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I’ve had a number of conversations lately with folks who feel betrayed. That’s tough stuff. It can be one of the worst feelings of all – that sense of betrayal often comes with a belief that we’ve been foolish. It can seem like a confirmation of our worst fears.
I’ve learned that what looks like betrayal can often be God’s way of letting me know this is a relationship I can hand over to Spirit.
Sometimes, what looks like betrayal is actually my release from investing more time and energy into a relationship with someone who doesn’t value me.
Years ago in my podcast I discussed Forgiving When We’ve Been Betrayed and a number of people told me how much they appreciated it. I used to really harbor grievances around what I perceived to be betrayals. This was a major issue for me and it ate up a lot of my energy.
For whatever reason, my personality was a real grudge holder, and I’m so glad I don’t invest in that like I used to. Phew! What a relief.
Perhaps it’s because I lost so much of my precious time and energy holding onto resentments and grievances that I am so grateful to be able to practice the true forgiveness that I’ve learned. I feel blessed every day that I can share what I’ve learned help other people reclaim their lives and their precious energy.
One of the main things about betrayal is that when we invest in seeing ourselves as betrayed, and keep it going, investing more and more energy, time and attention in it, we’re also investing in seeing ourselves as victims.
Betrayal is so painful, in part, because it has us further investing in the false belief that we’re not worthy of Love, respect, kindness, care, etc.
Think about that. Is that what we really wish to invest in? I don’t think so!
People who give to others in order to get something back, who are manipulative, often feel betrayed when others don’t respond the way they’re expected to. I know a lot about that too.
I encourage you to look into your heart and see if you can discover where you might be holding these kinds of grievances and grudges and be willing to forgive yourself for having invested your precious life force, your time, and energy into something that is actually like a Joy-sucking virus in your life. We can forgive ourselves and then the betrayal is actually over. We can reclaim our life and move on.
Hanging out in betrayal makes people bitter and resentful.
I tried it. I can report to you that it’s no way to live. Take it from a friend. No grievance is worth hanging onto – and self-forgiveness is the way out.
I am so grateful I learned the true forgiveness that continues to heal my mind, my heart, my relationships and my life. Forgiveness rocks! I’m not energizing betrayal anymore! Enough!
If you’d like to get over it and can use some help – please check out my free forgiveness workshop: How To Get Over It! It’s great to do the workshop with a friend. Now’s the perfect time to forgive our mistakes and to let the past go. We have better things we can do with our energy. Let’s move forward in Love.