- Jennifer Hadley - https://jenniferhadley.com -

Bad Hope

Have you ever wished for something bad to happen? It could be to another person or to yourself. Okay, this may sound crazy to you, but I’ve known many people, including myself, who have, at times, wished for bad things to happen.

Wishing bad things to happen to someone else is more understandable for most people than wishing bad things to happen to themselves. Wishing bad things on anyone is wishing for a punishment. And that’s one of the key components of the ego thought system.

The ego thought system is one of sin and punishment.

When people don’t like something someone’s done, they jump on the punishment bandwagon. People talk about punishment as a deterrent, but it really doesn’t work.

Punishment is for those who blame and shame.

You may not realize it, because we often don’t wish to see it, but many people punish themselves and punish others as a way of trying to handle how vulnerable and powerless they feel. There are many subtle ways that people punish themselves and others.

Hoping something bad happens to themselves, people are often looking to get some kind of justification for feeling like a victim or even to punish others. When I was much younger, I definitely saw myself wishing for bad things to happen to me so that others would feel bad, that it was their fault.

Some people try to hurt their loved ones by hurting themselves. It’s definitely insane. And that’s what the ego is, pure insanity.

People feel unworthy of Love, and sometimes they wish for something bad to happen to them so that people will have sympathy for them. They feel it’s the only way they can get attention or kindness [1]. It never feels good, but to some, it’s better than no attention all.

Wishing punishment on others only intensifies the guilt [2] we feel, and then we feel we deserve to be punished. It’s a destructive cycle we can break out of by being aware and practicing kindness.

His Holiness, the Dalai Lama has said that his religion is kindness. That really resonates with me. I aspire to be kind always [3], and I am getting closer every day. When we’re forgiving ourselves and others, we’re practicing the ultimate kindness.

Forgiveness leads to compassion, and that is Love. It’s liberating.

In our current political climate, I’ve heard people wishing for economic hard times because they believe then the current president wouldn’t be reelected. I get that, but it’s not what I wish for. I wish for Love and kindness to be valued. I pray that truth [4] is revealed and Love prevails. I feel it happening, and so I don’t even need to hope for good. I know it is happening now. Healing [5] is happening now. Truth is being revealed now. Love will prevail.

Have you had a time when you wished for something bad to happen to someone or to yourself? Have you forgiven yourself? If not, there’s no time like the present! Please share in the comments below!