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It takes real courage to face our feelings and actually feel them. I remember being absolutely terrified of fully feeling my feelings. I did everything I could to repress them for years.
As a spiritual counselor I’ve spoken with many people who are in the same place I was. The sense we have is that if we allow ourselves to feel what we’re avoiding it will likely kill us. We’re afraid we’ll become the living embodiment of Edvard Munch’s painting, The Scream.
The thing about emotions is that they’re designed to move on through like clouds in the sky. Sometimes the wind blows so that they move faster or slower, but they’re impermanent.
Still, in our fear that the feelings will overwhelm us, we forget that’s even possible.
The trick is to feel the feelings in exactly the same way we might watch the clouds from the front porch. We’re not trying to get on the clouds or to move them or touch them in any way. We’re just relaxed and watching, enjoying the view.
Most people when they start to feel their unpleasant feelings they start fanning the flames.
It’s like pouring gasoline on the fire of our distress. It doesn’t help, it’s painful and it brings no benefit whatsoever. Plus it’s completely unnecessary.
There’s something many of us like about the drama of feeling our feelings, and we can grow out of that.
We can spiritually mature out of needing to do that.
We’ve given everything we feel all the meaning it has for us and it’s time to let that go.
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