I had many years where I stuffed a lot of my feelings. Anger was the one feeling I felt most comfortable with.
It was a huge learning curve for me to allow myself to feel my feelings without trying to stuff them back down.
What was amazing for me was that once I began to really allow myself to have more than just anger and fleeting happiness, I began to feel true Joy, as well. Sometimes I’d feel so joyful I’d begin to cry.
I had to develop the courage to feel the sad feelings as well as the intensity of anger and not just annoyance, frustration, irritation, feeling offended and hurt. It was profoundly liberating.
Then I had to learn not to stew and soak and marinate in the feelings.
I had to learn the discipline and Self-care not to add fuel to the fire. Unfortunately, it took years of painfully stoking those fires of pain and falling into the fire pit of pain, again and again and AGAIN, before I finally learned that I didn’t have to do that.
Part of our spiritual growth of Self-Love is to learn to honor our feelings.
We do this through a process:
- allow the feeling to come up for healing – don’t stuff them, or self-medicate them away
- feel them but not soak in them
- recognize the thoughts that are generating the feelings
- let them pass on through – forgive ourselves for believing the false-beliefs that are generating the upsets
It’s so helpful to learn how to do this.
We can learn to have our mind be like the sky. Clouds will pass through and seem to block the sun, but the sun is still there. We don’t have to focus on the cloud but we can notice that it’s there. We can KNOW that the cloud isn’t permanent. It’s a temporary appearance, not built to last.
Right now, many people are getting triggered by many things that are occurring. Old wounds are coming up for healing and we can choose that healing and share the benefits with everyone. Healing is happening now.