Archive for the ‘Kindness’ Category

Grace and Gratitude

Thursday, November 26th, 2020

Today is Thanksgiving in the United States and for many of us it feels sad.  This is the first time in my lifetime that there was ever a sense that it isn’t a good idea for families to gather and be grateful.  

This is a time when many do not feel grateful, because there’s been so much loss.

What we can do, to lift all those who are troubled up, is to actually take time to be grateful and contemplate anything and everything that we can be thankful.

Our gratitude will lift our vibration and, because we’re one with everyone, it will lift everyone.

All boats rise on this tide of gratitude.

If you’re feeling sad, that you can’t be with loved ones, or because of the losses this year, extend some love to someone who is having a hard time or might be left alone.  

Being of service is always a great way to feel better and to be lifted up!  I feel lifted just knowing that I can send this to you and we can be connected on this day.  

I am grateful for you in my life!

If you suspect that worthiness is your issue, then you might consider receiving my gift. My Worthiness Workshop THIS SUNDAY is my gift to you. Register to join me.

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This workshop is for people who are interested in making a change. When you register, I’ll send you a link to download the worksheet that you’ll need to set aside some time to fill out and bring to the workshop to be able to get the benefits. Let’s do this healing together and not put it off any longer!

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Bird in Hand

Wednesday, November 25th, 2020

The saying goes, “a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush.”

I get it, but that may not always be the case.

What if the bird in the hand is pecking at your hand and pooping on you?

What if the bird in your hand is saying mean things to you and completely disrespects you?

Many times folks are accepting all kinds of unkind and disrespectful treatment because they have grown used to it and they don’t feel worthy of good treatment.

Sometimes we get overwhelmed by other people’s negativity and we get caught like a deer in headlights and actually start towing to the person who is behaving in such an unkind way.

Sometimes we feel that we have to take people spewing their feelings on us just because they have feelings.

AND many times we attract that kind of behavior because of our thoughts about ourselves.

It’s a case of “like attracts like.”

Sometimes we need to take a break from birds in hands and in bushes and rebuild our sense of self-esteem in a truly loving and healthy way before we connect with birds again.

Unworthiness is as close as we can find to having a universal dysfunction. It stems from the unconscious guilt that is explained in A Course in Miracles.

We’re here to be truly helpful and nothing is more helpful then allowing our minds to heal from these self-attack patterns.

If you suspect that worthiness is your issue, then you might consider receiving my gift. My Worthiness Workshop THIS SUNDAY is my gift to you. Register to join me.

There’s no cost, but you do have to register. Click here to register now.

This workshop is for people who are interested in making a change. When you register, I’ll send you a link to download the worksheet that you’ll need to set aside some time to fill out and bring to the workshop to be able to get the benefits. Let’s do this healing together and not put it off any longer!

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Receptive to Good

Tuesday, November 24th, 2020

For years I blocked the flow of prosperity in my life and I didn’t even realize it.  Some of my loved ones had labeled me as selfish and so I began to think that was true.  Many folks I met believed it was “better to give then to receive.” And so I began to believe that it was BAD to receive.  I began to notice that many people gave with strings attached.  Sometimes those strings were simply expectations.  

I couldn’t stand all those strings and expectations.  I didn’t like believing that I was selfish.  So, I began to strive to be independent and not need things from people.  I became a hesitant receiver, and sometimes even a poor receiver.

People would try to give me help or assistance, gifts and other things and I would reject them, fearing the strings and expectations.  I preferred not to owe anyone.  I preferred to feel free.  I didn’t know that I wasn’t free.  I was in a box of unworthiness and didn’t even realize it.

I’d become a really poor receiver.  I was a great giver and a poor receiver.

And then I started to have really intense financial challenges and I had no idea how to get out of them. With the help of my spiritual practitioner I began to work on praying to be receptive.

I began to reorient myself to be a good and gracious receiver. 

I began to think of it this way:  Everything I receive is from God and everything I give I give to God.

It doesn’t really matter who is giving or who is receiving – It’s all about being in the flow of the All Good. 

I learned to be able to give to anyone when I felt called and not do it from obligation.  I learned to receive from from anyone and not feel an attachment.  

I began to experience more affluence, more abundance and more prosperity right away.

Are you a good receiver?  Start to make an inquiry into your giving and receiving abilities.  If you’re not feeling the flow, maybe you’re not willing to receive?  Take a look and see what you find in your heart!

One way to increase receptivity was shared to me by a friend and it really works.  Try this:  start to dress up more and present yourself in a more attractive way (of course that’s subjective, but do what works for YOU), and then people will likely give you compliments.  Another way is to be more helpful to people, and people naturally will say thank you.  

Notice if you can easily receive the compliments and the appreciation.  Do you feel tempted to push the praise away or minimize it?  You can practice saying “thank you” to those who compliment you.  I like to say, “thank you, I feel great too,” when someone compliments my appearance.

When someone appreciates what I’ve done, I can say “it’s my pleasure.”  

Being a graceful receiver is a good skill to have.  

It affirms our worthiness.  And that’s helpful.

If you’d like to be more abundant, be a great receiver!  

All blessings come from Spirit, no matter what form they take.

If you suspect that worthiness is your issue, then you might consider receiving my gift.  My Worthiness Workshop THIS SUNDAY is my gift to you.  Register to join me. 

There’s no cost, but you do have to register.  Click here to register now.

This workshop is for people who are interested in making a change.  When you register, I’ll send you a link to download the worksheet that you’ll need to set aside some time to fill out and bring to the workshop to be able to get the benefits.  Let’s do this healing together and not put it off any longer!

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Being Kind

Monday, November 23rd, 2020

It’s very common for people who are in the middle of some difficulty to want us to be on their side. I can remember wanting to sway people to be on my side if I felt threatened by someone. I’d want to know that other people thought I was right and that they stood with me in the event of a battle.

I feel differently now, because I’m no longer interested in preparing for battle or going to war.

I’d rather we don’t take sides, and I don’t wish to encourage people to be on my side if there’s a disagreement. I don’t like feeling that I’m on a side and opposed to someone else.

I’ve learned that there’s a very large energetic cost to turning someone against another person, just as there’s a cost to labeling someone bad or wrong and fanning the flames of discontent and distrust. I’m not interested in going in that direction.

My interest is in choosing to be loving and supporting others and encouraging them to be loving. That’s where the most benefit comes from.

To turn my entire life in a new direction I simply began choosing more loving choices again and again throughout my day.

At first, they were small choices, very small. Like having patience waiting for a coffee in a store.

We can actively look for the opportunities to be kind, loving, patient, generous of heart and compassionate and turn away from the opportunity to be misleading, disgruntled, divisive and discouraging.

These small choices add up to a big change in how we live our lives. This I know. I am working it every day now for decades and I AM SO GRATEFUL that I can make positive loving choices all day long!

Let’s support each other and cheer each other on in our loving choices!

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Mask or No Mask

Monday, September 28th, 2020

I’ve had a number of people ask me if folks are wearing masks in Vermont. First of all, I have a very limited exposure to other people here. I see a few friends locally and we’re not always wearing masks because we’re not dealing with people who aren’t from the neighborhood. There’s no virus right around here.

Second, when I do venture out, it’s to the grocery store or to pick up take-out locally. I’m in a very rural area of Vermont. There aren’t a lot of people in the grocery store. Take-out pick up is usually outside. Almost everyone in town, even though it is a TINY town, is wearing a mask walking on the street, or at least as soon as they get close enough, they put on a mask,

Lincoln, Vermont, the town I live in, has a tiny general store and that’s it. Lincoln is 44 square miles with a population of 1,250. A square mile is 640 acres. That’s 22.5 acres per person. To put it in perspective, Washington, D.C. is 68 square miles with a population of 705,000. That’s 0,06 acres per person. We’ve got lots of room for social distancing.

Bristol, the next town over has 3,800 people and has a couple of restaurants and a modest chain grocery store, and a Walgreens. The next nearest decent grocery store is at least 30 mins from my house. We’re out in country, on the edge of a huge national forest, in the mountains.

Right now, we’re experiencing a drought. Every day someone new on the road (it’s a dirt road, btw) has had their well run dry. We’ve had hardly any rain all summer. Our well at the house here has run dry. It’s challenging, but no one is complaining as things are much worse for people elsewhere. We have no fires. We know rain will come. In fact, I just learned it’ll be coming this week.

Back to the masks.

People wear masks in stores and public places here because they care about their neighbors.

In a rural community like this people help each other. If someone is sick, neighbors take food, they cut wood, they shovel snow, they go to the store for them. When you have excess squash in the garden, you distribute it to neighbors. You care and you share.

In this environment, to not wear a mask would be to say that you don’t care about your neighbors and community. It’s that simple.

I understand the politics of masks, and, in this neck of the woods, it’s just common courtesy to wear a mask.

It’s a sign that you care about more than yourself – and politics.

I’m not saying it’s right or wrong to wear a mask – I’m only sharing what I feel is happening here in this community in rural Vermont because so many people have asked me.

Almost every time I go to the grocery store I have a little dance I do. I put on my lip balm, I get out of my car and walk to the store, then I realize I forgot my mask, I turn around and go back to my car. I wipe off the lip balm so I don’t smear it on the mask and I put on my mask and walk back to the store. I’m just now getting to the point where I remember to bring a mask.

This won’t last forever, but it is what’s happening right now. I’m not afraid of the virus. I’m not afraid, because there’s nothing for me to fear.

I do care that people know that I care and so I wear a mask.

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First Responder

Monday, August 3rd, 2020

I am a first responder.
I AM is a first responder.

In my experience, in my relationships, in my community, I choose to be a first responder to the cry for Love.

We can be first responders, responding to the insanity of the world with a voice of Love and compassion.

We don’t have to MAKE anything happen – that’s not our job. Our response-ability is to hold the loving view, the right-minded view, and to be kind, loving and supportive.

Right now, although my spiritual practice is all day long, in many forms, the most important thing, as always, is to be kind and caring. Extending Love is the #1 thing for us to put our attention on each moment of each day.

When we’re extending Love, we’re being a healing presence.


And when we’re extending Love and compassion, we’re being truly helpful.
Which means we’re living our purpose.

If we wonder what our purpose is, it’s not complicated or hard to find: Be kind.

Sometimes being kind is the hardest thing in the world to do.
The more it stretches us, the more it’s worth the effort.

Let me be grateful for the pain of the strain to be kind in challenging circumstances as it reminds me how much gain there is for my soul.

We can remember too, how sometimes being kind seems just the opposite. I think of Elvis Costello’s song about being “cruel to be kind.” It’s a paradox sometimes.

There are times when it’s most helpful to point out to someone that they are fantasizing about something, and it’s not helpful to them.

There are times when someone is about to do something cruel and the kindest thing is to interrupt them.

Cultivating the ability to respond with kindness instead of judgment – that’s where I focus a good deal of my attention.

No judgments also mean no attachments.

It’s a rigorous practice, but when I do it with kindness it feels very nurturing – which it is.

Let’s be first responders, responding to every situation with Love, kindness and compassion. This way we absolutely KNOW we’re always in the right place at the right time, and we can feel the strength of that. What a blessing!

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Kind

Sunday, April 26th, 2020

I’m a sensitive person. Sometimes I’m so tuned into other people’s feelings that it’s too much for me. I’ve had to pay attention and learn not to get enmeshed with other people’s energy and feelings.

I’ve also learned that when I’m judging other people and their feelings and emotions, I’m just stirring the pot in a way that’s not helpful to anyone.

I’ve had MANY, MANY times when I started to have negative thoughts about people and realized that I was beginning to feel quite critical of them. When I wonder where all the negativity is coming from I’ve realized these aren’t even my thoughts!

I can tune into other people’s thoughts, especially if they’re feelings are also very strong, and I can lose track of what’s mine and what’s theirs. I’ve had to learn the discipline of realizing that while we share the same mind, it’s not helpful to become enmeshed with others.

For me, I always come back to my intention and what’s important to me.

What’s most important to me is to be loving.
I used to need to be right all the time.
It’s not so important anymore.
I’d rather be loving.

What good is being right, if I can’t be loving?

Like the song says: “War! What is it good for? Absolutely nothing!”

I still get triggered into old patterns of upset, but not like I used to. Now, every time there’s an upset, and I do mean EVERY time there’s an upset, I can use it for healing and transformation and that feels good to me.

I am grateful for every morsel of healing.

I ask that you join me in a vow, to the best of our ability, to not intentionally agitate people.

Let’s really make a commitment to being consistently kind.

And if we fail, in that moment of realizing that we failed, let us immediately begin again by being kind to ourselves. That’s Self-Love. When we love ourselves, we’re being helpful to others.

Life is ultra intense for most folks right now. And yet for some it’s calm and peaceful. We’re each having our own unique experience.

Some people are at home by themselves and feeling very isolated and lonely. Others have too many people in their house for comfort and can’t get any space.

Whatever your experience, however it’s going for you, you are most probably sensitive to how many people are feeling upset and traumatized right now. We’re all one with each other, and with so many people grieving, feeling sad and frightened, it’s hard to imagine that there could be anyone on this planet that isn’t noticing a rise in feeling vulnerable and sensitive.

I had to stop watching the news, because even a little bit of listening to the health care workers would have me in tears. I would cry simply because I tuned into the level of intensity they’re experiencing and it’s overwhelming for them. I feel so much empathy and compassion for them I just start crying.

So, if you’re not aware you’re feeling some of that, you may be. In your neighborhood, your apartment building, your family, there are most likely people who are going through a VERY difficult time. Whether we realize it or not, we feel the energy of it.

And, many of us are also up-leveling.

That’s what I feel is happening for myself and for many of the people who are maintaining their spiritual practice now.

When it’s really a tough time, it’s tough because we’re not being loving to ourselves by partnering UP with the Higher Holy Spirit Self.

Now is the time for us to focus on kindness.

Being kind to ourselves, and extending kindness to others is what’s going to help us get through this in a way that we’ll be better for it.

Being kind is a great way to be truly helpful.

Being kind feels like an expression of true Love – and, as Stevie Wonder sang in AS, “true Love asks for nothing.” We don’t need to get anything in return.

When we can be with someone who is upset, critical and attacking and respond with ACTUAL Love, then we’ve taken our power back and we are now helping them to do the same.

Someone who is attacking ANYONE is feeling powerless at the most basic level. Those who are tapped in to the ONLY power there is (Spirit) have no thought of attacking another, they’re only interested in being truly helpful.

Let’s turn to Spirit for our refuge so we can focus on being helpful.

Spirit has been guiding me to some powerful parts of A Course in Miracles in my podcast. This past week’s topic was Healing Hatred, and it was very powerful to look into the self-hatred and the ways we project it out onto others.

I just posted episode #444 of my radio show / podcast – and it seems hard to believe that many episodes since the first one with Gary Renard in 2011. I keep thinking I’ll run out of things to say about it, but it’s endlessly inspiring to me, for which I am SO grateful!

Speaking of gratitude, last Sunday we had our first Sundays With Spirit online Sunday Service and there was SUCH an outpouring of Love and gratitude afterward. How wonderful! We’re doin another service today.

Join me, Jon Mundy, Renee Stahl and more friends. We’ll have a spiritual celebration together and if you can’t join us, you can catch the replay! Because we’re going to be live on video, you’ll have to register to get the details. All are welcome, there’s no charge, but you do have to register.

When you register, you’ll also get easy access to last week’s service with Lisa Natoli and James Twyman.

You can join me in cultivating the willingness that raises us ALL up so we can be truly helpful in this world. Prayer is a power tool, and I am so grateful for having learned the power of it. Every day, part of my spiritual practice is to write inspiration and record a prayer to go with it.

Please share my daily prayer with anyone who would find it supportive.

If you’re interested, this week I’ll be announcing that I’m offering my Prayer Power class again, also I’m going to offer my Stop Playing Small Retreat online. People have asked for these things and I’m pulling it together. Stay tuned!

I look forward to our Sunday gathering today. It means so much that we can join together and love on each other!

May you and your family feel blessed today and every day!

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The Least of Them

Thursday, February 27th, 2020

Jesus, when he walked the earth, told us “what you do to the least of them, you do to me.” This is simple and very effective teaching on the oneness of all life.

There are no “least of them” except in our opinions – so let’s be clear about that.

We’re one with everyone – not even equal to, but ONE WITH. United with. Everyone. And Jesus. All are One.

So often in life, we see that it’s easy to treat the poorest people poorly. Or we can disregard and disrespect the folks who don’t speak so clearly or dress well, or whatever it is that we disapprove of or are put off by.

It’s okay to be mean to telemarketers.

At least it is for most people.

When I get a call from a number I don’t recognize and I suspect it might be a telemarketer I like to answer with, “Hello, my love.” I like saying that. It feels good to me. Usually, it’s an automated call, and so I don’t get to say it to an actual live person, but sometimes I do. And sometimes it’s someone who actually knows me, but their number isn’t on my phone.

I find that I can’t go wrong answering my phone that way. Sweet.

It’s so easy to get annoyed with strangers.

I have a friend who used to have to go to Kinkos all the time to get printing done for presentations and when she didn’t like the work done she could sometimes be less than kind. I remember one time she told me she felt she had to drive back to the Kinkos late at night to apologize for how she had treated the people there.

Look, we need to do what we need to do to get right with ourselves. And it’s worth it. It’s never a mistake to make amends or apologize.

It develops humility and that’s REQUIRED if you’re interested in spiritual awakening. And I know you are.

Being able to make that U-turn is part of our spiritual practice and it opens up the flow of Love and brings SO MANY benefits. We can’t go wrong with holding EVERYONE in our hearts with Love. Yay!

We can be kind to develop humility or we can be humiliated. Which do you prefer? Please share in the comments below!

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Airport Angel

Wednesday, November 27th, 2019

Since the day before Thanksgiving is the biggest travel day of the year, and today is predicted to be unusually higher amounts of travelers, AND we’ve got major storms across the U.S., I’m sharing my favorite “Daily Shot of Spiritual Espresso” that I’ve written and it’s about traveling.

Waiting my turn at the LAX American Airlines Terminal Burger King at 5:30 one morning I watched the woman who filled the orders. She had an authentic smile for each customer, asking them if they wanted juice or coffee with their value meal. Each half-awake traveler was lovingly told where to find the napkins and the ketchup. Each was told to have a nice day with real sincerity. By the time it was my turn to receive her kindness, I had to tell her how much I appreciated and admired her spirit. Her smile grew even brighter. I felt the depth of her heart.

For many people, having to be at work before 5 a.m., dealing with the public for what is hardly a living wage. would be crushing. But for this woman, it seemed that she felt SHE was the one who was deeply blessed. Every day she faces people who are flying around the world for any number of reasons. Some are flying to or from funerals, some are frightened of flying, others worried about their jobs and their families. I saw that this woman recognized her opportunity to provide a personal and powerful blessing for each customer. We all have this opportunity with each person we meet, regardless of our circumstances.

This woman at the Burger King seemed to have it all because she was giving so much to each one she met.

With her every breath she teaches us that if we want more Love we need to be the Love we seek.

I intend to walk in the world as a loving, giving presence wherever I am and with whomever I’m with, and with every passing day I find more Joy in my walk. Still, I don’t know that I could do what this angel does. I know many people who yearn for a deeper expression of life purpose, more loving relationships, more Peace, more Prosperity. People often think they have to go somewhere special or take a special class to be transformed. I hear the words “Be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind.”

Today I resolve to find my inner angel nature and to walk in it.

I look for opportunities to share the Light that I can find in myself this day.

Angels don’t look for rewards or gratitude. The simple opportunity to be the giver IS the gift.

Today I am willing to be the Love in my life!

Please let me know your thoughts! And have a blessed trip if you’re traveling, and enjoy being cozy if you’re not traveling! I’m cooking and having time with my dearest soul sisters and Prayer Partners of 22 years. We’re so glad to be together. There’s much to be thankful for!

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Family Blessings

Wednesday, October 30th, 2019

I’m up in Maine at my family’s home on Deer Isle. I’m here to do some Fall planting. I’ve got hundreds of bulbs to be planted. I’m excited because here on the island, Spring comes late. Spring is mostly mud season all the way until Memorial Day, and snow after Easter is common. Daffodils are just beginning to bloom in mid-May. The trees have a while before they start leafing out, and so every bit of color and brightness is a welcome gift from Mother Nature each Spring.

Yesterday morning I was looking out the window at first light, well before sunrise, and I saw someone clamming out in our cove. You see, the tide goes completely out at low tide. Every drop of water is gone, and that makes it a perfect place for clammers to come in and dig.

Here on the island, many people make a living through digging for clams. It’s really hard work. You have to bend over but you cannot kneel, because the mud would suck you right in. It’s cold and wet this time of year, and you always have to go when the tide is out. So, if that means 6 a.m. and it’s just over 40 degrees out, so be it.

We let the clammers onto our property and are happy to have them. This means they often drive down our driveway and slip down to the water whenever it’s low tide.

We welcome them because we know they’re working to support their families, and so by supporting them in doing their work we’re supporting their families, too.

So in the first light yesterday, I look out and see a lone clammer out there working to feed his family in the near-dark, cold wet mud. I thought about how many men and women are up well before the sun, doing back-breaking work in order to put food on the table of their loved ones.

I also thought about how sometimes those same people are not able to be emotionally available for their loved ones. Sometimes they pick difficult work that gives them space to be alone because they don’t mix well with others and relationships are really difficult for them.

It’s so important to look at what people do and not just what they say.

Someone who works so hard to support their family might not be good at relationships, but their love and care are evidenced in how hard they work to take care of them.

When I’m traveling, sometimes I’m at the airport between 4 and 5 in the morning and the airport is filled with people at work. People are working for the airlines, for concessions, and there are many people who are traveling for work, as well. All those people working to support many loved ones – because not many people would be motivated to work those hours just to support themselves.

I have learned how important it is to focus more on what people do than what they say. Many people are not that articulate about their feelings, but you can feel the Love in what they choose to do.

Let’s say a prayer to bless all the people who work in the wee hours.

We bless them and their families.

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Labels Aren’t Helpful

Tuesday, October 29th, 2019

One of the big traps of the ego is deciding who is good and who is bad, who is right and who is wrong. Often we find that we’re the biggest culprits of them all. The ego is the mindset of separation. Its job is to separate and it does that through the activity of sorting.

Sorting out who is right and who is wrong is a major use of ego, time, and energy. We can spend huge amounts of our precious attention on determining who is right and who is wrong. And, for a moment, the ego seems to feel fulfilled, empowered, justified, and important.

Observing life, you can watch people all day long as they struggle to figure out who is right and who is wrong, to assign blame (and often shame) as well as responsibility. It gives the ego a lot to do.

What many of us don’t notice is that all that judge, judge, judging leaves an energetic hangover that is painful. The pain that leads us to tune out, disconnect, and hide. And then we slowly begin to learn what a bad investment we made with our precious attention.

Labeling people isn’t helpful.

The purpose of labels is to sort and separate.

Since God is all there is, aren’t we tuning out from God when we start labeling?
Since Spirit is omnipresent Love, aren’t we disconnecting from Love when we judge?
When we judge, attack, complain and label, aren’t we hoping to hide our attack thoughts from God?
Since the Infinite One Mind is omni-active, are we really thinking we can hide from within our own mind?

Where can I go from Your Spirit?
Or where can I flee from Your presence?
8 If I ascend into heaven, You are there;
If I make my bed in hell, behold, You are there. Psalm 139

Deciding who is right and wrong is predicated on the concept that “I am the decider”. When I’m the decider it often means that I’m thinking that God has left the building and now I’m in charge. I’ve learned that I do NOT want to be in charge. I’m not (yet) able to see through all directions of time and space, and so I’m not able to discern what everything is for. My Spirit knows it’s all working together for my relentless good.

I do not wish to replace God in my mind – I tried that, and it didn’t go well for me. I’d like to do everything I can to avoid falling back into that mindset. I’ve worked very hard to realize that God’s Plan is the best way for me to go.

God’s Plan doesn’t include my judging people and deciding who is good and bad. I can think I know what’s right and wrong at the moment. I look for the loving choices and that feels right to me. Unloving choices feel wrong to me.

People are all good at their core. Their essence is still perfect and pristine, regardless of their behavior.

Knowing that I don’t need to label people with some story I’ve made up.

I’ll stick to focusing my attention on remembering the truth, which is that we’re all good and perfect.

I hardly use the words “right” and “wrong” anymore. Mostly they’re helpful in describing how things feel. Paying attention to how things feel is a great skill that I work on each day.

Labeling people isn’t helpful to me, only to the ego.

I don’t work for the ego anymore.

Is there anyone you’ve labeled wrong that you could let go? You can still feel their actions are unloving but do you need to label the person? This is a very powerful and healing contemplation. We can call the angels in to help us and be willing to see clearly the Face of God in each one we meet for our own Peace of mind. It works! Peace is worth it!

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Eliminating Shame

Monday, October 21st, 2019

I didn’t realize it, but I was preventing myself from having healthy Self-esteem. I was actively ignoring the warning signs from Spirit and I was degrading my own sense of well-being and worthiness. And, to a large degree, I didn’t recognize the effects of the choices I was making. In a sense, I was “my own worst enemy.”

When I gave myself permission to attack others, to judge and criticize them, to blame and shame them, I didn’t realize it but I was preventing myself from having healthy Self-esteem.

Because we share the same mind and we can’t really hide our thoughts from anyone, it was as though I was covering myself with garbage and thinking no one would notice.

Things began to change for me when I realized what A Course in Miracles means when it says “There are no private thoughts.”

Once I was willing to actually accept that the One Mind is a fact and that we all share and have access to the One and only Mind of God, I began to choose different thoughts.

I became aware that every negative thought I had was a form of pollution I was sharing with all of life. My personal negativity, even if it seemed as though I was keeping it to myself, was like toxic waste poured into the collective drinking supply.

Similarly, every loving thought brings a healing benefit to all.

When I saw even a glimpse of the power of my thought, I made the commitment to focus on changing my mind.

I set the goal of cultivating an awareness of my thoughts and beliefs. I decided to be truly mindful. It felt like a burden in the beginning. It felt overwhelming to realize how focused on negativity I was. I decided to actively replace the negativity with loving thoughts and actions. But as I began to take out the trash from my mind and let Spirit heal it back to the root cause, there was less trash in my mind and I began to noticeably feel better about myself right away.

I saw that every time I chose a loving thought, I actually felt better about myself. That was tangible and it felt miraculous. I was so grateful that I could start to feel that I was being truly helpful instead of feeling like I was a monster.

I decided to focus on being aware of shame thoughts so that I could eliminate them.

I was so grateful I could eliminate thinking that was designed to keep me feeling badly about myself. I was ashamed of playing small and living in limitation.

Shame comes directly from believing limited thoughts that aren’t true.

You cannot feel ashamed unless you believe a lie.

Shame drags our Self-Esteem to the ground.

We’re taught to feel ashamed of our thoughts and our desires. The idea is that if we’re ashamed then we won’t act upon it – but we all know it’s not true. Consider all of us who just hide what we’re thinking and feeling.

We’re taught to feel ashamed about how we look and how we feel. We can change our minds about these things. We can recognize that just because we have a thought doesn’t mean we are “shame-full”.

In my experience as a Spiritual Counselor for 17 years, many people have told me the things they’re most ashamed of, and through the sharing of it with me they’ve been able to relinquish the shame they felt. Bringing things to the Light is deeply healing when it’s done with someone who can be 100% compassionate and loving – and we can give ourselves this gift of Love if there’s no person who can support us.

Shame has no value to our Spirit, which is ever expansive and unprecedented – only the ego values living in lack and limitation. Being supportive and loving has value and keeps us in the flow of Love, which unites us with healing, Prosperity, and God’s Infinite Goodness. The more loving we are, the less shame we feel, the more Self-esteem we have.

The beginning of a transformation for me came in being willing to be aware of ALL my thoughts. I began to replace the attack thoughts with thoughts that extended Love. And, lo and behold, I began to self-medicate less and less because I was more and more willing to be aware of my thoughts, because they were more and more loving.

I was building my Self-esteem in two ways:
I was decreasing my shame by reducing my negativity.
The less negativity I had, the less interested I was in self-medicating.
The less self-medicating I did, the better I felt about myself.

Shame is a cycle. I would get triggered with low self-esteem thoughts, and then I’d engage in self-medication (low self-esteem behavior) and that would give me something to feel ashamed about, and then I’d want to self-medicate to forget about how I felt. The cycle would repeat, and it felt like a whirlpool pulling me in.

Choosing loving thoughts changes the direction of the whirlpool. What I found was that I began to spiral up and, feeling better and better about myself, I was inspired and motivated to keep going and increasing my awareness.

I began to build on my success, and I feel as though I climbed out of a very intense whirlpool. I was more than willing – I had a great desire to change my life and I let Spirit show me the way. It worked, and it continues to work. And this is precisely why I teach my classes the way that I do. I know the benefit of doing this work and I know how hard it is to do it on my own. And that’s why I offer the opportunities to work together and heal together, rising in Joy!

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Gracious Receiver

Monday, September 30th, 2019

For years I blocked the flow of Prosperity in my life, and I didn’t even realize it. Some of my loved ones had labeled me as selfish, and so I began to think that was true. Many folks I met believed it was “better to give than to receive.” And so, I began to believe that it was BAD to receive. I began to notice that many people gave with strings attached. Sometimes those strings were simply expectations.

I couldn’t stand all those strings and expectations. I didn’t like believing that I was selfish. So, I began to strive to be independent and not need things from people. I became a hesitant receiver, and sometimes even a poor receiver.

People would try to give me help or assistance, gifts, and other things, and I would reject them, fearing the strings and expectations. I preferred not to owe anyone. I preferred to feel free. I didn’t know that I wasn’t free. I was in a box of unworthiness and didn’t even realize it.

I’d become a really poor receiver. I was a great giver and a poor receiver.

And then, I started to have really intense financial challenges and I had no idea how to get out of them. With the help of my Spiritual Practitioner, I began to work on praying to be receptive.

I began to reorient myself to be a good and gracious receiver.

I began to think of it this way: Everything I receive is from God and everything I give I give to God.

It doesn’t really matter who is giving or who is receiving – it’s all about being in the flow of the All-Good.

I learned to be able to give to anyone when I felt called and not do it from obligation. I learned to receive from anyone and not feel an attachment.

I began to experience more affluence, more Abundance and more Prosperity right away.

Are you a good receiver? Start to make an inquiry into your giving and receiving abilities. If you’re not feeling the flow, maybe you’re not willing to receive? Take a look and see what you find in your heart!

One way to increase receptivity was shared to me by a friend and it really works. Try this: start to dress up more and present yourself in a more attractive way (of course that’s subjective, but do what works for YOU), and then people will likely give you compliments. Another way is to be more helpful to people, and people naturally will say thank you.

Notice if you can easily receive the compliments and the appreciation. Do you feel tempted to push the praise away or minimize it? You can practice saying “thank you” to those who compliment you. I like to say, “Thank you, I feel great, too!” when someone compliments my appearance.

When someone appreciates what I’ve done, I can say “It’s my pleasure.”

Being a graceful receiver is a good skill to have.
It affirms our worthiness. And that’s helpful.

If you’d like to be more abundant, be a great receiver!
All blessings come from Spirit, no matter what form they take.

If you suspect that worthiness is your issue, then you might consider receiving my gift. My Worthiness Workshop this past weekend was such a hit that I’m offering it again this week. Register to get my worksheet and fill it out. I’ll let you know when the next workshop is!

There’s no cost, but you do have to register. Click here to register now.

Worthiness Workshop

This workshop is for people who are interested in making a change. When you register, I’ll send you a link to download the worksheet that you’ll need to set aside some time to fill out and bring to the workshop to be able to get the benefits. Let’s do this healing together and not put it off any longer!

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Wholly Helpful

Tuesday, September 3rd, 2019

One of the things we were discussing in Masterful Living last night was how to deal with the obsessive compulsive negative thinking. I have really had a journey with this experience.

I used to get into these loops of thinking where I was defending and attacking, explaining and convincing, and then back to attacking and defending. Running those negative thought patterns in an obsessive compulsive way always made me feel just awful about myself. It felt so completely out of my control, and I hated it.

Now, I am so grateful to know that those patterns were my opportunities to demonstrate my willingness to be loving and experience the Freedom being loving brings.

I’ve learned that if my thoughts are defensive and protective, then I’m actually looking for an excuse to attack. The ego thought system is one of opposites and it’s quite tricky. Fortunately, the thought system of Spirit is truth and truth liberates us from the ego’s traps.

When we choose loving kindness with no ulterior motive we are being truly helpful and then we’re divinely protected.

The truly helpful are invulnerable, because they are not protecting their egos and so nothing can hurt them. Their helpfulness is their praise of God, and He will return their praise of Him because they are like Him, and they can rejoice together. God goes out to them and through them, and there is great joy throughout the Kingdom. Every mind that is changed adds to this joy with its individual willingness to share in it. The truly helpful are God’s miracle workers, whom I direct until we are all united in the joy of the Kingdom. I will direct you to wherever you can be truly helpful, and to whoever can follow my guidance through you.” A Course in Miracles, T-4.VII.8.

We can interrupt the patterns of negative thinking with a simple affirmation such as “Love holds no grievances,” from lesson 68 in the ACIM Workbook. I’ve learned that having that simple affirmation, or one like it, becomes the pattern interrupter that helps me retrain my mind to stay focused on my God thoughts and choices.

Healing is happening for all of us and we can accelerate it using tools like this!

Simple, but not always easy! Still, it actually works. And it brings benefit for all.

What do you use to interrupt the patterns of obsessive compulsive negative thinking? Please tell us about it and share in the comments below! Thank you!

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Meltdown

Tuesday, July 23rd, 2019

You know the healing is REALLY happening in your mind when you no longer feel punished by the things occurring in your life. When you can take whatever comes in stride with grace.

Healing is happening when you’ve spun out your complaints, death threats, suicidal tendencies, despair, anger, hatred and depression to the point where it just doesn’t interest you anymore.

When we decide we’d like to get to that point of clarity, Spirit arranges for a lot of things to come up into our awareness for healing. It’s a purging and sometimes it feels like a hurricane, a tempest is brewing, and then it arrives full force.

When this happens, when it seems like life is melting down, PLEASE know this: it’s not a failure. It’s a crucible. Your life is melting down so you can be reborn. This is what happens in the Development of Trust, according to A Course in Miracles:
First, they must go through what might be called “a period of undoing.” This need not be painful, but it usually is so experienced. It seems as if things are being taken away, and it is rarely understood initially that their lack of value is merely being recognized. How can lack of value be perceived unless the perceiver is in a position where he must see things in a different light? He is not yet at a point at which he can make the shift entirely internally. And so the plan will sometimes call for changes in what seem to be external circumstances. These changes are always helpful. When the teacher of God has learned that much, he goes on to the second stage.

It’s like when the caterpillar goes into the cocoon. It’s of it’s own making. Inside the chrysalis, the caterpillar melts. It liquefies, like in a crucible where the metal is melted so that the dross can be burned off, or so that the high temperature, pressure, heat, will bring an alchemy of change.

A meltdown is part of the healing process. Move through it and get to the other side with help from the invisible. Don’t go it alone. Call on Spirit to carry you, but be willing to go.

We all desire this change and we all have levels of resistance. Being in resistance isn’t being stuck. Give thanks that you’re not stagnant. Note where you are, without any judgment, and be willing to move to the next stage of your healing. Willingness is ALL that’s required, and we don’t have to understand ANY of it to be willing.

I encourage you to be sure not to miss my radio show today! Part 2 of my conversation with kironJ Gardner. I look forward to sharing it with you!

TODAY’S RADIO SHOW: my topic is Healing The Body With the Mind – Part 2. You can listen in LIVE on my radio show – click here for details – or you can click here to get the download later at iTunes or Stitcher for Android. All the previous episodes are free at iTunes & Stitcher right now! Transcripts and more are available here: LivingaCourseinMiracles.com. You can subscribe to the podcast and get the show every week automatically on your phone, iPod, iPad or computer. Check it out! And if you enjoy the radio show, will you please write a review so more people find the show? The more reviews, the more iTunes and Stitcher show it to people! Thank you!

Professional Trainings for Teachers, Counselors & Ministers 

If you think you might like to explore a spiritual career then check out my two trainings in October. They are each deeply healing and they are both part of larger professional programs, but anyone can take them.

Right now you can register for my How to Lead & Create A Workshop training which includes certification to lead my Forgive & Be Free workshop and then there’s my Spiritual Counseling Training Intensive which is a great program for anyone interested in becoming a better listener, cultivating compassion or intuition.

If you’re a spiritual healer, counselor, or teacher, you might be interested in one of my professional programs.  PLEASE TAKE A MINUTE to fill out my latest survey of your interests,  please click here now !  This way I’ll be sure to keep you informed.  
 
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Blessed Community

Monday, July 22nd, 2019

I’m up in Vermont again this summer. I’ve been coming here since 2006 to be with my teacher, Venerable Dhyani Ywahoo and be in community with the Sunray Meditation Society folks that I’ve come to know and love. This year, I’m not camping. I have a lot of work, so I made it easier for me to be in a house not too far from the Peace Village where the teachings are.

We’re preparing for the Sunray Peace Village Elder’s Gathering, a 3-day event that starts on Friday. They’ve been doing it on the last weekend of July for 35 years, gathering elders from many nations – Native American and indigenous elders from other countries, as well. It’s a lot of fun! If you are in the area, please come by – or maybe make a drive! It’s gorgeous here.

One of the things I love about the Sunray community is its diversity — diversity of people and diversity in nature. With all the different kinds of trees and birds, and everywhere we look in nature, is this endless display of diversity, plus people from around the world. I love diversity, and I find it comforting. It’s one of the reasons why I enjoy these Elders Gatherings – everyone looks and sounds so different, but our hearts feel the same.

I love that the days are filled with SO MUCH gratitude to our Creator, for our life, for the good in our life, for the food, the weather, and the opportunity to be together.

It takes MANY people working many long days in order to pull this event off. (I would love to share pictures, but the best parts are not to be photographed, they’re to be experienced.) Some of us are doing things we’ve never done before, some of us are trying out our talents and gifts.

We’re almost always outside all day and I love that.

I love to see the wise Elders being respected and listened to. They have SO MUCH to share that’s helpful. I spent as much time as I could with my grandparents and I really enjoyed listening to them. To me, people are more interesting than movies, books or television. For me, there’s nothing more interesting than a good conversation that leads to a new understanding of the Beauty of life.

It’s powerful to see how affecting it is to us all, to be able to bask in the teachings of these ones and to remember the native ways of viewing the world.

I notice that I’ve become increasingly disinterested in movies, books and television unless they’re sharing truth and insight. Most stories aren’t interesting to me at all anymore. If I can’t feel the heart, it feels dull. I’d much rather have a great conversation with someone about their life and what they’re learning at any age!

Being able to speak, write, and teach in a way that touches hearts is a powerful and beautiful thing. It’s really great fun!

In this world of extraordinary diversity, who are the wise elders that you most admire and listen to? Please share in the comments section below!

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Professional Trainings for Teachers, Counselors & Ministers 

If you think you might like to explore a spiritual career then check out my two trainings in October. They are each deeply healing and they are both part of larger professional programs, but anyone can take them.

Right now you can register for my How to Lead & Create A Workshop training which includes certification to lead my Forgive & Be Free workshop and then there’s my Spiritual Counseling Training Intensive which is a great program for anyone interested in becoming a better listener, cultivating compassion or intuition.

If you’re a spiritual healer, counselor, or teacher, you might be interested in one of my professional programs.  PLEASE TAKE A MINUTE to fill out my latest survey of your interests,  please click here now !  This way I’ll be sure to keep you informed.  
 
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Kindness

Sunday, July 21st, 2019

“Little things mean a lot.” This is true for some, but not for others. Some people notice the little things and some do not. However, I’ve come to definitely know that the Infinite Love Intelligence that is guiding us all counts everything, every little thing.

Because all is One — one life, One mind — there is nothing against us, everything is for us, eternally. No matter how it may seem, nothing is ever against us.

Everything works together for good. There are no exceptions, except in the ego’s opinion. A Course In Miracles

Know that we’re not punished for our unloving choices, but we do feel the effect of them. We’re never punished, because that’s not the most effective way to teach anyone. Experiencing the consequences is different than being punished.

In fact, what greater punishment could someone subject us to than having us experience what it’s like to be, even momentarily, out of the flow of Love? We do it to ourselves.

I can honestly say that I sometimes am not kind. I get frustrated and I’m irritable. I’m not frustrated with others, I’m frustrated by my own ineffectiveness and my challenges communicating. It’s true. And every time I course-correct with kindness, my heart is healed a bit more. Kindness has transformed my life. It is a living spiritual practice of Love.

I have known spiritual students who were extremely dedicated in their practices and study, but who were highly reactive and who were actually mean and attacking of other spiritual students and teachers. We’re all on a journey. Me, too. AND a dedication to being kind has helped me to change my heart.

Here are some reasons to make kindness important that have really worked for me:

  • You will immediately feel better about yourself when you’re kind to others.  
  • Offering kindness to others IS being kind to your own physical, emotional, and mental bodies and being.  It’s unkind to let yourself be agitated and inflame your emotional body.  
  • Being kind puts us in the flow of Love and immediately shifts the energy.  This makes us naturally grateful, and gratitude raises our vibration and makes us more receptive to good in all it’s forms, including intuition.
  • When we’re kind in the face of unkindness, we can shift the energy and turn the tide, and sometimes that wakes another person up from their dream of feeling separate and that life is a battle – we redeem them back into their loving heart as we expand our own.  WOW!
  • It inspires others.  People are looking for models of happiness.  Seeing you be kind lifts the hearts of others and ignites the Love in them.
  • People notice when others are kind and they learn from the specifics of what you do by your example.  It gives people ideas of how to live a more loving life.

Here are some ways to make kindness important so that you don’t forget.

Every choice we makes sends a karmic ripple throughout the Universe. Rather than fear that, which stokes the fire of feeling bad and wrong, we can make a conscious choice in each moment to add something that brings benefit.

One way to bring tremendous benefit is to be kind. Yup. Kindness is always a smart move.

There are times when it’s REALLY challenging for the personality to be kind. We resist it. We fight against it. Sometimes, it doesn’t even occur to us. But still, we CAN make kindness important, if we choose to.

Think of it this way: Imagine you decided you were now going to incorporate images of hearts and angels into your decor, your jewelry and clothing, and your whole life. You would start to look for those things. You’d think of stores that might carry those things. You’d make an effort to go and look there. If you were going to go to a museum, you might make a decision to go to the gift shop and spend a few minutes looking around in there for an item with a heart or an angel that you could bring home, when normally you might avoid the bookstore. That’s the idea.

Ask your Higher Holy Spirit Self to make new opportunities to extend kindness to flash like a neon sign in your heart and mind. Look for ways you can be more considerate.

DECIDE this is how you’re going to live now.
You’re morphing into the kindest version of yourself.

Before you go into a meeting, a party, or a conversation with other people, affirm that you’re bringing your Higher Holy Spirit Self, the Mighty I AM Presence of you to go before you to lead and guide you, to alert you to the opportunities to extend kindness.

Of course, it doesn’t work if you are trying to get validation or recognition. Giving to someone in order to get something from them is co-dependency and manipulation. Let’s not kid ourselves about that. Bottom line: giving to get isn’t kind.

Being kind comes from a generosity of heart. It’s not that it’s better to give than to receive. It’s not. Everything we receive, we receive from Spirit as It’s the only Source. If we don’t receive, we have nothing to share. Receiving is essential.

Giving and receiving without attachment is what we’re learning to practice.

Every year in our Masterful Living Community we share so many wonderful stories of transformation of the other people in our lives because they are practicing non-judgment and kindness. It’s a deep and challenging practice. It’s also powerfully healing at all levels.

Being kind is a basic spiritual practice that we can share with our family, our co-workers, and our community. It makes a much bigger difference than we can even know. I cannot tell you how many times people have told me how much they learned from seeing me be kind to someone who was being aggressively rude with me.

It doesn’t mean we’re a doormat. Not at all. Being kind doesn’t mean putting up with other people’s meanness. It means understanding that when others are mean and unkind, they are not in their right mind. We can go to Spirit ask how to answer their cry for Love.

A Course in Miracles tells us that our brothers and sisters are our greatest help in awakening from the dream of separation. They redeem us as we redeem them – if we’re willing.

Dream softly of your sinless brother, who unites with you in holy innocence. And from this dream the Lord of Heaven will Himself awaken His beloved Son. Dream of your brother’s kindnesses instead of dwelling in your dreams on his mistakes. Select his thoughtfulness to dream about instead of counting up the hurts he gave. Forgive him his illusions, and give thanks to him for all the helpfulness he gave. And do not brush aside his many gifts because he is not perfect in your dreams. He represents his Father, Whom you see as offering both life and death to you.

Brother, He gives but life. Yet what you see as gifts your brother offers represent the gifts you dream your Father gives to you. Let all your brother’s gifts be seen in light of charity and kindness offered you. And let no pain disturb your dream of deep appreciation for his gifts to you. ACIM T-27.VII.15 & 16

Practicing in this way, simple acts of kindness ripple through our lives spreading Love and gratitude and they definitely can improve our ability to be happy.

Kindness IS happy making.

Let’s make the most of every opportunity and remember to laugh when we forget. Every day I offer this “Shot of Spiritual Espresso”. We use technology to transcend time and space, and deepen our spiritual practice and connect with each other. Our spiritual practice is our path of liberation. And that’s beautiful to share!

We’re all on a journey of relinquishing the blocks to Love, and there is so much help for us in the invisible. Kindness helped me to heal my life and my heart. We are never alone, we do it together. I Love you and I thank God for you. We bless each other with our willingness to rise in Spirit and come back into our right minds. Together, we truly are answering our call to BE the Love. YES!

If you’re a spiritual healer, counselor, or teacher, you might be interested in one of my professional programs. PLEASE TAKE A MINUTE to fill out my latest survey of your interests, please click here now! This way I’ll be sure to keep you informed.

Professional Trainings for Teachers, Counselors & Ministers

If you think you might like to explore a spiritual career then check out my two trainings in October. They are each deeply healing and they are both part of larger professional programs, but anyone can take them.

Right now you can register for my How to Lead & Create A Workshop training which includes certification to lead my Forgive & Be Free workshop and then there’s my Spiritual Counseling Training Intensive which is a great program for anyone interested in becoming a better listener, cultivating compassion or intuition.

If you find my “Daily Spiritual Espresso” and “Prayer for Today” helpful, won’t you please share at Facebook and click the “LIKE” button? Also, please like and comment on posts on Facebook. This helps, as Facebook will let more people see it and become inspired, too! Thank you!

 

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