Healing the Habit Of Being A Fault-Finder

November 17, 2019

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When I was in the graduate Screenwriting program at USC, my professor, the amazing actor/director Nina Foch, used to say “focus on the light. The darkness will take care of itself.”  This was her advice for directing students.  I’ve always thought that was excellent advice.

It’s so easy to focus on the dark.  And when we do, then all we see is more darkness and corruption.  The view becomes narrow and ugly.  The scenery is depressing and upsetting – or so we think.

I can admit that my personality is a judger and a fault-finder.  I can look at a perfect thing and find the smallest crack.  I can look at an arrangement of things and instantly see how they could be arranged more coherently, attractively, helpfully.  It used to always work against me.  For much of my life, I simply found more things to criticize everywhere I looked.

Now I can look at things and often I’ll see the Beauty before I see what the ego would judge as bad, wrong, imperfect.  I can see the perfection and let it rest at that, but not always.  I’m going for ALWAYS.

Looking for faults is a habit.  

It can be unlearned – and it’s SO worth doing.

Frequently finding fault is an ego habit that keeps us in a place of near-constant disappointment, blame, criticism, complaint, shame, agitation, and irritation.  

This way of looking at the world sucks the joy out of life.  It’s right up there with keeping score and holding grudges. If there’s anything worth letting go of, it’s this gnarly habit of seeing the devil in the details.

How do you break this hellish habit?  It’s so simple.  Willingness is all it takes.

It’s a willingness to replace the habit of fault-finding with praising and gratitude.

It’s not so hard to change our life if we’re willing.

Gratitude multiplies the good.
Complaining makes us a crap magnet.
We choose how we’d like our life to go.

Whenever I would realize I wasn’t happy and harmonious, when my Peace seems to have taken the low road, I learned to call upon Spirit to show me where I made the downturn.  It was always some judgment or opinion, some falsehood that had captured my attention.  I learned that I could give whatever the opinion or complaint was to the Higher Holy Spirit Self for healing and regain my Peace, my higher ground.

I learned to stand in faith that the healing will be done and give thanks that it IS done.  Because I AM willing, there’s nothing to prevent the healing from happening.  This is a powerful formula for transformation that actually works.

If the complaint returns, it just means I wasn’t really TRULY willing to let my opinion go.  It means I thought I was right.  

Sometimes we’re SO willing to stop being upset, 
but we’re NOT so willing to give up our complaint.  

We can’t have Freedom and keep our complaint.  
It’s one or the other.
Thank God for that.  
Now, in this holy instant, we can become TRULY willing.
And we’re carried back to Peace and Harmony.

What complaint have you got that’s worth trading your Peace for?  
I actually used to have SO MANY complaints that felt so important to me, but now I don’t have an interest in making that trade for Peace.

Learning to make the trade of handing over the false belief in exchange for the Peace is what we do in Masterful Living, and so much more. Registration is open now for my yearlong course.  My first class of the year is January 1st.

It seems crazy, but here we are 45 days until the new year!  

Let’s all consider, what we can do to deepen our spiritual practice between now and January 1.  Placing our docs on this will carry us through the holidays with a sense of success and fulfillment and that’s a great way to start the new year.

Next time you feel less than peaceful, remember that you’re never upset for the reason you think. The cause of upset isn’t “out there” in the world.  The cause of all upset is holding a grievance, a false belief or idea in our heart that we won’t let go.

Freedom is right here, right now, if we’re willing to keep it in focus.

I use affirmations to help me keep my mind aligned with Spirit.

What are my affirmations?

I AM willing to focus on the Light.  
I AM the Light.
I Love the Light.
I serve the Light. 
I live in the Light.
The Light is All.

I’ve found that affirmations are one of the most powerful tools I have to change my mind and choose again.

Every day I offer “My Shot of Spiritual Espresso”.  I write spiritual inspiration and record a prayer for our healing.  Prayer is a power tool for our liberation.  Pray with me today.  We use technology to transcend time and space and deepen our spiritual practice and connect with each other. Our spiritual practice is our path of liberation.  And that’s beautiful to share!

When anyone of us has more happiness, we’re all lifted!  All boats rise on this tide of Love.

If you’re going to join us next year, I encourage you to register early for the Masterful Living Course 2020.  Make the commitment to yourself NOW and you’ll have so much to look forward to – including tremendous healing and transformation!  Give yourself that gift this year and you’ll be amazed at how your connection with Spirit will bloom!

Having a loving relationship builds self-esteem and worthiness, and that’s a far better investment of our precious energy than fault-finding and that’s miraculous.  Are you ready for a miracle?  Check out the classes that we’re offering now!

Grief Support Class – Very few people really understand how to move through grief with ease and grace.  Jesse Brune-Horan is someone who has gone through tremendous loss and grief and is now offering support.  Jesse is a minister that I have partnered with in many classes and offerings, and I’m so glad to support this offering of his new class Healing Grief.  Now is the perfect time to get this support and to call forth more grace in your experience of grief.  Click here for more details.

FORGIVENESS CLASS: My Forgive & Be Free class, in 3 parts, is available on replay right now and join me for Part 3 today.  Let’s do this sacred work joyfully, and JoyFULLY together!  Register now and get the replay right now! Click here for more details.

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