Ending Self-Betrayal

January 2, 2022
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Bodhi’s had a New Year Celebration of digging in the mud.

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Yesterday I offered the first part of my New Year Reboot workshop and it was a lot of fun. What a joy it was to be able to focus on letting go of the past and embracing the positive growth that lays out before us this year! Yes!

(There are still 4 more sessions of New Year Reboot if you’d like to join us – it’s only 22. Click here now.)

While I was enjoying my workshop on zoom, my puppy Bodhi was busy digging a hole in the yard. It’s one of her favorite things. While the weather has been colder and snowy she hasn’t gotten very dirty, but it warmed into the 40’s yesterday and all the snow became slushy wet and Bodhi had a blast, as you can see in the photo today.

Bodhi’s muddy adventure meant we had to have a bathroom lockdown to get her back to clean and acceptable. It’s yet another example of how life always presents us with something. I can be upset, or I can be peaceful. It’s my choice.

In every single moment of life there’s always something to complain about and something to be bothered by, if we let it.

It just depends on what we’re interested in.
That’s what determines our focus.
It’s never what’s happening out there.
It’s always about what’s happening inside.

Transformation is an inside job.

And that’s why, about 20 years ago, I made up my mind to be unbotherable.  I’m not there yet, but that’s my goal. I get closer every day.

Even on the days that I’m bothered by things, I still feel I succeed because I take that upset and turn it over to the Higher Holy Spirit Self for healing.  Healing is what I’m most interested in. I keep my FOCUS there.

I let the upset unwind with the Love and compassion of my own heart.  I made these crazy thought forms. I gave them life and it’s time for me to let them go.  I intend to be free of ALL of them. I give the Holy Spirit the heavy lifting every day.

The keys to all of my inner healing which have produced all the wonderful changes in my life are these three:

  1. Love
  2. Self-Forgiveness
  3. Willingness

My New Year Reboot is the kick-off to my year-long program called Masterful Living.

And one of the things we’ll be talking about is WILL POWER vs WILLINGNESS.  It’s been SO helpful to me to understand the difference and then apply that wisdom to my life.

When someone has a problem with obsessive, compulsive behavior or avoidance they’ll often try will power to make a change.  A perfect example of that is trying to get in shape or lose weight at the beginning of the year.

People make new year’s resolutions about what they’d like to change in their eating, drinking, exercising, home cleanliness and organization and all kinds of things.  

Resolutions require will power.
Will power is part of a plan of behavior modification.

Behavior modification is a helpful start when we’re feeling out of control, obsessive, compulsive, and addicted.

For the moment we can pause the addictive behaviors with will power.
But we all know that stopping the behavior isn’t a healing.

As A Course in Miracles teaches us, all healing is at the level of the mind – NOT at the level of behavior.

We seek not to change the behavior, but to change our mind about ourselves, life, our bodies and eliminate the ROOT CAUSE of the self-destructive behavior – which is our beliefs.

Many people obsessively self-medicate as a way to escape how they feel.  I’ve certainly done WAY more than my fair share of that. Will power does NOTHING to eliminate that issue – it only intensifies it.

It’s like turning up the heat on a pressure cooker.
Eventually, it will explode.
And then there’s an even bigger mess to contend with.

A Course in Miracles tells us:
“You must change your mind, not your behavior, and this is a matter of willingness. You do not need guidance except at the mind level. Correction belongs only at the level where change is possible. Change does not mean anything at the symptom level, where it cannot work.”  T-2.VI.3.

Willingness is the only way to make real progress on the  spiritual path of awakening.

Our willingness is ALL that’s required to have true and lasting transformation.
It seems so simple and, quite frankly, too easy, but neither is accurate.

Have you ever had a moment where you felt driven to act compulsively and you knew it would not end well and that if you could have any small fraction of willingness you could take a deep breath and make a higher choice, but you just didn’t want to – in that moment?

Instead you will-FULLY, self-destructed?

Practicing those moments of willingness IS where our healing’s at.
Will power simply won’t do.

When we’re craving, needing and wanting to satisfy that compulsion, we’re feeling deprived.  We’re feeling like a victim that needs and wants and craves because we don’t have, we lack.

What don’t we have?
In that moment we don’t have a connection with Spirit that lets us know we’re fully loved and held in perfect wholeness. That knowing of our perfection is missing from our awareness.

How could will power ever heal that?
How could will power ever even satiate the craving for unity for one second?
It cannot.

But even a little bit of willingness brings us instantaneously into joining with Spirit.

“The power to work miracles belongs to you.  I will provide the opportunities to do them, but you must be ready and willing.” T-1.III.1.

Using will power actually makes things worse.
We feel self-betrayed on some level when we’re trying to control and manipulate the cravings and behavior. It just feels hellish.

Ok, maybe there are moments of ego superiority and satisfaction when we’re able to use will power to not follow the needing, wanting and craving impulses.  But those will power moments just fuel the fire of living without lasting healing. Always a victim.

A Course in Miracles tells us:  “We have already attempted to correct the fundamental error that fear can be mastered, and have emphasized that the only real mastery is through love.  … You may think this implies that an enormous amount of time is necessary between readiness and mastery, but let me remind you that time and space are under my control.”  T-2.VII.7.

Our willingness IS all that’s needed for our healing.  Let us practice that this entire year and see what wonderful and miraculous healing we have!

That’s why in Masterful Living we focus on cultivating an authentic and powerful willingness.  It’s thrilling to see how much benefit it brings.  When we transform our lives bit by bit, it’s indefinite.  We go from hopeless to inspired.

Registration for my year-long course, Masterful Living Program, is. You can talk with a spiritual counselor to see if it’s right for you right now. There’s no charge. Click here now to book a free Exploratory Call.

AND if you register for Masterful Living 2022 the New Year Reboot workshop is a free bonus and there are more bonuses to come!  I’m SO READY to rock this new year and make it the best year ever.  I’m taking out the mental trash, the emotional clutter and stepping into the Light.  Please join me.  This is the best offering I’ve ever made!

We’re walking the talk, we’re living the Love and we’re rising above!

This year, we’re being the change we’d like to see by opening our hearts to Love like never before.  The pandemic cannot stop us from being loving.  Love is our healer.  Love is our focus.

My Masterful Living Program is open for registration right now with EXCELLENT bonuses that expire and I’m getting ready to add more.  You can talk with a spiritual counselor now to see if it’s right for you. There’s no charge to have an exploratory call. Click here now to book a free Exploratory Call.

P.P.S.  With Masterful Living you also get $500 off my Stop Playing Small Retreat! What? Yes, it’s true $500 off! – get all the details when you click here.

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