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I was a chronic complainer. It was all part of my being super judgmental. Complaining and judging are often the very same thing. For a long time, I believed it was my civic and moral duty to judge and complain. I literally felt that if I didn’t judge and complain that the world would just degrade into a hot mess.
People ask me all the time how to deal with a chronic complainer that’s in their life. Many spiritual students develop an aversion to complaining. Once they realize the power of their thought and word, and have a clear understanding of how creative their thought and word are, spiritual students often become afraid of miscreating with their word, hence the aversion.
Now I have a new understanding and compassion for the chronic complainer that I used to be. Because of having compassion for myself, I am able to see more clearly what the complaining is about.
Complaints are actually evidence of a deep yearning for
excellence, Beauty and spiritual perfection.
Unfortunately, most complainers don’t know that’s the real reason for the judgments and complaints. They don’t realize that every time they judge and complain they’re actually pushing the thing they desire further and further away. By complaining, they’re giving their energy to the very thing they wish to end.
Complaining is like looking at a fire that’s burning you and pouring gasoline on it, when you really would prefer to stop the pain and put the fire out.
Complaining doesn’t help, except that if you complain enough and believe your complaints enough, you will create a situation that is so uncomfortable you might just be willing to change your mind about it and do something different. But is that really how you wish to live? I don’t think so.
One of the best deterrents to complaining I know is this:
Complaining makes you a crap magnet.
Gratitude makes you a Love Magnet.
You choose what you’d like to magnetize into your life!
When there’s a chronic complainer in your life, they are a gift to you to help you train your mind NOT to judge. Remember, like attracts like. The chronic complainer is there to teach you that Love is the healer, not judgment.
Be a healing presence. Make that commitment. That’s what your experience is for – to teach you and inspire you to be the healer you were born to be! Today’s the day!
That’s why 11 years ago, I created a boot camp class called Family Freedom. The very first time I offered it, shortly after my mother’s passing in 2008, people also had amazing and miraculous healing. I realized that the curriculum was really all about applying the ACIM principles in a way that brought freedom from fear and so I’ve continued to work on this class and update it and now I call it Finding Freedom From Fear.
This class is so powerful and transformative that it’s also a requirement for my Spiritual Counseling Certification Program. (My next training will be in October.) I haven’t offered this class in six months, but I’m thinking of offering it soon. I’m thinking of doing something special next time I offer it so that people can do the class with a friend or family member, as there is definitely strength in joining with a partner. If you’d like to be on the waiting list so you can join me next time I offer it, you can go here to sign up for the waiting list and I’ll keep you posted.
Professional Trainings Are Coming!
This October, I’ll be offering another Teacher Training for those who wish to learn How to Lead & Create A Workshop, including certification to teach my Forgive & Be Free Workshop. I’ll also be offering my Spiritual Counseling Training Intensive which is part of my Spiritual Counseling Certification Program. Look for an announcement soon!
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