Archive for the ‘Forgiveness’ Category

Living in Alignment

Wednesday, August 12th, 2020

Have you ever felt that you’ve labored in vain? I have! It was only because I wasn’t living in LOVE.

STUDYING spiritual principle and LIVING spiritual principle are two different things with completely different results.

I’ve tried it both ways. Studying can actually be a great way that the ego distracts us from growing. Reading books, listening to audios, and studying many hours can be a great way to keep us preoccupied with thinking that we’re doing something fruitful, when actually we’re just spinning our wheels and very little healing is happening.

An active practice of being loving, patient, kind and generous is profoundly healing, AND it builds a solid foundation for your life.

This is one of the things I was sharing in detail about in my podcast yesterday.

Sometimes we act loving in order to get approval?
Do you ever do that? I’ve done it more times than I could count!

Do you have an intellectual understanding of God without taking it deep into the heart of your life and living FROM that source of all-knowing wisdom? That was me.

Think of Jesus and the Pharisees. The Pharisees were the political/religious leaders that were often confronting Jesus and questioning him. While Jesus was about God’s business, living and teaching spiritual Truth, the Pharisees were more focused on how other people saw them and policing people. They were looking to set an example while Jesus was the living example. While the Pharisees were busy judging and criticizing, Jesus attained the Christ Mind.

Studying spiritual Truth without applying it is what people have done for thousands of years. It feels like it’s getting closer and closer to being a thing of the past.

We’re leading humanity in the direction of spiritual Freedom which comes from walking the talk and living the Love.

Living in alignment with principle is deeply FULFILLING, studying principle is an intellectual pursuit that never brings Spirit into the heart for the true attainment. Let’s live it and be it and lead the way in Love! We can labor in vain or make life a labor of Love! Let Love rule and everybody wins!

We’re waking up together and I’m so grateful for that!

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Forgiving the Past

Tuesday, August 11th, 2020

There’s so much opportunity for healing right now if we’re willing to take it.  This came through in the healing meditation I did on Sunday in our Sundays With Spirit celebration with Lisa Natoli.  Every upset is a healing opportunity if we’ll take it.  

We do have to be willing to have the healing.  And true willingness means a willingness to change our mind.  It’s easier to change our minds and be kind when we join together.

One of the great benefits I see of the work that we do in our classes of Masterful Lliving and Finding Freedom, is that we join together. There’s a great joy in joining together when it’s for the purpose of being more open to giving and receiving love.  We have an opportunity to practice loving kindness together even when we’re intensely triggered.

There’s an old saying that it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.  This is certainly true. And yet, So often, many of us decide that love is too painful and we close our hearts.  

It’s also true that it’s better to have been kind and lost than never to have been kind at all.  

There’s a big mistake that we make. It is a mis – take.  Love is the only painful when we’re judging. But that’s not love.  Love and attack thoughts can’t coexist.   It seems like Love is painful when we’re actually pretending to love while trying to control, manage, and manipulate instead of being loving and kind.  

The ego interpretation of our pain is that love is the cause of it. 

But love is never the cause of pain. Never ever.

When we’re judging ourselves or the ones we say that we love, then love appears to be painful in the egos opinions, but that does not make it true.

If you’d like to have a healing about this, be willing to forgive yourself for having made that interpretation. Forgive yourself for having decided that love is painful, when in actuality it is your attack thoughts that are painful, and that’s what makes you run from Love – you do not feel worthy because of your attack thoughts.

We must all forgive ourselves for having attacked the one we say we love.

 We can forgive ourselves for shaming and blaming and criticizing and condemning the ones we love. We can forgive ourselves for trying to manipulate them to feel guilty so that they’ll do what we want them to do. Forgive, forgive, forgive.  

Self-Love is forgiving ourselves for our unkindnesses. 

Self-Love is being kind and compassionate with ourselves for having been unkind to others.

When I was growing up, my parents tried very hard to control me, and that infuriated me, we had a war and it wasn’t any fun.  Nobody won.

I experienced a deep sense of self hatred, and fortunately I made the decision to transform that self-hatred into love.

In doing so, I had to forgive myself.

And then, of course there was nothing else to forgive anyone for. It was all about me.  I discovered that I didn’t hate my Self.  I hated being identified with a false self, a small and selfish self.

In healing my own mind, and perceptions, about my self and life I freed my parents as well. Everyone lightened up in my whole family when I lightened up. I never could’ve known it would be so miraculous had I not decided to do it. There is  great power in our decisions. 

We can decide for love or for hate. This is our choice. We are not meant to struggle alone with the spiritual practice. Those days are over. Yes, it’s good to be contemplative and have time to be with spirit.  But that is so entirely different than isolating in order to avoid the pain of human contact.

In my classes people work in small groups and in prayer partnerships and they have an opportunity to practice unconditional love and non-judgment in a safe space. They are able to share their shame for having been so unloving and so unkind and a great healing occurs.  

Treasure the people you can join with who will give you the space to be transparent and authentic.  Offer them the same non-judgmental space too.  It will be deeply healing, and allow you to actively forgive the past.  It’s so worth it!

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Means and Ends

Sunday, June 14th, 2020

One of the spiritual teachings of A Course in Miracles that I work with almost every day is “the consistency of means and ends.

Almost every day I find myself examining this teaching as it plays out in my life.

In ACIM, we’re told, “You recognize you want the goal. Are you not also willing to accept the means? If you are not, let us admit that you are inconsistent. A purpose is attained by means, and if you want a purpose you must be willing to want the means as well. How can one be sincere and say, ‘I want this above all else, and yet I do not want to learn the means to get it?’”

In other words, we SAY we’d like Joy, Love, Peace, Abundance, Harmony, Freedom and all of the spiritual qualities to be fully realized by us in our lives, and yet, we’re not willing to employ the means necessary to experience those spiritual qualities.

This teaching is simple. It really is.

We say we’re clear about the goal: awakening, Peace, Love, heaven on earth.

Spirit has given us the means.

It is the way out of our personal hell.

And yet, we resist.
We’re reluctant.
We hide.
We delay.
We make excuses.

Why?

Because the means is forgiveness.

And we do not want to forgive.

We say we don’t know-how, that we’ve tried, but when we look more deeply, we haven’t. We cling to our position and the meaning we made of what happened. We defend and justify.

The means to be restored to the fullness of Peace, Love, Joy, Freedom, Abundance, Harmony and more, is to let go of the blocks to Love that we hold in our heart. That’s true forgiveness.

We’d like to have great Love, but we’re not willing to let go of our resentments.
We’d like to have Prosperity, but we’re not willing to let go of our belief in lack and limitation.
We’d like to have Peace, but we’re not willing to let go of our attack thoughts against ourselves and others.
We’d like to have Freedom, but we’re not willing to let go of the guilt and making others feel guilty.

In our minds, we imagine punishing people and seeking revenge.

It’s like saying we’d like to stop feeling pain, but we won’t let go of the hot iron that is burning us.

Niccolò Machiavelli famously said, “the ends justify the means.” That was his opinion. He was a philosopher and statesman, a contemporary of DaVinci during the time of the Renaissance. He was an atheist and a cynic seemingly devoid of morals. He wrote many books including “The Art of War.” He believed that the means to the goal, no matter how cruel or vicious, were justified.

We could say he was ego personified.

In a sense, you could say that Machiavelli’s philosophy became acceptable because of his writing and the success he experienced in his lifetime. We see that kind of thing play out today. Someone who manages to become wealthy and famous is considered successful even if they lied and cheated to get to their “success.”

Those who wish to justify their means can do it with their ill-gotten gains – and still, whatever anyone takes or makes at the expense of the suffering of others, will never ever be worth it. It will never bring fulfillment or happiness. The best it can ever do is offer a temporary cessation of longing. People whose method of success is to bring harm to others, to steal, to lie and to cheat, will never, ever be able to be happy, but they won’t know that till they get there.

While they can believe that we’re better than others and they deserve more than others, they don’t. They never will. Their class, their position, their financial power and leverage, their talent and their beauty won’t ever make them happy because in their soul, they know that we’re one with each other. We all do.

Other voices have spoken up about ends and means, particularly in the last hundred years or so.

Wilhelm Reich, the radical psychoanalyst said,
“You think the end justifies the means, however vile.
I tell you: the end is the means by which you achieve it.
Today’s step is tomorrow’s life.
Great ends cannot be attained by base means.
You’ve proved that in all your social upheavals.
The meanness and inhumanity of the means make you
mean and inhuman and make the end unattainable.”

Perhaps the human race consciousness had grown enough in the five centuries between Machiavelli and Reich that it was now obvious, based on the experience humanity’s had of suffering at the unfeeling hands of blood thirsty egomaniacs, that ends can never justify the means.

Writer Aldous Huxley came along and said,
“the end cannot justify the means,
for the simple and obvious reason
that the means employed
determine the nature of the ends produced.”

Ayn Rand, another famous author, said,
“the end does not justify the means.
No one’s rights can be secured by the violation of the rights of others.”

Amen to that.

More recently Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. said,
“You can’t reach good ends through evil means,
because the means represent the seed
and the end represents the tree.”
And the “means we use must be as pure as the ends we seek.”

Now, if you look at all those voices, speaking of different views of the same philosophy or theory, you can see which statement has the most heart in it. It’s King, letting us know that he seeks pure agape Love.

And because the revolution he led was of loving means, he was able to be profoundly successful and we can learn from this now.

If we needed any proof of theory – we have it.

We’re spiritual beings having a human experience. We cannot find Peace with unpeaceful means. We cannot have a war to bring Peace.

We get angry, we fall into despair, we blame others for our shortcomings. We withhold Love because we want Love. We do the darndest things because we’re upset and we lack perspective.

We let our emotions run away with us just because we feel like it and don’t love ourselves enough to honor our feelings and instead we stuff them and stuff them and medicate them and then we either explode or implode.

And still, the teaching that is so helpful to us, especially right now, TODAY, is that if we’d like to experience Peace, Prosperity, Wholeness, Freedom, Joy, Clarity, Harmony, Love and so much more, we must forgive the past.

This IS consistency of ends and means.

We must let go of our judgments.

Judgments are the mechanism by which separation from Spirit’s infinite goodness is brought into our experience.

The ends is in the means.

That will never change.

We can’t stuff our feelings and expect to feel better.
We can’t medicate our feelings and feel free.
We can’t focus on lack and limitation and feel expansive.
We can’t withhold Love to get Love.
We cannot hide our light under a bushel and hope for our dreams to be realized.
We cannot believe we’re unworthy, not good enough, wrong, bad, unlovable and live the life we desire.

Something’s gotta give.
And that something is the false beliefs, the painful patterns, the habits that keep us living blocked from our destiny.

We each have extraordinary gifts that the world can benefit from if we share them.

We each can help liberate our brothers and sisters from the prison in their minds when we release ourselves.

I made a decision to begin sharing because I was inspired and felt that I just had to share. I couldn’t be silent. I couldn’t hide. I had no platform. I had no audience. I just started sharing with the people I knew.

I gave from the overflow.
I didn’t need anything in return.
I was, and still am, so grateful just to be able to offer something that’s meaningful to me – and to connect.

I can remember driving four hours round trip to lead a workshop that only one person attended. And still, it felt worth it.

I used to give workshops at my friend’s house, in my own living room, any place I could find would work for me. I HAD to share because I was so full of gratitude for the inspiration I felt.

To achieve our goals of awakening awareness, living in Peace, and BEING a blessing in this world, we are required to learn that consistency of means and ends is necessary.

To have Peace, teach Peace. What does it mean to teach Peace? It really means to forgive. To stop judging, complaining and attacking.

We teach with every choice we make.

Learning NOT to judge is much easier than learning to judge. We’ve learned to judge and attack ourselves and others, and now we’re unlearning it. Let’s forgive of ourselves for all the ignorance, and all the ways we’ve chosen to NOT be helpful in this world. Let’s wipe that slate clean by giving ALL of our self-judgment to our Higher Holy Spirit for healing.

We forgive ourselves first, and then we can forgive others.

We’ve got work to do. Let’s forgive ourselves so we can focus on something productive.

And, forgiveness takes work too. Practicing non-judgment IS forgiveness. We have what it takes because we have infinite support in the invisible and we always will

Our willingness is required.
Our willingness is ALL that’s required.
If we can’t be willing, be willing to be willing – honestly, this does the trick, and if that’s not sufficient, let’s be willing to be willing to be willing! A tiny bit of willingness is still willingness.

Our goal is liberation.
What are liberating from? False beliefs.
Our own false beliefs can be released in a moment.
We don’t have to wait.
We can choose heaven today instead of hell.

Ultimately we WILL liberate.
Let’s actively choose it, work towards it and ALLOW it to be revealed.

Our liberation is tied to everyone else’s. Let’s not delay another day!

If you feel like you might be playing small and hiding your light under a bushel because of your beliefs about yourself, if you think maybe those beliefs are false and could be eliminated, and if you have a willingness to do some inner work to make a real and lasting change then please consider joining me and some other folks just like you who are SO DONE WITH PLAYING SMALL and ready to let those patterns go.

My Stop Playing Small Retreat was going to be in the UK this month, but now it’s being offered ONLINE, so all can join. This online retreat is for folks who are frustrated with feeling stuck and fearful. It’s designed for those who’d like to bring on a breakthrough so they can move forward with confidence toward their heart’s desire in any area of their life. Click here for details. If you aren’t sure if it’s right for you right now, book an Exploratory Call with one of the spiritual counselors. The call is free and you’ll find benefit in addition to getting all your questions answered.

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Breaking the Habit of Lack

Tuesday, May 26th, 2020

The spiritual student who desires to become truly masterful will ultimately come to the awareness that willingness to accept total responsibility for everything in their life is the way out of hell. In actuality, there is no other way out. Responsibility is the only way. It’s the only way to true prosperity.

Willingness to accept the responsibility is the first step. It is the key that turns the lock. To open the door one must next have the willingness to lay all blame aside. The only way anyone’s personality (ego) can allow themselves to take full responsibility for every moment, every situation, every circumstance and occurrence in their lives is to leave all blame and shame behind.

100% responsibility and 0% blame, that’s the key to stepping firmly onto the path of spiritual awakening. Laying all blame aside requires a practice of non-judgment. Non-judgment is what true forgiveness is.

Forgiveness is the cure for all of our experiences of lack.

If we look around your life and can see a lot of lack, then know it can be changed. We have the power to change it. In fact, no one outside of ourselves has the power to change it. No one giving us money, a job, Love, support or anything will change our experience of lack for more than a moment. Unless we surrender our belief in lack and attack our life cannot become truly prosperous.

Our experience of lack was created by a lack of Love.

We are in charge of how much Love flows through our life, our heart, and our mind. No one else can increase or decrease the amount of Love in our life. It’s our belief in attack that causes the lack. Attack thoughts are lack of Love thoughts. Attack thoughts are judgments. Judgments are unforgiveness.

The mind is very powerful, and never loses its creative force. It never sleeps. Every instant it is creating. It is hard to recognize that thought and belief combine into a power surge that can literally move mountains … There are no idle thoughts.” ~ A Course in Miracles

A belief in lack of Love is the only “problem.”

When we’re being loving, extending Love and shining forth Love without attachment to getting anything back and your lack attack will end. We can be vigilant and seek out all hidden resentments, release the judgments and open to receive. Start today, why delay your prosperity?

I AM willing to be the Love I’d like to experience in my world. Love is healing my life! I AM healing my life by choosing Love NOW. Love is my Abundance and Prosperity!

It’s so much easier to deepen our spiritual practice, heal our lives and start sharing our gifts and talents, rather than continue digging a deeper hole of confusion. A little willingness turns the tide. A committed spiritual practice of forgiveness brings on a complete shift into Abundance. It works! Prove it for yourself!

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Prayer is Healing

Sunday, May 24th, 2020

Prayer has helped me heal my life.

A Course in Miracles tells us that “prayer is the medium of miracles.” ACIM says, “Prayer is a way offered by the Holy Spirit to reach God.” And “reaching” God, that connection, heals our mind, and transforms our lives.

I prayed so many times to simply be loving, to resist being mean and unkind. I truly was willing to let go of the past forever and I’ve been amazed at the miraculous healing transformation.

That’s why I teach prayer as foundational to everything that offer.

Prayer is often misunderstood, but ACIM is very clear, “Prayer is a stepping aside; a letting go, a quiet time of listening and loving. It should not be confused with supplication of any kind, because it is a way of remembering your holiness.”

You may not know this about me, but I was trained as a Science of Mind Practitioner at the Agape International Spiritual Center. I’ve been steeped in the New Thought teachings of affirmative prayer. Once I learned the power of prayer, no matter how low and desperate I felt, I kept praying.

Prayer works.

As I write this we’re wrapping up my Spiritual Counseling Training Intensive in the beautiful Blue Ridge Mountains of North Carolina. I feel so blessed to be able to share what is the most valuable thing in my life – connection with Spirit.

For so long I really struggled with resistance and reluctance. I had a deep desire to be able to share spirituality as a minister, teacher and counselor, but I still had a deep sense of unworthiness that got in my way. Fortunately, I prayed A LOT and I found the way out of that unworthiness and now it is the foundation of what I share in all of my offerings. It’s the reason why I write daily inspiration and why I’ve been recording a new prayer and posting it each day for 11 years now.

Prayer works. Spiritual practice heals.

Spiritual practice is more than a few minutes a day, it’s how we live our life.
Spiritual practice is an active practice of non-judgment, which is what true forgiveness is.

And yet, so many times I would pray for healing, but then not allow it. I would block the healing insights, the inspiration of Love, the clear guidance. I’d block all that I’d prayed for with judgmental and unkind thoughts.

Many of us have a willingness for healing, but still, we don’t allow it. We pray to receive, and then don’t actually allow ourselves to receive because of that ancient guilt and unworthiness.

Our own Higher Holy Spirit Self will give us all the healing we need if we allow it, but instead we treasure our judgments and opinions and build little altars in our heart and mind to keep them right in front of us, gathering evidence to try to support the case that they are worthwhile.

I finally realized that I was blocking my answered prayer by ruminating on my hurts and keeping the blocks to Love alive in my heart. I was feeding the fire of my Self-destruction, but I didn’t know it.

I thought that if I could hold onto my resentments and never forget the past hurts that I’d somehow be protected from future hurts. I dedicated so much energy to trying to protect myself, never realizing that it was those active resentments and regrets that were hurting me now.

A Course in Miracles tells us that we have no actual problems. It’s just the incorrect perception of an imaginary problem. We believe we are no longer unified with our Creator and that’s why we think we have a problem, and because we think it, we feel it and because we feel it, we believe it and on and on. That’s why we believe in punishment. We punish ourselves and we punish others.

This intense sense of separation began with a tiny mad idea. It began with a crazy thought that wasn’t even true. What was that thought? I believe it was some version of “better than and less than.” Without the belief in better than and less than, separation thinking would have died out. If we didn’t like comparison so much it would have died out.

In my Masterful Living Course community we say, “compare and despair.”

Forgiveness is the way out of all of this. It’s the only way out and it works. Forgiveness has literally saved my life. Forgiveness is letting go of the meaning I made of things. It’s letting go of the belief in better than and less than. I prayed thousands of times to forgive everything and it continues to work.

I prayed to forgive everything in all directions of time and space.
I prayed to forgive what I could remember I’d been offended by and what I didn’t.

True forgiveness is developing the ability to really practice the ACIM lessons. Lesson 25 helped me so much. “I don’t know what anything is for.” If I’ve gotten so lost in the tiny mad idea of better than and less than that my perspective is completely off, how can I know what anything is for? If I’m upset, I must have decided wrongly.

A lot of people say they’d like to forgive, but they don’t actually mean it. What they really mean is, I’d like to be free of this pain AND hold onto my judgments about what happened. That’s not forgiveness. That’s a fantasy of forgiveness.

When I first began teaching forgiveness workshops, in fact, in the very first workshop I ever did back in 2000, I learned a lot from the people who attended. One of the primary reasons that people were coming to my workshops or to a counseling session with me was that they had forgiven, but they didn’t feel free. They hadn’t actually forgiven, but they’d said they had. If they had truly forgiven they would have felt free.

So often I heard stories from one wonderful person after another who told me that they’d forgiven, but they were still so bothered and upset about what happened. I heard things such as, “my father molested me when I was a child. I have forgiven him so many times. I really just want to move on, but it still bothers me and I can’t seem to get free. Why can’t I let go?”

In a very real sense, it doesn’t matter why.
Our Higher Holy Spirit Self knows precisely why. Let’s commune with the Higher Holy Spirit Self by the means of prayer and simply ask Spirit to lift the burden from us. That’s what Jesus tells us in ACIM. He asks that we stop trying to do everything ourselves and actually ALLOW the healing to happen.

I learned HOW to ALLOW the healing.

I’m very practical. I’ve had enough of BS. I really don’t wish to read a lot of books and gather more information. I’m truly focused on healing my mind and sharing with others helps me to “get it” more clearly. I love joining with others. I love being the two or more gathered in the name and the nature of Christ. I’m grateful technology allows us to do this.

WE ARE SO BLESSED!

With the technology we have we can transcend time and space to pray together and to join together. That’s why I love recording a new prayer every day and a new episode of my podcast each week. I love teaching classes on Zoom. It’s so wonderful to use technology to connect.

Some people are feeling intensely emotionally and mentally challenged right now and I’m being led to talk about these things in my podcast. You might be interested in my topic this past week: How to Have Peace Instead of Worry. You can listen to it now..

People have told me they got engaged to be married, or healed their relationships and they attributed it to their living A Course in Miracles. They said they’d really listened and applied what I shared in the many episodes of my podcast about relationship. It’s all about the application, the allowance, the living it. Listening isn’t healing. It’s the active practice of forgiveness that opens our heart to live the Love.

And that’s why TODAY, you can join me, kironJ Gardner and more friends on zoom. kironJ is such an inspiration and I’m so glad we’ll get to be together on zoom today. This will be powerful! We’ll have a spiritual celebration together with inspiration and music – we call it Sundays With Spirit. Please invite your family! If you can’t join us, you can catch the replay! Because we’re going to be live on video, you’ll have to register to get the details. All are welcome, there’s no charge, but you do have to register, unless you’ve already registered in the past.

When you register, you’ll also get easy access to past services with Lisa Natoli, Jon Mundy, David Hoffmeister, Maureen Muldoon and more. If you’ve already registered for a previous Sunday – you don’t need to register again, you’ll get a reminder with the details automatically.

I’ve used prayer to heal my life, and it’s been nothing short of miraculous. If you’re interested, join my Prayer Power class – you can get started right now. For years, this has only been available to folks in Masterful Living, but under the circumstances we have in the world right now, I was guided to open it to anyone. Join us for this class, which is Part 1 of a four part series – and then carry on if you feel inspired!

Also, my Stop Playing Small Retreat was going to be in UK next month, but now it’s being offered online, so all can join. This online retreat is for folks who are frustrated with feeling stuck and fearful. It’s designed for those who’d like to bring on a breakthrough so they can move forward with confidence toward their heart’s desire in any area of their life. Click here for details.

I look forward to our Sunday gathering today. It means so much that we can join together and love on each other!

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True Forgiveness

Friday, April 24th, 2020

Who taught you how to forgive?
What did they teach you?
How did they teach you?

Most of us were taught forgiveness from our family. And many of those who taught us taught us that forgiveness means you’re tired of being upset, and you don’t want to torture yourself anymore, but you’re never going to forget what happened. But that’s not true forgiveness. That’s fantasy forgiveness. And without true forgiveness there’s no way you’ll ever feel free and be able to stop the suffering and move on.
In order to understand what true forgiveness is, it helps to understand what forgiveness is not.

Forgiveness isn’t saying “I forgive” and still holding onto your opinions about what happened the past.

Forgiveness isn’t saying that what happened is okay and you don’t mind that it happened.

Forgiveness isn’t opening yourself to further hurt and betrayal.

Forgiveness isn’t something you can do with your intellect.

Forgiveness isn’t pretending that what happened didn’t hurt, or bother you.

Forgiveness isn’t just keeping calm and carrying on.

And most especially, forgiveness isn’t looking at something devastating and destructive that happened, labeling it bad and horrible and then saying “I forgive.” That’s insanity. It’s false just like the little child who says “I hate you” to his parent, but doesn’t mean it for one second. They’re just upset with what happened, they feel attacked, and their interpretation of what happened (that they were were attacked) justifies their retaliation. That’s the immature, ignorant and painful way of the world.

True forgiveness isn’t labeling something bad and wrong and then saying “I forgive it.”

That’s self-delusion.

When you say “I forgive” and it still bothers you, then you know for sure that you are clinging to your interpretation of what occurred. We cling to our opinions and judgment, our labels of things because we made them. Again, this is what children do. They hold onto something so tightly and they project their interpretation onto every subsequent similar experience.

Like a child who goes to pet a strange dog and the dog snears, barks and frightens them. The child then makes the meaning that dogs are scary, they’re not safe, they can’t be trusted, and they can hurt you.

Here’s what true forgiveness is:

It’s letting go of the meaning you made of what happened.
It’s releasing your attachment to your interpretation of what occurred.
It’s saying that your opinions about the people, events, occurrences and everything related to this experience are not valuable to you anymore.

True forgiveness means I’m willing to say that your opinions and judgments about the past aren’t worth having.

That’s how I get free – by releasing your attachment to the past.

The only way to stop repeating the same thoughts, upsets and experiences is to let go of my mental and emotional attachment to the underlying beliefs that sustain those thoughts, upsets and experiences.

True forgiveness is my decision to make Love a greater priority than my judgments about the past.

It’s letting go of the past. I can’t let go of the meaning I made of the past until I realize that it’s not actually valuable to me.

Let me value what is TRULY valuable and let the past go!

True forgiveness is our liberation!

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Letting Go of False Beliefs

Wednesday, January 15th, 2020

Part 1: Magical Solutions Don’t Solve the Problem
Part 2: (You Are Here) Letting Go of False Beliefs

In Part 1 of this series, I shared that on our path of awakening, the ego can send us on lengthy and exhausting detours to collect spiritual information.

We find ourselves hoping and believing that spiritual information will somehow precipitate our awakening, but all it really does is distract us and cause a sense of false pride because we know so much.

How many times have we heard the spiritual know-it-all going on and on, and so obviously making it clear that all they have is information? Maybe we’ve even been that person.

If we’re collecting spiritual information (rather than actually having a healing), then it’s pretty clear that we do not know much – because information isn’t healing – and it never will be.

What IS healing?

Love.

Love is the only healer, precisely because Love is our nature and our Source.

Love is ALL. Love is the All in All.

When we align with Love, we’re remembering our Divinity, and that’s what heals our mind of the belief in lack, limitation and separation.

Love connects us back to the Infinite Source of All-Good.

It opens us up to the flow and eliminates the belief in lack.

A Course in Miracles tells us “All healing is at the level of the mind.” In other words, whatever it is we’re trying to heal, whether it’s our body or our finances, our relationships or our career, regardless of how it looks in the world of form, healing happens when we change our mind.

What does changing our mind really mean?

It means giving up the false beliefs, which are our interpretations, and trading them in for an awareness of the truth that liberates us.

False beliefs clutter our mind and obscure pure insight and Wisdom. After all, what person is interested in Wisdom when they cling to their opinions

Have you ever paid off all your debts, had some extra cash, only to get back in debt and WORSE within a pretty short period of time?

I have.

Have you ever been in a difficult relationship that was really painful, only to finally escape and then find yourself in another similar relationship that’s even MORE painful?

I have.

Hey, most of us have done something like this MANY times. I certainly have.

And it’s pretty easy to see that this can literally take YEARS of our time, energy, and effort, years spent in worry, doubt and upset. Right?

And doesn’t it seem like it’s happening TO us? Doesn’t it seem like we’re doing everything we can to have it be different?

But if that were actually true, would we be repeating the same experiences? No, of course not.

Here’s why this happens:

First, we have to understand that our painful experiences are the manifestation of our belief system.

We’re not being tortured or punished by them – just the opposite.

Our difficult experiences are actually come to help us to transcend and transmute the limited beliefs that we’ve clung to from the past.

A Course in Miracles tells us that it’s all about forgiving the meaning we’ve made of things in the past. Everything that’s painful in our present represents some unloving decision we’ve made in the past.

Our challenges re-present the false beliefs we’ve chosen in the past. The decision point has come back again so we can choose to heal our mind about it and know the truth that is our Freedom, NOW.

If we start managing and coping with our problems, then we’re not going to heal the mind that manifested them. We’re laboring in vain when we’re trying to fix the problem.

When we’re laboring in vain, we’re seeing the problem as “out there” and we’re trying to fix it “out there”, instead of at the level of the mind.

Until we’re willing to let go of the meaning we’ve made of things, our interpretations, our opinions, and judgments, then we’re doomed to keep repeating them.

Eventually we’ll get tired of reliving the painful beliefs, investing our precious time, energy, and money into the bottomless pit of managing and coping with our problems – and trying to fix the problem in the world.

Hard truth: The “problem” isn’t in the world.

The thing we see in the world is the symptom, like a sneeze is a symptom of an irritant in your nose.

Your money, time, relationships, career, and health challenges aren’t the result of things happening in the world. They’re symptoms of your belief system. That’s why you have to heal your mind to have a healing in your life.

Now, in Part 1 of this series, I said I’d share the key to having a breakthrough.

You can have an amazing speed-healing experience of your entire life or you can have a slow one. It’s up to you. Either way, the key is total willingness for total forgiveness.

A Course in Miracles tells us our “little willingness is all that’s required.”

Yes, “a little willingness” is the only requirement to move onto this path of healing. But in order to really get some traction, you’ve got to get closer to total willingness.

Our ego says “Total willingness?! Are you kidding me? That’s not even possible! I can’t do it. I’m done. Forget it!”

But total willingness is not the same as complete dedication and devotion.

It’s willingness.

We can be totally willing to have a healing and willing to forgive even when we’re freaked out and have NO IDEA how it could ever happen.

Let’s face it. In every moment, we’re either willing to have a healing or we’re not willing. There are just two choices.

If we’re really not willing (and sometimes we’re not) then let’s become very aware of it and at least be willing to be willing. Most of us can get to that place.

What I did that worked so well for me, every day I affirmed:

“I AM forgiving everything in all directions of time and space.
I AM forgiving everything, known and unknown,
felt and not felt, recognized and unrecognized.
I AM forgiving it ALL.”

Then, of course, all day long, things would be shown to me so that I could see where I’d made a decision, a choice, an interpretation of something in the past and now, in the present moment, I was being given the opportunity to choose again. And this time I was willing to choose Love.

Look, it wasn’t easy to look at so many things from the past.

It wasn’t easy to see how intensely unloving and judgmental my mind really was.

That was hard for me.

But I was determined to “get ‘er done.”

I was determined to stop living like a prisoner in my own mind and my life.

Real willingness is required. This isn’t just lip service. This is about really being willing in your heart. That’s what lasting healing REQUIRES. And there’s a way to get there.

There’s an important additional factor in being able to really do this and not just talk about it.

This additional factor is the thing that really turns that key in the lock. That’s what I’m going to share about in the third part of this series.

But you know what? If you don’t have real willingness to forgive everything, it won’t work for you. You’ve got to have that genuine willingness first. You can’t have true and lasting healing with lip service.

You’ve got to put your heart into this.

Your desire lights the fire of healing in your Spirit!

And that’s why I’m writing this now. Because I’ve felt totally discouraged. I’ve felt helpless and hopeless while repeating the same mistakes, again and again, and having NO CLUE how to get out of the spin cycle.

I’ve spent years in that painful position, but I got myself out of it.

It’s a discouraging place to be, and it’s completely needless.

There IS a way out – and that’s why I’m offering a free class as a gift to you – so I can go into detail about HOW to unblock the flow of your time, energy, and money.

Click here to register now!

And BTW, if you’re interested in my yearlong Masterful Living Course, where we actually accomplish this kind of healing, I’ll be telling you about it in this free class.

I’ll be sharing Part 3 of this series tomorrow.

In the meantime, please check out my upcoming free class: Unblock the Flow of Your Time, Energy & Money.

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Miraculous Prayer

Sunday, December 22nd, 2019

When my mother was faced with a terminal cancer diagnosis, my parents and I went to meet with my mother’s oncologist to learn what the options were.

I asked if nutrition and changes in diet could help.

The answer was no. The doctor had never seen any evidence the nutrition helped.

I asked if exercise and if being less sedentary, more active, could help.

The answer was no. The doctor had never seen any evidence that exercise helped.

I asked if homeopathy and alternatives like acupuncture could help.

The answer was no. The doctor had never seen any evidence those alternatives could help.

He was recommending a course of chemotherapy, although he said for my mother it was far more likely to hurt her than to help her.

I reviewed everything he said:
Nutrition doesn’t help.
Exercise doesn’t help
Acupuncture doesn’t help.
Homeopathy doesn’t help.
Nothing helps.
Chemo will likely kill her faster than cancer.
Is that what you’re telling us?

He said, “Yes, that’s what I’m saying.”

I said, “I think we’re having a conversation with your insurance organization, rather than a doctor. You have to recommend the chemo to cover your malpractice insurance?”

He said, “I think you understand the situation very well.”

And then he said, “There is one thing that I’ve seen works, but I will deny that I said it, and that is prayer. I’ve seen prayer work.”

I’ve seen prayer work miracles many times.

Our mind IS the Mind of God.
We share this One Mind.

We can share the gift of healing with anyone and everyone. That’s what prayer is for. Each year at this time, I’m checking in with folks who have been in my yearlong Masterful Living Course and we’re doing our 1-on-1 appointments, which I LOVE so much.

Each year, folks in Masterful Living tell me one of the things they’re most grateful for is that they now have an established prayer practice. Prayer is life-changing. Prayer is healing.

Prayer is the most powerful spiritual tool I know of.

A Course in Miracles tells us that “Prayer is the medium of miracles. It is a means of communication of the created with the Creator. Through prayer, love is received, and through miracles, love is expressed.

In my observing many spiritual students, far too many are passive and waiting on God. God is Peace, but God is not passive. God is active. Love is active.

We can be peaceful, but not passive.

Prayer is the medium of miracles and we are here to be truly helpful miracle workers.

Let’s get active and PROVE, for the whole world to witness, that Love really is the ONLY answer that forever transforms and heals every aspect of our lives.

Let us demonstrate the power of Love in our hearts, in our mind, and in our life so that all beings are healed, transformed, uplifted, renewed and restored!

Every day I offer “My shot of Spiritual Espresso”. I write spiritual inspiration and record a prayer for our healing. Prayer is a power tool for our liberation. Pray with me today. The Prayer for Today is for Healing All Wounds. We use technology to transcend time and space and deepen our spiritual practice and connect with each other. Our spiritual practice is our path of liberation. And that’s beautiful to share!

Prayer is just one of the power tools we use to deepen our spiritual connection and practice in my yearlong Masterful Living Course. We prove that prayer is deeply healing to us individually and to the others around us because we share the same mind. If you feel called, come join us in 2020 for the best year of your life – the year that changes EVERYTHING, if you’re willing. Let’s do it together. If you’d like to find out what others are saying about this powerful community, please click here to learn more now.

Bonus classes start on January 1st. If you’re willing, I’m willing. If this is right for you, you WILL know it. In my yearlong Masterful Living Course, a number of people have healed their depression gone off anti-depressants, let go of old hurts and sadness that has troubled them for many years. They have accomplished what they never believed they could do because they gave themselves a chance, and they didn’t give up. You can do it, too.

Information isn’t healing.
Spiritual practice is healing.

Follow your intuition – let yourself be guided by Spirit to join us or not.

I am grateful for this path we’re on and our ability to take the next healing step upon it!

Are you SO ready to have a new experience in the new year? We’re doing the deep transformation and the healing is happening in our lives! If you’d like to join me in my yearlong Masterful Living Course 2020, then please click here to learn more now.

Bonus classes start on January 1st. If you’re willing, I’m willing. If this is right for you, you WILL know it. In my yearlong Masterful Living Course, a number of people have healed their depression gone off anti-depressants, let go of old hurts and sadness that has troubled them for many years. They have accomplished what they never believed they could do, because they gave themselves a chance and they didn’t give up. You can do it, too.

All through the holidays, we get to choose Heaven or hell with each choice we make. If you find the holidays difficult, if you struggle with old family patterns, if you’re feeling you’d like to really have a breakthrough then you might find my F* Me Here Come the Holidays free class helpful. (The F is for forgiveness.)

You can sign up now for this free class offering this week.

If you’d like to have a powerful, healing and transformative spiritual practice that TRULY helps you to undo the past, release attachments and dissolve the patterns of pain, consider joining me in Masterful Living Course 2020. We’ve got a lot to offer!

Follow your intuition – let yourself be guided by Spirit to join us or not.

Are you unsure about whether my yearlong Masterful Living 2020 is right for you right now? You can book an Exploratory Call with one of the Spiritual Counselors and let them answer all your questions. Click here now to book an Exploratory Call. If you’re going to join us next year in the Masterful Living Course 2020, I encourage you to register early. Make the commitment to yourself NOW and you’ll have so much to look forward to – including tremendous healing and transformation! Give yourself this gift and you’ll be amazed at how your connection with Spirit will bloom!

FREE CLASS TODAY: GOT FORGIVENESS?

How about a free forgiveness workshop?
If you missed my class Forgive Me, Here Come the Holidays? We’re doing free LIVE replays coming up in the next week. This is my gift to you, come and join us!

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Vision of Freedom

Saturday, December 21st, 2019

Let’s REALLY be the change we’d like to see in our family, in our neighborhood, in our work in our heart. For myself, the key has been to hold a vision of Love and to release all grievances and to put my attention on that – rather than trying to figure out what to do in the world of form.

I am a spiritual activist. I work at the level of the mind. Like my teachers: Jesus, Gandhi, King, and St. Francis, I take inspired action, but I start with prayer, with partnering UP, with releasing the judgments and opinions that could cloud my vision.

Holding a vision for a peaceful world is no joke, it’s a life’s purpose.

There’s so much power in holding a vision. Just think how many billions of people on this plan know these words, who said them, why, and what it meant to the entire world:

“I have a dream …”

King had a vision.

It’s the vision of Freedom ringing through our hearts, our minds, our nation, and the world.

Freedom from tyranny, injustice, and prejudice.

The Freedom to fully Love and accept our brothers and sisters.

When we’re trying to change the world through working only in the visible we will tire easily and accomplish much less than those who take inspired action.

Inspired action comes from our loving heart holding a vision of the highest and best for all.

Now is the time for us to fully commit to doing what we came here for – hold the highest and best for EVERYONE.

Release all patterns of lack and attack and stand in the Light of Love.

This is our purpose.

Being truly helpful starts in the mind and ripples outward. Our time is now!

Together we discover Love really is the ONLY answer that forever transforms and heals every aspect of our lives.

This is the kind of work we do in Masterful Living. It’s deeply healing to us individually and to the others around us because we share the same mind.

Are you SO ready to have a new experience in the new year? We’re doing the deep transformation and the healing is happening in our lives! If you’d like to join me in my yearlong Masterful Living Course 2020, then please click here to learn more now.

Bonus classes start on January 1st. If you’re willing, I’m willing. If this is right for you, you WILL know it. In my yearlong Masterful Living Course, a number of people have healed their depression gone off anti-depressants, let go of old hurts and sadness that has troubled them for many years. They have accomplished what they never believed they could do, because they gave themselves a chance and they didn’t give up. You can do it, too.

All through the holidays, we get to choose Heaven or hell with each choice we make. If you find the holidays difficult, if you struggle with old family patterns, if you’re feeling you’d like to really have a breakthrough then you might find my F* Me Here Come the Holidays free class helpful. (The F is for forgiveness.)

You can sign up now for this free class offering this week.

If you’d like to have a powerful, healing and transformative spiritual practice that TRULY helps you to undo the past, release attachments and dissolve the patterns of pain, consider joining me in Masterful Living Course 2020. We’ve got a lot to offer!

Follow your intuition – let yourself be guided by Spirit to join us or not.

Are you unsure about whether my yearlong Masterful Living 2020 is right for you right now? You can book an Exploratory Call with one of the Spiritual Counselors and let them answer all your questions. Click here now to book an Exploratory Call. If you’re going to join us next year in the Masterful Living Course 2020, I encourage you to register early. Make the commitment to yourself NOW and you’ll have so much to look forward to – including tremendous healing and transformation! Give yourself this gift and you’ll be amazed at how your connection with Spirit will bloom!

FREE CLASSES THIS WEEK: GOT FORGIVENESS?

How about a free forgiveness workshop?
If you missed my class Forgive Me, Here Come the Holidays? We’re doing free LIVE replays coming up in the next week. This is my gift to you, come and join us!

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Loving Compassion

Friday, December 20th, 2019

I am profoundly grateful. Where I once felt this life was impossible to enjoy and difficult to even withstand, I have come to a place where I can authentically say I absolutely L-O-V-E this life. I never imagined that would ever be possible for me. The shift came because of my spiritual practice.

I have come to see that my feelings of anger and near-constant outrage were a cry for Love. All my anger outbursts, snarky remarks, and unkind comments were a plea for help from one who was drowning in fear.

Love was my answer.

Here’s the one realization that changed everything for me: I was willing to believe that there was no hatred, no hurt, no anger, and no fear that I had that couldn’t be met and healed by Love if I was willing to let Love rule my heart. I was willing to let Spirit guide me there.

Now, I have the absolute JOY of sharing with others.

In the past month, I’ve had the great honor and pleasure of talking 1-on-1 with folks in Masterful Living this year. We do end of the year sessions where we meet one on one so I can learn about how they’re doing three times per year. For the most part, our conversations at this time of year are harvest and a celebration.

Sometimes when I hear the breakthroughs, shifts, changes, healing, and transformation that they’ve gone through and the healing in their family, their body, their workplace, I cannot help but join them in tears of gratitude.

This is the power of Self-Love and compassion. Love is the answer.

Compassion is Love for those who have temporarily lost touch with their Divine Nature.

When I live compassionately, then I am a healing presence wherever I go and I KNOW it. I feel it. In our society, we’re taught that it’s not easy to have compassion, but I am here to tell you that it is much easier to have compassion than it is to be filled with resentment. I know, because I’ve hated those who were angry and cruel to me. I’ve hated myself for not doing better. I’ve worked with it for many, many years. In a sense, it is my life’s work.

The healing power of Love never ceases to amaze me and blow me away.

If you think that your situation is beyond hope, I can tell you that I’ve felt that way, and I have worked with so many others who have felt that way. It’s not the bottom. Giving up is the bottom.

Love never gives up on us. Let’s not give up on Love. Love is the answer.
Love is our healer.

Compassion is loving understanding.

And this is the place to take a stand for the holidays. There’s a power in being completely committed to being compassionate during this time of celebrating Christ.

Living compassionately requires a deep commitment. Every day, I’m still discovering the answer to the question “How do I BE the Peace I’d like to see in the world, and in my family, in my workplace?”

Over and over again, the answer comes when I am offered the opportunity to prove my commitment to Peace by choosing compassion.

Initially, it was very challenging. There are still times when I have to be with myself for a moment before I can trade compassion for judgments, but that is more and more rare and I’m grateful.

For more than thirty years, I’ve cultivated a practice of looking deeply into anger to find where I feel hurt. The answer to “How do I find compassion?” arrives when I look at the one who has been hurtful and see where they too have been hurt and their anger is a cry for my compassion. Anyone’s anger is evidence of their feelings of hurt and fear.

I mustn’t look away. My own healing lies in my ability to see with eyes of Love and extend the heart of compassion. Since Love is the healer, I allow Love to do the heavy lifting. All I have to do is show up, be awake and not run away, judge or defend. It’s not easy, but Love leads and I follow the path of Love.

This deep practice requires my willingness and my attention. It requires vigilance. There is a deep sense of Wholeness that accompanies increased my commitment to my practice of compassion. It reminds me that I am fulfilling my life’s purpose: to Love.

In my deepest heart-aching challenges, I’ve learned to ask: “What am I to do?” So often the answer is, “Extend the Love, be compassionate. Be willing to understand with the heart.” I’ve also had to ask myself “Why ask the question if I’m unwilling to hear the answer?” It has take tremendous discipline for me to stay and not run. And now, that discipline of Love is my strength. Love heals.

I used to have a practice of judgment and criticism. I was an expert and an authority on how to judge people. It was a very good place for me to start my practice of compassion. Today, when I look back I smile and think how profoundly I’ve changed, who knew? The Higher Holy Spirit Self knew.

I’m so deeply grateful that I made a commitment to a daily practice of loving compassion – including Self-compassion. It’s the road less traveled, but all of the people I meet on the road are beautiful. I answer their call for help with Love and they answer my call to find more ways to be compassionate.

Together we discover Love really is the ONLY answer that forever transforms and heals every aspect of our lives.

This is the kind of work we do in Masterful Living. It’s deeply healing to us individually and to the others around us because we share the same mind.

Are you SO ready to have a new experience in the new year? We’re doing the deep transformation and the healing is happening in our lives! If you’d like to join me in my yearlong Masterful Living Course 2020, then please click here to learn more now.

Bonus classes start on January 1st. If you’re willing, I’m willing. If this is right for you, you WILL know it. In my yearlong Masterful Living Course, a number of people have healed their depression gone off anti-depressants, let go of old hurts and sadness that has troubled them for many years. They have accomplished what they never believed they could do, because they gave themselves a chance and they didn’t give up. You can do it, too.

All through the holidays, we get to choose Heaven or hell with each choice we make. If you find the holidays difficult, if you struggle with old family patterns, if you’re feeling you’d like to really have a breakthrough then you might find my F* Me Here Come the Holidays free class helpful. (The F is for forgiveness.)

You can sign up now for this free class offering this week.

If you’d like to have a powerful, healing and transformative spiritual practice that TRULY helps you to undo the past, release attachments and dissolve the patterns of pain, consider joining me in Masterful Living Course 2020. We’ve got a lot to offer!

Follow your intuition – let yourself be guided by Spirit to join us or not.

Are you unsure about whether my yearlong Masterful Living 2020 is right for you right now? You can book an Exploratory Call with one of the Spiritual Counselors and let them answer all your questions. Click here now to book an Exploratory Call. If you’re going to join us next year in the Masterful Living Course 2020, I encourage you to register early. Make the commitment to yourself NOW and you’ll have so much to look forward to – including tremendous healing and transformation! Give yourself this gift and you’ll be amazed at how your connection with Spirit will bloom!

FREE CLASSES THIS WEEK: GOT FORGIVENESS?

How about a free forgiveness workshop?
If you missed my class Forgive Me, Here Come the Holidays? We’re doing free LIVE replays coming up in the next week. This is my gift to you, come and join us!

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Good Fortune

Thursday, December 19th, 2019

Yesterday I flew from Arizona to New Jersey and, as usual, there was good learning all the way and I am grateful. Full of gratitude, am I.

Because I fly so often, and because I use airline credit cards and rack up the miles, I get to go in the priority line even though I’m not first class. Well, for the first time ever, the woman behind the counter was measuring my bag. This is actually my 3rd bag of this exact kind.

I travel so much that I’ve gone through two of these bags before the one I currently have. I’ve flown with this bag on American Airlines too many times to count, but it would be safe to say that it could be 50 times.

For whatever reason, the woman who checked my bags measured it and made me adjust it so that it was just a bit smaller and met the airline standards. First time for that. It took about 10 minutes or so to accomplish. I don’t know what anything is for, but I do know everything is helpful.

Later, as I was getting some food, prior to my flight and waiting for a coffee, I got boxed in by an airline employee who was helping a woman in a wheelchair. She was getting food and a coffee, just like me. They were blocking me from leaving the restaurant, and I was completely happy to wait until they had everything they needed before I could exit.

Now, here’s the thing — because I was standing there waiting for the woman to get her coffee and add the milk and sugar, I happened to notice that she didn’t properly put the lid back on her coffee. I pointed it out to her. If I hadn’t been there, she most assuredly would have spilled that scalding hot all down her front.

Was that why I was delayed at the counter with the repeated measuring of my suitcase? I don’t know for sure, but I could be.

How could I really KNOW what the reason for my delay was? Yet, I did feel that it was so I could be there to help this woman avoid spilling the coffee on herself.

Had I been able to check my bag easily and quickly, as usual, I would’ve left the restaurant before that woman came in. We don’t know what anything is for, but if we’re willing, we can rest assured that everything always works together for our good and the good of all, because we’re One with them.

Everything is a blessing if we’re willing to see it properly.

That’s the trick.

Is there anything going on in your life that you’ve been thinking isn’t a blessing?

Would you be willing to change your mind about it in order to receive the blessing that is most assuredly encoded into it?

All through the holidays, we get to choose Heaven or hell with each choice we make. If you find the holidays difficult, if you struggle with old family patterns, if you’re feeling you’d like to really have a breakthrough then you might find my F* Me Here Come the Holidays free class helpful. (The F is for forgiveness.)

You can sign up now for this free class offering this week.

If you’d like to have a powerful, healing and transformative spiritual practice that TRULY helps you to undo the past, release attachments and dissolve the patterns of pain, consider joining me in Masterful Living Course 2020. We’ve got a lot to offer!

Follow your intuition – let yourself be guided by Spirit to join us or not.

Are you unsure about whether my yearlong Masterful Living 2020 is right for you right now? You can book an Exploratory Call with one of the Spiritual Counselors and let them answer all your questions. Click here now to book an Exploratory Call. If you’re going to join us next year in the Masterful Living Course 2020, I encourage you to register early. Make the commitment to yourself NOW and you’ll have so much to look forward to – including tremendous healing and transformation! Give yourself this gift and you’ll be amazed at how your connection with Spirit will bloom!

FREE CLASSES THIS WEEK: GOT FORGIVENESS?

How about a free forgiveness workshop?
If you missed my class Forgive Me, Here Come the Holidays? We’re doing free LIVE replays coming up in the next week. This is my gift to you, come and join us!

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One Step at a Time

Wednesday, December 18th, 2019

This week in Masterful Living we’ve been harvesting the benefits of our spiritual practice this year, noticing how much our loved ones have also been changed simply because we decided to stop judging them and start really loving and supporting them.

There are only two choices in each moment: Oneness or separation. If you aspire to make the world a better place, choose Oneness.

We train ourselves to look for a loving choice.

In order to choose Oneness consistently, you can train yourself to let go of cherishing the thoughts of lack and attack.

Align with thoughts of Love, letting go of all judgments and learn to trust the Divine.

It’s a way of living that is deeply transformative.

It can be so challenging.

When you have proven yourself to be untrustworthy over and over and OVER again, how do you learn to trust God? One choice at a time.

When it seems like God doesn’t deliver the goods, and God isn’t the perfect delivery service of your happiness no matter how much you beg and suffer, you may be so angry and resentful that you refuse to trust – in order to punish God for being such a withholding God. Been there. Done that. Ugh.

There’s hardly one of us that hasn’t had these thoughts about God. We make stuff up and believe it to be true, and then operate as though the lie is the truth.

Enough of that madness!
I choose my healing!

The greatest gift you can give to yourself is to be willing to practice choosing Love and Unity instead of attack and separation.

Be willing to have a new experience. Be willing to give yourself a gift this coming year.

Each year in my yearlong Masterful Living Course people demonstrate how much benefit a little bit of willingness consistently cultivated can bring. Year after year, people tells me they are SURPRISED at their results. That’s what they tell me.

They are GRATEFUL – at how much their life and their feeling about themselves can change in just one year.
It’s miraculous. It’s not magical – they do the work to get the results.

They take one step at a time.

I know this when it comes to spiritual practice — if we’re successful by even a little – there’ll be more Light in our lives and everyone else’s. Your vibration will be lifted and you’ll begin to silently broadcast the message: “It can be done and I AM doing it.”

There is that within you which knows how to do this.

I wonder, is there such thing as blind faith? To live in the trust is to SEE by faith. Faith lights the way and the path is known and firm, even when it’s narrow. Walk the talk today and you will truly see.

We choose our healing. We live by grace. We walk in faith.

Love lights our way.

All through the holidays, we get to choose Heaven or hell with each choice we make. If you find the holidays difficult, if you struggle with old family patterns, if you’re feeling you’d like to really have a breakthrough then you might find my F* Me Here Come the Holidays free class helpful. (The F is for forgiveness.)

You can sign up now for this free class offering this week.

If you’d like to have a powerful, healing and transformative spiritual practice that TRULY helps you to undo the past, release attachments and dissolve the patterns of pain, consider joining me in Masterful Living Course 2020. We’ve got a lot to offer!

Follow your intuition – let yourself be guided by Spirit to join us or not.

Are you unsure about whether my yearlong Masterful Living 2020 is right for you right now? You can book an Exploratory Call with one of the Spiritual Counselors and let them answer all your questions. Click here now to book an Exploratory Call. If you’re going to join us next year in the Masterful Living Course 2020, I encourage you to register early. Make the commitment to yourself NOW and you’ll have so much to look forward to – including tremendous healing and transformation! Give yourself this gift and you’ll be amazed at how your connection with Spirit will bloom!

FREE CLASSES THIS WEEK: GOT FORGIVENESS?

How about a free forgiveness workshop?
If you missed my class Forgive Me, Here Come the Holidays? We’re doing free LIVE replays coming up in the next week. This is my gift to you, come and join us!

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Recognizing the Spiritual Bypass

Tuesday, December 17th, 2019

Sometimes, as spiritual students, we do a “spiritual bypass.” If we’re experiencing something challenging and we jump right over our feelings to get to the spiritual truth, then we’re doing a “spiritual bypass.”

When our feelings don’t seem very spiritual, there’s a temptation to jump up into our head and intellectualize our experience rather than just have our feelings. That’s when we’re responding from the intellect, engaged by the ego and thinking of what’s right and wrong, looking to fix things. It’s not helpful. And our feelings can help us recognize what we’re doing so we can make a higher choice.

I’ve had to learn how to respond with compassion rather than the judgment that is the undercurrent of seeing someone as needing fixing, needing help. I’ve had to learn how to respond with my heart rather than the intellect. My emotions of upset help me to recognize that I’m not in alignment and I can make a higher choice – and that’s actually being more loving with myself – and that’s going to bring forth healing.

Recognizing my feelings brings healing.

It takes a great willingness to be present and to be vulnerable in order to respond with the heart rather than the intellect. And all it requires is our willingness to let Spirit lead us.

It’s enough to just be willing to be willing.

A little willingness is enough.

Have you ever felt that someone came to you with their suffering and you went right into fixing them and right into the intellect? I have. I have experienced it being done to me and I have done it to others, and both feel painful.

When we don’t have compassion for our own suffering then we treat others the way we treat ourselves – seeing them as having a problem that needs to be fixed. Then they usually respond with feeling hurt and offended.

In this way, we get to see how we’re treating ourselves and why we’re so unhappy. We can witness how it feels to be treated as though we have a problem and are defective by observing how others feel when we talk to them from our intellect to their intellect, rather than heart to heart.

Have you ever berated yourself when you’re having a difficult time and feel afraid? I have.

Isn’t it crazy that we would ever think for one second that chastising ourselves would somehow be a worthwhile choice?

Have you ever “should” all over someone because of your own insecurities? I HAVE!

And I’ve done it to myself! Most of us have tried to manipulate ourselves with the “shoulds”.

As I said, I had to LEARN how to respond with Love and compassion.

It’s worth learning.
It wasn’t easy for me.
It’s worth learning.

If you can relate, be willing to pay attention next time someone comes to you for comfort and notice if you go to the heart or the intellect.

Do you try to fix them or solve their problems?

If you chose “fix them” then you can recognize that you’re actually affirming they have a problem. This is why they might reject that judgment and, in the process, it may seem like they’re rejecting you.

This has been HUGE learning for me and I’m so grateful I can share it.

Our feelings help us to recognize what’s really going on. Live and learn! Learn to Live!

All through the holidays, we get to choose Heaven or hell with each choice we make. If you find the holidays difficult, if you struggle with old family patterns, if you’re feeling you’d like to really have a breakthrough, then you might find my F* Me Here Come the Holidays free class helpful. (The F is for forgiveness.)

You can sign up now for this free class offering this week.

If you’d like to have a powerful, healing and transformative spiritual practice that TRULY helps you to undo the past, release attachments and dissolve the patterns of pain, consider joining me in Masterful Living Course 2020. We’ve got a lot to offer!

Follow your intuition – let yourself be guided by Spirit to join us or not.

Are you unsure about whether my yearlong Masterful Living 2020 is right for you right now? You can book an Exploratory Call with one of the Spiritual Counselors and let them answer all your questions. Click here now to book an Exploratory Call. If you’re going to join us next year in the Masterful Living Course 2020, I encourage you to register early. Make the commitment to yourself NOW and you’ll have so much to look forward to – including tremendous healing and transformation! Give yourself this gift and you’ll be amazed at how your connection with Spirit will bloom!

FREE CLASSES THIS WEEK: GOT FORGIVENESS?

How about a free forgiveness workshop?
If you missed my class Forgive Me, Here Come the Holidays? We’re doing free LIVE replays coming up in the next week. This is my gift to you, come and join us!

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Infinite Compassion

Monday, December 16th, 2019

When I feel blasted by storms of emotions and drama, whether it’s of my own making or someone else’s, my spiritual practice of nonjudgment and nonviolence is my rock. It’s a haven of Infinite Patience and Love inside my own mind. It’s the practice that brings me back to Peace so quickly. I’m so grateful for that!

So often, I see folks do things that make no sense except that people are suffering and they’ve lost perspective. People are deliberately unkind; they’re selfish and hurtful. People respond without thinking and are rude. People are discouraging when they could be encouraging. My practice of nonviolence forces me to look at my motivations and intentions, and to consistently choose the most loving intention regardless of where my emotions are.

Nonviolence is a practice of Infinite Compassion.

It is the daily practice of walking in God’s Shoes. Just as that farm girl from Kansas put on the ruby slippers and remembered her personal power that could take her back home, my personal practice of nonviolence takes me back home to the spiritual truth of all life: I am One with all that is.

If I hate the one who hates, I’ve lost my power. I’m wearing their shoes and they can never fit. If I am rude to the one who is rude, I am living someone else’s pain.

If I have no compassion for the one who has no compassion, I am spending my precious energy magnifying someone else’s hurt.

Every moment I choose whose shoes I’ll stand-in. Every moment I can choose anew and change the course of my life. When I make the highest choice I can reach for at the moment, I lift the world.

 

Mother Teresa taught us, “People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered. Forgive them anyway … Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough. Give the best you’ve got anyway.

When I look at Mother Teresa’s life and the lives of Buddha, Jesus, St. Francis, Gandhi, King, and Thich Nhat Hanh, I see the power in their moment- to-moment practice of choosing Love in much more difficult circumstances than I’ve ever faced. I choose to carry close to me this awareness of those who went before me. This is my ruby slipper practice. In every moment, I remember my intention to Love and I am that. How grateful I am that no matter where I am, no matter what is happening in and around me, I can have a ruby slipper moment and come home to my heart.

Today I walk in God’s Shoes. I see with God’s Eyes. I stand in the loving intention of those teachers who went before me and I AM grateful for their example.

Infinite Compassion is the practice that takes me home to Peace.

All through the holidays, we get to choose Heaven or hell with each choice we make. If you find the holidays difficult, if you struggle with old family patterns, if you’re feeling you’d like to really have a breakthrough then you might find my F* Me Here Come the Holidays free class helpful. (The F is for forgiveness.)

You can sign up now for this free class offering this week.

If you’d like to have a powerful, healing and transformative spiritual practice that TRULY helps you to undo the past, release attachments and dissolve the patterns of pain, consider joining me in Masterful Living Course 2020. We’ve got a lot to offer!

Follow your intuition – let yourself be guided by Spirit to join us or not.

Are you unsure about whether my yearlong Masterful Living 2020 is right for you right now? You can book an Exploratory Call with one of the Spiritual Counselors and let them answer all your questions. Click here now to book an Exploratory Call. If you’re going to join us next year in the Masterful Living Course 2020, I encourage you to register early. Make the commitment to yourself NOW and you’ll have so much to look forward to – including tremendous healing and transformation! Give yourself this gift and you’ll be amazed at how your connection with Spirit will bloom!

FREE CLASSES THIS WEEK: GOT FORGIVENESS?

How about a free forgiveness workshop?
If you missed my class Forgive Me, Here Come the Holidays? We’re doing free LIVE replays coming up in the next week. This is my gift to you, come and join us!

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Spiritualization of the Ego

Sunday, December 15th, 2019

Greetings to you from Scottsdale, Arizona. I’ve really been enjoying my time in the desert and time with my Prayer Partners for the last 22 years. It’s such a blessing when we can get together to have fun, to pray, and to share deeply and authentically – not to mention to play board games, have great food, go for hikes and enjoy the sunset.

It’s nice to have a break and some fun, because the last 7 days have been a DOOZY for many people. Old ugly patterns of thinking and feeling have been coming up into our awareness so that we could choose our healing. For many people, it was about feeling extreme self-criticism. We were talking about this in Masterful Living this week. Many felt that negative thought patterns of anxiety and self-criticism were coming up to the surface in a way that felt overwhelming. Almost like a pimple getting ready to pop.

And then came the full moon in the middle of the week, and that really turned up the inner emotional pressure on things. Did you feel it?

The energy of any full moon is one of releasing that which is no longer helpful and harvesting the learning from our experience. This week sure offered us that opportunity.

That night it took me hours to go to sleep. Fortunately, I’ve learned to take that time to pray and simply be at Peace with not sleeping.

I’ve learned that the main thing for me to focus on is blessing my brothers and sisters, knowing the truth about them, and then secondarily, to be grateful for my life and grateful that I can effectively pray – that I have an effective spiritual practice, and so I don’t have to feel worried or afraid and it doesn’t matter whether I sleep or not.

Prayer is restorative even when I’m praying for others.

Why?

Because when I know the truth for anyone, I know the truth for everyone, and that includes me because there is only one. There is only everyone. If I pray for one person, all are included because we’re one, united and inseparable. My prayer for my Self is a prayer for you and vice versa.

Isn’t that beautiful?

I enjoy praying, and I have so many people to pray for, that being in prayer is a sweet way to invest the time when sleep doesn’t come. Although I wasn’t sleeping, I was prayerfully resting which is SO restorative and I woke up feeling refreshed, even though I had much less sleep.

Holiday times can be painfully stressful. During these pressured days, old unhealed emotional and mental patterns come up for healing almost daily. And don’t we know it!! We can have healing if we choose it.

When we partner UP with our Higher Holy Spirit Self and strengthen our spiritual practice we’ll have healing.

When we complain, we’ll feel the pain.

This is true for all of us.

Why sabotage ourselves by self-inflicting pain when we have so much to gain?

Let us turn every painful moment into a transformational healing experience by choosing to deepen our practice of choosing Love and Partnering UP.

An effective spiritual practice has transformed my life. I invested a lot of energy chasing spiritual information and stuffing my intellect with it – that has not helped me at all, not one little bit of it.

Instead, I distracted my self by pursuing spiritual information rather than spiritual insight. I distracted myself by training to be more perfect instead of recognizing my inherent perfection.

I’m so glad I finally came to my senses and focused on cultivating a spiritual practice that would help me to liberate from the intellect and free my mind from distractions.

All through the holidays, we get to choose Heaven or hell with each choice we make. If you find the holidays difficult, if you struggle with old family patterns, if you’re feeling you’d like to really have a breakthrough then you might find my F* Me Here Come the Holidays free class helpful. (The “F” is for forgiveness.)

You can sign up now for this free class offering this week.

When there are healing opportunities available to us and we don’t choose them, and instead repeat the past, we begin to feel discouraged and downtrodden but we may not know why.

When our Spirit is working so intently to support us in having the breakthroughs we desire, and we choose to ignore them or let them pass us by, it eats away at our self-esteem. Even if we don’t even consciously know it. And that causes more issues.

So, let’s choose healing and not delay another day.

Let’s stop spiritualizing the ego.

Extending Love is healing.

Reading books is not healing.

Not that reading books is bad – not at all – but it’s not enough.

Forgiveness is healing.

Choosing Love is healing.

Choosing patience, kindness, generosity of heart, and willingness is healing.

A Course in Miracles is crystal clear about how we bring on our healing breakthrough to live a happy and harmonious life. Still, many people study ACIM and other spiritual teachings without actually applying the teachings and so they don’t receive the healing benefits.

Information isn’t healing.

Spiritual practice is healing.

If you’d like to have a powerful, healing and transformative spiritual practice that TRULY helps you to undo the past, release attachments and dissolve the patterns of pain, consider joining me in Masterful Living Course 2020. We’ve got a lot to offer!

Follow your intuition – let yourself be guided by Spirit to join us or not.
Let’s all make the most of the holiday healing that is available to us and grab all the healing we can! Enough with hell! Let’s choose Heaven today!

Every day I offer “My Shot of Spiritual Espresso”. I write spiritual inspiration and record a prayer for our healing. Prayer is a power tool for our liberation. Pray with me today. The Prayer for Today is for Spiritual Transformation. We use technology to transcend time and space and deepen our spiritual practice and connect with each other. Our spiritual practice is our path of liberation. And that’s beautiful to share!

I am grateful for this path we’re on and our ability to take the next healing step upon it!

Are you unsure about whether my yearlong Masterful Living 2020 is right for you right now? You can book an Exploratory Call with one of the Spiritual Counselors and let them answer all your questions. Click here now to book an Exploratory Call. If you’re going to join us next year in the Masterful Living Course 2020, I encourage you to register early. Make the commitment to yourself NOW and you’ll have so much to look forward to – including tremendous healing and transformation! Give yourself this gift and you’ll be amazed at how your connection with Spirit will bloom!

I’m loving the sunset views of Camelback Mountain!

FREE CLASSES THIS WEEK: GOT FORGIVENESS?

How about a free forgiveness workshop?
If you missed my class Forgive Me, Here Come the Holidays? We’re doing free LIVE replays coming up in the next week. This is my gift to you, come and join us!

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Trading Grievances for Miracles

Saturday, December 14th, 2019

Don’t give up before the miracle. When the going gets tough and it seems like things just won’t go your way, it’s so tempting to give up and go into self-medication, despair and depression, or yet another distraction. Don’t we all already know that?

A Course in Miracles tells us that all doubt is self-doubt.

When we place our trust and faith in the ego, there will ALWAYS be doubt. It’s actually that simple.

Lesson 77 of ACIM is “I am entitled to miracles.”

A miracle is when we shift our mind to the Holy Spirit’s way of thinking and away from the ego’s thought system of lack and limitation.

7 is the number of truth.
77 is a master number (a double-digit number that repeats itself like 11, 22, 33 are all master numbers) and it represents freedom of expression.

The 7th day of the week is the day of the Seventh Ray, which is the Violet Flame of Freedom and forgiveness.

Do you notice how everything is working together – and that everything in this world is symbolic? The invisible is speaking to us all the time. We are never alone.

Part of the Lesson 77 practice is:
I will not trade miracles for grievances.
I want only what belongs to me.

God has established miracles as my right.

When it’s tempting to energize a grievance then, in essence, we’re giving up on God.

Let’s deepen our practice today.

Instead of giving up, let’s remember that we’re entitled to miracles.

I will not trade miracles for grievances.
I am entitled to miracles.
Grievances are nothing I want.

I choose Love and gratitude as my spiritual practice today and every day.

We trade grievances for miracles.
Our spiritual practice heals our life!

If you’d like to shift your whole orientation towards trust and faith in God, as well as in relationships, check out my yearlong Masterful Living Course 2020. We are going to rock this new year!

FREE CLASS TODAY: GOT FORGIVENESS?

How about a free forgiveness workshop?
If you missed my class Forgive Me, Here Come the Holidays? We’re doing free LIVE replays coming up in the next week. This is my gift to you, come and join us!

Are you unsure about whether Masterful Living 2020 is right for you right now? Book an Exploratory Call with one of the Spiritual Counselors and let them answer all your questions. Click here now to book an Exploratory Call. If you’re going to join us next year in the Masterful Living Course 2020, I encourage you to register early. Make the commitment to yourself NOW and you’ll have so much to look forward to – including tremendous healing and transformation! Give yourself this gift and you’ll be amazed at how your connection with Spirit will bloom!

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Constant Goodness

Monday, November 25th, 2019

The very nature of Spirit is that everything works together for our good and it always will. We can rely upon this. We can depend upon it. And actually, having faith and trust in this principle nature of the Universe is the foundation of our happiness.

When we believe that things aren’t working together for our good, we get upset and we begin to freak out. Our beliefs aren’t true, but nonetheless we can convince ourselves that they are.

There are situations where we learn that our sweetheart has been unfaithful or is leaving us and we can absolutely be convinced this is the worst thing ever, when actually it’s not. It’s for our good. We don’t have the fortitude to leave the relationship, so Spirit arranges to get us out of the situation.

I’ve had that happen.

We don’t have the courage to leave a job that’s not for our highest good, so Spirit arranges for us to be laid off or fired in order to bring forth our highest good.

I’ve had that happen.

There are so many things in life that we cling to, that aren’t for our highest good, and yet we won’t let them go because we have placed our faith in our beliefs and we don’t trust our guidance.

I’ve had that happen.

There’s constant goodness always working for us.

It is the very grace of God.
We can deny it and label things bad.
Or, we can accept the grace and be grateful.
We get to choose how we live.

I pray to release all attachments.

Attachments are always something that obstructs the flow of Love and goodness in our lives.

Will you join me and pray to release all attachments today?

37 Days to January 1st – I share what I learned that shifted me out of my habits of spinning around in the same repeating upsets in my Masterful Living Course 2020. Registration is open NOW. I encourage you to commit now so that you have that to look forward to. At no charge, you can also book an Exploratory Call to speak with one of the Spiritual Counselors who has already done the program and they can help you be clear if this is right for you right now.

Click here now to book a free Exploratory Call about Masterful Living 2020.

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Rising Above Thanksgiving Failure

Sunday, November 24th, 2019

This week, it’s Thanksgiving week in the United States. It’s our biggest family holiday, and Wednesday is the biggest travel day of the entire year. Many businesses work a half-day on Wednesday, and many have Thursday off, hence the reason for Black Friday. People have the day off to do their holiday shopping, so there are big sales. And for many stores, this is the weekend that takes them out of the red and into the black of profit.

This year, Thanksgiving is on my birthday and I am really looking forward to cooking a turkey with all the fixings. Friends keep asking me what I’m doing to celebrate my birthday, and that’s what I’m doing – having Thanksgiving dinner with my loved ones. I can’t wait! I’m in Scottsdale, Arizona. I’m staying in an Airbnb townhouse where I have nearby friends. I also have friends coming from out of town to celebrate and stay with me. I’m really looking forward to it.

I haven’t always looked forward to my birthday or to Thanksgiving. I’ve ruined MANY a family holiday because I got triggered and got so angry that I just destroyed any possibility of a good time. I’ve even done it when everyone came to my house and I cooked the meal.

I’ve had my best friends in the whole world not wish me a happy birthday and completely forget it was my birthday.

I’ve organized things to celebrate my birthday with friends and with family on different occasions and everyone bailed on me.

And I’ve learned to get over it all.
I’ve learned not to take it personally, even when it felt SO personal.

I’ve even had my family eat my birthday cake without me. When I was just in the next room, they didn’t bother to call me to join them as they ate my birthday cake. Yes, it’s true.

Because I used to get so triggered, so intensely and so frequently, I came to believe there was no hope for me to have good relationships. It seemed perfectly impossible to me. I felt utterly hopeless.

Because of prayer, I learned that I wasn’t helpless. Prayer works.
I learned to do what I now call PARTNERING UP.
I learned to pray, effectively and with great sincerity, and prayers work.

Prayers REALLY work, but you do have to pray effectively and then be willing to accept the answer prayer.

For example, when my precious mom was so sick and in the last years of her life, I prayed to release all blocks to Love between us so that we could be completely in the flow of Love before she left this world. I was so intent on it.

Spirit gave me the opportunity to go to Maine to visit my parents many times in the last years of my mom’s life and to spend more time with her.

On one visit, it was planned that I would go for two weeks to take my mom to her radiation treatments. The drive alone was a three-hour round trip from the island where my parents lived and the hospital. It took more than four hours to do the whole trip, and it was winter time, so we often took longer because of snow and ice.

My mother had about a month of treatments, so I took the middle two weeks to spare my father having to do all the driving.

It was a grey, wintery, bleak time, but I found stand up comedy and audio books and things that I thought my mom and I could enjoy together and listen to.

During those two weeks, I had made a commitment to myself that I wasn’t going to judge my mother for anything no matter what. I was going to completely Love and accept her. This was my big opportunity to have healing.

There were times when I’d have to go into the bedroom, shut the door, and get down on my knees to pray to release all judgments.

This is when I learned that Higher Holy Spirit Self really would take the thoughts out of my mind, if I was sincerely wishing to let them go. I had so much mental healing in that time.

I prayed and prayed and prayed to give up the need to be right. I prayed to release every trigger and every unhealed resentment and regret.

I didn’t realize it then, but now I know that I punished my ,om for tolerating a lot of my anger and upset. I felt so guilty for being mean to her and saying mean things.

That guilt turned into fear and frustration that I couldn’t find a way out. If she had pushed back and been able to help me with it more, that would have been great – but that was not my path of learning.

I felt unworthy of ALL Love because of the choices I’d made.

Unworthiness is a core issue for us all.

For many of us, a deep sense of unworthiness is running our life and ruining our life.
(And that’s why I’m doing a 3-part series on it next month!)

I now see that everything I’ve learned is what I get to share in my classes. Now I’m turning that pain into healing, because I support others with it step-by-step because I had to learn to rely on Spirit to show me. I had to really focus and pay attention and learn the way out.

I had to give up all blame in order to get out of my pain.

I had to rely up on Spirit and find my way into my loving heart.

I couldn’t do it alone.
Love is the only healer and the only way out.

Failing in my relationships felt so painful to me.
Success seemed so elusive.
I couldn’t bear the pain of failure anymore.

I had to believe that Spirit would lead me.
I had to learn to trust in God rather than my own opinions and perceptions.
I had to. I just couldn’t take it anymore.

In that two weeks of radiation treatments, I focused on total acceptance and Love of my mother.

I put everything I had into releasing the judgments and seeing with God’s Eyes.

I practiced being the one who went first with Love,and I prayed and prayed and prayed.

At the end of the visit, when I was leaving to go back home to Los Angeles, my mother said “This was the nicest visit we ever had.”

We spent 2 weeks of driving half the day back and forth to radiation treatments in the gray, cold winter snow and mess, and it was the nicest visit we ever had. Why? Because I focused on eliminating the blocks to Love and just loved without attachment.

VICTORY IS MINE!
I put Spirit in charge and Spirit DID IT.

From that point on, I knew that Spirit COULD NOT fail.

Thinking about it brings tears to my eyes, because I still have a little bit of sadness for all of the opportunities to be loving that I missed.

But I don’t look back except to continue to harvest the Wisdom and move forward with more Love and more Love and more Love.

We can all be the fulcrum point of healing in our family.

We can all rely upon the Spirit for our healing.

We can all practice non-judgment.

It requires no longer giving Love and acceptance in order to get anything back. We must give without attachment.

No need for recognition or appreciation.
We give Love because it’s our divine opportunity to be our true self and be truly helpful.

It all gets so much easier to practice when we forgive ourselves for our debts and our trespasses.

I had to forgive myself for all the things I felt guilty about so I was no longer feeling horrible about myself. Self-forgiveness is the only way.

And that’s why I offer my forgiveness classes and you can sign up right now to get my Forgive Me, Here Come the Holidays! class right now. It’s my gift to you. Please consider accepting my offer. This is a powerful and helpful class that is full of tips and tools you can use right now to improve your relationships in your family, with friends, and at work.

Spirit cannot fail.

Every day I offer my “Shot of Spiritual Espresso”. I write spiritual inspiration and record a prayer for our healing. Prayer is a power tool for our liberation. Thank you for praying with me today. We use technology to transcend time and space and deepen our spiritual practice and connect with each other. Our spiritual practice is our path of liberation, and that’s beautiful to share!

When any one of us has more happiness, we’re all lifted! All boats rise on this tide of Love.

I’m SUPER grateful for the ABSOLUTE healing power of TRUE forgiveness. Especially in all of my relationships. Forgiveness has changed my life and I’m inspired by everyone’s forgiveness stories. I am offering my “F* ME, Here Come The Holidays” class today and for the next few days – it’s totally free and it’s a really great way to get inspired to do some real forgiveness work NOW before the holidays. Click here to register now!

37 Days to January 1st – I share what I learned that shifted me out of my habits of spinning around in the same repeating upsets in my Masterful Living Course 2020. Registration is open NOW. I encourage you to commit now so that you have that to look forward to. At no charge, you can also book an Exploratory Call to speak with one of the Spiritual Counselors who has already done the program and they can help you be clear if this is right for you right now.

Click here now to book a free Exploratory Call about Masterful Living 2020.

TODAY FREE FORGIVENESS WORKSHOP:

If you’d like more support for having a miraculous breakthrough with forgiveness, please join me! Let me suggest some simple ways you can immediately feel more successful in your relationships. When you’re ready to stop and drop the same old patterns of upset in relationships, the tips and tools I offer in this free class will really support you. They’re SO simple, and yet they have a profound effect.

You can learn to remember to Partner UP rather than struggling in your relationships and that feels so good. You can stop playing small and live your calling by ALLOWING healing your relationships. Are you willing to make more loving choices to deepen your spiritual practice and accelerate your awakening by being a healing presence in your family? It’s easier than you think! Forgive me. Here Come the Holidays!

RIGHT NOW, let’s stop paying lip service by SAYING we’re willing but not actually living it. We can bring on a breakthrough FAR beyond what we can imagine when we’re truly willing to truly forgive. If you don’t know how here’s how! Join me!

Why wait? Now is the time for our healing! If you’re willing, I’m ready – let’s do it together!

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Meltdowns are Normal

Saturday, November 23rd, 2019

Right now, there’s a lot of intensity that people are experiencing. It’s because there’s more Light, Divine Light shining into our world, this dimension, and our lives – as well as our awareness.

We’re a little more than 1 month from Christmas, and this is the time that many people are turning their attention to Christ, and to Jesus and His life, His message, and His brilliance.

This additional Light is exposing that which has been lingering in the darkness, and that means that all of OUR dark thoughts and beliefs are being brought to the Light of our divinity. For most people, this is experienced as intensity.

In this Light, meltdowns are normal.

I feel it’s so important to speak this message, because I talk with SO MANY people who don’t feel it’s normal. The tendency is to label our meltdowns as our defectiveness, but it’s not.

When we believe things that aren’t true and reinforce those false beliefs, we will start to meltdown and freak out.

That’s NORMAL.

If you didn’t freak out and meltdown when you were affirming things that were false, you would simply live in a haze of delusion with no waking up call.

The upset is our wake up call.
I call it the “Divine Alarm Clock”.

Our Higher Holy Spirit Self simply will not let us be delusional and peaceful at the same time. When we choose to reinforce false beliefs, it will set off an inner alarm or upset.

And this is PRECISELY why when we have holidays, with family (or without) and we get triggered into the same arguments and disappointments and can be particularly crushing. When this used to happen to me, I would go on an inner temper tantrum and rage about all the old upsets from which I still hadn’t recovered. This would make me feel worse than ever.

I used to get triggered into feeling hopeless and helpless until I figured out the power of TRUE forgiveness, and that’s why I share so much about forgiveness now.

It’s a powerful pressure relief for us in the midst of a meltdown.

I’m SUPER grateful for the ABSOLUTE healing power of TRUE forgiveness. Especially in all of my relationships. Forgiveness has changed my life and I’m inspired by everyone’s forgiveness stories. I am offering my “F* ME, Here Come The Holidays” class today and for the next few days – it’s totally free and it’s a really great way to get inspired to do some real forgiveness work NOW before the holidays. Click here to register now!

38 Days to January 1st – I share what I learned that shifted me out of my habits of spinning around in the same repeating upsets in my Masterful Living Course 2020. Registration is open NOW. I encourage you to commit now so that you have that to look forward to. At no charge, you can also book an Exploratory Call to speak with one of the Spiritual Counselors who has already done the program and they can help you be clear if this is right for you right now.

Click here now to book a free Exploratory Call about Masterful Living 2020.

TODAY FREE FORGIVENESS WORKSHOP:

If you’d like more support for having a miraculous breakthrough with forgiveness, please join me! Let me suggest some simple ways you can immediately feel more successful in your relationships. When you’re ready to stop and drop the same old patterns of upset in relationships, the tips and tools I offer in this free class will really support you. They’re SO simple, and yet they have a profound effect.

You can learn to remember to Partner UP rather than struggling in your relationships and that feels so good. You can stop playing small and live your calling by ALLOWING healing your relationships. Are you willing to make more loving choices to deepen your spiritual practice and accelerate your awakening by being a healing presence in your family? It’s easier than you think! Forgive me. Here Come the Holidays!

RIGHT NOW, let’s stop paying lip service by SAYING we’re willing but not actually living it. We can bring on a breakthrough FAR beyond what we can imagine when we’re truly willing to truly forgive. If you don’t know how here’s how! Join me!

Why wait? Now is the time for our healing! If you’re willing, I’m ready – let’s do it together!

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Being Judicious not Judgmental

Friday, November 22nd, 2019

One of the things we talked about in Masterful Living that was so helpful to us all is understanding when we’re sharing our judgments and complaints versus when we can better serve ourselves and others and stay silent.

The bottom line is that we don’t have to share everything we feel and think. That’s not desirable and it’s not helpful. There are many times when we can honestly share how we feel and it will create stress and turmoil around us and within us. How could that be helpful?

We can ask ourselves three valuable questions:

Does this need to be said?
Does it need to be said by ME?
Does it need to be said by me NOW?

We don’t have to say everything we think, and we don’t have to share everything we feel. It has been famously said as “Discretion is the better part of valor.” Let’s remember that and choose what will actually land on others as kindness.

When we choose to be kind, that’s using good judgment.

When we share every little judgment we have, that’s being judgmental.

I remind myself that I cannot be a healing and beneficial presence while also being judgmental.

I’d rather be truly helpful than sharing everything that’s going on with me. I’ve learned the Wisdom of keeping many thoughts to myself in the sense of not speaking or sharing them – and the smartest thing for me to do is simply hand it all UP to the Higher Holy Spirit Self for healing. It works, AND it brings great benefit.

Plus, when I turn it over, I don’t have any forgiveness to do.

And that’s great because I’d rather not create any additional drama or stress for myself and others.

Still, one thing I’m SUPER grateful for is the power of forgiveness, especially in all of my relationships. Forgiveness has changed my life and I’m inspired by everyone’s forgiveness stories. I am offering my “F* ME, Here Come The Holidays” class today and for the next few days – it’s totally free, and it’s a really great way to get inspired to do some real forgiveness work NOW before the holidays. Click here to register now!

40 Days to January 1st – I share what I learned that shifted me out of my habits of spinning around in the same repeating upsets in my Masterful Living Course 2020. Registration is open NOW. I encourage you to commit now so that you have that to look forward to. At no charge, you can also book an Exploratory Call to speak with one of the Spiritual Counselors who has already done the program and they can help you be clear if this is right for you right now.

Click here now to book a free Exploratory Call about Masterful Living 2020.

TODAY FREE FORGIVENESS WORKSHOP: If you’d like more support for having a miraculous breakthrough with forgiveness, please join me! Let me suggest some simple ways you can immediately feel more successful in your relationships. When you’re ready to stop and drop the same old patterns of upset in relationships, the tips and tools I offer in this free class will really support you. They’re SO simple, and yet they have a profound effect.

TODAY FREE FORGIVENESS WORKSHOP:

If you’d like more support for having a miraculous breakthrough with forgiveness, please join me! Let me suggest some simple ways you can immediately feel more successful in your relationships. When you’re ready to stop and drop the same old patterns of upset in relationships, the tips and tools I offer in this free class will really support you. They’re SO simple, and yet they have a profound effect.

You can learn to remember to Partner UP rather than struggling in your relationships and that feels so good. You can stop playing small and live your calling by ALLOWING healing your relationships. Are you willing to make more loving choices to deepen your spiritual practice and accelerate your awakening by being a healing presence in your family? It’s easier than you think! Forgive me. Here Come the Holidays!

RIGHT NOW, let’s stop paying lip service by SAYING we’re willing but not actually living it. We can bring on a breakthrough FAR beyond what we can imagine when we’re truly willing to truly forgive. If you don’t know how here’s how! Join me!

Why wait? Now is the time for our healing! If you’re willing, I’m ready – let’s do it together!

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Let’s Kick the Complaining Habit

Thursday, November 21st, 2019

Yesterday I was traveling from Santa Barbara, California, where I’d been visiting my goddaughter’s family, to Scottsdale, Arizona. And I had another one of those experiences at the airport where we got on the plane and then we had to get off the plane and wait.

We were deplaned and delayed because of rain in Phoenix preventing all planes from landing or taking off. Miraculously, once again, I found I didn’t have any complaints. I just got off the plane with everyone else and got to work while I waited to re-board the plane.

Being able to be delayed and inconvenienced without complaining is such a victory. There was a time when I would have complained incessantly.

Isn’t it wonderful to be able to change?
It’s such a victory for my soul!

Let’s find the way to put ALL complaining behind us.

Complaining doesn’t help anything, it doesn’t improve anything or heal anything – but it DOES change things. It drags the energy down.

It ruins the mood and it makes us a magnet for more things to complain about.

Who needs that? Not us!

November is the month of Thanksgiving in the U.S.

Let’s focus on gratitude and give it all we’ve got!

One thing I’m SUPER grateful for is the power of forgiveness. Forgiveness has changed my life and I’m inspired by everyone’s forgiveness stories. I am offering my F- Me, Here Come The Holidays class today and for the next few days – it’s totally free and it’s a really great way to get inspired to do some real forgiveness work NOW before the holidays. Click here to register now!

40 Days to January 1st – I share what I learned that shifted me out of my habits of spinning around in the same repeating upsets in my Masterful Living Course 2020. Registration is open NOW. I encourage you to commit now so that you have that to look forward to. At no charge, you can also book an Exploratory Call to speak with one of the Spiritual Counselors who has already done the program and they can help you be clear if this is right for you right now.

Click here now to book a free Exploratory Call about Masterful Living 2020.

TODAY FREE FORGIVENESS WORKSHOP: If you’d like more support for having a miraculous breakthrough with forgiveness, please join me! Let me suggest some simple ways you can immediately feel more successful in your relationships. When you’re ready to stop and drop the same old patterns of upset in relationships, the tips and tools I offer in this free class will really support you. They’re SO simple, and yet they have a profound effect.

You can learn to remember to Partner UP rather than struggling in your relationships and that feels so good. You can stop playing small and live your calling by ALLOWING healing your relationships. Are you willing to make more loving choices to deepen your spiritual practice and accelerate your awakening by being a healing presence in your family? It’s easier than you think! Forgive me. Here Come the Holidays!

RIGHT NOW, let’s stop paying lip service by SAYING we’re willing but not actually living it. We can bring on a breakthrough FAR beyond what we can imagine when we’re truly willing to truly forgive. If you don’t know how here’s how! Join me!

Why wait? Now is the time for our healing! If you’re willing, I’m ready – let’s do it together!

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No More Pain

Wednesday, November 20th, 2019

Until you prove it to yourself, it’s hard to imagine that we have the ability to heal all of our own pain and suffering. In fact, we have to ask ourselves why we wouldn’t wish to heal all our pain? But many people don’t actually wish to heal the pain.

That might seem crazy to you, but it’s a very common experience. I’ve seen it so often.

I understand it. There have been many times in my life – too many to count – when I made a choice to feel pain, to be in pain, to be miserable and unhappy for misguided reasons. The ego talks us into righteous suffering, suffering for a cause, as though suffering ever improved anything!

Ego talks us into being a martyr, as though there’s some benefit to being unhappy and losing out. Insanity!

Ego talks us into thinking we can punish others by being miserable. It’s as though we can make others suffer by drinking poison. It just doesn’t work. More insanity!

Ego also talks us into believing that we can’t do any better and that being in pain is our only choice.

And yet, deep down, most of us know it’s not true. It’s the craziest thing in this world!

By being willing to be loving and compassionate, to drop all judgments, to have holy relationships, we can actually heal all the pain there is in the world.

That might seem impossible, but it’s actually the only way it will happen.

We have the power.

It’s the power of Love to heal our hearts and minds.

And it’s up to us to choose it now.

I’ve learned that it’s SO much easier when we do it together than when we do it on our own. There really is strength in numbers. It’s spiritual strength that comes from being the two or more gathered in the name of Love.

Each one who makes the choice for Love makes it easier for the next one. Are you willing to make it easier for the next one?

42 Days to January 1st – I share what I learned that shifted me out of my habits of spinning around in the same repeating upsets in my Masterful Living Course 2020. Registration is open NOW. I encourage you to commit now so that you have that to look forward to. At no charge, you can also book an Exploratory Call to speak with one of the Spiritual Counselors who has already done the program and they can help you be clear if this is right for you right now.

Click here now to book a free Exploratory Call about Masterful Living 2020.

FREE FORGIVENESS WORKSHOP: If you’d like more support for having a miraculous breakthrough with forgiveness, please join me! Let me suggest some simple ways you can immediately feel more successful in your relationships. When you’re ready to stop and drop the same old patterns of upset in relationships, the tips and tools I offer in this free class will really support you. They’re SO simple, and yet they have a profound effect.

You can learn to remember to Partner UP rather than struggling in your relationships and that feels so good. You can stop playing small and live your calling by ALLOWING healing your relationships. Are you willing to make more loving choices to deepen your spiritual practice and accelerate your awakening by being a healing presence in your family? It’s easier than you think! Forgive me. Here Come the Holidays!

RIGHT NOW, let’s stop paying lip service by SAYING we’re willing but not actually living it. We can bring on a breakthrough FAR beyond what we can imagine when we’re truly willing to truly forgive. If you don’t know how, here’s how! Join me!

Why wait? Now is the time for our healing! If you’re willing, I’m ready – let’s do it together!

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Cure for the Worried Mind

Monday, November 18th, 2019

It’s hard to believe, and even to conceive, that forgiveness can bring the amount of healing that it does. Part of why it’s hard to believe is that we’re not taught about forgiveness. We’re not taught what it really is.

At its core, TRUE forgiveness is undoing the blocks to Love which, of course, naturally opens up the flow of Love in our lives.

Love is everything. Without an AWARENESS of Love, we’re lost. Without an awareness of Love, we don’t know who we are and we don’t know what anything is for.

If we’re trying to solve a problem with anything other than Love then we’re not eliminating the problem, we’re merely managing and coping with it. Problem-solving doesn’t happen in the world of form. Problem-solving happens when we realize what the actual problem is – a belief in lack of Love.

The only thing that can solve a belief in a lack of Love is an awareness of Love.

When we let go of the meaning we’ve made of things, we’re letting go of the blocks to Love and that’s true forgiveness.

Willingness to forgive is a power that can move mountains of pain and suffering.

It’s very easy to fall back into the pit of pain and suffering until we reach the point where we’re simply not willing to do it to ourselves anymore. That’s what Self-Love is all about.

Love is our healer because it reminds us of what’s true and right and real.

Like Dorothy in The Wizard of Oz, we’ve had the power all along.
Today’s the day – let’s not delay!

If you’re going to join us next year, I encourage you to register early for my year-long Masterful Living Course 2020. Make the commitment to yourself NOW and you’ll have so much to look forward to – including tremendous healing and transformation! Give yourself that gift this year and you’ll be amazed at how your connection with Spirit will bloom!

Grief Support Class – Very few people really understand how to move through grief with ease and grace.  Jesse Brune-Horan is someone who has gone through tremendous loss and grief and is now offering support.  Jesse is a minister that I have partnered with in many classes and offerings and I’m so glad to support this offering of his new class Healing Grief.  Now is the perfect time to get this support and to call forth more grace in your experience of grief.  Click here for more details.

FORGIVENESS CLASS:  Give yourself the gift of extraordinary healing.  My Forgive & Be Free class, in 3 parts, is available on replay right now.  Let’s do this sacred work joyfully, and JoyFULLY together!  Register now and get the replay now!  Click here for more details 

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Healing the Habit Of Being A Fault-Finder

Sunday, November 17th, 2019

When I was in the graduate Screenwriting program at USC, my professor, the amazing actor/director Nina Foch, used to say “focus on the light. The darkness will take care of itself.”  This was her advice for directing students.  I’ve always thought that was excellent advice.

It’s so easy to focus on the dark.  And when we do, then all we see is more darkness and corruption.  The view becomes narrow and ugly.  The scenery is depressing and upsetting – or so we think.

I can admit that my personality is a judger and a fault-finder.  I can look at a perfect thing and find the smallest crack.  I can look at an arrangement of things and instantly see how they could be arranged more coherently, attractively, helpfully.  It used to always work against me.  For much of my life, I simply found more things to criticize everywhere I looked.

Now I can look at things and often I’ll see the Beauty before I see what the ego would judge as bad, wrong, imperfect.  I can see the perfection and let it rest at that, but not always.  I’m going for ALWAYS.

Looking for faults is a habit.  

It can be unlearned – and it’s SO worth doing.

Frequently finding fault is an ego habit that keeps us in a place of near-constant disappointment, blame, criticism, complaint, shame, agitation, and irritation.  

This way of looking at the world sucks the joy out of life.  It’s right up there with keeping score and holding grudges. If there’s anything worth letting go of, it’s this gnarly habit of seeing the devil in the details.

How do you break this hellish habit?  It’s so simple.  Willingness is all it takes.

It’s a willingness to replace the habit of fault-finding with praising and gratitude.

It’s not so hard to change our life if we’re willing.

Gratitude multiplies the good.
Complaining makes us a crap magnet.
We choose how we’d like our life to go.

Whenever I would realize I wasn’t happy and harmonious, when my Peace seems to have taken the low road, I learned to call upon Spirit to show me where I made the downturn.  It was always some judgment or opinion, some falsehood that had captured my attention.  I learned that I could give whatever the opinion or complaint was to the Higher Holy Spirit Self for healing and regain my Peace, my higher ground.

I learned to stand in faith that the healing will be done and give thanks that it IS done.  Because I AM willing, there’s nothing to prevent the healing from happening.  This is a powerful formula for transformation that actually works.

If the complaint returns, it just means I wasn’t really TRULY willing to let my opinion go.  It means I thought I was right.  

Sometimes we’re SO willing to stop being upset, 
but we’re NOT so willing to give up our complaint.  

We can’t have Freedom and keep our complaint.  
It’s one or the other.
Thank God for that.  
Now, in this holy instant, we can become TRULY willing.
And we’re carried back to Peace and Harmony.

What complaint have you got that’s worth trading your Peace for?  
I actually used to have SO MANY complaints that felt so important to me, but now I don’t have an interest in making that trade for Peace.

Learning to make the trade of handing over the false belief in exchange for the Peace is what we do in Masterful Living, and so much more. Registration is open now for my yearlong course.  My first class of the year is January 1st.

It seems crazy, but here we are 45 days until the new year!  

Let’s all consider, what we can do to deepen our spiritual practice between now and January 1.  Placing our docs on this will carry us through the holidays with a sense of success and fulfillment and that’s a great way to start the new year.

Next time you feel less than peaceful, remember that you’re never upset for the reason you think. The cause of upset isn’t “out there” in the world.  The cause of all upset is holding a grievance, a false belief or idea in our heart that we won’t let go.

Freedom is right here, right now, if we’re willing to keep it in focus.

I use affirmations to help me keep my mind aligned with Spirit.

What are my affirmations?

I AM willing to focus on the Light.  
I AM the Light.
I Love the Light.
I serve the Light. 
I live in the Light.
The Light is All.

I’ve found that affirmations are one of the most powerful tools I have to change my mind and choose again.

Every day I offer “My Shot of Spiritual Espresso”.  I write spiritual inspiration and record a prayer for our healing.  Prayer is a power tool for our liberation.  Pray with me today.  We use technology to transcend time and space and deepen our spiritual practice and connect with each other. Our spiritual practice is our path of liberation.  And that’s beautiful to share!

When anyone of us has more happiness, we’re all lifted!  All boats rise on this tide of Love.

If you’re going to join us next year, I encourage you to register early for the Masterful Living Course 2020.  Make the commitment to yourself NOW and you’ll have so much to look forward to – including tremendous healing and transformation!  Give yourself that gift this year and you’ll be amazed at how your connection with Spirit will bloom!

Having a loving relationship builds self-esteem and worthiness, and that’s a far better investment of our precious energy than fault-finding and that’s miraculous.  Are you ready for a miracle?  Check out the classes that we’re offering now!

Grief Support Class – Very few people really understand how to move through grief with ease and grace.  Jesse Brune-Horan is someone who has gone through tremendous loss and grief and is now offering support.  Jesse is a minister that I have partnered with in many classes and offerings, and I’m so glad to support this offering of his new class Healing Grief.  Now is the perfect time to get this support and to call forth more grace in your experience of grief.  Click here for more details.

FORGIVENESS CLASS: My Forgive & Be Free class, in 3 parts, is available on replay right now and join me for Part 3 today.  Let’s do this sacred work joyfully, and JoyFULLY together!  Register now and get the replay right now! Click here for more details.

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Miracle Healing

Saturday, November 16th, 2019

I’ve had so much to forgive myself for. Good heavens!

I used to believe that it was OK to manipulate people with my moods and attitudes. I grew up thinking that having an attitude or getting into a mood was a way to effectively control and manipulate people to have them pay attention to me and do what I wanted. When I felt powerless, I’d find some way to feel more powerful. At the very least, I used to think I can push people’s buttons and agitate them. It was the misuse of “power.”

I learned that if I was angry, people would try to appease me.
I learned that if I was cold and distant, people would inquire about what was wrong and try to help me.
I learned that if I was sad, people might comfort me.

Mostly I learned that manipulating people made me feel sick energetically.
In all of my relationships, I found that others were manipulating me as much as I was manipulating them. It all felt SUPER uncomfortable, but that’s just the way it was. Everybody did it.

Forgiveness has taken me from the darkness to the Light.

I have had to forgive myself for so much, and actually doing that has been such a gift to me that it has changed my ENTIRE life!

Here’s a miracle:

As I began to achieve some spiritual maturity, I realized that manipulating others for any reason, or in any way, was a source of my suffering and theirs. It lacks authenticity and discourages intimacy – two things I deeply value.

Here’s a miracle:

I dropped the controlling and manipulating behaviors, and now I notice that I rarely encounter anyone who tries to pull that behavior with me. If they do, I have compassion because I know it comes from a place of deep wounding and suffering and I’m interested in Love, which is our healer.

I invite you to take a look at where you give yourself permission to manipulate people with your moods and attitudes. It creates more trouble than it could ever be worth. The worst fall-out is that it will degrade your personal sense of self-esteem and worthiness.

Having a loving relationship builds self-esteem and worthiness, and that’s a far better investment of your precious energy and that’s miraculous.

Are you ready for a miracle? Check out the classes that we’re offering TODAY!

TODAY: Grief Support Class starts TODAY – Very few people really understand how to move through grief with ease and grace. Jesse Brune-Horan is someone who has gone through tremendous loss and grief and is now offering support. Jesse is a minister that I have partnered with in many classes and offerings, and I’m so glad to support this offering of his new class Healing Grief. Now is the perfect time to get this support and to call forth more grace in your experience of grief. Click here for more details.

TODAY IT’S NOT TOO LATE TO JOIN MY FORGIVENESS CLASS: We just started my Forgive & Be Free class in 3 parts, and you can get the replay of Part 1 right now and join me for Parts 2 and 3 this weekend. Let’s do this sacred work joyfully and JoyFULLY together! Register now and get the replay right now! Click here for more details.

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