Healing the Habit of Self-Abuse

November 6, 2015
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About 15 years ago, I remember discovering that the average person spent approximately $5 to the detriment of their health every day. That seems pretty easy to do, doesn’t. If you smoke a pack a day, that’s probably about $5. Fast food combo meal is about that price, I’m guessing.

It’s kind of crazy to think that we would actually choose to do things to the detriment of our health, isn’t it? And yet, it’s so common.

One of the things that is extremely noticeable to me is that the more I deepen my spiritual practice, the more I love myself, and the more habits that are not self-loving fall away.

What I notice is that I’ve replaced the hurtful habits with the helpful ones.

I used to stay up really late watching TV, just to find some escape from a long, hard day. Now, I’d rather go to bed and get up early and have a sweet, quiet morning to do the things that I enjoy most. I don’t actually enjoy staying up late watching TV. There’s no joy in it.

What’s really cool is that I’m not motivated by feeling I SHOULD do something or SHOULDN’T do something. More and more I can simply choose what I like and say no to what I don’t like.

Self-abuse is a habit that many people get lost in and don’t even realize it. Decades can go by and they don’t even realize how much pain they’re inflicting on themselves. It can seem like that wine, beer, smoke, tv, porn, ice cream, or whatever is all the enjoyment they have. And when it feels like that, it becomes a self-fulfilling addictive habit that can seem really hard to break.

It feels hard to break because it can seem hard to believe that they can love themselves or feel good without that thing that’s become their “go to” medication.

Through spiritual practice,
Love becomes the motivator.
And that feels rewarding.

It takes some real willingness, some trust and it does take some momentum to get to the place where it feels rewarding.

I’ve done the work on this, so I know what I’m talking about it.
It takes REAL willingness.

Lip service doesn’t mean anything.
In fact, lip service will deceive you into thinking you’re doing it when you know in your heart that you’re not. That’s more self-abuse.

What I like about my life now is that I don’t have to be rigid about my choices – being flexible is being on that middle road that Buddha talked about. Being flexible, in the moment, looking for the loving choice, is a wonderful practice.

I used to love extremes.
I would go from one extreme to another.
Indulgence to abstinence and back again.
That’s how we learn – experiencing the contrast teaches us.

We learn through contrast until we are willing to surrender and simply remember to choose Love. That’s the ultimate lesson we’re all learning: We’re remembering to remember to choose Love.

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We’re waking up together and I’m so grateful for that! If you’re finding what I’m sharing to be helpful won’t you please share at facebook and twitter to let others know? Thank you!

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