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Catch, Release and Replace

Monday, October 26th, 2020

Are you ready and willing to have a more miraculous life starting now? Yesterday, in Sundays With Spirit I was sharing a spiritual practice that I call “Catch, Release and Replace.”

If you think of what some fishers do – they catch fish and then release them rather than killing them, I’m taking that idea and putting a completely different spin on it.

We’re catching judgments, complaints and any other kind of attack thought, releasing them to the Higher Holy Spirit Self for healing and then replacing them with thoughts of Love, generosity, kindness, compassion and willingness to choose again.

It’s a simple three step process that anyone can do.

It’s easy to remember and it’s deeply healing

By making this part of our constant spiritual practice we train our mind to be mindful of when we’re veering off track from our commitment to Love and to being loving.

If you’re deeply interested in transforming your mind, healing the obsessive, compulsive negative thinking and aligning with the Spirit of Love, then this deceptively simple practice is a welcome addition.

In my experience, this practice is miraculous for ANYONE who uses it. It certainly has been miraculous for me!

If you’d like to start living a more peaceful and less stressed life – please incorporate this into how you observe your mind, and how you invest your attention throughout the day. Your willingness is all that’s required. Your willingness is evidence that you’re placing your trust and faith in Spirit rather than your own judgments and opinions.

Happy healing!

NOVEMBER:  Are you interested in Spiritual Counseling or just developing your relationship skills?  You might be interested in my Spiritual Counseling Training Intensive November 15 to 21st.  I’ll be doing this intensive training in-person (in New Hampshire where there’s very little virus) and, for the first time ever online – so you can join from anywhere.  If you’re curious, but not sure, book an exploratory call with a spiritual counselor to learn more.  

COMING SOON – Masterful Living 2021 registration opens in a couple of weeks – with bonuses to inspire you to commit early and you can get on the waiting list for the early-bird right now.  Click here now for the Masterful Living waitlist.

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Changing Everything

Sunday, October 25th, 2020

I can remember so many years, heading into the winter solstice, with the days getting consistently shorter, my birthday, the holidays and the winter itself, would bring a certain kind of feeling similar to PTSD, for what I’d experienced in the past.

I used to go into the holidays EXPECTING to be disappointed.  I used to anticipate that I’d be revisiting the same painful hurts and memories as previous years.  

I would look for the offenses and upsets that matched my experience in the past so I could reinvigorate the painful meaning I’d made of things in the past.  And then I’d get to be right all over again.  

Not happy, but right.

Can you relate? 

I’ve found this is a common theme for people, and for those of us in the northern hemisphere it starts now.  In the USA we have Thanksgiving at the end of November, plus my birthday.  Thanksgiving is the biggest family holiday we have.  The day before, is always the biggest single travel day in the USA all year long, which is an incredibly stressful way to begin a holiday.

So many triggers, so little time.

But I have a different experience now.

First of all, it’s been years since there was pain and upsets at the holidays in my life.

This year, very few will be traveling – which will be very sad for many Americans – we’re missing our families.  Thank God for Zoom!

I can remember when I used to visit family and after 3 days I’d start to feel sad and depressed.  

I’d start thinking:  “Why do I keep doing this to myself?

Why do I keep thinking that I can stay for a week when I start to feel depressed after just a few days? 

Why do I keep repeating the same madness expecting a new experience?

What’s wrong with me?”

And on and on.

So many triggers – so little time.

Here’s what changed everything for me:  Taking responsibility.

As part of my deciding not to be focused on judging, complaining, constantly criticizing, and looking for problems, I began to start to look for ways to extend compassion and kindness.  

When offense was taken, I committed to being the one who would go first and make amends. 

I stopped taking everything personally because I started to see all my attacks on others were more about me than about them.  

And then, as my mind started becoming more kind and loving, I began to see that none of my attacks were about them and ALL of them were about me.

None of this happened over night.  

It was slow and gradual change over MANY YEARS.

But the super cool thing is that I realized every change I made rippled out to my family and friends.

I could be the one who decided whether or not I was pissed off and hurt.  The upset couldn’t happen without my agreement!  

It was me.  I was the one I had to forgive for having made my life into a portal to hell.

I studied spirituality for nearly 20 years feeling that truth was an ever-illusive mystery that I just couldn’t get to.  For me, truth was just beyond one more door that I was trying to pry open.  I was looking outside myself for insight, thinking that an intellectual approach would bring me what I was looking for, because my intellect had always (or so I thought!) helped me in the past.  

I’d figured out my problems in the past.  

I could figure out how to get connected to Spirit.

I didn’t know that the intellect is a tool of the ego.  

But, through my deep desire of the heart to truly know Spirit, and to truly break free of pain and suffering, I was led and guided.  It was ONLY my willingness that helped me to see through the bushes and brambles of ego blocks and subterfuge. 

I now LOVE this time of year for a whole new set of reasons!  Check this out:

From September into January, I get to have 1 on 1 appointments with all the folks who are in my year-long Masterful Living Course.  When we talk early in the year, things are challenging.  It’s not so easy.  People are looking deeply into their patterns and habits to eliminate the causes of suffering.  Some people experience it with a lot of Joy and Freedom, but not all.  Some begin having many miracles all at once.  But that’s not true for everyone.  Some folks find it super challenging and they are heroic in their not giving up.  

I’ve been having 1 on 1’s with the folks in this community for years now and it’s such a pleasure, especially this time of year.  By now, most people in Masterful Living are telling me their successes in how this year has been so life-changing for them.  They’re telling me how differently they feel about themselves and their life.  They tell me stories of marriages that are experiencing a rebirth of Love, and relationships with family that are getting better every day.  They’re looking forward to doing the holidays differently.  

And, because we have people who continue doing the work together with me and the community for years, I get to celebrate the long term AMAZING transformation of their lives, careers, families, finances and more.

When someone is absolutely convinced that they are unlovable, 

and now they know it’s not true, 

that changes every minute 

of every day 

of the rest of their lives –

and for those around them as well.

I love listening to a beloved member of this community share how they made a decision to do something differently in their workplace because they just wanted to be nicer to the people in their lives.  Over the course of a year, their shifts change the entire culture of their workplace.  Then, their co-workers take home a different attitude and they share that with their family.  Their children take that with them to school, and then the other kids in their class take that home to their family and that’s how the world changes.

A Course in Miracles says:  Seek not to change the world, but to change your mind about the world.

It works!  

That’s why I’m committed to proving it.

I absolutely LOVE the last third of the year.  It’s four months of reaping the rewards and celebrating the benefits.  They aren’t dark months anymore.  There’s nothing to fear anymore.  It’s win-win all the way!

AND – this year it feels quite different, because mixed into that celebratory experience is an awareness of the intense challenges that so many all over the world are having.  More than ever, this is a time for us to cling to our spiritual practice and deepen it beyond anything we ever thought was possible.  

A greater commitment to walking the talk and living the Love lifts us all.

You can still join our 40 Day Meditation Challenge at any point, it’s free – all are welcome.  You can join us every Sunday for Sundays with Spirit – it’s free.  We can do this together and lift each other!

NOVEMBER:  Are you interested in Spiritual Counseling or just developing your relationship skills?  You might be interested in my Spiritual Counseling Training Intensive November 15 to 21st.  I’ll be doing this intensive training in-person (in New Hampshire where there’s very little virus) and, for the first time ever online – so you can join from anywhere.  If you’re curious, but not sure, book an exploratory call with a spiritual counselor to learn more.  

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TODAY, you can join me, Mary Gerard Lenihan and Susanne VanDyke.  We’re coming together to share our inspiration in many ways.  We’ll have a spiritual celebration together with message and music – we call it Sundays With Spirit.  Please invite your family!  If you can’t join us, you can catch the replay!  Because we’re going to be live on video, you’ll have to register to get the details.  All are welcome, there’s no charge, but you do have to register, unless you’ve already registered in the past.

When you register, you’ll also get easy access to past services with Jon Mundy, Lisa Natoli, David Hoffmeister, Maureen Muldoon, Corinne Zupko, Maria Felipe, Frances Xu, Jimmy Twyman and more.  If you’ve already registered for a previous Sunday – you don’t need to register again, you’ll get a reminder with the details automatically.  

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COMING SOON – Masterful Living 2021 registration opens in a couple of weeks – with bonuses to inspire you to commit early and you can get on the waiting list for the early-bird right now.  Click here now for the Masterful Living waitlist.

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No More Tolerating Hate Speech

Friday, October 16th, 2020

Yesterday, I saw a headline that startled me and so I posted the link to the article with the picture

And I asked this question:

“I’m curious, do you think she would feel like HER workplace was hostile if someone used the word that begins with c and rhymes with runt? Just wondering … what are your thoughts?”

The comments quickly became political, which is not what I had been hoping for. And so, I spoke up in the comments and then I revised my post all together and said this (with a couple of additional edits):

To me, this is not about politics and it’s not about this 1 person’s statement, opinion or perception: If I were a black person and someone used the N word in my work environment, I would not feel safe.

Heck, I’ll be honest you, as a white person, I wouldn’t feel safe if someone started using the N word – I would, of course, use my awareness as a spiritual student to bring Love and compassion to bring forth the wisdom of the Holy Spirit.

AND, if I didn’t have that ability, if it were me 30 years ago, I, FOR SURE would feel threatened and not safe with people using racial slurs. Because of how I was raised, I would endeavor to help the people who were using those words to raise their awareness – but that doesn’t mean it would be safe or comfortable for me.

If someone used the C*nt word in my environment I would not feel safe. I’ve had that happen and I didn’t feel safe. If people use derogatory, racial, sexual slurs around me I am not feeling myself to be in a safe environment. BECAUSE IT’S NOT SAFE. It’s not safe for ANYONE.

When people are derogatory and sarcastic, and using words that are attack words, it is an unsafe environment for EVERYONE.

If someone attacks ANYONE, they attack EVERYONE. All is one.

There’s nothing political about my bringing this up. This is about the SOCIETY and CULTURE in which we live. This is about what we find acceptable and unacceptable.

Right now, I live in Vermont, where it is 99% white people. And there are BLACK LIVES MATTER signs everywhere. There have been regular BLM demonstrations here in the town square, week after week, with ONLY white people.

This is about realizing that hateful words cause a disturbance that is NOT TO BE TRIVIALIZED.

If you were the only Jew in the room and people started using words that are derogatory ONLY about Jews, you would feel threatened and disrespected. Of course, you would.

My point is not about politics. Take the woman’s photo off this headline, her name and her opinion and just see this:

Using The N-Word at Work Doesn’t Make A Workplace “Hostile”

I’m interested in cultivating a society and community that values loving sensitivity and absolutely NO MORE TOLERANCE OF HATE SPEECH.

We must change our minds about tolerating this kind of talk in our culture. NOW.

We don’t attack the ones who use hate speech because clearly, they are already feeling attacked and threatened or they would be speaking differently. They would be living from their loving heart if THEY felt safe.

The only way that we can ALL feel safe is if we care for each other and stop attacking, and tolerating attack.

>The attacker ALWAYS feels attacked.
>The judger ALWAYS feels judged.
>The lover ALWAYS feels beloved.

Why? Because it’s EMANATING from them.

Let’s teach ONLY Love for that IS what we ALL are.

No more tolerance of hate speech.

When we hear something, see something, let’s say something – and let it be kind, from our heart. WE CAN DO THIS!

It is ours to do!
I love you!

Please feel free to comment below – and/or comment on my Facebook post here: https://www.facebook.com/jennifer.hadley.9066/

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Cultivating My Neutral Mind

Wednesday, October 14th, 2020

When we place our faith in anything other than God’s Love for us, we’ll be upset. That’s how life works.

It’s so tempting to put our trust into our own ability to judge what’s happening in the world as good or bad – but how can we really know unless we can see the cause and effect of EVERYTHING.

It was a breakthrough for me to realize that my inability to see through all directions of time and space meant it was impossible for me to really know what anything is for – and therefore I cannot know that it’s not good.

I cannot judge it good or bad at all, and actually know that I’m correct.

I used to have so many pronouncements about what is good and bad, without actually knowing and I caused myself a great deal of pain that way. That’s why I was so relieved to realize I could change that habit and stop trying to figure out if everything was good or bad and what its purpose was.

Instead, I could simply trust. Yay, God!

Right now, with all that’s happening in the world, it’s more important than ever not to judge.

Let us remember that A Course in Miracles tells us everything is actually neutral.
“To learn this course requires willingness to question every value that you hold. Not one can be kept hidden and obscure but it will jeopardize your learning. No belief is neutral. Every one has the power to dictate each decision you make. For a decision is a conclusion based on everything that you believe.” A Course in Miracles, T-24.in.2.

Our beliefs are the basis of our thoughts which are the basis of our feelings. This is why we work at the level of the mind to relinquish our attachments to the beliefs that are false and that works – it works to release the cause of suffering and to expand our Peace and happiness. It works.

Will you join me and together we’ll surrender the thoughts that upset us so. What a blessing that we can do this. We have what it takes. Holy Spirit is our trainer and we are getting in shape!

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Debates

Wednesday, September 30th, 2020

Last night I was texting with friends about the Presidential debate. I had decided not to watch it – I don’t have a TV anyway, but I could have watched it live-streamed on the web if I’d wished to.

I decided not to watch because when I checked in with my body, my body was repulsed. I literally felt queasy at the thought of watching. That was a solar plexus, third chakra reaction.

This tummy response tells me that my ego would have gotten threatened had I listened to the debate and it’s better for me not to. I can know the highest and best for everyone more easily if I don’t watch the experience of “attack and defend” live.

My friends who watched live were texting me that they were upset by how it was going. My response was to remember that the Christ is within each one of us. We’re one with each other.

Let’s know the truth in order to be at Peace.

People ask me all the time about what Self-Love really is. Self-Love is me not putting myself in a situation where my judgments will get the better of me.

For me, retaining my equanimity is far more important than most other kinds of experiences.

I’ve learned that it’s important for me to check in and “fact check” my own sensory system for where I might be prejudiced by false beliefs and misperceptions.

Stoking the fire of my judgments will only hamper me and my desire for world Peace.

I truly desire world Peace.

My life is dedicated to it. I’m willing to work at the level of the mind to be fully responsible for the world I see and for the healing of it. It’s taken me a lot of work to get to this place and I intend to maintain it.

If you’d like to have a major increase in your connection with Spirit and feeling PEACE of mind, you might like my  Finding Freedom From Fear, spiritual bootcamp class with ACIM principles.  Join me and you will be able to close out this year feeling like you had one of the best years ever! This is your chance, if you’d like to join me and GO FOR IT!  

Trust your intuition! If you’ve been thinking about doing my Finding Freedom From Fear Bootcamp for a while, but just haven’t been ready, consider booking an exploratory call with one of the spiritual counselors.  They can answer all your questions and you’ll know what’s best for you. 

  Book an exploratory call today!

If this is right for you right now, you’ll know it.

My Finding Freedom From Fear spiritual bootcamp isn’t for everyone – it’s for those who are willing to dive in and do the work to free their mind.  Click here now to learn more.

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Without Weapons

Saturday, August 8th, 2020

There’s a time when being right can be so wrong and I’ve been there many times.  I’ve wasted so much of my time, and energy, my precious life-force, arguing with someone about nothing because I needed to be right because I felt so wrong.  Phew!  That was such a sticky track in my mind.

There’s a pervasive thought pattern in our world that’s all about deciding who’s right and who’s wrong, who are the winners and who are the losers.  And don’t we love to gather the evidence to prove our case.

It all comes down to being the judger.  Judgment is a very effective weapon—or so I used to think.

We raise our children in this culture of judgment.  We teach it to them when they’re little bitty babies: Throwing the food on the floor is WRONG.  They hear us talk to the dog:  “BAD doggie, BAD.”  

We show our children how to make the right decisions, to look at the other people who are doing it wrong and say, “Bad people, BAD!”  We do this so they won’t get hurt by taking up with the bad people.  Right? 

It used to be when I argued with someone I approached it like a battle.  I used every verbal weapon I had to make them wrong.  I NEEDED to be right!  

Being right made me a better person.  (All the winners agreed on that.)  Every day I needed proof that I was a better person.  It was exhausting.  

When I decided to follow Gandhi and King I put down my weapons of judgment.

Since then, I’ve come to a place where I can have a disagreement with someone and I can watch carefully any need I have to be right.  

Instead of following that craving to be right and make others wrong, I can agree to disagree.  In fact, I don’t even have to get angry!  This has been a huge relief.  It may not make me a better person, but it feels better because I don’t have battles any more.  

Putting down my weapons has made every day victory day.

Who won?  Everyone.

Today I focus on how I use words and moods as weapons and I voluntarily disarm myself.

I choose to live in a world without battles and so I cultivate a life without weapons.  

My daily personal practice of nonviolence moves my life and the whole world in a direction of peace.    I’d rather be a peacemaker than the winner of any battle.

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Perceptions Sometimes Aren’t Helpful

Friday, August 7th, 2020

It’s interesting to notice what we notice.
It can be fascinating to view how we view.

In New Jersey they don’t have self-serve gas, the attendant pumps the gas for you. In Maine, at some stations there’s no self-serve and I when I learned about that I realized that I could help contribute to someone having a job by choosing the stations where there’s no self-serve. I might cost a small amount more, but it gives someone a job. Since I don’t particularly enjoy pumping gas, that completely works for me.

I used to return the shopping carts, to the store, but then I realized that there’s no need to return them it’s easier for me not to, and by not returning it, I’m giving a person employment. I can receive the support of not having to return the cart.

In small towns, grocery baggers will sometimes ask if I’d like help taking my groceries to the car, wouldn’t they also like to help by taking the cart and putting it away?

Do you feel guilty if you don’t return the cart where they’d like you to?

What’s interesting is the meaning we make of things.

Our perspective generates our perception, but many times we really don’t know what anything is for.

Once when I was at a Wednesday night service at Agape with a friend. As the collection basket was being passed, my friend saw someone pass the basket without putting anything in it and she turned to me and said, “that bothers me so much, how can they pass the basket without putting anything in it?”

I said to her, “I do that all the time. I write one tithe check per month to make it easier for myself. I’m here at service twice eight times a week or more, but I only write one check. So, I don’t put anything in the collection most of the time.”

My friend was taken aback. After a moment she said, “I never thought about that. That makes sense.”

Whenever we judge, we’re taking ourselves out of the flow of Love and we’re usually creating some kind of personal, emotional and mental distress.

If we don’t correct our thoughts, then we start feel the upset in our physical body. Our life is so much easier if we simply focus on being loving.

We’re designed to be peaceful, harmonious and prosperous and our misperceptions trigger a feeling of upset so we can realize that it’s time to course correct.

It’s a great system to remind us that Love is our true identity and Peace is our natural state. Let’s remember what’s real.

What perception is operating in your mind, triggering guilt? Please share in the comments and help us realize where we can all make a change! Thank you in advance!

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No Comparison

Friday, July 3rd, 2020

When I lived in West Hollywood, I took yoga classes with models and movie stars. The competition for the title of “the most beautiful woman in the room” was intense. The more beautiful women there were, the more insecure women there were. It was a real learning for me.

In yoga class, it was easy to fall into comparing myself to others who were not only fitter than me, more attractive by cultural standards and more famous.

I haven’t ever been able to do a handstand. Many of the women in class with me could easily do handstands. I learned to say to myself “I can do that. Just not today.” It helped me to get over my comparisons.

One of the biggest points of pain we have is the suffering we experience caused by the habit of comparing ourselves to others. Only the ego compares. The heart knows we are united in Oneness.

When we’re comparing ourselves to others, more often than not we’re looking to come up short. We’re intending to find ourselves as failing. It’s an act of self-sabotage. It’s adding insult to injury. Can it possibly bring any benefit? No. None. It’s just a trick of the ego to help us feel more separate.

Comparison always leads to more suffering.

Whether we compare and think we’ve come out ahead or come out lacking, since there’s only one, either way we just feel more separate.

If I love my friend, would I encourage them to compare themselves to someone who seems better than them or more special? I would never say to a friend, “you’re not the best cook. I know a few other people I like better than you who are also much better cooks. You’re not so great. You’re just ok.”

Of course I wouldn’t say that to someone I cared about.
But people say things like that to themselves ALL THE TIME.

And it hurts!
It wears us down.

Comparison is judgment. All judgment is for the purpose of reinforcing separation. All belief in separation causes feelings of fear. Comparison is PURE separation thinking.

Let’s have an active practice of relating to others rather than comparing.

Let’s get into feeling the unity of all life.

Let’s watch our mind when it comes to comparing, attacking and needing or wanting to be better than someone else. The habit of comparing can be really sneaky, but since there’s no good that can come of it, just let it go every time you see it.

I find one of the best ways to let a negative thought pattern go is to make myself laugh about it. So, that’s why in my classes we say “compare and despair.” The rhyme helps us to be light-hearted and to remember to laugh. And let’s face it, it also reminds not to go down the road of despair!

There’s great healing that can come from our spiritual practice and it’s a benefit to all beings!

If you’d like to have a major increase in your choosing self-Love and kindness, you might like my Finding Freedom From Fear, spiritual boot camp class with ACIM principles. I haven’t offered this class in 9 months – this is your chance, if you’d like to join me and GO FOR IT!

PLUS, I’m recording all new classes.

If this is right for you right now, you’ll know it.

Trust your intuition! If you’ve been thinking about doing my Finding Freedom From Fear Boot camp for a while, but just haven’t been ready, consider booking an exploratory call with one of the spiritual counselors. They can answer all your questions and you’ll know what’s best for you. Book an exploratory call today!

My Finding Freedom From Fear spiritual boot camp isn’t for everyone – it’s for those who are willing to dive in and live the Love. Click here now to learn more.

We begin MONDAY, July 6! With a BONUS CLASS on July 5th. This is going to be SO good because I am ON FIRE!

Let’s have REAL and lasting transformation this summer with spiritual practice that brings benefit and healing for all. Now is the time for us to dive deep and eliminate the patterns of fear in our life. I thank you for being on the journey with me!

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Judger Always Feels Judged

Friday, May 15th, 2020

I’ve realized that within minutes of judging someone I’ll have a judgment about myself.

Every judgment, every projection is like a boomerang that comes back and hits me in the head with force.

I’ve learned to be grateful for this because when I become aware of the judgment I can remember that it’s only going to lead to suffering. Having this awareness has helped me to stop playing small. In the past, I’ve played small by habitually judging and then being preoccupied with cleaning up the upset caused by the boomerang. Phew!

I’ve had so many judgments about myself. I’ve had to surrender each and every one of them in order to FEEL free. Fortunately, we can get so good at giving up the judgments and opinions that we find ourselves being less and less judgmental.

An important practice for our healing is simply to replace the judgments with compassion.

I can remember when I felt angry and bitter and I thought it was my job to take it out on everyone around me.

I didn’t know it at the time, but each judgment was helping me to dig a dark hole.

My experience of digging dark holes for myself has led me to have compassion for those who do what I did. They don’t know any better.

They are to be helped, with compassion, and not shunned or judged.

Yes, the person who judges will often feel judged by others.
It’s their own projection coming back at them like a boomerang that hits them in the head so they’ll wake up and realize there IS a better way.

I don’t know anyone that hasn’t made mis-takes from the smallest to the “biggest,” – whatever BIG means. We are all learning how to BE more loving and kind. We learn THROUGH our mistakes. We are UN-learning to buy into the myriad of judgments its possible to have. This requires our constant attention.

Clearing our mind is the best possible use of our time.

I like to say “it’s good work if you can get it, and I’ve got plenty of it!”

Are you willing to forgive your past mistakes so that you can be free now? I AM! Let’s do it together!

Is there a mistake that you have forgiven that you can share in the comments? Inspire us!

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Friends with Coronavirus

Friday, March 20th, 2020

I have a friend whose husband who came down with a bad case of the flu. When things got REALLY bad, he took his beloved to the hospital where he was diagnosed with pneumonia and tested for Covid-19. A couple of days later, they got the test results back and it turns out he’s got the virus.

And he’s doing better since being in the hospital. Phew! He’ll be there another week at least, minimum 14 days, but he’s mending and that’s great.

My friend is home with their two little boys under the age of 5. It’s rough because they can’t go out and no one can come in, a whole new concept of home alone with kids. Imagine not being able to go out and play, having to be in a smallish apartment with little ones for weeks without a break. We have no idea how long they’ll be quarantined.

I’ve sent them a play tent with two crawl tunnels and I hope it will help wear them out and entertain them for hours. I wish I’d thought of it last week – it can’t get there soon enough!

I know others that have had symptoms but can’t get tested. They’re getting better, too. Phew!

In Masterful Living classes this week we’ve been talking about how we can reach out to people we know who might be having a tough time. I invite you to make a list of people that you can check in on and see how they’re doing. You never know when your phone call might make all the difference in the world to them.

Most of us know someone who doesn’t have a lot of family who lives alone, who is older, and in this kind of a situation they become isolated.

Someone without a spiritual practice, watching the news all day home alone, can really be way too much for them mentally and emotionally.

Who can you reach out to and check on?

Maybe it’s an aunt or a cousin that you hardly ever talk to. Get out your address book and start seeing what people are up to.

Make a list and get started connecting with them.

In Masterful Living we all have Zoom accounts. Get a free Zoom account and start having Zoom parties.

I have 4 Prayer Partners that meet with me every week on the phone. We’ve been doing it for about 13 or 14 years. Every now and then we have a special meeting and meet on Zoom. This week we did that and it was so good just to see each other.

I had a family meeting on Zoom with my brother, his wife, my niece and my nephew in one place, my nephew in Spain, my nephew in California, my Dad and his wife in North Carolina, and me. It was great!

My nephew, Ben, in California was quite despondent about the Bernie Sanders campaign, so I made my dad tell us all stories about campaigning in the 60s. My nephews had never heard these stories and it was great! (I’m encouraging him to work for the brilliant and beautiful Rep. Katie Porter who is his local rep.)

There was a beautiful moment when my dad got really choked up, remembering what those times were like for him and my mother. He told stories of my mother working for social justice and pushing me in the baby carriage. I remember being in marches against the Vietnam war with my mother, mothers and daughters marching on Mother’s Day. My nephews were so impressed, genuinely, and that was beautiful.

I am an instigator. I’m an activator. I feel compelled to see how I can be helpful.

It’s who I am.

And we’ve all got the same life purpose: to be TRULY helpful.

For many people, these times will be the most difficult times in their lives.

And we need to think of them right now and how we can help them.

This is the time of extreme pressure that forces people to get real and decide, are they going to change and grow or keep resisting? It will be very intense for many.

Let’s vow not to judge anyone and have compassion for everyone, even the ones who hoard toilet paper, even the ones who hoard protective masks when the healthcare workers have none. Judge no one, Love everyone.

We can do this – if we work together!

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Amazing But True!

Thursday, September 12th, 2019

Life astounds me sometimes! One of the things I’ve learned is that when things don’t go as planned, I’m not bothered by it UNLESS I judge it – and that is always my decision. I can choose the option.

The more I practice SELF-forgiveness, the less sticky the judgments are. And that is SO COOL!

When we judge, judge, judge we feel SO unworthy, unlikable, and bad. It’s a vicious circle.

We can extract ourselves by disconnecting from our judgments.

When I made the commitment to make this inner shift of consciousness to practicing true forgiveness and non-judgment. it was, at times, excruciating. I really found it DEEPLY challenging.

That shift of awareness to realize how much pain I was causing myself by choosing to judge was sudden, but then I had to implement the change. I remember how challenging it was for me and how much I judged myself for judging!

Judge, judge, judge!

What I’ve learned is that we judge ourselves so deeply and constantly that we don’t even realize it. It’s like a fish in the water doesn’t realize that the water is wet.

We’re swimming in the sea of judgments and don’t even realize that’s what they are.

When people start my Finding Freedom boot camp class and they begin to practice non-judgment, they are often amazed at how strong the habit of judging is. If they’re willing to put the tools to work they get leverage, and the attachment to the judgments begins to fall away and the Freedom is found – it was there all along, underneath our attack thoughts.

It’s such a relief to realize we CAN break free of the intensity of density. It’s so valuable and empowering to hold in mind that we CAN have a healing, and that we can put Spirit in charge of it. Spirit doesn’t know failure.

Have you put Spirit in charge of your healing? Please tell us about it and share in the comments below! Let’s join together for our Freedom! Thank you!

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