This week, it’s Thanksgiving week in the United States. It’s our biggest family holiday, and Wednesday is the biggest travel day of the entire year. Many businesses work a half-day on Wednesday, and many have Thursday off, hence the reason for Black Friday. People have the day off to do their holiday shopping, so there are big sales. And for many stores, this is the weekend that takes them out of the red and into the black of profit.
This year, Thanksgiving is on my birthday and I am really looking forward to cooking a turkey with all the fixings. Friends keep asking me what I’m doing to celebrate my birthday, and that’s what I’m doing – having Thanksgiving dinner with my loved ones. I can’t wait! I’m in Scottsdale, Arizona. I’m staying in an Airbnb townhouse where I have nearby friends. I also have friends coming from out of town to celebrate and stay with me. I’m really looking forward to it.
I haven’t always looked forward to my birthday or to Thanksgiving. I’ve ruined MANY a family holiday because I got triggered and got so angry that I just destroyed any possibility of a good time. I’ve even done it when everyone came to my house and I cooked the meal.
I’ve had my best friends in the whole world not wish me a happy  birthday and completely forget it was my birthday.
I’ve organized things to celebrate my birthday with friends and with family on different occasions and everyone bailed on me.
And I’ve learned to get over it all.
I’ve learned not to take it personally, even when it felt SO personal.
I’ve even had my family eat my birthday cake without me. When I was just in the next room, they didn’t bother to call me to join them as they ate my birthday cake. Yes, it’s true.
Because I used to get so triggered, so intensely and so frequently, I came to believe there was no hope for me to have good relationships. It seemed perfectly impossible to me. I felt utterly hopeless.
Because of prayer, I learned that I wasn’t helpless. Prayer works.
I learned to do what I now call PARTNERING UP.
I learned to pray, effectively and with great sincerity, and prayers work.
Prayers REALLY work, but you do have to pray effectively and then be willing to accept the answer prayer.
For example, when my precious mom was so sick and in the last years of her life, I prayed to release all blocks to Love between us so that we could be completely in the flow of Love before she left this world. I was so intent on it.
Spirit gave me the opportunity to go to Maine to visit my parents many times in the last years of my mom’s life and to spend more time with her.
On one visit, it was planned that I would go for two weeks to take my mom to her radiation treatments. The drive alone was a three-hour round trip from the island where my parents lived and the hospital. It took more than four hours to do the whole trip, and it was winter time, so we often took longer because of snow and ice.
My mother had about a month of treatments, so I took the middle two weeks to spare my father having to do all the driving.
It was a grey, wintery, bleak time, but I found stand up comedy and audio books and things that I thought my mom and I could enjoy together and listen to.
During those two weeks, I had made a commitment to myself that I wasn’t going to judge my mother for anything no matter what. I was going to completely Love and accept her. This was my big opportunity to have healing.
There were times when I’d have to go into the bedroom, shut the door, and get down on my knees to pray to release all judgments.
This is when I learned that Higher Holy Spirit Self really would take the thoughts out of my mind, if I was sincerely wishing to let them go. I had so much mental healing in that time.
I prayed and prayed and prayed to give up the need to be right. I prayed to release every trigger and every unhealed resentment and regret.
I didn’t realize it then, but now I know that I punished my ,om for tolerating a lot of my anger  and upset. I felt so guilty for being mean to her and saying mean things.
That guilt  turned into fear and frustration that I couldn’t find a way out. If she had pushed back and been able to help me with it more, that would have been great – but that was not my path of learning.
I felt unworthy of ALL Love because of the choices I’d made.
Unworthiness is a core issue for us all.
For many of us, a deep sense of unworthiness is running our life and ruining our life.
(And that’s why I’m doing a 3-part series on it next month!)
I now see that everything I’ve learned is what I get to share in my classes. Now I’m turning that pain into healing, because I support others with it step-by-step because I had to learn to rely on Spirit to show me. I had to really focus  and pay attention and learn the way out.
I had to give up all blame  in order to get out of my pain.
I had to rely up on Spirit and find my way into my loving heart.
I couldn’t do it alone.
Love is the only healer and the only way out.
Failing in my relationships felt so painful to me.
Success seemed so elusive.
I couldn’t bear the pain of failure anymore.
I had to believe that Spirit would lead me.
I had to learn to trust in God rather than my own opinions and perceptions.
I had to. I just couldn’t take it anymore.
In that two weeks of radiation treatments, I focused on total acceptance and Love of my mother.
I put everything I had into releasing the judgments and seeing with God’s Eyes.
I practiced being the one who went first with Love,and I prayed and prayed and prayed.
At the end of the visit, when I was leaving to go back home to Los Angeles, my mother said “This was the nicest visit we ever had.”
We spent 2 weeks of driving half the day back and forth to radiation treatments in the gray, cold winter snow and mess, and it was the nicest visit we ever had. Why? Because I focused on eliminating the blocks to Love and just loved without attachment.
VICTORY IS MINE!
I put Spirit in charge and Spirit DID IT.
From that point on, I knew that Spirit COULD NOT fail.
Thinking about it brings tears to my eyes, because I still have a little bit of sadness for all of the opportunities to be loving that I missed.
But I don’t look back except to continue to harvest the Wisdom and move forward with more Love and more Love and more Love.
We can all be the fulcrum point of healing in our family.
We can all rely upon the Spirit for our healing.
We can all practice non-judgment.
It requires no longer giving Love and acceptance in order to get anything back. We must give without attachment.
No need for recognition or appreciation.
We give Love because it’s our divine opportunity to be our true self and be truly helpful.
It all gets so much easier to practice when we forgive ourselves for our debts and our trespasses.
I had to forgive myself for all the things I felt guilty about so I was no longer feeling horrible about myself. Self-forgiveness is the only way.
And that’s why I offer my forgiveness classes and you can sign up right now to get my Forgive Me, Here Come the Holidays!  class right now. It’s my gift to you. Please consider accepting my offer. This is a powerful and helpful class that is full of tips and tools you can use right now to improve your relationships in your family, with friends, and at work.
Spirit cannot fail.
Every day I offer my “Shot of Spiritual Espresso”. I write spiritual inspiration and record a prayer for our healing. Prayer is a power tool for our liberation. Thank you for praying with me today. We use technology to transcend time and space and deepen our spiritual practice and connect with each other. Our spiritual practice is our path of liberation, and that’s beautiful to share!
When any one of us has more happiness, we’re all lifted! All boats rise on this tide of Love.
I’m SUPER grateful for the ABSOLUTE healing power of TRUE forgiveness. Especially in all of my relationships. Forgiveness has changed my life and I’m inspired by everyone’s forgiveness stories. I am offering my “F* ME, Here Come The Holidays” class today and for the next few days – it’s totally free and it’s a really great way to get inspired to do some real forgiveness work NOW before the holidays. Click here to register now! 
37 Days to January 1st – I share what I learned that shifted me out of my habits of spinning around in the same repeating upsets in my Masterful Living Course 2020 . Registration is open NOW. I encourage you to commit now so that you have that to look forward to. At no charge, you can also book an Exploratory Call  to speak with one of the Spiritual Counselors who has already done the program and they can help you be clear if this is right for you right now.
TODAY FREE FORGIVENESS WORKSHOP:
If you’d like more support for having a miraculous breakthrough with forgiveness, please join me! Let me suggest some simple ways you can immediately feel more successful in your relationships. When you’re ready to stop and drop the same old patterns of upset in relationships, the tips and tools I offer in this free class will really support you. They’re SO simple, and yet they have a profound effect.
You can learn to remember to Partner UP rather than struggling in your relationships and that feels so good. You can stop playing small and live your calling by ALLOWING healing your relationships. Are you willing to make more loving choices to deepen your spiritual practice and accelerate your awakening by being a healing presence in your family? It’s easier than you think! Forgive me. Here Come the Holidays! 
RIGHT NOW, let’s stop paying lip service by SAYING we’re willing but not actually living it. We can bring on a breakthrough FAR beyond what we can imagine when we’re truly willing to truly forgive. If you don’t know how here’s how! Join me! 
Why wait? Now is the time for our healing! If you’re willing, I’m ready – let’s do it together!