Archive for the ‘Compassion’ Category

Receptive to Good

Tuesday, November 24th, 2020

For years I blocked the flow of prosperity in my life and I didn’t even realize it.  Some of my loved ones had labeled me as selfish and so I began to think that was true.  Many folks I met believed it was “better to give then to receive.” And so I began to believe that it was BAD to receive.  I began to notice that many people gave with strings attached.  Sometimes those strings were simply expectations.  

I couldn’t stand all those strings and expectations.  I didn’t like believing that I was selfish.  So, I began to strive to be independent and not need things from people.  I became a hesitant receiver, and sometimes even a poor receiver.

People would try to give me help or assistance, gifts and other things and I would reject them, fearing the strings and expectations.  I preferred not to owe anyone.  I preferred to feel free.  I didn’t know that I wasn’t free.  I was in a box of unworthiness and didn’t even realize it.

I’d become a really poor receiver.  I was a great giver and a poor receiver.

And then I started to have really intense financial challenges and I had no idea how to get out of them. With the help of my spiritual practitioner I began to work on praying to be receptive.

I began to reorient myself to be a good and gracious receiver. 

I began to think of it this way:  Everything I receive is from God and everything I give I give to God.

It doesn’t really matter who is giving or who is receiving – It’s all about being in the flow of the All Good. 

I learned to be able to give to anyone when I felt called and not do it from obligation.  I learned to receive from from anyone and not feel an attachment.  

I began to experience more affluence, more abundance and more prosperity right away.

Are you a good receiver?  Start to make an inquiry into your giving and receiving abilities.  If you’re not feeling the flow, maybe you’re not willing to receive?  Take a look and see what you find in your heart!

One way to increase receptivity was shared to me by a friend and it really works.  Try this:  start to dress up more and present yourself in a more attractive way (of course that’s subjective, but do what works for YOU), and then people will likely give you compliments.  Another way is to be more helpful to people, and people naturally will say thank you.  

Notice if you can easily receive the compliments and the appreciation.  Do you feel tempted to push the praise away or minimize it?  You can practice saying “thank you” to those who compliment you.  I like to say, “thank you, I feel great too,” when someone compliments my appearance.

When someone appreciates what I’ve done, I can say “it’s my pleasure.”  

Being a graceful receiver is a good skill to have.  

It affirms our worthiness.  And that’s helpful.

If you’d like to be more abundant, be a great receiver!  

All blessings come from Spirit, no matter what form they take.

If you suspect that worthiness is your issue, then you might consider receiving my gift.  My Worthiness Workshop THIS SUNDAY is my gift to you.  Register to join me. 

There’s no cost, but you do have to register.  Click here to register now.

This workshop is for people who are interested in making a change.  When you register, I’ll send you a link to download the worksheet that you’ll need to set aside some time to fill out and bring to the workshop to be able to get the benefits.  Let’s do this healing together and not put it off any longer!

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Being Kind

Monday, November 23rd, 2020

It’s very common for people who are in the middle of some difficulty to want us to be on their side. I can remember wanting to sway people to be on my side if I felt threatened by someone. I’d want to know that other people thought I was right and that they stood with me in the event of a battle.

I feel differently now, because I’m no longer interested in preparing for battle or going to war.

I’d rather we don’t take sides, and I don’t wish to encourage people to be on my side if there’s a disagreement. I don’t like feeling that I’m on a side and opposed to someone else.

I’ve learned that there’s a very large energetic cost to turning someone against another person, just as there’s a cost to labeling someone bad or wrong and fanning the flames of discontent and distrust. I’m not interested in going in that direction.

My interest is in choosing to be loving and supporting others and encouraging them to be loving. That’s where the most benefit comes from.

To turn my entire life in a new direction I simply began choosing more loving choices again and again throughout my day.

At first, they were small choices, very small. Like having patience waiting for a coffee in a store.

We can actively look for the opportunities to be kind, loving, patient, generous of heart and compassionate and turn away from the opportunity to be misleading, disgruntled, divisive and discouraging.

These small choices add up to a big change in how we live our lives. This I know. I am working it every day now for decades and I AM SO GRATEFUL that I can make positive loving choices all day long!

Let’s support each other and cheer each other on in our loving choices!

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Spiritual Career

Thursday, October 29th, 2020

Over the years I’ve met many amazing and beautiful people who absolutely love spirituality.  It’s thrilling to them.  I feel the same way!  I absolutely LOVE spiritual principle and I Love being able to connect with like-minded souls and share what we’re learning.  

Many of the folks I meet would like to be able to have a spiritual career, share what they’re learning with others and make that their career.

That’s what I did and I feel so blessed every day that I get to do what I LOVE every day.  

I’ve also met a number of people who don’t have the confidence to follow their heart.  They study and study and study and study and prepare to have a spiritual career, but then they don’t seem to get off the ground with it.  

I remember when I first started ministerial school, twenty years ago, they told us that the statistics were that only a few of us would actually end up having a career as a minister and most would not.  

I’ve known a number of people who never really had the confidence to succeed although they had the talent AND the training.  Their lack of confidence was what prevented them from living their dream.  

I’d like to do everything I can to keep that from happening to more people.  I’m interested in offering support for those who are inspired to answer the call.  With support we can eliminate the reasons for lack of confidence.  With training people will feel qualified. 

For those who would like to follow their heart and have a successful spiritual career,  I’d like to support them in truly going all the way.  

I know that the the Love of God can never fail.

Light always wins.  I also know that there are several keys to being able to be successful and not give up.  

Right now, light workers are being called to step up and do what they’re designed to do – share the light!  Let’s do it together!

NOVEMBER:  Are you interested in Spiritual Counseling or just developing your relationship skills?  You might be interested in my Spiritual Counseling Training Intensive November 15 to 21st.  I’ll be doing this intensive training in-person (in New Hampshire where there’s very little virus) and, for the first time ever online – so you can join from anywhere.  If you’re curious, but not sure, book an exploratory call with a spiritual counselor to learn more.  

COMING SOON – Masterful Living 2021 registration opens in a couple of weeks –  and you can get on the waiting list for the early-bird right now.  Click here now for the Masterful Living waitlist.

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Love Never Fails

Wednesday, October 28th, 2020

Love never fails, and ego always fails.

If I could give you some knowledge, some insight, some healing awareness, it would be the awareness that you can never fail because you are Love and Love never fails. When we know who we REALLY are, and WHAT we really are, and WHOSE we really are, failure is impossible.

For me, the way that I have learned this is to place my faith and trust in Love. The way I have learned that Love never fails, that the Light of God can never fail, is to be in service to the Light – to live in service to the Light and it is through being that, living that, doing that, that I’ve come to know and understand that Love and Light cannot fail.

Now, I can see that the only failure there is the “failure to communicate” Love.

And yet, when it seems that we’ve failed to be loving, there is always learning and so Love still wins. That’s the power of Love in our lives.

What would you invest yourself in, if you knew you couldn’t fail?
Why entertain the idea of failure as a possibility?
Why plan for what you really don’t wish to experience?

BE the Love in whatever you choose to invest yourself in and you will not fail, you cannot fail.

My invitation to you today is to practice being of service to the Light through all that you do today.

It’s about being Love in our mind and shining that forth into all of our activities. People cannot fail to notice and be inspired too! BONUS! That’s more sharing and more extending.

Let us be excellent extenders of Love!

Let us rise and shine together!

Now more than ever, let’s be the change we’d like to see in the world!

Let us not entertain separation and divisiveness, let us see the master plan at work in all moments.

It’s such a good feeling to share the Love rather than to block it. It’s our spiritual destiny to rise and shine, to live without fear – let’s not delay – let’s go for it today!

NOVEMBER:  Are you interested in Spiritual Counseling or just developing your relationship skills?  You might be interested in my Spiritual Counseling Training Intensive November 15 to 21st.  I’ll be doing this intensive training in-person (in New Hampshire where there’s very little virus) and, for the first time ever online – so you can join from anywhere.  If you’re curious, but not sure, book an exploratory call with a spiritual counselor to learn more.  

COMING SOON – Masterful Living 2021 registration opens in a couple of weeks – with bonuses to inspire you to commit early and you can get on the waiting list for the early-bird right now.  Click here now for the Masterful Living waitlist.

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Catch, Release and Replace

Monday, October 26th, 2020

Are you ready and willing to have a more miraculous life starting now? Yesterday, in Sundays With Spirit I was sharing a spiritual practice that I call “Catch, Release and Replace.”

If you think of what some fishers do – they catch fish and then release them rather than killing them, I’m taking that idea and putting a completely different spin on it.

We’re catching judgments, complaints and any other kind of attack thought, releasing them to the Higher Holy Spirit Self for healing and then replacing them with thoughts of Love, generosity, kindness, compassion and willingness to choose again.

It’s a simple three step process that anyone can do.

It’s easy to remember and it’s deeply healing

By making this part of our constant spiritual practice we train our mind to be mindful of when we’re veering off track from our commitment to Love and to being loving.

If you’re deeply interested in transforming your mind, healing the obsessive, compulsive negative thinking and aligning with the Spirit of Love, then this deceptively simple practice is a welcome addition.

In my experience, this practice is miraculous for ANYONE who uses it. It certainly has been miraculous for me!

If you’d like to start living a more peaceful and less stressed life – please incorporate this into how you observe your mind, and how you invest your attention throughout the day. Your willingness is all that’s required. Your willingness is evidence that you’re placing your trust and faith in Spirit rather than your own judgments and opinions.

Happy healing!

NOVEMBER:  Are you interested in Spiritual Counseling or just developing your relationship skills?  You might be interested in my Spiritual Counseling Training Intensive November 15 to 21st.  I’ll be doing this intensive training in-person (in New Hampshire where there’s very little virus) and, for the first time ever online – so you can join from anywhere.  If you’re curious, but not sure, book an exploratory call with a spiritual counselor to learn more.  

COMING SOON – Masterful Living 2021 registration opens in a couple of weeks – with bonuses to inspire you to commit early and you can get on the waiting list for the early-bird right now.  Click here now for the Masterful Living waitlist.

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No Enemies

Wednesday, October 7th, 2020

You probably know how much I love the sermon Rev. Dr. Martin King, Jr. gave on Loving Our Enemies. Its elevating excellence is a healing balm in a fitful world today or any day.

He took the title from Jesus who, when he walked the earth, taught us to love our enemies.

In A Course in Miracles, the teaching is really that we have no enemies, regardless of how it looks in form.

In fact, Jesus goes so far as to tell us that the one we regard as an enemy is a savior sent to help us. WOW!

My invitation to you is to look around your consciousness and your life and look at who it is you might feel hatred for. Maybe it’s someone you despise or find offensive. Jesus is telling us they are your savior.

Will you reject your savior or let the Higher Holy Spirit Self lead you and guide you to the salvation you desire?

This is an upside-down world. And accepting that helps us to navigate.

It’s a crazy thing to accept – that our enemies are our saviors, but if we’re willing the world will sweetly shift and heaven will be revealed. This I know.

If fear, worry and doubt are a concern for you. If you get blindsided by guilt and anxiety, then you might find benefit from my free classes this week – or my Finding Freedom Bootcamp that begins on Monday.

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7 simple steps to interrupt the patterns of fear.

We’ll go deeper into the practical tips and tools that worked for me, so you can interrupt those patterns of fear and attack and make new choices, creating new habits that support the life you desire.

It might seem impossible, but I’ve done it and helped many people learn to do this too.

Here’s the good news:
“No one can fail who seeks to reach the truth.”
That’s Lesson 131 in A Course in Miracles

You cannot fail if you’re sincerely willing to live a loving life
– you don’t have to be there already.
– start where you are.

All your previous failures are just evidence of your lack of sincerity.
Don’t be fooled by appearances.
If you’re sincerely willing to live without fear, you cannot fail.
It’s the Truth.
Now, will you prove it?
Once you prove it to yourself, there’s no going back!

If you’re coping with fear and you’d like to change that,
please register for my free class today.

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Mask or No Mask

Monday, September 28th, 2020

I’ve had a number of people ask me if folks are wearing masks in Vermont. First of all, I have a very limited exposure to other people here. I see a few friends locally and we’re not always wearing masks because we’re not dealing with people who aren’t from the neighborhood. There’s no virus right around here.

Second, when I do venture out, it’s to the grocery store or to pick up take-out locally. I’m in a very rural area of Vermont. There aren’t a lot of people in the grocery store. Take-out pick up is usually outside. Almost everyone in town, even though it is a TINY town, is wearing a mask walking on the street, or at least as soon as they get close enough, they put on a mask,

Lincoln, Vermont, the town I live in, has a tiny general store and that’s it. Lincoln is 44 square miles with a population of 1,250. A square mile is 640 acres. That’s 22.5 acres per person. To put it in perspective, Washington, D.C. is 68 square miles with a population of 705,000. That’s 0,06 acres per person. We’ve got lots of room for social distancing.

Bristol, the next town over has 3,800 people and has a couple of restaurants and a modest chain grocery store, and a Walgreens. The next nearest decent grocery store is at least 30 mins from my house. We’re out in country, on the edge of a huge national forest, in the mountains.

Right now, we’re experiencing a drought. Every day someone new on the road (it’s a dirt road, btw) has had their well run dry. We’ve had hardly any rain all summer. Our well at the house here has run dry. It’s challenging, but no one is complaining as things are much worse for people elsewhere. We have no fires. We know rain will come. In fact, I just learned it’ll be coming this week.

Back to the masks.

People wear masks in stores and public places here because they care about their neighbors.

In a rural community like this people help each other. If someone is sick, neighbors take food, they cut wood, they shovel snow, they go to the store for them. When you have excess squash in the garden, you distribute it to neighbors. You care and you share.

In this environment, to not wear a mask would be to say that you don’t care about your neighbors and community. It’s that simple.

I understand the politics of masks, and, in this neck of the woods, it’s just common courtesy to wear a mask.

It’s a sign that you care about more than yourself – and politics.

I’m not saying it’s right or wrong to wear a mask – I’m only sharing what I feel is happening here in this community in rural Vermont because so many people have asked me.

Almost every time I go to the grocery store I have a little dance I do. I put on my lip balm, I get out of my car and walk to the store, then I realize I forgot my mask, I turn around and go back to my car. I wipe off the lip balm so I don’t smear it on the mask and I put on my mask and walk back to the store. I’m just now getting to the point where I remember to bring a mask.

This won’t last forever, but it is what’s happening right now. I’m not afraid of the virus. I’m not afraid, because there’s nothing for me to fear.

I do care that people know that I care and so I wear a mask.

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Aversions

Monday, September 14th, 2020

I used to have an aversion to people who seemed weak, timid or afraid. It would bring up my own fear of being weak. I didn’t know that’s why I had the aversion, but that’s how this mirroring thing works.

What I also didn’t realize was that my many, MANY aversions were a huge distraction for me. Getting triggered, annoyed, upset, irritated and frustrated as well as taking offense on a daily basis ate up a lot of my time and energy. It also kept me swimming in a low vibrational pool of negativity of my own making.

I blamed everyone else, so I didn’t see a way out of it – until I was willing.

Do you have an aversion to people who act in a certain way?

I literally would feel this intense need to get away from people who were insecure. It was almost as if it were some kind of thing that I could catch – and that thought terrified me. Now, I’m aware that the reason it was so bothersome to me is that it was my own insecurities being reflected to me.

My insecurities were intolerable for me. I had so little self-compassion.

All of that began to change when I decided to focus on being compassionate for others.

As I was able to extend love to others, I could begin to have some love for myself. A little bit of love goes a long way.

This is why each act of loving kindness that we can extend to others opens our heart and helps us to be more available to the good in life. AND I learned that the way to heal an aversion is to have compassion. It works!

Life is SO much better without aversions.

Now, I use my time and energy for things that are enjoyable and productive. That makes my life worthwhile.

Now, I can see that my aversions kept me playing small, living in lack and limitation.

Next time your mind drifts to attacking someone, or even yourself, see if you can remember this and extend some compassion to welcome more good in your life. It’s a powerful spiritual practice that we can take with us every moment of every day!

Have you seen the direct results of having a practice of extending Love and compassion? Please tell us about it and share in the comments below! Thank you!

STARTS FRIDAY:  I’m getting ready for my Stop Playing Small Online Retreat which starts on Friday.  If you’d really like to do this healing work of letting go of complaining and other mental patterns that stand in our way of happiness and Peace, consider joining me.  You can change your entire life, your relationships, your experience, your finances, your body, your happiness and peace of mind, one breakthrough at a time – that’s what we’re doing.

Follow your intuition – only you know if this is right for you right now.

Consider this:

You won’t regret your choice, and you’ll only be so glad you did – at least that’s what I hear from the people who’ve done it.

Get going. Take action. Be aggressive about working with your mind. DO NOT DELAY. If you’re waiting, if you’re not getting the results you’d like, what are you waiting for?

Don’t take my word for it, read the testimonials from those who have done this work with me. They believed that nothing would work for them, and they were willing to do something different anyway. Now, they’re not playing small anymore. They’re not letting fear dictate their life. They have a real and powerful connection with Spirit.

CHECK IT OUT – If you’re ready to make a change, and you’d like some REAL support to make a LASTING change, TAKE ACTION! If you’re interested in either my Stop Playing Small Online Retreat or Finding Freedom From Fear Online Spiritual Bootcamp, but you aren’t sure if either is right for you right now, book an Exploratory Call with one of the spiritual counselors. The call is free and you’ll find benefit in addition to getting all your questions answered. Click here now to book an Exploratory Call with a Spiritual Counselor.

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Weathering Emotional Storms

Monday, September 7th, 2020

I used to get so upset. It now seems hard to believe how much of my time, energy and attention I gave to being upset. I used to put effort into being upset by ruminating on things over and over again. So much of my precious life has been invested in placing my attention on things that only made me feel worse about my life and myself. Ugh.

When I’ve felt blasted by the storms of emotions and the drama, whether it’s been of my own making or someone else’s, my spiritual practice of non-judgment and nonviolence is my rock. It’s a haven of infinite patience and Love inside my own mind.

I can come back to center by practicing nonviolence. So often I see folks do things that make no sense. We lose perspective and then we suffer and make crazy choices.

At times folks are deliberately unkind; they’re selfish and hurtful. People respond without thinking and are rude. I’ve done so much of that in my life.

Some people are discouraging when they could be encouraging. My practice of non-judgment forces me to look at my motivations and intentions and to consistently choose the most loving intention regardless of where my emotions are.

My spiritual practice of non-judgment is a practice infinite compassion.

It is the daily practice of walking in Spirit. Just as that farm girl from Kansas put on the ruby slippers and remembered her personal power that could take her back home, my personal practice of nonviolence takes me back home to the spiritual truth of all life: I am one with all that is.

If I hate the one who hates, I’ve lost my power, and I’m multiplying the hatred. If I am rude to the one who is rude, I am living someone else’s pain and magnifying it. If I have no compassion for the one who has no compassion, I am spending my precious energy magnifying someone else’s hurt. Every moment I choose whose shoes I’ll stand in. Every moment I can choose anew and change the course of my life.

When I make the highest choice I can reach for in the moment, I lift the world.

Mother Theresa taught us, “People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered. Forgive them anyway … Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough. Give the best you’ve got anyway.”

When I look at Mother Theresa’s life and the lives of Buddha, Jesus, St. Francis, Gandhi, King and Thich Nhat Hanh, I see the power in their moment to moment practice of choosing love in much more difficult circumstances than I’ve ever faced.

I choose to carry close to me this awareness of those who went before me. This is my ruby slipper practice.

In every moment I remember my intention to love and I am that. How grateful I am that no matter where I am, no matter what is happening in and around me, I can have a ruby slipper moment and come home to my heart.

I’m getting ready for my Stop Playing Small Online Retreat in just 2 weeks. If you’d really like to do this healing work of letting go of complaints and the other things that stand in our way of happiness and Peace, consider joining us. You can change your entire life, your relationships, your experience, your finances, your body, your happiness and peace of mind. Consider this:

You will never regret your choice, and you’ll only be so glad you did – at least that’s what I hear from the people who have done it.

Get going. Take action. Be aggressive about working with your mind. DO NOT DELAY. If you’re waiting, if you’re not getting the results you’d like, what are you waiting for?

Don’t take my word for it, read the testimonials from those who have done this work with me. They believed that nothing would work for them, and they were willing to do something different anyway. Now, they’re not playing small anymore. They’re not letting fear dictate their life. They have a real and powerful connection with Spirit.

If you’re ready to make a change, and you’d like some REAL support to make a LASTING change, TAKE ACTION! If you’re interested in either my Stop Playing Small Online Retreat or Finding Freedom From Fear Online Spiritual Bootcamp, but you aren’t sure if either is right for you right now, book an Exploratory Call with one of the spiritual counselors. The call is free and you’ll find benefit in addition to getting all your questions answered. Click here now to book an Exploratory Call with a Spiritual Counselor.

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Not Right About Everything

Friday, August 14th, 2020

I used to have the habit of correcting everyone and calling to attention their shortcomings and faults. I would often do it in the form of being curious – but it was really just about me being right. I can still find myself doing this sometimes and I wish I didn’t. I’m working on it.

One thing about me is I truly am curious about learning new things and more effective and efficient ways to live this life of Love. I often find that people have ways to do things that are more helpful than what I’ve thought of. I think of my life as a team effort.

To learn anything at all is a blessing.

My challenge used to be that I always thought I was right.

To be honest, I really needed to be right and I’d fight for it.

When I was in my 20’s I’d have endless arguments with friends. They were the kind of arguments that were heated “discussions.” I liked arguing that way.

A couple of people who both need to be right about everything, arguing about nothing important, for hours and hours. It seemed to give life meaning.

Have you ever done that?
Worked so hard to get a victory about nothing?

If only I could get those years of meaningless arguments back …

I did learn from the experience. I learned that’s a giant waste of time!

Fortunately, now, I can walk away from the invitation to argue about nothing and feel good about myself.

I’m so grateful that I can be incorrect about something and it’s not a big deal.

I’m truly relieved to learn about the errors of my thinking and I feel blessed that I’m surrounded by people who can help me live and learn in a most elegant and fruitful way.

When we use our life force to be belligerent and argumentative, we’re going to feel badly about ourselves, and we don’t need any more of that. Enough!

Isn’t it a blessing that we can learn, grow and change our minds?
Who knew we could be happy not being right about everything?
What a relief!

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Perceptions Sometimes Aren’t Helpful

Friday, August 7th, 2020

It’s interesting to notice what we notice.
It can be fascinating to view how we view.

In New Jersey they don’t have self-serve gas, the attendant pumps the gas for you. In Maine, at some stations there’s no self-serve and I when I learned about that I realized that I could help contribute to someone having a job by choosing the stations where there’s no self-serve. I might cost a small amount more, but it gives someone a job. Since I don’t particularly enjoy pumping gas, that completely works for me.

I used to return the shopping carts, to the store, but then I realized that there’s no need to return them it’s easier for me not to, and by not returning it, I’m giving a person employment. I can receive the support of not having to return the cart.

In small towns, grocery baggers will sometimes ask if I’d like help taking my groceries to the car, wouldn’t they also like to help by taking the cart and putting it away?

Do you feel guilty if you don’t return the cart where they’d like you to?

What’s interesting is the meaning we make of things.

Our perspective generates our perception, but many times we really don’t know what anything is for.

Once when I was at a Wednesday night service at Agape with a friend. As the collection basket was being passed, my friend saw someone pass the basket without putting anything in it and she turned to me and said, “that bothers me so much, how can they pass the basket without putting anything in it?”

I said to her, “I do that all the time. I write one tithe check per month to make it easier for myself. I’m here at service twice eight times a week or more, but I only write one check. So, I don’t put anything in the collection most of the time.”

My friend was taken aback. After a moment she said, “I never thought about that. That makes sense.”

Whenever we judge, we’re taking ourselves out of the flow of Love and we’re usually creating some kind of personal, emotional and mental distress.

If we don’t correct our thoughts, then we start feel the upset in our physical body. Our life is so much easier if we simply focus on being loving.

We’re designed to be peaceful, harmonious and prosperous and our misperceptions trigger a feeling of upset so we can realize that it’s time to course correct.

It’s a great system to remind us that Love is our true identity and Peace is our natural state. Let’s remember what’s real.

What perception is operating in your mind, triggering guilt? Please share in the comments and help us realize where we can all make a change! Thank you in advance!

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First Responder

Monday, August 3rd, 2020

I am a first responder.
I AM is a first responder.

In my experience, in my relationships, in my community, I choose to be a first responder to the cry for Love.

We can be first responders, responding to the insanity of the world with a voice of Love and compassion.

We don’t have to MAKE anything happen – that’s not our job. Our response-ability is to hold the loving view, the right-minded view, and to be kind, loving and supportive.

Right now, although my spiritual practice is all day long, in many forms, the most important thing, as always, is to be kind and caring. Extending Love is the #1 thing for us to put our attention on each moment of each day.

When we’re extending Love, we’re being a healing presence.


And when we’re extending Love and compassion, we’re being truly helpful.
Which means we’re living our purpose.

If we wonder what our purpose is, it’s not complicated or hard to find: Be kind.

Sometimes being kind is the hardest thing in the world to do.
The more it stretches us, the more it’s worth the effort.

Let me be grateful for the pain of the strain to be kind in challenging circumstances as it reminds me how much gain there is for my soul.

We can remember too, how sometimes being kind seems just the opposite. I think of Elvis Costello’s song about being “cruel to be kind.” It’s a paradox sometimes.

There are times when it’s most helpful to point out to someone that they are fantasizing about something, and it’s not helpful to them.

There are times when someone is about to do something cruel and the kindest thing is to interrupt them.

Cultivating the ability to respond with kindness instead of judgment – that’s where I focus a good deal of my attention.

No judgments also mean no attachments.

It’s a rigorous practice, but when I do it with kindness it feels very nurturing – which it is.

Let’s be first responders, responding to every situation with Love, kindness and compassion. This way we absolutely KNOW we’re always in the right place at the right time, and we can feel the strength of that. What a blessing!

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Mastering Self-Compassion

Thursday, June 11th, 2020

One of the most challenging things we can learn in our life is to turn the focus of our mind from what we don’t want and to focus on having that which we truly desire. At least that’s been the most challenging thing for me to actually DO. For many years, I started so many days praying and meditating to be a loving, peaceful presence in this world. And then I would spend the rest of the day judging myself and my loved ones and anyone else who crossed my path. At the end of the day, I would feel like a hopeless loser, anxious, and afraid. At night I’d dream of arguing with my loved ones and endlessly seeking and never finding.

One of my recurring dreams was that I had an opportunity to do something really wonderful, something that I really, really wanted and would enjoy – often it was something like tickets to a Rolling Stones concert which was a teenage passion of mine – and for some reason or another, I could never get there.

In the dream, I would realize I didn’t have a film for my camera (pre-digital camera times), and I would decide to make a quick run to a nearby store and then never make it back to the concert. No matter how hard I tried to get back to the concert, I’d be delayed and thwarted. The longer my distraction took the more desperate and distressed I would become to get back to the concert. I’d feel panic because I was missing all the good parts! I would wake up in the distress of seeking but not finding. I had that dream again and again. It was the story of my life.

I now have eyes to see and a heart to know that the dream simply represented my spiritual life. Every day I was allowing myself to be distracted in my spiritual walk. I could talk about it, but I didn’t walk it with real dedication. I was constantly distracted. I stopped having that dream when I made the commitment to live the teachings all day long.

I was playing small with my spirituality and my whole life.

Of course, each and every day I am aware of the places where I fall short of the mark, but I am aware of my choices more than ever.

I choose Love more than ever.

I judge less and less and less. I’m firmly on the path and nothing can take me off it now. I no longer backslide and that is such a relief!

In my learning, I felt like a toddler learning to walk who falls down many times a day. Falling down a lot was part of the learning. Being wobbly was part of the learning. It’s not that I was doing something wrong when I fell down. I was learning.

Because I was aware that I was learning something that was new to me, I decided to make the easier loving and have compassion for myself. Compassion is loving understanding. It became the foundation of my spiritual practice.

Love is the healer.

I’ve learned true self-compassion through my experience of stumbling, falling and picking myself up.

Everyone sees me fall and stumble. Everyone also sees that I am dedicated to learning to walk this talk of Love. They see that I do not chastise myself or berate myself when I fall.

I keep my sight on the goal, my eyes on the prize.
I’m not playing small anymore.

Sometimes I cry, sometimes I laugh, but I always get up with more compassion than I had before I fell. And so the Love grows in my heart, in my awareness, and I bless myself and everyone else because I’m one with them.

And this is how I learn to walk my talk. The more I learn, the more I can give up learning and simply remember the truth that sets us all free. I am so grateful we walk together. Together we remember we are one and we bless the world!

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Judger Always Feels Judged

Friday, May 15th, 2020

I’ve realized that within minutes of judging someone I’ll have a judgment about myself.

Every judgment, every projection is like a boomerang that comes back and hits me in the head with force.

I’ve learned to be grateful for this because when I become aware of the judgment I can remember that it’s only going to lead to suffering. Having this awareness has helped me to stop playing small. In the past, I’ve played small by habitually judging and then being preoccupied with cleaning up the upset caused by the boomerang. Phew!

I’ve had so many judgments about myself. I’ve had to surrender each and every one of them in order to FEEL free. Fortunately, we can get so good at giving up the judgments and opinions that we find ourselves being less and less judgmental.

An important practice for our healing is simply to replace the judgments with compassion.

I can remember when I felt angry and bitter and I thought it was my job to take it out on everyone around me.

I didn’t know it at the time, but each judgment was helping me to dig a dark hole.

My experience of digging dark holes for myself has led me to have compassion for those who do what I did. They don’t know any better.

They are to be helped, with compassion, and not shunned or judged.

Yes, the person who judges will often feel judged by others.
It’s their own projection coming back at them like a boomerang that hits them in the head so they’ll wake up and realize there IS a better way.

I don’t know anyone that hasn’t made mis-takes from the smallest to the “biggest,” – whatever BIG means. We are all learning how to BE more loving and kind. We learn THROUGH our mistakes. We are UN-learning to buy into the myriad of judgments its possible to have. This requires our constant attention.

Clearing our mind is the best possible use of our time.

I like to say “it’s good work if you can get it, and I’ve got plenty of it!”

Are you willing to forgive your past mistakes so that you can be free now? I AM! Let’s do it together!

Is there a mistake that you have forgiven that you can share in the comments? Inspire us!

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Self-Love Practice

Wednesday, May 13th, 2020

I have a niece and three nephews, plus a goddaughter and other children in my life. Some of them aren’t children anymore. Loving them as they’re growing up, from infancy to adulthood, I’m aware of how completely I Love and accept them, although sometimes I don’t understand or don’t like their choices, the Love I feel is constant and unconditional.

As I observed these beautiful beings coming into my life and “falling in Love” with them, I realized that I was not so loving with myself. Where I wouldn’t judge them at all, I would be very hard on myself for the same behaviors. Having this realization really helped me.

In large part because of my Love for these children, I realized how incredibly hard on myself I was. I made a decision. I decided to do things differently.

I started to treat myself the way I would treat the precious children in my life. I began to practice Self-compassion in a big, big way. It was truy healing and life-changing for me.

One of the techniques that really helped me was to imagine my nephew Alex when he was 3 years old. He was such a cuddly sweet little muffin of a boy. He has a huge heart and so wide-open to life. He was incredibly easy to share Love with and he was very affectionate.

When I would feel upset with myself, I’d think of Alex. Precious boy. And I knew I would never, EVER in a million years yell at that sweet boy or say one unkind word to him. So, I decided to extend to myself the same kindness and compassion.

Again, it’s the decision that’s so important.
We are deciders.
Deciding is how we change our life.

Back in December, 2017, I did two podcast episodes on the topic of the Holy Spirit’s Rules for Decision and you can click to download or listen to that episode here.

Be willing to pause when you’re in a self-attack and think of someone you dearly Love.

Someone who is so completely precious to you. Consider if you’d speak to them the way you’re speaking to yourself.

See if you can begin your self-talk with words like: Darling, sweetheart, precious one.

I would remind myself that I am the Beloved of the THE Beloved and my thoughts are powerful and precious. This one thought was very helpful to me in remembering to have compassion for myself.

Children learn best when they feel safe and loved, not when there’s a threat of punishment. The same is true of adults and ourselves.

Love is our healer.

Compassion is Love.

Love is what we are.

The way to get in touch with our true identity is to value ourselves. It’s not that complicated.

The more loving we are, the more we can tell that the false belief feels false and the more we can notice that the Love feels real. Our willingness greatly improves our ability to recognize the true from the false. If we’re not willing to know the truth, we’ll just keep swimming in the false, until we feel like we’re drowning.

Self-compassion is a practice we can learn until we no longer feel attracted to punishment. The more we practice compassion with others, the easier it is to practice compassion with ourselves and vice versa.

As usual, today’s a good day to practice!

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Sanity In Times of Insanity

Saturday, April 4th, 2020

Another day “living la vida loca”. Yesterday morning I went to the giant Whole Foods grocery store to shop for myself and my brother’s family. There was a line to get in when I got there at 8:30 a.m., mostly because a number of cashiers had called in sick and they didn’t want the lines to pay to get long, so they weren’t letting that many people into the store, even though it is a HUGE store.

When I got to the front of the line, I told the security guard that because I was wearing the face mask she couldn’t see that I was smiling at her. But she said she could tell by my eyes. She was wearing a mask, too, and I could tell she was smiling, also. It was a sweet moment. My mask is actually a head covering that I’m now using as a mask, because it’s the closest thing I have to a mask.

When I got to the cashier to check-out and pay for my groceries, I had such a deep sense of gratitude for her and all the others working in the store. I thanked the woman and said, “Thank you for being here so I could buy food for my family.” And I started to cry. I am so deeply touched and grateful for all the people who are making personal sacrifices so that some of us can have the basics, even if the basics include things like potato chips and yogurt.

I understand that some people are bored staying at home.
Some people are inconvenienced and annoyed by the quarantine.
Others aren’t abiding by it all.
Others think that wearing masks are stupid and unnecessary.

I’ve heard it all.

What I feel is immense gratitude.
I feel safe and protected.

I feel grateful that my family is safe and so are most of my friends.

I am SO grateful for the people who are working so hard to keep the rest of us alive and safe.

I am so aware that many are intensely challenged right now, and I’m praying more than ever that people can find Peace in the midst of this experience.

I know there are many thousands of people who are going through a very difficult time, so we need to extend them Love and compassion and do all that we can for them.

This is a time for all of us to pitch in.

I’ve got friends who’ve had their businesses shut down.
Friends who can’t work because they’re home sick.

They’re homeschooling their kids, so they can’t pick up extra work because they have to be home with their children. So, I’m sending them care packages of food and toys for the children to play with.

What can you do for folks to help them out in their time of need?

Have you got a sewing machine? Maybe you could make masks or you could pay for a seamstress in your town to do it.

It’s not about protecting yourself so much as protecting others. I’ve already had friends who were infected, but asymptomatic and didn’t know it, walking around infecting loved ones. We really do need to all behave as if we’re infected and asymptomatic, at least when we’re outside our home.

One funny note. When I was at the grocery store shopping, I was looking at my list and my brother’s list on my phone but my facial recognition software on my iPhone wouldn’t recognize me with the mask on, so I kept having to put in my password. I had to laugh about it!

 

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Pain is a Wrong Perspective

Wednesday, April 1st, 2020

As A Course in Miracles tells us we don’t know what anything is for. We just don’t know and won’t know until we can see beyond time and space, and until then I hold in my mind that everything works together for our good even when we can’t make sense of it.

ACIM also tells us that pain is the wrong perspective.

Let’s look at things from a spiritual perspective and rise above the level of fear.

I now know a few people who have had the Coronavirus, or think they have. I know two people who tested positive. One, a middle-aged very fit man, was hospitalized for two weeks and is home and doing well.

Another one is an older woman and she and her friends, who are also older women, and her husband have tested positive, and they’ve had mild symptoms such as feeling tired, slight fever, loss of taste for a few days. Nothing more than that. It’s been no big deal for them, and they have all definitely tested positive for COVID-19.

I have another friend who thinks she’s had the virus and has been not feeling well, a cough, feeling tired, nothing extreme but not feeling well, and self-quarantined for a few weeks now.

I tell you all of this with the hopes that it will relieve you of some fears you may have. We’re going to be developing herd immunity to this virus the way we’ve developed herd immunity to the more common flu. It’s happening.

The Center for Disease Control is telling us that many people will be infected but feeling fine – and they are most likely to spread the virus because they’re not self-quarantining. This is why it’s so important to stay home and follow the guidelines.

AND it’s extremely important to remember that we are spiritual beings.
We become invulnerable by being loving and being of service to Love and Light.

We raise our vibration up with gratitude and with extending compassion.

The script is already written, and it’s complex and multi-layered.
This experience will bring benefit to all and we MUST hold that in our hearts, ESPECIALLY when it does not seem like that could ever be possible. That’s the most important time for us to not be deceived by appearances.

Right now, it’s easy to go on an angry and fearful rant about how some people have handled this pandemic. There is a list of reasons why people could be absolutely furious for what’s happened and not happened. It’s understandable.

AND that will not help us.
Only Love will lift us up above the challenge we’re in now.

The medical workers’ display of Love and courage is an inspiration to us.

If we don’t like things, we must contact our senators and representatives and make our feelings known. We can vote and we can take loving action to help people.

Taking loving action will help us right now.
Let’s keep our vibration high through prayer.

Let us pray that all the medical workers are supported, guided, and protected by Love.

It’s the least we can do. And it is SO POWERFUL!

Thank you for praying with me today!

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WE First, Not ME First

Tuesday, March 31st, 2020

Right now in our world it may seem that there’s a lot of sicknesses, a lot of illness, and that it’s increasing. I understand that this is how it looks if we look at it from the perspective of being a body. But we are NOT a body. And we never will be.

From a spiritual point of view, there’s a healing that is taking place. The healing is happening in our belief system, in our mind, and in our perspective.

If we look at what’s happening with the death and illness from Covid-19, we’ll see the only loss. When our loved ones lose their lives in this world it sure does seem like a loss, but there IS something greater occurring if we’re willing to see it – and we cannot see it if we believe we are a body.

Now is the time for us to remember that we’re not separate, we’re One with each other. A Course in Miracles calls this “accepting the Atonement.”
Miracles Principle #25 from the Text of ACIM is “Miracles are part of an interlocking chain of forgiveness which, when completed, is the Atonement. Atonement works all the time and in all the dimensions of time.”

We have a spiritual obligation to be WILLING to see past separation and accept that it never was, nor could it be.

If we’re willing, our mind will be released from believing in separation.

Right now, there’s a powerful remedy to separation thinking that’s occurring in our human experience by means of this virus. Every day we get to clearly choose between fear and compassion. Those who are choosing fear are obvious because they are not choosing compassion. Those who are choosing compassion are obvious because they are not choosing fear.

Compassion is a loving understanding. Compassion is an expression of Love that heals.

Fear binds, Love liberates.

You can tell what you’re choosing by how you feel – tense or peaceful.

Interestingly, one way for us to best survive this virus is to separate but not to see ourselves as separate. We must keep our bodies separate, but we must unite in choosing to care so much about our brothers and sisters that we’re willing to do what it takes to keep the virus from killing the most vulnerable of us.

We must unite in order to “do the right thing.”

We must be of one mind in order to accomplish this healing with the greatest ease and grace.

We can succeed best by recognizing our connection with all beings. Fires, floods, plagues. These experiences are forcing us to recognize that we are interdependent and not independent.

We cannot survive by saying “me first.” We must say “WE first.”

It takes a great willingness to set aside the consciousness of separation we’ve all worked so hard to cultivate. And we can either choose to be pushed by the pain or pulled by the vision.

Most of us choose some of each. We’re here to be truly helpful and being TRULY helpful means helping people to see clearly the difference between choosing pain and choosing Joy. So, we must work with our minds to eliminate our attraction to painful choices.

If we’re willing the Higher Holy Spirit Self will heal our minds and that will enable us to see, know, and feel clearly the truth that liberates us from the perspective that is painful.

Today’s the perfect day to double down and deepen our commitment to know the truth that sets us free from fear and suffering. Today’s our kind of day!

 

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Fear Has No Power

Monday, March 30th, 2020

I’m self-quarantined in New Jersey for a couple of geeks now (just to be a good citizen), and so I’ve been watching New York Governor, Andrew Cuomo, give his daily reports for the community. I’m very appreciative of them, especially because I have many beloved friends in New York.

Cuomo’s reports are filled with facts as well as inspiration. He also gives very practical advice, and even relationship advice. He advises that this is the time to reach out to people and let them know that you care and that you love them.

Yesterday, Cuomo shared that, in recent days, 76,000 medical professionals have volunteered to help serve New York’s citizenry in their time of need. 76,000! That’s extraordinary. That’s an outpouring! That’s our Spirit responding to the call.

Here’s my Facebook post from Saturday:

In New York, the bodies of the family’s loved ones are being stored in refrigerated trucks because there’s nothing anyone can do with the bodies at this point, while in other parts of the country people are still thinking this global pandemic is some kind of cruel hoax. New Yorker’s and others are stepping up to the challenge. People are finding their super-hero nature and accessing it to be of service to total strangers.

This is the time we were born for.

Many times, New Yorker’s are portrayed as uncaring city dwellers, but that’s not been my experience. I lived in Manhattan for 10 years, and I found New Yorker’s to be amazing and wonderful, for the most part. People who live in such close quarters have learned to have compassion, understanding, and appreciation for each other.

I’m so moved by the stories of the doctors and nurses on the front line of this pandemic. Their extraordinary compassion and caring, their tireless work and efforts, often at great risk to themselves, is nothing short of miraculous.

I have learned that the antidote to fear is always to open our hearts in Love and compassion.

Let us do just that and pray for the people who are putting their life on the line. Let us give thanks for them every day and bless their families who are must surely concerned for their safety.

And let us pray for the families of those who have left this world. Families that are taking their loved ones to the hospital never to see them again because it’s not safe for them to visit.

This is the time for us to pray and pray and pray some more. It will strengthen us and give us the vitality and resistance to being invulnerable to this challenge.

Now is the time for us to forget our differences and remember that we are one, whether we like it or not.

We ARE One and fear will never, ever conquer us.

Love is what we are and fear is NOTHING.


What do you have to say to the voice of fear? Please share in the comments below!

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Good News

Thursday, March 26th, 2020

There is encouraging news mixed in with the tragic news. I’ll share the best news I’ve personally heard in a very long time. My friend Chris, who was taken to the emergency room two weeks ago with what they thought was a bad flu and who was diagnosed with pneumonia, and then later Covid-19, came home from the hospital after 14 days in quarantine. His husband and children are so HAPPY, as am I.

If you’re a person who prays, pray to know that all is well everywhere in this world. If you’re not a prayerful person, just bless everyone. That’s so beneficial to all!

Bless and bless again!

Sometimes, we might hesitate to bless someone we don’t like or feel should be punished. But if we think about it, when we bless those who seem to be generating hardship in our life, we’re helping them to have more clear insight about truth and Love and compassion and things that are helpful to all.

Bottom line: when we bless anyone, we bless everyone because all are connected.

This is so important to remember.

When we bless others, ESPECIALLY those who “despitefully use us” we are helping to undo the belief in separation. When we bless others, we bless ourselves because we’re One with them.

It’s never worth holding a grudge. Not for a single moment. The benefits of extending blessings and compassion are beyond our comprehension, and their are no benefits to holding a grudge.

When we can bless everyone we’re generating good news in our life every day. It will surely bring an increase of good news everywhere.

Let’s BE the blessing and share the blessing. It’s what we’re here for!

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Compassion Practice

Wednesday, March 25th, 2020

Today I drove over to the park to go for a long walk on a sunny day that was wonderful. Unfortunately, when I got back to my car my battery was dead. I just haven’t used my car enough while being quarantined at home (not sick, just being responsible) and so I had to call AAA and they came and jumped me. Life. I have compassion for myself for not realizing that I need to drive my car more. I have an old car with an old battery.

I had a nice little chat with the AAA fellow, and I’m grateful for any opportunity I can have to share a little kindness and connection with people. It’s such an intense time that we really can think of these exchanges as an opportunity to make the world a better place and spread some Love.

Let’s not take these exchanges lightly. They’re significant.

You never know when you might be talking with someone who is really terrified and going through something intense. Your kindness might really make a difference in their life. You’ll be so glad you made the most of that opportunity.

I did get to see some beautiful signs of Spring, including a surprisingly large turtle!





I’m so glad I can all still go for walks and practice social distancing.

One of the main things this virus is going to teach is that we need to practice kindness and responsibility – this will keep our vibration up and help us to heal our minds.

We’re all in a fast-track mind healing right now.
None of us can afford to lower our vibration.

Compassion is deeply healing and it can help us to transcend many things.

Practice, practice, practice.

I’ve learned to look at any place in my mind where I’ve been resistant to practicing compassion because I didn’t like something someone said or did.

Now I need to be more committed to my practice than ever, and I’m glad I can be. I’m so glad.

We can practice together and have tremendous healing. Yay, God!

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Transforming Terror to Peace

Tuesday, March 24th, 2020

Right now in the world, Covid-19, the Coronavirus, is raging in many places around the world. Countries are locking down. In some places, it’s illegal for people to be on the street with certain exceptions. There are all kinds of new rules and regulations coming into place. Some are to protect the populace and some are questionable invasions of citizen’s rights. Each country is different.

Some people are respecting the rules and warnings and some people are not.

We all have different ideas of what safety feels like, and we all have different trigger points of fear. As the U2 song says, “We’re one, but we’re not the same.” We’re not the same in our opinions and perceptions.

And so, we must respect these differences and have compassion for them.

As Thich Nhat Hanh, one of my teachers, has said, “Blaming never helps.”

A global pandemic is terrifying to a majority of people and we can respect how people feel while not giving in to the terror itself.

Terror, fear, comes from a perspective of wanting to control things that are not controllable.

Fear cannot arise unless attack is justified, and if it had a real foundation pardon would have none. The real world is achieved when you perceive the basis of forgiveness is quite real and fully justified.A Course in Miracles T-30.VI.3.

There will be more temptations to attack, to dispute, to make wrong than normal in this current climate of insecurity. Let’s not be tricked into believing our attack thoughts are correct. Let’s remember that “fear cannot arise unless attack is justified.” Anger and attack are so closely related, and neither is ever justifiable.

We can practice having an awareness of when we’re looking to justify our attack and our anger and lay those thoughts and beliefs on the altar. We invite the Higher Holy Spirit Self in to heal your mind about it. We will have healing as soon as we’re more willing than unwilling.

As soon as we’re more willing to let our belief go than we are willing to be righteous and right about it, the healing has happened.

Let’s go for that. More willingness.

Let’s focus on being willing to be HAPPY.

Right now, people are frightened and people are dying and people are grieving. Let’s not be petty about our grievances. I’d rather be kind to everyone now and be grateful they’re alive to annoy me.

I have a good friend who is in the hospital with this virus for 10 days now. No one can go and visit him. Lots of people are having their loved ones die in the hospital and they cannot be with them. So, if you’re finding yourself losing your patience with your loved ones, be EXTREMELY GRATEFUL they are there with you now. Raise yourself up by reaching for the Higher Holy Spirit Self. Don’t allow your vibration to fall down.

We’ll get through this and we have to do it together. LOVE is our healer. Not medicine, not food, not ventilators. LOVE.

How willing are you to practice radical patience right now? Please share in the comments below.

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Fear Antidote

Monday, March 23rd, 2020

My mother passed away 12 years ago, but I notice that I’m missing her during this crisis. I say this because if you’re feeling nostalgic or missing people, or feeling triggered back to when 9/11 occurred, that’s normal.

A lot of people are going to be triggered and have PTSD experiences now and we can be mindful of that.

Let’s take extra care with each other and be extra kind. And these are the kinds of stories I’m hearing from my friends. They’re talking about how their neighbors are checking in with them and helping each other. This is one of the benefits of a time like this.

There are also stories of race-baiting and fear-mongering.

There are stories of people endangering other people in order to flaunt their fearlessness. This is a time when we are going to see people who are doing things that seem crazy. That’s what fearful thinking does to people, it makes them behave in crazy ways.

The antidote to fear is compassion.

Compassion is both Love and understanding and that combination is deeply healing. It heals our hearts and it heals others as well.

“Make way for love, which you did not create, but which you can extend. On earth this means forgive your brother, that the darkness may be lifted from your mind. When the light has come to him through your forgiveness, he will not forget his savior, leaving him unsaved.” T-29.III.4.

We are the ones who are saved when we forgive. When we relinquish our judgments, we are the ones who are redeemed and restored. In this way, our brothers and sisters are our saviors always.

Choosing to be grateful for our saviors rather than despise them is what we can learn to do.

“Forgive them, Father, they know not what they do.”

Extending compassion redeems us, it cleans out our heart, it refreshes our mind. When we have no judgments there’s nothing to forgive.
Let’s not bother with resentment anymore. Let’s not huff and puff and blow our house down. Let’s cultivate true humility and extend Love and compassion to those who haven’t appreciated us in the past.

Just think, if you had behaved poorly, unkindly, meanly, fearfully, would you wish for people to forgive you and extend compassion? Of course you would! To have, give all to all. Let’s see them with new eyes and be that truly helpful presence in this world.

Who can you extend compassion to today? Let’s get on it and make a difference!

Ridding the world of fear is a great goal!

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Immune Booster

Wednesday, March 18th, 2020

This was first posted on February 28th, and is being posted again because so many people said it was helpful to them. Please share with others if you feel it can support them at this time. Thank you!

With all talk of the Coronavirus, how about some information about how to boost our immune system with ease and grace?

I remember years ago having Marci Shimoff tell me in a Living A Course in Miracles class that HeartMath Institute had done research about boosting your immune system with some simple techniques that many of us spiritual students already know about, and there were some interesting side notes.

In the study, subjects were asked to intentionally extend care and compassion for five minutes. Then a few days later, they were asked to feel angry about something that bothered them and to trigger that upset.

In each case, after five minutes of either being loving or angry, they could see the results in the subjects’ immune systems.

The loving subjects had their immune system boosted immediately by an average of 41%.

After an hour they returned to normal, but then slowly increased over the next 6 hours. Wow!

Most surprisingly, the students who were angry got an 18% immune boost, but an hour later their immune response had dropped to HALF what it was before they were angry – so a very significant repercussion. Six hours later, their immune system was still depressed.

Here’s another interesting fact — some of the subjects were shown a video of Mother Theresa and their immune system increased as much as 240% IMMEDIATELY.

So, what Marci told me back then is that a little bit of spiritual practice – 5 minutes of extending Love and compassion – will boost our immune system for six hours, and getting angry and upset will depress our immune system for more than six hours.

I would bet, but I have to know what to prove it or confirm, that the people who got angry and were able to fully release their judgment that was causing the anger would see a different immune response.

Many people stew on their anger, and that would, in my estimation, be the cause of the longer-term immune effects.

Be loving, be strong.
Focus on unloving, fearful thoughts and you’ll literally weaken yourself.

I used to teach spin classes in Los Angeles, and I told people that if it seemed really hard, think of someone you really Love with all your heart and no conditions and it will give you the strength to get through that tough part – and so will projecting Love and compassion to others.

Love is the Power.
Love is the healer.
Love is what we are!

Do you have something to share about this that can inspire us? Please share in the comments below!

If you like, you can read the HeartMath Institute source material here.

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Self-Compassion is Healing

Friday, March 6th, 2020

I have a niece and three nephews, plus a goddaughter and other children in my life. Some of them aren’t children anymore. Loving them as they’re growing up from infancy to adulthood, I’m aware of how completely I love and accept them. Although sometimes I don’t understand or don’t like their choices, the love I feel is constant and unconditional.

As I observed these beautiful beings coming into my life and “falling in love” with them, I realized that I was not so loving with myself. Where I wouldn’t judge them at all, I would be very hard on myself for the same behaviors. Having this realization really helped me.

In large part because of my love for these children, I realized how incredibly hard on myself I was. I made a decision. I decided to do things differently.

I started to treat myself the way I would treat the precious children in my life. I began to practice Self-compassion in a big, big way. It was truly healing and life-changing for me.

One of the techniques that really helped me was to imagine my nephew, Alex, when he was 3 years old. He was such a cuddly sweet little muffin of a boy. He has a huge heart and so wide open to life. He was incredibly easy to share love with, and he was very affectionate.

When I would feel upset with myself, I’d think of Alex. Precious boy. And I knew I would never, EVER in a million years yell at that sweet boy or say one unkind word to him. So, I decided to extend to myself the same kindness and compassion.

Again, it’s the decision that’s so important.
We are deciders.
Deciding is how we change our life.

Be willing to pause when you’re in a self-attack and think of someone you dearly love, someone who is so completely precious to you. Consider if you’d speak to them the way you’re speaking to yourself.

See if you can begin your self-talk with words like: Darling, sweetheart, precious one.

I would remind myself that I am the beloved of the THE Beloved and my thoughts are powerful and precious.

This one thought was very helpful to me in remembering to have compassion for myself.

Children learn best when they feel safe and loved, not when there’s a threat of punishment. The same is true of adults and ourselves. Love is our healer. Compassion is Love. Love is what we are.

The way to get in touch with our true identity is to value ourselves. It’s not that complicated.

The more loving we are, the more we can tell that the false belief feels false and the more we can notice that the Love feels real. Our willingness greatly improves our ability to recognize the true from the false. If we’re not willing to know the truth, we’ll just keep swimming in the false until we feel like we’re drowning.

Self-compassion is a practice we can learn until we no longer feel attracted to punishment.

The more we practice compassion with others, the easier it is to practice compassion with ourselves, and vice-versa.

Today’s a good day to practice! Please share in the comments some of the ways you practice Self-Love and Self-Compassion. Let’s inspire each other!

Last month, I did two radio show episodes on the topic of the “Self-Love Isn’t For Sissies” and you can click to download or listen to that episode here.

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