I can see now how often I made my life hard, difficult, painful, and uncomfortable. I did it to myself, but I thought other people were doing it to me. I thought it was life happening to me.
One of the main ways that I made myself uncomfortable was that I would try to plan how I thought my life and my day should go. Planning gives the ego a sense of security. Making plans and feeling that we have to stick to them is how we separate ourselves from the flow of Love. It’s the opposite of trust and faith.
Now, most of us would say planning is essential for our lives — for having jobs, for going on vacation, for attending school, etc. However, I had A LOT of pain and suffering because I would become so attached to the plans I made. If I didn’t follow the plans I made, I would start to feel anxious and upset. If someone interrupted my plans or thwarted my plans, I would become agitated and angry.
For the ego, a change in plans is a loss. It’s a cause for fear, anger, upset, and worry.
A Course in Miracles tells us that “A healed mind does not plan.”
When we first look at that, most of us think – “How can that possibly work? If I don’t plan, how do I live my life?”
To look at it more clearly, we could say “A healed mind does not feel obsessed with sticking to the plan.”
A healed mind has no attachment to the plan and can go with the flow of Love!
Obviously, as someone who is leading a ministry, offering year-long classes, planning global summits and retreats, I make A LOT of plans! What I’ve learned is that my Peace is in going with the flow of Love when things are shifting and changing, as they often are.
I’m in the Catskills area right now, leading my Spiritual Counseling Training Intensive. The other night, I went to bed with a particular plan for my morning the next day. In the morning, things changed and it was clear there was a different flow for me that would feel more supportive to what I was doing that day. It was a change of plan.
Years ago, I would have been angry and upset if I had changed my plans. I would have felt I’d failed because I failed to keep my plan.
When I was younger, I was very rigid with myself. I realized that I had an “inner Nazi” who was always driving me to be “better” and be “more productive.”
I was my own worst enemy. Beating myself up for my errors.
It took me a VERY long time to realize that the only thing that is truly productive is to be loving. Being loving is the only meaningful accomplishment.
Being loving is the only thing that’s truly helpful.
Why? Because whenever we’re being loving, then we’re being a healing presence in our lives and it ripples out to everyone.
My fear of not sticking to the plan and of non-accomplishment was really about my not feeling worthy of Love. I used to believe that my accomplishments and my rigid adherence to my plans would somehow prove that I was good enough and worthy of my own “seal of approval.”
Of course, the approval was only momentary and not permanent.
Love is permanent. Love is eternal and echoes throughout the universe.
Ego accomplishment is actually nothing in the view of the Spirit.
I finally realized that, while I believed I was upset because I wasn’t sticking to the ego’s plan for my day and for getting approval, I was ACTUALLY upset because I was allowing myself to believe that accomplishment was something that could improve my stature in the “Eyes of God.”
A Course in Miracles tells us, “I’m never upset for the reason I think.”
When I’m upset, it’s always because I’m choosing to believe an opinion that isn’t true. Believing that I have to earn approval from God or from the ego will always bring upset.
Love is our healer because Love is our true identity.
Love is our DEFAULT SETTING.
Love doesn’t judge and Love doesn’t need approval. Only the ego judges and the ego doesn’t stop judging. It’s always offering the “carrot” of approval, the enticement of “being good enough,” but it dissolves like a mirage the moment we think we’re there. Tricky ego.
I’m so grateful to know that a major key to Peace is not being attached to plans. I AM learning to live in the flow of Love and, for me, that is the place of great safety and security. I love it and am grateful for this learning.
This awareness of non-attachment to plans is one of the most helpful and loving practices I’ve ever found. It blesses me every day, and it makes life so much easier for everyone I come in contact with because I’m not involving them in my upset.
Because of this simple practice of awareness of non-attachment, we can experience much greater Love in our lives and that’s healing so many other false beliefs and patterns of separation. We can live joy-FULLY.
The healing ripples out through all of our relationships and I AM grateful to live in gratitude for our ever-increasing awareness! WOO HOO!
We are so blessed at every moment. Daily, I ask the angels to surround and enfold me and help me to recognize my healing opportunities to release attachments and be a truly helpful and loving presence. Daily, I AM lifted into the Light and Love that I most deeply desire to know and share.
LAST CALL till next spring: If you’d like to do this work in a class with me, my Finding Freedom class just started and if you’d like to jump in, jump NOW. This is the perfect time for us to do this relationship healing work as the holidays are approaching. We can make such a difference in our own life and in our family. I see it every year at this time, since 2008 when I first started offering this class.
Every day I offer “My Shot of Spiritual Espresso.” I write spiritual inspiration and record a prayer for our healing. Prayer is a power tool for our liberation. We use technology to transcend time and space and deepen our spiritual practice and connect with each other. Our spiritual practice is our path of liberation, and that’s beautiful to share!
We’re all on a journey of expanding awareness, and there’s so much help for us in the invisible. We’re never alone. I Love you and I thank God for you. We bless each other with our willingness to rise in Spirit and come back into our right minds. Together we’re answering our call to BE the Love. YES!