Archive for the ‘Healing’ Category

Power of the Mind

Wednesday, September 16th, 2020

The mind never sleeps.

Whatever we hold in our mind we will experience in form of some kind.

This can be a wonderful thing or a tortuous thing and we are the ones who choose which it is.

Let us use the power of our mind for Peace.

The world will benefit greatly.

In A Course in Miracles, Jesus tells us that we’re here ONLY to be truly helpful. That’s our purpose. And by working at the level of the mind, we can be profoundly helpful to all of those around us. Each person’s mental and emotional state affects every other person’s mental and emotional state – and we even affect the weather with our thoughts and beliefs.

Native Americans and other indigenous people around the world have teachings about how wind increases when people’s anger increases. They teach that the water dries up when the women are not honored and treated poorly.

In the Fear and Conflict section of Chapter II in the ACIM Text, Jesus tells us:

“Few appreciate the real power of the mind, and no one remains fully aware of it all the time. However, if you hope to spare yourself from fear there are some things you must realize, and realize fully. The mind is very powerful, and never loses its creative force. It never sleeps. Every instant it is creating. It is hard to recognize that thought and belief combine into a power surge that can literally move mountains. It appears at first glance that to believe such power about yourself is arrogant, but that is not the real reason you do not believe it. You prefer to believe that your thoughts cannot exert real influence because you are actually afraid of them.”

The incredible power of the mind is one of the main reasons why we keep in place the blocks to Love – so that we are blocked from recognizing that we are the dreamer of the dream.

Right now, instead of energizing that the fires, hurricanes, and other things that we see on display in the world are “horrible” let’s hold in our mind that there is Peace IN the earth and ON the earth. Let us take deep long breaths and give thanks for the healing that’s happening now, for surely, the healing IS happening now!

STARTS FRIDAY:  I’m getting ready for my Stop Playing Small Online Retreat which starts on Friday.  If you’d really like to do this healing work of letting go of complaining and other mental patterns that stand in our way of happiness and Peace, consider joining me.  You can change your entire life, your relationships, your experience, your finances, your body, your happiness and peace of mind, one breakthrough at a time – that’s what we’re doing.

Follow your intuition – only you know if this is right for you right now.

Consider this:

You won’t regret your choice, and you’ll only be so glad you did – at least that’s what I hear from the people who’ve done it.

Get going. Take action. Be aggressive about working with your mind. DO NOT DELAY. If you’re waiting, if you’re not getting the results you’d like, what are you waiting for?

Don’t take my word for it, read the testimonials from those who have done this work with me. They believed that nothing would work for them, and they were willing to do something different anyway. Now, they’re not playing small anymore. They’re not letting fear dictate their life. They have a real and powerful connection with Spirit.

CHECK IT OUT – If you’re ready to make a change, and you’d like some REAL support to make a LASTING change, TAKE ACTION! If you’re interested in either my Stop Playing Small Online Retreat or Finding Freedom From Fear Online Spiritual Bootcamp, but you aren’t sure if either is right for you right now, book an Exploratory Call with one of the spiritual counselors. The call is free and you’ll find benefit in addition to getting all your questions answered. Click here now to book an Exploratory Call with a Spiritual Counselor.

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We Have What It Takes

Saturday, September 12th, 2020

Many have a tendency to second guest themselves and to doubt themselves.  When we doubt that we can succeed our trust and faith is not in Spirit, but in ourselves.  

I used to doubt myself so much.  And now I know that self-doubt is insanity. It’s plain crazy!  Self-doubt is when the ego mind says:

“You don’t have what it takes”

Spirit ALWAYS has what it takes to do whatever it would like to do. 

ALWAYS. 

When we’re aligned with ego we’ll be filled with doubt, BECAUSE the ego can only accomplish that which is not worth accomplishing. THEREFORE it’s naturally filled with doubt. 

What the ego can accomplish is only of this world, and has no lasting value.


What the ego can accomplish is only that which can lead to your suffering.


The value of suffering is that it PUSHES us to wake up and choose Spirit.

That’s about all the ego really has for us at this point. Motivation to stop suffering.

What does that motivation really come from? Increased suffering! 

Is that any way to live?

Unfortunately, yes, it is, and I have lived that way and it absolutely got me to the point where I said

“I have had ENOUGH. I AM choosing LOVE!”

Phew!

Who knew that in this world one of the best things that could ever happen is that my suffering would become intolerable and I would totally give up and surrender my life to the Higher Holy Spirit Self and then be grateful for everything I’ve experienced?  What a wild ride!  

I’m so glad to learn that Spirit never fails!

I’ve learned to count on Spirit and to place my trust and faith in Spirit, and that’s the challenge.  The challenge is learning to trust.  Trust is a result of willingness. 

I learned to focus on cultivating a TRUE and honest willingness to be loving, kind, generous and patient – as well as a willingness to take responsibility for my own feelings.  In doing that, the doubt dissipated.

I’m getting ready for my Stop Playing Small Online Retreat on September 18.

If you’d really like to do this healing work of letting go of complaints and the other things that stand in our way of happiness and Peace, consider joining me. You can change your entire life, your relationships, your experience, your finances, your body, your happiness and peace of mind. Consider this:

You will never regret your choice, and you’ll only be so glad you did – at least that’s what I hear from the people who have done it.

Get going. Take action. Be aggressive about working with your mind. DO NOT DELAY. If you’re waiting, if you’re not getting the results you’d like, what are you waiting for?

Don’t take my word for it, read the testimonials from those who have done this work with me. They believed that nothing would work for them, and they were willing to do something different anyway. Now, they’re not playing small anymore. They’re not letting fear dictate their life. They have a real and powerful connection with Spirit.

If you’re ready to make a change, and you’d like some REAL support to make a LASTING change, TAKE ACTION! If you’re interested in either my Stop Playing Small Online Retreat or Finding Freedom From Fear Online Spiritual Bootcamp, but you aren’t sure if either is right for you right now, book an Exploratory Call with one of the spiritual counselors. The call is free and you’ll find benefit in addition to getting all your questions answered. Click here now to book an Exploratory Call with a Spiritual Counselor.

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Healing The Unconscious Guilt

Friday, September 11th, 2020

Lately, I’ve been noticing so many more places where the unconscious guilt that A Course in Miracles talks about is driving people’s choices and they have no idea of it. There are so many patterns of pain and negativity playing out throughout our days that we’re not even aware of.

Yesterday I wrote about feeling insecure.

Insecurity comes directly from the unconscious guilt patterns.

It takes up so much of our bandwidth and yet we don’t even realize that’s the real issue.

In our essence, we’re all perfect Spirit poured into different expressions of human experience.

Somewhere along the journey, we gave ourselves permission to judge, to sort, separate and label. The more we see each other as separate, different, wrong, bad, better or worse, the more our perspective is skewed and we cannot see correctly.

We’ve cultivated a distorted perspective of being better than, worse then and separate from, and because we’ve done it on purpose, intentionally cultivating this false view of ourselves and others, we feel badly. Deep down, every one of us feels guilty for giving ourselves permission to attack others, and ourselves, with thoughts of better and worse, when deep down, we do know that we’re one with each other and not separate.

It’s an ancient guilt that we’re in the process of healing.

This ancient guilt is why we all feel less than perfectly lovable and believe it’s true even though it’s not.

We’re one with each other.

Can I possibly believe that you are less than lovable and not believe it of myself?

If deep down, I know that you and I are one, how can I actually believe that it’s possible to paint you as bad and wrong and not paint myself that way too?

Well, here’s how – we made a divide in our mind. We made a split.
We can call it right mind and wrong mind.
Clear mind and distorted mind.

With the split in our mind, we can now see ourselves as separate from each other, but it has a HUGE cost to pay in order to make the illusion of the split possible. We had to also agree that we were separate from Spirit. It was the only way.

What we didn’t realize was that the split in our mind would also prevent us from feeling our God-nature. All of our gifts that are essential to our living a joyful life would be hidden from us on the other side of the split.

In our awareness of oneness and union in Spirit we’re able to access our true divine nature and experience the many gifts of God. These gifts are our natural state of being. They are sometimes seen as colored rays of light, like the aspects of light we see in a rainbow. They are the spiritual qualities of being that we truly are such as:

  • Love
  • Joy
  • Freedom
  • Wisdom
  • Clarity
  • Peace
  • Harmony
  • Beauty
  • Wholeness
  • Prosperity
  • Purity
  • Abundance
  • And more

When we seek the kingdom first, when we put Spirit first, then all of these spiritual qualities are now awake and available in our mind. This is our true Abundance, remembering our lineage, our ancestry, our inheritance!

Our way back to our true reality is being willing to recognize what is false and stop identifying with a smaller, weaker, selfish self. We are truly miraculous beings of Love and Light and our destiny is to remember the kingdom is within. Let’s look for our blessings where we can find them, already pre-installed, within.

Instead of looking for separation and differences, let’s look for similarities and unity.

I’m getting ready for my Stop Playing Small Online Retreat on September 18.

If you’d really like to do this healing work of letting go of complaints and the other things that stand in our way of happiness and Peace, consider joining me. You can change your entire life, your relationships, your experience, your finances, your body, your happiness and peace of mind. Consider this:

You will never regret your choice, and you’ll only be so glad you did – at least that’s what I hear from the people who have done it.

Get going. Take action. Be aggressive about working with your mind. DO NOT DELAY. If you’re waiting, if you’re not getting the results you’d like, what are you waiting for?

Don’t take my word for it, read the testimonials from those who have done this work with me. They believed that nothing would work for them, and they were willing to do something different anyway. Now, they’re not playing small anymore. They’re not letting fear dictate their life. They have a real and powerful connection with Spirit.

If you’re ready to make a change, and you’d like some REAL support to make a LASTING change, TAKE ACTION! If you’re interested in either my Stop Playing Small Online Retreat or Finding Freedom From Fear Online Spiritual Bootcamp, but you aren’t sure if either is right for you right now, book an Exploratory Call with one of the spiritual counselors. The call is free and you’ll find benefit in addition to getting all your questions answered. Click here now to book an Exploratory Call with a Spiritual Counselor.

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Finger

Sunday, August 30th, 2020

I had a bizarre experience the other day. Friday I left for my vacation. I left Vermont and was driving to Lisa Natoli and Bill Free’s house in Maine, and that’s where I am now. We love to get together and enjoy each other’s company while having coffee and an assortment of delicious foods. We delight ourselves with hours and hours and HOURS of talking, eating, cooking and basking in the glow of Love.

I had a 3.5 hour drive to Bill and Lisa’s house and on the way I realized I really had a hankering for a cup of coffee and I didn’t want to wait. About an hour from their home I pulled over to a Dunkin’ Donuts drive thru for my coffee. While waiting at the window I got out of the car to go to the backseat where I had a cooler that had in it a container of almond coconut creamer that I wished to use in my coffee.

I got the creamer, and when I shut the car door to get back in the front seat, I shut the door on my hand. Specifically, I shut the door on my index finger. I looked at my finger, trapped in the door, up to the second knuckle! I was aghast! The door was completely closed on my finger. How did that happen? I felt like I was in a twilight zone! Wait, what’s happening now?

I couldn’t believe I had done it. What the heck, man!

Then, I had the thought, because the door was completely closed on my finger, “I hope the door isn’t locked now.” I guess my mind was preparing for worst case scenario and visualizing. I held the thought, “it’s open, and will open easily, all is well” the door opened easily. I was relieved.

When I saw my finger, I saw that there was a cut, or a tear in the skin, just below the second knuckle, but it wasn’t smashed or horrible, I was much relieved.

Yes, it hurt. It definitely hurt. A lot.

But I was beginning to be surprised that it didn’t hurt more.

As soon as I took my finger out of the door frame it began to bleed and a drop of blood ran quickly around the side of my finger. I shut the door, got into the front seat, looking for a tissue in my purse to stop the blood.

I bent my finger and tested it out. Not broken. Phew!

It hurt. A lot. But it didn’t hurt as much as I thought it “should.”

I got my coffee, I pulled my car out of the line to the side and I had the thought, “this could be very difficult to drive like this.”

I also had the thought, since it was my right hand, “it could be hard to drink the coffee and drive.” Perish THAT thought!!
I added the creamer, spilled a little hot coffee in the car – it was VERY hot. Yikes!

Now, throughout this experience, I was also thinking “all is well.”

That’s my go to thought when there’s a concern.
“All is well. All is well. All is well.”
I usually say it at least three times.

I realized later that through this sequence of events, as a “negative scenario” thought would arise in my awareness, I’d banish it and think of what I’d like to have happen, visualize that and lock it in. That’s how I work with my mind.

It’s not that negative thoughts and possibilities don’t arise in my mind, I don’t wish to EXPERIENCE them, so I don’t entertain them. I go the other way. AND I got the extra mile of visualizing what I’d like.

I call it CATCH, RELEASE, REPLACE.

Catch the thought of what I don’t want.

Release it to the Higher Holy Spirit Self for healing.

Replace it with the thought and visualization of what I’d like to experience.

I have the power of choice.
I have the power of decision.
I focus on what I’d like and banish the thought of what I wouldn’t like to have happen.

I AM NOT A VICTIM OF THE WORLD I SEE.

As I was pulled over, there in the Dunkin’ Donuts parking lot, I said. “this hurts a lot.” I was just acknowledging what was. Still it didn’t hurt as much as It thought it could given what happened. I definitely felt I was experiencing a miracle.

I knew it would be healing just fine and there was nothing to worry about.

I knew it could be difficult to drive with the bleeding, the pain and protecting the finger from doing much – and I still had a desire to drink that coffee which needed to cool off!

I held in my mind, “the pain is leaving. This will not be a problem. It is healing quickly. The coffee is cooling and I’ll be able to drink it soon.

Focused on the results I was interested in – without attachment. No fear, no worry, no doubt.

I got back on the road to Lisa and Bill’s house. I drank my coffee as I drove. Checking my bloody finger, feeling the pain disappear. Miracles were happening in my mind and demonstrating in form.

I had to keep the tissue on my finger the whole way, but there wasn’t that much blood.

The pain really did dramatically diminish. I arrived at my destination in perfect timing.

That night, in bed, I woke up in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom. I had a bandaid on it to keep it from opening up and getting blood on the bed. I noticed that it hurt quite a bit. I had the thought “this could keep me from going right back to sleep.”

Well, that wasn’t the result that I was interested in.

I wished to immediately return to deep sleep like I normally do if I use the restroom in the middle of the night.

I said to the pain, “I’m not having it.”

I felt it immediately diminish and fade into the background as I drifted back to a deep sleep.

I have wondered, “what’s this for?”

I know that A Course in Miracles tells me:

“What could you not accept, if you but knew that everything that happens, all events, past, present and to come, are gently planned by One Whose only purpose is your good? Perhaps you have misunderstood His plan, for He would never offer pain to you.”

I can see now, in my experience, it was clearly demonstrated to me that pain was my choice.
I can see now, that I had an expectation of pain and injury and I cleared that from my mind to the best of my ability that day.

In my history, in my past, I have had many thousands of experiences where I saw the possibility that it would be painful and that is what I chose.

I wanted those experiences to be painful, but they didn’t have to be.
I chose the pain. And I got what I wanted.
I wanted to be a victim.
I did that for DECADES.
Now, I’m having a new and different experience because of my WILLINGNESS.

A Course in Miracles also tells us in the text, section on Responsibility for Sight:
“I am responsible for what I see. I choose the feelings I experience, and I decide upon the goal I would achieve. And everything that seems to happen to me I ask for, and receive as I have asked. Deceive yourself no longer that you are helpless in the face of what is done to you. Acknowledge but that you have been mistaken, and all effects of your mistakes will disappear.” T-21.II.2.

I choose the feelings that I am interested in experiencing, that will give me the results that I would like. Here, with my finger, is a living example of that for me, and for me to share.

I knew, when I looked at my finger caught in that door, that something very weird was happening. Very weird in deed.

I have greater clarity now about how I live my life this way.
Pausing, almost imperceptibly at times, to choose what I would lIke.
Eliminating what I wouldn’t like.

And, of course, I can also see where I can step up my game and be even more proactive about my thoughts.

I’m having a healing as I write this.

If you listen to my ACIM podcast then you know that I recently had made a huge life change, renting a house for a year. The house was sold two weeks after I moved in, forcing me to move 2 weeks ago. I wished for the house to sell because it belonged to my friends and they’d been trying to sell it for more than 5 years.

I intended to be helpful to my friends, knowing that their good and my good are inextricably linked. What is the highest good for one is the highest good for all because we’re one with each other and it cannot be another way. This I absolutely know and I rely upon it every day. This IS the truth that sets me free from a huge planet-full of separation thoughts.

I was within 2 weeks of moving out of the house I was in, with no idea of where I would move to, but I knew that Spirit knew and that I’d be fine. I’ve been through things like this many times before. I wasn’t worried or concerned. I was looking forward to what unfolded and the discovery of it – as well as to the delight of it, because I anticipate that Spirit will delight me.

I haven’t had any difficulty typing this message. The cut is healing, and there’s a bit of swelling around the knuckle, but my mobility is great and there’s very little discomfort. I feel grateful!

Life is weird and strange – with bizarre and intense things happening!
ALL of it works together for our good.
I know it, and I depend upon it.

As I write this, Lisa Natoli just realized we could have the leftover blueberry crumble she made for dessert last night for our breakfast! How good is that? Yum!

Look, let me just say this – we can change so much of our life experience, using our mind, if we’re willing to take responsibility and act in league with the infinite, with the Higher Holy Spirit Self, knowing that ALL of life is supporting us, that EVERYTHING is for us and NOTHING is against us, we can live an entirely different life.

And that is the point of my Stop Playing Small Online Retreat next month. If you’d really like to do this work, and change your entire life, your relationships, your experience, your finances, your body, your happiness and peace of mind, then consider this:

You will never regret your choice, and you’ll only be so glad you did – at least that’s what I hear from the people who have done it.

Get going. Take action. Be aggressive about working with your mind. DO NOT DELAY. If you’re waiting, if you’re not getting the results you’d like, what are you waiting for?

Don’t take my word for it, read the testimonials from those who have done this work with me. They believed that nothing would work for them, and they were willing to do something different anyway. Now, they’re not playing small anymore. They’re not letting fear dictate their life. They have a real and powerful connection with Spirit.

If you’re ready to make a change, and you’d like some REAL support to make a LASTING change, TAKE ACTION! If you’re interested in either my Stop Playing Small Online Retreat or Finding Freedom From Fear Online Spiritual Bootcamp, but you aren’t sure if either is right for you right now, book an Exploratory Call with one of the spiritual counselors. The call is free and you’ll find benefit in addition to getting all your questions answered. Click here now to book an Exploratory Call with a Spiritual Counselor.

TODAY, you can join me and my friends, Gerald Collins, Andrea Lane, and even more friends on zoom. We’re coming together to share our inspiration in many ways. We’ll have a spiritual celebration together with message and music – we call it Sundays With Spirit. Please invite your family! If you can’t join us, you can catch the replay! Because we’re going to be live on video, you’ll have to register to get the detail. All are welcome, there’s no charge, but you do have to register unless you’ve already registered in the past.

When you register, you’ll also get easy access to past services with Jon Mundy, Lisa Natoli, David Hoffmeister, Maureen Muldoon, Corinne Zupko, Maria Felipe, Frances Xu, Jimmy Twyman and more. If you’ve already registered for a previous Sunday – you don’t need to register again, you’ll get a reminder with the details automatically.

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Accepting Divine Support

Thursday, August 27th, 2020

I’m so glad that people CAN change. I’m so glad that I am a person who can change. Thank GOD!

I used to walk into every situation and start looking for what was wrong and bad. I would look for the thing to complain about. I was a chronic complainer, and it was ALWAYS easy to find something I didn’t like or thought should be different.

It took me decades to see that if I affirm there’s a problem that needs fixing then I’m firmly anchored in the thought that the Divine has disappeared, and now, I’m on my own. I have to deal with it all myself.

Fortunately, the only thing required for a healing is for me to see the situation rightly.

As long as I’d like to be a person with a problem, then I will see a problem and it will seem very real to me. As long as I affirm that things aren’t right I won’t be able to see them rightly.

The Infinite has no problems that elude its problem-solving abilities because there are no problems in Divine Mind.

It is I who saw the problem, affirmed the problem, identified the problem, and collected all the evidence to support the existence of my big, bad problem.

In each of these stages of problem identification, I would become increasingly convinced that the problem was real and threatening. It felt more and more like God had left the building and I needed to solve this problem that was eating my life!

Every problem is built on the often hidden belief that, as I like to put it, “God left the building.” It can be very tricky to see that the fear that God is gone is the only problem. Since the Divine never goes on a vacation or hides it’s Divinity, the whole problem I’m creating a library of evidence to support is, in truth, completely a fabrication of a fearful mind. It’s all based on the false premise of: “What if I were separate from God?”

Now, as good spiritual students, we can say that we know all that. We understand separation thinking is the real problem – but do we?

If we no longer believe we’re separate, but we persist in thinking we have problems, then we don’t actually KNOW what we say we believe – and there’s the rub.

Healing happens when I recognize every challenge has come to help me be more loving, more kind, more compassionate, more in line with my Divine nature, more aware of the unity of all life. End of story.

It’s so simple, and yet fear is pervasive unless I stand anchored in the truth of omnipresent Divinity. This is my job. This is my ONLY job. All else I give to the One who has never left and can never leave.

In my surrender, I discover that my only prayer request is for the faith to know the Divine in every part of my life and always will be. The Holy Presence cannot leave the building, it IS the building and everything that surrounds it, as well as everything it contains.

God cannot leave me, nor can I leave God. Phew! Problem solved!

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Eliminating Victim Consciousness

Wednesday, August 26th, 2020

Some people are looking to feel hurt. They are actually hoping they’ll get wounded in their connections with people. I’ve been there. I actually have done that. I’ve entered into situations with people anticipating that I’d be disappointed, hurt and that I’d walk away feeling rejected. Many people, just like me, have an attraction to victimhood.

I find it deeply comforting that our true self, our Higher Holy Spirit Self, the Mighty I AM Presence of us cannot be hurt, and cannot be a victim.

I aspire to live in a way that I AM unhurt-able. I get closer every day.

To be unhurt-able not because I’ve put up some kind of wall or shield to protect me, but because I don’t ever take anything personally. Ponder this: we’re one with each other, all completely united and one, can we actually hurt each other, or are we making it up? Are we hurting ourselves? Or are we simply having experiences and choosing to take things as an offense?

What I absolutely know is that the safest emotional place for me to live in this world is with my heart so wide open that I can embrace everything and keep nothing out.

No judgments, no hurts. No expectations, no disappointments. And no victims, either.

It’s the hardening of the heart, the blocking and withholding of Love that causes pain, anger, upset, and hurt. It’s trying to avoid hurt that causes the pain. The pain comes from taking ourselves out of the flow of Love.

Feeling hurt is a choice I don’t intend to make anymore.

I’m interested in eliminating choosing to be hurt and offended, because being hurt is not a good use of my energy and I don’t enjoy it. I am much more interested in liberating from false beliefs and being of service.

I used to be angry much of the time.
Now, I feel peaceful most of the time – and I’m looking forward to the good that I absolutely know is unfolding. I like this so much better than “preparing for the worst.”

And I’m not a victim anymore.

Since I’m the one who decides how I will perceive something, I can take everything as an opportunity to extend Love or receive Love.

To have Love, give all Love to All. It’s simple. It’s not easy, but thank God it’s simple! At least it’s not confusing!

Doesn’t being open hearted and unhurt-able sound great? I’m pretty sure that’s our natural state. After all, we’re light beings. How do you damage light? You can’t. It’s not even possible, so I’ve decided to stop believing it’s possible. Instead, I’m calling forth miracles.

I’m going for it! How about you? Are you willing to open your heart so much that you’d be unhurt-able and give up feeling like a victim? We can do this!

We can rid ourselves of victim consciousness and share the benefits with everyone!

TAKE ACTION! If you’re interested in either my Stop Playing Small Online Retreat or Finding Freedom From Fear Online Spiritual Bootcamp, but you aren’t sure if either is right for you right now, book an Exploratory Call with one of the spiritual counselors. The call is free and you’ll find benefit in addition to getting all your questions answered. Click here now to book an Exploratory Call with a Spiritual Counselor.

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The Power of Holiness

Tuesday, August 25th, 2020

Let us realize the power of our holiness to undo ALL of our relationship problems – and so much more!

Through your holiness the power of God is made manifest.  Through your holiness the power of God is made available.  And there is nothing the power of God cannot do. Your holiness, then, can remove all pain, can end all sorrow, and can solve all problems. It can do so in connection with yourself and with anyone else. It is equal in its power to help anyone because it is equal in its power to save anyone.  

A Course in Miracles, Workbook Lesson 38

Have you read that in Lesson 38 and forgotten it?  I must confess that I have, and I’m willing to remember it now.  I’m willing to hold onto it and apply it to everything – most especially all my relationships.

Let me never again say that there’s a problem that cannot be solved.  

In the past, I invested A LOT of energy in going over and over and OVER AGAIN the problems in my relationships.  When I look back, it’s amazing to me how much of my energy was invested in going around and around the same troubling loop.  

I was so focused on what was threatening and troubling me that I didn’t realize I was magnifying and multiplying it.  Sheesh!  No wonder I felt guilty and ashamed.  

I’ve learned to give ALL relationship issues to the Higher Holy Spirit Self for healing.

Sometimes it seems as though people won’t call forth a healing in their relationships because they just wish to invest their energy in the drama.  Some people seem to need the drama to feel alive and don’t trust that fully being loving is a the kind of aliveness that’s really possible for them.

We can heal EVERYTHING.  Giving our problems to the Higher Holy Spirit Self for healing is so helpful because we don’t have to figure out how to have a healing, we just call it forth and stand strong in the assurance that it IS occurring.

Working with the Higher Holy Spirit Self, we can become a problem solver.

 Our holiness can take over.  

When we practice in this way we bring benefit to all beings.

When we have the strength to hold the vision of a healed relationship then we’re placing our faith in God to work it our and that’s a healing of our own doubt and limited beliefs.

Relationships are the best tool we have for healing our whole life.  Holiness is the best tool we have!  Let’s make the most of it and call forth a miraculous healing today, and then remember that we’ve given the problem to Spirit for healing and it’s not our problem anymore!

If you’re ready to make a change, and you’d like some REAL support to make a LASTING change, TAKE ACTION! If you’re interested in either my Stop Playing Small Online Retreat or Finding Freedom From Fear Online Spiritual Bootcamp, but you aren’t sure if either is right for you right now, book an Exploratory Call with one of the spiritual counselors. The call is free and you’ll find benefit in addition to getting all your questions answered. Click here now to book an Exploratory Call with a Spiritual Counselor.

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Undoing the Blocks to Learning

Monday, August 24th, 2020

One of my favorite things I get to do is to support the people in this ministry who have become or are becoming spiritual counselors, teachers and prayer practitioners. It’s such a blessing to see people fully stepping up to be truly helpful.

Last week I got to have class with the Spiritual Counselors in my Certification program and, as always, it’s a beautiful reminder of how many wonderful people there are in my life, and how much we can be truly helpful.

Yesterday, in our WONDERFUL Sundays With Spirit online celebration of Spirit, I was sharing that I’ve had a spiritual counselor to support me for coming up on 25 years. This is an important part of my life because I am sharing so much with so many, it’s important that I have help to look at my own stuff.

I say: it takes a village to raise a Minister.
And it takes a village to raise all of us.
We all benefit from having a village to support us.
With loving people around us, we’ll realize that our judgments are preventing our happiness.

A Course in Miracles tells that we cannot judge and still hope to learn.

Our judgments actually block our learning.

It makes sense when you think about it.

If we prefer to think we know what everything is for, are we open to any insights or learning?

No, we’re not, because we think we already know whatever is worth knowing. How can you be open to insight when you’ve already made up your mind what everything is for?

Have you had the experience of repeating the same errors, the same unkindness, the same self-attack, again and again, like a hamster on a wheel? I have, and my experience seemed to “prove” to me that I wasn’t very smart, that I wasn’t really learning anything from all my spiritual studies. Nothing could be further from the truth.

My experience didn’t prove my beliefs were correct. Not at all.

In fact, my experience was simply proving to me that my beliefs are made manifest as my experience.

This is so important to understand – it’s life changing.
Our unhappy experiences prove that we believe our false beliefs – the truth will set us free from repeating these unhappy experiences.

In New Thought we say, “change your thinking, change your life.” And we talk about “false beliefs.”

It’s more helpful to realize that ALL beliefs are false and truth is true.
How do you know the difference between a belief and a truth?

All beliefs are conditional.
Truth is true for everyone all the time.

Beliefs are constantly shifting and changing, like the sinking sands.
Like God itself, Truth is unchanging – it’s the rock we can safely build our house upon.

I encourage us all to look around your life and see where we might have been misled into thinking that our experiences are proving our beliefs, when, in fact, our experience is just proving the existence of our beliefs. And that’s an entirely different thing.

When we rid ourselves of our beliefs – we rid ourselves of the unpleasant experiences that our false beliefs generate. There’s no extra cost for doing this inner work, we can do it every day of our lives, and that’s what I’m most interested in – not playing small anymore, awakening to the Light.

Many, many times I’ve spoken with people who felt helpless and hopeless in their relationships and in their careers. When they become willing to change their minds and actually make the effort, they experience miracles. It really works!

How do we rid ourselves of the false beliefs?
It’s actually incredibly simple, when we’re willing to make a change.
If we’re not willing to make a change then we just keep revisiting the same painful lessons.
We cannot judge and hope to learn.

To release the false beliefs, opinions and judgments we offer them to the Higher Holy Spirit Self for healing.

We don’t have to figure out HOW to have a healing we simply ALLOW.

Sometimes we might have to release, let go and let God, 1000 or more times if we have a strong attachment to a belief. I’ve certainly had to do that with many false beliefs – and the healing happened as soon as I was really willing to let it go.

If we do the releasing a few times a day, then we’re sure to let it go before too long – anything is better than struggling with the same painful belief for years and decades.

Now is the time for us to rise and shine and throw off these meaningless burdens of false beliefs!

Healing is easier than you might think. Our willingness to Partner UP with the Higher Holy Spirit Self to do the heavy lifting is the thing that works. I know, I’ve proved it and I’ve worked with thousands who have done the same. Let’s be willing to have a healing NOW!

If you’re ready to make a change, and you’d like some REAL support to make a LASTING change, TAKE ACTION! If you’re interested in either my Stop Playing Small Online Retreat or Finding Freedom From Fear Online Spiritual Bootcamp, but you aren’t sure if either is right for you right now, book an Exploratory Call with one of the spiritual counselors. The call is free and you’ll find benefit in addition to getting all your questions answered. Click here now to book an Exploratory Call with a Spiritual Counselor.

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Transcending Hurtful Impulses

Sunday, August 23rd, 2020

Yesterday I had the 20-year reunion of my Science of Mind Practitioner class from Agape. We graduated in 2000 and we had about half of our class joining together on zoom – it was a blast to hear everyone sharing and catch up on our lives.

One of the things that I shared is that I feel how blessed we are – like many spiritual students, we’ve trained for many years to meet this moment we’re in right now. All of the work we’ve done to be spiritually prepared is helping us, our families, friends and communities, get through this time we’re in.

One of the things that’s coming clear to all of us is that if we’d like to be truly helpful in this world by living the Love, walking the talk and giving up the feeling of fear and constriction, then making higher vibrational choices is the thing that supports us most.

Many of us go through long periods, many, many years, of self-medication and self-sabotage before we become willing to make higher vibrational choices. Often we think that the spiritual path requires us to go cold turkey on our “bad” habits and that we must control our impulses and deprive ourselves, and I’ve felt that way, for sure.

If we view the path of healing as a path of deprivation, sublimation and regulation, it can feel very painful and here’s the most painful part: with that method of trying to control ourselves, we’re healing at SUCH a slow pace because we’re actually putting the ego in charge of our healing, rather than the Spirit. It’s just one of the many ways we keep playing small, and avoiding stepping into our connection with Spirit more fully.

I struggled for decades trying to manage and control my impulses ALL DAY LONG.

I had impulses to be mean and rude and unkind.

I had impulses to do many things too much:
eating, drinking, smoking, talking, gossiping, playing, exercising, and on and on.

More was always better because I was looking to medicate and sedate myself, to distract myself from what I was feeling.

It took me decades to realize that my feelings were the indicator of whether or not I was on the right track.

I wasn’t honoring my feelings, I was trying to push them down and NOT feel them. I didn’t know that learning to sit with my feelings was so self-loving and that being self-loving would lift my vibration and heal my life.

Love is what we ARE.
That’s why Love is the ONLY permanent healer.
Everything else is temporary.

We learn not to fan the fire of our upset, out of self-Love.

We can learn to let the judgments and opinions go. Judgments and opinions are our interpretations and if they’re upsetting to us they’re not correct, they’re not helpful, they’re not loving.

Fanning the fire of our upset is unkind. I learned this because I was upset so much of the time and I wanted everyone to validate me by joining me so we could all be upset together. I invested many years of my life in learning how pointless that is.

Upsetting other people was one of the most low vibrational choices I could make. It was “dragging people down with me.” And deep down, I knew it was just affirming my own feelings of “I’m bad and wrong, not worthy of Love.”

I often went into self-medication of fantasy as an escape from my painful feelings. I had so many low vibrational choices to either punish myself or escape from how I felt about myself. I didn’t know that I was digging a deeper low vibrational hole for myself. I was unhappy in the illusion, so I was trying to escape by going deeper into it through fantasy. It made me feel even more lost in time and space.

Finally, because of my prayers and my willingness, I began to discover that consistently looking for even a SLIGHTLY higher vibrational choice, I could find my way out of my own personal hell.

The slightly more loving choices I began to make, day after day, built up my increasing willingness. I began to be excited to look for the more loving and higher vibrational choices. It stopped feeling like a drag to “have” to be more loving. Instead of pushing myself, and berating myself into making more loving choices (just think of that! LOL!) I was noticing the feeling of the vibrational shift and I liked it! I was feeling SO MUCH better about myself.

My impulses to self-medicate were diminishing and I was really shifting.

I came to a point where I decided to go all-in for God.

One thing that helped me was learning to sense if what I was doing felt violent in any way. If it felt like it was being unkind in any way, that would be the vibration that would let me know, it’s an opportunity to make a higher vibrational choice.

I learned to ask for guidance.
Listen for the response.
Allow my Self to choose it. And allow Spirit to make it so.

Ask. Listen. Allow.

This is the time for us to focus on being truly helpful.
Our mind, focused on healing, is what helps all our brothers and sisters who are suffering so much. Our choices make a HUGE difference in this world.

SO much is possible for us – when we’re willing.
Each one of us has the potential to bring tremendous benefit – beyond anything we can imagine, because we share the same mind, and when one is lifted all are lifted.

If you’re ready to make a change, and you’d like some REAL support to make a LASTING change, TAKE ACTION! If you’re interested in either my Stop Playing Small Online Retreat or Finding Freedom From Fear Online Spiritual Bootcamp, but you aren’t sure if either is right for you right now, book an Exploratory Call with one of the spiritual counselors. The call is free and you’ll find benefit in addition to getting all your questions answered. Click here now to book an Exploratory Call with a Spiritual Counselor.

TODAY, you can join me and my friends, Rainbow Weldon, and Amy Steinberg, and more friends on zoom. We’re coming together to share our inspiration in many ways. We’ll have a spiritual celebration together with message and music – we call it Sundays With Spirit. Please invite your family! If you can’t join us, you can catch the replay! Because we’re going to be live on video, you’ll have to register to get the detail. All are welcome, there’s no charge, but you do have to register unless you’ve already registered in the past.

When you register, you’ll also get easy access to past services with Lisa Natoli, Jon Mundy, David Hoffmeister, Maureen Muldoon, Corinne Zupko, Maria Felipe, Frances Xu, Jimmy Twyman and more. If you’ve already registered for a previous Sunday – you don’t need to register again, you’ll get a reminder with the details automatically.

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We Are Worthy

Wednesday, July 29th, 2020

One of the most common things I witness with people is that they don’t feel worthy of Love.

Unworthiness is something that many are in the process of healing right now. And we can help them, which, in turn, helps us too! When one rises, all rises.

If you see someone who appears to feel unworthy in anyway, see if you can extend Love to them – it can be silent, it can be in the form of kindness or patience, or anything – but INTEND that it be an expression of Love and it will be healing for both of you.

There are so many ways each day that we contribute to making the world a better place. This is really what our life is for.

Sometimes a memory of someone I was unkind to, or someone who has been going through difficulty will come into my awareness. It seems random, but I’ve learned that it’s definitely not random. (There’s nothing random in this universe.) This is the moment to seize the opportunity to extend Love to my brother or sister.

I’ve learned that these seemingly random thoughts and memories are part of the way that Spirit is reminding me to pray for people. AND I AM SO GRATEFUL TO BE REMINDED!

My life has healed so much because I keep bringing my attention back to the blessings.

A Course in Miracles says that in order to have, we must give all to all. It’s the sharing and the caring that magnifies and multiplies. I have certainly been able to prove that this works in my life!

We can all extend more Love and Light and in doing so we are making ourselves more available to receive.

The more we receive, the more we feel worthy, and the more worthy we feel the more we have to share, and then the more worthy we feel to receive and it’s a beautiful circle of giving and receiving.

I’m so grateful that we can extend and share Love every day in new and healing ways. It feels miraculous!

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Beyond Hopeless & Helpless

Monday, July 27th, 2020

When it feels like there’s no way, Spirit can still make a way.
When it feels like only failure is possible, Spirit can still succeed.
When it feels like all is lost, Spirit can show us what’s valuable.

In God, all things worth doing, having and being are always possible.

When we’re feeling hopeless and helpless, then we’ve left God out of the equation, and that’s the real reason that we feel so down and desperate.

We can say we think that we feel despair because of what’s happening in the world, but our upset is really because we’re not allowing Spirit to lead us, guide us, and direct us. And we can change our mind. We can go the other way.

When we’re willing to put Spirit in charge then everything changes. It can seem that we don’t want change. It can feel as if change is a threat and a worry. We can fear change because we can’t control it, but the fact is that we can’t control anything, so let’s not fool ourselves anymore.

We can look to the world for examples – at some of the most “powerful” people in the world and see how they try so hard to control things and no matter how much “power and influence” they have, they still can’t control things to go their way.

In truth, there’s only one way, and that way is God’s way.

Let’s all get off the pain train and jump on board the Love Train. Let’s not wait until the pain is squeezing us so hard, we just wish we were dead.

Let’s simply put Spirit in charge and allow the miracles to unfold.

Let’s get out of the way. And let’s get on with it and do what we’re here to do – Love ourselves and each other.


“Wherever [the Holy Spirit] looks He sees Himself, and because He is united, He offers the whole Kingdom always. This is the one message God gave to Him and for which He must speak, because that is what He is. The peace of God lies in that message, and so the peace of God lies in you. The great peace of the Kingdom shines in your mind forever, but it must shine outward to make you aware of it.A Course in Miracles, T-6.II.12.

Let’s join together in prayer to shine the light outward in order to see it more clearly!

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Hidden Methods of Healing

Sunday, July 26th, 2020

I’ve spent the last few days steeping myself in the wisdom of Native American Elders and participating, as I have for many years, in the Native American Elders Gathering at the Sunray Peace Village in Lincoln, Vt. It’s because of my experiences at these gatherings and with my teacher, Venerable Dhyani Ywahoo, that I’ve been coming to Vermont since 2006.

My teacher, Venerable, is both a Cherokee Chief and she’s also a highly esteemed Buddhist teacher recognized by the Dalai Lama and many other Tibetan lamas.

What is being shown to us is the coming together of many streams – New Thought (A Course in Miracles), Buddhism, Native American – and they have many fundamentals in common. One thing that stands out for me is the value of compassion in each of these teachings.

I can remember back in the 80’s when I was in my twenties, I finally caught a real glimpse, a soul glimpse of the value of compassion. It was then that I began to cultivate my ability to practice compassion.

It’s helpful to understand what compassion really is – it’s a loving understanding that we can extend to our brothers and sisters and to ourselves.

Love is what we are.
It is the ground of our being.

And because Love is what we are, when we practice Love, focus on Love and live the Love that we are, we are healed by it. When we extend Love we’re renewing our connection to our true identity and we’re disconnecting from the belief that we are the false identity of the sometimes mean, bitchy, cruel, unkind, uncaring, manipulative, controlling, desperate, depraved, unworthy and just plain bad person that we think we might be. That’s why Love is the healer.

Because Love is the ONLY true healer of EVERYTHING that ails us, when we actively practice compassion we’re both healing ourselves AND we’re healing everyone because our minds are joined together.

We can actively practice compassion anywhere at anytime.
We don’t need special equipment, assistance or permission.

Now, here’s a great benefit that might be a bit hidden –

Most people feel badly for having behaved badly in the past.
We feel badly because we judge ourselves for it and we haven’t forgiven ourselves.

When we extend compassion to our brothers and sisters when they behave badly, we’re forgiving ourselves, because we’re one with them.

When we can have loving understanding for someone who is behaving poorly we’re helping everyone to forgive everything and that’s a huge gift.

Don’t ever underestimate the power of compassion.

Encoded into each expression of loving understanding are multiple healings that ripple throughout the universe.

I aspire to be always compassionate in every moment. I’m not there yet. I’m not even close, but I’m getting closer!

This level of healing and spiritual accomplishment only comes with a dedicated spiritual practice that we use throughout our entire day.

Cultivating that effective spiritual practice is the antidote to EVERY problem in this world.

And the good news is, we can do our part!! There’s no extra charge to be actively compassionate today and every day! If that’s not a blessing, I don’t know what is!

TODAY, you can join me and my friends, Kevin Haddle, Faith Rumer, and more friends on zoom. Kevin is a longtime ACIM student and member of our Masterful Living Community who is profoundly inspired. And Faith is also a member of our Masterful Living community for many years who offers healing through sound with her uplifting music. We’re coming together to share our inspiration in many ways. We’ll have a spiritual celebration together with message and music – we call it Sundays With Spirit. Please invite your family! If you can’t join us, you can catch the replay! Because we’re going to be live on video, you’ll have to register to get the detail. All are welcome, there’s no charge, but you do have to register, unless you’ve already registered in the past.

When you register, you’ll also get easy access to past services with Lisa Natoli, Jon Mundy, David Hoffmeister, Maureen Muldoon, Corinne Zupko, Maria Felipe, Frances Xu and more. If you’ve already registered for a previous Sunday – you don’t need to register again, you’ll get a reminder with the details automatically.

I look forward to our gathering TODAY. It means so much that we can join together and celebrate Spirit together.

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Someone Needs A Prayer Today

Saturday, July 25th, 2020

I am blessed for many years now to have the privilege to support folks who are going through some of the most difficult times in their lives.  I feel blessed because I get to extend Love and be truly helpful when people seem to need it the most.

There are many people in this world right now who are going through the worst times in their lives.  People who have Covid-19, who are sick, but managing it at home are actually being evicted from their homes because they were laid off their jobs and they can’t pay their rent.

Times are really tough if you’re sick, being evicted, being unemployed and being financially challenged all at the same time.  

Our prayers help them more than we can ever know.

 It makes SUCH a difference to pray for everyone every day.  

Our prayers lift people up, and help them to be able to see the highest and best choices that lie in front of them. 

Our prayers help people to go from feeling helpless and hopeless to feeling strong and empowered.

We can extend that gift to others and that’s our blessing!

I sang with the Agape Choir from the Agape International Spiritual Center for 11 years.  There are two songs that I used to love to sing when I was in the choir and they offer solace and inspiration (as all our songs did) and these feel particularly appropriate now.  I am putting them here for you now – with the hope that they will comfort, inspire and lift you!

Enjoy!

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Grudges and Grievances

Friday, July 24th, 2020

I was an epic grudge holder. I was a dedicated grievance monger. I was a chronic complainer. And as I write these words, I can feel the energy of war, attack, violence that is in each of those thought patterns.

It made sense to me that holding grudges, grievances and complaints was a good strategy in life – until I realized what it was costing me and then I began to look for the fastest path to unwind those patterns from my mind.

Right now, I can feel that there’s an extraordinary opportunity for anyone who’d like to surrender these patterns and relieve themselves of the accompanying suffering that attends them.

It feels to me as though right now there’s a truly golden opportunity for anyone interested in letting the past go. It’s like being in some kind of spiritual car wash with a POWER CLEAN setting.

Of course we must be willing.
We must desire to let the past go and see the benefit in it.
And then we must actually CHOOSE to let it go – meaning that we change the channel of our mind to gratitude, and healing, and something wonderful instead of the past.

Each time we do this we’re not only helping ourselves, our family and loved ones, we’re helping ALL humanity, and future generations.

There are no small miracles. There are no small acts of Love.

“All expressions of love are maximal.” A Course in Miracles

Let’s put the pedal to the metal here and focus on this work at hand. Nothing is more important. It WILL bring healing, Abundance, Prosperity, Clarity, Freedom, Joy and all good things.

Offering up our complaints, grudges and grievances is the great gift we can offer right now.

Time to focus and make this clearing out our priority!

Are you with me?

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Vision of Relationship Healing

Tuesday, July 21st, 2020

In every relationship, there’s a vision of holiness that can be revealed.

When we give up on other people, we’re also giving up on ourselves.  And yet, when people are so disappointing and difficult, it’s so tempting to walk away from them.  Giving up, quitting, that’s the easy thing to do, in the short run.  In the long run, it will become a weight that’s not worth carrying.

So, what to do?  I get this question a lot.  

Consider this:  We’re all one with each other.  And, we’re all eternal.  Therefore, it stands to reason that our relationships are eternal as well.  So, while we can certainly SEEM to walk away and end a relationship in this lifetime, it’s only temporary.

Why settle for a temporary solution that will only make things more challenging in the future?  Why build into your future a challenge you’ll have to deal with that will be fermenting the entire time between now and then?

How to deal with it in the present moment?  Well, you don’t have to keep talking with the person.  You don’t have to connect and relate with them in the visible world.  Seek not to change another person, but to change your mind about them.

Not many people are really willing to hold the vision of the highest and best in their difficult relationships.  It takes a lot more effort than it does to complain.  

Complaining never helps.  Complaining makes you a crap magnet.  Compassion makes you a LOVE magnet.  Which would you rather be.

Hold the vision of a healed relationships and then let Spirit do the healing.  Sometimes this can be REALLY challenging.  And, it’s also a way to heal your mind.  

If you give up on the relationship, you’re giving up on yourself.

Instead of giving up on the relationship, give the relationship UP to the Higher Holy Spirit Self.

Give up your needing, wanting, cravings and aversions about the relationship.  Give up all forms of attachment to the person and the way the relationship “should” be and you’ll have a healing in your heart – but you have to really mean it.

Be willing to hold a vision of healing without an attachment to how it looks.

Focus on how you’d like that relationship to feel – would you like it to feel loving, harmonious, playful, respectful, prosperous, beautiful and more?  Hold the vision of that, cultivate that feeling and give up how you think it should look.

It may take a great willingness, and it may take a while, but then it won’t come back and bite you on the behind and that’s great!  We have other things to do besides recovering from being bitten on the behind!  

If you were freaking out, or in a rough place, would you wish for SOMEONE to hold the high watch for you?  Of course you would.  Be that person now!

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Train In the Distance

Friday, July 17th, 2020

I’m in Vermont and enjoying the sounds of the countryside here in the Green Mountains near the Sunray Peace Village where I’ve been coming since 2006. I just LOVE the sounds of the birds. They lift me up all day long.

When I’m in Maine, on Deer Isle, in the summer one of the great sounds I dearly love is the sound of the foghorn in the distance. It’s faint, and so you don’t hear it all the time. The wind has to be right. It’s odd to really love the sound of the foghorn – after all, it’s a warning signal.

What I love is that it reminds me that I’m in a place I dearly love. I’ve been hearing it since 1986 and it feels like home to me. I love to sit on the porch and just listen to the birds and the foghorn. Maybe the waves lapping at the rocks if the tide is high. The call of the Osprey.

I love the sound of Paul Simon’s music and he wrote a song called Train In the Distance that is absolutely gorgeous. In the lyric of that beautiful song he says

“Everybody loves the sound of a train in the distance
Everybody thinks it’s true.”

It’s a clever lyric. I do think everyone loves the sound of a train in the distance. It makes sense to me.

When I think of the sound of a train in the distance it instantly transports me to my childhood and summer nights at my grandparents’ house in Bowling Green, Ohio. It’s a hot summer night with the windows open. Crickets and the train whistle in the distance. Feels like summer time, family love, hot nights, vacation time.

Everybody loves the sound of a train in the distance. Everybody thinks it’s true. I think that Paul Simon means that we hear the sound of something good coming, and we believe in it, we believe it’s real and true.

At the end of the song he says, “the thought that life could be better is woven indelibly into our hearts and our brains.”

The train in the distance is symbolic of that belief that life could be better.

Yes, I get it. I can agree with it.

Life can be better.
This is written in our heart.
And we are reaching for it, are we not?

Can we ever be satisfied with anything less than our awakened self?
I don’t think so. Why would we when we don’t have to be?
We’re going home, to the Real world and our true identity in Spirit.

The still small voice reminds us every day that we can choose higher. No shame if we don’t, but what a reward when we do!

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Trust As A Skill

Wednesday, July 15th, 2020

We all have challenges going on in our life that we’d rather not look at. We want to hide and run from them. I was talking a bit about this in my podcast yesterday. Many times, we choose to avoid looking at them because they’re overwhelming to us. It’s not that we’re completely unwilling to examine what’s going on, we’re just overwhelmed. It’s too much for us to handle. We don’t have the inner resources.

Sometimes it can feel that we simply don’t have the energy, the mental or emotional bandwidth, the time to look at something and so we just keep pushing it to the sideline. What then begins to happen is that tension begins to build.

Some people have a habit of denying, delaying and procrastinating until there’s so much tension they HAVE to do something.

Sometimes we treat our life like one of those rubber-band airplanes that you wind up tighter and tighter until we have enough tension to fly.

What I’ve learned is that if I wait until there’s an intense pressure before I make a move, then I’m creating stress that may not be necessary.

We’re developing the spiritual maturity to address things directly and without delay. It makes life easier, cleaner, neater and dramatically eases tension.

Being Self-loving is healing. We often look outside ourselves for all kinds of healing solutions to physical, emotional, mental, financial, relationship and many other kinds of issues, but the solution is often to be kind and loving to ourselves.

When we’re Self-loving, then we naturally open to divinely inspired solutions to our challenges and we don’t have to have lots of simmering pots on the back burners. We don’t have to create an unbearable tension in order to choose to fly, we can steadily and devotedly Love ourselves free of lack, attack and limitation and then life gets a whole lot easier. Spiritual solutions naturally present themselves.

Let’s make a commitment to making the Self-loving choices that make life more enjoyable and more successful.

Let’s decide that we can transcend overwhelm. Instead of looking outside for solutions, let’s discover how problems actually dissolve when we live a life of Self-Love. It might sound crazy, but Love really is the healer of problems.

How do we do it? We Partner UP and trust spirit to lead us and guide us. This is the way that works. It’s far more nurturing then managing and coping. It does require a willingness to trust – and that’s a skill that can be learned.

It can be difficult to trust, but if we’re willing it will become a new skill.

We’ll all get there eventually. Why not start today?

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Should

Saturday, July 11th, 2020

Have you ever been a fake friend? I have. I can remember that I used to pretend to be friends with people I really didn’t care about. Now, as I look back, I wonder what was that really all about?

I lived with a lot of SHOULDS hanging over me. in fact, my life was mostly shoulds. I was often telling myself:

You should do this.
You shouldn’t do that.

Should, should, shoulding all over myself and everyone else.

That’s what the judging mind does.
Should is a kind of attack thought.  

Wishing it were different, thinking that it SHOULD be different is a major pre-occupation of the ego.

When there’s a “should” there’s a judgment.

Thinking that I SHOULD be friends with someone led me to collect some fake friends. Fake friends were people I felt obligated to hang out with, but that I actually had zero real interest in. How crazy is that? They had some kind of connection I wanted to something I thought I needed. I was willing to invest huge amounts of time, energy, effort and money into maintaining fake friendships.

I remember feeling that there was some “rule” about how often to get together. There was a rule about how often to call each other. I made sure I was operating within the rules so that no one could label me as bad or wrong. It was all about how people perceived me, what I projected and my own self-perception. I had already labeled myself as bad and wrong and so I wanted to avoid anyone else adding to my pain.

The more I opened my spiritual practice to include my whole life, the more those fake friends fell away. Obligations fell away. I gave myself permission to choose from Love and that transformed everything. Spiritual practice really IS the great healer.

People know when you’re not really with them in your heart. Why behave in a false way? It makes for an empty life.  Doesn’t it just reinforce lack, fear, the value of appearances? Let us all be whole heartedly available to LOVE fully and completely in each moment.  That’s what we’re designed for – and that’s why it feels so good when we have the courage to live that way.

It’s never too late to start over. Give the Higher Holy Spirit Self the heavy lifting and relax into the healing! Be a TRUE friend to your Self – your Higher Self and let the false friendships be healed!

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Guilt

Friday, July 10th, 2020
Guilt can be such a crusher of our spiritual connection.

It’s like some kind of noise or distortion that is so hard to take that everything good seems to be tainted by it.

Many people feel guilty, for a variety of reasons, and that guilt is like a wet, stinky blanket on their life and on their energy field.

Let’s get rid of it!

Guilt is not really my thing. When I was a kid, my grandmother would often try to make me feel guilty in order to manipulate me and I learned to throw that off. I developed a Teflon coating for guilt. It still comes up from time to time, and I’ve learned a lot about how to let guilt go.

The number one way to release the guilt is to not put guilt on anyone else.

It’s like I say all the time:
the judger always feels judged
the attacker always feels attacked
the lover always feels beloved

Let’s add: the guilt-er always feels guilty (and secretly ashamed)

Which would you like to feel? Guilty or Beloved?
You’re in charge of your choices, so why choose to feel guilty and ashamed when you could feel Beloved?

You may be trying to make people feel guilty and perhaps not even be aware of it.

When we’re upset, if we feel in ANY WAY that it’s someone else’s fault and we tell them we’re upset – we’re probably, perhaps unconsciously, trying to blame them and make them feel guilty and ashamed. This will only cause us to feel guilty and ashamed – perhaps unconsciously. Next thing we know, we’re depressed and self-medicating.

Yuck – the wet, stinky blanket of despair has landed, self-inflicted. Ugh.

If we believe that we have the power to make other people happy, to fix their lives, to rescue them or heal them and we withhold Love from them, we probably will feel guilty because we might also be punishing them, consciously or unconsciously.

If we feel upset, and we feel it will help us to tell other people about it, let’s make sure we don’t feel they’re responsible. If we do feel they’re responsible for our feelings then we can grow up and take ownership of it like this:

“I’m feeling upset and I know it’s not your fault. It’s my crazy thinking. I’d like to talk it through with you, so that I can take total responsibility for my thoughts and feelings and heal this crazy thinking. Are you willing to help me talk it through?”

However, if we have a secret desire to blame them and shame them for “making us” feel upset, then it’s best we don’t go talk with them. Our secret desire to attack and blame will be known and felt even if it’s not recognized from what it is.

Taking TOTAL ownership is the only way to have a truly healing and productive conversation.

Let’s remember, the ego loves to pick a fight, to blame and to shame and that will only leave us feeling guilty and ashamed. There’s just no benefit to trying to make others responsible for our upset. When we heal that habit our life becomes more loving, more prosperous and more harmonious!

What’s not to like about that?

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Clarity

Wednesday, July 8th, 2020

Have you ever argued with God? I have.

Sometimes the need to be right is so strong. Whenever that happens, I know I’m wrong. And I know I need to let it go.

I used to get so confused by my own need to be right, to argue for my position, all the while noticing that I wasn’t making myself happy. Oh, the good ole days!

One of the issues was that I was taking my own counsel.
I was looking to myself for advice and that wasn’t going so well.

I thought I had the ability to discern what was what, but I didn’t.
Eventually, I learned to go to Spirit for the answers I needed.
Spirit already knows the answer to every question that we could have.

Our Spirit, which is part of the Spirit– part of God— Spirit, our Spirit, THE Spirit, is not bound by time and space. Spirit doesn’t have blocks to awareness of everything in time and space, to every causation of every single thing in this world, from a slight cough to the most complex disease, to poverty. Every single cause and cure are known in the Mind of God. There’s no confusion whatsoever.

But we, in our holding onto the decisions that we’ve made about the past, are holding onto the blocks to Love which prevent us from seeing, knowing, feeling, and hearing clearly what the truth is. The antidote to those blocks, the removal of those blocks, is completely, 100%, dependent upon our willingness to experience the Clarity rather than the confusion.

In order to experience the Clarity rather than the confusion, we must make a new decision. A new decision.

The way our experience works in this human realm is, we make decisions about life, and what we think life means – we give it all the meaning that it has for us.

We make decisions like “I’m not good enough.” We make decisions like “Dogs are not safe.” Or, “People are not safe.” Or, “Women are not safe.” Or, “Men are not safe.”

We make all kinds of decisions based on our experience, and then those become the blocks to Love, because they’re not true.

They are a projection. They are perception. They are beliefs that are the effects of the decisions we made.

For example, let’s say that someone in our childhood is very unloving to us, and so we form the belief we’re unlovable. I’ve worked with many people, as a Spiritual Counselor, who were cruelly treated as children.

Many times, those people come to believe their care givers, are treating them this way because there’s something horribly wrong with them. They think, it must be them. They deserve it.

This is often what happens with children. My mother used to work in childhood services, and she would see things like a child who has been burned with a cigarette, and violently attacked in the home.

The children are taken away to child services, and many times all that child wants is to get back to that very same caregiver, that parent, or whoever it is, who was hurting them.

We interpret things incorrectly and then make decisions based on our interpretations.

And this places blocks in the mind. Like veils in the mind, that become a distortion of reality.

In order to heal this, we can use prayer. Because there’s not one person on this planet– I’m absolutely convinced of this, there’s not one person on this planet that makes a prayer, or offers a prayer request, that does not have a small amount of willingness to have healing.

Why would we write out a prayer request and put it in a prayer box if you had no willingness to receive the healing and the transformation? Why would we ask for prayer, why would we make a prayer, unless we had the tiniest little bit of willingness to receive the answered prayer?

Prayer is POWERFUL! Let’s pray all throughout our day. Let’s pray to let go of all the decisions we’ve made that are predicated upon a false conclusion. We can even pray for greater willingness!

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We Can Rise

Monday, July 6th, 2020

In my Masterful Living Course it’s common for folks to share about how difficult things were in their relationships before they had the tools of transformation. For many who start with me in my Finding Freedom Spiritual Bootcamp, they make a shift and they never go back. For me, most of my relationships just keep getting better and stronger. It’s a continuous healing and spiraling up, but I haven’t always felt that way. Just the opposite.

I used to spend much of my time in relationships affirming what I did NOT want, and what I did NOT like and drawing painful conclusions that I’d just keep affirming again and again.

I used to regularly consider the idea of never speaking to any of them again. That idea was on a loop in my head for decades. How did I get it out? That’s what I focused on sharing in my classes now. It’s what I share about every week in my podcast.

As A Course in Miracles tells us, our relationships are the very best tool we have for transforming our mind.

It does take a great willingness.
And it so much easier to do it with a group of like-minded souls.

I used to crash and burn so often.
I used to give up so easily.

When I think about it, it’s so crazy that I had the discipline to hold on to a grudge for decades, but not to fee myself from the suffering it caused.

I’d say “I forgive” but I didn’t really mean it because I’d hold onto the judgment and keep energizing it. What I really was HOPING for was that if I said, I FORGIVE, the pain would stop.

Now, I’m SO GRATEFUL, GRATEFUL, GRATEFUL, for my experience! Why?

Because I went so low, I can rise so high!

Now, when others are telling me about their challenges, I can really use what I’ve learned to help others rise out of the hole of helplessness that I used to feel.

Yes, we can RISE out of the hole.


We don’t have to climb or dig.
We can rise.

With great willingness we can be lifted and carried.

It’s all about NOT going it alone anymore.
Suffering in semi-silence, and feeling alone was my thing.

I really didn’t know where to go or what to do in order to rise up. I had to figure it out. I had to rely on Spirit, it just took me a very long time to be willing.

This is a time of ancient patterns coming up to the surface with intensity and healing is happening in our hearts and miracles are demonstrating everywhere. This is the reason why we’re here at this time. To do our own inner work, to let the past go and bring benefit to all humanity.

We have what it takes!

Spirit cannot and does not fail.

We only fail when we go alone, furthering the belief in separation.

As Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. said, we succeed when we’re co-workers with God.

That’s how we rise up and find the better way.
It’s always there for us when we’re willing to see with the eyes of Love.

Just yesterday, someone told me how my Finding Freedom From Fear class was the turning point for them in their relationships and in how they felt about themselves. If you’re ready for a turning point, please consider joining us!

Finding Freedom From Fear spiritual bootcamp with ACIM Principles starts TODAY!

If you’d like support in doing this work of letting go of the past and being that impetus for healing in your family and in your workplace without getting discouraged and giving up, please consider taking my Finding Freedom From Fear spiritual bootcamp and joining with other like-minded souls who are doing the same work.

I find that when we do the work together, we get there faster and we laugh a lot more. It’s so much easier when we peel the layers of painful patterns together. Easier, faster, more Love, more Light, more fun, that’s the way for me!

COME BACK! Have you already taken Finding Freedom from Fear Spiritual Bootcamp?
There’s a special offer to repeat right NOW – Join us before Thursday and it’s only $44 per month – join for two months and take advantage of all the new aspects of the class and get the support of the small group in the Freedom Circle!

If you have a yearning right now, to go deeper and fly higher, to open your heart and live the love like never before, come join me. My Finding Freedom From Fear Bootcamp with ACIM Principles may be your answered prayer.

Many people find that their life, their relationships, their health and wealth is profoundly changed because they deepen their spiritual practice in this class.

I’m recording ALL NEW CLASSES.
This is going to be SO good because I am ON FIRE!
Trust your intuition! If you’ve been thinking about doing my Finding Freedom From Fear Bootcamp for a while, but just haven’t been ready, consider booking an exploratory call with one of the spiritual counselors. They can answer all your questions and you’ll know what’s best for you. Book an exploratory call today!

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No Comparison

Friday, July 3rd, 2020

When I lived in West Hollywood, I took yoga classes with models and movie stars. The competition for the title of “the most beautiful woman in the room” was intense. The more beautiful women there were, the more insecure women there were. It was a real learning for me.

In yoga class, it was easy to fall into comparing myself to others who were not only fitter than me, more attractive by cultural standards and more famous.

I haven’t ever been able to do a handstand. Many of the women in class with me could easily do handstands. I learned to say to myself “I can do that. Just not today.” It helped me to get over my comparisons.

One of the biggest points of pain we have is the suffering we experience caused by the habit of comparing ourselves to others. Only the ego compares. The heart knows we are united in Oneness.

When we’re comparing ourselves to others, more often than not we’re looking to come up short. We’re intending to find ourselves as failing. It’s an act of self-sabotage. It’s adding insult to injury. Can it possibly bring any benefit? No. None. It’s just a trick of the ego to help us feel more separate.

Comparison always leads to more suffering.

Whether we compare and think we’ve come out ahead or come out lacking, since there’s only one, either way we just feel more separate.

If I love my friend, would I encourage them to compare themselves to someone who seems better than them or more special? I would never say to a friend, “you’re not the best cook. I know a few other people I like better than you who are also much better cooks. You’re not so great. You’re just ok.”

Of course I wouldn’t say that to someone I cared about.
But people say things like that to themselves ALL THE TIME.

And it hurts!
It wears us down.

Comparison is judgment. All judgment is for the purpose of reinforcing separation. All belief in separation causes feelings of fear. Comparison is PURE separation thinking.

Let’s have an active practice of relating to others rather than comparing.

Let’s get into feeling the unity of all life.

Let’s watch our mind when it comes to comparing, attacking and needing or wanting to be better than someone else. The habit of comparing can be really sneaky, but since there’s no good that can come of it, just let it go every time you see it.

I find one of the best ways to let a negative thought pattern go is to make myself laugh about it. So, that’s why in my classes we say “compare and despair.” The rhyme helps us to be light-hearted and to remember to laugh. And let’s face it, it also reminds not to go down the road of despair!

There’s great healing that can come from our spiritual practice and it’s a benefit to all beings!

If you’d like to have a major increase in your choosing self-Love and kindness, you might like my Finding Freedom From Fear, spiritual boot camp class with ACIM principles. I haven’t offered this class in 9 months – this is your chance, if you’d like to join me and GO FOR IT!

PLUS, I’m recording all new classes.

If this is right for you right now, you’ll know it.

Trust your intuition! If you’ve been thinking about doing my Finding Freedom From Fear Boot camp for a while, but just haven’t been ready, consider booking an exploratory call with one of the spiritual counselors. They can answer all your questions and you’ll know what’s best for you. Book an exploratory call today!

My Finding Freedom From Fear spiritual boot camp isn’t for everyone – it’s for those who are willing to dive in and live the Love. Click here now to learn more.

We begin MONDAY, July 6! With a BONUS CLASS on July 5th. This is going to be SO good because I am ON FIRE!

Let’s have REAL and lasting transformation this summer with spiritual practice that brings benefit and healing for all. Now is the time for us to dive deep and eliminate the patterns of fear in our life. I thank you for being on the journey with me!

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2 Steps Forward, No Steps Back

Friday, June 19th, 2020

I just got an email from a truly beautiful soul who gave me the same advice I’ve heard many times, and I am so grateful that people care enough to tell me something they think will help me.

The advice they gave me was to change the name of Stop Playing Small online retreat to Start Playing Big.

And I get it. I’ve been having this conversation with people for many years.

When I started taking lots of self-help and spiritual expansion programs everyone was doing programs called something like “Start Playing Big.” I took so many of them.

In fact, I just got an email today from a spiritual teacher who is very well known inviting me to a program called: Living a Masterful Life: Accessing Dynamic Insights and Peak States of Inspiration to Embrace the Next Stage.

And that sounds really good. It sounds like a wonderful program, but here’s the thing:

I’ve taken so many programs with names like that.

And for me, when I was feeling stuck,
and I knew I was playing small,
and I had taken 20 of those programs with names like that
and I was STILL playing small,
I absolutely KNEW that taking the 21st program about living a miraculous life wasn’t what I needed.

I KNEW that I was blocking that miraculous life and I needed help to bring on a breakthrough and get unstuck.

Part of my problem was that I did not believe, not at all, that I really had what it took to live a miraculous life.

I wanted to “start playing big” but I was not ready for that AT ALL.

I couldn’t have gone from playing small to playing big that fast.

Perhaps other people can do what I couldn’t do.
But I really didn’t know any of those people.

For me, getting unstuck from playing small was my first step.

I had to release the blocks to love before I could feel prepared for playing big.

AND there are a lot of people who have NO interest in playing big – whatever that means.

Most people don’t care about playing big – they just don’t wish to have one more day, one more month or year of playing small and living a limited life. And I get that.

I played small for a long time.
I couldn’t seem to get out of my own way.
I knew I was the one that was blocking my path.
And knowing that was painful.

I had excuses, but deep down, I knew what the truth was.
I was the problem.

What I didn’t know was how to get out of the way.

First came my willingness, and then it was revealed to me.
I got out of that quagmire that had held me in place so long.

Now, I don’t think about playing big or small.

We can take 2 steps forward and NO steps backward.

Now, I’m focused on simply sharing my gifts and talents in ways that are fulfilling for me and helpful to others. That’s what I do and I really enjoy it. Every day is a good day, and some days are really amazing.

If you know you’re playing small, then you know it’s not going to get any easier.

Would you like some support to bring on a breakthrough?  
If you feel like you might be playing small and hiding your light under a bushel because of your beliefs about yourself, if you think maybe those beliefs are false and could be eliminated, and if you have a willingness to do some inner work to make a real and lasting change then please consider joining me and some other folks just like you who are SO DONE WITH PLAYING SMALL and ready to let those patterns go.

My Stop Playing Small Retreat was going to be in the UK this month, but now it’s being offered ONLINE, so all can join. This online retreat is for folks who are frustrated with feeling stuck and fearful. It’s designed for those who’d like to bring on a breakthrough so they can move forward with confidence toward their heart’s desire in any area of their life. Click here for details. If you aren’t sure if it’s right for you right now, book an Exploratory Call with one of the spiritual counselors. The call is free and you’ll find benefit in addition to getting all your questions answered.

TAKE ACTION! If you’re interested in either the Stop Playing Small Retreat or Finding Freedom From Fear Spiritual Bootcamp, but you aren’t sure if it’s right for you right now, book an Exploratory Call with one of the spiritual counselors. The call is free and you’ll find benefit in addition to getting all your questions answered. Click here now to book an Exploratory Call with a Spiritual Counselor.

How would you like a $500 discount?
Sign up for my Stop Playing Small online retreat and you’ll get $500 off of my Finding Freedom From Fear Bootcamp!

Finding Freedom From Fear Bootcamp starts on July 5! Let’s rock this summer with our spiritual practice that brings benefit and healing for all. Now is the time for us to dive deep and eliminate the patterns of fear in our life.

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Overwhelm

Friday, January 17th, 2020

Last night I offered my free class, Unblock the Flow of Time, Energy & Money. (I’ll be offering it again on Sunday, so you can register now and get the download or join me live on Sunday.). Sometimes it feels like we’re so far away from where we’d like to be that we feel overwhelmed. Life can feel like a big trash heap. It can feel as though its impossible to navigate — especially when there’s a combination of things, such as illness, debt, depression, relationship challenge, loss of a loved one and even more. Some people seem to have all of them at once.

When we feel a deep sense of lack and limitation, we feel life is too much and we’re simply not enough. It’s overwhelming.

In those times of overwhelm, when it seems like anything and everything is working against you, that is a time of great opportunity. I cannot emphasize this enough: If you’re willing, in the time of greatest challenge Spirit can move a mountain, if you ALLOW it.

You DO have to be a very willing participant but you, yourself, do not have to move the mountain. However, without your allowing and calling it forth, the mountain will not be moved. And this is where I’ve seen people transform their lives.

I used to feel stuck and overwhelmed by how I felt about my life and my self. I didn’t see how I could ever make the changes that I wanted made. It felt like too big a mountain for little old crazy me.

At that time, I was daily struck down by my failures and seeming “incompetencies”. I was surviving, but that wasn’t enough for me. I wanted more, and I couldn’t figure out how to unlock the door.

True spiritual growth felt so elusive to me.
I felt discouraged.
It felt so hard.

That’s when I learned the amazing power of a true desire to know Spirit. I decided to put ALL of my focus and attention in my life on looking for the opportunities to be loving and kind to myself and others. I decided to find the way to God through being aligned with Spirit, through the activity of being loving and BECOMING willing to let go of my unloving thoughts.

I became vigilant for becoming willing by being “willing to be willing to be willing”. It really worked for me.

I became willing to GIVE to the Higher Holy Spirit Self everything that didn’t serve me. I didn’t know how to take out the trash in my mind, but I did learn how to give it away.

The miracle is, what doesn’t serve us that we’re willing to let go of, Spirit will take from us. Spirit WILL do the heavy lifting. And that makes it so much easier.

Instead of trying to figure out how to move the mountain, ask Spirit and then ALLOW it to be done.

We focus on our willingness to let the past go.
We focus on our willingness to look for and make the loving choices.

God can move the mountain, but only if we’re willing. Only if YOU are willing will it work.

Quit complaining, criticizing, and manipulating.
Look for opportunities to demonstrate your willingness to let it go.
It works!

And it’s so much easier than trying to figure out how to let it go.
Focus on the willingness, and Spirit will do the heavy lifting.

Willingness is central to an effective spiritual practice.
An effective spiritual practice is a mental trash removal system that works.

If you feel that you’ve been playing small in any way, I’d love to support you in breaking free of that. If you’re feeling called to do this work with me, please trust that and allow Spirit to provide what is needed so that you can answer the call you’re feeling. We can do this together!

Changing our lives and healing our minds is so much easier when we are the two or more gathered together for the same purpose. We practice and learn Self-Love in spiritual community and it’s a powerful healing experience. It’s a living, loving, beautiful expression of Spirit’s Love.

You’re going to make a lot of choices this year.

Which of YOUR choices will actually improve the quality of every day for the rest of your life?

We’re entitled to miracles. One of the things I love so much about my yearlong Masterful Living Course is how excited people get when they realize they can stop repeating the past and life a life they really enjoy – it’s miraculous. People sometimes think that living a miraculous life is for other people, but not for them. People think that miracles are only for people who are special. It’s just not true.

Are you unsure about whether my yearlong Masterful Living 2020 is right for you right now? You can book an Exploratory Call with one of the Spiritual Counselors and let them answer all your questions. Click here now to book an Exploratory Call. If you’re going to join us next year in Masterful Living Course 2020, I encourage you to register early. Make the commitment to yourself NOW and you’ll have so much to look forward to – including tremendous healing and transformation! Give yourself this gift and you’ll be amazed at how your connection with Spirit will bloom!

If you feel called, if you feel the time has come to put Spirit first, come join us in 2020 for the best year of your life – the year that changes EVERYTHING. Let’s do it together. If you’d like to find out what others are saying about this powerful community please click here to learn more now.

Moving out of overwhelm by healing the root causes is just one of the important and valuable things we practice in my yearlong Masterful Living Course. We actively practice healing the sense of separation that keeps us disconnected from each other and from Spirit. We cultivate the relationship with ourselves that is loving, and that keeps us connected with Spirit. We transform the most painful parts of our life. We heal depression by curing the CAUSE of depression.

Real people having real miracles.

I am truly grateful for this path of awakening that we’re on and our ability to cultivate a spiritual practice that speeds our healing and lifts us up above the battleground! Onward and upward, together we rise in Love!

Ready to Make A Leap? Masterful Living starts Monday, January 20 – the sooner your register, the sooner you can settle in and begin the Group Goal Setting Sessions, and all of the other pieces that launch us into our best year ever!

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Healing the Habit Of Being A Fault-Finder

Sunday, November 17th, 2019

When I was in the graduate Screenwriting program at USC, my professor, the amazing actor/director Nina Foch, used to say “focus on the light. The darkness will take care of itself.”  This was her advice for directing students.  I’ve always thought that was excellent advice.

It’s so easy to focus on the dark.  And when we do, then all we see is more darkness and corruption.  The view becomes narrow and ugly.  The scenery is depressing and upsetting – or so we think.

I can admit that my personality is a judger and a fault-finder.  I can look at a perfect thing and find the smallest crack.  I can look at an arrangement of things and instantly see how they could be arranged more coherently, attractively, helpfully.  It used to always work against me.  For much of my life, I simply found more things to criticize everywhere I looked.

Now I can look at things and often I’ll see the Beauty before I see what the ego would judge as bad, wrong, imperfect.  I can see the perfection and let it rest at that, but not always.  I’m going for ALWAYS.

Looking for faults is a habit.  

It can be unlearned – and it’s SO worth doing.

Frequently finding fault is an ego habit that keeps us in a place of near-constant disappointment, blame, criticism, complaint, shame, agitation, and irritation.  

This way of looking at the world sucks the joy out of life.  It’s right up there with keeping score and holding grudges. If there’s anything worth letting go of, it’s this gnarly habit of seeing the devil in the details.

How do you break this hellish habit?  It’s so simple.  Willingness is all it takes.

It’s a willingness to replace the habit of fault-finding with praising and gratitude.

It’s not so hard to change our life if we’re willing.

Gratitude multiplies the good.
Complaining makes us a crap magnet.
We choose how we’d like our life to go.

Whenever I would realize I wasn’t happy and harmonious, when my Peace seems to have taken the low road, I learned to call upon Spirit to show me where I made the downturn.  It was always some judgment or opinion, some falsehood that had captured my attention.  I learned that I could give whatever the opinion or complaint was to the Higher Holy Spirit Self for healing and regain my Peace, my higher ground.

I learned to stand in faith that the healing will be done and give thanks that it IS done.  Because I AM willing, there’s nothing to prevent the healing from happening.  This is a powerful formula for transformation that actually works.

If the complaint returns, it just means I wasn’t really TRULY willing to let my opinion go.  It means I thought I was right.  

Sometimes we’re SO willing to stop being upset, 
but we’re NOT so willing to give up our complaint.  

We can’t have Freedom and keep our complaint.  
It’s one or the other.
Thank God for that.  
Now, in this holy instant, we can become TRULY willing.
And we’re carried back to Peace and Harmony.

What complaint have you got that’s worth trading your Peace for?  
I actually used to have SO MANY complaints that felt so important to me, but now I don’t have an interest in making that trade for Peace.

Learning to make the trade of handing over the false belief in exchange for the Peace is what we do in Masterful Living, and so much more. Registration is open now for my yearlong course.  My first class of the year is January 1st.

It seems crazy, but here we are 45 days until the new year!  

Let’s all consider, what we can do to deepen our spiritual practice between now and January 1.  Placing our docs on this will carry us through the holidays with a sense of success and fulfillment and that’s a great way to start the new year.

Next time you feel less than peaceful, remember that you’re never upset for the reason you think. The cause of upset isn’t “out there” in the world.  The cause of all upset is holding a grievance, a false belief or idea in our heart that we won’t let go.

Freedom is right here, right now, if we’re willing to keep it in focus.

I use affirmations to help me keep my mind aligned with Spirit.

What are my affirmations?

I AM willing to focus on the Light.  
I AM the Light.
I Love the Light.
I serve the Light. 
I live in the Light.
The Light is All.

I’ve found that affirmations are one of the most powerful tools I have to change my mind and choose again.

Every day I offer “My Shot of Spiritual Espresso”.  I write spiritual inspiration and record a prayer for our healing.  Prayer is a power tool for our liberation.  Pray with me today.  We use technology to transcend time and space and deepen our spiritual practice and connect with each other. Our spiritual practice is our path of liberation.  And that’s beautiful to share!

When anyone of us has more happiness, we’re all lifted!  All boats rise on this tide of Love.

If you’re going to join us next year, I encourage you to register early for the Masterful Living Course 2020.  Make the commitment to yourself NOW and you’ll have so much to look forward to – including tremendous healing and transformation!  Give yourself that gift this year and you’ll be amazed at how your connection with Spirit will bloom!

Having a loving relationship builds self-esteem and worthiness, and that’s a far better investment of our precious energy than fault-finding and that’s miraculous.  Are you ready for a miracle?  Check out the classes that we’re offering now!

Grief Support Class – Very few people really understand how to move through grief with ease and grace.  Jesse Brune-Horan is someone who has gone through tremendous loss and grief and is now offering support.  Jesse is a minister that I have partnered with in many classes and offerings, and I’m so glad to support this offering of his new class Healing Grief.  Now is the perfect time to get this support and to call forth more grace in your experience of grief.  Click here for more details.

FORGIVENESS CLASS: My Forgive & Be Free class, in 3 parts, is available on replay right now and join me for Part 3 today.  Let’s do this sacred work joyfully, and JoyFULLY together!  Register now and get the replay right now! Click here for more details.

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