- Jennifer Hadley - https://jenniferhadley.com -

Guilt Is Sabotage

Some people use the threat of guilt [1] as a motivator. Some use guilt to keep them playing small and avoid taking risks. Guilt itself is self-sabotage.

One of the debilitating side effects of self-sabotaging with self-medication is feeling guilty. We’ve talked about it a little this week in the 5 Day Challenge to End Self Sabotage. [2]

I’ve talked with many folks who don’t fully enjoy their life because they feel it would be selfish and they’d feel guilty. Many people even feel guilty just for taking care of themselves – as though good self-care somehow is putting themselves first, which is bad and wrong.

The guilty mind punishes again and again. Self-punishment is a strong motivator for many people, and it keeps them in a loop, like a hamster on a wheel, repeating a limited and unhappy existence. It is our destiny to live a joyful [3] life, and A Course in Miracles is the mind-training to help us get there!

It’s interesting how many people believe they *should feel guilty for taking care of themselves. One of the biggest challenges I see at work, in many people’s minds, is this belief that “it’s better to give than to receive”. How could that be true when there is only One? It’s insanity. The only place to give to is Spirit, and the only place to receive from is Spirit. How could giving be better than receiving? It’s so important, and valuable, and healing, and nourishing to be receptive to Spirit’s guidance and flow of Love. Without that, we wither and die, literally!

The ego thought system is in diabolically opposition to itself. The ego believes that taking care of yourself is selfish, which is bad and wrong. The ego believes that we’re supposed to give, and give, and give, and give in order to get the Love, approval, attention and affection that we want and need. We end up believing that we have to give, and give, and give in order to earn Love, thereby reinforcing the idea that we’re separate from Love.

The ego believes that others are selfish, bad and wrong if they don’t appreciate all that we’re giving to them. They should reciprocate by giving us everything that we need. It’s all lunacy. Time for a healing!

When we don’t take good care of ourselves, when we over-give and give in order to get something back, then we’re going to feel depleted, and it’s not because someone made us or we did it for someone else. Over-giving to depletion is a choice that is a form of self-sabotage, and it’s time for us to let it go! We over-give because we believe in lack. Over-giving is an affirmation of lack.

Spiritual students often believe that suffering and martyrdom are somehow holy. Suffering and martyrdom are the OPPOSITE of holy. Suffering and martyrdom are pure ego.

It’s our responsibility to take good care of ourselves, and keep our wellspring of energy, radiance and luminosity full. There are no extra points for running on empty. No one can do this for us – this is ours to do. If you feel guilty taking good care of yourself, consider this: If you live in service to the Light, then everything you do to make sure you are a brightly shining Light brings benefit to all. It’s not selfish to take good care of yourself, it’s another act of service to the Light!

What can you do today to care for yourself with excellence? Love is the healer and self-care is healing! The most healing thing I know is an effective spiritual practice, which always includes Self-Love!

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In my yearlong Masterful Living Course [5] a number of people have healed these self-destructive habits such as rehearsing disappointment, failure, depression, and addiction. Many have gone off anti-depressants, let go of old hurts and sadness that has troubled them, even chronic pain seems to disappear for many.

I share what I learned that shifted me out of my habits of ignoring my intuition and all the healing opportunities that God gave me in my Masterful Living Course 2019. At no charge, you can also book an Exploratory Call [7] to speak with one of the Spiritual Counselors who has already done the program, and they can help you be clear if this is right for you right now.

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