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No Comparison

Friday, July 3rd, 2020

When I lived in West Hollywood, I took yoga classes with models and movie stars. The competition for the title of “the most beautiful woman in the room” was intense. The more beautiful women there were, the more insecure women there were. It was a real learning for me.

In yoga class, it was easy to fall into comparing myself to others who were not only fitter than me, more attractive by cultural standards and more famous.

I haven’t ever been able to do a handstand. Many of the women in class with me could easily do handstands. I learned to say to myself “I can do that. Just not today.” It helped me to get over my comparisons.

One of the biggest points of pain we have is the suffering we experience caused by the habit of comparing ourselves to others. Only the ego compares. The heart knows we are united in Oneness.

When we’re comparing ourselves to others, more often than not we’re looking to come up short. We’re intending to find ourselves as failing. It’s an act of self-sabotage. It’s adding insult to injury. Can it possibly bring any benefit? No. None. It’s just a trick of the ego to help us feel more separate.

Comparison always leads to more suffering.

Whether we compare and think we’ve come out ahead or come out lacking, since there’s only one, either way we just feel more separate.

If I love my friend, would I encourage them to compare themselves to someone who seems better than them or more special? I would never say to a friend, “you’re not the best cook. I know a few other people I like better than you who are also much better cooks. You’re not so great. You’re just ok.”

Of course I wouldn’t say that to someone I cared about.
But people say things like that to themselves ALL THE TIME.

And it hurts!
It wears us down.

Comparison is judgment. All judgment is for the purpose of reinforcing separation. All belief in separation causes feelings of fear. Comparison is PURE separation thinking.

Let’s have an active practice of relating to others rather than comparing.

Let’s get into feeling the unity of all life.

Let’s watch our mind when it comes to comparing, attacking and needing or wanting to be better than someone else. The habit of comparing can be really sneaky, but since there’s no good that can come of it, just let it go every time you see it.

I find one of the best ways to let a negative thought pattern go is to make myself laugh about it. So, that’s why in my classes we say “compare and despair.” The rhyme helps us to be light-hearted and to remember to laugh. And let’s face it, it also reminds not to go down the road of despair!

There’s great healing that can come from our spiritual practice and it’s a benefit to all beings!

If you’d like to have a major increase in your choosing self-Love and kindness, you might like my Finding Freedom From Fear, spiritual boot camp class with ACIM principles. I haven’t offered this class in 9 months – this is your chance, if you’d like to join me and GO FOR IT!

PLUS, I’m recording all new classes.

If this is right for you right now, you’ll know it.

Trust your intuition! If you’ve been thinking about doing my Finding Freedom From Fear Boot camp for a while, but just haven’t been ready, consider booking an exploratory call with one of the spiritual counselors. They can answer all your questions and you’ll know what’s best for you. Book an exploratory call today!

My Finding Freedom From Fear spiritual boot camp isn’t for everyone – it’s for those who are willing to dive in and live the Love. Click here now to learn more.

We begin MONDAY, July 6! With a BONUS CLASS on July 5th. This is going to be SO good because I am ON FIRE!

Let’s have REAL and lasting transformation this summer with spiritual practice that brings benefit and healing for all. Now is the time for us to dive deep and eliminate the patterns of fear in our life. I thank you for being on the journey with me!

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The “Dynamics” of the Ego

Tuesday, June 30th, 2020

Many people who are A Course in Miracles students like me have come to think of the ego as though it’s a being with it’s own volition.  We’re Dr. Jekyl and the ego is Mr. Hyde.  Only it’s not.  The ego, according to ACIM, is a thought system that is very layered, and dense and that has it’s own logic which is completely illogical.

The ego thought system is the mechanism by which our belief in separation is kept in place.  

Many of us think of the ego as the enemy, but it doesn’t make sense.  

The ego is a thought system that we have chosen to think “through” in the sense that it is something like a lens through which we’re viewing our experiences.  It colors our experiences when we view the world through it, but we don’t have to.

The ego is not a decision maker.  We are.

The ego is not the one who chooses.  We are.

The ego is not in charge.  We are.

The ego is not part of God.  We are.

We’ve trained ourselves to believe that we’re a small selfish self that is a victim of life’s circumstances and situations.  We’re not that.  That’s the ego thought system’s view and we’ve taught ourselves to believe it.

Because it’s not real, it’s false, we can abandon it and recover ourselves.

We think of the ego like an enemy because we feel caught up in it and deceived by it.

Well, that’s understandable.  So, if the ego SEEMS like the enemy, let’s understand it in order to undo it.  

Let’s learn about how the ego thought system can be quickly undone and we can awaken in this dream of separation.  That’s what I’m interested in.  I am so glad that we CAN undo these thoughts and beliefs, and that it doesn’t have to take forever.  We can learn to be the happy learner and we can demonstrate it so others can learn too!

To me, this is the most tremendous blessing!  We’re already as holy as holy can be AND we get to share!

If undoing that feeling of being trapped by the ego is a challenge, you might like my  Finding Freedom From Fear, spiritual bootcamp class with ACIM principles.  I haven’t offered this class in 9 months – this is your chance, if you’d like to join me and GO FOR IT!

PLUS I’m recording all new classes.

If this is right for you right now, you’ll know it.

Trust your intuition! If you’ve been thinking about doing my Finding Freedom From Fear Bootcamp for a while, but just haven’t been ready, consider booking an exploratory call with one of the spiritual counselors. They can answer all your questions and you’ll know what’s best for you. Book an exploratory call today!

My Finding Freedom From Fear spiritual boot camp isn’t for everyone – it’s for those who are willing to dive in and live the Love. Click here now to learn more.

We begin July 6! This is going to be SO good because I am ON FIRE!

Let’s have REAL and lasting transformation this summer with a spiritual practice that brings benefits and healing for all. Now is the time for us to dive deep and eliminate the patterns of fear in our life. I thank you for being on the journey with me!

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A Course In Miracles Community and Unexamined Racism

Monday, June 8th, 2020

Wow!  Yesterday’s Sundays With Spirit service was SO POWERFUL!  I felt so much healing for all of us and I encourage you to watch the replay if you didn’t get to see it.  (You can watch the replay in the member site – or watch it at facebook.)

My dear friend, Corinne Zupko, brought a powerful and heart-opening message about compassionate listening that was deeply healing. These services we’re doing are so nourishing to the Spirit.

We’re really looking at separation consciousness and how it affects us at every level.  We’re doing the deep work of truly living the ACIM Principles and working the lessons.  It’s so wonderful to be able to do it together.

One of the things Corinne talked about was her Open Letter to the A Course In Miracles Community About Unexamined Racism.  I feel what she has to say is really worth reading and pondering and so I’m sharing it here.  Please let me know your thoughts about it in the comments below!  

Greetings mighty companions,

It’s time to look at the lessons in our mind that “hurt and hinder you, and everyone around you.”

This letter is an invitation to open communication surrounding an issue that desperately needs our attention: the issue of racism in the world, and how it factors into the Course in Miracles community.

I’m specifically speaking to my companions who also appear to walk this world, like me, in a white body.

Before you read any further, please remember how important it is to be radically honest with yourself and with Holy Spirit about what is arising in your mind. As you read, watch your mind with vigilance and veracity because I’m going to likely say things that trigger the ego. Notice the faintest hint of defensiveness, guilt, or fear that arises in the mind as I bring up issues surrounding race. These feelings arising must be acknowledged and taken to Holy Spirit.

In addition, if you are already noticing resistance arise or an inclination to dismiss what I’m saying because this is an issue “of the world” or that “I’m making it real” I hope you will acknowledge that, take a breath, and keep reading.

I am not “making racism real” by talking about it. Racism is built into the fabric of the very dream we are dreaming. Those of us in white bodies simply have the privilege of being able to easily ignore it. Just as we have experienced many “aha” moments in our studies of A Course in Miracles, it’s time to start experiencing “aha” moments surrounding our own unchecked racism.

I started following black and brown anti-racism educators after two online racist incidents occurred with two separate popular, white, well-intentioned spiritual teachers a few years ago. Since then, my eyes have been opened as to how well-intentioned spiritual teachers and teachings can perpetuate racism, even in our beloved Course community.

It is time for students of A Course in Miracles in white bodies to take responsibility for our unexamined racism and supremacy.

You might immediately think, “Racism? Supremacy? That’s definitely not referring to me. I love everybody!”

Remember what I said about watching what is coming up in your mind and looking at it with Holy Spirit. There is going to be an immediate tendency to deny that I’m talking about anything that applies to you. If you are in a white body, this does apply to you. If you have the thought that there is no racism in you and you are certain that I am wrong, please keep reading.

By racism and supremacy, I am NOT referring to you having negative feelings or conscious hatred towards black or brown people. You can love black and brown people and still have unchecked racism and supremacy within your mind. You can be married to someone of a different race, or be the parent of children of a different race, but have overt and covert racism and supremacy within you.

Scott Woods says it best in his book, “New Framings on Anti-Racism and Resistance:”

“The problem is that white people see racism as conscious hate, when racism is bigger than that. Racism is a complex system of social and political levers and pulleys set up generations ago to continue working on the behalf of whites at other people’s expense, whether whites know/like it or not. Racism is an insidious cultural disease. It is so insidious that it doesn’t care if you are a white person who likes black people; it’s still going to find a way to infect how you deal with people who don’t look like you. Yes, racism looks like hate, but hate is just one manifestation. Privilege is another. Access is another. Ignorance is another. Apathy is another. And so on. So while I agree with people who say no one is born racist, it remains a powerful system that we’re immediately born into. It’s like being born into air: you take it in as soon as you breathe. It’s not a cold that you can get over. There is no anti-racist certification class. It’s a set of socioeconomic traps and cultural values that are fired up every time we interact with the world. It is a thing you have to keep scooping out of the boat of your life to keep from drowning in it. I know it’s hard work, but it’s the price you pay for owning everything.”

Unless we are actively engaged in lifelong, active anti-racist work, we are likely walking around with hidden biases, unacknowledged privilege, and unseen racism. And the fact that we don’t see these things actually makes us more likely to cause harm to people of color.

By the way, if you react against the word “anti-racism” because you don’t want to be “anti” anything and are only “for” peace, please take in these words:

Just as A Course in Miracles prompts us to be vigilant and take an active role in bringing our perceptions to the Holy Spirit in order to heal the mind, to heal racism requires taking an active (not a passive) stand. “Anti-racism” means being vigilant and wholly committed to healing the racism and supremacy within the mind so we stop hurting people of color.

Racism is in the air we breathe, and we uphold racism and supremacy when we don’t acknowledge it or take action to dismantle it.

Being in a white body means that we’ve been born into a system that favors white bodies at the expense of brown and black bodies, and has thus influenced our perceptions, our opportunities, most if not all aspects of our lives, and even our spiritual practice. And it is really hard to see our own racism without help. We can easily ignore it. You can easily ignore it.

As we know as students of A Course in Miracles, we must see how the ego hides out.

And I truly believe we are being called to look at our own racism and supremacy, an issue that is not discussed in A Course in Miracles, but that is playing a huge part in our lives.

The purpose of this letter is to address how we can mistakenly (and unknowingly) use the teachings of A Course in Miracles to actually keep racism and supremacy in place.

The purpose of this article is not to expose your hidden racism, but I do have recommendations for how you can begin anti-racism work at the end of this letter. It is work that requires a lifelong commitment and is not complete from just reading a book or article or affirming that you love everybody.

By shedding light on this, I hope that we, as a Course community, can take a “giant stride” in our efforts to heal the mind, and therefore heal the world.

My hope is that this letter will ignite a desire in you to move into action to deeply engage with anti-racism work and exhume these unseen blocks to love in your mind.

To begin, we can all relate to how A Course in Miracles states radical ideas. Rather than actively deny what the Course says, (e.g. “I don’t do that! I don’t attack my brother!”) we are asked instead to look carefully how we may, in fact, do what the Course says we do (e.g. “have hidden attack thoughts,” that we “attack God” etc.).

I invite you to use the same spirit of openness with this topic of racism. Rather than saying “I don’t have racism or supremacy in me” please consider that you actually DO have these things in you. I have these things in me. We just don’t see them. This is not a cause for guilt or shame. It is a call to get to work.

Anti-racism work is how you begin to expose and heal your racism.

I must immediately mention though, that Rachel Cargle, a black anti-racism educator says, “Anti-racism work is not self-improvement work for white people.” It doesn’t end when YOU feel better. “It ends when black people are staying alive and they have their liberation.”

If you don’t engage in anti-racism work, your own racism stays hidden, keeping a system of white supremacy in place, and your brothers and sisters of color who you claim to love, keep dying, suffering, and crying out for you to see them and to hear them.

So here is my first point:
 

1. WHEN BLACK PEOPLE, INDIGENOUS PEOPLE, AND PEOPLE OF COLOR ARE SYSTEMATICALLY OPPRESSED BY THE WHITE MAJORITY OF WHICH YOU ARE A PART, WHEN BLACK MEN AND WOMEN ARE MURDERED AT THE HANDS OF WHITE POLICE, SIMPLY REAFFIRMING THE TRUTH IN YOUR MIND (THAT WE HAVE NOT LEFT GOD, THAT WE ARE DREAMING, ETC.) WITH NO OTHER ACTION IS LIKELY A SPIRITUAL BYPASS AND AN EXCUSE TO DO NO FURTHER WORK.

By spiritual bypass, I am referring to using spiritual ideas to avoid doing inner (and outer) work.

Yes, only the Truth is True and nothing else is True. Yes, we have not left God. Yes, this world is not our Home.

But let me ask you this; If you were walking by a lake and saw someone drowning, would you yell to them and say, “Hey! Don’t worry, it’s not real!” Or would you throw them a life ring?

(Note: By the way, I didn’t come up with this life ring example but read it somewhere on Facebook some time ago. If you know who came up with this example, please let me know and I will gladly quote them).

We MUST be where we are. I’m sure you’d throw that person a life ring because we very much believe we are these bodies. Simply telling yourself “I am not a body” is not going to heal your belief in a body. To learn that you are not a body and have experiences of this teaching, you do your Course in Miracles work.

In the same fashion, because we believe we are bodies, telling yourself “I am not racist” doesn’t make racism go away. In fact, it keeps the problem in place because it goes unseen and stays in shadows. Instead, we need to look at our own internalized racism to clearly see it.

Similarly, simply stopping at “we are one” or “only the truth is true” with no other exhuming of hidden beliefs will keep racism in place. Yes, only the Truth is true. This makes YOU feel better. It restores YOUR peace. If you stop here, this is your white privilege in action, using Truth as an excuse to spiritually bypass the anti-racism work that we desperately need to do to heal racism.

The world is not external to you. It is in YOUR mind. We know this as Course students. So racism IS your problem, not “society’s problem” or someone else’s problem. It is a manifestation coming from within your mind. And you can help by engaging in anti-racism work.

The Course DOES teach that as we heal we do not heal alone, so your affirmation of Truth on some level must be helpful, but your own internal racism goes unseen and continues in the shadows of your mind. This needs to be exhumed.

True healing brings about a healing for ALL. All of us in the Course community have been engaging in our forgiveness work, and I truly believe we are now being asked to forgive our OWN internalized racism and supremacy. For this, we need to do additional work beyond our affirmation of truth. We must come to see how racism and supremacy are alive within us so we can begin to dismantle it.
 

2. BE WILLING TO ACKNOWLEDGE DIFFERENCES INSTEAD OF JUMPING TO OUR ONENESS.

I recently had an exchange with someone online who was troubled that an article highlighted a “black scientist.” They said, “why does it have to be highlighted that the scientist is black? This divides us when we are all one!”

I shared that if they had not highlighted that it was a black scientist, most white brains would have thought that the black man in the article’s photo was a model or an assistant. Not the lead scientist. This is just one example of internalized racism in action (and it is only one reason of many as to why it is important to highlight that the scientist is black).

When we jump to statements like, “we are all one” we are using our supremacy to deny that the day to day life of black people, indigenous people and people of color are very different than yours. For instance:

A dear friend of mine is a clinical psychologist. She obtained her Ph.D. in what I consider to be the most rigorous psychology program in existence. She makes great money, drives a nice car, and is one of the most brilliant women who I know. She is black.

On her drive home from a shopping trip to the mall, she got pulled over. The cop saw all of her shopping bags in the back seat. He made her show him every single receipt to prove she did not shoplift her items. This would never happen to me as a white woman.

And then there is this sign:

So, please, stop saying we are all one in the world. In Truth, YES, of course we are all one. But we are identified with bodies in this world, having vastly different experiences. And this needs to be acknowledged instead of dismissed. Please SEE that people of color are having very different experiences than you in this world.
 

3. BE WILLING TO GET UNCOMFORTABLE, VERY UNCOMFORTABLE, AND OFTEN.

It is a privilege for you as a white body to not have to think about race. It doesn’t seem to affect you so you may see yourself totally dissociated from the problem.

As I mentioned earlier, racism and supremacy are built into the fabric of the way the world works. White bodies benefit from systemic racism. We need to see this clearly.

As students of A Course in Miracles, we are asked to look at our blocks to love and hand over those blocks to Holy Spirit. As long as you deny that the blocks of racism and supremacy are yours and in your mind, and as long as you don’t see how racism and supremacy influences how you interact with the world, you can’t truly “hand it over.” Racism is not “out there” totally dissociated from you.

To do anti-racism work, it requires you to get uncomfortable. You are going to feel defensive, triggered and upset, all of the ego reactions that we don’t like experiencing.

To heal racism, we need to be willing to get uncomfortable and be willing to feel all of the feelings that are going to arise and not turn away from the work.
 

4. “NOT FEELING GUIDED” TO TAKE ACTION CAN BE AN EXCUSE FOR ACTUALLY BEING FEARFUL TO TAKE ACTION OR SIMPLY NOT KNOWING WHAT ACTION TO TAKE, OR FOR JUST BEING LAZY.

It is true that we must ask for guidance always. But what I’ve found in my own life is that if I don’t know how to take action, or if I’m afraid to take action, it is a very convenient excuse to simply say, “I don’t feel guided.”

“Not feeling guided” can also be a smokescreen for being lazy. And laziness in this area is white privilege, showing up yet again.

Watch your mind carefully in this area. Seeing this requires radical honesty with Spirit.
 

5. STOP SAYING ALL LIVES MATTER.

To quote my friend and fellow Course teacher, Joe Baker, “This sounds Course-like, but it co-opts the fact that people of color are disproportionately targeted.”

If you need more of an explanation as to why saying “all lives matter” is damaging and hurtful to black communities, read more about this topic here: https://www.vox.com/2016/7/11/12136140/black-all-lives-matter
 

6. STOP TALKING AND START LISTENING.

It is not a time to make YOURSELF feel better by simply reminding yourself that this “isn’t real” or that your part is simply to “love everybody.” One of the kindest things you can do is to listen and listen deeply. Making what is going on for black people and people of color about you or taking what they are going through and analyzing it under spiritual teachings is unkind. It is dismissive.
 

7. GET CURIOUS ABOUT WHY OUR COURSE COMMUNITY SEEMS TO BE MOSTLY COMPRISED OF WHITE BODIES.

I have not been to every study group on the planet, but by far and large, every Course in Miracles conference I’ve attended or spoken at, every event and gathering I’ve been to, and every study group I’ve attended predominately consists of white bodies.

A climate of safety is established when people in white bodies become aware of how they have caused harm to black people, indigenous people and people of color, either intentionally or unintentionally and take responsibility for it. And they talk openly about it.

We have caused hurt through what we thought were only loving words.

We have caused hurt by our silence.

We have caused hurt by our lack of understanding of (or refusal to understand) our own internalized racism.

We have caused hurt by making a racial issue about us.

A black friend told me that A Course in Miracles circles are not safe enough for brown and black people, and I agree. And for the people of color who stick around, I believe they are quite a demonstration of tolerance and forgiveness.

And please don’t approach the person(s) of color in your study group to try to make yourself feel better regarding the safeness of the group. Instead, it is important for white ACIM teachers and students to exhume racism and supremacy in the mind through actively engaging in anti-racism work. This must be done to make our community safe for brown and black people. Resources are below.
 

8. “SEEK NOT TO CHANGE THE WORLD BUT SEEK TO CHANGE YOUR MIND ABOUT THE WORLD.”

The Course teaches us that the entire world is a projection of our minds. And so the only way to heal the world is to heal the mind.

We are highly motivated to look at the beliefs in our mind that impact our day to day life. We are motivated to change our minds surrounding finances, lack vs. abundance, sickness, physical pain, our relationships with family members, friends, colleagues, etc.

If it is personal, we’re motivated to look at it.

Racism is personal to you, even if you don’t immediately see how. My hope is that you will feel motivated to look more deeply at what is buried in your mind surrounding supremacy and racism. A knee-jerk reaction of “this is not my problem” or “I don’t have a problem of white privilege or white supremacy” is a red flag that there is, in fact, more to be examined here.

It is true that to change the world we must change our minds, but this will remain a while off unless we take an active part in exhuming what is hidden.
 

9. PLEASE DON’T ASK YOUR BLACK OR BROWN COURSE IN MIRACLES FRIEND(S) OR STUDY GROUP PARTICIPANT(S) HOW YOU CAN BE AN ALLY.

They’ve been carrying the emotional weight of racism and supremacy far longer than you’ve been aware of it. Don’t ask them to educate you. Please check out a resource like this instead and do more internet research: https://sojo.net/articles/our-white-friends-desiring-be-allies
 

10. A COURSE IN MIRACLES IS UNCOMPROMISING ABOUT WHERE HEALING OCCURS BUT WE OFTEN MISS AN IMPORTANT POINT TO MAINTAIN WHITE BODY COMFORT.

A Course in Miracles teaches that healing occurs at the level of the mind. But if we stop with this thought we are missing something VERY important that is central to A Course in Miracles. Healing happens THROUGH OUR RELATIONSHIPS. This is what makes A Course in Miracles unique from other pathways.

You alone cannot heal the mind.

“The lamp lit in both of you for one another.” (ACIM CE T-20.III.11:6.)

You need your brother (note: by “brother” I am using Course language and am referring to ALL of us). You need your black and brown brothers. Healing takes TWO. You need to see the Truth in your brother. AND you need to see how you have caused harm to your brothers in black and brown bodies in order to fully release the guilt and fear in BOTH of your minds.
 

11. HARM HAPPENS WHEN WE USE THE TEACHINGS OF A COURSE IN MIRACLES TO GASLIGHT PEOPLE OF COLOR WHEN THEY TRY TO RAISE THESE ISSUES FOR US TO SEE. ONE OF THE MOST DAMAGING RESPONSES WE CAN SAY IS, “IF YOU ARE NOT HAPPY YOU ARE DOING THIS TO YOURSELF.”

This turns A Course in Miracles into a weapon.

White bodies play an active part in upholding racism and supremacy, but when we refuse to see this or learn how this is so, we are telling a brother of color that their suffering is totally their responsibility. It is time to stop doing this. It is time to take responsibility for the part we play in upholding racism and supremacy.

Instead, when black and brown people try to raise these issues for us to see, our job is to listen. And listen hard.

My white mighty companions, we have refused to see. Please let this be a true new beginning where we no longer deny our role in upholding racism, supremacy and harming our brothers of color.

You may respond by saying that a person of color is making a mistake by identifying with their body in the first place. But your brother cannot know their Christ Self until YOU release them by seeing that YOU had a part in maintaining their identification with their body through your unseen racism and supremacy.

It is time for those of us in white bodies to take responsibility, to listen, and to see.
 

12. AGAIN, REMEMBER THIS TEACHING FROM THE COURSE:

“You have one test, as sure as God, by which to recognize if what you learned is true. If you are wholly free of fear of any kind, and if all those who meet or even think of you share in your perfect peace, then you can be sure that you have learned God’s lesson, and not your own. Unless all this is true, there are dark lessons in your mind that hurt and hinder you, and everyone around you.”

Let us stay open to learning what we have refused to see. Let us exhume the racism and supremacy in our minds, which has gone unchecked for far too long. Let us do the important work of learning how to be anti-racist, so we can be truly helpful and truly extend love to our brothers. Please explore the resources below for next steps and for black educators to follow.
 

>>> If you resonated with this letter, if you are willing to commit to exhuming the ego’s hidden racism, supremacy, biases and assumptions within your mind to help the healing of the Sonship, PLEASE SHARE THIS LETTER on your platforms, with your communities, with fellow students of A Course in Miracles and with your teachers of A Course in Miracles. <<<

With love, open eyes, open ears, and an open heart,
Corinne Zupko

I encourage you to go to Corinne’s site and see the letter there.  She’s listed great resources that will really support you.  

Now is the time for us to educate ourselves and help each other to learn what we can do to undo systemic racism.  We continue to work at the level of the mind, that’s our primary focus.  And it’s time for us to do as Jesus tells us in the Course, “Listen, learn, and do.”  

After service yesterday, Corinne shared this portion of ACIM at facebook:

“Speaking at Jennifer Hadley‘s Sundays with Spirit was AMAZING!! I spoke about the Healing Power of Listening Deeply.

Here is the quote I ended my talk with for those who requested it. This is in the Complete and Annotated Edition of A Course in Miracles under Miracle Principle #26 (page 19):

“You now share my inability to tolerate lack of love in yourself and in everyone else, and must join the Great Crusade to correct it. The slogan for this Crusade is “Listen, learn, and do.” 

This means:

Listen to my voice,
learn to undo the error, and
do something to correct it.

The first two are not enough. The real members of my party are active workers.

The power to work miracles belongs to you. I will arrange the right opportunities for you to do them. But you must be ready and willing to do them, since you are already able to. Doing them will bring conviction in the ability. I repeat, “You will see miracles through your hands through mine.  Conviction really comes through accomplishment. Remember that ability is the potential, achievement is its expression, and Atonement is the purpose.”

This is not the time to wait and see.  Listen, learn and DO.  If we are coming from our hearts, following guidance and taking loving action without attachment we will be in service to God.

Let’s move forward in Love.

ONward, INward and UPward!

If you feel like you might be playing small because of your beliefs about yourself, if you think maybe those beliefs are false and could be eliminated, and if you have a willingness to do some inner work to make a real and lasting change then please consider joining me and some other folks just like you who are SO DONE WITH PLAYING SMALL and ready to let those patterns go.

My Stop Playing Small Retreat was going to be in UK this month, but now it’s being offered online, so all can join.  This online retreat is for folks who are frustrated with feeling stuck and fearful.  It’s designed for those who’d like to bring on a breakthrough so they can move forward with confidence toward their heart’s desire in any area of their life.  Click here for details.  If you aren’t sure if it’s right for you right now, book an Exploratory Call with one of the spiritual counselors.  The call is free and you’ll find benefit in addition to getting all your questions answered.  

TAKE ACTION!  If you’re interested in either the Stop Playing Small Retreat or Finding Freedom From Fear Spiritual Bootcamp, but you aren’t sure if it’s right for you right now, book an Exploratory Call with one of the spiritual counselors.  The call is free and you’ll find benefit in addition to getting all your questions answered.  Click here now to book an Exploratory Call with a Spiritual Counselor.  

Finding Freedom From Fear Bootcamp is 1 month away!  Let’s rock this summer with our spiritual practice that brings benefit and healing for all.  Now is the time for us to dive deep and eliminate the patterns of fear in our life.

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Acceptance Is The Way

Wednesday, May 27th, 2020

Acceptance is the way to Peace of mind – and it’s not for the weak-hearted.

It takes real strength to mentally and emotionally accept the things we don’t like in life.

It can seem that to accept what feels unacceptable would be a loss.

From the ego perspective, it would be a loss, and it would be painful.

Lesson 190 from the workbook of A Course in Miracles tells us “Pain is a wrong perspective.”  Why would we find it more acceptable to choose a painful perspective than to accept the truth?

It’s interesting to look at this and valuable to know the answer.

Consider something you’re looking at in your life that causes you pain when you think about it.

Now, consider that it’s the wrong perspective that is causing our pain.

Are we willing to adopt a God perspective?

Will we continue to think we’re right when it upsets us?

Now, think of something you don’t like, and don’t want in your life. Something you’d dearly like to change and that you label as unacceptable as it is.  It makes you mad.  It devastates you.

It could be a person’s death.

It could be a politicians policies.

It could be a mis-take you made or something someone did or didn’t do.

For your Freedom – contemplate what is the meaning that you gave it.

If it’s upsetting you, the meaning you’ve given it is false.

Contemplate why you would choose to feel devastated, hurt, angry, upset in anyway.

What is it about that emotional state that you keep choosing?

See what you learn.  Then remember this:

I can elect to change all thoughts that hurt.

Loss is not loss when properly perceived.  Pain is impossible.  There is no grief with any cause at all.  And suffering of any kind is nothing but a dream.  This is the truth, at first to be but said and then repeated many times; and next to be accepted as but partly true, with many reservations.  Then to be considered seriously more and more, and finally accepted as the truth.  I can elect to change all thoughts that hurt.  And I would go beyond these words today, and past all reservations, and arrive at full acceptance of the truth in them.  ACIM Workbook Lesson 284

To be free of pain, our willingness is all that’s required.

Can we hold grievances and still be willing?

I don’t think so.  Let’s not delude ourselves anymore.

My Stop Playing Small Retreat was going to be in UK next month, but now it’s being offered online, so all can join.  This online retreat is for folks who are frustrated with feeling stuck and fearful.  It’s designed for those who’d like to bring on a breakthrough so they can move forward with confidence toward their heart’s desire in any area of their life.  Click here for details.  If you’re ready to release resistance and reluctance, you’ll feel the call.  Trust your intuition!

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Accepting the Unacceptable

Tuesday, March 17th, 2020

Not being able to accept what’s actually happening can be a very intense experience. When I knew my mother was not going to live much longer, I had to accept it. That was what was happening, and while I didn’t wish for her to leave this world, I couldn’t stop it. I had to accept it.

We all have had experiences where we very resistant to accepting something that felt unacceptable to us.

We rejected it on principle.

There are times when we are intensely challenged because we love someone who doesn’t want to have anything to do with us. Or, perhaps they care for us, but not in “that way” and so we have to accept how they feel.

There are many experiences in life that are intensely challenging to the ego that we can find so difficult to accept.

There’s power in accepting what is.

Even so, we don’t have to like what is. We just have to accept that “it is what it is.”

When we can accept what is without ascribing value to it, without making it wrong or right, bad, or good, then we’re moving into a place of holding things in our mind without judgment, which means we can learn how to see them objectively and correctly.

This is deeply healing.

When I cannot accept something, it becomes like a splinter in my mind, agitating and irritating.

Non-acceptance is like that sore tooth that you can’t stop running your tongue over to see if it still hurts. Acceptance brings relief, but when we don’t like something, we’d rather be in the pain of constantly rejecting it than move into the Peace that acceptance can bring.

Our ego attachment to being SO RIGHT about HOW WRONG something is can actually drain off years of our life spent invested in distress, irritation, resentment, regret, guilt, blame, and shame.

That’s no way to live.

Today on my podcast, I’m going to talk about accepting the unacceptable so that we can take our power back and use our time, attention, and energy more wisely. Let’s invest in something that actually brings us benefits!

I’m so grateful for this spiritual practice of A Course in Miracles! It brings me Peace every day even in the midst of great disturbances! Victory!

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Resisting What We Desire Most

Wednesday, January 29th, 2020

Our challenges are always designed to help us. ALWAYS. As it says in A Course in Miracles, “Everything works together for good and there are no exceptions except in the opinion of the ego.”

If we’re resisting our challenges, we’re resisting the growth.

One of the ways we sabotage ourselves is by thinking that things are happening to hurt us or punish us.

Another way we sabotage ourselves is by trying to manipulate and control ourselves and others.

The challenges that rock us to our core are there to help us grow spiritually, and the resistance we feel is resistance to that growth.

We’re resisting the very thing we desire most.

Why? Because what we most desire REQUIRES us to surrender, and we’re just not into that.

We’d rather play small and live a painful and limited life than face the specter of making a growth leap, EVEN THOUGH we yearn for the growth.

We’d like to embody the challenge and change, but we’d rather not have change. It’s a paradox. We can’t have the growth without the change. We’d like to grow without changing.

It’s like the acorn that would like to become an oak tree, but doesn’t wish to change. To the acorn, the idea of being buried in the dark soil, splitting open, and completely transforming is so threatening to its identity as a seed. Yet, it’s a seed that must become a tree to fulfill its destiny.

We’re like the caterpillar that must completely surrender and dissolve its form in order to become the butterfly.

In Masterful Living, we’re working on recognizing that our challenges contain the activation for the growth we most desire. We’re working on releasing the temptation to keep sabotaging ourselves by playing small and living in lack and limitation. It takes courage. And that’s what we’re cultivating – the strong heart to make the change.
The more intense the challenge, the greater the victory over the small self.

When Spirit is in charge, victory is assured! Never give up!

In my free class End My Self-Sabotage Challenge, we’re cultivating the ability to Love ourselves free of all resistance to living a life of Love and we’re willing to look at no longer playing small. We’re cultivating the willingness to rise and shine and break out of our cocoons.

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My Prayer for Partnering UP

Monday, November 11th, 2019

As promised in my “Forgive Me. Here Come the Holidays” class yesterday, I mentioned that I would put this prayer in “My Daily Shot of Spiritual Espresso” today. I’m also making it the recorded prayer for today.

This is a version of my daily prayer that I started praying about 20 years ago. Prayer works! It has transformed my life.

Prayer and forgiveness are the 2 best tools I have.

I encourage you to use this prayer or write of your own to use on a daily basis to improve the quality of every minute of your life!

Prayer for Partnering UP!

I AM that I AM.
I AM my I AM Presence.
I AM One with the One and for this, I am truly grateful.
In the name of my beloved I AM, I ask that my Higher Holy Spirit Self, my I AM Presence, lead and guide me to be in the flow of Love in all moments of this day and in every area of my life.
I intend to be easily led and guided to choose the highest and best in each moment.
I allow myself to receive the blessings that are mine to receive.
I allow myself to recognize the most loving choices this day.
Higher Holy Spirit Self, please make loving choices so attractive to me that I cannot mistake them.
Help me to choose Love and to live my life as a joyful and abundant prayer of the heart.
Help me to recognize my life is the eternal life of God.
I AM dedicated to being a loving and beneficial presence on this planet.
I choose to be truly helpful.
I AM blessed & I AM a blessing.
I share the benefits of my healing and expansion with everyone because I AM one with them.
I AM awakening to know my true identity and the true identity of my brothers and sisters.
We are one in Love, eternally and for this and all the blessings I receive this day, I AM so very grateful.
In the name of my Beloved I AM, I know that it is done.
I allow myself to accept it as done and so it IS.
Amen

You can click here now to download a PDF copy.

If you’d like more support for having a miraculous breakthrough with forgiveness, please join me in my Forgive & Be Free three-part class. We start on Thursday and you’ll get the replay of each of the three classes plus transcripts, plus homework and follow up break-out calls next week. Lots of opportunities to REALLY do this forgiveness work and substantially deepen your practice.

This year, let’s stop paying lip service by SAYING we’re willing but not actually living it. We can bring on a breakthrough FAR beyond what we can imagine when we’re truly willing to truly forgive. If you don’t know how, here’s how! Join me!

Why wait? Now is the time for our healing! If you’re willing, I’m ready – let’s do it together!

 

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The Cure for Needing to be Right

Saturday, November 2nd, 2019

You might be interested to know that one of the biggest causes of suffering people tell me about is their need to be right.  I’m so familiar with that one!

In many cases, I didn’t realize that my need to be right was related to how wrong I felt.  

I’d fight so hard to push that judgment onto someone else and get it off me.  

But why does anyone have to be wrong at all?

That “need” to be right is a strong attachment – and the attachment isn’t what we might think it is.

This is often a tricky one!  

We think that we need to be right about things, or that we ARE right about things and that’s the thing that’s really got us bothered.  

However, in most cases, the real issue is that we feel so WRONG that we need to be right or we’ll collapse into our wrongness.  We can get so bent out of shape about the prospect of someone else making a wrong decision that we’ll make 50 “wrong” decisions while trying to convince others we’re right.  It’s insanity, and it makes us miserable.

This is the nature of attachment.

We get attached to our perspective and our ideas, our concepts, our beliefs.

Buddha taught us that all attachments cause suffering without exception. We are done with suffering.   Although we all remember when we thought that we had to manage and cope with suffering, we’ve come to recognize that suffering is optional.  Suffering is a choice.  And it’s not a choice we wish to make anymore.

The shift to an ever-increasing life of Peace comes through our consistent willingness to recognize the opportunity to give an attachment to the Higher Holy Spirit Self for healing.  That’s what I call “giving the Holy Spirit the heavy lifting.”  

I find that it’s extraordinary how much healing we can experience when we’re willing to pay attention to when we feel the hook of an attachment.  Attachments are really noticeable in the form of irritations, frustrations, and upsets.  These spikes of emotion are an indicator that we have some attachment that is coming up for healing.

It’s astounding to me how much my life has changed through the release of attachments.  Incidents that used to really bother me don’t happen at all anymore.  Upsets that would drag me off track and take a lot of time and energy, leaving me feeling depleted, stupid, wrong and bad don’t even happen anymore.

How cool is that????

I feel so grateful that I can increase my sense of expansion and connection with Spirit EVERY SINGLE DAY by releasing the attachments that come up for healing every day.  Instead of cursing them and feeling that I’m stuck in some kind of Groundhog Day repeating the same old annoyances and difficulties, I have come to realize that each challenge is an opportunity to improve my life.  I love that!

Now is the time for us to get with the spiritual program of Love and Light that is calling us to a life of Peace and Joy!  

I’m so glad we’re doing it together!  If you’d like help with releasing attachments, come join me in one of my classes.  Doing it together is SO much easier than doing it on our own.  Also, it’s more fun when we can be right-minded together!

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Being Unconditionally Loving

Thursday, October 24th, 2019

When I bring my attention fully into the present, into the now moment, then I can see that each and every moment contains a clear choice. The choice is always between Unity/Oneness/Love and separation. For a long time, I wasn’t able to see the choice as clearly as I do now. This Clarity has made a difference in my life.

As I keep my commitment to being mindful of the ever-present choice for Love, it’s possible for me to choose Love more often.

As I am mindful of the choices I make, I am also mindful of their outcomes.

Now that I am more mindful, if I choose fear, anger, or some other form of suffering I can see that it was my choice. Right there, in that moment of awareness, is another opportunity to choose Love and forgive myself by releasing any judgment I might have about myself for not choosing Love a moment ago. This is a living practice of Self-forgiveness.

I witness that Love has an intelligence all of its own. This makes every moment of my life a work of art.

In their beautiful and inspiring book EMBRACING THE BELOVED: Relationship as a Path of Awakening, Stephen & Ondrea Levine write,

“Those who suppress the ego instead of just letting it recede into the heart make the same merciless error in judgment as those who, attempting to cure serious illness, believe they must ‘filter out all negative thoughts’ in order to be healed … They do not recognize that what leaves the ‘negative residue’ is not the thought, no matter how dark or fearful, but the negative reaction (holding), as opposed to the healing response (letting go), to that moment. That a ‘positive’ thought grasped is less healing than a ‘negative’ one met with mercy.”

Today I make deepen my commitment to be mindful as part of my daily spiritual practice. I meet any dark and fearful thoughts with mercy. In this way, my daily practice of being aware of Self-forgiveness and Self-compassion opportunities is healing, and I share the benefit with all beings because I am One with them. My choice is a healing choice!

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Surviving Intense Times with Grace

Sunday, October 20th, 2019

What I am noticing is that the time of healing is getting increasingly intense for all of us.  People are melting down and flipping out.  

For those who are fully committed to being loving and compassionate, it does get easier and easier. Still, there’s not one of us that isn’t being energetically pushed to give up the habits, beliefs, and patterns that keep us playing small.

In my own experience, I noticed a pattern that repeated itself for many years until I finally broke out of it.

My pattern was this:

I would get triggered by something. Something would happen that felt like it was wrong and bad. It felt like a betrayal or a loss. I would start to ruminate on it, building my case like a lawyer gathering evidence for the dark side of my personality. I call it making “resentment stew.”

I would continue to stir that pot and eat from it, day after day, strengthening my case to argue about the unfairness, the blame, and my resentment. It was as though I was constantly arguing my case before God, looking for God to make me right and to make THINGS in my life right.

It took me A VERY LONG TIME – many, many years, to realize that the daily consumption of “resentment stew” was driving a whole sequence of things – it was part of a very intense pattern.

Here’s what I learned:

The making of the “resentment stew” would lower my vibration, which made me unable to see many good things that were available to me. I literally couldn’t see them or receive them because I wasn’t a vibrational match for them. Instead, I became a vibrational match for things I DID NOT want happening in my life.

My choice to ruminate on what I didn’t like and didn’t want just brought more of it into my life, because like attracts like.

Then I would find myself withdrawing into isolation and self-medication in order to drown out how I was feeling and, of course, lowered my vibration even more. It gained me even more time to ruminate on what I didn’t like and weave the web of attachment to upset.

There were times in that stuck place of self-medicating that I would literally think “This is all I have. This momentary distraction and fake pleasure of self-medication, the numbing of my mind and senses.” It was the only thing I was “enjoying.” I lost track of what real enjoyment, pleasure, and happiness were. My whole perspective got skewed and twisted.

I knew it was self-sabotage. I hated myself for it. I felt compelled and addicted. AND, because of focusing so much on resentment and revenge, I didn’t have the strength to lift myself out of it. My negativity made me weak. Like Superman and kryptonite – our resentments and judgments make us weak.

It is a dangerous and slippery slope.

It felt like I was caught in a whirlpool that was pulling me down, further and further. I wanted so much to live a spiritual life – to get God’s Seal of Approval and goodness, and it would seem further and further away.

The pull of the negative pattern was SO STRONG.

I remember thinking this thought “When I die from being stuck in this pattern, they should write on my gravestone – ‘She tried, she really tried, but she just couldn’t do it – the pull was too strong.'”

I couldn’t see the pattern until I was willing to take responsibility for it. I had to stop blaming others for how I felt and where I was in my experience. When I finally became honestly willing to commit to giving up my attack thoughts – the judgments and opinions, and all the attachments to the meaning I made of things, my interpretations and what I thought was right and wrong – that’s when things changed for me.

Because of my willingness to look for loving thoughts and to stop energizing the unloving thoughts, I learned that true gratitude raises my vibration very quickly. It was a relief to be grateful and raise my vibration! 

I learned to be grateful for everything and to practice it as part of my spiritual practice ALL DAY LONG. I began to trade the constant judging attack thoughts for being truly grateful, and that led me to see that I am the one who is responsible for everything in my life.

I learned that everything serves a good and holy purpose in my life – everything. And, I learned to accept that fact with gratitude, even when it didn’t make any sense for me. And I learned to ask for help from the I AM Presence – the Higher Holy Self.

I realized I was never upset for the reason I thought, and I was always upset when I didn’t take responsibility and didn’t choose gratitude. It was pretty simple, really. Phew! I started to see some light at the end of this birthing tunnel.

Gratitude raises us up so we can see and hear and feel and know more clearly the truth that sets us free.

The most challenging and torturous situations in my life became a Godsend. Literally. I couldn’t see that until I was willing to see it. (This is why I say: You gotta wanna.) The intensity of my challenges gave me the PRESSURE COOKER to be vigilant and change my mind 1000 times a day. 

I began to be grateful for everything, even when it felt like my heart was breaking and my mind was at war with itself. That pressure cooked me, and I began to live a miraculous life — because of my willingness.

In the last 19 years of counseling, teaching classes and workshops, and leading retreats, I’ve experienced a lot of miraculous healing and I’ve witnessed a lot of miraculous healing. My offerings are about doing the work – rolling up your spiritual sleeves and getting to it – in the community – with like-minded souls who also have some degree of willingness.

Together we wipe away the shame, reluctance, resistance, self-hatred, and the stains of all the mistakes of the past. A lot of the time it’s not easy. It requires attention and willingness. It rocks our world. And, it does bring a miraculous life – a life of miracles, unfolding Joy and Beauty. It’s a fact.

Sometimes the 3-D world of form seems so intense. I call it density, because that’s how it feels when we’re stuck in the muck and mire. What we don’t know is that the density becomes so intense to get us in order to squeeze us to finally make a decision to do things differently. It’s like the pressure that is put on a piece of coal to reveal the diamond that is possible. It’s like a birthing.

Birthing is never easy, never pretty. It’s always quite messy. There’s screaming and crying and pain.

We all have a diamond heart we’re giving birth to. We can discover it willingly and gratefully or with tremendous pressure, or we can give up and come back later. It’s up to us. It’s our choice. This world is about choice.

Rev. Michael Beckwith introduced me – spiritually – to the wonderful Christian Mystic, Dr. Howard Thurman whose writings have been an inspiration to me. I share this with you now as an offering of inspiration to remember you are true diamond heart nature:

The Moments of High Resolve

“Despite the dullness and barrenness of the days that pass, if I search with due diligence, I can always find a deposit left by some former radiance. But I had forgotten. At the time it was full-orbed, glorious, and resplendent. I was sure that I would never forget. In the moment of it’s fullness, I was sure that it would illumine my path for all the rest of my journey. I had forgotten how easy it is to forget.

“There was no intent to betray what seemed so sure at the time. My response was whole, clean, authentic. But little-by-little, there crept into my life the dust and grit of the journey. Details, lower-level demands, all kinds of crosscurrents – nothing momentous, nothing overwhelming, nothing flagrant – just wear and tear. If there had been some direct challenge, a clear-cut issue, I would have fought it to the end and beyond.

“In the quietness of this place, surrounded by the all-pervading presence of God, my heart whispers: Keep fresh before me the moments of my High Resolve, that in fair weather or in foul, in good times or in tempests, in the days when the darkness and the foe are nameless or familiar, I may not forget that to which my life is committed.”

Keep fresh before me the moments of my high resolve. ~ Dr. Howard Thurman

In this time of birthing, don’t give up. Keep fresh before you the moments of your high resolve. Call upon the Higher Holy Self to lead the way and bring the Light. Find like-minded souls to go through the journey with. Give yourself extra support, tenderness, and care. Begin to speak to yourself with words of Love, “Darling, you can do it, you ARE doing it. Sweetheart, you have what it takes. Everything is for you and nothing is against you. You already are perfect Love.”

Now is our time, now is your time. You DO have what it takes – it’s pre-installed and cannot be damaged or removed. The Kingdom is within, seek first the Kingdom and ALL else will be added unto you. A little gratitude and willingness will turn the tide today. It always does.

Every day I offer “”My Shot of Spiritual Espresso”.  I write spiritual inspiration and record a prayer for our healing.  Prayer is a power tool for our liberation.  We use technology to transcend time and space and deepen our spiritual practice and connect with each other.  Our spiritual practice is our path of liberation.  And that’s beautiful to share!

We’re all on a journey of expanding awareness, and there’s so much help for us in the invisible.  We’re never alone.  I Love you, and I thank God for you.  We bless each other with our willingness to rise in Spirit and come back into our right minds.

Together we’re answering our call to BE the Love.  YES!  

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Life Purpose

Friday, October 11th, 2019

Many times people ask me to help them uncover their life purpose. I get it. People don’t feel successful in their life until they tap into living their life purpose. What I’ve realized is that our life purpose really isn’t about DOING anything. Only the ego wants to do lots of things in order to get recognition. The Spirit, our Higher Holy Spirit Self, knows that the whole reason for our existence is to express and reveal ourselves as Love.

Once you know your life purpose, life gets a whole lot better – if you’re willing to actually fulfill it. Here’s what I know about discovering your life purpose:

Being loving is your purpose in this world.

It’s my purpose, too.
It’s everyone’s life purpose!

Releasing the blocks to Love and healing the patterns of negative beliefs is our purpose, and being loving is the way we do that.

It’s so simple, many people aren’t satisfied with it because their ego can’t accept it. It doesn’t seem special enough. After all, anyone can do it.

When I began to accept my purpose for living as forgiving and being loving, then I began to tap into my highest potential and things really began to change. I AM so grateful I could see and accept my life purpose.

When you decide to really succeed at living your life purpose of being loving, then everything else will fall into place and you’ll find that each day offers remarkable fulfillment. When we choose to BE the Light and live the Light, then we cannot fail. The Light never fails.

We’re all blessed, so blessed, and when we’re being loving we know it.

You can live your life purpose!

LAST CALL UNTIL NEXT SPRING! If you’d like support in doing this work and in finding the inner courage to go for it and not give up, please consider taking my Finding Freedom From Fear spiritual boot camp and joining with other like-minded souls who are doing the same work. I find that when we do the work together we get there faster and we laugh a lot more. It’s so much easier when we peel the layers of painful patterns together. Easier, faster, more Love, more Light, more fun, that’s the way for me!

Finding Freedom From Fear spiritual boot camp with ACIM Principles starts TODAY! I won’t be offering it again for about 6 months.

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Symptoms of Unworthiness

Sunday, September 22nd, 2019

I remember the very first weekend of ministerial school at the Ernest Holmes Institute. It was this time of year, in 2001. It was right around 9/11. We were on a retreat at Casa de Maria in Santa Barbara, California and Rev. Nirvana Gayle was the leader. I was so excited because I thought we’d be entering into a mystical training following in the footsteps of Ernest Holmes who inspired me so much.

That turned out not to be the case. It was a very intellectual program, with no study of Holmes or mysticism. However, because of my experiences, I now teach in a very different way from that and it has been tremendously successful and I’m so grateful for that.

That first weekend, two things stand out to me. One is that we were told that of the thirty or so people at the retreat only about five of us would be ministers 10 years from graduation. That statistic shocked me. I couldn’t imagine not being a minister. I couldn’t imagine going through all that training – pre-practitioner, practitioner, and then ministerial school – 9 years total – and then not being a minister.

In my senior year, I switched from the Holmes Institute to the Agape school, as Agape withdrew from what is now called Centers for Spiritual Living. I graduated in 2006. There was 1 other graduate with me and he’s still a minister too.

I love ministry. It is definitely my calling. I so love being able to support people from being caught in their ego identity, illness, and despair over their life, relationships, careers, and bodies into becoming miracle minded and truly living the principles of A Course in Miracles. Quite literally, it thrills me! I feel so grateful and so blessed each and every day.

I feel like I have cracked the code on how to live the life you really desire and I see more and more people doing it around me. The reports of folks in my classes and of how their families are healing all around them is my favorite thing. It’s so completely not rocket science, but it does require real willingness to be vigilant over their thoughts.

Which is why this work is not for everyone. Many people are simply not willing to be vigilant over their thoughts. They imagine that it’s too hard. It’s not. It is demanding though. But being miserable is demanding too. Thinking your life is hard and you’re not worthy of Love is even more demanding and has NO benefits. I know, I used to live in that space.

The other thing that I recall from that first weekend of ministerial school is we were asked to tell the group what we were most grateful for. That was easy for me. I am SO VERY grateful for my awareness. I am grateful that I’m ever more aware of my ability to choose. I don’t have to suffer unless I choose to. We can rise above the battlefield of ego consciousness. We really can.

Cultivating the ability to GENUINELY be aware of our thoughts is to living a miraculous life what stretching and exercising are to have a healthy body. Many people satisfy themselves with reading about spirituality and listening to audios about spirituality. They don’t break a sweat. There’s no real exercise in it.

It’s like getting a gym membership, putting on your exercise outfit, going to the gym and watching everyone else workout while reading a book about what they’re doing and then listening to audio about what they did and how they did it. It’s armchair spirituality. We can have gained without pain, but we cannot grow without doing the inner work.

That’s why having a great trainer to go with you, who keeps you company and makes it fun is so helpful. Having a workout posse to join with you is even better. That’s why I organize my classes the way I do. To make it fun, and get it done. For real.

We all have a personal trainer in the Higher Holy Spirit Self, but you have to be willing to do what the trainer advises. And that personal trainer that we ALL have, is always telling us to be loving to ourselves because we are worthy of Love. Every one of us. That is always true and never changes. All are worthy.

Unworthiness is the most chronic illness that people have in this world.

It attacks us mentally and emotionally – but only if we agree. It has no power if we don’t agree.

Symptoms of unworthiness are:

  • Not trusting intuition
  • Second-guessing yourself
  • Attacking yourself
  • Letting people take advantage of you
  • People pleasing
  • Giving to others and doing for others in order to get approval
  • Hiding and isolating
  • Letting people treat you poorly
  • Feeling unappreciated

I had all of these. I see very little of this happening anymore. What a relief!

If you’ve had enough of these things in your life – consider accepting my gift. I’m offering a LIVE VIDEO 2.5-hour workshop intensive next Saturday with a replay on Sunday and it’s my gift to you. There’s no cost, but you do have to register. Click here to register now.

Worthiness Workshop
Saturday or Sunday
September 28 or 29th
Los Angeles, 12pm ♥ Chicago, 2pm ♥ New York, 3pm ♥ London, 8pm
♥ Germany, 9pm ♥ Sydney, 5am (next day) ♥ Hong Kong, 3am (next day)

This workshop is for people who are interested in making a change. When you register, I’ll send you a worksheet that you’ll need to set aside some time to fill out and bring to the workshop to be able to get the benefits.

I’m all in for YOU. Will you meet me and we’ll have some fun with our healing together?

Please invite a friend or two and do the worksheets together. Invite your ACIM Study Group and let’s do this together! You can also listen to the last two weeks of Conquering Unworthiness episodes of my podcast. Click here to listen now and get the transcripts too!

Transformation is REALLY fun and it’s also a huge relief when we do it together. It’s such a relief to let go of the false identity and stand in the beauty of our true nature. We truly can be helpful and we can teach only Love. I’m going for it. Come join me!

If you see an announcement for this on my facebook page would you please SHARE it so more people find it?

Let’s make the most of every opportunity for our healing and awakening and remember to laugh when we forget. Every day I offer my shot of Spiritual Espresso. I write spiritual inspiration and record a prayer for our healing. Prayer is a powerful tool for our liberation. Please pray with me today. We use technology to transcend time and space and deepen our spiritual practice and connect with each other. Our spiritual practice is our path of liberation. And that’s beautiful to share!

We’re all on a journey of developing trust and faith and there’s so much help for us in the invisible. We’re never alone. I Love you and I thank God for you. We bless each other with our willingness to rise in Spirit and come back into our right minds. Together we’re answering our call to BE the Love. YES!

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Healing Through Acceptance

Saturday, August 31st, 2019

When my precious mother was so ill and we knew she didn’t have long to live, I had to accept it. I could accept it without liking it. I could hold that even though I didn’t like it, it was for the highest and best, otherwise it couldn’t be happening. Resistance to what was happening wouldn’t have helped any of us.

For me, at that time, acceptance opened up my mind to experience the grace in each moment.

Accepting what is can bring us Peace, but not if we hold in our mind that acceptance is somehow a giving up.

We accept that what is going on is happening.
We accept that what happened, happened.
We accept that things are as they are.

And then, we energize our intentions in order to bring a shift.

A Course in Miracles tells us,
“ … seek not to change the world,
but choose to change your mind about the world.”

For instance, let’s say your house just became flooded and effectively destroyed. Your workplace has also been destroyed, and so you no longer have a job but you still have a family to feed and take care of. You might find this intensely upsetting. You might not like it at all. You might not wish to accept it. If you’re not able to accept what is happening, you’ll have a hard time moving to the place of healing. Acceptance comes first.

I’ve heard a number of people say things like “What will be, will be.” Que sera sera.

That goes against what I’ve learned about this world.
This world is a project of our mind, gently planned by One Whose only purpose is our good.

In this world, we make choices of how to think and feel about things, and our thoughts and beliefs become our experiences. Our beliefs are like a magnet in our mind that attracts the thoughts that we might choose to think. Our thoughts than become like molds that form our experiences. We can break the mold and have a new experience. We can choose a new thought. We can relinquish the beliefs that don’t serve and energize the truth that sets us free.

“True learning is constant, and so vital in its power for change that a Son of God can recognize his power in one instant and change the world in the next. That is because, by changing his mind, he has changed the most powerful device that was ever given him for change. ACIM T-7.V.7.”

We are not victims of circumstance.
We can change our mind.
We can choose our thoughts.

It’s so valuable to us that we have the ability to change our mind, and that we have the ability to choose what we’ll energize. We can choose to serve God or ego.

What will be, will be, unless we change our mind about it.
Let’s choose to change our mind about the world.

Let’s take dominion over our minds and continuously energize the highest and best for all and a world that works lovingly for everyone.

Let us not just stand back and become voyeurs in this world. We are the dreamers of this dream. Let’s not abdicate our “response-ability”. Let’s actively energize that more Peace, more Love and more Joy are happening now.

We pray to accept the things we cannot change and to Love what is even if we don’t like it.

Acceptance is a starting point to our empowerment!

Have you experienced the power of accepting things that are challenging? Please tell us about it and share in the comments below! Thank you!

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Wrong & Right

Wednesday, August 28th, 2019

One of the big traps of the ego is deciding who is right and who is wrong. Often, we find that we’re the biggest culprits of them all. The ego is the mindset of separation. Its job is to separate, and it does that through the activity of sorting.

Sorting out who is right and who is wrong is a major use of ego, time and energy. We can spend huge amounts of our precious attention on determining who is right and who is wrong. And, for a moment, the ego seems to feel fulfilled, empowered, justified, and important.

Observing life, you can watch people all day long as they struggle to figure out who is right and who is wrong, to assign blame (and often shame), as well as responsibility. It gives the ego a lot to do.

What many of us don’t notice is that all that judge, judge, judging leaves an energetic hangover that is painful. The pain that leads us to tune out, disconnect, and hide. And then, we slowly begin to learn what a bad investment we made with our precious attention. Labeling people isn’t helpful.

Since God is all there is, aren’t we tuning out from God?
Since Spirit is omnipresent Love, aren’t we disconnecting from Love?
Since the Infinite One Mind is omni-active, are we really thinking we can hide from our own mind?

Where can I go from Your Spirit?
Or where can I flee from Your presence?
If I ascend into heaven, You are there;
If I make my bed in hell, behold, You are there.
Psalm 139

Deciding who is right and wrong is predicated on the concept that I am the decider.

When I’m the decider, it often means that I’m thinking that God has left the building and now I’m in charge. I’ve learned that I do NOT want to be in charge. I’m not (yet) able to see through all directions of time and space, and so I’m not able to discern what everything is for. My Spirit knows it’s all working together for my relentless good.

I do not wish to replace God in my mind – I tried that, and it didn’t go well for me. I’d like to do everything I can to avoid falling back into that mindset. I’ve worked very hard to realize that God’s Plan is the best way for me to go.

God’s Plan doesn’t include my judging people and deciding who is good and bad.

I can think I know what’s right and wrong at the moment. I look for the loving choices and that feels right to me. Unloving choices feel wrong to me.

All people are good at their core, even the ones that don’t seem like it.

Their essence is still perfect and pristine, regardless of their behavior. Knowing that I don’t need to label people with some story I’ve made up. I’ll stick to focusing my attention on remembering the truth, which is that we’re all good and perfect.

I hardly use the words “right” and “wrong anymore”. Mostly they are helpful in describing how things feel. Paying attention to how things feel is a great skill that I work on each day. Labeling people isn’t helpful to me, only to the ego. I don’t work for the ego anymore.

Is there anyone you’ve labeled wrong that you could let go? You can still feel their actions are unloving, but do you really need to label the person? This is a very powerful and healing contemplation. We can call the angels in to help us and be willing to see clearly the Face of God in each one we meet, for our own Peace of mind. It works! Peace is worth it!

What labels have been put on you that you’re rejecting? Please share in the comments below! Thank you!

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Self-Empowerment Through Acceptance

Friday, July 19th, 2019

Acceptance of what is can bring us Peace, but not if we hold in our mind that acceptance is somehow a “giving up”.

We accept that what is going on is happening.
We accept that what happened, happened.
We accept that things are as they are.

And then, we energize our intentions in order to bring a shift.

A Course in Miracles tells us,
“ … seek not to change the world,
but choose to change your mind about the world.”

For instance, let’s say your house just became flooded and effectively destroyed. Your workplace has also been destroyed, and so you no longer have a job but you still have a family to feed and take care of. You might find this intensely upsetting. You might not like it at all. You might not wish to accept it. If you’re not able to accept what is happening, you’ll have a hard time moving to the place of healing. Acceptance comes first.

I’ve heard a number of people say things like “What will be, will be.” Que sera sera.

That goes against what I’ve learned about this world.
This world is a project of our mind, gently planned, by One Whose only purpose is our good.

In this world, we make choices of how to think and feel about things, and our thoughts and beliefs become our experiences. Our beliefs are like a magnet in our mind that attracts the thoughts that we might choose to think. Our thoughts than become like molds that form our experiences. We can break the mold and have a new experience. We can choose a new thought. We can relinquish the beliefs that don’t serve and energize the truth that sets us free.

“True learning is constant, and so vital in its power for change that a Son of God can recognize his power in one instant and change the world in the next. That is because, by changing his mind, he has changed the most powerful device that was ever given him for change. ACIM T-7.V.7.”

We are not victims of circumstance.
We can change our mind.
We can choose our thoughts.

It’s so valuable to us that we have the ability to change our mind, and that we have the ability to choose what we’ll energize. We can choose to serve God or ego.

What will be, will be unless we change our mind about it.
Let’s choose to change our mind about the world.

Let’s take dominion over our minds and continuously energize the highest and best for all and a world that works lovingly for everyone.

Let us not just stand back and become voyeurs in this world. We are the dreamers of this dream. Let’s not abdicate our “response-ability”. Let’s actively energize that more Peace, more Love and more Joy are happening now.

We pray to accept the things we cannot change and to Love what is, even if we don’t like it.

Acceptance is a starting point to our empowerment!

Professional Trainings for Teachers, Counselors & Ministers

If you think you might like to explore a spiritual career then check out my two trainings in October. They are each deeply healing and they are both part of larger professional programs, but anyone can take them.

Right now you can register for my “How to Lead & Create A Workshop training which includes certification to lead my Forgive & Be Free workshop and then there’s my Spiritual Counseling Training Intensive, which is a great program for anyone interested in becoming a better listener, cultivating compassion or intuition.

If you’re a spiritual healer, counselor, or teacher, you might be interested in one of my professional programs. PLEASE TAKE A MINUTE to fill out my latest survey of your interests, please click here now! This way I’ll be sure to keep you informed.

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