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In my work training teachers and spiritual counselors I’ve realized that if we’d like to stop playing small and be truly helpful in this world, living the Love, walking the talk and giving up the feeling of constriction, then making higher vibrational choices is the thing that supports us.
Many of us go through long periods, many, many years, of self-medication and self-sabotage before we become willing to make higher vibrational choices. We keep playing small until the pain of it is so much that we cannot bear it any longer.
Often we think that the path requires us to go cold turkey on something and to control our impulses and deprive ourselves, and so we’re resistant and reluctant to choose the very thing we desire the most: Love.
And yet, Love is what we are.
If we view the path of healing as a path of deprivation, sublimation and regulation, it can feel very painful and here’s the most painful part: with that method of trying to control ourselves, we’re healing at SUCH a slow pace because we’re actually putting the ego in charge of our healing, rather than Spirit.
I struggled for decades trying to manage and control my impulses ALL DAY LONG.
I had impulses to be mean and rude and unkind. I had impulses to do many things too much: eating, drinking, smoking, talking, gossiping, playing, exercising, and on and on. More was always better because I was looking to medicate and sedate myself, to distract myself from what I was feeling.
It took me decades to realize that my feelings were the indicator of whether or not I was on the right track. I wasn’t honoring my feelings, I was trying to push them down and NOT feel them.
I had no idea that learning to sit with my feelings was self-loving.
I didn’t realize that being self-loving would lift my vibration and heal my life.
Love is what we are.
That’s why Love is the ONLY permanent healer.
Everything else is temporary cessation of the symptoms..
When we have the courage and willingness to sit with our feelings, out of Self-Love, we learn not to fan the fire of our upset, but to let the judgments and opinions go. Judgments and opinions are our interpretations and if they’re upsetting to us they’re not correct.
We’re never upset for the reason we think.
Fanning the fire of our upset is unkind to ourselves – PROFOUNDLY unkind. It’s self-attack. It’s punishment. It’s evidence that our unconscious guilt is being exposed so we’ll give it the healing attention it deserves. Self-sabotage and self-attack kept me on a hamster wheel of playing small. I learned this because I was upset so much of the time and I even wanted everyone to validate me by joining me so we could all be upset together. Misery loves company.
I learned that upsetting other people was one of the most low vibrational choices I could make. It was “dragging people down with me.” And deep down, I knew it was just affirming my own feelings of “I’m bad and wrong, not worthy of Love.”
I often went into self-medication of fantasy as an escape from my painful feelings. I had so many low vibrational choices to either punish myself or escape from how I felt about myself. I didn’t know that I was digging a deeper low vibrational hole for myself. I was unhappy in the illusion, so I was trying to escape by going deeper into it through fantasy. It made me feel even more lost in time and space.
Finally, because of my prayers and my willingness, I began to discover that consistently looking for even a SLIGHTLY higher vibrational choice, I could find my way out of my own personal hell.
The slightly more loving choices I began to make, day after day, built up my increasing willingness. I began to be excited to look for the more loving and higher vibrational choices. It stopped feeling like a drag to “have” to be more loving. Instead of pushing myself, and berating myself into making more loving choices (just think of that! LOL!), I could make the choice out of Self-Love and self-care, and that was healing.
I started to notice the feeling of the vibrational shift and I liked it!
I was feeling SO MUCH better about myself.
My impulses to self-medicate were demeaning to me and I was shifting into more loving choices. I came to a point where I decided to go all-in for God. The more I chose Love, the more I healed, and the easier my life became.
One thing that really helped me was learning to sense if what I was doing felt violent in any way. If it felt like it was being unkind in any way, that would be the vibration that would let me know. That awareness became the opportunity to make a higher vibrational choice.
I learned to ask for guidance.
Listen for the response.
Allow my Self to choose it.
Ask. Listen. Allow.
Three powerful words that changed everything.
It’s a life-changing formula!
Spirit will always guide us to the higher vibrational, more loving choice.
When we choose Love, suddenly we’re not playing small anymore. Nice!
Ask, listen, allow are three simple words that turned into “I Love You.”
I got myself back into the flow of Love and that started me on the healing path that I’m still on.
There have been times when it felt like a very intense roller coaster ride. I happen to like roller coasters. I love the laughing and screaming. I love having my hair blown back.
In our wild ride, let’s let the Higher Holy Spirit Self hold us, lead us and train us as we remember to Love ourselves free of lack and limitation by choosing a higher vibration. This way, we stop repeating the past.
Doing this inner work on our own is really challenging. Most people don’t do it. But what I’ve learned from offering my Masterful Living Program these past 15 years is that doing this healing together, in community, with like-minded souls, Spirit is in the midst of us and we become truly miracle-minded.
Extraordinary healing happens in our community because of the level of support we offer each other. I’ve never experienced anything like it.
And that’s why I’m re-opening Masterful Living registration for 1 week only!
If you’re SO READY to make a change and don’t know quite how, if you have any inkling that TRULY living A Course in Miracles would heal your life, your relationships and your body, we may be the community for you.
There’s so much support, from like-minded folks around the world. New friends await you. Prayer partners. And a heck of a lot more.
Trust your intuition and book an exploratory call now to talk with a spiritual counselor – get all your questions answered, so you can know if Masterful Living is the thing for you this year. Let this be the year your spiritual practice transforms your life in ways that you never thought possible.
My grandmother used to say, “you can get used to hanging if you hang long enough,” and it’s true. I had been hanging a long time before I had my breakthrough.
If you don’t see a clear path to happiness ahead of you, we may be your ticket to a happier life. You’ll do the work, but at least you’ll know what to do, and have mighty companions to do it with. It’s a profound act of Self-Love.
Each one of us absolutely CAN realize that the Spirit is COMPLETELY holding us. We cannot fail if we ask, listen and allow the guidance to flow in our heart. Cultivating trust and faith is an investment that pays the REST OF YOUR LIFE. Prayer is an investment in Spirit that always pays miraculous dividends.
I am grateful for this path of healing that we’re on and our ability to develop a spiritual practice that actually heals! Onward and upward, together we rise in Love!
Thank you for saying YES to LOVE!
SUNDAY, Feb 12th Online Workshop – Self-Love: 6 Simple Steps for Self-Healing.
If you’d like to have more Love in your life, start with yourself. Just in times for Valentine’s Day – let’s have a love fest together! This is a BONUS for everyone in Masterful Living this year.
PODCAST: The latest episode of my podcast’s topic is Attraction of Pain: Obstacles to Peace – Part 7. We’re healing at the level of the mind, and it’s working!