develop the spiritual maturity of being able to forgive, release the judgment and harvest the learning comes a sweet and great gratitude for the learning. That’s one of the things that is such a key component to my life, everything that I share, and the teaching in Masterful Living.

Together, as a community, we learn to live from the heart, being loving and forgiving. It heals our whole life, and it raises up our loved ones, our co-workers and our friends. Forgiveness as a spiritual practice is just one day at a time, one moment at a time, and one choice at a time. That’s the only way that there really is to do it.

It’s a living spiritual practice of being loving. We can’t get it from a book, but we can get it from listening to each other and hearing Spirit’s Voice in each other’s voice. We can get it from being Prayer Partners together, and helping each other to release the shame and the blame.

Together we cultivate our spiritual maturity through a practice of non-judgment, and harvesting the learning. It’s amazing, miraculous and it’s deeply healing!

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Harvest the Learning

Sunday, January 21st, 2018

This is part 2 of a 3 part series. You can read Part 1 – Spiritual information before you read this, Part 2. In yesterday’s Spiritual Espresso, I was talking about getting caught by the ego, while trying to live a spiritual life studying other people’s work.

I was putting so much energy, time and money into spirituality, but I wasn’t feeling like my life was changing the way I thought it should, or believed it could. I recognized that the ‘should’ and the ‘could’ words were judgments, but that’s how I felt back then.

I believed that, if I read all these spiritual books by all these wonderful, celebrated spiritual authors that everybody loves, and if I went to all these lectures and these talks and took these workshops and did all these spiritual things, that I’d have so much spiritual information, I’d be healed, and my life would be terrific. I believed, or maybe I just hoped, everything I desired would come to me, because I had all this spiritual, healing information.

Well, I am here to say that it doesn’t work. There’s one thing that I’ve learned that actually does heal your mind and allow you to live from your heart. Living from your heart, it’s like you get the time back that you thought you’d wasted. There’s a wonderful teaching from the Bible, that when you’re born of the Spirit, when you come back into your heart and you’re reborn in the Spirit, then all the years that the locusts have eaten are given back to you. All the time that you think you wasted, it’s given back to you.

How is it given back to you? By virtue of moving into your heart, having self-compassion, loving yourself, forgiving yourself and everyone else, forgiving the debts and the debtors, the trespassers and the trespasses, then we can live in the moment. We can finally live the Love.

When we start to genuinely live the Love that we are, all that we’d blocked, all the learning that we’d blocked, we can now harvest. So, it really is like all the time we wasted is given back to us. The learning comes pouring in to our awareness and gratitude fills our heart because we realize now that none of it was a waste. Even when it seemed like we weren’t learning ANYTHING we were, in fact, learning something quite valuable. And sometimes there’s so much gratitude for being able to finally harvest he learning from the past, that we can only weep tears of thanksgiving.

More in Part 3 tomorrow!

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