I used to be an insecure person. I didn’t know it, and would never have believed it, but the cause of my insecurity was my constant judging. My mind was rarely out of attack mode and that left me feeling vulnerable most of the time.
When I look back, it’s amazing how much energy  I invested each day in defending myself and attacking others. It’s a wonder I got anything accomplished at all!
I see many people who fritter their life and inner resources away keeping score in their relationships instead of being ALL IN  for Love. You know your affection is conditional when you have expectations and make demands.
Sometimes folks who feel insecure will poke and poke others to agitate and get others to reject them. It’s classic. People who have abandonment issues will push others away. We do all these crazy things to prove that what we believe is true.
BUT it does NOT prove what we believe is true.
All it proves is that we believe it and so we’re experiencing it.
If you REALLY look at it, what IS proved is that we’re powerful manifesters!
It can be really exhausting and tiresome to have someone you love pushing you away.
However, once realize that it’s a cry for Love and they don’t really know what they’re doing we can drop our judgments and love them.
Some people have a difficult time letting you love them.
It’s like that old Woody Allen joke “I’d never join a club that would allow me to become a member.”
They don’t trust and it doesn’t feel safe. They’re anticipating rejection and so they will do their dance until you agree they aren’t worth it. They can be so insistent.
Life is filled with these experiences and as long as we don’t judge it, we’ll continue to have less and less of them. We’re here to be truly helpful. The most helpful thing we can be is both compassionate AND having healthy boundaries.
Some people will begin to relax when they see you really do love them.
And some people aren’t ready to accept it. This is when we do our work in the invisible – our prayer practice and our forgiveness. It’s powerful and life-changing.
Let’s not invest ourselves in these ego games anymore – we have more fulfilling ways to invest our time and energy!
Have you had the experience I’m talking about? Please tell us about it and share in the comments below! Let’s join together for our healing! Thank you!
I’m getting ready for my Stop Playing Small Online Retreat on September 18.
If you’d really like to do this healing work of letting go of complaints and the other things that stand in our way of happiness and Peace , consider joining me. You can change your entire life, your relationships, your experience, your finances, your body, your happiness and peace of mind. Consider this:
- Join me on my Stop Playing Small Online Retreat  in September,
- follow that with my Finding Freedom Spiritual Bootcamp  in October
- and then be ready to ROCK in my Masterful Living  Course 2021 in January.
You will never regret  your choice, and you’ll only be so glad you did – at least that’s what I hear from the people who have done it.
Get going. Take action. Be aggressive about working with your mind. DO NOT DELAY. If you’re waiting, if you’re not getting the results you’d like, what are you waiting for?
Don’t take my word for it, read the testimonials from those who have done this work with me. They believed that nothing would work for them, and they were willing to do something different anyway. Now, they’re not playing small anymore. They’re not letting fear dictate their life. They have a real and powerful connection with Spirit.
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