Archive for the ‘Compassion’ Category

Aversions

Monday, September 14th, 2020

I used to have an aversion to people who seemed weak, timid or afraid. It would bring up my own fear of being weak. I didn’t know that’s why I had the aversion, but that’s how this mirroring thing works.

What I also didn’t realize was that my many, MANY aversions were a huge distraction for me. Getting triggered, annoyed, upset, irritated and frustrated as well as taking offense on a daily basis ate up a lot of my time and energy. It also kept me swimming in a low vibrational pool of negativity of my own making.

I blamed everyone else, so I didn’t see a way out of it – until I was willing.

Do you have an aversion to people who act in a certain way?

I literally would feel this intense need to get away from people who were insecure. It was almost as if it were some kind of thing that I could catch – and that thought terrified me. Now, I’m aware that the reason it was so bothersome to me is that it was my own insecurities being reflected to me.

My insecurities were intolerable for me. I had so little self-compassion.

All of that began to change when I decided to focus on being compassionate for others.

As I was able to extend love to others, I could begin to have some love for myself. A little bit of love goes a long way.

This is why each act of loving kindness that we can extend to others opens our heart and helps us to be more available to the good in life. AND I learned that the way to heal an aversion is to have compassion. It works!

Life is SO much better without aversions.

Now, I use my time and energy for things that are enjoyable and productive. That makes my life worthwhile.

Now, I can see that my aversions kept me playing small, living in lack and limitation.

Next time your mind drifts to attacking someone, or even yourself, see if you can remember this and extend some compassion to welcome more good in your life. It’s a powerful spiritual practice that we can take with us every moment of every day!

Have you seen the direct results of having a practice of extending Love and compassion? Please tell us about it and share in the comments below! Thank you!

STARTS FRIDAY:  I’m getting ready for my Stop Playing Small Online Retreat which starts on Friday.  If you’d really like to do this healing work of letting go of complaining and other mental patterns that stand in our way of happiness and Peace, consider joining me.  You can change your entire life, your relationships, your experience, your finances, your body, your happiness and peace of mind, one breakthrough at a time – that’s what we’re doing.

Follow your intuition – only you know if this is right for you right now.

Consider this:

You won’t regret your choice, and you’ll only be so glad you did – at least that’s what I hear from the people who’ve done it.

Get going. Take action. Be aggressive about working with your mind. DO NOT DELAY. If you’re waiting, if you’re not getting the results you’d like, what are you waiting for?

Don’t take my word for it, read the testimonials from those who have done this work with me. They believed that nothing would work for them, and they were willing to do something different anyway. Now, they’re not playing small anymore. They’re not letting fear dictate their life. They have a real and powerful connection with Spirit.

CHECK IT OUT – If you’re ready to make a change, and you’d like some REAL support to make a LASTING change, TAKE ACTION! If you’re interested in either my Stop Playing Small Online Retreat or Finding Freedom From Fear Online Spiritual Bootcamp, but you aren’t sure if either is right for you right now, book an Exploratory Call with one of the spiritual counselors. The call is free and you’ll find benefit in addition to getting all your questions answered. Click here now to book an Exploratory Call with a Spiritual Counselor.

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Weathering Emotional Storms

Monday, September 7th, 2020

I used to get so upset. It now seems hard to believe how much of my time, energy and attention I gave to being upset. I used to put effort into being upset by ruminating on things over and over again. So much of my precious life has been invested in placing my attention on things that only made me feel worse about my life and myself. Ugh.

When I’ve felt blasted by the storms of emotions and the drama, whether it’s been of my own making or someone else’s, my spiritual practice of non-judgment and nonviolence is my rock. It’s a haven of infinite patience and Love inside my own mind.

I can come back to center by practicing nonviolence. So often I see folks do things that make no sense. We lose perspective and then we suffer and make crazy choices.

At times folks are deliberately unkind; they’re selfish and hurtful. People respond without thinking and are rude. I’ve done so much of that in my life.

Some people are discouraging when they could be encouraging. My practice of non-judgment forces me to look at my motivations and intentions and to consistently choose the most loving intention regardless of where my emotions are.

My spiritual practice of non-judgment is a practice infinite compassion.

It is the daily practice of walking in Spirit. Just as that farm girl from Kansas put on the ruby slippers and remembered her personal power that could take her back home, my personal practice of nonviolence takes me back home to the spiritual truth of all life: I am one with all that is.

If I hate the one who hates, I’ve lost my power, and I’m multiplying the hatred. If I am rude to the one who is rude, I am living someone else’s pain and magnifying it. If I have no compassion for the one who has no compassion, I am spending my precious energy magnifying someone else’s hurt. Every moment I choose whose shoes I’ll stand in. Every moment I can choose anew and change the course of my life.

When I make the highest choice I can reach for in the moment, I lift the world.

Mother Theresa taught us, “People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered. Forgive them anyway … Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough. Give the best you’ve got anyway.”

When I look at Mother Theresa’s life and the lives of Buddha, Jesus, St. Francis, Gandhi, King and Thich Nhat Hanh, I see the power in their moment to moment practice of choosing love in much more difficult circumstances than I’ve ever faced.

I choose to carry close to me this awareness of those who went before me. This is my ruby slipper practice.

In every moment I remember my intention to love and I am that. How grateful I am that no matter where I am, no matter what is happening in and around me, I can have a ruby slipper moment and come home to my heart.

I’m getting ready for my Stop Playing Small Online Retreat in just 2 weeks. If you’d really like to do this healing work of letting go of complaints and the other things that stand in our way of happiness and Peace, consider joining us. You can change your entire life, your relationships, your experience, your finances, your body, your happiness and peace of mind. Consider this:

You will never regret your choice, and you’ll only be so glad you did – at least that’s what I hear from the people who have done it.

Get going. Take action. Be aggressive about working with your mind. DO NOT DELAY. If you’re waiting, if you’re not getting the results you’d like, what are you waiting for?

Don’t take my word for it, read the testimonials from those who have done this work with me. They believed that nothing would work for them, and they were willing to do something different anyway. Now, they’re not playing small anymore. They’re not letting fear dictate their life. They have a real and powerful connection with Spirit.

If you’re ready to make a change, and you’d like some REAL support to make a LASTING change, TAKE ACTION! If you’re interested in either my Stop Playing Small Online Retreat or Finding Freedom From Fear Online Spiritual Bootcamp, but you aren’t sure if either is right for you right now, book an Exploratory Call with one of the spiritual counselors. The call is free and you’ll find benefit in addition to getting all your questions answered. Click here now to book an Exploratory Call with a Spiritual Counselor.

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Perceptions Sometimes Aren’t Helpful

Friday, August 7th, 2020

It’s interesting to notice what we notice.
It can be fascinating to view how we view.

In New Jersey they don’t have self-serve gas, the attendant pumps the gas for you. In Maine, at some stations there’s no self-serve and I when I learned about that I realized that I could help contribute to someone having a job by choosing the stations where there’s no self-serve. I might cost a small amount more, but it gives someone a job. Since I don’t particularly enjoy pumping gas, that completely works for me.

I used to return the shopping carts, to the store, but then I realized that there’s no need to return them it’s easier for me not to, and by not returning it, I’m giving a person employment. I can receive the support of not having to return the cart.

In small towns, grocery baggers will sometimes ask if I’d like help taking my groceries to the car, wouldn’t they also like to help by taking the cart and putting it away?

Do you feel guilty if you don’t return the cart where they’d like you to?

What’s interesting is the meaning we make of things.

Our perspective generates our perception, but many times we really don’t know what anything is for.

Once when I was at a Wednesday night service at Agape with a friend. As the collection basket was being passed, my friend saw someone pass the basket without putting anything in it and she turned to me and said, “that bothers me so much, how can they pass the basket without putting anything in it?”

I said to her, “I do that all the time. I write one tithe check per month to make it easier for myself. I’m here at service twice eight times a week or more, but I only write one check. So, I don’t put anything in the collection most of the time.”

My friend was taken aback. After a moment she said, “I never thought about that. That makes sense.”

Whenever we judge, we’re taking ourselves out of the flow of Love and we’re usually creating some kind of personal, emotional and mental distress.

If we don’t correct our thoughts, then we start feel the upset in our physical body. Our life is so much easier if we simply focus on being loving.

We’re designed to be peaceful, harmonious and prosperous and our misperceptions trigger a feeling of upset so we can realize that it’s time to course correct.

It’s a great system to remind us that Love is our true identity and Peace is our natural state. Let’s remember what’s real.

What perception is operating in your mind, triggering guilt? Please share in the comments and help us realize where we can all make a change! Thank you in advance!

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First Responder

Monday, August 3rd, 2020

I am a first responder.
I AM is a first responder.

In my experience, in my relationships, in my community, I choose to be a first responder to the cry for Love.

We can be first responders, responding to the insanity of the world with a voice of Love and compassion.

We don’t have to MAKE anything happen – that’s not our job. Our response-ability is to hold the loving view, the right-minded view, and to be kind, loving and supportive.

Right now, although my spiritual practice is all day long, in many forms, the most important thing, as always, is to be kind and caring. Extending Love is the #1 thing for us to put our attention on each moment of each day.

When we’re extending Love, we’re being a healing presence.


And when we’re extending Love and compassion, we’re being truly helpful.
Which means we’re living our purpose.

If we wonder what our purpose is, it’s not complicated or hard to find: Be kind.

Sometimes being kind is the hardest thing in the world to do.
The more it stretches us, the more it’s worth the effort.

Let me be grateful for the pain of the strain to be kind in challenging circumstances as it reminds me how much gain there is for my soul.

We can remember too, how sometimes being kind seems just the opposite. I think of Elvis Costello’s song about being “cruel to be kind.” It’s a paradox sometimes.

There are times when it’s most helpful to point out to someone that they are fantasizing about something, and it’s not helpful to them.

There are times when someone is about to do something cruel and the kindest thing is to interrupt them.

Cultivating the ability to respond with kindness instead of judgment – that’s where I focus a good deal of my attention.

No judgments also mean no attachments.

It’s a rigorous practice, but when I do it with kindness it feels very nurturing – which it is.

Let’s be first responders, responding to every situation with Love, kindness and compassion. This way we absolutely KNOW we’re always in the right place at the right time, and we can feel the strength of that. What a blessing!

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