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This weekend I’m in Maine at a training about the Enneagrams in relationships, which is quite interesting to me. (The enneagrams are a personality-typing system that’s spiritually based, and that I’ve found quite helpful.)
Listening to the others in my group share about their feelings and their relationship issues, I am reminded of how much things have changed for me. I am also reminded of how confusing I used to feel that relationships were.
I probably have spent a major portion of my life trying to figure out my own feelings and those of others. It has been a major investment of my time, energy and life-force. It is for most of us. I am so glad that the teachings of A Course in Miracles actually work. It’s a much faster path with far less frustration, but it does require a great willingness.
The leader of this training I’m in points at some of the mental patterns and suggests that we eliminate by noticing them and not choosing them – which is the ACIM way. However, when we work WITH Spirit and stop trying to go it alone, things improve so rapidly it’s astounding.
In this kind of training, there are people who are sharing their experiences and reminding me of how I used to feel so frustrated. I used to feel so hopeless that I could ever effect a change.
I would get triggered by something, and then feel emotionally dragged down an old familiar rabbit hole that I hated. It happened so many times, and so often, that it became an affirmation that there was something terribly wrong with me, and that I had no ability to control my life, or my feelings, or even what I said and did.
I’d “lose it.”
As children, when we lose self-control, the adults are supposed to be able to help us and teach us how to find “it” again – “it” being our center, our right mind. But, many times, they don’t. They’re not present enough in their right mind, and instead of helping us find our way back to center, they simply make us wrong.
I talk with so many people in Masterful Living classes – and it even came up this past week – who were told, as children that their emotions and upsets were wrong. As little precious children so many have been told:
Children are to be seen and not heard.
Stop crying, or Ill give you something to cry about.
Parents are overwhelmed. It’s completely understandable.
Adults who cannot handle their own emotions cannot handle a child who is freaking out.
We get taught that our emotions are wrong.
The big messages are:
FEELING IS BAD!
FEELING WILL GET YOU PUNISHED!
FEELING WILL GET YOU IN TROUBLE!
STOP FEELING … OR ELSE!
How can parents teach what they don’t know? It’s not fair to expect them to. And so, we must forgive.
When I was a kid I had long hair, as I do now, and I used to want to have my Mom braid my hair and help me to do things with it. She didn’t have that skill. I remember asking her to braid my hair when I was about 15. She tried to get out of it, warning me that she just wasn’t good at it, but I insisted. So, my Mom did as requested and, you know what? She was right. She wasn’t very good at it. That was when I finally got it. Don’t ask her to do something she’s not good at. It’s not a loving thing to do.
I say, don’t go to the hardware store for frozen yogurt because they don’t have it. (Although, I do think it would be a hot seller. Mostly guys who are working hard go to the hardware store, and they often like a snack.)
We must forgive our parents for not being able to help us with the things they don’t know about. WE are the generation that is turning the tide. We must forgive ALL, so that we can get on with the business of teaching only Love. There’s no more productive way.
One of the things that we’ve found so helpful in Masterful Living is to learn to feel our feelings. It takes real effort for most of us to allow ourselves to actually pause in the midst of things and feel what’s going on.
Our feelings indicate our thought patterns. Thoughts come before feelings. It may not seem like it, but our thoughts reflect our belief systems, and that’s what will determine how we interpret our life and what we think.
Someone can tell me I’m an idiot, but it won’t bother me if I don’t believe it. I won’t even remember that it happened if there’s no hook of belief.
I have carried feelings of shame about something I said or did for decades that no one else remembers.
I remember when I was about 27 years old, I went to a friend’s home, and they had just had made slipcovers for their couch. My friend had made them himself. I was a smoker then, and I accidentally dropped my cigarette on their sofa and burned a hole right through their brand new sofa. I felt so bad and ashamed for that. 20 years later I brought it up to them, and they had no memory of it at all. 20 years of feeling bad and ashamed, all of my own making.
Feelings are so helpful to us, but on our own, they’re overwhelming. That’s why I feel so compelled to support people in bringing these healing opportunities into our lives, and making it easy, attractive, appealing, and even fun to move through things fully and completely, so we can free up all that stuck energy. That’s what our programs are all about.
It takes motivation to make a change. For me, my motivation was misery and pain. I worked with that until I caught a spark of inspiration and began to see that I could really make a difference in my own life, and in the lives of my family and others.
One of my goals is to inspire people to do this inner healing work so they can do it more joyfully.
The purpose statement at the Power of Love Ministry is:
Our one goal is to support people who are actively interested in walking their talk, living the Love, and awakening so they can teach only Love and be truly helpful. We’re doing it together!
This year we’ve taken steps further along the path of offering more classes with more teachers and training Teachers, Ministers, Prayer Practitioners and Spiritual Counselors, and they are blooming and blossoming into POWERFUL light Workers with SO MUCH to offer and share.
This has always been a teaching ministry – to teach only Love and how to really live that. We are sharing what we’re learning and it’s spreading.
What I’ve come to see is that there are so many beautiful Light Workers who have felt hesitant because they don’t feel fully qualified, and they don’t feel fully capable and empowered to do the work they feel called to do.
Of course they feel hesitant if they still are holding onto shame, blame, resentment, regret, guilt, hurt and jealousy from the past.
I get it. For so many years I had a dream of being truly helpful, but I didn’t feel qualified or capable to really GO FOR IT. I didn’t feel worthy.
Now, I know why.
The unforgivness gets in the way.
How can we feel worthy of being the Light of the world when we’re harboring all this darkness?
Our spiritual practice and the work that we’re doing in Masterful Living (which is the foundation for all the trainings) dissolves and resolves that sense of unworthiness, so that people feel capable and qualified to share what they’re learning.
My prayer is that the expansion we’re planning for 2019 will be everything that Spirit intends for it to be, and that many, many more thousands of people will be inspired to truly live and practice the teachings of truth in A Course in Miracles.
My prayer is that my own awakening and our collective awakening is brought forth with more ease and grace. That we give up the resistance to Love and to being loving, and choose to demonstrate our true nature, which is perfect Love.
Together, we awaken one choice at a time.
Proving that God works in our lives and we are not alone.
It’s all about self-forgiveness. When we forgive ourselves we can let the past go and put all of our energy into expressing our true nature which is perfect Love.
And then, we can truly help all of our brothers and sisters, and most especially the children! By demonstrating and teaching only Love, all around us are inspired and uplifted to do things differently. This is why we so much family healing for those in Masterful Living classes.
We can each be a powerful beacon of Love and Light – this is what our calling is.
Everything is pre-installed.
We already have the Kingdom within.
Won’t you please consider being an ACTIVE part of this movement of the heart to shine the Light of Love for those who really wish to join this wave of global awakening?
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