May 17, 2020

I will not be humiliated by a cake!

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Yesterday I made a long drive from Deer Isle, Maine, the island where my family has a home that my parents built. We rent it in order to be able to afford to keep it in the family. My brother, his wife and I are the caretakers of the house, the rentals, the whole shebang.

In the spring and the fall, I go up to work on the gardens. Any gardener knows that it is a lot of work that brings many benefits.

  • It’s a lot of exercises
  • There are many hours in the fresh air
  • You get to watch things grow and prosper
  • It teaches you humility

There are always things about the garden that are confounding. It doesn’t make sense that I can’t get the echinacea to grow. Why does the St. John’s wort keep spreading so aggressively? Why didn’t the elderberry do anything last year? This is the perfect spot for the hydrangea, why isn’t it prospering? I did exactly what the instructions were for the potentilla to flower last year, but hardly a flower. Why won’t it do what I’d like? How can I help it?

In the garden, it’s always interesting to experiment and try new things. Plants are like people. Some are fussy and brilliant, worth all the challenges that they bring. Some are somewhat dull, but reliable and always there for you. Some are hard to figure out and challenging to the core. It’s good to be able to remember to laugh and not take any of it personally.

Things that teach us humility are always a tremendous benefit.

It may not seem like it, but humility is a lesson best learned through situations like gardening. The alternative is humiliation.

I think we’d all rather learn humility through experiencing frustrations in the garden or in the kitchen than in our workplace or our career.

And for me, I made a decision not to be humiliated again. I believe in making decisions and letting Spirit show me how it will happen.

I made a decision to stop playing small with a constant stream of humiliations that felt big and small. It was sickening to constantly feel fearful, ashamed, apprehensive, worried and devastated.

That was my cycle of humiliation. It literally felt sickening to me to keep cycling through those emotions.

Our third chakra, the solar plexus chakra, is mostly about our self-identity. It’s where we carry our view of ourselves. If that view is threatened, we can feel humiliated. If there’s a threat of humiliation we can feel afraid, or even angry.

When we have a healthy sense of ourselves we can remember to laugh and there’s no sense of shame, fear, or anger.

When there’s no self-judgment, there’s nothing anyone can do to trigger that self-judgment.

I remember one time I was planning a birthday party for a dear friend of mine, Steven Wilkinson. I’m not a cake maker. (I basically have 3 cakes that I make, blueberry, chocolate espresso or pound cake), but I asked him what kind of cake he’d like and he said angel food.

“You’ve got it!” I said, excited to make an angel food cake for the first time having no clue how it’s made.

Well, it turns out that homemade angel food cake is DELICIOUS and it’s made with 1.5 cups of egg whites that you have to beat to light fluffy angelness in order to accomplish the task.

I followed the instructions exactly and I came out with a very dense, heavy cake that is nothing like angel food. More like, lumberjack food. So, I went out got another dozen eggs, and started all over again.

The second time was a charm and a lesson in humility!

Bonus! It’s good to be able to remember to laugh.

I was able to serve both cakes at Steve’s birthday and we all had a good laugh about the lumberjack cake. It was still tasty, but it was the opposite of light and fluffy. I could laugh and share the cake disaster because, to me, it was just a cake. I had no stake in it. I don’t see myself as a cake baker, nor have I ever. It’s not my thing.

My identity was not wrapped up in my cake making abilities. So, I wasn’t humiliated. I could laugh at what occurred. That’s where I’d like to be with everything in my life. And that’s why I made the decision to hold that as my aspiration.

I’d like to be unbotherable, not because I’m denying how I feel, but because I’m healing ALL the triggers to upset.

Right now, in our world of new virus protocols showing up every day, it’s good to have the ability to be humble and to be fluid, unattached, and flexible. Many new triggers are arising and every time we find one, we can claim a healing. It’s extraordinary how much healing people are having in our community right now! Wow!

Kudos to you if you’ve been working the spiritual practices! You might also be interested in my topic in my podcast this past week. Choosing Consistent Happiness. You can listen to it now if you’d like that support and inspiration.

Yesterday as I was driving from Deer Isle to Vermont, from “way down east off the coast” to rural Vermont in the midst of the Green Mountains, I saw some beautiful sights. Yes, the scenery of the shore, lakes, mountains, and forests was stunning, but I also saw many beautiful sights of people.

One thing I saw, as it came to evening time, was people sitting out in their yards. Social distancing with a wide circle of lawn chairs, around campfires, fire pits, and bonfires. Some were standing and some were sitting with blankets over their lamps. Some were drinking beer and some were having mugs of coffee and tea.

I saw all kinds of gatherings along the back roads and rivers that I traveled.

People feel a strong need to gather. Many people everywhere are quarantined alone. It’s wearing on them and gatherings are critical. In my Masterful Living classes, I can feel how glad we are to come together. It’s such a breath of fresh air to see each other and share.

And that’s why TODAY, you can join me, David Hoffmeister, Svava Love, and more friends. We’ll have a spiritual celebration together with inspiration and music – we call it Sundays With Spirit. Please invite your family! If you can’t join us, you can catch the replay! Because we’re going to be live on video, you’ll have to register to get the details. All are welcome, there’s no charge, but you do have to register.

When you register, you’ll also get easy access to past services with Lisa Natoli, Jon Mundy, and Maureen Muldoon.

If you’ve already registered for a previous Sunday – you don’t need to register again, you’ll get a reminder with the details automatically.

And please pray with me! Prayer works! Joining together in prayer for our healing, for the active practice of joining with Spirit, and allowing my healing is precisely why every day I write inspiration and record a prayer to go with it. You can join me in cultivating the willingness that raises us ALL up so we can be truly helpful in this world. T

Prayer is a power tool, and I am so grateful for having learned the power of it!

If you’re interested, I’m starting my Prayer Power class and you can get started right now. For years, this has only been available to folks in Masterful Living, but under the circumstances, we have in the world right now, I was guided to open it to anyone.

Also, my Stop Playing Small Retreat was going to be in the UK next month, but now it’s being offered online, so all can join. This online retreat is for folks who are frustrated with feeling stuck and fearful. It’s designed for those who’d like to bring on a breakthrough so they can move forward with confidence toward their heart’s desire in any area of their life. Click here for details.

Last fall, you might remember I planted 900 bulbs – yes, 900!!!! At the house in Maine and some of them are flowering right now – I took some pics to share with you. I will miss the rest of them, but the renters will enjoy them and that makes me happy!

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