Archive for the ‘Acceptance’ Category

Forgiveness Brings Peace

Thursday, November 19th, 2020

Forgiveness relieves suffering of every kind.

There is no form that suffering can take that cannot be relieved by the act of choosing forgiveness.  

The challenge is that there is so much confusion about forgiveness, what it is, and how it works.

It’s much simpler than we think. Forgiveness is simply this – releasing the opinions, judgments and meaning we’ve made of things.

We think we’re upset because someone did something we don’t like, but that’s the illusion.  It’s pure delusion.  And buying into that illusion IS suffering.  

For much of my life I * blamed others for all of my upsets and problems.  I projected it all out onto other people and situations.  I thought that would relieve my suffering.

Little did I know, it only magnified and multiplied my pain.  

The real cause of our upset is the decision to attack our brothers and sisters rather than to fulfill our purpose, which is to bless them, and to receive as we have given.  

When we choose the thoughts that attack and condemn, we will suffer.  If we didn’t suffer as a result there would be no alarm, no warning, we’d fall down the rabbit hole and keep going with no way to recognize our error.

Right now, in this holy instant, we can drop all of the blocks to love and recognize the truth in this beautiful passage from A Course in Miracles which I’ve laid out like a poem.

How can you who are so holy suffer?  

All your past except its beauty is gone, 

and nothing is left but a blessing.  

I have saved all your kindnesses 

and every loving thought you ever had.  

I have purified them of the errors that hid their light, 

and kept them for you in their own perfect radiance.  

They are beyond destruction and beyond guilt.  

They came from the Holy Spirit within you, 

and we know what God creates is eternal.  

You can indeed depart in peace because 

I have loved you as I loved myself.  

You go with my blessing and for my blessing. 

Hold it and share it, that it may always be ours.  

I place the peace of God in your heart 

and in your hands, to hold and share.  

The heart is pure to hold it, 

and the hands are strong to give it.  

We cannot lose.  

My judgment is as strong as the wisdom of God, 

in Whose Heart and Hands we have our being.  

His quiet children are His blessed Sons.  

The Thoughts of God are with you.  

A Course in MiraclesT-5.IV.8. 

We are perfect Love and we are perfectly loved, all that remains is for us to accept it.  This is the true Self-forgiveness.

Every moment we have this opportunity to let the past go, by releasing the meaning we made of it, and by releasing the idea that what occurred in the past has defined us.

Our experiences do not define us.

Our choices do not define us.

Our unity with God, defines us.  Nothing else can.

We’ve made a meaning of our life and being that is false.  We project it onto others and think they are the problem.  There is no problem.  ALL of our problems have been solved.  Yet, if we hold the idea we have problems we are sure to experience them.  And then we look for someone to blame.  

This is what we can forgive ourselves for and MOVE ON.

Forgiveness is the path of Joy, awakening, and Prosperity.  This I know.  Jesus tells me so.

And that’s why I’m offering my Forgive & Be Free class, in 3 parts, starting today.  Let’s do this sacred work joyfully, and JoyFULLY together!

TODAY –  MY FORGIVENESS CLASS:  

My Forgive & Be Free class, in 3 parts – it starts TODAY.  Let’s do this sacred work joyfully, and JoyFULLY together!  JUST IN TIME for the holidays.  Register now.  Click here for more details.    

Family gatherings, such as Thanksgiving are often triggers of grievances.  Prepare yourself to BE the Peace in your relationships and let the past go. 

IMPORTANT – this class is a BONUS GIFT for you if you register for Masterful Living 2021 THIS WEEK ONLY.

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Catch, Release and Replace

Monday, October 26th, 2020

Are you ready and willing to have a more miraculous life starting now? Yesterday, in Sundays With Spirit I was sharing a spiritual practice that I call “Catch, Release and Replace.”

If you think of what some fishers do – they catch fish and then release them rather than killing them, I’m taking that idea and putting a completely different spin on it.

We’re catching judgments, complaints and any other kind of attack thought, releasing them to the Higher Holy Spirit Self for healing and then replacing them with thoughts of Love, generosity, kindness, compassion and willingness to choose again.

It’s a simple three step process that anyone can do.

It’s easy to remember and it’s deeply healing

By making this part of our constant spiritual practice we train our mind to be mindful of when we’re veering off track from our commitment to Love and to being loving.

If you’re deeply interested in transforming your mind, healing the obsessive, compulsive negative thinking and aligning with the Spirit of Love, then this deceptively simple practice is a welcome addition.

In my experience, this practice is miraculous for ANYONE who uses it. It certainly has been miraculous for me!

If you’d like to start living a more peaceful and less stressed life – please incorporate this into how you observe your mind, and how you invest your attention throughout the day. Your willingness is all that’s required. Your willingness is evidence that you’re placing your trust and faith in Spirit rather than your own judgments and opinions.

Happy healing!

NOVEMBER:  Are you interested in Spiritual Counseling or just developing your relationship skills?  You might be interested in my Spiritual Counseling Training Intensive November 15 to 21st.  I’ll be doing this intensive training in-person (in New Hampshire where there’s very little virus) and, for the first time ever online – so you can join from anywhere.  If you’re curious, but not sure, book an exploratory call with a spiritual counselor to learn more.  

COMING SOON – Masterful Living 2021 registration opens in a couple of weeks – with bonuses to inspire you to commit early and you can get on the waiting list for the early-bird right now.  Click here now for the Masterful Living waitlist.

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Changing Everything

Sunday, October 25th, 2020

I can remember so many years, heading into the winter solstice, with the days getting consistently shorter, my birthday, the holidays and the winter itself, would bring a certain kind of feeling similar to PTSD, for what I’d experienced in the past.

I used to go into the holidays EXPECTING to be disappointed.  I used to anticipate that I’d be revisiting the same painful hurts and memories as previous years.  

I would look for the offenses and upsets that matched my experience in the past so I could reinvigorate the painful meaning I’d made of things in the past.  And then I’d get to be right all over again.  

Not happy, but right.

Can you relate? 

I’ve found this is a common theme for people, and for those of us in the northern hemisphere it starts now.  In the USA we have Thanksgiving at the end of November, plus my birthday.  Thanksgiving is the biggest family holiday we have.  The day before, is always the biggest single travel day in the USA all year long, which is an incredibly stressful way to begin a holiday.

So many triggers, so little time.

But I have a different experience now.

First of all, it’s been years since there was pain and upsets at the holidays in my life.

This year, very few will be traveling – which will be very sad for many Americans – we’re missing our families.  Thank God for Zoom!

I can remember when I used to visit family and after 3 days I’d start to feel sad and depressed.  

I’d start thinking:  “Why do I keep doing this to myself?

Why do I keep thinking that I can stay for a week when I start to feel depressed after just a few days? 

Why do I keep repeating the same madness expecting a new experience?

What’s wrong with me?”

And on and on.

So many triggers – so little time.

Here’s what changed everything for me:  Taking responsibility.

As part of my deciding not to be focused on judging, complaining, constantly criticizing, and looking for problems, I began to start to look for ways to extend compassion and kindness.  

When offense was taken, I committed to being the one who would go first and make amends. 

I stopped taking everything personally because I started to see all my attacks on others were more about me than about them.  

And then, as my mind started becoming more kind and loving, I began to see that none of my attacks were about them and ALL of them were about me.

None of this happened over night.  

It was slow and gradual change over MANY YEARS.

But the super cool thing is that I realized every change I made rippled out to my family and friends.

I could be the one who decided whether or not I was pissed off and hurt.  The upset couldn’t happen without my agreement!  

It was me.  I was the one I had to forgive for having made my life into a portal to hell.

I studied spirituality for nearly 20 years feeling that truth was an ever-illusive mystery that I just couldn’t get to.  For me, truth was just beyond one more door that I was trying to pry open.  I was looking outside myself for insight, thinking that an intellectual approach would bring me what I was looking for, because my intellect had always (or so I thought!) helped me in the past.  

I’d figured out my problems in the past.  

I could figure out how to get connected to Spirit.

I didn’t know that the intellect is a tool of the ego.  

But, through my deep desire of the heart to truly know Spirit, and to truly break free of pain and suffering, I was led and guided.  It was ONLY my willingness that helped me to see through the bushes and brambles of ego blocks and subterfuge. 

I now LOVE this time of year for a whole new set of reasons!  Check this out:

From September into January, I get to have 1 on 1 appointments with all the folks who are in my year-long Masterful Living Course.  When we talk early in the year, things are challenging.  It’s not so easy.  People are looking deeply into their patterns and habits to eliminate the causes of suffering.  Some people experience it with a lot of Joy and Freedom, but not all.  Some begin having many miracles all at once.  But that’s not true for everyone.  Some folks find it super challenging and they are heroic in their not giving up.  

I’ve been having 1 on 1’s with the folks in this community for years now and it’s such a pleasure, especially this time of year.  By now, most people in Masterful Living are telling me their successes in how this year has been so life-changing for them.  They’re telling me how differently they feel about themselves and their life.  They tell me stories of marriages that are experiencing a rebirth of Love, and relationships with family that are getting better every day.  They’re looking forward to doing the holidays differently.  

And, because we have people who continue doing the work together with me and the community for years, I get to celebrate the long term AMAZING transformation of their lives, careers, families, finances and more.

When someone is absolutely convinced that they are unlovable, 

and now they know it’s not true, 

that changes every minute 

of every day 

of the rest of their lives –

and for those around them as well.

I love listening to a beloved member of this community share how they made a decision to do something differently in their workplace because they just wanted to be nicer to the people in their lives.  Over the course of a year, their shifts change the entire culture of their workplace.  Then, their co-workers take home a different attitude and they share that with their family.  Their children take that with them to school, and then the other kids in their class take that home to their family and that’s how the world changes.

A Course in Miracles says:  Seek not to change the world, but to change your mind about the world.

It works!  

That’s why I’m committed to proving it.

I absolutely LOVE the last third of the year.  It’s four months of reaping the rewards and celebrating the benefits.  They aren’t dark months anymore.  There’s nothing to fear anymore.  It’s win-win all the way!

AND – this year it feels quite different, because mixed into that celebratory experience is an awareness of the intense challenges that so many all over the world are having.  More than ever, this is a time for us to cling to our spiritual practice and deepen it beyond anything we ever thought was possible.  

A greater commitment to walking the talk and living the Love lifts us all.

You can still join our 40 Day Meditation Challenge at any point, it’s free – all are welcome.  You can join us every Sunday for Sundays with Spirit – it’s free.  We can do this together and lift each other!

NOVEMBER:  Are you interested in Spiritual Counseling or just developing your relationship skills?  You might be interested in my Spiritual Counseling Training Intensive November 15 to 21st.  I’ll be doing this intensive training in-person (in New Hampshire where there’s very little virus) and, for the first time ever online – so you can join from anywhere.  If you’re curious, but not sure, book an exploratory call with a spiritual counselor to learn more.  

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TODAY, you can join me, Mary Gerard Lenihan and Susanne VanDyke.  We’re coming together to share our inspiration in many ways.  We’ll have a spiritual celebration together with message and music – we call it Sundays With Spirit.  Please invite your family!  If you can’t join us, you can catch the replay!  Because we’re going to be live on video, you’ll have to register to get the details.  All are welcome, there’s no charge, but you do have to register, unless you’ve already registered in the past.

When you register, you’ll also get easy access to past services with Jon Mundy, Lisa Natoli, David Hoffmeister, Maureen Muldoon, Corinne Zupko, Maria Felipe, Frances Xu, Jimmy Twyman and more.  If you’ve already registered for a previous Sunday – you don’t need to register again, you’ll get a reminder with the details automatically.  

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COMING SOON – Masterful Living 2021 registration opens in a couple of weeks – with bonuses to inspire you to commit early and you can get on the waiting list for the early-bird right now.  Click here now for the Masterful Living waitlist.

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Gain Without Pain

Saturday, October 17th, 2020

Pain can push us to stop settling for unhappiness.

It might seem counter intuitive or it might seem just plain insane, but pain is helpful.

At times it’s incredibly helpful.  I used to be a runner.  I ran the New York Marathon in 1986 with my Dad.  In preparing to run the marathon I did many long training runs – 10, 12, 15, 18 and even 20 mile runs to get ready for the big 26.  

People become inured to pain.  

It doesn’t happen over night, but it happens drip by drip.

I learned that if I had some aches and pains before a run I wouldn’t take any kind of pain killer, because that’s how people injure themselves.  If they’re numb to the pain then they don’t know when to stop, when to shift and change.  It’s true for athletes and it’s true for everyone.  

If we numb ourselves to the pain, the agitation and irritation, and all the other myriad of feelings and emotions then we’ll not be aware when to make a change.  

I’ve learned this:  

If I can feel it, Spirit can heal it – when I’m willing to let it go.

Pain often comes from blocking the flow of Love.

Even if we’re intentionally blocking the flow of Love, don’t we wish to have a wake-up call in order to know when we’re hurting ourselves?

I used to deceive myself into thinking I could block the pain and still have the Joy, but I ultimately had to face the fact that it’s not possible.  If I’m not willing to feel the emotions I don’t like, and the feelings that bother or confuse me, so I block them all, that’s not going to be the end of it.  

I cannot selectively block the suffering, but allow the happy to spread like wildfire.  If I shut part of my feelings down, I’m shutting them all down.  

I’ve learned to be grateful that I get the emotions and feelings that signal when my thinking is sticking.  I’m grateful that my feelings let me know when I’ve ridden the pain train to crazy town and it’s time for me to partner UP with the Higher Holy Spirit Self.

When we realize how much healing is available to us we can learn to become grateful for the indicators that we’ve lost track of what’s REALLY going on and it’s time to partner UP.

I’ve learned not to be distracted or deterred by trying to figure out or understand the ego perceptions, the causes of upset and other ego escapades.  

Bottom line:  the ego will never understand what the spirit already knows.  And that’s because ego is nothing.  Spirit is everything.

Why mess around with trying to figure out WHY we’re having a problem when we can go direct to the problem has been healed back to the root cause?

I’ve made so many trips to crazy town on the pain train and I don’t wish to make one more.  The things I learned that healed my life and led me to the happiness I have now are the gold and diamonds of my life.  And that’s what I share in my classes.

We can learn to transcend pain and heal the root causes.

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No More Tolerating Hate Speech

Friday, October 16th, 2020

Yesterday, I saw a headline that startled me and so I posted the link to the article with the picture

And I asked this question:

“I’m curious, do you think she would feel like HER workplace was hostile if someone used the word that begins with c and rhymes with runt? Just wondering … what are your thoughts?”

The comments quickly became political, which is not what I had been hoping for. And so, I spoke up in the comments and then I revised my post all together and said this (with a couple of additional edits):

To me, this is not about politics and it’s not about this 1 person’s statement, opinion or perception: If I were a black person and someone used the N word in my work environment, I would not feel safe.

Heck, I’ll be honest you, as a white person, I wouldn’t feel safe if someone started using the N word – I would, of course, use my awareness as a spiritual student to bring Love and compassion to bring forth the wisdom of the Holy Spirit.

AND, if I didn’t have that ability, if it were me 30 years ago, I, FOR SURE would feel threatened and not safe with people using racial slurs. Because of how I was raised, I would endeavor to help the people who were using those words to raise their awareness – but that doesn’t mean it would be safe or comfortable for me.

If someone used the C*nt word in my environment I would not feel safe. I’ve had that happen and I didn’t feel safe. If people use derogatory, racial, sexual slurs around me I am not feeling myself to be in a safe environment. BECAUSE IT’S NOT SAFE. It’s not safe for ANYONE.

When people are derogatory and sarcastic, and using words that are attack words, it is an unsafe environment for EVERYONE.

If someone attacks ANYONE, they attack EVERYONE. All is one.

There’s nothing political about my bringing this up. This is about the SOCIETY and CULTURE in which we live. This is about what we find acceptable and unacceptable.

Right now, I live in Vermont, where it is 99% white people. And there are BLACK LIVES MATTER signs everywhere. There have been regular BLM demonstrations here in the town square, week after week, with ONLY white people.

This is about realizing that hateful words cause a disturbance that is NOT TO BE TRIVIALIZED.

If you were the only Jew in the room and people started using words that are derogatory ONLY about Jews, you would feel threatened and disrespected. Of course, you would.

My point is not about politics. Take the woman’s photo off this headline, her name and her opinion and just see this:

Using The N-Word at Work Doesn’t Make A Workplace “Hostile”

I’m interested in cultivating a society and community that values loving sensitivity and absolutely NO MORE TOLERANCE OF HATE SPEECH.

We must change our minds about tolerating this kind of talk in our culture. NOW.

We don’t attack the ones who use hate speech because clearly, they are already feeling attacked and threatened or they would be speaking differently. They would be living from their loving heart if THEY felt safe.

The only way that we can ALL feel safe is if we care for each other and stop attacking, and tolerating attack.

>The attacker ALWAYS feels attacked.
>The judger ALWAYS feels judged.
>The lover ALWAYS feels beloved.

Why? Because it’s EMANATING from them.

Let’s teach ONLY Love for that IS what we ALL are.

No more tolerance of hate speech.

When we hear something, see something, let’s say something – and let it be kind, from our heart. WE CAN DO THIS!

It is ours to do!
I love you!

Please feel free to comment below – and/or comment on my Facebook post here: https://www.facebook.com/jennifer.hadley.9066/

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Cultivating My Neutral Mind

Wednesday, October 14th, 2020

When we place our faith in anything other than God’s Love for us, we’ll be upset. That’s how life works.

It’s so tempting to put our trust into our own ability to judge what’s happening in the world as good or bad – but how can we really know unless we can see the cause and effect of EVERYTHING.

It was a breakthrough for me to realize that my inability to see through all directions of time and space meant it was impossible for me to really know what anything is for – and therefore I cannot know that it’s not good.

I cannot judge it good or bad at all, and actually know that I’m correct.

I used to have so many pronouncements about what is good and bad, without actually knowing and I caused myself a great deal of pain that way. That’s why I was so relieved to realize I could change that habit and stop trying to figure out if everything was good or bad and what its purpose was.

Instead, I could simply trust. Yay, God!

Right now, with all that’s happening in the world, it’s more important than ever not to judge.

Let us remember that A Course in Miracles tells us everything is actually neutral.
“To learn this course requires willingness to question every value that you hold. Not one can be kept hidden and obscure but it will jeopardize your learning. No belief is neutral. Every one has the power to dictate each decision you make. For a decision is a conclusion based on everything that you believe.” A Course in Miracles, T-24.in.2.

Our beliefs are the basis of our thoughts which are the basis of our feelings. This is why we work at the level of the mind to relinquish our attachments to the beliefs that are false and that works – it works to release the cause of suffering and to expand our Peace and happiness. It works.

Will you join me and together we’ll surrender the thoughts that upset us so. What a blessing that we can do this. We have what it takes. Holy Spirit is our trainer and we are getting in shape!

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No Enemies

Wednesday, October 7th, 2020

You probably know how much I love the sermon Rev. Dr. Martin King, Jr. gave on Loving Our Enemies. Its elevating excellence is a healing balm in a fitful world today or any day.

He took the title from Jesus who, when he walked the earth, taught us to love our enemies.

In A Course in Miracles, the teaching is really that we have no enemies, regardless of how it looks in form.

In fact, Jesus goes so far as to tell us that the one we regard as an enemy is a savior sent to help us. WOW!

My invitation to you is to look around your consciousness and your life and look at who it is you might feel hatred for. Maybe it’s someone you despise or find offensive. Jesus is telling us they are your savior.

Will you reject your savior or let the Higher Holy Spirit Self lead you and guide you to the salvation you desire?

This is an upside-down world. And accepting that helps us to navigate.

It’s a crazy thing to accept – that our enemies are our saviors, but if we’re willing the world will sweetly shift and heaven will be revealed. This I know.

If fear, worry and doubt are a concern for you. If you get blindsided by guilt and anxiety, then you might find benefit from my free classes this week – or my Finding Freedom Bootcamp that begins on Monday.

I’m offering you this class as a gift.  My gift to you.  Come and join me. Tomorrow.

7 simple steps to interrupt the patterns of fear.

We’ll go deeper into the practical tips and tools that worked for me, so you can interrupt those patterns of fear and attack and make new choices, creating new habits that support the life you desire.

It might seem impossible, but I’ve done it and helped many people learn to do this too.

Here’s the good news:
“No one can fail who seeks to reach the truth.”
That’s Lesson 131 in A Course in Miracles

You cannot fail if you’re sincerely willing to live a loving life
– you don’t have to be there already.
– start where you are.

All your previous failures are just evidence of your lack of sincerity.
Don’t be fooled by appearances.
If you’re sincerely willing to live without fear, you cannot fail.
It’s the Truth.
Now, will you prove it?
Once you prove it to yourself, there’s no going back!

If you’re coping with fear and you’d like to change that,
please register for my free class today.

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If you’d like to have a major increase in your connection with Spirit and feeling PEACE of mind, you might like my Finding Freedom From Fear, spiritual bootcamp class with ACIM principles. We start Monday, October 12th.

Join me and you’ll be able to close out this year feeling like you had one of the best years ever! This is your chance, if you’d like to join me and GO FOR IT!

Trust your intuition! If you’ve been thinking about doing my Finding Freedom From Fear Bootcamp for a while, but just haven’t been ready, consider booking an exploratory call with one of the spiritual counselors.  They can answer all your questions and you’ll know what’s best for you. 

  Book an exploratory call today!

If this is right for you right now, you’ll know it.

My Finding Freedom From Fear spiritual bootcamp isn’t for everyone – it’s for those who are willing to dive in and do the work to free their mind.  Click here now to learn more.

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Abundance Focus

Tuesday, October 6th, 2020

Healing the habits of fear isn’t easy, but it’s FAR EASIER than living in fear.

But you wouldn’t know that if you’ve always lived in fear.

One of the things that happens is that we get focused on what we don’t like and we keep investing our precious attention on the lack and limitation we see and feel – not realizing that we’re actually generating it with our thoughts.

People often feel it’s a MIRACLE when they change their thinking and then their experience changes.

I remember one time at the end of the year in Masterful Living someone had tripled their income – without doing anything different in terms of building their business or doing more to attract clients.  What they did was they shifted their consciousness to be more receptive and to focus on what they’d like to experience rather than what they didn’t want to experience.

They shifted their attention from NOT having, to having.  And, because they were less judgmental, critical and attacking in their mind, they felt more worthy of the good.

It’s really not that complicated – it’s just about the willingness to actually do the work at the level of the mind.

When our mind changes, the world of form HAS to change.

It doesn’t have a choice.  The world responds to our thinking.

We doubt because we don’t want to believe we’re that powerful.  That’s the same old story.

If you’re tired of that same old story – maybe you’d like to eliminate the patterns of fear.  I hope so.  Please join me.

That’s why I’m offering you this class as a gift. My gift to you. Come and join me. Today.
7 simple steps to interrupt the patterns of fear.

We’ll go deeper into the practical tips and tools that worked for me, so you can interrupt those patterns of fear and attack and make new choices, creating new habits that support the life you desire.

It might seem impossible, but I’ve done it and helped many people learn to do this too.

Here’s the good news:
“No one can fail who seeks to reach the truth.”
That’s Lesson 131 in A Course in Miracles

You cannot fail if you’re sincerely willing to live a loving life
– you don’t have to be there already.
– start where you are.

All your previous failures are just evidence of your lack of sincerity.
Don’t be fooled by appearances.
If you’re sincerely willing to live without fear, you cannot fail.
It’s the Truth.
Now, will you prove it?
Once you prove it to yourself, there’s no going back!

If you’re coping with fear and you’d like to change that,
please register for my free class today.

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If you’d like to have a major increase in your connection with Spirit and feeling PEACE of mind, you might like my Finding Freedom From Fear, spiritual bootcamp class with ACIM principles. We start Monday, October 12th.

Join me and you’ll be able to close out this year feeling like you had one of the best years ever! This is your chance, if you’d like to join me and GO FOR IT!

Trust your intuition! If you’ve been thinking about doing my Finding Freedom From Fear Bootcamp for a while, but just haven’t been ready, consider booking an exploratory call with one of the spiritual counselors.  They can answer all your questions and you’ll know what’s best for you. 

  Book an exploratory call today!

If this is right for you right now, you’ll know it.

My Finding Freedom From Fear spiritual bootcamp isn’t for everyone – it’s for those who are willing to dive in and do the work to free their mind.  Click here now to learn more.

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I’m Choosing Heaven Today

Monday, October 5th, 2020

Yesterday it came up in several conversations that people I know people who are very angry and upset with the President. That’s not surprising. I get it. And …

And, we’re still one with him. If one is lifted, all are lifted. Let’s lift our brother up in our consciousness.

The greatest gift anyone can receive in this world is to awaken and know the Christ in our own awareness. How can I desire that for myself, but not wish it for my brother, when we are joined in Christ?

I pray for the highest and best for all of us, because the highest and best for any one of us IS, ABSOLUTELY the highest and best for all of us. We’re united, how can something bless one person, truly bless them, and not bless everyone. I can’t see the possibility of that.

I hold for both my brother and myself, that we are rising up in our awareness, liberating from the belief in separation and I cannot go that way unless I bring my brother with me. He is my salvation. Let me not look elsewhere.

Yes, sometimes people’s choices sadden me or rather, my thoughts about them sadden me, and sometimes I get irritated or frustrated, or even angry, but still, I cannot choose heaven only for myself.

I wouldn’t want the heaven that excludes my brother.
It couldn’t be heaven.

It would be only some country club illusion of heaven that is not worth even thinking about.

All healing is at the level of the mind.

The habits of fear, and separation are at the level of the mind.

Willingness IS required.
It’s the willingness to choose Love beyond our personal preferences for how we’d like the world to be.

Love is not Love if it has conditions. That’s the healing power of Love.

Healing the habits of fear isn’t easy, but it’s FAR EASIER than living in fear. But you wouldn’t know that if you’ve always lived in fear.

That’s why I’m offering you this class as a gift. My gift to you. Come and join me. Today.
7 simple steps to interrupt the patterns of fear.

We’ll go deeper into the practical tips and tools that worked for me, so you can interrupt those patterns of fear and attack and make new choices, creating new habits that support the life you desire.

It might seem impossible, but I’ve done it and helped many people learn to do this too.

Here’s the good news:
“No one can fail who seeks to reach the truth.”
That’s Lesson 131 in A Course in Miracles

You cannot fail if you’re sincerely willing to live a loving life
– you don’t have to be there already.
– start where you are.

All your previous failures are just evidence of your lack of sincerity.
Don’t be fooled by appearances.
If you’re sincerely willing to live without fear, you cannot fail.
It’s the Truth.
Now, will you prove it?
Once you prove it to yourself, there’s no going back!

If you’re coping with fear and you’d like to change that,
please register for my free class today.

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If you’d like to have a major increase in your connection with Spirit and feeling PEACE of mind, you might like my Finding Freedom From Fear, spiritual bootcamp class with ACIM principles. We start Monday, October 12th.

Join me and you’ll be able to close out this year feeling like you had one of the best years ever! This is your chance, if you’d like to join me and GO FOR IT!

Trust your intuition! If you’ve been thinking about doing my Finding Freedom From Fear Bootcamp for a while, but just haven’t been ready, consider booking an exploratory call with one of the spiritual counselors.  They can answer all your questions and you’ll know what’s best for you. 

  Book an exploratory call today!

If this is right for you right now, you’ll know it.

My Finding Freedom From Fear spiritual bootcamp isn’t for everyone – it’s for those who are willing to dive in and do the work to free their mind.  Click here now to learn more.

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Playing Games

Friday, October 2nd, 2020

Last Thanksgiving, I had the pleasure to spend several weeks in Scottsdale, AZ near my BFF, and longtime prayer partner Karen Russo. My friend Chere came from NYC, and my friends Janice and Mike came from a few hours away and we had a lovely time playing games and celebrating my birthday.

One time, playing a board game, Karen said, “I think Jennifer needs to count her points, she may be close to winning.”

I knew that I had already won a while ago, but I didn’t wish to stop playing and I didn’t care that I’d won.

It was the journey not the destination.

One of the things I’ve talked about lately in my podcast is winning and losing. I love to play board games and card games. It’s something many of my family have in common with me. I remember loving to play Monopoly when I was pretty young.

I also remember just how competitive I used to feel and how it was an intense emotional experience. I used to get really upset if I made a “bad” move, or if I missed an opportunity. I’d get really upset about the game if I didn’t play well.

What I love now is being able to enjoy myself just as much regardless of who wins or who loses.

It really is the joy of playing that matters.

I love being able to have time with my loved ones and to be playful. I enjoy the strategy. Sometimes I win the game and sometimes I lose. I don’t have a better time when I’m winning. I never would have imagined that was possible before.

In my classes, folks sometimes share about the pain and suffering they experience when they compare themselves to others.

We say, “compare and despair.”

There’s no point in comparing. None. It always leads to a sense of lack and limitation and hence the despair.

There are so many mental habits that folks have that agitate their mind, and cause distress – and they can be eliminated MUCH more easily than we might imagine.

Comparison is a trick of the ego to help you feel more separate. It always leads to suffering. It doesn’t matter if you compare and think you’ve come out ahead or you’re lacking – since there’s only one, either way you just feel more separate.

My invitation is to look at the habit of comparing and despairing and to simply give it over to the Higher Holy Spirit Self to do the heavy lifting.

Life is a lot more fun without comparisons – they’re completely unnecessary and unhelpful most of the time. Give it up! Instead, celebrate what we have in common – for all of us, our true nature is perfect Love. Let’s celebrate what unites us and feel the unity!

If you’d like to have a major increase in your connection with Spirit and feeling PEACE of mind, you might like my Finding Freedom From Fear, spiritual bootcamp class with ACIM principles. We start Monday, October 12th.

Join me and you’ll be able to close out this year feeling like you had one of the best years ever! This is your chance, if you’d like to join me and GO FOR IT!

Trust your intuition! If you’ve been thinking about doing my Finding Freedom From Fear Bootcamp for a while, but just haven’t been ready, consider booking an exploratory call with one of the spiritual counselors.  They can answer all your questions and you’ll know what’s best for you. 

  Book an exploratory call today!

If this is right for you right now, you’ll know it.

My Finding Freedom From Fear spiritual bootcamp isn’t for everyone – it’s for those who are willing to dive in and do the work to free their mind.  Click here now to learn more.

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Healing The Unconscious Guilt

Friday, September 11th, 2020

Lately, I’ve been noticing so many more places where the unconscious guilt that A Course in Miracles talks about is driving people’s choices and they have no idea of it. There are so many patterns of pain and negativity playing out throughout our days that we’re not even aware of.

Yesterday I wrote about feeling insecure.

Insecurity comes directly from the unconscious guilt patterns.

It takes up so much of our bandwidth and yet we don’t even realize that’s the real issue.

In our essence, we’re all perfect Spirit poured into different expressions of human experience.

Somewhere along the journey, we gave ourselves permission to judge, to sort, separate and label. The more we see each other as separate, different, wrong, bad, better or worse, the more our perspective is skewed and we cannot see correctly.

We’ve cultivated a distorted perspective of being better than, worse then and separate from, and because we’ve done it on purpose, intentionally cultivating this false view of ourselves and others, we feel badly. Deep down, every one of us feels guilty for giving ourselves permission to attack others, and ourselves, with thoughts of better and worse, when deep down, we do know that we’re one with each other and not separate.

It’s an ancient guilt that we’re in the process of healing.

This ancient guilt is why we all feel less than perfectly lovable and believe it’s true even though it’s not.

We’re one with each other.

Can I possibly believe that you are less than lovable and not believe it of myself?

If deep down, I know that you and I are one, how can I actually believe that it’s possible to paint you as bad and wrong and not paint myself that way too?

Well, here’s how – we made a divide in our mind. We made a split.
We can call it right mind and wrong mind.
Clear mind and distorted mind.

With the split in our mind, we can now see ourselves as separate from each other, but it has a HUGE cost to pay in order to make the illusion of the split possible. We had to also agree that we were separate from Spirit. It was the only way.

What we didn’t realize was that the split in our mind would also prevent us from feeling our God-nature. All of our gifts that are essential to our living a joyful life would be hidden from us on the other side of the split.

In our awareness of oneness and union in Spirit we’re able to access our true divine nature and experience the many gifts of God. These gifts are our natural state of being. They are sometimes seen as colored rays of light, like the aspects of light we see in a rainbow. They are the spiritual qualities of being that we truly are such as:

  • Love
  • Joy
  • Freedom
  • Wisdom
  • Clarity
  • Peace
  • Harmony
  • Beauty
  • Wholeness
  • Prosperity
  • Purity
  • Abundance
  • And more

When we seek the kingdom first, when we put Spirit first, then all of these spiritual qualities are now awake and available in our mind. This is our true Abundance, remembering our lineage, our ancestry, our inheritance!

Our way back to our true reality is being willing to recognize what is false and stop identifying with a smaller, weaker, selfish self. We are truly miraculous beings of Love and Light and our destiny is to remember the kingdom is within. Let’s look for our blessings where we can find them, already pre-installed, within.

Instead of looking for separation and differences, let’s look for similarities and unity.

I’m getting ready for my Stop Playing Small Online Retreat on September 18.

If you’d really like to do this healing work of letting go of complaints and the other things that stand in our way of happiness and Peace, consider joining me. You can change your entire life, your relationships, your experience, your finances, your body, your happiness and peace of mind. Consider this:

You will never regret your choice, and you’ll only be so glad you did – at least that’s what I hear from the people who have done it.

Get going. Take action. Be aggressive about working with your mind. DO NOT DELAY. If you’re waiting, if you’re not getting the results you’d like, what are you waiting for?

Don’t take my word for it, read the testimonials from those who have done this work with me. They believed that nothing would work for them, and they were willing to do something different anyway. Now, they’re not playing small anymore. They’re not letting fear dictate their life. They have a real and powerful connection with Spirit.

If you’re ready to make a change, and you’d like some REAL support to make a LASTING change, TAKE ACTION! If you’re interested in either my Stop Playing Small Online Retreat or Finding Freedom From Fear Online Spiritual Bootcamp, but you aren’t sure if either is right for you right now, book an Exploratory Call with one of the spiritual counselors. The call is free and you’ll find benefit in addition to getting all your questions answered. Click here now to book an Exploratory Call with a Spiritual Counselor.

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Insecure

Thursday, September 10th, 2020

I used to be an insecure person.  I didn’t know it, and would never have believed it, but the cause of my insecurity was my constant judging.  My mind was rarely out of attack mode and that left me feeling vulnerable most of the time.  

When I look back, it’s amazing how much energy I invested each day in defending myself and attacking others.  It’s a wonder I got anything accomplished at all!

I see many people who fritter their life and inner resources away keeping score in their relationships instead of being ALL IN for Love.  You know your affection is conditional when you have expectations and make demands.

Sometimes folks who feel insecure will poke and poke others to agitate and get others to reject them.  It’s classic.  People who have abandonment issues will push others away.  We do all these crazy things to prove that what we believe is true.

BUT it does NOT prove what we believe is true.

All it proves is that we believe it and so we’re experiencing it.

If you REALLY look at it, what IS proved is that we’re powerful manifesters!

It can be really exhausting and tiresome to have someone you love pushing you away.

However, once realize that it’s a cry for Love and they don’t really know what they’re doing we can drop our judgments and love them.

Some people have a difficult time letting you love them.  

It’s like that old Woody Allen joke “I’d never join a club that would allow me to become a member.”  

They don’t trust and it doesn’t feel safe.  They’re anticipating rejection and so they will do their dance until you agree they aren’t worth it.  They can be so insistent.  

Life is filled with these experiences and as long as we don’t judge it, we’ll continue to have less and less of them.  We’re here to be truly helpful.  The most helpful thing we can be is both compassionate AND having healthy boundaries.

Some people will begin to relax when they see you really do love them.

And some people aren’t ready to accept it.  This is when we do our work in the invisible – our prayer practice and our forgiveness.  It’s powerful and life-changing.  

Let’s not invest ourselves in these ego games anymore – we have more fulfilling ways to invest our time and energy!

Have you had the experience I’m talking about?  Please tell us about it and share in the comments below!  Let’s join together for our healing!  Thank you!

I’m getting ready for my Stop Playing Small Online Retreat on September 18.

If you’d really like to do this healing work of letting go of complaints and the other things that stand in our way of happiness and Peace, consider joining me. You can change your entire life, your relationships, your experience, your finances, your body, your happiness and peace of mind. Consider this:

You will never regret your choice, and you’ll only be so glad you did – at least that’s what I hear from the people who have done it.

Get going. Take action. Be aggressive about working with your mind. DO NOT DELAY. If you’re waiting, if you’re not getting the results you’d like, what are you waiting for?

Don’t take my word for it, read the testimonials from those who have done this work with me. They believed that nothing would work for them, and they were willing to do something different anyway. Now, they’re not playing small anymore. They’re not letting fear dictate their life. They have a real and powerful connection with Spirit.

If you’re ready to make a change, and you’d like some REAL support to make a LASTING change, TAKE ACTION! If you’re interested in either my Stop Playing Small Online Retreat or Finding Freedom From Fear Online Spiritual Bootcamp, but you aren’t sure if either is right for you right now, book an Exploratory Call with one of the spiritual counselors. The call is free and you’ll find benefit in addition to getting all your questions answered. Click here now to book an Exploratory Call with a Spiritual Counselor.

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Mean Intent

Tuesday, September 8th, 2020

Bobbi, my brother’s new puppy dog, Bobbi – just about 8 months old – ate my slipper yesterday.  Sigh.  I really liked that slipper and they don’t make them anymore.  Isn’t that how it goes sometimes?  

I have to say, it gave me a moment of feeling pissed.  All attachments cause suffering – that’s the teaching of Buddha.  

Of course, I was annoyed with myself for having taken it off in a place where she could get it.  Life!!  I could have been upset the rest of the day – but what good would that do?

There are times when we say we’d like the Peace of God, but, sometimes, we really don’t. Have you ever had someone cut you off in traffic and you wished they get caught by the police?  Have you ever had someone disappoint you and you wished them some kind of difficulty?

Okay, this may sound crazy to you, but I’ve known many people, including myself, who have, at times of stress, wished for bad things to happen.

I’ve even known people who’ve wished for “bad” things to happen to themselves so they could feel even more like a victim and get sympathy from others.  It’s that old pattern of wanting negative attention if there’s no positive attention available.  

Wishing for bad things to happen to someone else is more understandable for most people than wishing bad things to happen to themselves.

Wishing bad things on anyone is wishing for a punishment.

And that’s one of the key components of the ego thought system.

The ego thought system is one of sin and punishment.

When people don’t like what someone’s done, they jump on the punishment bandwagon.  People talk about punishment as a deterrent, but it really doesn’t work.

Punishment is for those who blame and shame.  

You may not realize it, because we often don’t wish to see it, but many people punish themselves and punish others as a way of trying to handle how vulnerable and powerless they feel.  There are many subtle ways that people punish themselves and others.  

Hoping something bad happens to themselves, people are often looking to get some kind of justification for feeling like a victim, or even to punish others.  When I was much younger, I definitely saw myself wishing for bad things to happen to me so that others would feel bad, that it was their fault.  

Some people try to hurt their loved ones by hurting themselves.  It’s definitely insane.  And that’s what the ego is, pure insanity.  

People feel unworthy of Love and sometimes they wish for something bad to happen to them so that people will have sympathy for them.  They feel it’s the only way they can get attention or kindness.  It never feels good, but, to some, it’s better than no attention all.

Wishing punishment on others only intensifies the guilt we feel, and then we feel we deserve to be punished.  It’s a destructive cycle we can break out of by being aware and practicing kindness.

His Holiness, the Dalai Lama has said that his religion is kindness.  That really resonates with me.  I aspire to be kind always and I am getting closer every day.  When we’re forgiving ourselves and others, we’re practicing the ultimate kindness.  

Forgiveness leads to compassion, and that’s Love.  It’s liberating.

In our current political climate, I’ve heard people wishing for economic hard times because they believe then the current president wouldn’t be reelected.  I get that, but it’s not what I wish for.  I wish for Love and kindness to be valued.  I pray that truth is revealed and Love prevails.  I feel it happening and so I don’t even need to hope for good.  I know it is happening now.  

Healing is happening now.  

Truth is being revealed now.  

Love will prevail.  

Have you had a time when you wished for something bad to happen to someone or to yourself?  Have you forgiven yourself?  If not, there’s no time like the present!  Please share in the comments below!

I’m getting ready for my Stop Playing Small Online Retreat on September 18. If you’d really like to do this healing work of letting go of complaints and the other things that stand in our way of happiness and Peace, consider joining me. You can change your entire life, your relationships, your experience, your finances, your body, your happiness and peace of mind. Consider this:

You won’t regret your choice, and you’ll only be so glad you did – at least that’s what I hear from the people who’ve done it.  

Get going.  Take action.  Be aggressive about working with your mind.  DO NOT DELAY.  If you’re waiting, if you’re not getting the results you’d like, what are you waiting for?

Don’t take my word for it, read the testimonials from those who have done this work with me.  They believed that nothing would work for them, and they were willing to do something different anyway.  Now, they’re not playing small anymore.  They’re not letting fear dictate their life.  They have a real and powerful connection with Spirit.

If you’re ready to make a change, and you’d like some REAL support to make a LASTING change, TAKE ACTION! If you’re interested in either my Stop Playing Small Online Retreat or Finding Freedom From Fear Online Spiritual Bootcamp, but you aren’t sure if either is right for you right now, book an Exploratory Call with one of the spiritual counselors. The call is free and you’ll find benefit in addition to getting all your questions answered. Click here now to book an Exploratory Call with a Spiritual Counselor.

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Not Right About Everything

Friday, August 14th, 2020

I used to have the habit of correcting everyone and calling to attention their shortcomings and faults. I would often do it in the form of being curious – but it was really just about me being right. I can still find myself doing this sometimes and I wish I didn’t. I’m working on it.

One thing about me is I truly am curious about learning new things and more effective and efficient ways to live this life of Love. I often find that people have ways to do things that are more helpful than what I’ve thought of. I think of my life as a team effort.

To learn anything at all is a blessing.

My challenge used to be that I always thought I was right.

To be honest, I really needed to be right and I’d fight for it.

When I was in my 20’s I’d have endless arguments with friends. They were the kind of arguments that were heated “discussions.” I liked arguing that way.

A couple of people who both need to be right about everything, arguing about nothing important, for hours and hours. It seemed to give life meaning.

Have you ever done that?
Worked so hard to get a victory about nothing?

If only I could get those years of meaningless arguments back …

I did learn from the experience. I learned that’s a giant waste of time!

Fortunately, now, I can walk away from the invitation to argue about nothing and feel good about myself.

I’m so grateful that I can be incorrect about something and it’s not a big deal.

I’m truly relieved to learn about the errors of my thinking and I feel blessed that I’m surrounded by people who can help me live and learn in a most elegant and fruitful way.

When we use our life force to be belligerent and argumentative, we’re going to feel badly about ourselves, and we don’t need any more of that. Enough!

Isn’t it a blessing that we can learn, grow and change our minds?
Who knew we could be happy not being right about everything?
What a relief!

If you’d like to get some inspiration, and also support this ministry, you can sign up for daily inspirational text messages. You can make a one-time donation for as little as $1 or set up a recurring donation to support this ministry as an active tither. These texts are such a blessing to me – I get them every day and I love them. They always seem to come with the perfect timing! Divine timing! Click here now to learn more.

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Not Waiting Anymore

Thursday, August 13th, 2020

My beautiful friend, Laurie Schur is a poet, filmmaker, therapist, and all-round beautiful woman and she often shares wonderful and inspiring things with me like this poem.  

Life at Midlife

I am no longer waiting for a special occasion; I burn the best candles on ordinary days.

I am no longer waiting for the house to be clean; I fill it with people who understand that even dust is Sacred.

I am no longer waiting for everyone to understand me; it’s just not their task.

I am no longer waiting for *the perfect children; my children have their own names that burn as brightly as any star.

I am no longer waiting for the other shoe to drop; It already did, and I survived.

I am no longer waiting for the time to be right; the time is always now.

I am no longer waiting for the mate who will complete me; I am grateful to be so warmly, tenderly held.

I am no longer waiting for a quiet moment; my heart can be stilled whenever it is called.

I am no longer waiting for the world to be at peace; I unclench my grasp and breathe peace in and out.

I am no longer waiting to do something great; being awake to carry my grain of sand is enough.

I am no longer waiting to be recognized; I know that I dance in a holy circle.

I am no longer waiting for Forgiveness.

I believe, I Believe. 

Mary Anne Perrone

In reading this beautiful poem, I’m so clear that I too am no longer waiting for things that I used to wait for when I was a younger woman.  

I like to use the good china even if it’s just me.  

I’m not waiting for a special occasion.

I can tell people I love them, without an excuse.   

I love you.

I am grateful!

I am choosing to remember that I’m already as holy as holy can be and I’m not waiting to get there!

I am choosing to realize that I am already free and to go there in my mind – no more waiting!

If you’d like to get some inspiration, and also support this ministry, you can sign up for daily inspirational text messages. You can make a one-time donation for as little as $1 or set up a recurring donation to support this ministry as an active tither. These texts are such a blessing to me – I get them every day and I love them. They always seem to come with the perfect timing! Divine timing! Click here now to learn more.

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No Comparison

Friday, July 3rd, 2020

When I lived in West Hollywood, I took yoga classes with models and movie stars. The competition for the title of “the most beautiful woman in the room” was intense. The more beautiful women there were, the more insecure women there were. It was a real learning for me.

In yoga class, it was easy to fall into comparing myself to others who were not only fitter than me, more attractive by cultural standards and more famous.

I haven’t ever been able to do a handstand. Many of the women in class with me could easily do handstands. I learned to say to myself “I can do that. Just not today.” It helped me to get over my comparisons.

One of the biggest points of pain we have is the suffering we experience caused by the habit of comparing ourselves to others. Only the ego compares. The heart knows we are united in Oneness.

When we’re comparing ourselves to others, more often than not we’re looking to come up short. We’re intending to find ourselves as failing. It’s an act of self-sabotage. It’s adding insult to injury. Can it possibly bring any benefit? No. None. It’s just a trick of the ego to help us feel more separate.

Comparison always leads to more suffering.

Whether we compare and think we’ve come out ahead or come out lacking, since there’s only one, either way we just feel more separate.

If I love my friend, would I encourage them to compare themselves to someone who seems better than them or more special? I would never say to a friend, “you’re not the best cook. I know a few other people I like better than you who are also much better cooks. You’re not so great. You’re just ok.”

Of course I wouldn’t say that to someone I cared about.
But people say things like that to themselves ALL THE TIME.

And it hurts!
It wears us down.

Comparison is judgment. All judgment is for the purpose of reinforcing separation. All belief in separation causes feelings of fear. Comparison is PURE separation thinking.

Let’s have an active practice of relating to others rather than comparing.

Let’s get into feeling the unity of all life.

Let’s watch our mind when it comes to comparing, attacking and needing or wanting to be better than someone else. The habit of comparing can be really sneaky, but since there’s no good that can come of it, just let it go every time you see it.

I find one of the best ways to let a negative thought pattern go is to make myself laugh about it. So, that’s why in my classes we say “compare and despair.” The rhyme helps us to be light-hearted and to remember to laugh. And let’s face it, it also reminds not to go down the road of despair!

There’s great healing that can come from our spiritual practice and it’s a benefit to all beings!

If you’d like to have a major increase in your choosing self-Love and kindness, you might like my Finding Freedom From Fear, spiritual boot camp class with ACIM principles. I haven’t offered this class in 9 months – this is your chance, if you’d like to join me and GO FOR IT!

PLUS, I’m recording all new classes.

If this is right for you right now, you’ll know it.

Trust your intuition! If you’ve been thinking about doing my Finding Freedom From Fear Boot camp for a while, but just haven’t been ready, consider booking an exploratory call with one of the spiritual counselors. They can answer all your questions and you’ll know what’s best for you. Book an exploratory call today!

My Finding Freedom From Fear spiritual boot camp isn’t for everyone – it’s for those who are willing to dive in and live the Love. Click here now to learn more.

We begin MONDAY, July 6! With a BONUS CLASS on July 5th. This is going to be SO good because I am ON FIRE!

Let’s have REAL and lasting transformation this summer with spiritual practice that brings benefit and healing for all. Now is the time for us to dive deep and eliminate the patterns of fear in our life. I thank you for being on the journey with me!

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The “Dynamics” of the Ego

Tuesday, June 30th, 2020

Many people who are A Course in Miracles students like me have come to think of the ego as though it’s a being with it’s own volition.  We’re Dr. Jekyl and the ego is Mr. Hyde.  Only it’s not.  The ego, according to ACIM, is a thought system that is very layered, and dense and that has it’s own logic which is completely illogical.

The ego thought system is the mechanism by which our belief in separation is kept in place.  

Many of us think of the ego as the enemy, but it doesn’t make sense.  

The ego is a thought system that we have chosen to think “through” in the sense that it is something like a lens through which we’re viewing our experiences.  It colors our experiences when we view the world through it, but we don’t have to.

The ego is not a decision maker.  We are.

The ego is not the one who chooses.  We are.

The ego is not in charge.  We are.

The ego is not part of God.  We are.

We’ve trained ourselves to believe that we’re a small selfish self that is a victim of life’s circumstances and situations.  We’re not that.  That’s the ego thought system’s view and we’ve taught ourselves to believe it.

Because it’s not real, it’s false, we can abandon it and recover ourselves.

We think of the ego like an enemy because we feel caught up in it and deceived by it.

Well, that’s understandable.  So, if the ego SEEMS like the enemy, let’s understand it in order to undo it.  

Let’s learn about how the ego thought system can be quickly undone and we can awaken in this dream of separation.  That’s what I’m interested in.  I am so glad that we CAN undo these thoughts and beliefs, and that it doesn’t have to take forever.  We can learn to be the happy learner and we can demonstrate it so others can learn too!

To me, this is the most tremendous blessing!  We’re already as holy as holy can be AND we get to share!

If undoing that feeling of being trapped by the ego is a challenge, you might like my  Finding Freedom From Fear, spiritual bootcamp class with ACIM principles.  I haven’t offered this class in 9 months – this is your chance, if you’d like to join me and GO FOR IT!

PLUS I’m recording all new classes.

If this is right for you right now, you’ll know it.

Trust your intuition! If you’ve been thinking about doing my Finding Freedom From Fear Bootcamp for a while, but just haven’t been ready, consider booking an exploratory call with one of the spiritual counselors. They can answer all your questions and you’ll know what’s best for you. Book an exploratory call today!

My Finding Freedom From Fear spiritual boot camp isn’t for everyone – it’s for those who are willing to dive in and live the Love. Click here now to learn more.

We begin July 6! This is going to be SO good because I am ON FIRE!

Let’s have REAL and lasting transformation this summer with a spiritual practice that brings benefits and healing for all. Now is the time for us to dive deep and eliminate the patterns of fear in our life. I thank you for being on the journey with me!

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A Course In Miracles Community and Unexamined Racism

Monday, June 8th, 2020

Wow!  Yesterday’s Sundays With Spirit service was SO POWERFUL!  I felt so much healing for all of us and I encourage you to watch the replay if you didn’t get to see it.  (You can watch the replay in the member site – or watch it at facebook.)

My dear friend, Corinne Zupko, brought a powerful and heart-opening message about compassionate listening that was deeply healing. These services we’re doing are so nourishing to the Spirit.

We’re really looking at separation consciousness and how it affects us at every level.  We’re doing the deep work of truly living the ACIM Principles and working the lessons.  It’s so wonderful to be able to do it together.

One of the things Corinne talked about was her Open Letter to the A Course In Miracles Community About Unexamined Racism.  I feel what she has to say is really worth reading and pondering and so I’m sharing it here.  Please let me know your thoughts about it in the comments below!  

Greetings mighty companions,

It’s time to look at the lessons in our mind that “hurt and hinder you, and everyone around you.”

This letter is an invitation to open communication surrounding an issue that desperately needs our attention: the issue of racism in the world, and how it factors into the Course in Miracles community.

I’m specifically speaking to my companions who also appear to walk this world, like me, in a white body.

Before you read any further, please remember how important it is to be radically honest with yourself and with Holy Spirit about what is arising in your mind. As you read, watch your mind with vigilance and veracity because I’m going to likely say things that trigger the ego. Notice the faintest hint of defensiveness, guilt, or fear that arises in the mind as I bring up issues surrounding race. These feelings arising must be acknowledged and taken to Holy Spirit.

In addition, if you are already noticing resistance arise or an inclination to dismiss what I’m saying because this is an issue “of the world” or that “I’m making it real” I hope you will acknowledge that, take a breath, and keep reading.

I am not “making racism real” by talking about it. Racism is built into the fabric of the very dream we are dreaming. Those of us in white bodies simply have the privilege of being able to easily ignore it. Just as we have experienced many “aha” moments in our studies of A Course in Miracles, it’s time to start experiencing “aha” moments surrounding our own unchecked racism.

I started following black and brown anti-racism educators after two online racist incidents occurred with two separate popular, white, well-intentioned spiritual teachers a few years ago. Since then, my eyes have been opened as to how well-intentioned spiritual teachers and teachings can perpetuate racism, even in our beloved Course community.

It is time for students of A Course in Miracles in white bodies to take responsibility for our unexamined racism and supremacy.

You might immediately think, “Racism? Supremacy? That’s definitely not referring to me. I love everybody!”

Remember what I said about watching what is coming up in your mind and looking at it with Holy Spirit. There is going to be an immediate tendency to deny that I’m talking about anything that applies to you. If you are in a white body, this does apply to you. If you have the thought that there is no racism in you and you are certain that I am wrong, please keep reading.

By racism and supremacy, I am NOT referring to you having negative feelings or conscious hatred towards black or brown people. You can love black and brown people and still have unchecked racism and supremacy within your mind. You can be married to someone of a different race, or be the parent of children of a different race, but have overt and covert racism and supremacy within you.

Scott Woods says it best in his book, “New Framings on Anti-Racism and Resistance:”

“The problem is that white people see racism as conscious hate, when racism is bigger than that. Racism is a complex system of social and political levers and pulleys set up generations ago to continue working on the behalf of whites at other people’s expense, whether whites know/like it or not. Racism is an insidious cultural disease. It is so insidious that it doesn’t care if you are a white person who likes black people; it’s still going to find a way to infect how you deal with people who don’t look like you. Yes, racism looks like hate, but hate is just one manifestation. Privilege is another. Access is another. Ignorance is another. Apathy is another. And so on. So while I agree with people who say no one is born racist, it remains a powerful system that we’re immediately born into. It’s like being born into air: you take it in as soon as you breathe. It’s not a cold that you can get over. There is no anti-racist certification class. It’s a set of socioeconomic traps and cultural values that are fired up every time we interact with the world. It is a thing you have to keep scooping out of the boat of your life to keep from drowning in it. I know it’s hard work, but it’s the price you pay for owning everything.”

Unless we are actively engaged in lifelong, active anti-racist work, we are likely walking around with hidden biases, unacknowledged privilege, and unseen racism. And the fact that we don’t see these things actually makes us more likely to cause harm to people of color.

By the way, if you react against the word “anti-racism” because you don’t want to be “anti” anything and are only “for” peace, please take in these words:

Just as A Course in Miracles prompts us to be vigilant and take an active role in bringing our perceptions to the Holy Spirit in order to heal the mind, to heal racism requires taking an active (not a passive) stand. “Anti-racism” means being vigilant and wholly committed to healing the racism and supremacy within the mind so we stop hurting people of color.

Racism is in the air we breathe, and we uphold racism and supremacy when we don’t acknowledge it or take action to dismantle it.

Being in a white body means that we’ve been born into a system that favors white bodies at the expense of brown and black bodies, and has thus influenced our perceptions, our opportunities, most if not all aspects of our lives, and even our spiritual practice. And it is really hard to see our own racism without help. We can easily ignore it. You can easily ignore it.

As we know as students of A Course in Miracles, we must see how the ego hides out.

And I truly believe we are being called to look at our own racism and supremacy, an issue that is not discussed in A Course in Miracles, but that is playing a huge part in our lives.

The purpose of this letter is to address how we can mistakenly (and unknowingly) use the teachings of A Course in Miracles to actually keep racism and supremacy in place.

The purpose of this article is not to expose your hidden racism, but I do have recommendations for how you can begin anti-racism work at the end of this letter. It is work that requires a lifelong commitment and is not complete from just reading a book or article or affirming that you love everybody.

By shedding light on this, I hope that we, as a Course community, can take a “giant stride” in our efforts to heal the mind, and therefore heal the world.

My hope is that this letter will ignite a desire in you to move into action to deeply engage with anti-racism work and exhume these unseen blocks to love in your mind.

To begin, we can all relate to how A Course in Miracles states radical ideas. Rather than actively deny what the Course says, (e.g. “I don’t do that! I don’t attack my brother!”) we are asked instead to look carefully how we may, in fact, do what the Course says we do (e.g. “have hidden attack thoughts,” that we “attack God” etc.).

I invite you to use the same spirit of openness with this topic of racism. Rather than saying “I don’t have racism or supremacy in me” please consider that you actually DO have these things in you. I have these things in me. We just don’t see them. This is not a cause for guilt or shame. It is a call to get to work.

Anti-racism work is how you begin to expose and heal your racism.

I must immediately mention though, that Rachel Cargle, a black anti-racism educator says, “Anti-racism work is not self-improvement work for white people.” It doesn’t end when YOU feel better. “It ends when black people are staying alive and they have their liberation.”

If you don’t engage in anti-racism work, your own racism stays hidden, keeping a system of white supremacy in place, and your brothers and sisters of color who you claim to love, keep dying, suffering, and crying out for you to see them and to hear them.

So here is my first point:
 

1. WHEN BLACK PEOPLE, INDIGENOUS PEOPLE, AND PEOPLE OF COLOR ARE SYSTEMATICALLY OPPRESSED BY THE WHITE MAJORITY OF WHICH YOU ARE A PART, WHEN BLACK MEN AND WOMEN ARE MURDERED AT THE HANDS OF WHITE POLICE, SIMPLY REAFFIRMING THE TRUTH IN YOUR MIND (THAT WE HAVE NOT LEFT GOD, THAT WE ARE DREAMING, ETC.) WITH NO OTHER ACTION IS LIKELY A SPIRITUAL BYPASS AND AN EXCUSE TO DO NO FURTHER WORK.

By spiritual bypass, I am referring to using spiritual ideas to avoid doing inner (and outer) work.

Yes, only the Truth is True and nothing else is True. Yes, we have not left God. Yes, this world is not our Home.

But let me ask you this; If you were walking by a lake and saw someone drowning, would you yell to them and say, “Hey! Don’t worry, it’s not real!” Or would you throw them a life ring?

(Note: By the way, I didn’t come up with this life ring example but read it somewhere on Facebook some time ago. If you know who came up with this example, please let me know and I will gladly quote them).

We MUST be where we are. I’m sure you’d throw that person a life ring because we very much believe we are these bodies. Simply telling yourself “I am not a body” is not going to heal your belief in a body. To learn that you are not a body and have experiences of this teaching, you do your Course in Miracles work.

In the same fashion, because we believe we are bodies, telling yourself “I am not racist” doesn’t make racism go away. In fact, it keeps the problem in place because it goes unseen and stays in shadows. Instead, we need to look at our own internalized racism to clearly see it.

Similarly, simply stopping at “we are one” or “only the truth is true” with no other exhuming of hidden beliefs will keep racism in place. Yes, only the Truth is true. This makes YOU feel better. It restores YOUR peace. If you stop here, this is your white privilege in action, using Truth as an excuse to spiritually bypass the anti-racism work that we desperately need to do to heal racism.

The world is not external to you. It is in YOUR mind. We know this as Course students. So racism IS your problem, not “society’s problem” or someone else’s problem. It is a manifestation coming from within your mind. And you can help by engaging in anti-racism work.

The Course DOES teach that as we heal we do not heal alone, so your affirmation of Truth on some level must be helpful, but your own internal racism goes unseen and continues in the shadows of your mind. This needs to be exhumed.

True healing brings about a healing for ALL. All of us in the Course community have been engaging in our forgiveness work, and I truly believe we are now being asked to forgive our OWN internalized racism and supremacy. For this, we need to do additional work beyond our affirmation of truth. We must come to see how racism and supremacy are alive within us so we can begin to dismantle it.
 

2. BE WILLING TO ACKNOWLEDGE DIFFERENCES INSTEAD OF JUMPING TO OUR ONENESS.

I recently had an exchange with someone online who was troubled that an article highlighted a “black scientist.” They said, “why does it have to be highlighted that the scientist is black? This divides us when we are all one!”

I shared that if they had not highlighted that it was a black scientist, most white brains would have thought that the black man in the article’s photo was a model or an assistant. Not the lead scientist. This is just one example of internalized racism in action (and it is only one reason of many as to why it is important to highlight that the scientist is black).

When we jump to statements like, “we are all one” we are using our supremacy to deny that the day to day life of black people, indigenous people and people of color are very different than yours. For instance:

A dear friend of mine is a clinical psychologist. She obtained her Ph.D. in what I consider to be the most rigorous psychology program in existence. She makes great money, drives a nice car, and is one of the most brilliant women who I know. She is black.

On her drive home from a shopping trip to the mall, she got pulled over. The cop saw all of her shopping bags in the back seat. He made her show him every single receipt to prove she did not shoplift her items. This would never happen to me as a white woman.

And then there is this sign:

So, please, stop saying we are all one in the world. In Truth, YES, of course we are all one. But we are identified with bodies in this world, having vastly different experiences. And this needs to be acknowledged instead of dismissed. Please SEE that people of color are having very different experiences than you in this world.
 

3. BE WILLING TO GET UNCOMFORTABLE, VERY UNCOMFORTABLE, AND OFTEN.

It is a privilege for you as a white body to not have to think about race. It doesn’t seem to affect you so you may see yourself totally dissociated from the problem.

As I mentioned earlier, racism and supremacy are built into the fabric of the way the world works. White bodies benefit from systemic racism. We need to see this clearly.

As students of A Course in Miracles, we are asked to look at our blocks to love and hand over those blocks to Holy Spirit. As long as you deny that the blocks of racism and supremacy are yours and in your mind, and as long as you don’t see how racism and supremacy influences how you interact with the world, you can’t truly “hand it over.” Racism is not “out there” totally dissociated from you.

To do anti-racism work, it requires you to get uncomfortable. You are going to feel defensive, triggered and upset, all of the ego reactions that we don’t like experiencing.

To heal racism, we need to be willing to get uncomfortable and be willing to feel all of the feelings that are going to arise and not turn away from the work.
 

4. “NOT FEELING GUIDED” TO TAKE ACTION CAN BE AN EXCUSE FOR ACTUALLY BEING FEARFUL TO TAKE ACTION OR SIMPLY NOT KNOWING WHAT ACTION TO TAKE, OR FOR JUST BEING LAZY.

It is true that we must ask for guidance always. But what I’ve found in my own life is that if I don’t know how to take action, or if I’m afraid to take action, it is a very convenient excuse to simply say, “I don’t feel guided.”

“Not feeling guided” can also be a smokescreen for being lazy. And laziness in this area is white privilege, showing up yet again.

Watch your mind carefully in this area. Seeing this requires radical honesty with Spirit.
 

5. STOP SAYING ALL LIVES MATTER.

To quote my friend and fellow Course teacher, Joe Baker, “This sounds Course-like, but it co-opts the fact that people of color are disproportionately targeted.”

If you need more of an explanation as to why saying “all lives matter” is damaging and hurtful to black communities, read more about this topic here: https://www.vox.com/2016/7/11/12136140/black-all-lives-matter
 

6. STOP TALKING AND START LISTENING.

It is not a time to make YOURSELF feel better by simply reminding yourself that this “isn’t real” or that your part is simply to “love everybody.” One of the kindest things you can do is to listen and listen deeply. Making what is going on for black people and people of color about you or taking what they are going through and analyzing it under spiritual teachings is unkind. It is dismissive.
 

7. GET CURIOUS ABOUT WHY OUR COURSE COMMUNITY SEEMS TO BE MOSTLY COMPRISED OF WHITE BODIES.

I have not been to every study group on the planet, but by far and large, every Course in Miracles conference I’ve attended or spoken at, every event and gathering I’ve been to, and every study group I’ve attended predominately consists of white bodies.

A climate of safety is established when people in white bodies become aware of how they have caused harm to black people, indigenous people and people of color, either intentionally or unintentionally and take responsibility for it. And they talk openly about it.

We have caused hurt through what we thought were only loving words.

We have caused hurt by our silence.

We have caused hurt by our lack of understanding of (or refusal to understand) our own internalized racism.

We have caused hurt by making a racial issue about us.

A black friend told me that A Course in Miracles circles are not safe enough for brown and black people, and I agree. And for the people of color who stick around, I believe they are quite a demonstration of tolerance and forgiveness.

And please don’t approach the person(s) of color in your study group to try to make yourself feel better regarding the safeness of the group. Instead, it is important for white ACIM teachers and students to exhume racism and supremacy in the mind through actively engaging in anti-racism work. This must be done to make our community safe for brown and black people. Resources are below.
 

8. “SEEK NOT TO CHANGE THE WORLD BUT SEEK TO CHANGE YOUR MIND ABOUT THE WORLD.”

The Course teaches us that the entire world is a projection of our minds. And so the only way to heal the world is to heal the mind.

We are highly motivated to look at the beliefs in our mind that impact our day to day life. We are motivated to change our minds surrounding finances, lack vs. abundance, sickness, physical pain, our relationships with family members, friends, colleagues, etc.

If it is personal, we’re motivated to look at it.

Racism is personal to you, even if you don’t immediately see how. My hope is that you will feel motivated to look more deeply at what is buried in your mind surrounding supremacy and racism. A knee-jerk reaction of “this is not my problem” or “I don’t have a problem of white privilege or white supremacy” is a red flag that there is, in fact, more to be examined here.

It is true that to change the world we must change our minds, but this will remain a while off unless we take an active part in exhuming what is hidden.
 

9. PLEASE DON’T ASK YOUR BLACK OR BROWN COURSE IN MIRACLES FRIEND(S) OR STUDY GROUP PARTICIPANT(S) HOW YOU CAN BE AN ALLY.

They’ve been carrying the emotional weight of racism and supremacy far longer than you’ve been aware of it. Don’t ask them to educate you. Please check out a resource like this instead and do more internet research: https://sojo.net/articles/our-white-friends-desiring-be-allies
 

10. A COURSE IN MIRACLES IS UNCOMPROMISING ABOUT WHERE HEALING OCCURS BUT WE OFTEN MISS AN IMPORTANT POINT TO MAINTAIN WHITE BODY COMFORT.

A Course in Miracles teaches that healing occurs at the level of the mind. But if we stop with this thought we are missing something VERY important that is central to A Course in Miracles. Healing happens THROUGH OUR RELATIONSHIPS. This is what makes A Course in Miracles unique from other pathways.

You alone cannot heal the mind.

“The lamp lit in both of you for one another.” (ACIM CE T-20.III.11:6.)

You need your brother (note: by “brother” I am using Course language and am referring to ALL of us). You need your black and brown brothers. Healing takes TWO. You need to see the Truth in your brother. AND you need to see how you have caused harm to your brothers in black and brown bodies in order to fully release the guilt and fear in BOTH of your minds.
 

11. HARM HAPPENS WHEN WE USE THE TEACHINGS OF A COURSE IN MIRACLES TO GASLIGHT PEOPLE OF COLOR WHEN THEY TRY TO RAISE THESE ISSUES FOR US TO SEE. ONE OF THE MOST DAMAGING RESPONSES WE CAN SAY IS, “IF YOU ARE NOT HAPPY YOU ARE DOING THIS TO YOURSELF.”

This turns A Course in Miracles into a weapon.

White bodies play an active part in upholding racism and supremacy, but when we refuse to see this or learn how this is so, we are telling a brother of color that their suffering is totally their responsibility. It is time to stop doing this. It is time to take responsibility for the part we play in upholding racism and supremacy.

Instead, when black and brown people try to raise these issues for us to see, our job is to listen. And listen hard.

My white mighty companions, we have refused to see. Please let this be a true new beginning where we no longer deny our role in upholding racism, supremacy and harming our brothers of color.

You may respond by saying that a person of color is making a mistake by identifying with their body in the first place. But your brother cannot know their Christ Self until YOU release them by seeing that YOU had a part in maintaining their identification with their body through your unseen racism and supremacy.

It is time for those of us in white bodies to take responsibility, to listen, and to see.
 

12. AGAIN, REMEMBER THIS TEACHING FROM THE COURSE:

“You have one test, as sure as God, by which to recognize if what you learned is true. If you are wholly free of fear of any kind, and if all those who meet or even think of you share in your perfect peace, then you can be sure that you have learned God’s lesson, and not your own. Unless all this is true, there are dark lessons in your mind that hurt and hinder you, and everyone around you.”

Let us stay open to learning what we have refused to see. Let us exhume the racism and supremacy in our minds, which has gone unchecked for far too long. Let us do the important work of learning how to be anti-racist, so we can be truly helpful and truly extend love to our brothers. Please explore the resources below for next steps and for black educators to follow.
 

>>> If you resonated with this letter, if you are willing to commit to exhuming the ego’s hidden racism, supremacy, biases and assumptions within your mind to help the healing of the Sonship, PLEASE SHARE THIS LETTER on your platforms, with your communities, with fellow students of A Course in Miracles and with your teachers of A Course in Miracles. <<<

With love, open eyes, open ears, and an open heart,
Corinne Zupko

I encourage you to go to Corinne’s site and see the letter there.  She’s listed great resources that will really support you.  

Now is the time for us to educate ourselves and help each other to learn what we can do to undo systemic racism.  We continue to work at the level of the mind, that’s our primary focus.  And it’s time for us to do as Jesus tells us in the Course, “Listen, learn, and do.”  

After service yesterday, Corinne shared this portion of ACIM at facebook:

“Speaking at Jennifer Hadley‘s Sundays with Spirit was AMAZING!! I spoke about the Healing Power of Listening Deeply.

Here is the quote I ended my talk with for those who requested it. This is in the Complete and Annotated Edition of A Course in Miracles under Miracle Principle #26 (page 19):

“You now share my inability to tolerate lack of love in yourself and in everyone else, and must join the Great Crusade to correct it. The slogan for this Crusade is “Listen, learn, and do.” 

This means:

Listen to my voice,
learn to undo the error, and
do something to correct it.

The first two are not enough. The real members of my party are active workers.

The power to work miracles belongs to you. I will arrange the right opportunities for you to do them. But you must be ready and willing to do them, since you are already able to. Doing them will bring conviction in the ability. I repeat, “You will see miracles through your hands through mine.  Conviction really comes through accomplishment. Remember that ability is the potential, achievement is its expression, and Atonement is the purpose.”

This is not the time to wait and see.  Listen, learn and DO.  If we are coming from our hearts, following guidance and taking loving action without attachment we will be in service to God.

Let’s move forward in Love.

ONward, INward and UPward!

If you feel like you might be playing small because of your beliefs about yourself, if you think maybe those beliefs are false and could be eliminated, and if you have a willingness to do some inner work to make a real and lasting change then please consider joining me and some other folks just like you who are SO DONE WITH PLAYING SMALL and ready to let those patterns go.

My Stop Playing Small Retreat was going to be in UK this month, but now it’s being offered online, so all can join.  This online retreat is for folks who are frustrated with feeling stuck and fearful.  It’s designed for those who’d like to bring on a breakthrough so they can move forward with confidence toward their heart’s desire in any area of their life.  Click here for details.  If you aren’t sure if it’s right for you right now, book an Exploratory Call with one of the spiritual counselors.  The call is free and you’ll find benefit in addition to getting all your questions answered.  

TAKE ACTION!  If you’re interested in either the Stop Playing Small Retreat or Finding Freedom From Fear Spiritual Bootcamp, but you aren’t sure if it’s right for you right now, book an Exploratory Call with one of the spiritual counselors.  The call is free and you’ll find benefit in addition to getting all your questions answered.  Click here now to book an Exploratory Call with a Spiritual Counselor.  

Finding Freedom From Fear Bootcamp is 1 month away!  Let’s rock this summer with our spiritual practice that brings benefit and healing for all.  Now is the time for us to dive deep and eliminate the patterns of fear in our life.

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Acceptance Is The Way

Wednesday, May 27th, 2020

Acceptance is the way to Peace of mind – and it’s not for the weak-hearted.

It takes real strength to mentally and emotionally accept the things we don’t like in life.

It can seem that to accept what feels unacceptable would be a loss.

From the ego perspective, it would be a loss, and it would be painful.

Lesson 190 from the workbook of A Course in Miracles tells us “Pain is a wrong perspective.”  Why would we find it more acceptable to choose a painful perspective than to accept the truth?

It’s interesting to look at this and valuable to know the answer.

Consider something you’re looking at in your life that causes you pain when you think about it.

Now, consider that it’s the wrong perspective that is causing our pain.

Are we willing to adopt a God perspective?

Will we continue to think we’re right when it upsets us?

Now, think of something you don’t like, and don’t want in your life. Something you’d dearly like to change and that you label as unacceptable as it is.  It makes you mad.  It devastates you.

It could be a person’s death.

It could be a politicians policies.

It could be a mis-take you made or something someone did or didn’t do.

For your Freedom – contemplate what is the meaning that you gave it.

If it’s upsetting you, the meaning you’ve given it is false.

Contemplate why you would choose to feel devastated, hurt, angry, upset in anyway.

What is it about that emotional state that you keep choosing?

See what you learn.  Then remember this:

I can elect to change all thoughts that hurt.

Loss is not loss when properly perceived.  Pain is impossible.  There is no grief with any cause at all.  And suffering of any kind is nothing but a dream.  This is the truth, at first to be but said and then repeated many times; and next to be accepted as but partly true, with many reservations.  Then to be considered seriously more and more, and finally accepted as the truth.  I can elect to change all thoughts that hurt.  And I would go beyond these words today, and past all reservations, and arrive at full acceptance of the truth in them.  ACIM Workbook Lesson 284

To be free of pain, our willingness is all that’s required.

Can we hold grievances and still be willing?

I don’t think so.  Let’s not delude ourselves anymore.

My Stop Playing Small Retreat was going to be in UK next month, but now it’s being offered online, so all can join.  This online retreat is for folks who are frustrated with feeling stuck and fearful.  It’s designed for those who’d like to bring on a breakthrough so they can move forward with confidence toward their heart’s desire in any area of their life.  Click here for details.  If you’re ready to release resistance and reluctance, you’ll feel the call.  Trust your intuition!

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Accepting the Unacceptable

Tuesday, March 17th, 2020

Not being able to accept what’s actually happening can be a very intense experience. When I knew my mother was not going to live much longer, I had to accept it. That was what was happening, and while I didn’t wish for her to leave this world, I couldn’t stop it. I had to accept it.

We all have had experiences where we very resistant to accepting something that felt unacceptable to us.

We rejected it on principle.

There are times when we are intensely challenged because we love someone who doesn’t want to have anything to do with us. Or, perhaps they care for us, but not in “that way” and so we have to accept how they feel.

There are many experiences in life that are intensely challenging to the ego that we can find so difficult to accept.

There’s power in accepting what is.

Even so, we don’t have to like what is. We just have to accept that “it is what it is.”

When we can accept what is without ascribing value to it, without making it wrong or right, bad, or good, then we’re moving into a place of holding things in our mind without judgment, which means we can learn how to see them objectively and correctly.

This is deeply healing.

When I cannot accept something, it becomes like a splinter in my mind, agitating and irritating.

Non-acceptance is like that sore tooth that you can’t stop running your tongue over to see if it still hurts. Acceptance brings relief, but when we don’t like something, we’d rather be in the pain of constantly rejecting it than move into the Peace that acceptance can bring.

Our ego attachment to being SO RIGHT about HOW WRONG something is can actually drain off years of our life spent invested in distress, irritation, resentment, regret, guilt, blame, and shame.

That’s no way to live.

Today on my podcast, I’m going to talk about accepting the unacceptable so that we can take our power back and use our time, attention, and energy more wisely. Let’s invest in something that actually brings us benefits!

I’m so grateful for this spiritual practice of A Course in Miracles! It brings me Peace every day even in the midst of great disturbances! Victory!

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Resisting What We Desire Most

Wednesday, January 29th, 2020

Our challenges are always designed to help us. ALWAYS. As it says in A Course in Miracles, “Everything works together for good and there are no exceptions except in the opinion of the ego.”

If we’re resisting our challenges, we’re resisting the growth.

One of the ways we sabotage ourselves is by thinking that things are happening to hurt us or punish us.

Another way we sabotage ourselves is by trying to manipulate and control ourselves and others.

The challenges that rock us to our core are there to help us grow spiritually, and the resistance we feel is resistance to that growth.

We’re resisting the very thing we desire most.

Why? Because what we most desire REQUIRES us to surrender, and we’re just not into that.

We’d rather play small and live a painful and limited life than face the specter of making a growth leap, EVEN THOUGH we yearn for the growth.

We’d like to embody the challenge and change, but we’d rather not have change. It’s a paradox. We can’t have the growth without the change. We’d like to grow without changing.

It’s like the acorn that would like to become an oak tree, but doesn’t wish to change. To the acorn, the idea of being buried in the dark soil, splitting open, and completely transforming is so threatening to its identity as a seed. Yet, it’s a seed that must become a tree to fulfill its destiny.

We’re like the caterpillar that must completely surrender and dissolve its form in order to become the butterfly.

In Masterful Living, we’re working on recognizing that our challenges contain the activation for the growth we most desire. We’re working on releasing the temptation to keep sabotaging ourselves by playing small and living in lack and limitation. It takes courage. And that’s what we’re cultivating – the strong heart to make the change.
The more intense the challenge, the greater the victory over the small self.

When Spirit is in charge, victory is assured! Never give up!

In my free class End My Self-Sabotage Challenge, we’re cultivating the ability to Love ourselves free of all resistance to living a life of Love and we’re willing to look at no longer playing small. We’re cultivating the willingness to rise and shine and break out of our cocoons.

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My Prayer for Partnering UP

Monday, November 11th, 2019

As promised in my “Forgive Me. Here Come the Holidays” class yesterday, I mentioned that I would put this prayer in “My Daily Shot of Spiritual Espresso” today. I’m also making it the recorded prayer for today.

This is a version of my daily prayer that I started praying about 20 years ago. Prayer works! It has transformed my life.

Prayer and forgiveness are the 2 best tools I have.

I encourage you to use this prayer or write of your own to use on a daily basis to improve the quality of every minute of your life!

Prayer for Partnering UP!

I AM that I AM.
I AM my I AM Presence.
I AM One with the One and for this, I am truly grateful.
In the name of my beloved I AM, I ask that my Higher Holy Spirit Self, my I AM Presence, lead and guide me to be in the flow of Love in all moments of this day and in every area of my life.
I intend to be easily led and guided to choose the highest and best in each moment.
I allow myself to receive the blessings that are mine to receive.
I allow myself to recognize the most loving choices this day.
Higher Holy Spirit Self, please make loving choices so attractive to me that I cannot mistake them.
Help me to choose Love and to live my life as a joyful and abundant prayer of the heart.
Help me to recognize my life is the eternal life of God.
I AM dedicated to being a loving and beneficial presence on this planet.
I choose to be truly helpful.
I AM blessed & I AM a blessing.
I share the benefits of my healing and expansion with everyone because I AM one with them.
I AM awakening to know my true identity and the true identity of my brothers and sisters.
We are one in Love, eternally and for this and all the blessings I receive this day, I AM so very grateful.
In the name of my Beloved I AM, I know that it is done.
I allow myself to accept it as done and so it IS.
Amen

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If you’d like more support for having a miraculous breakthrough with forgiveness, please join me in my Forgive & Be Free three-part class. We start on Thursday and you’ll get the replay of each of the three classes plus transcripts, plus homework and follow up break-out calls next week. Lots of opportunities to REALLY do this forgiveness work and substantially deepen your practice.

This year, let’s stop paying lip service by SAYING we’re willing but not actually living it. We can bring on a breakthrough FAR beyond what we can imagine when we’re truly willing to truly forgive. If you don’t know how, here’s how! Join me!

Why wait? Now is the time for our healing! If you’re willing, I’m ready – let’s do it together!

 

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The Cure for Needing to be Right

Saturday, November 2nd, 2019

You might be interested to know that one of the biggest causes of suffering people tell me about is their need to be right.  I’m so familiar with that one!

In many cases, I didn’t realize that my need to be right was related to how wrong I felt.  

I’d fight so hard to push that judgment onto someone else and get it off me.  

But why does anyone have to be wrong at all?

That “need” to be right is a strong attachment – and the attachment isn’t what we might think it is.

This is often a tricky one!  

We think that we need to be right about things, or that we ARE right about things and that’s the thing that’s really got us bothered.  

However, in most cases, the real issue is that we feel so WRONG that we need to be right or we’ll collapse into our wrongness.  We can get so bent out of shape about the prospect of someone else making a wrong decision that we’ll make 50 “wrong” decisions while trying to convince others we’re right.  It’s insanity, and it makes us miserable.

This is the nature of attachment.

We get attached to our perspective and our ideas, our concepts, our beliefs.

Buddha taught us that all attachments cause suffering without exception. We are done with suffering.   Although we all remember when we thought that we had to manage and cope with suffering, we’ve come to recognize that suffering is optional.  Suffering is a choice.  And it’s not a choice we wish to make anymore.

The shift to an ever-increasing life of Peace comes through our consistent willingness to recognize the opportunity to give an attachment to the Higher Holy Spirit Self for healing.  That’s what I call “giving the Holy Spirit the heavy lifting.”  

I find that it’s extraordinary how much healing we can experience when we’re willing to pay attention to when we feel the hook of an attachment.  Attachments are really noticeable in the form of irritations, frustrations, and upsets.  These spikes of emotion are an indicator that we have some attachment that is coming up for healing.

It’s astounding to me how much my life has changed through the release of attachments.  Incidents that used to really bother me don’t happen at all anymore.  Upsets that would drag me off track and take a lot of time and energy, leaving me feeling depleted, stupid, wrong and bad don’t even happen anymore.

How cool is that????

I feel so grateful that I can increase my sense of expansion and connection with Spirit EVERY SINGLE DAY by releasing the attachments that come up for healing every day.  Instead of cursing them and feeling that I’m stuck in some kind of Groundhog Day repeating the same old annoyances and difficulties, I have come to realize that each challenge is an opportunity to improve my life.  I love that!

Now is the time for us to get with the spiritual program of Love and Light that is calling us to a life of Peace and Joy!  

I’m so glad we’re doing it together!  If you’d like help with releasing attachments, come join me in one of my classes.  Doing it together is SO much easier than doing it on our own.  Also, it’s more fun when we can be right-minded together!

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Being Unconditionally Loving

Thursday, October 24th, 2019

When I bring my attention fully into the present, into the now moment, then I can see that each and every moment contains a clear choice. The choice is always between Unity/Oneness/Love and separation. For a long time, I wasn’t able to see the choice as clearly as I do now. This Clarity has made a difference in my life.

As I keep my commitment to being mindful of the ever-present choice for Love, it’s possible for me to choose Love more often.

As I am mindful of the choices I make, I am also mindful of their outcomes.

Now that I am more mindful, if I choose fear, anger, or some other form of suffering I can see that it was my choice. Right there, in that moment of awareness, is another opportunity to choose Love and forgive myself by releasing any judgment I might have about myself for not choosing Love a moment ago. This is a living practice of Self-forgiveness.

I witness that Love has an intelligence all of its own. This makes every moment of my life a work of art.

In their beautiful and inspiring book EMBRACING THE BELOVED: Relationship as a Path of Awakening, Stephen & Ondrea Levine write,

“Those who suppress the ego instead of just letting it recede into the heart make the same merciless error in judgment as those who, attempting to cure serious illness, believe they must ‘filter out all negative thoughts’ in order to be healed … They do not recognize that what leaves the ‘negative residue’ is not the thought, no matter how dark or fearful, but the negative reaction (holding), as opposed to the healing response (letting go), to that moment. That a ‘positive’ thought grasped is less healing than a ‘negative’ one met with mercy.”

Today I make deepen my commitment to be mindful as part of my daily spiritual practice. I meet any dark and fearful thoughts with mercy. In this way, my daily practice of being aware of Self-forgiveness and Self-compassion opportunities is healing, and I share the benefit with all beings because I am One with them. My choice is a healing choice!

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Surviving Intense Times with Grace

Sunday, October 20th, 2019

What I am noticing is that the time of healing is getting increasingly intense for all of us.  People are melting down and flipping out.  

For those who are fully committed to being loving and compassionate, it does get easier and easier. Still, there’s not one of us that isn’t being energetically pushed to give up the habits, beliefs, and patterns that keep us playing small.

In my own experience, I noticed a pattern that repeated itself for many years until I finally broke out of it.

My pattern was this:

I would get triggered by something. Something would happen that felt like it was wrong and bad. It felt like a betrayal or a loss. I would start to ruminate on it, building my case like a lawyer gathering evidence for the dark side of my personality. I call it making “resentment stew.”

I would continue to stir that pot and eat from it, day after day, strengthening my case to argue about the unfairness, the blame, and my resentment. It was as though I was constantly arguing my case before God, looking for God to make me right and to make THINGS in my life right.

It took me A VERY LONG TIME – many, many years, to realize that the daily consumption of “resentment stew” was driving a whole sequence of things – it was part of a very intense pattern.

Here’s what I learned:

The making of the “resentment stew” would lower my vibration, which made me unable to see many good things that were available to me. I literally couldn’t see them or receive them because I wasn’t a vibrational match for them. Instead, I became a vibrational match for things I DID NOT want happening in my life.

My choice to ruminate on what I didn’t like and didn’t want just brought more of it into my life, because like attracts like.

Then I would find myself withdrawing into isolation and self-medication in order to drown out how I was feeling and, of course, lowered my vibration even more. It gained me even more time to ruminate on what I didn’t like and weave the web of attachment to upset.

There were times in that stuck place of self-medicating that I would literally think “This is all I have. This momentary distraction and fake pleasure of self-medication, the numbing of my mind and senses.” It was the only thing I was “enjoying.” I lost track of what real enjoyment, pleasure, and happiness were. My whole perspective got skewed and twisted.

I knew it was self-sabotage. I hated myself for it. I felt compelled and addicted. AND, because of focusing so much on resentment and revenge, I didn’t have the strength to lift myself out of it. My negativity made me weak. Like Superman and kryptonite – our resentments and judgments make us weak.

It is a dangerous and slippery slope.

It felt like I was caught in a whirlpool that was pulling me down, further and further. I wanted so much to live a spiritual life – to get God’s Seal of Approval and goodness, and it would seem further and further away.

The pull of the negative pattern was SO STRONG.

I remember thinking this thought “When I die from being stuck in this pattern, they should write on my gravestone – ‘She tried, she really tried, but she just couldn’t do it – the pull was too strong.'”

I couldn’t see the pattern until I was willing to take responsibility for it. I had to stop blaming others for how I felt and where I was in my experience. When I finally became honestly willing to commit to giving up my attack thoughts – the judgments and opinions, and all the attachments to the meaning I made of things, my interpretations and what I thought was right and wrong – that’s when things changed for me.

Because of my willingness to look for loving thoughts and to stop energizing the unloving thoughts, I learned that true gratitude raises my vibration very quickly. It was a relief to be grateful and raise my vibration! 

I learned to be grateful for everything and to practice it as part of my spiritual practice ALL DAY LONG. I began to trade the constant judging attack thoughts for being truly grateful, and that led me to see that I am the one who is responsible for everything in my life.

I learned that everything serves a good and holy purpose in my life – everything. And, I learned to accept that fact with gratitude, even when it didn’t make any sense for me. And I learned to ask for help from the I AM Presence – the Higher Holy Self.

I realized I was never upset for the reason I thought, and I was always upset when I didn’t take responsibility and didn’t choose gratitude. It was pretty simple, really. Phew! I started to see some light at the end of this birthing tunnel.

Gratitude raises us up so we can see and hear and feel and know more clearly the truth that sets us free.

The most challenging and torturous situations in my life became a Godsend. Literally. I couldn’t see that until I was willing to see it. (This is why I say: You gotta wanna.) The intensity of my challenges gave me the PRESSURE COOKER to be vigilant and change my mind 1000 times a day. 

I began to be grateful for everything, even when it felt like my heart was breaking and my mind was at war with itself. That pressure cooked me, and I began to live a miraculous life — because of my willingness.

In the last 19 years of counseling, teaching classes and workshops, and leading retreats, I’ve experienced a lot of miraculous healing and I’ve witnessed a lot of miraculous healing. My offerings are about doing the work – rolling up your spiritual sleeves and getting to it – in the community – with like-minded souls who also have some degree of willingness.

Together we wipe away the shame, reluctance, resistance, self-hatred, and the stains of all the mistakes of the past. A lot of the time it’s not easy. It requires attention and willingness. It rocks our world. And, it does bring a miraculous life – a life of miracles, unfolding Joy and Beauty. It’s a fact.

Sometimes the 3-D world of form seems so intense. I call it density, because that’s how it feels when we’re stuck in the muck and mire. What we don’t know is that the density becomes so intense to get us in order to squeeze us to finally make a decision to do things differently. It’s like the pressure that is put on a piece of coal to reveal the diamond that is possible. It’s like a birthing.

Birthing is never easy, never pretty. It’s always quite messy. There’s screaming and crying and pain.

We all have a diamond heart we’re giving birth to. We can discover it willingly and gratefully or with tremendous pressure, or we can give up and come back later. It’s up to us. It’s our choice. This world is about choice.

Rev. Michael Beckwith introduced me – spiritually – to the wonderful Christian Mystic, Dr. Howard Thurman whose writings have been an inspiration to me. I share this with you now as an offering of inspiration to remember you are true diamond heart nature:

The Moments of High Resolve

“Despite the dullness and barrenness of the days that pass, if I search with due diligence, I can always find a deposit left by some former radiance. But I had forgotten. At the time it was full-orbed, glorious, and resplendent. I was sure that I would never forget. In the moment of it’s fullness, I was sure that it would illumine my path for all the rest of my journey. I had forgotten how easy it is to forget.

“There was no intent to betray what seemed so sure at the time. My response was whole, clean, authentic. But little-by-little, there crept into my life the dust and grit of the journey. Details, lower-level demands, all kinds of crosscurrents – nothing momentous, nothing overwhelming, nothing flagrant – just wear and tear. If there had been some direct challenge, a clear-cut issue, I would have fought it to the end and beyond.

“In the quietness of this place, surrounded by the all-pervading presence of God, my heart whispers: Keep fresh before me the moments of my High Resolve, that in fair weather or in foul, in good times or in tempests, in the days when the darkness and the foe are nameless or familiar, I may not forget that to which my life is committed.”

Keep fresh before me the moments of my high resolve. ~ Dr. Howard Thurman

In this time of birthing, don’t give up. Keep fresh before you the moments of your high resolve. Call upon the Higher Holy Self to lead the way and bring the Light. Find like-minded souls to go through the journey with. Give yourself extra support, tenderness, and care. Begin to speak to yourself with words of Love, “Darling, you can do it, you ARE doing it. Sweetheart, you have what it takes. Everything is for you and nothing is against you. You already are perfect Love.”

Now is our time, now is your time. You DO have what it takes – it’s pre-installed and cannot be damaged or removed. The Kingdom is within, seek first the Kingdom and ALL else will be added unto you. A little gratitude and willingness will turn the tide today. It always does.

Every day I offer “”My Shot of Spiritual Espresso”.  I write spiritual inspiration and record a prayer for our healing.  Prayer is a power tool for our liberation.  We use technology to transcend time and space and deepen our spiritual practice and connect with each other.  Our spiritual practice is our path of liberation.  And that’s beautiful to share!

We’re all on a journey of expanding awareness, and there’s so much help for us in the invisible.  We’re never alone.  I Love you, and I thank God for you.  We bless each other with our willingness to rise in Spirit and come back into our right minds.

Together we’re answering our call to BE the Love.  YES!  

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