I remember it so clearly. Of course I do. It happened millions of times.
There were millions of times I had a clear opportunity to turn away from self-destructive and self-punishing behavior, but I didn’t do it. It just felt like it took more energy than I had.
I remember a friend telling me that she knew she was eating too much frozen yogurt, too often. It was too easy to go get it and so comforting to eat it. She said, “sometimes it seems like it’s all I have that I really enjoy.”
I so completely get that.
I’ve felt like that.
One self-destructive act usually leads to another. In this way even frozen yogurt can seem to be a “gateway drug.” It’s not the yogurt, it’s what it represents. Escape. Self-soothing.
It’s so crazy that in this world the things we enjoy can seem to be the worst things for us to choose – again, it’s not the thing, it’s the meaning we make of it. It’s not the glass of wine, it’s why we’re drinking it. It’s not the cigarette, it’s what it represents to us.
When someone’s letting go of a “bad” habit the first thing is to not make it bad. The wine isn’t bad. Neither are the cigarettes. See it all as neutral.
Realize that we make things bad, then we enjoy them to reinforce feeling bad about ourselves. If we don’t make them bad, it doesn’t work. We don’t trigger the unconscious guilt , which is the root cause of feeling bad.
This is one of the ways we can love ourselves back into a place of Peace.
Healing requires us to be willing to shift  our consciousness and not just change our behavior. All healing happens through shifting our mind first.
Make the shift from the inside and let it ripple through your life. Start with the mind, not with the behavior and you really will change your life.
If we don’t make the change in our consciousness, then our consciousness will just find some other outlet for the self-destruction. Get it?
Whatever you do, don’t make yourself bad or wrong for doing it.
The way to Peace is through peaceful choices.
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