Archive for the ‘Healing’ Category

Feel Your Feelings

Friday, April 3rd, 2020

I had many years where I stuffed a lot of my feelings. Anger was the one feeling I felt most comfortable with.

It was a huge learning curve for me to allow myself to feel my feelings without trying to stuff them back down.

What was amazing for me was that once I began to really allow myself to have more than just anger and fleeting happiness, I began to feel true Joy, as well. Sometimes I’d feel so joyful I’d begin to cry.

I had to develop the courage to feel the sad feelings as well as the intensity of anger and not just annoyance, frustration, irritation, feeling offended and hurt. It was profoundly liberating.

Then I had to learn not to stew and soak and marinate in the feelings.

I had to learn the discipline and Self-care not to add fuel to the fire. Unfortunately, it took years of painfully stoking those fires of pain and falling into the fire pit of pain, again and again and AGAIN, before I finally learned that I didn’t have to do that.

Part of our spiritual growth of Self-Love is to learn to honor our feelings.

We do this through a process:

  • allow the feeling to come up for healing – don’t stuff them, or self-medicate them away
  • feel them but not soak in them
  • recognize the thoughts that are generating the feelings
  • let them pass on through – forgive ourselves for believing the false-beliefs that are generating the upsets

It’s so helpful to learn how to do this.

We can learn to have our mind be like the sky. Clouds will pass through and seem to block the sun, but the sun is still there. We don’t have to focus on the cloud but we can notice that it’s there. We can KNOW that the cloud isn’t permanent. It’s a temporary appearance, not built to last.

Right now, many people are getting triggered by many things that are occurring. Old wounds are coming up for healing and we can choose that healing and share the benefits with everyone. Healing is happening now.

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Good News

Thursday, March 26th, 2020

There is encouraging news mixed in with the tragic news. I’ll share the best news I’ve personally heard in a very long time. My friend Chris, who was taken to the emergency room two weeks ago with what they thought was a bad flu and who was diagnosed with pneumonia, and then later Covid-19, came home from the hospital after 14 days in quarantine. His husband and children are so HAPPY, as am I.

If you’re a person who prays, pray to know that all is well everywhere in this world. If you’re not a prayerful person, just bless everyone. That’s so beneficial to all!

Bless and bless again!

Sometimes, we might hesitate to bless someone we don’t like or feel should be punished. But if we think about it, when we bless those who seem to be generating hardship in our life, we’re helping them to have more clear insight about truth and Love and compassion and things that are helpful to all.

Bottom line: when we bless anyone, we bless everyone because all are connected.

This is so important to remember.

When we bless others, ESPECIALLY those who “despitefully use us” we are helping to undo the belief in separation. When we bless others, we bless ourselves because we’re One with them.

It’s never worth holding a grudge. Not for a single moment. The benefits of extending blessings and compassion are beyond our comprehension, and their are no benefits to holding a grudge.

When we can bless everyone we’re generating good news in our life every day. It will surely bring an increase of good news everywhere.

Let’s BE the blessing and share the blessing. It’s what we’re here for!

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Compassion Practice

Wednesday, March 25th, 2020

Today I drove over to the park to go for a long walk on a sunny day that was wonderful. Unfortunately, when I got back to my car my battery was dead. I just haven’t used my car enough while being quarantined at home (not sick, just being responsible) and so I had to call AAA and they came and jumped me. Life. I have compassion for myself for not realizing that I need to drive my car more. I have an old car with an old battery.

I had a nice little chat with the AAA fellow, and I’m grateful for any opportunity I can have to share a little kindness and connection with people. It’s such an intense time that we really can think of these exchanges as an opportunity to make the world a better place and spread some Love.

Let’s not take these exchanges lightly. They’re significant.

You never know when you might be talking with someone who is really terrified and going through something intense. Your kindness might really make a difference in their life. You’ll be so glad you made the most of that opportunity.

I did get to see some beautiful signs of Spring, including a surprisingly large turtle!





I’m so glad I can all still go for walks and practice social distancing.

One of the main things this virus is going to teach is that we need to practice kindness and responsibility – this will keep our vibration up and help us to heal our minds.

We’re all in a fast-track mind healing right now.
None of us can afford to lower our vibration.

Compassion is deeply healing and it can help us to transcend many things.

Practice, practice, practice.

I’ve learned to look at any place in my mind where I’ve been resistant to practicing compassion because I didn’t like something someone said or did.

Now I need to be more committed to my practice than ever, and I’m glad I can be. I’m so glad.

We can practice together and have tremendous healing. Yay, God!

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Transforming Terror to Peace

Tuesday, March 24th, 2020

Right now in the world, Covid-19, the Coronavirus, is raging in many places around the world. Countries are locking down. In some places, it’s illegal for people to be on the street with certain exceptions. There are all kinds of new rules and regulations coming into place. Some are to protect the populace and some are questionable invasions of citizen’s rights. Each country is different.

Some people are respecting the rules and warnings and some people are not.

We all have different ideas of what safety feels like, and we all have different trigger points of fear. As the U2 song says, “We’re one, but we’re not the same.” We’re not the same in our opinions and perceptions.

And so, we must respect these differences and have compassion for them.

As Thich Nhat Hanh, one of my teachers, has said, “Blaming never helps.”

A global pandemic is terrifying to a majority of people and we can respect how people feel while not giving in to the terror itself.

Terror, fear, comes from a perspective of wanting to control things that are not controllable.

Fear cannot arise unless attack is justified, and if it had a real foundation pardon would have none. The real world is achieved when you perceive the basis of forgiveness is quite real and fully justified.A Course in Miracles T-30.VI.3.

There will be more temptations to attack, to dispute, to make wrong than normal in this current climate of insecurity. Let’s not be tricked into believing our attack thoughts are correct. Let’s remember that “fear cannot arise unless attack is justified.” Anger and attack are so closely related, and neither is ever justifiable.

We can practice having an awareness of when we’re looking to justify our attack and our anger and lay those thoughts and beliefs on the altar. We invite the Higher Holy Spirit Self in to heal your mind about it. We will have healing as soon as we’re more willing than unwilling.

As soon as we’re more willing to let our belief go than we are willing to be righteous and right about it, the healing has happened.

Let’s go for that. More willingness.

Let’s focus on being willing to be HAPPY.

Right now, people are frightened and people are dying and people are grieving. Let’s not be petty about our grievances. I’d rather be kind to everyone now and be grateful they’re alive to annoy me.

I have a good friend who is in the hospital with this virus for 10 days now. No one can go and visit him. Lots of people are having their loved ones die in the hospital and they cannot be with them. So, if you’re finding yourself losing your patience with your loved ones, be EXTREMELY GRATEFUL they are there with you now. Raise yourself up by reaching for the Higher Holy Spirit Self. Don’t allow your vibration to fall down.

We’ll get through this and we have to do it together. LOVE is our healer. Not medicine, not food, not ventilators. LOVE.

How willing are you to practice radical patience right now? Please share in the comments below.

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Sheltering in Peace

Saturday, March 21st, 2020

I returned to New Jersey from Los Angeles this past Monday and I’ve been sheltering in place ever since. Even though my family is just a few miles away, I haven’t been to see them and I won’t go to see them because I don’t have a way to be tested for Covid-19. It’s entirely possible that I’ve been exposed while traveling, and it could possibly incubate for weeks without me having a clue. I’d rather be safe.

As an A Course in Miracles student, I know this: my script has already been written. Your script has already been written. All the possibilities for our lives are written into our script the way that all the possibilities are written into a video game script. We cannot change that script, but it’s vast. As with a video game, no one knows how we’ll play it.

In each and every moment we have the opportunity to choose Love.

The more we choose loving thoughts and actions, the more we open up the higher, more loving and harmonious aspects of our script AND the more we open up to new and sometimes intense challenges to help us increase and awaken our awareness even more.

The more we choose fearful thoughts and choices, the more we open up opportunities to learn through pain and suffering.

We can choose to learn through pain or Joy.

It’s our free-will choice.
We get to decide.

Mostly I choose to learn through Joy, but not always. I’m more consistent and I’m grateful for that.

I am choosing not to be afraid, and I’m also choosing to be responsible and not reckless. The protocols are quickly changing in this world, at least for now, and I am staying home, isolated in the physical realm by myself, but I have so many people I’m interacting with on Zoom and on the phone that I am feeling very connected with people. I’m actually talking with friends more often right now because it’s more important right now. What are you doing more of right now, besides praying?

I know that people are feeling worried and afraid, and so I’m working on things we can do to support people where they are.

I don’t feel worried and afraid, because I absolutely know that if I were to get sick that it would be in my script and it would be for my highest and best.

Being sick would present a series of forgiveness lessons that would be greatly beneficial, even if I didn’t like them.

I’m truly interested in the maximum growth opportunity, even though I must confess I don’t always choose it. Sometimes I shrink back and choose to avoid. Some days I feel stronger than others. Some days I have more dedication than others.

What I’m grateful to see is that every day I’m making more and more loving choices and that I am constantly feeling more free of ego thoughts, control, and manipulation. I rarely get bothered or upset, and when I do it’s usually quite fleeting.

If you feel something coming toward you in your script that you don’t like, make a change in your thinking. Call upon the Higher Holy Spirit Self and rise UP in your awareness by making as many loving choices as you possibly can. Don’t let it just come toward you and run you over – Partner UP and get help. Our mind is the Mind of God – we aren’t victims!

I’m looking at how we can offer my Finding Freedom From Fear Boot Camp sometime soon for those who are feeling really challenged by fear right now. If you’re feeling afraid, consider listening to my free podcast, A Course in Miracles. Consider subscribing, and you can search for topics that will support you at this time. There’s about 440 episodes, plenty of choices!

You can also subscribe to the Podcast of my Prayer for Today and you’ll have hundred of prayers to choose from – one for every occasion. Prayer works.

People tell me often that they fall asleep listening to me, and I’m not offended. I have the intention that my voice is soothing and inspiring, so if it soothes you to sleep that’s a good thing.

I’ve been thinking of making a recording of me whispering positive thoughts that someone could listen to as they fall asleep – would that interest you? I’m looking to be helpful. If that would be helpful, or any other thing you think I could offer, please suggest it in the comments below or email it to me at admin@jenniferhadley.com

Thank you!

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Friends with Coronavirus

Friday, March 20th, 2020

I have a friend whose husband who came down with a bad case of the flu. When things got REALLY bad, he took his beloved to the hospital where he was diagnosed with pneumonia and tested for Covid-19. A couple of days later, they got the test results back and it turns out he’s got the virus.

And he’s doing better since being in the hospital. Phew! He’ll be there another week at least, minimum 14 days, but he’s mending and that’s great.

My friend is home with their two little boys under the age of 5. It’s rough because they can’t go out and no one can come in, a whole new concept of home alone with kids. Imagine not being able to go out and play, having to be in a smallish apartment with little ones for weeks without a break. We have no idea how long they’ll be quarantined.

I’ve sent them a play tent with two crawl tunnels and I hope it will help wear them out and entertain them for hours. I wish I’d thought of it last week – it can’t get there soon enough!

I know others that have had symptoms but can’t get tested. They’re getting better, too. Phew!

In Masterful Living classes this week we’ve been talking about how we can reach out to people we know who might be having a tough time. I invite you to make a list of people that you can check in on and see how they’re doing. You never know when your phone call might make all the difference in the world to them.

Most of us know someone who doesn’t have a lot of family who lives alone, who is older, and in this kind of a situation they become isolated.

Someone without a spiritual practice, watching the news all day home alone, can really be way too much for them mentally and emotionally.

Who can you reach out to and check on?

Maybe it’s an aunt or a cousin that you hardly ever talk to. Get out your address book and start seeing what people are up to.

Make a list and get started connecting with them.

In Masterful Living we all have Zoom accounts. Get a free Zoom account and start having Zoom parties.

I have 4 Prayer Partners that meet with me every week on the phone. We’ve been doing it for about 13 or 14 years. Every now and then we have a special meeting and meet on Zoom. This week we did that and it was so good just to see each other.

I had a family meeting on Zoom with my brother, his wife, my niece and my nephew in one place, my nephew in Spain, my nephew in California, my Dad and his wife in North Carolina, and me. It was great!

My nephew, Ben, in California was quite despondent about the Bernie Sanders campaign, so I made my dad tell us all stories about campaigning in the 60s. My nephews had never heard these stories and it was great! (I’m encouraging him to work for the brilliant and beautiful Rep. Katie Porter who is his local rep.)

There was a beautiful moment when my dad got really choked up, remembering what those times were like for him and my mother. He told stories of my mother working for social justice and pushing me in the baby carriage. I remember being in marches against the Vietnam war with my mother, mothers and daughters marching on Mother’s Day. My nephews were so impressed, genuinely, and that was beautiful.

I am an instigator. I’m an activator. I feel compelled to see how I can be helpful.

It’s who I am.

And we’ve all got the same life purpose: to be TRULY helpful.

For many people, these times will be the most difficult times in their lives.

And we need to think of them right now and how we can help them.

This is the time of extreme pressure that forces people to get real and decide, are they going to change and grow or keep resisting? It will be very intense for many.

Let’s vow not to judge anyone and have compassion for everyone, even the ones who hoard toilet paper, even the ones who hoard protective masks when the healthcare workers have none. Judge no one, Love everyone.

We can do this – if we work together!

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Inspired by a Virus

Thursday, March 19th, 2020

Alright, all you poets! Now is a great time to inspire us with your insights! A Capuchin Franciscan Brother Richard Hendrick’s poem “Lockdown” went viral, and this St. Patrick’s Day we can see why.

Brother Richard Hendrick, a Capuchin Franciscan living in Ireland, has penned a touching poem about the Coronavirus.

He shared his poem “Lockdown” in a Facebook post on Friday, March 13.

Lockdown

They say that in Wuhan after so many years of noise
You can hear the birds again.
They say that after just a few weeks of quiet
The sky is no longer thick with fumes
But blue and grey and clear.
They say that in the streets of Assisi
People are singing to each other
across the empty squares,
keeping their windows open
so that those who are alone
may hear the sounds of family around them.
They say that a hotel in the West of Ireland
Is offering free meals and delivery to the housebound.
Today a young woman I know
is busy spreading fliers with her number
through the neighbourhood
So that the elders may have someone to call on.
Today Churches, Synagogues, Mosques and Temples
are preparing to welcome
and shelter the homeless, the sick, the weary
All over the world people are slowing down and reflecting
All over the world people are looking at their neighbours in a new way
All over the world people are waking up to a new reality
To how big we really are.
To how little control we really have.
To what really matters.
To Love.

So we pray and we remember that
Yes there is fear.
But there does not have to be hate.
Yes there is isolation.
But there does not have to be loneliness.
Yes there is panic buying.
But there does not have to be meanness.
Yes there is sickness.
But there does not have to be disease of the soul
Yes there is even death.
But there can always be a rebirth of love.
Wake to the choices you make as to how to live now.
Today, breathe.
Listen, behind the factory noises of your panic
The birds are singing again
The sky is clearing,
Spring is coming,
And we are always encompassed by Love.
Open the windows of your soul
And though you may not be able
to touch across the empty square,
Sing.

We’re standing for a rebirth of Love in our hearts.

We seek not to change the world but to change our minds about it, and to see that God has a plan that includes more Peace, more Love, and more Joy and we’re willing to allow it to be revealed in our hearts so we can share it with the world.

What has inspired you lately? Please share in the comments!

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Immune Booster

Wednesday, March 18th, 2020

This was first posted on February 28th, and is being posted again because so many people said it was helpful to them. Please share with others if you feel it can support them at this time. Thank you!

With all talk of the Coronavirus, how about some information about how to boost our immune system with ease and grace?

I remember years ago having Marci Shimoff tell me in a Living A Course in Miracles class that HeartMath Institute had done research about boosting your immune system with some simple techniques that many of us spiritual students already know about, and there were some interesting side notes.

In the study, subjects were asked to intentionally extend care and compassion for five minutes. Then a few days later, they were asked to feel angry about something that bothered them and to trigger that upset.

In each case, after five minutes of either being loving or angry, they could see the results in the subjects’ immune systems.

The loving subjects had their immune system boosted immediately by an average of 41%.

After an hour they returned to normal, but then slowly increased over the next 6 hours. Wow!

Most surprisingly, the students who were angry got an 18% immune boost, but an hour later their immune response had dropped to HALF what it was before they were angry – so a very significant repercussion. Six hours later, their immune system was still depressed.

Here’s another interesting fact — some of the subjects were shown a video of Mother Theresa and their immune system increased as much as 240% IMMEDIATELY.

So, what Marci told me back then is that a little bit of spiritual practice – 5 minutes of extending Love and compassion – will boost our immune system for six hours, and getting angry and upset will depress our immune system for more than six hours.

I would bet, but I have to know what to prove it or confirm, that the people who got angry and were able to fully release their judgment that was causing the anger would see a different immune response.

Many people stew on their anger, and that would, in my estimation, be the cause of the longer-term immune effects.

Be loving, be strong.
Focus on unloving, fearful thoughts and you’ll literally weaken yourself.

I used to teach spin classes in Los Angeles, and I told people that if it seemed really hard, think of someone you really Love with all your heart and no conditions and it will give you the strength to get through that tough part – and so will projecting Love and compassion to others.

Love is the Power.
Love is the healer.
Love is what we are!

Do you have something to share about this that can inspire us? Please share in the comments below!

If you like, you can read the HeartMath Institute source material here.

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Accepting the Unacceptable

Tuesday, March 17th, 2020

Not being able to accept what’s actually happening can be a very intense experience. When I knew my mother was not going to live much longer, I had to accept it. That was what was happening, and while I didn’t wish for her to leave this world, I couldn’t stop it. I had to accept it.

We all have had experiences where we very resistant to accepting something that felt unacceptable to us.

We rejected it on principle.

There are times when we are intensely challenged because we love someone who doesn’t want to have anything to do with us. Or, perhaps they care for us, but not in “that way” and so we have to accept how they feel.

There are many experiences in life that are intensely challenging to the ego that we can find so difficult to accept.

There’s power in accepting what is.

Even so, we don’t have to like what is. We just have to accept that “it is what it is.”

When we can accept what is without ascribing value to it, without making it wrong or right, bad, or good, then we’re moving into a place of holding things in our mind without judgment, which means we can learn how to see them objectively and correctly.

This is deeply healing.

When I cannot accept something, it becomes like a splinter in my mind, agitating and irritating.

Non-acceptance is like that sore tooth that you can’t stop running your tongue over to see if it still hurts. Acceptance brings relief, but when we don’t like something, we’d rather be in the pain of constantly rejecting it than move into the Peace that acceptance can bring.

Our ego attachment to being SO RIGHT about HOW WRONG something is can actually drain off years of our life spent invested in distress, irritation, resentment, regret, guilt, blame, and shame.

That’s no way to live.

Today on my podcast, I’m going to talk about accepting the unacceptable so that we can take our power back and use our time, attention, and energy more wisely. Let’s invest in something that actually brings us benefits!

I’m so grateful for this spiritual practice of A Course in Miracles! It brings me Peace every day even in the midst of great disturbances! Victory!

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Heroes of Healing

Monday, March 16th, 2020

One of the things I began to learn right away as a Spiritual Counselor was that I can actually help other people have miraculous healing. How? By seeing them correctly.

Whenever we’re willing to affirm the truth, witness truth, and celebrate truth, there is healing.

This is gratifying work. We can walk in the world as secret agent superheroes, blessing everyone we meet and bringing real benefit, if we choose.

Today, let us be heroes of healing.

Through our ability and capacity to extend Love, we become the healers that we were designed to be. That’s why Love feels so good to us. It’s our opportunity to be in alignment with the Divine, our own True Self.

We are designed to facilitate the healing of our own mind and that of our brothers and sisters.

A Course in Miracles tells us that all healing, whether it’s physical, mental, emotional, financial, etheric, spiritual or whatever, all healing is at the level of our thinking, the level of the mind.

All healing is essentially the release from fear. To undertake this you cannot be fearful of yourself. You do not understand healing because of your own fear.A Course in Miracles, T-2.IV.

It’s so wonderful that when we choose healing, the whole world is sharing in our healing.

Our choice is this powerful. Power-FULL.

Our choices make a difference to everyone, not just ourselves, they are potent and powerful.

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World View

Friday, March 13th, 2020

The way to recognize that you’re not seeing things correctly is to notice when you are upset. When we’re upset, it’s a healing opportunity. The upset is what I call our “Divine Alarm Clock” to let us know that we’ve got a skewed view. The skew of the view is why we’re upset. It’s never for the reason we think.

When our view is skewed, we can claim our healing opportunity gratefully and allow the healing and move on with grace and gratitude.

Now, that’s an option I like!

What I don’t like is feeling like it’s my job to be the police of the world.

When I first started to share more about A Course in Miracles around the world, I felt a number of people coming at me with their attacks. They wanted to prove I didn’t know what I was sharing about. They wanted to be right.

I was surprised at how many attacking and unloving comments I received. I realized that not everyone who studies ACIM aspires to really live the teachings and to be at Peace. And yet, the study of the Course will bring Peace, ultimately. Our willingness is ALL that’s required.

At first, when people were attacking me I thought it was pretty crazy, and it was. I prayed for those who were feeling compelled to attack.

My purpose was to facilitate a healing, and prayer is the medium of miracles.

I feel my prayers were answered because situations were transformed. To change the world, we work at the level of the mind that is in our heart.

In times when the intensity of density is immense, it’s time for us to rise to our calling and see things correctly.

All things work together for good. There are no exceptions except in the ego’s judgment.A Course in Miracles

Let’s not make any exceptions. Let’s choose to have a healing and use that upset to increase our awareness. It really works.

When we’re upset, there’s another way to see the world and we can find it. To see the better way, we must be willing to see beyond our projections. This is a skill we can cultivate. It’s what I’m training myself to do and showing others how to do.

A change of view is an inside job and it’s a great job to have!

Will you live in Peace? Or will you repeat the past?

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Self-Compassion is Healing

Friday, March 6th, 2020

I have a niece and three nephews, plus a goddaughter and other children in my life. Some of them aren’t children anymore. Loving them as they’re growing up from infancy to adulthood, I’m aware of how completely I love and accept them. Although sometimes I don’t understand or don’t like their choices, the love I feel is constant and unconditional.

As I observed these beautiful beings coming into my life and “falling in love” with them, I realized that I was not so loving with myself. Where I wouldn’t judge them at all, I would be very hard on myself for the same behaviors. Having this realization really helped me.

In large part because of my love for these children, I realized how incredibly hard on myself I was. I made a decision. I decided to do things differently.

I started to treat myself the way I would treat the precious children in my life. I began to practice Self-compassion in a big, big way. It was truly healing and life-changing for me.

One of the techniques that really helped me was to imagine my nephew, Alex, when he was 3 years old. He was such a cuddly sweet little muffin of a boy. He has a huge heart and so wide open to life. He was incredibly easy to share love with, and he was very affectionate.

When I would feel upset with myself, I’d think of Alex. Precious boy. And I knew I would never, EVER in a million years yell at that sweet boy or say one unkind word to him. So, I decided to extend to myself the same kindness and compassion.

Again, it’s the decision that’s so important.
We are deciders.
Deciding is how we change our life.

Be willing to pause when you’re in a self-attack and think of someone you dearly love, someone who is so completely precious to you. Consider if you’d speak to them the way you’re speaking to yourself.

See if you can begin your self-talk with words like: Darling, sweetheart, precious one.

I would remind myself that I am the beloved of the THE Beloved and my thoughts are powerful and precious.

This one thought was very helpful to me in remembering to have compassion for myself.

Children learn best when they feel safe and loved, not when there’s a threat of punishment. The same is true of adults and ourselves. Love is our healer. Compassion is Love. Love is what we are.

The way to get in touch with our true identity is to value ourselves. It’s not that complicated.

The more loving we are, the more we can tell that the false belief feels false and the more we can notice that the Love feels real. Our willingness greatly improves our ability to recognize the true from the false. If we’re not willing to know the truth, we’ll just keep swimming in the false until we feel like we’re drowning.

Self-compassion is a practice we can learn until we no longer feel attracted to punishment.

The more we practice compassion with others, the easier it is to practice compassion with ourselves, and vice-versa.

Today’s a good day to practice! Please share in the comments some of the ways you practice Self-Love and Self-Compassion. Let’s inspire each other!

Last month, I did two radio show episodes on the topic of the “Self-Love Isn’t For Sissies” and you can click to download or listen to that episode here.

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Courage to Heal

Sunday, March 1st, 2020

One of the great privileges I have in my ministry is that I get to have 1-on-1 conversations with the brave souls who are in my yearlong Masterful Living Course. I’ve been talking with many of them lately and I am so inspired by their courage.

On the surface, it might not seem as though it takes much bravery to participate in a spiritual class, But anyone on the awakening path knows that there are times every day when we’re given the opportunity to make a loving choice and it doesn’t feel comfortable.

Together, we as a community, make a commitment to relinquish our judgments and opinions, our criticisms and complaints, in order to speak honestly and openly.

We give each other the space to say how we REALLY feel and share what we’re REALLY going through and not put some kind of glossy spiritual spin on it pretending to convince ourselves it’s all good when we don’t really believe it.

We’re choosing to keep it real with each other. And that’s what Love is. We’re practicing our holy relationships, intimate relationships, healing relationships with each other in a safe space without judgment so we can take the training wheels off in our relationships with family, friends, and co-workers.

In order for any of us to actually awaken to our true identity as perfect Love, we have to be willing to bravely look within … and take out the trash! It’s so life-changing when we can stop identifying with the trash thoughts we’ve collected and actually give them to Spirit for healing.

It takes courage to look above the battleground of our stinkin’ thinkin’ and hold a vision of Love for our lives.

One of the things I love so much about A Course in Miracles is that it tells us, “You want to be happy. You want peace. You do not have them now, because your mind is totally undisciplined, and you cannot distinguish between joy and sorrow, pleasure and pain, love and fear. You are now learning how to tell them apart. And great indeed will be your reward. Your decision to see is all that vision requires. What you want is yours. Do not mistake the little effort that is asked of you for an indication that our goal is of little worth.” Lesson 20 I am determined to see.

It’s hard to believe that such a great reward comes from the decision to have a vision, yet the decision is required. I meet so many people who believe, often in secret, that they don’t have what it takes to be happy, successful, loving, and Joy-full. Their secret belief is running their life. They don’t even see that they can decide to have a different life.

Admitting it to ourselves is a big first step. It’s like being addicted to something. The first step in healing is to admit that you are feeling out of control and addicted. Admitting that your thoughts and behaviors are compulsive and you feel unable to stop yourself opens the door to the possibility of healing. Without that willingness to look at the shadow, we can stay stuck for a very long time.

A Course in Miracles tells us that it’s a mind-training system to help us recognize that where there’s a shadow, there’s something in our mind that’s blocking the Light and we can give it to the Higher Holy Spirit Self to do the heavy lifting. But if we won’t admit to ourselves that we’ve got this challenge, will we ever actually be available to the healing? Will we be stuck for lifetimes looking at the darkness instead of the Light?

We know we’re not open to healing when we blame anyone else for how we feel. We are a closed door, like a bank vault hiding a treasure, when we’re blaming and complaining. There’s no healing happening until we’re willing to take responsibility.

Taking responsibility for the way we feel, the mess we made, the things we did and said – 100% responsibility with 0% blame is often an act of bravery so potent that it will literally begin to transform our life onto a path of healing that is miraculous. I see it all the time.

Doing this healing together, side by side, is so much easier and that’s why I love when we can gather in a circle in any way, shape or form. Being the two or more who are gathered gives us the opportunity to realize we’re not the only ones who feel the way we do.

Realizing “I’m not the only one” is one of the major a-ha’s that people have in my classes and on my retreats. They start to realize that many people feel the way they do. And some of them are willing to go first to share, to heal, to change their minds.

There was a long period in my life where I felt helpless and hopeless a lot of the time, but I couldn’t admit it to anyone. I buried it deep because I so firmly believed it was completely impossible to have healing. Fortunately, it felt so awful, I couldn’t take it anymore and I finally decided to stop depending on my own strength to heal and I invoked the Higher Holy Spirit Self to do the heavy lifting. I made the decision to stop punishing myself and go for it.

Now, every day I connect with someone who is feeling deeply challenged and looking to find the courage to not give up and they’re reaching out to me. And almost every day I hear from someone who has found the courage to choose a new thought and they’re having miraculous healing. And we’re all One, all on the same journey.

If you’re like me and you’ve been a hoarder of complaints, opinions, judgments and criticism, along with a collection of resentments and regrets that you’re now ready to get rid of, stop thinking that you have to do it yourself because you really cannot do it that way. Give it to Spirit and be willing to have healing.

Your demonstration of willingness is an act of courage.

There’s no big or small about it. The tiniest bit of willingness is an act of courage.

Just saying “yes” to healing is an act of courage.

Be willing to tell Spirit each day “I AM willing to have a healing” and see what Spirit provides. Have the courage to accept and allow the healing. I’m consistently amazed at the active bravery of spiritual students who are willing to look within, face their perceptions, and release them to be healed!

Whenever you’re feeling upset in any way, it’s your golden opportunity to choose to heal. Have the courage to go for it – be willing to allow a pause before you choose. Your willingness lifts us all. All boats rise on this tide of Love.

Go for it! Let’s all learn HOW to ALLOW our healing.

Joining together for our healing, for the active practice of joining with Spirit and allowing my healing is precisely why every day I write inspiration and record a prayer to go with it. You can join me in cultivating the willingness that raises us ALL up so we can be truly helpful in this world.

Today we say a strong “YES!” to our healing. Even though we don’t know how, we do know we’re willing.

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Without Conditions

Saturday, February 29th, 2020

The greatest gift we can offer to anyone is to simply love them without conditions. I remember once a friend of mine said, “I love my brother unconditionally, but if he doesn’t stop … (whatever it was), I don’t want to have anything to do with him.” I get it. Sometimes we drive each other crazy.

That said, what I know is that when we can actively love folks we can truly have healing. It’s easy to get annoyed and frustrated with people. For many, it’s much more challenging to have patience and be kind. And yet, now that I’m living from my heart, it’s so much easier for me to be kind and caring. I feel better when I can extend patience and compassion. Why?

Because it puts me in the flow of Love.

We all know that complaining and criticizing, judging and attacking takes OUT of the flow of Love, but we can actually get back into the flow of Love really fast, but …

… we do have to choose it.

We have to be willing to choose it. Being willing to choose Love is what we’re built for. That’s why it feels so darn good!

When we start complaining we’re getting on the pain train – and that only has one destination – Margaritaville! (Or some other version of self-medication.) The pain train ride never ends up at a new destination, so why take that ride again?

There’s so much of life to enjoy, and the bulk of it is in our relationships with each other, with life and with nature. The more we contract and diminish the flow of Love, the less life there is in our life.

I’ve known many a person that has seemed to shrivel up into themselves because they feel it’s just too hard to keep their heart open.

Let’s face it: We aren’t keeping our hearts open if we’re judging and complaining. Let’s stop telling ourselves that we tried our best when we really didn’t.

Spirit can heal anything and everything because in the Infinite Mind of God, as it says in A Course in Miracles, nothing real can be threatened.

We learn to dissolve fear when we let our judgments go and learn to truly love without conditions.

It’s much easier than trying to love with conditions — which is impossible, by the way.

We can call upon Spirit to heal whatever needs to be healed and get out of the way. Love is the only healer that truly heals back to the root cause so we never experience it again. Let’s put the pedal to the metal and go for it!

We let Love lead us!

Love without conditions IS Freedom!

Who doesn’t wish to have more Freedom?

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Aversions

Thursday, February 20th, 2020

I used to have an aversion to people who were insecure. I admit it freely because I’m not the only one, and because healing that has been a huge relief to me.

The aversion I had to insecure people was actually to their thought patterns that caused their insecurity.

AND I can see now, with crystal clarity, that the aversion was actually to my own thought patterns of insecurity which frightened me.

Whenever there’s aversion, there’s fear.

When we dislike something intensely, we’re threatened by it. It doesn’t matter if we’re seeing it in ourselves or others.

When we’re living from our loving heart we can see what is a cry for Love and have compassion for it. My work as a Spiritual Counselor helped me to heal my own insecurity.

Once that was healed, then I could be with insecure people and feel tremendous Love without aversion.

My own willingness to have compassion for myself and others opened my heart to Love and that healed me. Love is the healer.

I’ve said it many times: If we’re trying to solve a problem with anything other than Love, we’ll still have a problem. We can rearrange the deck chairs on a sinking ship, but only Love will raise the boat.

I invite you to consider what you feel you have an aversion to. Think of your “pet peeves.” Think of the people who “rub you the wrong way.” These are opportunities for YOUR healing. When you no longer judge these people and situations, you will be free and then you can help others to liberate as well.

What aversion will you let go?

Let’s be very strong in our intention to BE the Peace we’d like to see in the world and stop the delusions. If we’re willing, Spirit will succeed within us. Spirit cannot fail. Let’s put Spirit in charge and be willing to live in Peace.

Please share in the comments section and let me know what aversion you’re willing to let go!

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Don’t Walk Away

Wednesday, February 19th, 2020

When people bother us and when our relationships are challenging and difficult, the temptation is to walk away, to get out and to shut the door. It can be very tempting. Many times I see people who feel threatened when a relationship is in jeopardy actually push the other person away so intently and so persistently that the other person gets the message they’re not wanted anymore, when nothing could be further from the truth. Many of us can be neurotic and operating inside the neurosis, but not even realize what’s going on. When people push others away precisely because they fear losing them, this is a hard way to learn. I’ve done it. Maybe you have, too. Feeling insecure and vulnerable can be so upsetting that we’ll take on an angry, tough stance in order to feel strong, but it doesn’t work. Only living from our loving heart brings strength. I used to be a bridge-burner.

I didn’t care if I burned the bridges in my relationships, because I was NEVER going back to where I felt vulnerable and insecure.

Why would I? Or, so I thought. Now, I’m not interested in burning any bridges.

I’m interested in cultivating relationships to last a lifetime and beyond.

And I have to accept that not everyone feels this way, and that’s temporary. It’s temporary because we’re all eternally One with each other, and that’s an inescapable fact.

We’ll always be in a relationship at the level of the mind.

So, why not make it also a successful and healing relationship, too?

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Relationship Healing

Tuesday, February 18th, 2020

I’m beyond grateful for the healing I’ve had in my relationships. It has taught me so much.

A Course in Miracles tells us that relationships are the #1 tool we have to heal our mind of all of our misperceptions.

And yet, most of us persist in continuing to blame others for our upsets and, in doing so, we miss the opportunity for healing that’s presenting itself.

I got so tired of the repeating patterns in my relationships, I just couldn’t stand it anymore.

Every time I got triggered I got upset to my core, and it was too much for me. I prayed and prayed and prayed for relief.

My relief came in the form of my realizing that I was responsible for what I saw, and I was choosing the upset that I wished to feel. It took me a while to figure it out, but once I was willing to take responsibility the rest was relatively easy.

“This is the only thing that you need do for vision, happiness, release from pain and the complete escape from sin, all to be given you. Say only this, but mean it with no reservations, for here the power of salvation lies:

I am responsible for what I see. I choose the feelings I experience, and I decide upon the goal I would achieve. And everything that seems to happen to me I ask for, and receive as I have asked. Deceive yourself no longer that you are helpless in the face of what is done to you. Acknowledge but that you have been mistaken, and all effects of your mistakes will disappear.” T-21.II.2.

Practicing this in our relationships is profoundly transformative.

It’s not for the lazy or faint of heart. It will rock you to your core, but in a way that’s healing and so helpful. It does require a tremendous willingness, an earnest willingness and a relentless willingness.

Ask yourself if you have that kind of willingness?

“Wilt though be made whole?”

If you don’t have the willingness, what are you waiting for?
Why do you delay?

Do you believe you’re helpless and hopeless?

If so, then you’re not relying upon the Higher Holy Spirit Self for healing, you’re relying upon ego and that’s the reason.

It’s not that you can’t heal, it’s that you won’t choose to believe it.

That can change, too, if you’re willing.

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Transforming Anger & Bitterness

Sunday, February 16th, 2020

This life is about the journey, not the destination – we hear that all the time, but we still focus on the destination and sometimes we even make the journey very unpleasant by judging ourselves every step of the way. Been there, done that.

We judge our experience on the journey when there’s no added benefit. After all, we learn through contrast, it’s a journey of contrast, peaks and valleys.

Think of Dr. King and his mountain top speech. King told us that, in his heart and mind, he had felt and seen the fulfillment of his dream. He declared it in his very last speech, one of my favorites. He said he knew he might not get to the promised land with us in form, but he had seen the coming glory and knew it was real.

On the eve of his assassination, he told us he knew he had played his part, as difficult and grueling as it was and he was grateful. He was filled with gratitude at having played his part and for being able to truly know the coming glory. That’s the way to live our life.

Let us be grateful that we can play our part in learning what it feels like to live in despair and then decide to move out of it. As we learn to grow towards the Light of our own being, we teach it, we demonstrate it, we share it. That’s a good and beautiful purpose and I’m glad for it.

Let us be grateful that we can play our part in learning what it feels like to live in self-judgment and then finally decide to love ourselves and move forward in that discovery where the Love is that much more precious because we had to dig for it.

Let us be grateful that we can play our part in learning what it feels like to blame others for our problems and live in resentment and then finally decide to release the judgment, forgive ourselves for straying off course, and then discover all the wisdom, all the healing that was encoded into everything that we had labeled as a betrayal.

Let us be grateful that we can play our part in learning what it feels like to live a loveless life of manipulating and controlling others and finally realize that only giving without attachment brings Love and happiness.

Let us be willing to catch the vision of our future glory and hold it in our hearts now with a deep and abiding gratitude, allowing it to manifest as our very life.

Let us enjoy the journey together and drop all judgment, all criticism and all blame so we can truly live the intended glory of our life now. NOW. Now is the time for us to DECIDE we’re done with playing small, and living in lack and limitation. Now is the time for us to choose to move towards the Light in a dedicated and devoted way.

I’m a huge proponent of becoming dedicated and devoted.

The more dedicated I am to Spirit, the more I can feel Spirit’s dedication to me.

It’s always been there, but now I can really FEEL how supported I am.

Before, I was rejecting all the Love of the Universe because I didn’t feel worthy.
It’s actually a discipline we have to learn in order to let Love in.

It sometimes seems as though we don’t have what it takes to really have a powerful spiritual practice because we’ve left a long trail of broken promises that we’ve made to ourselves. I know A LOT about that.

No matter what the past has been, we can start again in this moment and the key to our success will ALWAYS be allowing Spirit to do the heavy lifting of figuring out how the healing will happen.

We don’t have to figure out HOW.
Our one job is to ALLOW.

Spirit knows the way.

Life IS Love and Love knows the way. There is that within us that knows, and we can ALLOW ourselves to be led. Let us be dedicated and devoted to the truth.

Dedication to Love not to rules, and limitation.
Devotion to being kind, generous of heart, patient, and helpful has transformed my life because it has kept my attention on Love.

I used to be angry most of the time.
I felt bitter and resentful much of the time.

I would look for things to be upset about, in order to release some of the steam that was building up inside me. I’d blast it out all over people for any reason whatsoever. I didn’t think about others, I was only hurting and needing to explode.

I felt entitled to hijack the conversation, the day, the event, the dinner, or whatever was going on. I’d hijack it with my desperation and my upset.

Ultimately, I realized, I hate myself for doing that and I have to learn to stop.

I became very determined to learn patience, kindness and generosity of heart and to practice it NO MATTER WHAT. It wasn’t easy for me. It was extremely challenging and yet, just like when you challenge your physical body to strengthen through working out really hard, you can train your mind to be stronger and more fit.

And that’s what A Course in Miracles is.
It’s a mind training system that works.
When we apply it.

Learning to apply it was challenging only because my willingness to be loving was so much weaker than my need to be right about everything. That need to be right came from weakness. Every time I acted it out, I felt even more weak. What strengthened me was choosing to be loving.

And that’s why I offer Masterful Living now – because when we do it together it’s SO much easier. I’ve reopened registration for 1 week and it’s up on Monday – then registration is closed till next year.

I decided to have 1 goal – and that goal was to simply be loving.

Let’s pray to let Spirit lead us and guide us!

We use technology to transcend time and space and deepen our spiritual practice. And that’s beautiful!

Spirit is always for us and never against us and we can learn to rely upon that and when we do, we feel carried and lifted to much higher ground. Like, MLK, we can start to see and feel the promised land and recognize that it is within us. It has been there all along!

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Spiritual Success

Saturday, February 15th, 2020

Self-doubt is insanity. It’s plain crazy! Self-doubt is when the ego mind says:

“You don’t have what it takes”

Spirit ALWAYS has what it takes to do whatever It would like to do.

ALWAYS.

When we’re aligned with ego we’ll be filled with doubt, BECAUSE the ego can only accomplish that which is not worth accomplishing. THEREFORE, it’s naturally filled with doubt.

What the ego can accomplish is only of this world and has no lasting value.
What the ego can accomplish is only that which can lead to your suffering.

The value of suffering is that it PUSHES us to wake up and choose Spirit.

That’s about all the ego really has for us at this point, motivation to stop suffering.

What does that motivation really come from? The threat of increased suffering!

Is that any way to live?

Unfortunately, yes, it is and I have lived that way and it absolutely got me to the point where I said,

“I have had ENOUGH. I AM choosing GOD!”

Phew!

Who knew that in this world one of the best things that could ever happen is that my suffering would become intolerable and I would totally give up and surrender my life to the Higher Holy Spirit Self and then be grateful for everything I’ve experienced? What a wild ride!

I’m so glad to know that Spirit never fails.

Love ALWAYS wins.

If you don’t feel like you’re succeeding and winning and soaring, you can go the other way and that’s what I’d like to support you with.

That’s why I’m offering my free Self-Love classes this weekend. I just did 2 classes on Self-Love and they’re both available for you if you register. We’ve got replays on Sunday and Monday. People thought these classes were very helpful so check it out for yourself!

Doing this inner work on our own is really challenging. Most people don’t do it. But what I’ve learned from offering my Masterful Living Course these past 11 years is that doing it together, in community with like-minded souls, Spirit is in the midst of us and we become truly miracle-minded. Extraordinary healing happens in our community because of the level of support we offer each other. I’ve never experienced anything like it.

And that’s why I’m re-opening Masterful Living registration for 1 week only!

If you’re SO READY to make a change and don’t know quite how, if you have any inkling that TRULY living A Course in Miracles would heal your life, your relationships and your body, we may be the community for you. There’s so much support from like-minded folks all around the world. New friends await you. Prayer Partners. And a heck of a lot more.

Trust your intuition and book an Exploratory Call now to talk with a Spiritual Counselor – get all your questions answered so you can know if Masterful Living is the thing for you this year. Let this be the year your spiritual practice transforms your life in ways that you never thought possible.

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Life Loves Us

Friday, February 14th, 2020

This Valentine’s Day, how about deciding to BE the Love of your life?

Many years ago, during the month of February in honor of Valentine’s Day, I sat for hours in contemplative meditation about Love. It came to me so clearly that my primary relationship is with the Infinite Presence. My beloved is THE Beloved, regardless of what other relationships I might have.

On that fine Valentine’s Day gone by, as I continued my sittings in contemplative meditation about the nature of Love, what I came to feel was that the Beloved loves me with an infinite capacity to Love.

My Beloved loves me through everyone and everything. That’s how much my Beloved loves me.

What I awoke to is that I want to be THAT Lover’s lover.

With Spirit as the Love of my life, I choose to say with strength and Clarity that I AM devoted to the Lover who loves with no beginning and no end. The Beloved holds nothing against me and cannot do enough for me. Everywhere I go, there my Lover is, rejoicing in me, making my way joyous.

Miraculously, with this realization of being adored by the Divine, I’ve been able to walk (more and more every day), with the sense that the Beloved is with me always. This soulful realization has led me to be more loving, more kind to everyone I meet – knowing that they are an aspect of my Beloved, the source of all Love. This realization has led me to be more receptive to the good that my Beloved is always trying to express for me and around me. This is where the devotion is for me. My Beloved cannot help but give to me, and I am receptive to it or it passes me by.

Because I feel so well loved, it is easier for me to be more patient, kind, generous, and more like my Beloved. I have finally learned how to walk in the awareness that I give only to my Beloved, and it is only my Beloved who gives to me – no matter what it looks like or who is standing in front of me. Always, it is my Beloved. I am in love with The One who invented Love and The One who invented Love is in love with me ~ and ever shall it be so.

Since All is One, I know that you, too, are the Beloved of the Beloved – and ever shall it be so. When we practice Self-Love as a spiritual practice, it’s amazing how our problems fade away and disappear, healed.

And that’s why I’m offering my free Self-Love class today, Valentine’s Day. I did a class yesterday, and I promise today’s will be different and complementary so that you can get both recordings and listen to them later and get 2x as much out of this free class.

In our class yesterday, I offered to post on my Jennifer Helen Hadley Facebook page the opportunity to create together a list of 100 ways we can Love ourselves. Please click here now to contribute!

Doing this inner work on our own is really challenging. Most people don’t do it. But what I’ve learned from offering my Masterful Living Course these past 11 years is that doing it together, in community with like-minded souls, Spirit is in the midst of us and we become truly miracle-minded. Extraordinary healing happens in our community because of the level of support we offer each other. I’ve never experienced anything like it.

And that’s why I’m re-opening Masterful Living registration for 1 week only!

If you’re SO READY to make a change and don’t know quite how, if you have any inkling that TRULY living A Course in Miracles would heal your life, your relationships and your body, we may be the community for you. There’s so much support from like-minded folks all around the world. New friends await you. Prayer Partners. And a heck of a lot more.

Trust your intuition and book an Exploratory Call now to talk with a Spiritual Counselor – get all your questions answered so you can know if Masterful Living is the thing for you this year. Let this be the year your spiritual practice transforms your life in ways that you never thought possible.

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Ripples of Love

Thursday, February 13th, 2020

I’m excited for today! I’m offering my free Self-Love class and that’s fun for me. I’m offering the class today and tomorrow for Valentine’s Day.

At the time in my life when I felt my lowest I made a commitment to love myself, and it was one of the best decisions I ever made. I’m quite certain it changed the trajectory of my life.

Most people are actively blocking the flow of Love in their life with their thoughts and choices, while simultaneously actively trying to make more Love happen by shifting things in the world.

Life just doesn’t work that way.
First we change on the inside and then it changes on the outside.
It doesn’t work the other way.

Self-Love has such profound ripple effects.

We see it every year in Masterful Living. As people change their attitudes and beliefs, they naturally are more Self-Loving and less self-attacking, and then their relationships improve, their jobs improve, and their health improves.

Just think what not loving ourselves costs us!

When we don’t love ourselves, we’re going to bully and manipulate other people around us to be different.

We’ll NEVER be satisfied until we change that behavior.

Even if everyone around us succumbs to our wishes, we’ll not be satisfied because we know it came through intimidation. There’s no security in that. In fact, it is the very foundation of IN-security. Sigh.

Self-Love changes those debilitating, depressing and demeaning patterns so thoroughly. Isn’t that wonderful?

Love is amazing and it’s also unlimited.

Nothing is more powerful than Love, so let’s stop looking for ways to MAKE Love happen, and just let it flow unimpeded. Love will teach us every time.

Doing this inner work on our own is really challenging. Most people don’t do it. But what I’ve learned from offering my Masterful Living Course these past 11 years is that doing it together, in community with like-minded souls, Spirit is in the midst of us and we become truly miracle-minded. Extraordinary healing happens in our community because of the level of support we offer each other. I’ve never experienced anything like it.

And that’s why I’m re-opening Masterful Living registration for 1 week only!

If you’re SO READY to make a change and don’t know quite how, if you have any inkling that TRULY living A Course in Miracles would heal your life, your relationships and your body, we may be the community for you. There’s so much support from like-minded folks all around the world. New friends await you. Prayer Partners. And a heck of a lot more.

Trust your intuition and book an Exploratory Call now to talk with a Spiritual Counselor – get all your questions answered so you can know if Masterful Living is the thing for you this year. Let this be the year your spiritual practice transforms your life in ways that you never thought possible.

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Getting Help

Wednesday, February 12th, 2020

Yesterday, in my A Course in Miracles podcast, I was sharing that Self-Love isn’t for sissies. It actually requires quite a bit of courage. It’s that courage that helps us to bring on a breakthrough.

Look, it’s not hard to understand that if we don’t love ourselves, other people aren’t going to love us either – or so it will seem.

When we don’t love ourselves, even if other people love us dearly, we won’t believe it, we won’t buy it if we don’t love ourselves.

If we believe we’re unlovable, we won’t be able to make sense of someone else loving us. If we can’t believe it, we’ll reject it as false.

This is why when we do the inner work to heal the unworthiness, our whole life shifts in unexpected ways.

In this world, like attracts like.
When we shift, the world we experience shifts.

People work so hard to get other people to love them and pay attention to them, to respect them and take care of them, but the MUCH faster path is to work on our own beliefs and thought patterns.

The challenge is that many of us would rather work on changing the world than changing our minds. Why? Because we actually don’t believe we can change our thinking. It seems so hard – but it’s also an issue of we believe we’re right, and we don’t like to give up being right – even when we’re right about how wrong we are!

That’s crazy thinking!

If we’re utterly convinced that we’re unworthy and unlovable, we will definitely either go into depression and despair or we’ll focus on trying to manipulate the world to bring us what we want. That’s a lot of effort, and it only brings more disappointment.

This is why I like to put Spirit in charge and invite Love to do the healing.

That way I’m not relying upon my own devices.

I like to get all the help I can get. I don’t like to go it alone.

All of our answers depend on our listening to Spirit for our healing, and that’s great, because Spirit actually does have our answers!

Doing this inner work on our own is really challenging. Most people don’t do it. But what I’ve learned from offering my Masterful Living Course these past 11 years is that doing it together, in community with like-minded souls, Spirit is in the midst of us and we become truly miracle-minded. Extraordinary healing happens in our community because of the level of support we offer each other. I’ve never experienced anything like it.

And that’s why I’m re-opening Masterful Living registration for 1 week only!

If you’re SO READY to make a change and don’t know quite how, if you have any inkling that TRULY living A Course in Miracles would heal your life, your relationships and your body, we may be the community for you. There’s so much support from like-minded folks all around the world. New friends await you. Prayer Partners. And a heck of a lot more.

Trust your intuition and book an Exploratory Call now to talk with a Spiritual Counselor – get all your questions answered so you can know if Masterful Living is the thing for you this year. Let this be the year your spiritual practice transforms your life in ways that you never thought possible.

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We Serve the Light

Monday, February 10th, 2020

This is what I’ve noticed: When we live our life to serve the Light, then we KNOW in each moment that we’re on track and all is well, regardless of what the appearances are.

Each day we choose what we will serve – God or mammon, Spirit or ego, Higher Holy Spirit Self or small, selfish self.

When we are living our life in service to the selfish self, we become annoyed, offended, manipulative and depressed.

When we live to serve the Light, we have insights, miracles, delightful surprises and ever-increasing faith.

We’re the ones who invented this illusory life separate from Spirit, and as long as we serve that dream we are making it impossible for us to be happy for more than a moment.

When we serve Spirit with our life, then we are fulfilling our destiny.

For the ego-identified person, it’s hard to imagine that putting Spirit in charge would mean we could have a happy life. The more I place Spirit in charge, the more Peace I have.

Putting Spirit in charge requires me to have trust in Spirit.
I’ve had to develop that trust.

And here’s how I did it:

In each and every moment, we’re placing our trust in either Love or our own perceptions and projections. I realized that putting my trust in my perceptions and projections was a HUGE mistake and was ruining my life. I decided to quit it the same way I quit smoking. One moment at a time. One decision at a time.

I was willing to really look at the many decisions I was making to rely upon my own interpretations of things and realize how much I was hurting myself.

I decided to put Spirit in charge.

It’s a journey.

I am on this road of development of trust every day.

Each and every day, I discover new ways that I’m not helping myself that I can correct and I rejoice to discover them.

I’m unlocking a joyful life. I’m traveling with like-minded souls. It’s a journey of discovery.

And this is precisely how we serve the Light.

Each in our own way, and yet together.

Doing this inner work on our own is really challenging. Most people don’t do it. But what I’ve learned from offering my Masterful Living Course these past 11 years is that doing it together, in community with like-minded souls, Spirit is in the midst of us and we become truly miracle-minded. Extraordinary healing happens in our community because of the level of support we offer each other. I’ve never experienced anything like it.

And that’s why I’m re-opening Masterful Living registration for 1 week only!

If you’re SO READY to make a change and don’t know quite how, if you have any inkling that TRULY living A Course in Miracles would heal your life, your relationships and your body, we may be the community for you. There’s so much support from like-minded folks all around the world. New friends await you. Prayer Partners. And a heck of a lot more.

Trust your intuition and book an Exploratory Call now to talk with a Spiritual Counselor – get all your questions answered so you can know if Masterful Living is the thing for you this year. Let this be the year your spiritual practice transforms your life in ways that you never thought possible.

FREE CLASSES – Enjoy them now:

Self-Love: A Gift You Give Yourself for Valentine’s Day – 2 FREE online classes Feb 13 and Feb 14 – come and invite a friend. Click here to register now.

Resisting growth is a form of self-sabotage. My End My Self-Sabotage Challenge is available now on replay. Enroll now, the first 2 days are free.

We’re developing the ability to Love ourselves free of all resistance to living a life of Love and we’re willing to look at no longer playing small. We’re cultivating the willingness to rise and shine and break out of our cocoons.

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Three Little Words Changed Everything

Sunday, February 9th, 2020

One of the things that has come clear to me in my work training teachers and Spiritual Counselors is that if we’d like to stop playing small and be truly helpful in this world, living the Love, walking the talk, and giving up the feeling of constriction, then making higher vibrational choices is the thing that supports us.

Many of us go through long periods, many, many years, of self-medication and self-sabotage before we become willing to make higher vibrational choices. We keep playing small until the pain of us is so much that we cannot bear it any longer.

Often we think that the path requires us to go cold turkey on something and to control our impulses and deprive ourselves, and so we are resistant and reluctant to choose the very thing we desire the most.

If we view the path of healing as a path of deprivation, sublimation and regulation, it can feel very painful, and here’s the most painful part: with that method of trying to control ourselves, we’re healing at SUCH a slow pace because we’re actually putting the ego in charge of our healing rather than the Spirit.

I struggled for decades trying to manage and control my impulses ALL DAY LONG.

I had impulses to be mean and rude and unkind. I had impulses to do many things too much: eating, drinking, smoking, talking, gossiping, playing, exercising, and on and on. More was always better because I was looking to medicate and sedate myself, to distract myself from what I was feeling.

It took me decades to realize that my feelings were the indicator of whether or not I was on the right track. I wasn’t honoring my feelings. I was trying to push them down and NOT feel them.

I had no idea that learning to sit with my feelings was self-loving. I didn’t realize that being self-loving would lift my vibration and heal my life.

Love is what we are.
That’s why Love is the ONLY permanent healer.
Everything else is temporary cessation of the symptoms..

When we have the courage and willingness to sit with our feelings out of Self-Love, we learn not to fan the fire of our upset but to let the judgments and opinions go. Judgments and opinions are our interpretations, and if they’re upsetting to us, they’re not correct.

We’re never upset for the reason we think.

Fanning the fire of our upset is unkind to ourselves – PROFOUNDLY unkind. It’s self-attack. It’s punishment. It kept me on a hamster wheel of playing small. I learned this because I was upset so much of the time, and I even wanted everyone to validate me by joining me so we could all be upset together. Misery loves company.

I learned that upsetting other people was one of the most low vibrational choices I could make. It was “dragging people down with me.” And deep down, I knew it was just affirming my own feelings of “I’m bad and wrong, not worthy of Love.”

I often went into self-medication of fantasy as an escape from my painful feelings. I had so many low vibrational choices to either punish myself or escape from how I felt about myself. I didn’t know that I was digging a deeper low vibrational hole for myself. I was unhappy in the illusion, so I was trying to escape by going deeper into it through fantasy. It made me feel even more lost in time and space.

Finally, because of my prayers and my willingness, I began to discover that consistently looking for even a SLIGHTLY higher vibrational choice I could find my way out of my own personal hell.

The slightly more loving choices I began to make, day after day, built up my increasing willingness. I began to be excited to look for the more loving and higher vibrational choices. It stopped feeling like a drag to “have” to be more loving, instead of pushing myself and berating myself into making more loving choices (just think of that! LOL!).

I started to notice the feeling of the vibrational shift, and I liked it!
I was feeling SO MUCH better about myself.

My impulses to self-medicate were demeaning to me, and I was shifting into more loving choices. I came to a point where I decided to go all-in for God. The more I chose Love, the more I healed and the easier my life became.

One thing that really helped me was learning to sense if what I was doing felt violent in any way. If it felt like it was being unkind in any way, that would be the vibration that would let me know. That awareness became the opportunity to make a higher vibrational choice.

I learned to ask for guidance,
Listen for the response,
Allow my Self to choose it.

Ask. Listen. Allow.
Three little words that changed everything.
It’s a powerful formula!

Spirit will always guide us to the higher vibrational, more loving choice.
When we choose Love, suddenly we’re not playing small anymore. Nice!

Ask, listen, allow are three little words that turned into “I Love You.”

I got myself back into the flow of Love, and that started me on the healing path that I’m still on.

There have been times when it felt like a very intense roller coaster ride. I happen to like roller coasters. I love the laughing and screaming. I love having my hair blown back.

In our wild ride, let’s let the Higher Holy Spirit Self hold us, lead us and train us as we remember to Love ourselves free of lack and limitation by choosing a higher vibration. This way, we stop repeating the past.

Doing this inner work on our own is really challenging. Most people don’t do it. But what I’ve learned from offering my Masterful Living Course these past 11 years is that doing it together, in community, with like-minded souls, Spirit is in the midst of us and we become truly miracle-minded. Extraordinary healing happens in our community because of the level of support we offer each other. I’ve never experienced anything like it.

And that’s why I’m re-opening Masterful Living registration for 1 week only!

If you’re SO READY to make a change and don’t know quite how, if you have any inkling that TRULY living A Course in Miracles would heal your life, your relationships and your body, we may be the community for you. There’s so much support from like-minded folks all around the world. New friends await you. Prayer Partners. And a heck of a lot more.

Trust your intuition and book an Exploratory Call now to talk with a Spiritual Counselor – get all your questions answered so you can know if Masterful Living is the thing for you this year. Let this be the year your spiritual practice transforms your life in ways that you never thought possible.

My grandmother used to say, “You can get used to hanging if you hang long enough,” and it’s true. I had been hanging a long time before I had my breakthrough.

If you don’t see a clear path to happiness ahead of you, we may be your ticket to a happier life. You’ll do the work, but at least you’ll know what to do and have mighty companions to do it with.

Each one of us absolutely CAN realize that the Spirit is COMPLETELY holding us. We cannot fail if we ask, listen, and allow the guidance to flow in our heart. Cultivating trust and faith is an investment that pays the REST OF YOUR LIFE. Prayer is an investment in Spirit that always pays

I record a new prayer every day, and this is my 14th year of doing it. Let’s pray to be willing to live a life we love. You can click and listen now. We use technology to transcend time and space and deepen our spiritual practice.

I am grateful for this path of healing that we’re on and our ability to develop a spiritual practice that actually heals! Onward and upward, together we rise in Love!

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Heart Healing

Thursday, February 6th, 2020

I’m in a relationship with Spirit and that’s a beautiful and powerful thing. It’s essential to my happiness and fulfillment that I am fully IN this relationship with the Divine. Meaning, in order for me to be happy and prosperous, I must fully participate.

There was a time when I was not committed to the relationship, not by a long shot. I was playing a game of “hard to get” with God. I was keeping score in the most demented way.

There’s an old paradigm of thought about making deals with God. In that game, God is the sometimes loving, sometimes punishing parent. The relationship is co-dependent. “I’ll do this, if God does that.” And “I’m a lowly sinner, but as long as I grovel and repent, Daddy loves me.” There is no partnership. It is the original dysfunctional family!

It’s my intention to help dissolve that old paradigm through awakening to my Divinity. My Divine Essence isn’t something to be experienced someday in the future – when I give up my ways as a sinner and get to Heaven. It’s here NOW – and forever. I AM the One who decides to see it, know it, live in it and share the benefit with all beings, because I AM One with them. Right now, I have a “response-ability” to expand MY awareness, to live in this fundamental Truth: I AM One with God, eternal and infinite.

“Your holiness is the salvation of the world. It lets you teach the world that it is one with you … by your quiet recognition that in your holiness are all things blessed along with you.” ~ A Course In Miracles

We’re responsible for our thoughts in the same way that we’re responsible for keeping our home clean and clear of clutter. We’re the ones who actually choose each and every one of our thoughts – over and over again. It can feel like it’s too much responsibility to clear the thousands of errant thoughts. That’s where Spirit can succeed, if we’re willing to allow it.

It can all feel like too much responsibility, too much clutter, too much of too much, but only when we go it alone.

“I, of myself, can do nothing.”
Spirit can do it all. When we allow.
Our relationship with Spirit is our primary relationship. And it’s also in EVERY relationship.

This is why Jesus said, “What you do to the least of them, you do to Me.”

It’s challenging to really be willing to see, know, and experience the unity of all life and the partnership that is always present to us. But if we don’t recognize the partnership with ALL life, we suffer. And we’ve suffered enough.

Consider anyone in your life that you feel doesn’t deserve your compassion. And then remember, “What you do to the least of them, you do to Me.”

To be able to have compassion for everyone and anyone is a heart healing.

This is the way back to a functional human family. We’re doing our part every day. That way the score is always “perfect Love.”

FREE CLASSES – Enjoy them now: Resisting growth is a form of self-sabotage. My End My Self-Sabotage Challenge is available now on replay. Enroll now, the first 2 days are free.

We’re cultivating the ability to Love ourselves free of all resistance to living a life of Love and we’re willing to look at no longer playing small. We’re cultivating the willingness to rise and shine and break out of our cocoons.

TODAY is my Sacred Circle day and I LOVE it!

This is my monthly membership program that gives you a weekly call of group spiritual counseling with me. Join my Sacred Circle and you can ask me any question you would like on the phone, on line or in writing! I love it! We have an awesome group of people who are doing the deep work! Try my Sacred Circle for a month and see! 4 spiritual counseling calls with me each month – ask me any question! Join me live or get the download later.

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