Archive for the ‘Healing’ Category

Finding A Better Way

Wednesday, December 11th, 2019

I used to be SO very stubborn. Good heavens! It was so bad you could say that stubbornness was my “brand!”

Now, one of the things I’m most grateful for is my willingness to change my mind and to change course. It used to be that I would often “stick to my guns” in ways that I would back myself into a corner and feel trapped. I’d do it to myself and then I’d be angry with myself. But since I couldn’t handle any more self-judgment, I’d project that anger out onto others and attack them instead. It was a really vicious cycle in my mind. I’m so glad to be out of it.

Thank you, Spirit for my healing!

There were times when I caused my self so much pain and suffering, and those around me, too, that I couldn’t help but conclude something was wrong with me. Now I’m so grateful that I can (most of the time) easily come forward and ask for what I’d like, what I prefer, and what I don’t like and don’t want in my life. I can really be grateful to not placing myself into a corner anymore. What a relief that I don’t have to have any guns to stick to! Phew!

I am so grateful for my life! I am so grateful that I agreed to follow my guidance! All that I’ve learned I can now share with others to help them out of their tight corners and self-made prisons. That’s a beautiful thing.

I’ve been offering my yearlong Masterful Living Course since 2009 and I’ve learned so much since then. My life has really taught me HOW to recognize my guidance, how to listen to it and how to follow it. And most of all, how to trust it. It’s not all been fun, but it’s all been worthwhile and that’s the main thing.

I’m at the point of the year that I get to talk with the beautiful folks in Masterful Living as we do our end of the year 1-on-1 check in’s, and while not everyone has extraordinary results, many have made real and profound changes because of strengthening their spiritual practice. They’re focusing more on what they’d like than what they don’t like.

They can clearly see that they’re experiencing a much higher quality of life and relationships now. They feel better about themselves. They’re more willing to actually make changes and less interested in repeating the same things from the past. There’s at least some light at the end of the tunnel, instead of just a dark tunnel.

That’s worth so much to me. I used to wonder how I’d ever be able to really help anyone when my life was so challenging and difficult for me. I knew there was a better way, but I didn’t know how to find it. I knew what worked for other people, but those things didn’t work for me. It was special. It was an especially hopeless case. I really believed that.

The thing that began to change everything for me was my willingness to stop believing that ANYONE was hopeless. I became willing to see myself as not separate from others and I began to realize it was my spiritual responsibility to see the perfection in the people in my life, including everyone, excluding no one.

I never imagined I could succeed, but I decided I’d rather give it my best than not even try.

So, now I am so very grateful that I had even a little bit of willingness to believe that there must be a better way!

I’d rather go the better way than the bitter way any day!

There’s a better way for all of us and Spirit is always there to help us find it if we’re willing to look.

Are you unsure about whether Masterful Living 2020 is right for you right now? Book an Exploratory Call with one of the Spiritual Counselors and let them answer all your questions. Click here now to book an Exploratory Call. If you’re going to join us next year in the Masterful Living Course 2020, I encourage you to register early. Make the commitment to yourself NOW and you’ll have so much to look forward to – including tremendous healing and transformation! Give yourself this gift and you’ll be amazed at how your connection with Spirit will bloom!

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Finding the Light in the Darkest Days

Tuesday, December 10th, 2019

In the northern hemisphere, we’re speeding to the very darkest day of the year – just a couple of weeks away now. I’m always SO glad when we get past that milestone, as I’ve become such a fan of the light.

Sometimes the darkness is outside, but sometimes it’s inside.

I’ve been very blessed in my life to work with many people who have had challenges with depression and who’ve been labeled depressive. These glorious people have taught me so much about the misperceptions around depression and fear-based thinking.

A Course in Miracles tells us:
When you are sad, know this need not be. Depression comes from a sense of being deprived of something you want and do not have. Remember that you are deprived of nothing except by your own decisions, and then decide otherwise. T-4.IV.3.

I find this teaching SO very helpful. I’ve seen many folks in Masterful Living heal chronic depression. People who have been depressed for more than a decade have completely transformed their experience of life through living these teachings.

I’m not saying it’s easy. It might be for some, but it’s usually easier than we think.

Darkness is NOT our natural state. It is actually the result of covering up the Light that is within us.

When we deem another as not having Light within, or when we focus on the surface where their unkind deeds are showing, we are in denial of their Light and we’ll have trouble seeing our own.

There is a way out of the darkness and it is the way OF Love.

Love is our healer. It always has been and always will be.

Depression is a learning experience.
It teaches humility.
And compassion.
It leads us back to the Light.

Each loving choice we make builds on the one before it, and it transforms our lives and our experience. The Light is within us. Let us not deny it in ourselves or in our brothers and sisters.

Have you cured your depression with spiritual practice? Please share in the comments below!

Are you unsure about whether Masterful Living 2020 is right for you right now? Book an Exploratory Call with one of the Spiritual Counselors and let them answer all your questions. Click here now to book an Exploratory Call. If you’re going to join us next year in the Masterful Living Course 2020, I encourage you to register early. Make the commitment to yourself NOW and you’ll have so much to look forward to – including tremendous healing and transformation! Give yourself this gift and you’ll be amazed at how your connection with Spirit will bloom!

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Releasing Resistance is Undoing Unworthiness

Sunday, December 1st, 2019

I used to have a MAJOR issue with feeling resistant and reluctant to move forward and make the highest and best choices for my life. So often I could be like the person who would start eating right or exercising “tomorrow.” For years I prayed to put an end to the resistance and the reluctance.

I was very aware of the resistance.
I knew the only thing there was to resist was Love.
The one thing we all don’t have too much of is Love, and yet Love is the very thing we resist the most.

Now I can see that I was resisting giving up my sense of unworthiness.

I had built a large part of my identity around not being good enough, and so if I let all that Love flow in my life I’d have to give up this carefully crafted identity of being unworthy. I didn’t want to relinquish the thing I had worked so hard to make, even though it was causing me misery.

It’s the ultimate kind of crazy that we cling to the very thing that hurts and upsets us most.

And yet, we do it in SO MANY ways – very creative ways, too.

We cling to jobs we don’t really like.
We cling to people who don’t really love us, who mistreat us and disrespect us.
We cling to ideas about ourselves that really keep us playing small while living in lack and limitation.

I felt SO FRUSTRATED by my experience of my unwillingness and resistance.

I judged myself for it, and that only made it worse.

I’ve worked with counseling clients who would argue for their limitations. When I tried to help them see there were no limitations, they would tell me I didn’t understand. They needed to be right about how wrong things were. I get it! I HAVE FELT THAT WAY TOO!

They’d defend their right to play small, EVEN THOUGH it was the very thing they came to me to help them with.

We’ve all been that crazy in some areas of our lives.

I have found the most productive path of change is to work on the core issues.

Heal the root to get new fruit. That’s my approach.

For most people, there are more ways that we perpetuate unworthiness than ways we undo it in our day-to-day living.

That’s why I like to look at things from a very practical perspective.

What can I do today to make a difference NOW?How can that contribute to inspiring me to do better in the next “now” moment?

I like to look at our choices like a spiritual budget. As with a financial budget, we have income and spending and it’s the same for our spiritual life.

When we’re depressed or unhappy, it’s like deficit spending. Income is from Spirit. The inflow of Love and inspiration is the income that uplifts us.Expenses are ego patterns and beliefs that deplete us.In order to get back in the black and start to experience the flow of Love and Prosperity, we need to stop deficit spending ASAP. Here’s how – and I know it’s obvious:

Start increasing the energy of Spirit’s Love flowing into your heart and mind.Decrease the negativity, the judgment, the blame and shame.

Do both immediately. Focus on doing some of both as quick as you can, and you’ll see a turnaround happen right away.

People don’t bother to do this because they feel unworthy.

The deep belief in unworthiness prevents people from opening to receive the Love that is already ours to receive.

We don’t feel comfortable receiving it.We take ourselves out of the way of Love.We isolate and engage in self-medication to lower our vibration so we’re no longer a vibrational match for Peace, Love, and Joy.

Isn’t it wonderful to know that we really can turn things around VERY quickly with our willingness?

I’m so grateful I found a way out of the patterns of resistance and reluctance. For me, it was a path of learning to trust. Being able to practice trust brought me faith and faith changed everything for me.

Learning to live in faith, Love, and trust taught me so much. And it led me to feel worthy. There’s so much healing that’s possible for us when we’re truly willing to PRACTICE these teachings of Love!

I believe we must commit to undoing the beliefs we have in unworthiness. We’ve trained ourselves to reinforce it and we CAN let it go – and when we do it will help ALL BEINGS to liberate. We must have the courage to choose liberation today. Now is the holy instant of our liberation.

Together we’ll undo all patterns of resistance, reluctance endplaying small.

If you feel inspired to join me we’ll do it together! My Undoing Unworthiness class is this week, and the Masterful Living Course 2020 starts with a bonus class in 30 days on January 1st. It’s one of my favorite classes all year!

Every day I offer “My Shot of Spiritual Espresso”. I write spiritual inspiration and record a prayer for our healing. Prayer is a power tool for our liberation. Pray with me today. We use technology to transcend time and space and deepen our spiritual practice and connect with each other. Our spiritual practice is our path of liberation, and that’s beautiful to share!

31 Days to January 1st – I share what I learned that shifted me out of my habits of spinning around in the same repeating upsets in my Masterful Living Course 2020. Registration is open NOW. I encourage you to commit now so that you have that to look forward to. At no charge, you can also book an Exploratory Call to speak with one of the Spiritual Counselors who has already done the program and they can help you be clear if this is right for you right now.

Click here now to book a free Exploratory Call about Masterful Living 2020.

NEW Class THIS WEEK: Undoing Unworthiness! Stop Self-Attack NOW! A belief in unworthiness and a habit of self-attack undermines your happiness every moment of every day.

With the work we’ll do in this class, you can end your year feeling spiritually successful and start your new year ready to have the best year ever. This is the perfect time to do this. Click here now to learn more.

A 3-part live video online class to support you in having a breakthrough and learning the REAL benefits of life when you feel worthy of Love, Abundance and ALL the good life has to offer.

What could be more important than your happiness?

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The Treasure is in Our Heart

Saturday, November 30th, 2019

This world is one where truth seems like a lie and a lie seems like the truth. Example: We, who are perfect, believe that we’re less than perfect.

Or how about this: We who are One with our Creator and can bring forth magnificence into existence, believe that we’re lacking.

Pause for a moment and consider this: are you looking for something, ANYTHING, in the world to make you feel better?

Do you believe that if things in the world were different that you’d feel better about yourself?

If so, you’re like most people – and the good news is you can shift that and actually feel better about your life! How crazy is it that eliminating looking for things in the world to improve our lives can actually improve our life? Crazy!

The Kingdom of Heaven is within each one of us. If we’re looking to find it somewhere outside of our own heart, then we will never, ever even catch a glimpse. Many people are still seeking outside of themselves, thinking that what they deeply want, need, and desire is somewhere in the world. They believe if they look long and hard enough, they might find it. They believe that if they work hard enough, they will be able to manifest it or attract it. They believe that if they’re lucky, someone will give it to them.

All of that seeking is an illusion.

The Kingdom is within us, and to look elsewhere is to go on a fool’s errand. Deep down, we all know this. That’s why so many despair. They are afraid to look within. And yet, that’s where Heaven can be found.

That’s where our treasure truly is.

Why would someone be afraid to look for the Kingdom in the one and only place it can be found? Well, if we’re thinking of ourselves as not good enough, if we’re thinking that inside of us is something ugly and unworthy, if we feel we’re filled to the brim with guilt, blame, and shame – then we probably won’t feel excited about looking within.

Instead, we’ll fear what we might find. Better not to look within and simply continue to seek in vain. Many believe the suffering of NOT finding is less than the suffering of discovering just how ugly your own heart is and don’t even know it. This is the thought that keeps so many from discovering the amazing riches of the Kingdom.

“Remember that where your heart is, there is your treasure also.” A Course in Miracles

The Truth: Amazing riches are ours already – the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow is pre-installed!

Let’s look within so we can find the treasure where it actually is!

31 Days to January 1st – I share what I learned that shifted me out of my habits of spinning around in the same repeating upsets in my Masterful Living Course 2020. Registration is open NOW. I encourage you to commit now so that you have that to look forward to. At no charge, you can also book an Exploratory Call to speak with one of the Spiritual Counselors who has already done the program and they can help you be clear if this is right for you right now.

Click here now to book a free Exploratory Call about Masterful Living 2020.

NEW Class in December: Undoing Unworthiness! Stop Self-Attack NOW! A belief in unworthiness and a habit of self-attack undermines your happiness every moment of every day.

With the work we’ll do in this class, you can end your year feeling spiritually successful and start your new year ready to have the best year ever. This is the perfect time to do this. Click here now to learn more.

A 3-part live video online class to support you in having a breakthrough and learning the REAL benefits of life when you feel worthy of Love, Abundance and ALL the good life has to offer.

What could be more important than your happiness?

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Quickening Your Awakening

Tuesday, November 26th, 2019

Yesterday I had two people ask me about self-sabotage. This is a topic I know A LOT about. I’ve engaged in SO MUCH self-sabotage in my life and it taught me a lot.

One thing I’ve learned is that everyone engages in self-sabotage. It’s part of life. Some people REALLY judge themselves for it, and that becomes yet another layer of self-sabotage. In a sense, it’s like adding insult to injury. Ugh.

Self-sabotage is for the purpose of slowing down our spiritual growth.
It’s very effective.
AND it’s completely reversible as well as stoppable.

In order to eliminate self-sabotage, we can focus on Self-Love and release and replace.

We release the habits of sabotaging ourselves by focusing on having an effective spiritual practice and employing it each day.

An effective spiritual practice is one that eliminates the root causes of negative and self-destructive behavior.

An effective spiritual practice eliminates the root causes of self-hatred and self-sabotage.

I am grateful that we can make changes that are profoundly healing and nourishing. I am grateful we can change our minds.

I used to stay up late watching television and falling asleep in front of the television.

That was a form of self-sabotage, because then the next day I’d regret it and I’d beat myself up for the choice I’d made the night before.

The first step toward healing was to stop beating myself up. Once I stopped that, then it was easy to eliminate the staying up late doing something that really didn’t mean anything to me.

AND I began to feel a true and consistent quickening in my awakening!

That’s how I learned that self-sabotage is for the purpose of slowing down our awakening.

What is something that you can see as being in the neighborhood of self-sabotage, and what is something you could replace it with that you’d actually enjoy? Let’s inspire each other today!

35 Days to January 1st – I share what I learned that shifted me out of my habits of spinning around in the same repeating upsets in my Masterful Living Course 2020. Registration is open NOW. I encourage you to commit now so that you have that to look forward to. At no charge, you can also book an Exploratory Call to speak with one of the Spiritual Counselors who has already done the program and they can help you be clear if this is right for you right now.

Click here now to book a free Exploratory Call about Masterful Living 2020.

NEW Class in December: Undoing Unworthiness! Stop Self-Attack NOW! A belief in unworthiness and a habit of self-attack undermines your happiness every moment of every day.

With the work we’ll do in this class, you can end your year feeling spiritually successful and start your new year ready to have the best year ever. This is the perfect time to do this. Click here now to learn more.

A 3-part live video online class to support you in having a breakthrough and learning the REAL benefits of life when you feel worthy of Love, Abundance and ALL the good life has to offer.

What could be more important than your happiness?

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Rising Above Thanksgiving Failure

Sunday, November 24th, 2019

This week, it’s Thanksgiving week in the United States. It’s our biggest family holiday, and Wednesday is the biggest travel day of the entire year. Many businesses work a half-day on Wednesday, and many have Thursday off, hence the reason for Black Friday. People have the day off to do their holiday shopping, so there are big sales. And for many stores, this is the weekend that takes them out of the red and into the black of profit.

This year, Thanksgiving is on my birthday and I am really looking forward to cooking a turkey with all the fixings. Friends keep asking me what I’m doing to celebrate my birthday, and that’s what I’m doing – having Thanksgiving dinner with my loved ones. I can’t wait! I’m in Scottsdale, Arizona. I’m staying in an Airbnb townhouse where I have nearby friends. I also have friends coming from out of town to celebrate and stay with me. I’m really looking forward to it.

I haven’t always looked forward to my birthday or to Thanksgiving. I’ve ruined MANY a family holiday because I got triggered and got so angry that I just destroyed any possibility of a good time. I’ve even done it when everyone came to my house and I cooked the meal.

I’ve had my best friends in the whole world not wish me a happy birthday and completely forget it was my birthday.

I’ve organized things to celebrate my birthday with friends and with family on different occasions and everyone bailed on me.

And I’ve learned to get over it all.
I’ve learned not to take it personally, even when it felt SO personal.

I’ve even had my family eat my birthday cake without me. When I was just in the next room, they didn’t bother to call me to join them as they ate my birthday cake. Yes, it’s true.

Because I used to get so triggered, so intensely and so frequently, I came to believe there was no hope for me to have good relationships. It seemed perfectly impossible to me. I felt utterly hopeless.

Because of prayer, I learned that I wasn’t helpless. Prayer works.
I learned to do what I now call PARTNERING UP.
I learned to pray, effectively and with great sincerity, and prayers work.

Prayers REALLY work, but you do have to pray effectively and then be willing to accept the answer prayer.

For example, when my precious mom was so sick and in the last years of her life, I prayed to release all blocks to Love between us so that we could be completely in the flow of Love before she left this world. I was so intent on it.

Spirit gave me the opportunity to go to Maine to visit my parents many times in the last years of my mom’s life and to spend more time with her.

On one visit, it was planned that I would go for two weeks to take my mom to her radiation treatments. The drive alone was a three-hour round trip from the island where my parents lived and the hospital. It took more than four hours to do the whole trip, and it was winter time, so we often took longer because of snow and ice.

My mother had about a month of treatments, so I took the middle two weeks to spare my father having to do all the driving.

It was a grey, wintery, bleak time, but I found stand up comedy and audio books and things that I thought my mom and I could enjoy together and listen to.

During those two weeks, I had made a commitment to myself that I wasn’t going to judge my mother for anything no matter what. I was going to completely Love and accept her. This was my big opportunity to have healing.

There were times when I’d have to go into the bedroom, shut the door, and get down on my knees to pray to release all judgments.

This is when I learned that Higher Holy Spirit Self really would take the thoughts out of my mind, if I was sincerely wishing to let them go. I had so much mental healing in that time.

I prayed and prayed and prayed to give up the need to be right. I prayed to release every trigger and every unhealed resentment and regret.

I didn’t realize it then, but now I know that I punished my ,om for tolerating a lot of my anger and upset. I felt so guilty for being mean to her and saying mean things.

That guilt turned into fear and frustration that I couldn’t find a way out. If she had pushed back and been able to help me with it more, that would have been great – but that was not my path of learning.

I felt unworthy of ALL Love because of the choices I’d made.

Unworthiness is a core issue for us all.

For many of us, a deep sense of unworthiness is running our life and ruining our life.
(And that’s why I’m doing a 3-part series on it next month!)

I now see that everything I’ve learned is what I get to share in my classes. Now I’m turning that pain into healing, because I support others with it step-by-step because I had to learn to rely on Spirit to show me. I had to really focus and pay attention and learn the way out.

I had to give up all blame in order to get out of my pain.

I had to rely up on Spirit and find my way into my loving heart.

I couldn’t do it alone.
Love is the only healer and the only way out.

Failing in my relationships felt so painful to me.
Success seemed so elusive.
I couldn’t bear the pain of failure anymore.

I had to believe that Spirit would lead me.
I had to learn to trust in God rather than my own opinions and perceptions.
I had to. I just couldn’t take it anymore.

In that two weeks of radiation treatments, I focused on total acceptance and Love of my mother.

I put everything I had into releasing the judgments and seeing with God’s Eyes.

I practiced being the one who went first with Love,and I prayed and prayed and prayed.

At the end of the visit, when I was leaving to go back home to Los Angeles, my mother said “This was the nicest visit we ever had.”

We spent 2 weeks of driving half the day back and forth to radiation treatments in the gray, cold winter snow and mess, and it was the nicest visit we ever had. Why? Because I focused on eliminating the blocks to Love and just loved without attachment.

VICTORY IS MINE!
I put Spirit in charge and Spirit DID IT.

From that point on, I knew that Spirit COULD NOT fail.

Thinking about it brings tears to my eyes, because I still have a little bit of sadness for all of the opportunities to be loving that I missed.

But I don’t look back except to continue to harvest the Wisdom and move forward with more Love and more Love and more Love.

We can all be the fulcrum point of healing in our family.

We can all rely upon the Spirit for our healing.

We can all practice non-judgment.

It requires no longer giving Love and acceptance in order to get anything back. We must give without attachment.

No need for recognition or appreciation.
We give Love because it’s our divine opportunity to be our true self and be truly helpful.

It all gets so much easier to practice when we forgive ourselves for our debts and our trespasses.

I had to forgive myself for all the things I felt guilty about so I was no longer feeling horrible about myself. Self-forgiveness is the only way.

And that’s why I offer my forgiveness classes and you can sign up right now to get my Forgive Me, Here Come the Holidays! class right now. It’s my gift to you. Please consider accepting my offer. This is a powerful and helpful class that is full of tips and tools you can use right now to improve your relationships in your family, with friends, and at work.

Spirit cannot fail.

Every day I offer my “Shot of Spiritual Espresso”. I write spiritual inspiration and record a prayer for our healing. Prayer is a power tool for our liberation. Thank you for praying with me today. We use technology to transcend time and space and deepen our spiritual practice and connect with each other. Our spiritual practice is our path of liberation, and that’s beautiful to share!

When any one of us has more happiness, we’re all lifted! All boats rise on this tide of Love.

I’m SUPER grateful for the ABSOLUTE healing power of TRUE forgiveness. Especially in all of my relationships. Forgiveness has changed my life and I’m inspired by everyone’s forgiveness stories. I am offering my “F* ME, Here Come The Holidays” class today and for the next few days – it’s totally free and it’s a really great way to get inspired to do some real forgiveness work NOW before the holidays. Click here to register now!

37 Days to January 1st – I share what I learned that shifted me out of my habits of spinning around in the same repeating upsets in my Masterful Living Course 2020. Registration is open NOW. I encourage you to commit now so that you have that to look forward to. At no charge, you can also book an Exploratory Call to speak with one of the Spiritual Counselors who has already done the program and they can help you be clear if this is right for you right now.

Click here now to book a free Exploratory Call about Masterful Living 2020.

TODAY FREE FORGIVENESS WORKSHOP:

If you’d like more support for having a miraculous breakthrough with forgiveness, please join me! Let me suggest some simple ways you can immediately feel more successful in your relationships. When you’re ready to stop and drop the same old patterns of upset in relationships, the tips and tools I offer in this free class will really support you. They’re SO simple, and yet they have a profound effect.

You can learn to remember to Partner UP rather than struggling in your relationships and that feels so good. You can stop playing small and live your calling by ALLOWING healing your relationships. Are you willing to make more loving choices to deepen your spiritual practice and accelerate your awakening by being a healing presence in your family? It’s easier than you think! Forgive me. Here Come the Holidays!

RIGHT NOW, let’s stop paying lip service by SAYING we’re willing but not actually living it. We can bring on a breakthrough FAR beyond what we can imagine when we’re truly willing to truly forgive. If you don’t know how here’s how! Join me!

Why wait? Now is the time for our healing! If you’re willing, I’m ready – let’s do it together!

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Meltdowns are Normal

Saturday, November 23rd, 2019

Right now, there’s a lot of intensity that people are experiencing. It’s because there’s more Light, Divine Light shining into our world, this dimension, and our lives – as well as our awareness.

We’re a little more than 1 month from Christmas, and this is the time that many people are turning their attention to Christ, and to Jesus and His life, His message, and His brilliance.

This additional Light is exposing that which has been lingering in the darkness, and that means that all of OUR dark thoughts and beliefs are being brought to the Light of our divinity. For most people, this is experienced as intensity.

In this Light, meltdowns are normal.

I feel it’s so important to speak this message, because I talk with SO MANY people who don’t feel it’s normal. The tendency is to label our meltdowns as our defectiveness, but it’s not.

When we believe things that aren’t true and reinforce those false beliefs, we will start to meltdown and freak out.

That’s NORMAL.

If you didn’t freak out and meltdown when you were affirming things that were false, you would simply live in a haze of delusion with no waking up call.

The upset is our wake up call.
I call it the “Divine Alarm Clock”.

Our Higher Holy Spirit Self simply will not let us be delusional and peaceful at the same time. When we choose to reinforce false beliefs, it will set off an inner alarm or upset.

And this is PRECISELY why when we have holidays, with family (or without) and we get triggered into the same arguments and disappointments and can be particularly crushing. When this used to happen to me, I would go on an inner temper tantrum and rage about all the old upsets from which I still hadn’t recovered. This would make me feel worse than ever.

I used to get triggered into feeling hopeless and helpless until I figured out the power of TRUE forgiveness, and that’s why I share so much about forgiveness now.

It’s a powerful pressure relief for us in the midst of a meltdown.

I’m SUPER grateful for the ABSOLUTE healing power of TRUE forgiveness. Especially in all of my relationships. Forgiveness has changed my life and I’m inspired by everyone’s forgiveness stories. I am offering my “F* ME, Here Come The Holidays” class today and for the next few days – it’s totally free and it’s a really great way to get inspired to do some real forgiveness work NOW before the holidays. Click here to register now!

38 Days to January 1st – I share what I learned that shifted me out of my habits of spinning around in the same repeating upsets in my Masterful Living Course 2020. Registration is open NOW. I encourage you to commit now so that you have that to look forward to. At no charge, you can also book an Exploratory Call to speak with one of the Spiritual Counselors who has already done the program and they can help you be clear if this is right for you right now.

Click here now to book a free Exploratory Call about Masterful Living 2020.

TODAY FREE FORGIVENESS WORKSHOP:

If you’d like more support for having a miraculous breakthrough with forgiveness, please join me! Let me suggest some simple ways you can immediately feel more successful in your relationships. When you’re ready to stop and drop the same old patterns of upset in relationships, the tips and tools I offer in this free class will really support you. They’re SO simple, and yet they have a profound effect.

You can learn to remember to Partner UP rather than struggling in your relationships and that feels so good. You can stop playing small and live your calling by ALLOWING healing your relationships. Are you willing to make more loving choices to deepen your spiritual practice and accelerate your awakening by being a healing presence in your family? It’s easier than you think! Forgive me. Here Come the Holidays!

RIGHT NOW, let’s stop paying lip service by SAYING we’re willing but not actually living it. We can bring on a breakthrough FAR beyond what we can imagine when we’re truly willing to truly forgive. If you don’t know how here’s how! Join me!

Why wait? Now is the time for our healing! If you’re willing, I’m ready – let’s do it together!

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Being Judicious not Judgmental

Friday, November 22nd, 2019

One of the things we talked about in Masterful Living that was so helpful to us all is understanding when we’re sharing our judgments and complaints versus when we can better serve ourselves and others and stay silent.

The bottom line is that we don’t have to share everything we feel and think. That’s not desirable and it’s not helpful. There are many times when we can honestly share how we feel and it will create stress and turmoil around us and within us. How could that be helpful?

We can ask ourselves three valuable questions:

Does this need to be said?
Does it need to be said by ME?
Does it need to be said by me NOW?

We don’t have to say everything we think, and we don’t have to share everything we feel. It has been famously said as “Discretion is the better part of valor.” Let’s remember that and choose what will actually land on others as kindness.

When we choose to be kind, that’s using good judgment.

When we share every little judgment we have, that’s being judgmental.

I remind myself that I cannot be a healing and beneficial presence while also being judgmental.

I’d rather be truly helpful than sharing everything that’s going on with me. I’ve learned the Wisdom of keeping many thoughts to myself in the sense of not speaking or sharing them – and the smartest thing for me to do is simply hand it all UP to the Higher Holy Spirit Self for healing. It works, AND it brings great benefit.

Plus, when I turn it over, I don’t have any forgiveness to do.

And that’s great because I’d rather not create any additional drama or stress for myself and others.

Still, one thing I’m SUPER grateful for is the power of forgiveness, especially in all of my relationships. Forgiveness has changed my life and I’m inspired by everyone’s forgiveness stories. I am offering my “F* ME, Here Come The Holidays” class today and for the next few days – it’s totally free, and it’s a really great way to get inspired to do some real forgiveness work NOW before the holidays. Click here to register now!

40 Days to January 1st – I share what I learned that shifted me out of my habits of spinning around in the same repeating upsets in my Masterful Living Course 2020. Registration is open NOW. I encourage you to commit now so that you have that to look forward to. At no charge, you can also book an Exploratory Call to speak with one of the Spiritual Counselors who has already done the program and they can help you be clear if this is right for you right now.

Click here now to book a free Exploratory Call about Masterful Living 2020.

TODAY FREE FORGIVENESS WORKSHOP: If you’d like more support for having a miraculous breakthrough with forgiveness, please join me! Let me suggest some simple ways you can immediately feel more successful in your relationships. When you’re ready to stop and drop the same old patterns of upset in relationships, the tips and tools I offer in this free class will really support you. They’re SO simple, and yet they have a profound effect.

TODAY FREE FORGIVENESS WORKSHOP:

If you’d like more support for having a miraculous breakthrough with forgiveness, please join me! Let me suggest some simple ways you can immediately feel more successful in your relationships. When you’re ready to stop and drop the same old patterns of upset in relationships, the tips and tools I offer in this free class will really support you. They’re SO simple, and yet they have a profound effect.

You can learn to remember to Partner UP rather than struggling in your relationships and that feels so good. You can stop playing small and live your calling by ALLOWING healing your relationships. Are you willing to make more loving choices to deepen your spiritual practice and accelerate your awakening by being a healing presence in your family? It’s easier than you think! Forgive me. Here Come the Holidays!

RIGHT NOW, let’s stop paying lip service by SAYING we’re willing but not actually living it. We can bring on a breakthrough FAR beyond what we can imagine when we’re truly willing to truly forgive. If you don’t know how here’s how! Join me!

Why wait? Now is the time for our healing! If you’re willing, I’m ready – let’s do it together!

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Let’s Kick the Complaining Habit

Thursday, November 21st, 2019

Yesterday I was traveling from Santa Barbara, California, where I’d been visiting my goddaughter’s family, to Scottsdale, Arizona. And I had another one of those experiences at the airport where we got on the plane and then we had to get off the plane and wait.

We were deplaned and delayed because of rain in Phoenix preventing all planes from landing or taking off. Miraculously, once again, I found I didn’t have any complaints. I just got off the plane with everyone else and got to work while I waited to re-board the plane.

Being able to be delayed and inconvenienced without complaining is such a victory. There was a time when I would have complained incessantly.

Isn’t it wonderful to be able to change?
It’s such a victory for my soul!

Let’s find the way to put ALL complaining behind us.

Complaining doesn’t help anything, it doesn’t improve anything or heal anything – but it DOES change things. It drags the energy down.

It ruins the mood and it makes us a magnet for more things to complain about.

Who needs that? Not us!

November is the month of Thanksgiving in the U.S.

Let’s focus on gratitude and give it all we’ve got!

One thing I’m SUPER grateful for is the power of forgiveness. Forgiveness has changed my life and I’m inspired by everyone’s forgiveness stories. I am offering my F- Me, Here Come The Holidays class today and for the next few days – it’s totally free and it’s a really great way to get inspired to do some real forgiveness work NOW before the holidays. Click here to register now!

40 Days to January 1st – I share what I learned that shifted me out of my habits of spinning around in the same repeating upsets in my Masterful Living Course 2020. Registration is open NOW. I encourage you to commit now so that you have that to look forward to. At no charge, you can also book an Exploratory Call to speak with one of the Spiritual Counselors who has already done the program and they can help you be clear if this is right for you right now.

Click here now to book a free Exploratory Call about Masterful Living 2020.

TODAY FREE FORGIVENESS WORKSHOP: If you’d like more support for having a miraculous breakthrough with forgiveness, please join me! Let me suggest some simple ways you can immediately feel more successful in your relationships. When you’re ready to stop and drop the same old patterns of upset in relationships, the tips and tools I offer in this free class will really support you. They’re SO simple, and yet they have a profound effect.

You can learn to remember to Partner UP rather than struggling in your relationships and that feels so good. You can stop playing small and live your calling by ALLOWING healing your relationships. Are you willing to make more loving choices to deepen your spiritual practice and accelerate your awakening by being a healing presence in your family? It’s easier than you think! Forgive me. Here Come the Holidays!

RIGHT NOW, let’s stop paying lip service by SAYING we’re willing but not actually living it. We can bring on a breakthrough FAR beyond what we can imagine when we’re truly willing to truly forgive. If you don’t know how here’s how! Join me!

Why wait? Now is the time for our healing! If you’re willing, I’m ready – let’s do it together!

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Cure for the Worried Mind

Monday, November 18th, 2019

It’s hard to believe, and even to conceive, that forgiveness can bring the amount of healing that it does. Part of why it’s hard to believe is that we’re not taught about forgiveness. We’re not taught what it really is.

At its core, TRUE forgiveness is undoing the blocks to Love which, of course, naturally opens up the flow of Love in our lives.

Love is everything. Without an AWARENESS of Love, we’re lost. Without an awareness of Love, we don’t know who we are and we don’t know what anything is for.

If we’re trying to solve a problem with anything other than Love then we’re not eliminating the problem, we’re merely managing and coping with it. Problem-solving doesn’t happen in the world of form. Problem-solving happens when we realize what the actual problem is – a belief in lack of Love.

The only thing that can solve a belief in a lack of Love is an awareness of Love.

When we let go of the meaning we’ve made of things, we’re letting go of the blocks to Love and that’s true forgiveness.

Willingness to forgive is a power that can move mountains of pain and suffering.

It’s very easy to fall back into the pit of pain and suffering until we reach the point where we’re simply not willing to do it to ourselves anymore. That’s what Self-Love is all about.

Love is our healer because it reminds us of what’s true and right and real.

Like Dorothy in The Wizard of Oz, we’ve had the power all along.
Today’s the day – let’s not delay!

If you’re going to join us next year, I encourage you to register early for my year-long Masterful Living Course 2020. Make the commitment to yourself NOW and you’ll have so much to look forward to – including tremendous healing and transformation! Give yourself that gift this year and you’ll be amazed at how your connection with Spirit will bloom!

Grief Support Class – Very few people really understand how to move through grief with ease and grace.  Jesse Brune-Horan is someone who has gone through tremendous loss and grief and is now offering support.  Jesse is a minister that I have partnered with in many classes and offerings and I’m so glad to support this offering of his new class Healing Grief.  Now is the perfect time to get this support and to call forth more grace in your experience of grief.  Click here for more details.

FORGIVENESS CLASS:  Give yourself the gift of extraordinary healing.  My Forgive & Be Free class, in 3 parts, is available on replay right now.  Let’s do this sacred work joyfully, and JoyFULLY together!  Register now and get the replay now!  Click here for more details 

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Healing the Habit Of Being A Fault-Finder

Sunday, November 17th, 2019

When I was in the graduate Screenwriting program at USC, my professor, the amazing actor/director Nina Foch, used to say “focus on the light. The darkness will take care of itself.”  This was her advice for directing students.  I’ve always thought that was excellent advice.

It’s so easy to focus on the dark.  And when we do, then all we see is more darkness and corruption.  The view becomes narrow and ugly.  The scenery is depressing and upsetting – or so we think.

I can admit that my personality is a judger and a fault-finder.  I can look at a perfect thing and find the smallest crack.  I can look at an arrangement of things and instantly see how they could be arranged more coherently, attractively, helpfully.  It used to always work against me.  For much of my life, I simply found more things to criticize everywhere I looked.

Now I can look at things and often I’ll see the Beauty before I see what the ego would judge as bad, wrong, imperfect.  I can see the perfection and let it rest at that, but not always.  I’m going for ALWAYS.

Looking for faults is a habit.  

It can be unlearned – and it’s SO worth doing.

Frequently finding fault is an ego habit that keeps us in a place of near-constant disappointment, blame, criticism, complaint, shame, agitation, and irritation.  

This way of looking at the world sucks the joy out of life.  It’s right up there with keeping score and holding grudges. If there’s anything worth letting go of, it’s this gnarly habit of seeing the devil in the details.

How do you break this hellish habit?  It’s so simple.  Willingness is all it takes.

It’s a willingness to replace the habit of fault-finding with praising and gratitude.

It’s not so hard to change our life if we’re willing.

Gratitude multiplies the good.
Complaining makes us a crap magnet.
We choose how we’d like our life to go.

Whenever I would realize I wasn’t happy and harmonious, when my Peace seems to have taken the low road, I learned to call upon Spirit to show me where I made the downturn.  It was always some judgment or opinion, some falsehood that had captured my attention.  I learned that I could give whatever the opinion or complaint was to the Higher Holy Spirit Self for healing and regain my Peace, my higher ground.

I learned to stand in faith that the healing will be done and give thanks that it IS done.  Because I AM willing, there’s nothing to prevent the healing from happening.  This is a powerful formula for transformation that actually works.

If the complaint returns, it just means I wasn’t really TRULY willing to let my opinion go.  It means I thought I was right.  

Sometimes we’re SO willing to stop being upset, 
but we’re NOT so willing to give up our complaint.  

We can’t have Freedom and keep our complaint.  
It’s one or the other.
Thank God for that.  
Now, in this holy instant, we can become TRULY willing.
And we’re carried back to Peace and Harmony.

What complaint have you got that’s worth trading your Peace for?  
I actually used to have SO MANY complaints that felt so important to me, but now I don’t have an interest in making that trade for Peace.

Learning to make the trade of handing over the false belief in exchange for the Peace is what we do in Masterful Living, and so much more. Registration is open now for my yearlong course.  My first class of the year is January 1st.

It seems crazy, but here we are 45 days until the new year!  

Let’s all consider, what we can do to deepen our spiritual practice between now and January 1.  Placing our docs on this will carry us through the holidays with a sense of success and fulfillment and that’s a great way to start the new year.

Next time you feel less than peaceful, remember that you’re never upset for the reason you think. The cause of upset isn’t “out there” in the world.  The cause of all upset is holding a grievance, a false belief or idea in our heart that we won’t let go.

Freedom is right here, right now, if we’re willing to keep it in focus.

I use affirmations to help me keep my mind aligned with Spirit.

What are my affirmations?

I AM willing to focus on the Light.  
I AM the Light.
I Love the Light.
I serve the Light. 
I live in the Light.
The Light is All.

I’ve found that affirmations are one of the most powerful tools I have to change my mind and choose again.

Every day I offer “My Shot of Spiritual Espresso”.  I write spiritual inspiration and record a prayer for our healing.  Prayer is a power tool for our liberation.  Pray with me today.  We use technology to transcend time and space and deepen our spiritual practice and connect with each other. Our spiritual practice is our path of liberation.  And that’s beautiful to share!

When anyone of us has more happiness, we’re all lifted!  All boats rise on this tide of Love.

If you’re going to join us next year, I encourage you to register early for the Masterful Living Course 2020.  Make the commitment to yourself NOW and you’ll have so much to look forward to – including tremendous healing and transformation!  Give yourself that gift this year and you’ll be amazed at how your connection with Spirit will bloom!

Having a loving relationship builds self-esteem and worthiness, and that’s a far better investment of our precious energy than fault-finding and that’s miraculous.  Are you ready for a miracle?  Check out the classes that we’re offering now!

Grief Support Class – Very few people really understand how to move through grief with ease and grace.  Jesse Brune-Horan is someone who has gone through tremendous loss and grief and is now offering support.  Jesse is a minister that I have partnered with in many classes and offerings, and I’m so glad to support this offering of his new class Healing Grief.  Now is the perfect time to get this support and to call forth more grace in your experience of grief.  Click here for more details.

FORGIVENESS CLASS: My Forgive & Be Free class, in 3 parts, is available on replay right now and join me for Part 3 today.  Let’s do this sacred work joyfully, and JoyFULLY together!  Register now and get the replay right now! Click here for more details.

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Miracle Healing

Saturday, November 16th, 2019

I’ve had so much to forgive myself for. Good heavens!

I used to believe that it was OK to manipulate people with my moods and attitudes. I grew up thinking that having an attitude or getting into a mood was a way to effectively control and manipulate people to have them pay attention to me and do what I wanted. When I felt powerless, I’d find some way to feel more powerful. At the very least, I used to think I can push people’s buttons and agitate them. It was the misuse of “power.”

I learned that if I was angry, people would try to appease me.
I learned that if I was cold and distant, people would inquire about what was wrong and try to help me.
I learned that if I was sad, people might comfort me.

Mostly I learned that manipulating people made me feel sick energetically.
In all of my relationships, I found that others were manipulating me as much as I was manipulating them. It all felt SUPER uncomfortable, but that’s just the way it was. Everybody did it.

Forgiveness has taken me from the darkness to the Light.

I have had to forgive myself for so much, and actually doing that has been such a gift to me that it has changed my ENTIRE life!

Here’s a miracle:

As I began to achieve some spiritual maturity, I realized that manipulating others for any reason, or in any way, was a source of my suffering and theirs. It lacks authenticity and discourages intimacy – two things I deeply value.

Here’s a miracle:

I dropped the controlling and manipulating behaviors, and now I notice that I rarely encounter anyone who tries to pull that behavior with me. If they do, I have compassion because I know it comes from a place of deep wounding and suffering and I’m interested in Love, which is our healer.

I invite you to take a look at where you give yourself permission to manipulate people with your moods and attitudes. It creates more trouble than it could ever be worth. The worst fall-out is that it will degrade your personal sense of self-esteem and worthiness.

Having a loving relationship builds self-esteem and worthiness, and that’s a far better investment of your precious energy and that’s miraculous.

Are you ready for a miracle? Check out the classes that we’re offering TODAY!

TODAY: Grief Support Class starts TODAY – Very few people really understand how to move through grief with ease and grace. Jesse Brune-Horan is someone who has gone through tremendous loss and grief and is now offering support. Jesse is a minister that I have partnered with in many classes and offerings, and I’m so glad to support this offering of his new class Healing Grief. Now is the perfect time to get this support and to call forth more grace in your experience of grief. Click here for more details.

TODAY IT’S NOT TOO LATE TO JOIN MY FORGIVENESS CLASS: We just started my Forgive & Be Free class in 3 parts, and you can get the replay of Part 1 right now and join me for Parts 2 and 3 this weekend. Let’s do this sacred work joyfully and JoyFULLY together! Register now and get the replay right now! Click here for more details.

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Grief Relief

Friday, November 15th, 2019

At this time of year, our feelings of grief can become overwhelming. For some people, this is the first holiday season without their loved one who passed. For some, this is the last holiday season with a loved one who is preparing to depart. Either way, it can bring up intense grief.

Experiencing what feels like a great loss of any kind, whether it’s a loved one, a job, or any type of identification can be extremely difficult. It can feel overwhelming like no other thing we experience.

Grief can feel shattering for the ego, the personality.

And then sometimes, for some people, the grief can morph into a sense that their grief and suffering are what make them special. If the suffering goes on a while, it can be difficult to let go of. It becomes part of their new (false) identification. The martyr takes over and it can feel very sticky.

Grief is never wrong. It’s not a failure. It’s a part of our human experience.

Grief can include an unwillingness to give up a strong attachment.

In Spirit, we are eternally One, so there’s no relationship we have to actually give up. Yet for us to be happy, we do have to give up the attachment. Releasing an attachment is deeply healing, but it can feel very sad and disorienting.

The grief itself can just be another expression of the attachment to the relationship – and that’s a VERY important and valuable distinction. In a sense, attachments are false idols. They can never make us happy.

We can lose a loved one, a job, a home, etc, and confront our attachment, release it and feel great Freedom, Peace, and Joy while still loving our loved one, our former job, our former home. Giving up the attachment doesn’t mean giving up that which we love, it means giving up the attachment and ONLY the attachment.

When we become identified in our own mind as the one who suffers, the one who is without and in lack, sometimes we begin to affirm it over and over again all day long. It’s insidious. And it can happen REALLY fast. It’s like a virus that takes over our heart, our mind, and then our identity

One time I had an experience of meeting two other women at an event. It was just before Mother’s Day, and we quickly discovered that all three of our precious mothers had seemingly died of cancer. If we had wanted to, we could have formed a club – the “dead cancer mom’s club” or something like that.

I don’t identify as someone who has “lost” her Mom because I feel she’s with me in Spirit always. I’m One with her, so she can’t be gone from me even though I don’t see her anymore. I feel her. She’s gone ahead and not far away.

I don’t identify with being motherless because I don’t live in the past. I sometimes briefly recall the past, but not often – and when I do, I share from what I’ve learned in my experiences because that feels truly helpful for others and that’s my aspiration, to be truly helpful to my brothers and sisters in this world.

Living in the past, no matter how great it might have been, only makes for a limited experience of Love now. For myself, I’ve learned there’s absolutely no value in holding onto the past. I can let ALL of it go.

I have found that offering any grief and suffering to the Higher Holy Spirit Self for healing has worked.

Of course, it doesn’t work if you’re not actually willing. It can take a while to get to the point of real willingness. It’s worth it.

Suffering IS optional – no matter what your experience has been in this world – you can let it go and willingness is ALL that’s required.

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Miracle Maker

Thursday, November 14th, 2019

I have seen forgiveness bring the most miraculous healings.

I have felt that forgiveness redeemed me and brought me great wisdom, which is wonderful because I’ve felt like a very slow learner. I felt as though I was such a committed grudge holder that I kept myself from really learning and advancing in my spiritual growth for many years.

Transmuting my painful experiences into power is something I know a lot about. That’s why this ministry is called the Power of Love Ministry.

Love is the only power and it is an alchemical power that can transmute the heavyweight of painful experiences into the Freedom of knowing the Power of Love is active in my heart and in my awareness.

Forgiveness is the tool we use to transmute our deepest emotional pain into power.

Forgiveness requires one thing, and that’s the willingness to release the meaning we’ve attributed to things.

Forgiveness is the release of attachment to our interpretations of events, and experiences.

In order to be willing to release our interpretations, we must trust that God is with us and always for us. When we have made so many unloving and unkind choices in our past, it feels hard to believe that Spirit could EVER still be with us or for us.

This is where A Course in Miracles is so helpful to us. In ACIM, Jesus reminds us not to make this world and the things that seem to have occurred here real. He consistently reminds us that we are perfect now and forever and that nothing that happens here will EVER affect the permanent record of our perfection.

It’s time for us to actually LIVE and BELIEVE these A Course in Miracles teachings because that is the thing that heals our mind.

All healing IS at the level of the mind, and now is the time for us to turbocharge our healing.

Forgiveness is the one thing that does that. Forgiveness IS a miracle.

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Forgiveness Relieves Suffering

Wednesday, November 13th, 2019

Forgiveness relieves suffering of every kind. There is no form that suffering can take that cannot be relieved by the act of choosing forgiveness.

The challenge is that there is so much confusion about forgiveness, what it is and how it works. It’s much simpler than we think.

Forgiveness is simply this – releasing the opinions, judgments, and meaning we’ve made of things.

We think we’re upset because someone did something we don’t like, but that’s the illusion. It’s a pure delusion. And buying into that illusion IS suffering.

For much of my life, I blamed others for all of my upsets and problems. I projected it all out onto other people and situations. I thought that would relieve my suffering.

Little did I know, it only magnified and multiplied my pain.

The real cause of our upset is the decision to attack our brothers and sisters, rather than to fulfill our purpose, which is to bless them and to receive as we have given.

When we choose the thoughts that attack and condemn, we will suffer. If we didn’t suffer as a result, there would be no alarm, no warning. We’d fall down the rabbit hole and keep going with no way to recognize our error.

Right now, in this holy instant, we can drop all of the blocks to Love and recognize the truth in this beautiful passage from A Course in Miracles which I’ve laid out like a poem.

How can you who are so holy suffer?
All your past except its beauty is gone,
and nothing is left but a blessing.
I have saved all your kindnesses
and every loving thought you ever had.
I have purified them of the errors that hid their light,
and kept them for you in their own perfect radiance.
They are beyond destruction and beyond guilt.
They came from the Holy Spirit within you,
and we know what God creates is eternal.
You can indeed depart in peace because
I have loved you as I loved myself.
You go with my blessing and for my blessing.
Hold it and share it, that it may always be ours.
I place the peace of God in your heart
and in your hands, to hold and share.
The heart is pure to hold it,
and the hands are strong to give it.
We cannot lose.
My judgment is as strong as the wisdom of God,
in Whose Heart and Hands we have our being.
His quiet children are His blessed Sons.
The Thoughts of God are with you.

~ A Course in Miracles, T-5.IV.8.

We are perfect Love and we are perfectly loved. All that remains is for us to accept it. This is the true Self-forgiveness. Every moment we have this opportunity to let the past go by releasing the meaning we made of it and by releasing the idea that what occurred in the past has defined us.

Our experiences do not define us.
Our choices do not define us.
Our Unity with God defines us. Nothing else can.

We’ve made meaning of our life, and being that is false. We project it onto others and think they are the problem. There is no problem. ALL of our problems have been solved. Yet if we hold the idea we have problems, we are sure to experience them. And then we look for someone to blame.

This is what we can forgive ourselves for and MOVE ON.

Forgiveness is the path of Joy, awakening, and Prosperity.

This I know.

And that is why I’m offering my Forgive & Be Free class, in 3 parts, starting tomorrow. Let’s do this sacred work joyfully, and JoyFULLY together!

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Transforming A Belief in Lack

Tuesday, November 12th, 2019

I didn’t realize it, but I was preventing myself from having healthy Self-esteem. I was actively ignoring the warning signs from Spirit and I was degrading my own sense of well-being and worthiness. And, to a large degree, I didn’t recognize the effects of the choices I was making. In a sense, I was “my own worst enemy.”

When I gave myself permission to attack others, to judge and criticize them, to blame and shame them, I didn’t realize it but I was preventing myself from having healthy Self-esteem.

Because we share the same mind and we can’t really hide our thoughts from anyone, it was as though I was covering myself with garbage and thinking no one would notice.

Things began to change for me when I realized what A Course in Miracles means when it says “there are no private thoughts.”

Once I was willing to actually accept that the One Mind is a fact and that we all share and have access to the One and only Mind of God, I began to choose different thoughts.

I became aware that every negative thought I had was a form of pollution I was sharing with all of life. My personal negativity, even if it seemed as though I was keeping it to myself, was like toxic waste poured into the collective drinking supply.

Similarly, every loving thought brings a healing benefit to all.
To have, give all to all.
Give Love, give patience, give compassion.

When there is shame and self-judgment, the way out of that icky sticky thought pattern is through forgiveness.

We must forgive ourselves for believing something false about ourselves it is the ONLY way to move out of the lack of Self-Love.

That lack of Self-Love is an illusion generated by our pouring our energy and awareness into thoughts about ourselves and others that are blatantly false.

When we believe in lack, we experience lack.

When I saw even a glimpse of the power of my thought, I made the commitment to focus on changing my mind.

I set the goal of cultivating an awareness of my thoughts and beliefs. I decided to be truly mindful. It felt like a burden in the beginning. It felt overwhelming to realize how focused on negativity I was. I decided to actively replace the negativity with loving thoughts and actions. But as I began to take out the trash from my mind and let Spirit heal it back to the root cause, there was less trash in my mind and I began to noticeably feel better about myself right away.

I saw that every time I chose a loving thought, I actually felt better about myself. That was tangible and it felt miraculous. I was so grateful that I could start to feel that I was being truly helpful instead of feeling like I was a monster.

I decided to focus on being aware of shame thoughts so that I could eliminate them. I was so grateful I could eliminate thinking that was designed to keep me feeling bad about myself. I was ashamed of playing small and living in limitation. Shame comes directly from believing limited thoughts that aren’t true.

You cannot feel ashamed unless you believe a lie.
Shame drags our Self-Esteem to the ground.

We’re taught to feel ashamed of our thoughts and our desires. The idea is that if we’re ashamed then we won’t act upon it – but we all know it’s not true. Consider all of us who just hide what we’re thinking and feeling.

We’re taught to feel ashamed about how we look and how we feel. We can change our minds about these things. We can recognize that just because we have a thought doesn’t mean we are “shame-full”.

In my experience as a Spiritual Counselor for 17 years, many people have told me the things they’re most ashamed of, and through the sharing of it with me they’ve been able to relinquish the shame they felt. Bringing things to the Light is deeply healing when it’s done with someone who can be 100% compassionate and loving – and we can give ourselves this gift of Love if there’s no person who can support us.

Shame has no value to our Spirit, which is ever expansive and unprecedented – only the ego values living in lack and limitation. Being supportive and loving has value and keeps us in the flow of Love, which unites us with healing, Prosperity, and God’s Infinite Goodness. The more loving we are, the less shame we feel, the more Self-esteem we have.

The beginning of a transformation for me came in being willing to be aware of ALL my thoughts. I began to replace the attack thoughts with thoughts that extended Love. And lo and behold, I began to self-medicate less and less because I was more and more willing to be aware of my thoughts because they were more and more loving.

I was building my Self-esteem in two ways:
I was decreasing my shame by reducing my negativity.
The less negativity I had, the less interested I was in self-medicating.
The less self-medicating I did, the better I felt about myself.

Shame is a cycle.

I would get triggered with low self-esteem thoughts and then I’d engage in self-medication (low self-esteem behavior), and that would give me something to feel ashamed about and then I’d want to self-medicate to forget about how I felt. The cycle would repeat, and it felt like a whirlpool pulling me in.

Choosing loving thoughts changes the direction of the whirlpool. What I found was that I began to spiral up, and feeling better and better about myself I was inspired and motivated to keep going and increasing my awareness.

I began to build on my success, and I feel as though I climbed out of a very intense whirlpool. I was more than willing – I had a great desire to change my life, and I let Spirit show me the way. It worked and it continues to work, and this is precisely why I teach my classes the way that I do. I know the benefit of doing this work, and I know how hard it is to do it on my own.

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My Prayer for Partnering UP

Monday, November 11th, 2019

As promised in my “Forgive Me. Here Come the Holidays” class yesterday, I mentioned that I would put this prayer in “My Daily Shot of Spiritual Espresso” today. I’m also making it the recorded prayer for today.

This is a version of my daily prayer that I started praying about 20 years ago. Prayer works! It has transformed my life.

Prayer and forgiveness are the 2 best tools I have.

I encourage you to use this prayer or write of your own to use on a daily basis to improve the quality of every minute of your life!

Prayer for Partnering UP!

I AM that I AM.
I AM my I AM Presence.
I AM One with the One and for this, I am truly grateful.
In the name of my beloved I AM, I ask that my Higher Holy Spirit Self, my I AM Presence, lead and guide me to be in the flow of Love in all moments of this day and in every area of my life.
I intend to be easily led and guided to choose the highest and best in each moment.
I allow myself to receive the blessings that are mine to receive.
I allow myself to recognize the most loving choices this day.
Higher Holy Spirit Self, please make loving choices so attractive to me that I cannot mistake them.
Help me to choose Love and to live my life as a joyful and abundant prayer of the heart.
Help me to recognize my life is the eternal life of God.
I AM dedicated to being a loving and beneficial presence on this planet.
I choose to be truly helpful.
I AM blessed & I AM a blessing.
I share the benefits of my healing and expansion with everyone because I AM one with them.
I AM awakening to know my true identity and the true identity of my brothers and sisters.
We are one in Love, eternally and for this and all the blessings I receive this day, I AM so very grateful.
In the name of my Beloved I AM, I know that it is done.
I allow myself to accept it as done and so it IS.
Amen

You can click here now to download a PDF copy.

If you’d like more support for having a miraculous breakthrough with forgiveness, please join me in my Forgive & Be Free three-part class. We start on Thursday and you’ll get the replay of each of the three classes plus transcripts, plus homework and follow up break-out calls next week. Lots of opportunities to REALLY do this forgiveness work and substantially deepen your practice.

This year, let’s stop paying lip service by SAYING we’re willing but not actually living it. We can bring on a breakthrough FAR beyond what we can imagine when we’re truly willing to truly forgive. If you don’t know how, here’s how! Join me!

Why wait? Now is the time for our healing! If you’re willing, I’m ready – let’s do it together!

 

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Family Forgiveness & Relationship Healing

Sunday, November 10th, 2019

For me, the hardest thing to let go of was the thing I made. It was the image of myself as being less than lovable. It’s so crazy that, in this world, the things we cling to the very most are the things that are

A. Not true
B. Painful

How dang crazy is that?

Yet, I’ve seen there’s a method to the madness of it!

In A Course in Miracles, the Manual for Teachers it talks about the development of trust is a process we must all go through in order to release from suffering.

First, they must go through what might be called ‘a period of undoing.’ This need not be painful, but it usually is so experienced. It seems as if things are being taken away, and it is rarely understood initially that their lack of value is merely being recognized. How can lack of value be perceived unless the perceiver is in a position where he must see things in a different light?

One of the hardest things for me to give up was all the painful patterns in my family relationships and most intimate relationships – these were also the things that bothered me the most.

I loathed repeating the same arguments, but I couldn’t seem to stop it.
I despaired over the same hurts and upsets, but I didn’t know how to rise above it.
I was crushed and demoralized by the same meltdowns, again and again, but I was convinced it was all happening TO me instead of by me.

I wasn’t willing to make the changes necessary to have healing. I lived that way for a VERY long time.

And now that I’ve learned how forgiveness works to heal ALL of it, I have to share every day of my life because it’s so freakin’ valuable!

If we don’t give up the things that we’re using to hurt ourselves, it may seem as though they’re being taken away. Releasing attachment to the things that stand in the way of our happiness may seem like the thing we’d want the most, but it’s not. And that’s why working together with other like-minded souls makes it so much easier to for us to see the Wisdom of letting go of our attachments to false beliefs, false identities, and the story we’re telling ourselves.

If we’re willing to give up the false idols and false images that we’ve grown so attached to, then there is a healing, a transformation, and revelation that is not only liberating it’s thrilling! The thrill comes from being willing to trade all that we’ve treasured for something of real value – the ability to see our perfection and the perfection of all.

It’s a question of motivation.

Many of us spend a very long time avoiding the release of the attachments and the pain builds and builds until the pain is so great we’re willing to do ANYTHING to make a change – but it doesn’t have to be that way.

After counseling people for 19 years, I’ve seen that many people have a habit of being unhappy, and they are more comfortable in their unhappiness than they would be in doing something new.

Some people are afraid of being happy because they don’t trust it, and I understand that. In order to be happy and stay happy (most of the time), we must give up being a victim and that means giving up complaining, and criticizing, and taking offense.

Sometimes it’s our anger and upset that gives us a feeling aliveness and power. It’s all false. Of course, it is. But if all we know is what’s false, then we’re going to cling to it. And that’s where a strong spiritual practice helps to break through the habit of playing small, self-attack, and attachment to negative habits.

Sometimes negative pleasure is all we’ve got, so how can we give it up? Negative pleasure is the thing that seems pleasurable, but actually it puts us on the “Pain Train” with a one-way ticket.

Spiritual practice is the thing that releases us from all of this. Making a commitment to and EFFECTIVE spiritual practice is where many people fall short. Their belief is so strong that they’ll fail that they don’t even try.

Only the ego fails.
Spirit cannot fail – it’s not even possible.

When we put our faith in Spirit, we’re strong and we cannot go wrong.

We’re always putting our faith in something.
We can choose ego or Spirit.
Placing my faith in Spirit is the thing that brought me Peace.

At first, it did seem like a period of undoing, and it was. It was a period of undoing all the attachments I had to do things the ego way.

I wasn’t sure I would happier trusting Spirit, but I was willing to try. That willingness got me through the difficulties. It raised me up and kept me headed in a higher direction.

I am so grateful for realizing I’d been placing my faith in my own opinion and that I could change my mind. This realization was a great blessing and a gift! I finally quit making myself unhappy! Phew!

Do you see where you’re placing your faith and trust in your own beliefs and perceptions rather than in Love, in Spirit, in truth? Being aware of this is a great opportunity to go the other way and make a new choice.

Let’s allow the Higher Holy Spirit Self to undo all attachments we have to the habits of unhappiness and discover our true identity and live from that place!

ENOUGH already with the repeating pain patterns! Now is the time of our liberation!

If you’d like support for that I’m offering a forgiveness workshop to support anyone who is willing to do the work with me. You can register now, my gift to all, click now to join me: FREE forgiveness class TODAY LIVE ONLINE video All are welcome!

Let me suggest some simple ways you can immediately feel more successful in your relationships. When you’re ready to stop and drop the same old patterns of upset in relationships, the tips and tools I offer in this free class will really support you. They’re SO simple, and yet they have a profound effect. You can learn to remember to Partner UP rather than struggling in your relationships, and that feels so good. You can stop playing small and live your calling by ALLOWING healing your relationships. Are you willing to make more loving choices to deepen your spiritual practice and accelerate your awakening by being a healing presence in your family? It’s easier than you think!

TODAY in my FREE CLASS – we’re going to focus on relationships and making a difference BEFORE the holidays!

Every day I offer “My Shot of Spiritual Espresso”.  I write spiritual inspiration and record a prayer for our healing.  Prayer is a power tool for our liberation.  Pray with me today.  The Prayer for Today is for Family Forgiveness Healing.  We use technology to transcend time and space and deepen our spiritual practice and connect with each other.  Our spiritual practice is our path of liberation.  And that’s beautiful to share!

When anyone of us has more happiness, we’re all lifted!

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Life Without Arguing

Saturday, November 9th, 2019

How many of us have been taught to fight fairly? How many of us have ever seen it? Did your parents argue or fight fairly? Did their parents? I used to argue with myself. Sometimes I’d argue with a family member or a friend.

I learned how to fight fairly, honestly, and lovingly–truly, I did. I know, because I remember when I didn’t. I know that feeling in my gut when I’ve said or heard something hurtful or blaming. I’m grateful for that pain, because it reminded me to choose Love.

Now I have the strength to refrain from being hurtful. And that’s part of why I am offering my FREE FORGIVENESS CLASS tomorrow. I’d rather not fight at all. And, I’ve learned it’s not necessary. We can discuss instead of arguing.

In his book IRON JOHN, the wonderful poet Robert Bly writes, “A good fight gets things clear and I think women long to fight and be with men who know how to fight well. When both use their weapons unconsciously or without naming them, both man and woman stumble into battle, and when it is over the two interior children can be badly wounded. The adult warrior inside both men and women, when trained, can receive a blow without sulking or collapsing, knows how to fight for limited goals, keeps the rules of combat in mind, and in general, is able to keep the fighting clean and establish limits.

Sometimes a disagreement turns into something like an argument.

Arguing is a part of everyone’s life, whether we’re a witness or a participant, but it doesn’t have to be.

The more I do my forgiveness practice, the fewer arguments I have. I very rarely have arguments now.

We can have a life without fights or arguing, without blame, or guilt. We really can.

I used to have the same repetitive arguments with the same people and it would just send me into a real sense of despair. Forgiveness changed all that.

I agree with the teaching in A Course In Miracles: “Anger is never justified.” And still, anger is experienced. Upsets occur.

Being able to handle these outbursts and challenges with Love, compassion and forgiveness are what I’m interested in.

This is part of my intention to be masterful. Forgiveness has been my greatest tool.

I’ve learned that stuffing my feelings to avoid having an upset doesn’t work. As part of my practice of nonviolence today, I look at how I fight. I set my intention that if there is anger, I can explore it – not judge it – with Love and compassion. I am learning to express how I feel without the energy of violence and a desire to wound.

My practice is so very valuable to me. I heal and the whole world heals with me. Now that’s TRULY helpful. How wonderful!

I’m curious to know – how do you feel when you have an argument? Please share in the comments below!

FREE FORGIVENESS CLASS TOMORROW:  Let me suggest some simple ways you can immediately feel more successful in your relationships.  When you’re ready to stop and drop the same old patterns of upset in relationships, the tips and tools I offer in this free class will really support you.  They’re SO simple, and yet they have a profound effect.    You can learn to remember to Partner UP rather than struggling in your relationships and that feels so good. You can stop playing small and live your calling by ALLOWING healing your relationships.  Are you willing to make more loving choices to deepen your spiritual practice and accelerate your awakening by being a healing presence in your family? It’s easier than you think! Forgive me.  Here Come the Holidays!

The class is on Sunday – and it’s my gift to you, but you do have to register.  Please bring a friend, since it’s free!

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Self-Healing

Friday, November 8th, 2019

Self-abuse, and specifically abusing our bodies, is one of the most prevalent acts of violence I see people participating in around the world today.  There is hardly one of us that couldn’t take better care of ourselves in many little ways.  Aren’t all those little acts of abuse a form of self-sabotage?

And isn’t all self-sabotage really a way to slow down our spiritual growth and expansion so that we can try to manage it?

Something I’ve done, and I’ve seen other spiritual seekers do it, too, is we try to separate ourselves from our body.  Yes, we are not our bodies. And still, they are the vehicle we’ve chosen to make this human journey in.  The mind is such a powerful instrument that it actually has the ability to convince us that we are separate from our bodies in such a way as to feel dis-embodied and not responsible for our own self-care.

While we can transcend the body and it is not who we are, it IS the suit we wear to this human party.  I feel better when I appreciate my body and treat it with love and respect for all that it offers me.  It is an excellent tool for communication and Clarity, and we must respect that rather than create one more forgiveness episode.

How many times have I eaten things that I KNEW would make me feel bad? Is that not self-abuse? Would I feed a child something I knew would make them feel poorly just to give them a momentary pleasure? Hopefully not.

In THE SELF HEALING COOKBOOK, Kristina Turner writes “Everyone has minor symptoms. Aches and pains, tension, upset stomachs, headaches, skin eruptions, mood swings, occasional colds, and flu … A self-healing lifestyle starts with recognizing that minor symptoms don’t just happen TO us. We have an active hand in creating them, by the choices we make in our daily lives.

AND, let’s not make ourselves feel guilty for the choices of the past.  Let’s rise above and simply learn and grow.  

That was then, this is now.

Today, I take an honest look at where I am in terms of physical self-abuse vs self-healing.

My practice of nonviolence starts with the treatment of my own body.

I make a commitment to start the self-healing today.

Today I stop one abusive behavior and replace it with a loving one. I change my relationship to myself and I change my relationship to all life.

I love myself enough to be kind to myself today.  And that includes forgiving myself for ALL my unloving choices in the past.

FREE CLASS:  Let me suggest some simple ways you can immediately feel more successful in your relationships.  When you’re ready to stop and drop the same old patterns of upset in relationships, the tips and tools I offer in this free class will really support you.  They’re SO simple, and yet they have a profound effect.    You can learn to remember to Partner UP rather than struggling in your relationships and that feels so good. You can stop playing small and live your calling by ALLOWING healing your relationships.  Are you willing to make more loving choices to deepen your spiritual practice and accelerate your awakening by being a healing presence in your family? It’s easier than you think! Forgive me.  Here Come the Holidays!

The class is on Sunday – and it’s my gift to you, but you do have to register.  Please bring a friend, since it’s free!

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Bulb Planting

Thursday, November 7th, 2019

Today I finished planting 900 bulbs at our family’s house in Maine. I have a vision of how the daffodils, iris and Siberian Squill will multiply and spread throughout the area making the Spring a beautiful vision of nature’s glory.

In Maine, they joke that their four seasons are winter, more winter, still winter and road repair. Spring in Maine comes quite late, so the flowering bulbs are MUCH appreciated signs that winter is finally over.

It was much more work than I anticipated, because some of the areas where I wished to plant took a lot of work to dig up and plant.

I was concerned about getting it all done because of the first 5 days or so, because the bulbs I ordered online took longer to arrive than I’d anticipated, and then when they did come, it rained for 3 days. I only had 6 days to get it all done and there was a heavy rain day in the middle, so that left me 5 days.

Yesterday was the last day, and I prayed for Divine Assistance because I still had a couple hundred left to plant and so many other things to do. I wasn’t on vacation, by any means, and with the time change it was dark by 5 p.m. each day and too cold to get out there early, at least for my hands in the wet soil. Even with gloves, also wet.

Still, I got it all done.

And I am SO grateful for my strong body which is now a bit sore from all of it.

Since I have to leave this morning and the weather was a challenge, I was truly concerned that I mightn’t get it all done. I have a tendency to take on big bites, and sometimes it’s more than I can comfortably chew.

I’m so glad I’ve learned to rely upon a Higher Power and not go it alone.

I asked Spirit to guide me where to plant and how to plant and it all worked out.

I am trusting that the nature spirits will do their work and help turn over the bulbs I may have accidentally planted upside down – those crocus are small, and it’s really not easy to tell which end is up!

Gardening has been such learning for me. It’s definitely humbling. Things that I’ve thought would be magnificent barely do anything, and then things that I don’t expect much from are flourishing and lovely.

Thank goodness I am a forgiveness expert!

Part of why the gardens at the house in Maine are important to me is because it was my mother’s dream to have lovely gardens and she made that come true at this house. I’m doing my best to get them back up to where they were before she got ill. During her illness, things got neglected and then after she passed my father didn’t make it a priority.

So now it’s my turn, and I do it with my mother in mind. It’s a tribute to her, in a way. She loved beauty and she taught me to love it, too. Nothing is more beautiful than what nature can create. I’m so happy to play my part.

FREE CLASS:  Let me suggest some simple ways you can immediately feel more successful in your relationships.  When you’re ready to stop and drop the same old patterns of upset in relationships, the tips and tools I offer in this free class will really support you.  They’re SO simple, and yet they have a profound effect.    You can learn to remember to Partner UP rather than struggling in your relationships and that feels so good.  You can stop playing small, and live your calling by ALLOWING healing your relationships.  Are you willing to make more loving choices to deepen your spiritual practice and accelerate your awakening by being a healing presence in your family? It’s easier than you think!  Forgive me.  Here Come the Holidays!

The class is on Sunday – and it’s my gift to you, but you do have to register.  Please bring a friend, since it’s free!

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No More Revenge

Wednesday, November 6th, 2019

One of my all-time favorite teachers is Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. and he is so clear about getting even.  It makes sense.  He was a true student of Jesus.  They knew the power of forgiveness to transform not only the life of the person who seems to be attacked but also the life of the attacker.  After all, we are united.  When one is lifted, all are lifted instantly.

Dr. King warns us that the opportunity to get even will come, and when that moment arrives, not to take it.  He advises to go the other way and have profound healing.

It’s good advice.  

There’s no personal benefit to holding onto resentments and then trying to get some kind of revenge.

That is not a good use of our time and energy.

I know a lot about that.  

I’ve done the research.  

If we hold onto our murderous thoughts, and let them ripen into revenge plots of anger, attack, and anguish we’ve not invested ourselves in anything that’s productive.  Instead, we’ve essentially built a Frankenstein monster that lives inside of us.

Attack is only satisfying for a moment – and that’s NEVER worth the price. Ever.  It’s a meal of broken glass and metal shavings.  Avoid it at all costs.

The temptation to exact revenge can be so strong at times.  

It’s the ego at its worst.

It’s often expressed in withholding Love.  That’s when we try to punish others by withholding Love from them, but we’re the ones who are experiencing the restriction, not them.  Ugh.

Since all attack is self-attack, it’s self-destructive to seek revenge.

Fortunately, there’s an antidote and it’s making a clear decision that you are worth more than being the ego’s puppet.  Your life is more than an investment in empty and pointless imaginings and expressions of bile.

My invitation is to look at all the littlest choices for revenge that come up in your life, in your heart and your mind, and give them all away to the Higher Holy Spirit.  Instead, dedicate yourself to being free and loving yourself fully.  

Instead of revenge, let’s choose unity and dissolve every thought of revenge ever had by anyone at any time.  That’s a far better use of our minds and our life.  It’s about Self-Love and Self-compassion.  It’s about not torturing ourselves and choosing to heal instead.

Let’s focus on something real and let the false ideas and resentments die from lack of attention.  Let’s make our relationships a goldmine of goodness.  Spirit will do the heavy lifting if we allow it!

FREE CLASS:  Let me suggest some simple ways you can immediately feel more successful in your relationships.  When you’re ready to stop and drop the same old patterns of upset in relationships, the tips and tools I offer in this free class will really support you.  They’re SO simple and yet they have a profound effect.    You can learn to remember to Partner UP rather than struggling in your relationships and that feels so good.  You can stop playing small, and live your calling by ALLOWING healing your relationships.  Are you willing to make more loving choices to deepen your spiritual practice and accelerate your awakening by being a healing presence in your family? It’s easier than you think!  Forgive me.  Here Come the Holidays!

The class is on Sunday – and it’s my gift to you, but you do have to register.  Please bring a friend since it’s free!

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Family Forgiveness for the Holidays

Tuesday, November 5th, 2019

The topic for my podcast today is “Family Forgiveness For The Holidays” and it’s a topic that’s near and dear to my heart because forgiveness has completely changed my life and ALL of my relationships.

One of the most challenging things about the holidays is that it stirs up all the resentments, regrets, guilt, shame, and blame of the past that hasn’t been resolved. Every year we get another crack at it and, for me, many years I failed miserably.

In fact, many years I made it much worse. Ugh.

There were many holidays that I went to join my family, fully expecting to be disappointed, offended, hurt, upset, and let down yet again. Guess what? I often got what I hoped for.

My expectations were actually my hopes. I know that now. I wanted to be right about what a victim I was.

I was never right, but I felt righteous.

Forgiveness has been the one thing that changed all that.

My own self-forgiveness. A Course in Miracles lets us know that ALL forgiveness is self-forgiveness. That means we can liberate ourselves from our upset. We don’t have to wait for someone else!! That’s really good news!

This year, give yourself AND your family the gift that keeps on giving: Love.
Unforgiveness blocks the flow of Love.

I’m here to help, and that’s why on Sunday I’m offering a free class on forgiveness with a focus on family and relationships.

I am consistently amazed at how profound the healing power of forgiveness is.

And that’s why I’m getting ready to offer a free class on forgiveness THIS SUNDAY, November 10, and I’m calling it “Forgive Me. Here Come The Holidays!” Register now and we’ll send you the details. Also, please do share with friends – it’s my gift to you! Please share it with others and invite your friends!

I’m also doing a 3-part class later this month called Forgive & Be Free so that we can dive deeper and really make an impact NOW before the holidays.

I am truly grateful for how much Freedom I feel because of the forgiveness work I’ve done.

I NEVER would have imagined all the benefits true forgiveness has!

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Labels Aren’t Helpful

Tuesday, October 29th, 2019

One of the big traps of the ego is deciding who is good and who is bad, who is right and who is wrong. Often we find that we’re the biggest culprits of them all. The ego is the mindset of separation. Its job is to separate and it does that through the activity of sorting.

Sorting out who is right and who is wrong is a major use of ego, time, and energy. We can spend huge amounts of our precious attention on determining who is right and who is wrong. And, for a moment, the ego seems to feel fulfilled, empowered, justified, and important.

Observing life, you can watch people all day long as they struggle to figure out who is right and who is wrong, to assign blame (and often shame) as well as responsibility. It gives the ego a lot to do.

What many of us don’t notice is that all that judge, judge, judging leaves an energetic hangover that is painful. The pain that leads us to tune out, disconnect, and hide. And then we slowly begin to learn what a bad investment we made with our precious attention.

Labeling people isn’t helpful.

The purpose of labels is to sort and separate.

Since God is all there is, aren’t we tuning out from God when we start labeling?
Since Spirit is omnipresent Love, aren’t we disconnecting from Love when we judge?
When we judge, attack, complain and label, aren’t we hoping to hide our attack thoughts from God?
Since the Infinite One Mind is omni-active, are we really thinking we can hide from within our own mind?

Where can I go from Your Spirit?
Or where can I flee from Your presence?
8 If I ascend into heaven, You are there;
If I make my bed in hell, behold, You are there. Psalm 139

Deciding who is right and wrong is predicated on the concept that “I am the decider”. When I’m the decider it often means that I’m thinking that God has left the building and now I’m in charge. I’ve learned that I do NOT want to be in charge. I’m not (yet) able to see through all directions of time and space, and so I’m not able to discern what everything is for. My Spirit knows it’s all working together for my relentless good.

I do not wish to replace God in my mind – I tried that, and it didn’t go well for me. I’d like to do everything I can to avoid falling back into that mindset. I’ve worked very hard to realize that God’s Plan is the best way for me to go.

God’s Plan doesn’t include my judging people and deciding who is good and bad. I can think I know what’s right and wrong at the moment. I look for the loving choices and that feels right to me. Unloving choices feel wrong to me.

People are all good at their core. Their essence is still perfect and pristine, regardless of their behavior.

Knowing that I don’t need to label people with some story I’ve made up.

I’ll stick to focusing my attention on remembering the truth, which is that we’re all good and perfect.

I hardly use the words “right” and “wrong” anymore. Mostly they’re helpful in describing how things feel. Paying attention to how things feel is a great skill that I work on each day.

Labeling people isn’t helpful to me, only to the ego.

I don’t work for the ego anymore.

Is there anyone you’ve labeled wrong that you could let go? You can still feel their actions are unloving but do you need to label the person? This is a very powerful and healing contemplation. We can call the angels in to help us and be willing to see clearly the Face of God in each one we meet for our own Peace of mind. It works! Peace is worth it!

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Marathon Woman

Monday, October 28th, 2019

It might seem counter-intuitive or it might seem just plain insane, but the pain is helpful. I used to be a runner. I ran the New York Marathon in 1986 with my Dad. In preparing to run the marathon I did many long training runs – 10, 12, 15, 18 and even 20 mile runs to get ready for the big 26.

It was a lot of effort, a lot of work, and it taught me a lot.

I learned that if I had some aches and pains before a run I wouldn’t take any kind of pain killer, because that’s how people injure themselves. If they’re numb to the pain then they don’t know when to stop, when to shift and change. It’s true for athletes and it’s true for everyone.

If we numb ourselves to the pain, the agitation and irritation, and all the other myriad of feelings and emotions then we’ll not be aware when to make a change.

I’ve learned this:

If I can feel it, Spirit can heal it – when I’m willing to let it go.

Pain often comes from blocking the flow of Love.

Even if we’re intentionally blocking the flow of Love, don’t we wish to have a wake-up call in order to know when we’re hurting ourselves?

I used to deceive myself into thinking I could block the pain and still have the Joy, but I ultimately had to face the fact that it’s not possible.

If I’m not willing to feel the emotions I don’t like, and the feelings that bother or confuse me, so I block them all, that’s not going to be the end of it.

I cannot selectively block the suffering, but allow the happy to spread like wildfire. If I shut part of my feelings down, I’m shutting them all down.

I’ve learned to be grateful that I get the emotions and feelings that signal when my thinking is sticking. I’m grateful that my feelings let me know when I’ve ridden the pain train to crazy town and it’s time for me to partner UP with the Higher Holy Spirit Self.

When we realize how much healing is available to us we can learn to become grateful for the indicators that we’ve lost track of what’s REALLY going on and it’s time to partner UP.

I’ve learned not to be distracted or deterred by trying to figure out or understand the ego perceptions, the causes of upset and other ego escapades.

Bottom line: the ego will never understand what the spirit already knows.

Why mess around with trying to figure out WHY we’re having a problem when we can go directly to the problem that has been healed back to the root cause?

I’ve made so many trips to crazy towns on the pain train and I don’t wish to make even one more. The things I learned that healed my life and led me to the happiness I have now are the gold and diamonds of my life. And that’s what I share in my classes.

It’s one thing to talk about it and it’s a healing thing to do the work!

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