- Jennifer Hadley - https://jenniferhadley.com -

Love It or Leave It

Yesterday, I spent the entire day cleaning our family home on Deer Isle, Maine.  I had some wonderful helpers, but it still took me all day.  This past week was a week with lots of laundry, cleaning, and gardening, taking care of things at the house before leaving so the renters could enjoy it.

Our family has loved this house my parents built 30 years ago.  We’ve had summer vacations every year since it was built, even before when my parents just had a trailer there.  In order for us to be able to afford to keep it, we rent it most of the summer.  And now we’re renting it for artist and writer retreats year round [1].  It’s the perfect place for that.

As I’m reviewing my day yesterday, where I was cleaning for about eight hours straight, and after many days of cleaning and organizing, what stands out to me is this:

I don’t like cleaning.  Some people do, but I don’t.  However, I do like having a really clean house.  And so, I did all of that cleaning, and I had no complaints, and no resentments.  I was grateful much of the time and I was happy [2].

It might not seem like much, but upon review, it’s miraculous!

It’s truly miraculous that I could have spent so many hours this past week cleaning and doing things I don’t enjoy and not be complaining.

I used to be a real whiner and complainer, I kid you not.  My mind was trained to be super critical ALL of the time.  My constant complaining was the cause of great suffering for me and it cost me several relationships.

There are times that when I’m doing something I don’t like, I feel frustrated that there’s an impasse.  The thing breaks, the thing won’t open or close, the thing is thwarting me!  I feel a momentary annoyance, or even a flash of anger [3], at the thing that is not behaving as I wish.  And then I stop, and I take a breath and I remember that this thing has come to help me to remember that I can choose Peace [4] instead of upset [5].  I am the one who chooses.  I am the decider and I decide for Peace because I love myself, and I am creating a magnificent life for myself.

If I cannot do it with Love, it’s best to leave it.

Truly, this is what I’ve learned.  If I’m continuing to do something and I’m stewing in my upset, escalating the agitation, that is intensely unloving and I don’t deserve that. I wouldn’t let someone else do it TO me so I won’t do it to myself.

Love it or leave it, I say.
Do it with Love and gratitude or let it go.
This is the way to learn and grow.
This is the way to remember my true identity IS Peace.

I can harvest the Wisdom from what I experienced because I don’t judge myself, and that’s what true forgiveness is, letting go of the judgments.  Without the judgment, I am able to learn from my experiences.  Judgment just keeps me repeating the past.

Every day, I am grateful that I can change my mind.  I celebrate my ability to change and let the past go!  Victory is mine!

There was a time when I thought the ego would always [6] win, but that time has gone and is no more.  Victory is mine!

I invite you, today and every day, to never labor in vain.  When we’re laboring with agitation and frustration then we’re laboring in vain.  It’s only going to bring more suffering.  It’s healthier to take a step back, align with Spirit and be victorious.

If you do that once per day, with something you don’t like, your entire life will change.  Believe me, I know.  Try it and feel the difference, and then together, we can say:  Victory is ours!

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