Archive for the ‘Love’ Category

For My Freedom

Saturday, July 4th, 2020

A Course in Miracles tells us that we’ve made up a story about ourselves and life and then we forgot to laugh at the fiction of it.  I’ve certainly made up stories about myself and others, convinced myself that they were true and then forgot to laugh, and instead decided to cry a river of tears for years.  Yes, I have done that.

ACIM says:  Pain is a wrong perspective.

Don’t I know it!  Sheesh!

What I’ve learned, and become EXTREMELY grateful for is recognizing that the truth really is the thing that liberates us from all pain and suffering.

If we’d like to FEEL free and find the spiritual quality of FREEDOM that already exists as part of our true nature we absolutely must give up reviewing and renewing our attachment to our interpretations of the past.  

It’s really the only way to return to Love and happiness.

I talk with many people who are disturbed by things in this world from their family relationships, their health, politics, finances, work and all manner of other upsets.  When people start praying for the truth to be revealed things shift.

When we value the truth, we learn that Love and truth are really synonymous.  They are the same.  We cannot have truth without Love and we cannot have Love without truth.  They go together.  

Over and over again, I’ve witnessed how effective it is to pray for the truth to be revealed and known to all.  Relationships have transformed.  Healing has happened.  And I see the healing occurring in the world as I keep my focus on the truth being revealed.  Faster and faster, that which is false falls away.  

It’s ALWAYS more helpful to pray for truth to be revealed then to attack those who deceive and who have their own personal versions of the truth that bolster their perspective.  

I pray for the truth to be revealed in my heart and mind every day.  For my Freedom.

Every day I pray for the truth to be revealed in ALL hearts and minds. For our Freedom.

Every day I pray for the truth to be revealed wherever people are valuing their story, their interpretation, their point of view and their agenda of manipulation, control and personal gain.

We are one.  Let us not pray ONLY for our own personal healing and those we love, let’s open ourselves to a greater understanding of the oneness and unity of all life.  Int his lies our healing and revealing of truth.

I really didn’t think I’d be able to get to the place I am now.  The main turning point for me was when I made the decision to focus on discovering the truth through my spiritual practice.  I became very willing to give up my attachments to the meaning I made of everything.  

Through true forgiveness I’ve found true Freedom.

I’ve learned to let go of the particular kind of suffering that comes from believing my own version of events and conversations.  I’ve learned that if it doesn’t make me feel happy and free then it is no true and I can release it to Spirit for healing.  I can ask for a greater awareness of truth and it will be revealed to me.  

I can be liberated from the pain caused by my own perspective.  

It seems like it can be really hard to change our minds – but it’s not, if we really would like to live in a different way and feel connected to Spirit.

For my Freedom, I decided to focus on release of attachments, and valuing the truth even if it was a wake-up call.  

I discovered the healing practices that became my Finding Freedom From Fear spiritual bootcamp and my life began to change for the better – and it’s continued to this day.  In the first few years, I was amazed at how much better my life could get very quickly.  Now, I share that with others. 

My whole orientation changed and I began to achieve lasting success and the healing took hold in my heart and mind.  I no longer have ANY days where I feel like I’m sliding back.  That feeling is gone and I am forever grateful!

Where are you valuing that which isn’t actually true, and it’s just your interpretation?  Are you willing to give up your story to experience a greater awareness of God’s glory in your life?  

If you’d like to have a major increase in your choosing self-Love and kindness, you might like my Finding Freedom From Fear, spiritual boot camp class with ACIM principles. I haven’t offered this class in 9 months – this is your chance, if you’d like to join me and GO FOR IT!

PLUS, I’m recording all new classes.

If this is right for you right now, you’ll know it.

Trust your intuition! If you’ve been thinking about doing my Finding Freedom From Fear Boot camp for a while, but just haven’t been ready, consider booking an exploratory call with one of the spiritual counselors. They can answer all your questions and you’ll know what’s best for you. Book an exploratory call today!

My Finding Freedom From Fear spiritual boot camp isn’t for everyone – it’s for those who are willing to dive in and live the Love. Click here now to learn more.

We begin MONDAY, July 6! With a BONUS CLASS on July 5th. This is going to be SO good because I am ON FIRE!

Let’s have REAL and lasting transformation this summer with spiritual practice that brings benefit and healing for all. Now is the time for us to dive deep and eliminate the patterns of fear in our life. I thank you for being on the journey with me!

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No Comparison

Friday, July 3rd, 2020

When I lived in West Hollywood, I took yoga classes with models and movie stars. The competition for the title of “the most beautiful woman in the room” was intense. The more beautiful women there were, the more insecure women there were. It was a real learning for me.

In yoga class, it was easy to fall into comparing myself to others who were not only fitter than me, more attractive by cultural standards and more famous.

I haven’t ever been able to do a handstand. Many of the women in class with me could easily do handstands. I learned to say to myself “I can do that. Just not today.” It helped me to get over my comparisons.

One of the biggest points of pain we have is the suffering we experience caused by the habit of comparing ourselves to others. Only the ego compares. The heart knows we are united in Oneness.

When we’re comparing ourselves to others, more often than not we’re looking to come up short. We’re intending to find ourselves as failing. It’s an act of self-sabotage. It’s adding insult to injury. Can it possibly bring any benefit? No. None. It’s just a trick of the ego to help us feel more separate.

Comparison always leads to more suffering.

Whether we compare and think we’ve come out ahead or come out lacking, since there’s only one, either way we just feel more separate.

If I love my friend, would I encourage them to compare themselves to someone who seems better than them or more special? I would never say to a friend, “you’re not the best cook. I know a few other people I like better than you who are also much better cooks. You’re not so great. You’re just ok.”

Of course I wouldn’t say that to someone I cared about.
But people say things like that to themselves ALL THE TIME.

And it hurts!
It wears us down.

Comparison is judgment. All judgment is for the purpose of reinforcing separation. All belief in separation causes feelings of fear. Comparison is PURE separation thinking.

Let’s have an active practice of relating to others rather than comparing.

Let’s get into feeling the unity of all life.

Let’s watch our mind when it comes to comparing, attacking and needing or wanting to be better than someone else. The habit of comparing can be really sneaky, but since there’s no good that can come of it, just let it go every time you see it.

I find one of the best ways to let a negative thought pattern go is to make myself laugh about it. So, that’s why in my classes we say “compare and despair.” The rhyme helps us to be light-hearted and to remember to laugh. And let’s face it, it also reminds not to go down the road of despair!

There’s great healing that can come from our spiritual practice and it’s a benefit to all beings!

If you’d like to have a major increase in your choosing self-Love and kindness, you might like my Finding Freedom From Fear, spiritual boot camp class with ACIM principles. I haven’t offered this class in 9 months – this is your chance, if you’d like to join me and GO FOR IT!

PLUS, I’m recording all new classes.

If this is right for you right now, you’ll know it.

Trust your intuition! If you’ve been thinking about doing my Finding Freedom From Fear Boot camp for a while, but just haven’t been ready, consider booking an exploratory call with one of the spiritual counselors. They can answer all your questions and you’ll know what’s best for you. Book an exploratory call today!

My Finding Freedom From Fear spiritual boot camp isn’t for everyone – it’s for those who are willing to dive in and live the Love. Click here now to learn more.

We begin MONDAY, July 6! With a BONUS CLASS on July 5th. This is going to be SO good because I am ON FIRE!

Let’s have REAL and lasting transformation this summer with spiritual practice that brings benefit and healing for all. Now is the time for us to dive deep and eliminate the patterns of fear in our life. I thank you for being on the journey with me!

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Activating Your Abundance

Wednesday, July 1st, 2020

In my Finding Freedom Spiritual Bootcamp class I talk about having an awareness of your spiritual budget.  I’ve found this really helpful to me in shifting my mind and experiencing more happiness.  It also has had an affect on my Abundance and Prosperity.

There was a time in my life when I was deficit spending in my finances and there was also a time I was deficit spending in terms of my happiness.  

What I realized was that the way to shift things, and to do it quickly, is to increase the positive and decreases the negative – work it from both sides.

Many people thing that the answer to debt is simply to earn more money or to cut expenses.  What I’ve definitely proven is that shifting my mind from a focus on lack and limitation to a focus on gratitude and Love was the most effective change for me to activate my Abundance.

I’ve learned that doing my forgiveness work, and really looking deeply at the root causes of my resentments and regrets, while doing the self-forgiveness healing work has FAR MORE to activate and increase the flow of Prosperity in my life than just earning more money or cutting expenses ever did.

I had the experience of running up a lot of debt and carrying it for a number of years – and then through my active spiritual practice I attracted opportunities to earn much more money and I quickly paid off much of my debt – only to have it return.  I found myself with even more debt. 

This taught me that the answer wasn’t in the world – I learned it for REAL and so that led to my gratitude.  I prayed for the answer and it came in the form of clarity, insight and divine guidance.  

I did the deep forgiveness work – starting with myself.

Then forgiving others, and THEN I was led out of the wilderness of my debt.

I had avoided looking within because I was afraid of what I’d see.  

I preferred to blame others for my problems.  

Through my practice of prayer I finally became willing to develop a greater spiritual maturity and I found myself truly desiring to forgive EVERYTHING.

I began to get on a roll and build some real momentum.  And that’s what my classes are about now.  I like creating a safe space, with lots of support, where those who are willing can work in group and develop the inner fortitude to do the deep healing work and build the momentum of growing from breakthrough to breakthrough and from glory to greater glory.

I feel so blessed now to support those who would like to do as I’ve done.  Together we dive deep and fly high – on an ever-increasing upward spiral of God’s omnipresent goodness.

I feel so blessed.

I know for a fact that self-forgiveness leads to all kinds of good, including physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, relationship and financial healing – and so much more.  That’s why this work is never boring or tiresome.  It’s actually AMAZING because it’s always about returning to the unprecedented.

If you’d like to have a major increase in your experiences of direct knowing and miracles, you might like my Finding Freedom From Fear, spiritual bootcamp class with ACIM principles. I haven’t offered this class in 9 months – this is your chance, if you’d like to join me and GO FOR IT!

PLUS I’m recording all new classes.

If this is right for you right now, you’ll know it.

Trust your intuition! If you’ve been thinking about doing my Finding Freedom From Fear Bootcamp for a while, but just haven’t been ready, consider booking an exploratory call with one of the spiritual counselors. They can answer all your questions and you’ll know what’s best for you. Book an exploratory call today!

My Finding Freedom From Fear spiritual bootcamp isn’t for everyone – it’s for those who are willing to dive in and live the Love. Click here now to learn more.

We begin July 6! This is going to be SO good because I am ON FIRE!

Let’s have REAL and lasting transformation this summer with spiritual practice that brings benefit and healing for all. Now is the time for us to dive deep and eliminate the patterns of fear in our life. I thank you for being on the journey with me!

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Direct Insight

Wednesday, July 1st, 2020

I used to feel like there was an invisible glass ceiling (and walls) that I couldn’t get through in terms of my connection with Spirit. I felt that no matter what I did, no matter what I studied, no matter what my spiritual accomplishments were, I still had this feeling that I wasn’t really connected.

I felt confused and I felt frustrated.
I felt blocked.

At the very same time, I often observed that I was resisting following my intuition. I felt reluctant to do whatever I was feeling guided to do. Many times, I knew I’d be better off if I could follow that guidance, but I didn’t want to.

There were also many times when I actively would choose things that would lead me to feel guilty and ashamed.

These are all ways that I kept the cycles of separation going in my mind.

I felt separate from the spiritual connection and the true insight.

I wanted to receive divine downloads, but I didn’t feel worthy.

I had a major breakthrough when I made the commitment to put my full focus on being loving in every area of my life. That’s when I felt the invisible glass ceiling (and walls) begin to dissolve. I started to feel more connected.

The more connected with Spirit I felt, the more I desired to have more of that.

I feel very grateful that my desire to bust up the blocks to Love was met with real insights and guidance about how to move out of that feeling of stuckness that I’d had for so long.

There’s no substitute for direct knowing and insight.

When we know that we know that we know, it’s a great feeling of surety. Insecurity dissolves.

What’s required is a great willingness to trade our stories for the truth.

So much healing is available for us and we can receive profound levels of support – beyond what we can even imagine. We’re entitled to miracles. So much awaits our decision to Love, really LOVE.

If you’d like to have a major increase in your experiences of direct knowing and miracles, you might like my Finding Freedom From Fear, spiritual bootcamp class with ACIM principles. I haven’t offered this class in 9 months – this is your chance, if you’d like to join me and GO FOR IT!

PLUS I’m recording all new classes.

If this is right for you right now, you’ll know it.

Trust your intuition! If you’ve been thinking about doing my Finding Freedom From Fear Bootcamp for a while, but just haven’t been ready, consider booking an exploratory call with one of the spiritual counselors. They can answer all your questions and you’ll know what’s best for you. Book an exploratory call today!

My Finding Freedom From Fear spiritual bootcamp isn’t for everyone – it’s for those who are willing to dive in and live the Love. Click here now to learn more.

We begin July 6! This is going to be SO good because I am ON FIRE!

Let’s have REAL and lasting transformation this summer with spiritual practice that brings benefit and healing for all. Now is the time for us to dive deep and eliminate the patterns of fear in our life. I thank you for being on the journey with me!

Come join us this Wednesday on Maria Felipe’s Live Your Happy TV! I’ll be sharing on the topic FREEDOM FROM FEAR. Now, when so many people are feeling intensely triggered, let’s eliminate the root causes of fear! Register HERE

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My Cry For Love

Friday, June 26th, 2020

I don’t think there’s been anyone in my immediate family who has been as hostile, petulant, judgmental, passive-aggressive or down right mean as I have.  I used to be utterly obnoxious at times.  I would lose control and behave like a crazy person.  And here’s how it’s ALL good.  Now, I have so much compassion for myself and others when they aren’t being their normal loving self.  

A parent once shared with me a mean comment that she heard one of her children say to the other.  The comment was definitely intended to attack and hurt and the parent, understandably, wanted to know how to discipline the child.  My first thought was, if your child is being mean, they need some extra love not discipline.  

I know that when I was behaving like a deranged monster, it was just a cry for Love.

I truly didn’t know what else to do.  Honestly, I was doing the only thing that made sense to me.  

Of course I understand why my loved ones got angry with me and wanted to punish me to teach me that my behavior was unacceptable.

They love me and they wished for me to learn to behave in ways that were acceptable.

They also didn’t want to live with a crazy, mean person.  Who does?

I’m so grateful that my family never gave up on me or kicked me out.  I’m SO grateful.  

What I’ve learned is that Love heals.

Love is patient, Love is kind.

It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.

It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking;

it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.

Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things; endures all things.

Love never ends.

                                Corinthians 4-8

Love is unconditional.

As Shakespeare said so beautifully “Love is not love which alters when it alteration finds, nor bends with the remover to remove.  It is an ever-fixed mark that looks on tempests and is never shaken.”

It might not be easy to love without conditions, but it’s definitely healing to everyone involved.

In this world, to be the happy learner, we absolutely must forgive everything.  We must let all the beliefs go.  We must surrender all of our interpretations and the meaning we’ve made of things.  In other words, we must relinquish the hold we have on all that is false, all the stories we’ve made up and told.  

Our mind IS the mind of God.

Whatever we hold in our mind will seem true to us whether it is true or not.  

We cause trouble, and upset ourselves when we actively choose to believe that which isn’t true.  Our happiness depends upon our willingness to value the truth above all else.

One thing many people do is they decide that people don’t love them or that we’re not lovable, or they’re not lovable.   There’s such a strong tendency for people to make declarations that are limiting and just bring more sorrow, frustration, regret and resentment.  

When we’re holding resentment it won’t end until we release the meaning we’ve made of things.  That’s the only way out of that one.  We can learn to relax our mind and have more patience.  It is SO worth it. 

We can accomplish so much with Love and nothing without it.  

My practice of non-judment isn’t perfect yet, but one thing I know is to “love them anyway.”

Let’s remember to Love more fully and more consistently and let’s do it together!

If relationships are your big challenge, you might like my  Finding Freedom From Fear, spiritual bootcamp class with ACIM principles.  I haven’t offered this class in 9 months – this is your chance, if you’d like to join me and GO FOR IT!

PLUS I’m recording all new classes.

If this is right for you right now, you’ll know it.

Trust your intuition! If you’ve been thinking about doing my Finding Freedom From Fear Bootcamp for a while, but just haven’t been ready, consider booking an exploratory call with one of the spiritual counselors. They can answer all your questions and you’ll know what’s best for you. Book an exploratory call today!

My Finding Freedom From Fear spiritual boot camp isn’t for everyone – it’s for those who are willing to dive in and live the Love. Click here now to learn more.

We begin July 5! This is going to be SO good because I am ON FIRE!

Let’s have REAL and lasting transformation this summer with a spiritual practice that brings benefits and healing for all. Now is the time for us to dive deep and eliminate the patterns of fear in our life. I thank you for being on the journey with me.

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Happy Father’s Day, Dad!

Sunday, June 21st, 2020

You may not know it, but my father reads my blog, so I have to be careful of what I say. (Just kidding! He does read it, Hi, Dad. Happy Father’s Day! But I don’t feel I have to edit what I say.)

I’m fortunate that my parents got married and stayed together because they loved each other. They were together for 50 years before my mother passed in 2008.

I’m not a parent, but I have many friends and relatives who are and I see that all people learn the good, and less good from their parents.

What I know is that my father took the best of his father’s parenting style and he added to it to improve it. And I’m grateful.

My grandfather, Walter Thomas Hadley was born in 1905 and he saw a startling number of changes in his lifetime. When he was a boy, his father left him, his sisters and their mother to fend for themselves. They had to find their own way in tough times. My great grandmother took in laundry and my grandfather helped her with it, holding the washboard so they could earn what they needed to get by.

It used to be that children had to help their parents earn enough money just to buy food, and put the bare minimum of a roof over their head. We need to honor that. I honor my grandfather who worked so hard most of his life, to provide for his family.

Some of the stories my Grandpa told me have stayed in my mind, seared into my memory because they helped me to understand my grandfather who could often be quite brusque. I was the second grandchild, so I got the grandfather who would roll around on the floor with me and be completely cuddly and sweet. My younger cousins didn’t get to see that grandfather because by the time their was a pack of us he was more distant.

I remember my grandfather yelling it me because I wasn’t wearing shoes. They had this lush wall-to-wall carpeting which was quite a thing back in the early 60’s and it didn’t make any sense to me why I always had to wear shoes at my grandparents house. He’d bark at me “get your shoes on! You’ve got shoes, put them on!”

It wasn’t until I was a teenager that he told me that when he was a boy he didn’t have shoes. As a poor fatherless boy in the hills of Kentucky, shoes were a luxury, food was a necessity.

When Grandpa told me that he grew up without shoes, I finally could understand why he wanted me to wear shoes all the time. My ability to wear shoes helped to undo the shame and suffering he experienced as a boy, going to school without shoes even in winter.

My grandfather had a difficult childhood. Being hungry as a child, especially a growing boy in a house full of girls, with a mother who was frequently sick must have been so difficult. He once told me of being given the task of carrying the family’s only money, a solitary nickel, to the store to buy the basic supplies to make corn bread, was a terrifying errand. The entire walk to the store he feared losing that nickel, his family’s fortune, and the suffering that could cause.

What a heavy load for a small child.

At twelve years old my Grandpa quit school, and went off to work. He was “batchin’” it as he called it. A bachelor at 12. Competing with men for jobs so he could help support and feed his family back home.

My grandfather made his way in the world as a young man in the depression. He was 25 in 1930, venturing into marriage and fatherhood.

My Grandpa always appreciated everything he had. He never, ever took anything for granted and he taught the rest of us the same values. Eventually, my grandfather did quite well, through hard work, determination and a tremendous generosity. He volunteered to help others less fortunate and to make the future generations stronger so they could have the advantages he didn’t. He tithed to the church and other charities. He gave more than he got.

Grandpa met my grandmother, who was an educated woman, and she helped him by teaching him math and other basics that he needed to get along in business. They worked together at that at night, while raising four boys of their own, my father was the youngest.

Sometimes I wonder how my grandmother ever could have managed with four boys born within six years of each other. I can’t imagine the capacity that takes to really love and be kind, but she had it. She loved her four boys and she loved her husband. My grandfather could be tough, and grumpy and snap at us, but I never thought for one minute that he didn’t completely love and care for us.

I always knew that my family would go through hell for me if that was called for.

My father, Danny Wells Hadley, learned so much about commitment and providing from his parents. I knew that my father would take care of me no matter what. That knowing was the greatest gift he gave me.

Although we had our fights and disagreements, which could be epic, the Love was always there.

It was and is REAL.

Relationships require constant release of judgment and complaint in order to be happy ones. Holding onto resentments and regrets, guilt and shame, blame and hurt, destroy relationships. They’re like battery acid to our heart. And yet many people do feel they have to hold onto things to protect themselves from future hurts.

Nothing could be further from the truth.

Only an open heart can ALLOW us to have a truly loving relationship now. The Love we’d like to share in our relationships is completely dependent upon our ability to forgive ourselves for the mistakes we’ve made.

Our self-compassion gives us the ability to have compassion for others.

Our compassion for others trains us to have compassion for ourselves.

I was a grudge holder in my younger years and so I caused myself a lot of suffering, and I spread that suffering out onto others.

I’m so grateful that my father never, ever gave up on me and that he loved me through it. And I did the same for him. Now, our relationship feels clean and clear to me. The past comes up, but there’s not pain in anymore. We’ve done the work to clear the past.

When we truly forgive, the cause of the pain is gone.
And that’s why I teach forgiveness.
I’ve learned from it.
Forgiveness isn’t taught in schools.
It’s taught in families.

My grandparents did carry some resentments into their old age. In looking back, I see that their hurts were related to their own inability to forgive themselves, and projecting that out onto others, blaming others. It wasn’t a lot, but it was painful for them. And I learned from that too.

We’re all teachers.

The only thing there is to teach is Love because that is what we are.

We’re teaching each other to really love without conditions, without needing, wanting, carving, and to give fully without expectations. It can feel like a tall order until we get the hang of it.

That’s where forgiveness becomes our best tool.

I’m certain that my grandfather was taught selfless, giving Love by his mother, and someone taught it to her. My grandfather was able to see that quality and ability in my grandmother and it attracted him.

Together they taught it to my father and his brothers.

My father was attracted to my mother and she had that same ability and quality to truly be able to Love.

And they taught it to me.

And we all bring it out in each other.
It’s there.
The Love is there.
It’s always there.
And if we are willing we can enhance it in each other,
and not squelch it or bury it.

If we recognize that we’ve hurt another and caused them to diminish their Love Light, we can forgive ourselves first and they will naturally benefit because we’re one with each other.

This is the way of humanity.
We’re here to help each other.
To release all resentments.
To surrender the grudges.
To free ourselves and our ancestors
of all our choices born of fear that we’ve passed down.
We’re here to be truly helpful and remember our Heavenly Father in order to honor our earthly fathers.

I don’t have children, but if I did, I absolutely know they’d have to learn from my mistakes, and I’d have to forgive myself for my errors and shortcomings and be grateful for any bit of goodness and Love that I could pass on.

Today, I encourage you to forgive your father and yourself.
Release the judgments you’ve held against yourself.

And if you need any help with that come to our Sundays With Spirit.

TODAY, you can join me and my dear friends, Eisha Mason, Ray Davis, Carla Mahle and more friends on zoom. Eisha has been an inspiration to me for decades and I’m so glad we’ll get to be together on zoom today. This will be inspiring! We’ll have a spiritual celebration together with message and music – we call it Sundays With Spirit. Please invite your family! If you can’t join us, you can catch the replay! Because we’re going to be live on video, you’ll have to register to get the detail. All are welcome, there’s no charge, but you do have to register, unless you’ve already registered in the past.

When you register, you’ll also get easy access to past services with Lisa Natoli, Jon Mundy, David Hoffmeister, Maureen Muldoon, Corinne Zupko, Maria Felipe and more. If you’ve already registered for a previous Sunday – you don’t need to register again, you’ll get a reminder with the details automatically.

I look forward to our gathering TODAY. It means so much that we can join together and love on each other.

Please pray with me! Prayer works! Joining together in prayer for our healing, for the active practice of joining with Spirit, and allowing my healing is precisely why every day I write inspiration and record a prayer to go with it. You can join me in cultivating the willingness that raises us ALL up so we can be truly helpful in this world.

My Finding Freedom From Fear Bootcamp starts on July 5! I’m recording ALL NEW CLASSES. This is going to be SO good because I am ON FIRE!

Let’s have REAL and lasting transformation this summer with a spiritual practice that brings benefit and healing for all. Now is the time for us to dive deep and eliminate the patterns of fear in our life. I thank you for being on the journey with me.

May you and your family feel blessed today and every day!

Trust your intuition! If you’ve been thinking about doing my Finding Freedom From Fear Bootcamp for a while, but just haven’t been ready, consider booking an exploratory call with one of the spiritual counselors. They can answer all your questions and you’ll know what’s best for you. Book an exploratory call today!

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2 Steps Forward, No Steps Back

Friday, June 19th, 2020

I just got an email from a truly beautiful soul who gave me the same advice I’ve heard many times, and I am so grateful that people care enough to tell me something they think will help me.

The advice they gave me was to change the name of Stop Playing Small online retreat to Start Playing Big.

And I get it. I’ve been having this conversation with people for many years.

When I started taking lots of self-help and spiritual expansion programs everyone was doing programs called something like “Start Playing Big.” I took so many of them.

In fact, I just got an email today from a spiritual teacher who is very well known inviting me to a program called: Living a Masterful Life: Accessing Dynamic Insights and Peak States of Inspiration to Embrace the Next Stage.

And that sounds really good. It sounds like a wonderful program, but here’s the thing:

I’ve taken so many programs with names like that.

And for me, when I was feeling stuck,
and I knew I was playing small,
and I had taken 20 of those programs with names like that
and I was STILL playing small,
I absolutely KNEW that taking the 21st program about living a miraculous life wasn’t what I needed.

I KNEW that I was blocking that miraculous life and I needed help to bring on a breakthrough and get unstuck.

Part of my problem was that I did not believe, not at all, that I really had what it took to live a miraculous life.

I wanted to “start playing big” but I was not ready for that AT ALL.

I couldn’t have gone from playing small to playing big that fast.

Perhaps other people can do what I couldn’t do.
But I really didn’t know any of those people.

For me, getting unstuck from playing small was my first step.

I had to release the blocks to love before I could feel prepared for playing big.

AND there are a lot of people who have NO interest in playing big – whatever that means.

Most people don’t care about playing big – they just don’t wish to have one more day, one more month or year of playing small and living a limited life. And I get that.

I played small for a long time.
I couldn’t seem to get out of my own way.
I knew I was the one that was blocking my path.
And knowing that was painful.

I had excuses, but deep down, I knew what the truth was.
I was the problem.

What I didn’t know was how to get out of the way.

First came my willingness, and then it was revealed to me.
I got out of that quagmire that had held me in place so long.

Now, I don’t think about playing big or small.

We can take 2 steps forward and NO steps backward.

Now, I’m focused on simply sharing my gifts and talents in ways that are fulfilling for me and helpful to others. That’s what I do and I really enjoy it. Every day is a good day, and some days are really amazing.

If you know you’re playing small, then you know it’s not going to get any easier.

Would you like some support to bring on a breakthrough?  
If you feel like you might be playing small and hiding your light under a bushel because of your beliefs about yourself, if you think maybe those beliefs are false and could be eliminated, and if you have a willingness to do some inner work to make a real and lasting change then please consider joining me and some other folks just like you who are SO DONE WITH PLAYING SMALL and ready to let those patterns go.

My Stop Playing Small Retreat was going to be in the UK this month, but now it’s being offered ONLINE, so all can join. This online retreat is for folks who are frustrated with feeling stuck and fearful. It’s designed for those who’d like to bring on a breakthrough so they can move forward with confidence toward their heart’s desire in any area of their life. Click here for details. If you aren’t sure if it’s right for you right now, book an Exploratory Call with one of the spiritual counselors. The call is free and you’ll find benefit in addition to getting all your questions answered.

TAKE ACTION! If you’re interested in either the Stop Playing Small Retreat or Finding Freedom From Fear Spiritual Bootcamp, but you aren’t sure if it’s right for you right now, book an Exploratory Call with one of the spiritual counselors. The call is free and you’ll find benefit in addition to getting all your questions answered. Click here now to book an Exploratory Call with a Spiritual Counselor.

How would you like a $500 discount?
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Finding Freedom From Fear Bootcamp starts on July 5! Let’s rock this summer with our spiritual practice that brings benefit and healing for all. Now is the time for us to dive deep and eliminate the patterns of fear in our life.

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Activation

Thursday, June 18th, 2020

Phew! Another intense day yesterday. The energy is off the charts. Not everyone is feeling it, and it feels different to each of us. For instance, you might feel aches and pains in your body. You might feel agitated and easily upset.

I’ve been feeling it in my solar plexus chakra.

When this happens, I call it Energetic Weather.

One of the ways that I experience this kind of thing is it feels like there’s a lot more Light pouring into this dimension and it’s illuminating everything.

We become more aware of the good in people and also the less good and what we might call the ugly.
We become more aware of our own foibles and we can feel intensely triggered by what’s going on and our opinions about it.

To me, it’s a call to go deeper, to look within, and to look to Spirit.

I feel that more prayer is very helpful.

For the last decade it’s felt like we were birthing ourselves into a higher level of consciousness and now is the time for us to PUSH.

Just like in the birth of a human baby, there often comes a time when the mother must PUSH that baby out. It feels like we’re in that phase right now.

Rather than having us individually pushing, let’s stop resisting and let Spirit slide us to the next level of our growth and development.

In God all things are possible.
Let’s do our part, and let’s not forget that we can quantum leap!

Quantum leaping is shifting positions without traveling.
Let’s leap with out jumping. It’s much easier on the body.

Now is the time for us to focus on the inner journey so we can be anchored in Peace and be truly helpful in this global humanity shift.

We are the ones we’ve been waiting for.

Our time is now.

Activation!

Would you like some support to bring on a breakthrough?  
If you feel like you might be playing small and hiding your light under a bushel because of your beliefs about yourself, if you think maybe those beliefs are false and could be eliminated, and if you have a willingness to do some inner work to make a real and lasting change then please consider joining me and some other folks just like you who are SO DONE WITH PLAYING SMALL and ready to let those patterns go.

My Stop Playing Small Retreat was going to be in the UK this month, but now it’s being offered ONLINE, so all can join. This online retreat is for folks who are frustrated with feeling stuck and fearful. It’s designed for those who’d like to bring on a breakthrough so they can move forward with confidence toward their heart’s desire in any area of their life. Click here for details. If you aren’t sure if it’s right for you right now, book an Exploratory Call with one of the spiritual counselors. The call is free and you’ll find benefit in addition to getting all your questions answered.

TAKE ACTION! If you’re interested in either the Stop Playing Small Retreat or Finding Freedom From Fear Spiritual Bootcamp, but you aren’t sure if it’s right for you right now, book an Exploratory Call with one of the spiritual counselors. The call is free and you’ll find benefit in addition to getting all your questions answered. Click here now to book an Exploratory Call with a Spiritual Counselor.

How would you like a $500 discount?
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Finding Freedom From Fear Bootcamp starts on July 5! Let’s rock this summer with our spiritual practice that brings benefit and healing for all. Now is the time for us to dive deep and eliminate the patterns of fear in our life.

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Self-Nourishing Spiritual Practice

Wednesday, June 17th, 2020

Phew!  Yesterday was an INTENSE day for a lot of people.  I felt the intensity from the moment I first woke up.  And, I have a Fitbit, so I also track my sleep and normally I have close to 4 hours of deep sleep and I had half that.  There’s so much intensity in the human experience right now it’s important that we take good care of ourselves.

One thing I’ve found very helpful is salt water baths.  Get a regular box of salt, I do prefer sea salt, you can usually get one for $2 at the grocery store – you don’t need a fancy kind.  Pour at least half of it in your bath water and soak in it.  The saltwater helps to reset your electrical system.  You will feel better.  

Another way to do it is get into the bath, pour some salt in your hand and rub it on your wet skin.  It will be the perfect exfoliant and will give you an extra benefit.  

I have found that it is so helpful to consider my self-care as part of my spiritual practice.  

I take good care of my hands, my feet, my skin, and that nurturing is part of my spiritual practice of self-care.

For an extra dollar or two (not more than that) I can get the organic lotion.  

I buy mostly organic shampoo, lotion and soap and it doesn’t cost me much more than regular things – perhaps $20 in a year.

I’m worth it.

I’ve discovered that having a break from the business, sitting outside, listening to the birds, not being on my phone or computer, being with Mother Nature – that’s self-loving and a spiritual practice.

Opening the windows and getting fresh air in the room.  This shifts the energy and support me and other living beings.

I have plants that give off lots of oxygen in the rooms I spend the most time in.  And part of my spiritual practice is to connect with them, acknowledge them and appreciate them.  They love it and anyone can tell because they’re so vibrant.

Taking time to really look at the trees, the sky, the people in our life, the food that we’re eating give us an opportunity to take in the Beauty that life is offering us ALL the time.

I remember hearing Dr. David Hawkins sharing that exposing little children to Beauty was one of the most nourishing things we can do for them.  Well, the same is true for adults.

When people don’t love themselves they can fall into ruts of living in a deprived state.  

Even people with very few resources can be nourished and uplifted with Beauty.  Look around yourself, do you live in a deprived way?  Is your world warm and inviting?  Is it welcoming to people and Spirit?    

What are some of the ways you self-care and self-nourish that are part of your daily spiritual practice?  Please share in the comments below!

Would you like some support to bring on a breakthrough?  
If you feel like you might be playing small and hiding your light under a bushel because of your beliefs about yourself, if you think maybe those beliefs are false and could be eliminated, and if you have a willingness to do some inner work to make a real and lasting change then please consider joining me and some other folks just like you who are SO DONE WITH PLAYING SMALL and ready to let those patterns go.

My Stop Playing Small Retreat was going to be in the UK this month, but now it’s being offered ONLINE, so all can join. This online retreat is for folks who are frustrated with feeling stuck and fearful. It’s designed for those who’d like to bring on a breakthrough so they can move forward with confidence toward their heart’s desire in any area of their life. Click here for details. If you aren’t sure if it’s right for you right now, book an Exploratory Call with one of the spiritual counselors. The call is free and you’ll find benefit in addition to getting all your questions answered.

TAKE ACTION! If you’re interested in either the Stop Playing Small Retreat or Finding Freedom From Fear Spiritual Bootcamp, but you aren’t sure if it’s right for you right now, book an Exploratory Call with one of the spiritual counselors. The call is free and you’ll find benefit in addition to getting all your questions answered. Click here now to book an Exploratory Call with a Spiritual Counselor.

How would you like a $500 discount?
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Finding Freedom From Fear Bootcamp starts on July 5! Let’s rock this summer with our spiritual practice that brings benefit and healing for all. Now is the time for us to dive deep and eliminate the patterns of fear in our life.

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What is Justice?

Tuesday, June 16th, 2020

What is justice?

This is the title of Chapter 19 in the Manual for Teachers of A Course in Miracles.

And the answer is: whatever you’d like it to be.

Just kidding. That would be crazy! But that IS how the ego thought system works.

I live in the United States where the “justice” system doesn’t always have ANYTHING to do with justice. If we look at what has happened to our prisons in this country in the last couple of decades it is so clear to anyone who is paying attention that our prisons have become big businesses that incarcerate men of color and profits white men. These are facts.

That’s not justice. It’s legalized insanity.

We, you and I are here ONLY to be truly helpful.
We are here to represent the one who sent us.
We are here to re-present the one who sent us.

Can we do that and remain silent?

In his beautiful work, Letter From the Birmingham Jail, Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. wrote these words that touched me deeply and profoundly and I think of them often:

“I received a letter this morning from a white brother in Texas which said, “All Christians know that the colored people will receive equal rights eventually, but is it possible that you are in too great of a religious hurry? It has taken Christianity almost 2000 years to accomplish what it has. The teachings of Christ take time to come to earth.”

All that is said here grows out of a tragic misconception of time. It is the strangely irrational notion that there is something in the very flow of time that will inevitably cure all ills. Actually, time is neutral. It can be used either destructively or constructively.

I am coming to feel that the people of ill will have used time much more effectively than the people of good will. We will have to repent in this generation not merely for the vitriolic words and actions of the bad people but for the appalling silence of the good people.

We must come to see that human progress never rolls in on wheels of inevitability. It comes through the tireless efforts and persistent work of men willing to be coworkers with God, and without this hard work time itself becomes an ally of the forces of social stagnation.”

He wrote those words from jail after his arrest at a nonviolent demonstration. They ring in my heart. I cannot let them go. They have been motivating me since I first read them in 1997.

We cannot wait on time.
Time has no volition, no intention, it is no-thing.
We cannot wait.

Time is not our friend or our enemy.

Let us use our time constructively.

Let us be truly helpful each and every day of our lives.

We work for God, Inc. and now is our time.

We have been training for this our entire lives.

Follow your HEART and you cannot fail! Spirit never fails. Spirit works through our loving heart!

Would you like some support to bring on a breakthrough?  
If you feel like you might be playing small and hiding your light under a bushel because of your beliefs about yourself, if you think maybe those beliefs are false and could be eliminated, and if you have a willingness to do some inner work to make a real and lasting change then please consider joining me and some other folks just like you who are SO DONE WITH PLAYING SMALL and ready to let those patterns go.

My Stop Playing Small Retreat was going to be in the UK this month, but now it’s being offered ONLINE, so all can join. This online retreat is for folks who are frustrated with feeling stuck and fearful. It’s designed for those who’d like to bring on a breakthrough so they can move forward with confidence toward their heart’s desire in any area of their life. Click here for details. If you aren’t sure if it’s right for you right now, book an Exploratory Call with one of the spiritual counselors. The call is free and you’ll find benefit in addition to getting all your questions answered.

TAKE ACTION! If you’re interested in either the Stop Playing Small Retreat or Finding Freedom From Fear Spiritual Bootcamp, but you aren’t sure if it’s right for you right now, book an Exploratory Call with one of the spiritual counselors. The call is free and you’ll find benefit in addition to getting all your questions answered. Click here now to book an Exploratory Call with a Spiritual Counselor.

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Finding Freedom From Fear Bootcamp starts on July 5! Let’s rock this summer with our spiritual practice that brings benefit and healing for all. Now is the time for us to dive deep and eliminate the patterns of fear in our life.

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R.E.S.P.E.C.T.

Monday, June 15th, 2020

Aretha Franklin, my favorite female singer of all time had a huge hit with the song R.E.S.P.E.C.T. by Otis Redding.  Their combined talent is off the charts.  And you just know that if Aretha were still alive we’d be hearing her sing Respect every where we went right now   

This song is a huge hit for so many reasons.  Yes, there’s Otis Redding’s words and music.  Yes, there’s Aretha’s powerhouse voice.  But there’s more.

Asking for respect in a relationship is liberation.  

Respect is a liberation song.  

AND it was released in 1967, during the civil rights movement.

AND the women’s liberation movement.

Talk about perfect timing!!

Respect is particularly powerful because you can tell the song is written by a man.  It has a man’s sensibility.  But coming at the time of women’s lib, it became a liberation song for ALL women, and particularly for women of color.

In 1967 she was 25 years old.  It was a bold move on her part to sing such a song and she had the voice to be that bold.  THANK YOU, GOD!

I wish we could hear Aretha singing live to us now.  Her voice can calm the stormy seas AND it can also move us to rise up into our loving hearts.  

And she would remind us of our personal power because that’s what the purity of her voice does.

Now is the time for us to truly respect each other.

We can respect our differences and agree to disagree with those who seem to have a difference of perspective, while respectfully working towards our goals of unity and nonviolent transformation.

We must respect ourselves, honor our body temple and our heart temple, now more than ever because our full attention is needed to hold the vision of unity and world peace.

“R.E.S.P.E.C.T. find out what it means to me.

R.E.S.P.E.C.T. take of T.C.B.”

T.C.B. = Taking care of business.  We, as spiritual leaders, because that’s what we are, we must take care of T.C.B. because our business is God’s business.  We work for God, Inc. now and that’s where we can keep our focus whether we’re with our family, on our job, or at a political demonstration.  

We are here to represent the one who sent us.  That’s our business now.  Let’s focus.

Please share in the comments below how you’re helping to move the world in the direction of Peace?  What inspired actions are you taking?

You can see Aretha lip synch to the original version of RESPECT in the movie Blues Brothers and it’s worth it.  SO GOOD!

BTW – my second favorite female singer of all time – who is such a close second that she probably is breathing down Aretha’s neck is Dinah Washington.    “Ask me how do I feel … if I were a bell I’d be ringing.”  It just doesn’t get any better than that! It’s the WAY that she sings it.  Good gosh almighty!  The quality of their voices is just unbelievable.  What a gift to be able to hear them.  If you ever wonder what good this world is, listen to them sing!

Would you like some support to bring on a breakthrough?  

If you feel like you might be playing small and hiding your light under a bushel because of your beliefs about yourself, if you think maybe those beliefs are false and could be eliminated, and if you have a willingness to do some inner work to make a real and lasting change then please consider joining me and some other folks just like you who are SO DONE WITH PLAYING SMALL and ready to let those patterns go.

My Stop Playing Small Retreat was going to be in the UK this month, but now it’s being offered ONLINE, so all can join. This online retreat is for folks who are frustrated with feeling stuck and fearful. It’s designed for those who’d like to bring on a breakthrough so they can move forward with confidence toward their heart’s desire in any area of their life. Click here for details. If you aren’t sure if it’s right for you right now, book an Exploratory Call with one of the spiritual counselors. The call is free and you’ll find benefit in addition to getting all your questions answered.

TAKE ACTION! If you’re interested in either the Stop Playing Small Retreat or Finding Freedom From Fear Spiritual Bootcamp, but you aren’t sure if it’s right for you right now, book an Exploratory Call with one of the spiritual counselors. The call is free and you’ll find benefit in addition to getting all your questions answered. Click here now to book an Exploratory Call with a Spiritual Counselor.

How would you like a $500 discount?
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Finding Freedom From Fear Bootcamp starts on July 5! Let’s rock this summer with our spiritual practice that brings benefit and healing for all. Now is the time for us to dive deep and eliminate the patterns of fear in our life.

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Means and Ends

Sunday, June 14th, 2020

One of the spiritual teachings of A Course in Miracles that I work with almost every day is “the consistency of means and ends.

Almost every day I find myself examining this teaching as it plays out in my life.

In ACIM, we’re told, “You recognize you want the goal. Are you not also willing to accept the means? If you are not, let us admit that you are inconsistent. A purpose is attained by means, and if you want a purpose you must be willing to want the means as well. How can one be sincere and say, ‘I want this above all else, and yet I do not want to learn the means to get it?’”

In other words, we SAY we’d like Joy, Love, Peace, Abundance, Harmony, Freedom and all of the spiritual qualities to be fully realized by us in our lives, and yet, we’re not willing to employ the means necessary to experience those spiritual qualities.

This teaching is simple. It really is.

We say we’re clear about the goal: awakening, Peace, Love, heaven on earth.

Spirit has given us the means.

It is the way out of our personal hell.

And yet, we resist.
We’re reluctant.
We hide.
We delay.
We make excuses.

Why?

Because the means is forgiveness.

And we do not want to forgive.

We say we don’t know-how, that we’ve tried, but when we look more deeply, we haven’t. We cling to our position and the meaning we made of what happened. We defend and justify.

The means to be restored to the fullness of Peace, Love, Joy, Freedom, Abundance, Harmony and more, is to let go of the blocks to Love that we hold in our heart. That’s true forgiveness.

We’d like to have great Love, but we’re not willing to let go of our resentments.
We’d like to have Prosperity, but we’re not willing to let go of our belief in lack and limitation.
We’d like to have Peace, but we’re not willing to let go of our attack thoughts against ourselves and others.
We’d like to have Freedom, but we’re not willing to let go of the guilt and making others feel guilty.

In our minds, we imagine punishing people and seeking revenge.

It’s like saying we’d like to stop feeling pain, but we won’t let go of the hot iron that is burning us.

Niccolò Machiavelli famously said, “the ends justify the means.” That was his opinion. He was a philosopher and statesman, a contemporary of DaVinci during the time of the Renaissance. He was an atheist and a cynic seemingly devoid of morals. He wrote many books including “The Art of War.” He believed that the means to the goal, no matter how cruel or vicious, were justified.

We could say he was ego personified.

In a sense, you could say that Machiavelli’s philosophy became acceptable because of his writing and the success he experienced in his lifetime. We see that kind of thing play out today. Someone who manages to become wealthy and famous is considered successful even if they lied and cheated to get to their “success.”

Those who wish to justify their means can do it with their ill-gotten gains – and still, whatever anyone takes or makes at the expense of the suffering of others, will never ever be worth it. It will never bring fulfillment or happiness. The best it can ever do is offer a temporary cessation of longing. People whose method of success is to bring harm to others, to steal, to lie and to cheat, will never, ever be able to be happy, but they won’t know that till they get there.

While they can believe that we’re better than others and they deserve more than others, they don’t. They never will. Their class, their position, their financial power and leverage, their talent and their beauty won’t ever make them happy because in their soul, they know that we’re one with each other. We all do.

Other voices have spoken up about ends and means, particularly in the last hundred years or so.

Wilhelm Reich, the radical psychoanalyst said,
“You think the end justifies the means, however vile.
I tell you: the end is the means by which you achieve it.
Today’s step is tomorrow’s life.
Great ends cannot be attained by base means.
You’ve proved that in all your social upheavals.
The meanness and inhumanity of the means make you
mean and inhuman and make the end unattainable.”

Perhaps the human race consciousness had grown enough in the five centuries between Machiavelli and Reich that it was now obvious, based on the experience humanity’s had of suffering at the unfeeling hands of blood thirsty egomaniacs, that ends can never justify the means.

Writer Aldous Huxley came along and said,
“the end cannot justify the means,
for the simple and obvious reason
that the means employed
determine the nature of the ends produced.”

Ayn Rand, another famous author, said,
“the end does not justify the means.
No one’s rights can be secured by the violation of the rights of others.”

Amen to that.

More recently Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. said,
“You can’t reach good ends through evil means,
because the means represent the seed
and the end represents the tree.”
And the “means we use must be as pure as the ends we seek.”

Now, if you look at all those voices, speaking of different views of the same philosophy or theory, you can see which statement has the most heart in it. It’s King, letting us know that he seeks pure agape Love.

And because the revolution he led was of loving means, he was able to be profoundly successful and we can learn from this now.

If we needed any proof of theory – we have it.

We’re spiritual beings having a human experience. We cannot find Peace with unpeaceful means. We cannot have a war to bring Peace.

We get angry, we fall into despair, we blame others for our shortcomings. We withhold Love because we want Love. We do the darndest things because we’re upset and we lack perspective.

We let our emotions run away with us just because we feel like it and don’t love ourselves enough to honor our feelings and instead we stuff them and stuff them and medicate them and then we either explode or implode.

And still, the teaching that is so helpful to us, especially right now, TODAY, is that if we’d like to experience Peace, Prosperity, Wholeness, Freedom, Joy, Clarity, Harmony, Love and so much more, we must forgive the past.

This IS consistency of ends and means.

We must let go of our judgments.

Judgments are the mechanism by which separation from Spirit’s infinite goodness is brought into our experience.

The ends is in the means.

That will never change.

We can’t stuff our feelings and expect to feel better.
We can’t medicate our feelings and feel free.
We can’t focus on lack and limitation and feel expansive.
We can’t withhold Love to get Love.
We cannot hide our light under a bushel and hope for our dreams to be realized.
We cannot believe we’re unworthy, not good enough, wrong, bad, unlovable and live the life we desire.

Something’s gotta give.
And that something is the false beliefs, the painful patterns, the habits that keep us living blocked from our destiny.

We each have extraordinary gifts that the world can benefit from if we share them.

We each can help liberate our brothers and sisters from the prison in their minds when we release ourselves.

I made a decision to begin sharing because I was inspired and felt that I just had to share. I couldn’t be silent. I couldn’t hide. I had no platform. I had no audience. I just started sharing with the people I knew.

I gave from the overflow.
I didn’t need anything in return.
I was, and still am, so grateful just to be able to offer something that’s meaningful to me – and to connect.

I can remember driving four hours round trip to lead a workshop that only one person attended. And still, it felt worth it.

I used to give workshops at my friend’s house, in my own living room, any place I could find would work for me. I HAD to share because I was so full of gratitude for the inspiration I felt.

To achieve our goals of awakening awareness, living in Peace, and BEING a blessing in this world, we are required to learn that consistency of means and ends is necessary.

To have Peace, teach Peace. What does it mean to teach Peace? It really means to forgive. To stop judging, complaining and attacking.

We teach with every choice we make.

Learning NOT to judge is much easier than learning to judge. We’ve learned to judge and attack ourselves and others, and now we’re unlearning it. Let’s forgive of ourselves for all the ignorance, and all the ways we’ve chosen to NOT be helpful in this world. Let’s wipe that slate clean by giving ALL of our self-judgment to our Higher Holy Spirit for healing.

We forgive ourselves first, and then we can forgive others.

We’ve got work to do. Let’s forgive ourselves so we can focus on something productive.

And, forgiveness takes work too. Practicing non-judgment IS forgiveness. We have what it takes because we have infinite support in the invisible and we always will

Our willingness is required.
Our willingness is ALL that’s required.
If we can’t be willing, be willing to be willing – honestly, this does the trick, and if that’s not sufficient, let’s be willing to be willing to be willing! A tiny bit of willingness is still willingness.

Our goal is liberation.
What are liberating from? False beliefs.
Our own false beliefs can be released in a moment.
We don’t have to wait.
We can choose heaven today instead of hell.

Ultimately we WILL liberate.
Let’s actively choose it, work towards it and ALLOW it to be revealed.

Our liberation is tied to everyone else’s. Let’s not delay another day!

If you feel like you might be playing small and hiding your light under a bushel because of your beliefs about yourself, if you think maybe those beliefs are false and could be eliminated, and if you have a willingness to do some inner work to make a real and lasting change then please consider joining me and some other folks just like you who are SO DONE WITH PLAYING SMALL and ready to let those patterns go.

My Stop Playing Small Retreat was going to be in the UK this month, but now it’s being offered ONLINE, so all can join. This online retreat is for folks who are frustrated with feeling stuck and fearful. It’s designed for those who’d like to bring on a breakthrough so they can move forward with confidence toward their heart’s desire in any area of their life. Click here for details. If you aren’t sure if it’s right for you right now, book an Exploratory Call with one of the spiritual counselors. The call is free and you’ll find benefit in addition to getting all your questions answered.

TAKE ACTION! If you’re interested in either the Stop Playing Small Retreat or Finding Freedom From Fear Spiritual Bootcamp, but you aren’t sure if it’s right for you right now, book an Exploratory Call with one of the spiritual counselors. The call is free and you’ll find benefit in addition to getting all your questions answered. Click here now to book an Exploratory Call with a Spiritual Counselor.

How would you like a $500 discount?
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Finding Freedom From Fear Bootcamp starts on July 5! Let’s rock this summer with our spiritual practice that brings benefit and healing for all. Now is the time for us to dive deep and eliminate the patterns of fear in our life.

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Substitutes for Truth

Saturday, June 13th, 2020

It takes humility to admit I was wrong. I’ve been wrong so many times I can’t possibly remember and in the recognition of how many times I’ve had to admit I was wrong, came the humility.

Without humility, there can be no spiritual awakening, so I’m grateful for my humility even if it was hard-won.

Yes, I did find my humility through the route of humiliation – but your journey can be different.

Consider what it says in Chapter 10 of the Manual for Teachers of A Course in Miracles:

Judgment, like other devices by which the world of illusions is maintained,
is totally misunderstood by the world.
It is actually confused with wisdom,
and substitutes for truth.

From this we can learn:

The illusion of separation is maintained with judgment.
Judgment is misunderstood and confused with wisdom.
In other words, people’s opinions are misunderstood and mistaken for wisdom.

People substitute their opinions for the truth.

It’s not hard to see how this works in our experience of life.
We can turn away from this system by insisting upon the truth and not being satisfied with the illusion. The illusion will never satisfy for more than a moment.

Consider offering just one opinion to the Higher Holy Spirit Self today for healing. Just one and we’ve made progress. Every day let’s willingly offer up our judgments and bring forth the shared awareness of unity and unification.

We’ll always be glad we did it!

I like to support people who feel they may have been playing small because of their beliefs about themselves. I know this is a habit that can be undone and dissolved.

Would you like to save $500?

If you sign up for my Stop Playing Small Online Retreat you can save $500 on my Finding Freedom From Fear Spiritual Bootcamp class.

If you think maybe those beliefs are false and could be eliminated, and if you have a willingness to do some inner work to make a real and lasting change then please consider joining me and some other folks just like you who are SO DONE WITH PLAYING SMALL and ready to let those patterns go.

My Stop Playing Small Retreat was going to be in the UK this month, but now it’s being offered online, so all can join. This online retreat is for folks who are frustrated with feeling stuck and fearful. It’s designed for those who’d like to bring on a breakthrough so they can move forward with confidence toward their heart’s desire in any area of their life. Click here for details. If you aren’t sure if it’s right for you right now, book an Exploratory Call with one of the spiritual counselors. The call is free and you’ll find benefit in addition to getting all your questions answered.

TAKE ACTION! If you’re interested in either the Stop Playing Small Retreat or Finding Freedom From Fear Spiritual Bootcamp, but you aren’t sure if it’s right for you right now, book an Exploratory Call with one of the spiritual counselors. The call is free and you’ll find benefit in addition to getting all your questions answered. Click here now to book an Exploratory Call with a Spiritual Counselor.

Finding Freedom From Fear Bootcamp starts on July 5! Let’s rock this summer with our spiritual practice that brings benefits and healing for all. Now is the time for us to dive deep and eliminate the patterns of fear in our life.

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Get Up, Stand Up!

Friday, June 12th, 2020

Bob Marley sang, “Get up, stand up, for your rights!” 

We all have a right to live freely, to love freely, to actively be creative freely.

 And the ego thought system is a tyrannical system that oppresses each one of us when, and only when, we agree to it.

We CAN set ourselves free.

We can hold the mountaintop view.

In this world, one of the common paths of our spiritual liberation is this:

First, we FEEL UPSET and oppressed to the point that we cannot take it anymore.  Our inner dam bursts.

Second, we DECIDE to do things differently.

Third, we ALLOW ourselves to hold a vision of the way we’d like it to be, including FEELING how it could be.

Fourth, we take ACTION in the direction of our dreams.

Where are YOU in this sequence?

We can make that second step, the DECISION step without having to explode in pain.  

Part of our self-care regimen is to listen to our guidance and follow it.  If we’re not doing that then we’re playing small and living a limited life, because only our Higher Holy Spirit Self holds the vision for our life.

It can seem impossible, but that’s just because we haven’t put Spirit in charge yet.  

Only ego can fail.

Spirit cannot fail.  

It takes courage to get up and stand up for your rights.  

It takes courage to hold a vision of the life you’d really like to live.

Many people are willing to work SO HARD for a life that feels like prison, but resist and procrastinate about living the life they most desire.  

Let’s stand up for our rights and let’s get up and stand up for the rights of our brothers and sisters.  

Everything IS for us, regardless of how it seems.  We CAN do this together.  Be willing to join with others.  “Be the two or more gathered in the name and the nature of Love,” and we will surely reach the promised land.

Your spiritual dreams and your goals bring benefit to everyone.  

Decide to do things differently even if you don’t know what it looks like.  

Hold that vision for yourself in a life of Peace, Love and Joy, even if you don’t know what it looks ike.

Take any action, no matter how small, in the direction of your dreams and remember:

Spirit cannot fail.

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Mastering Self-Compassion

Thursday, June 11th, 2020

One of the most challenging things we can learn in our life is to turn the focus of our mind from what we don’t want and to focus on having that which we truly desire. At least that’s been the most challenging thing for me to actually DO. For many years, I started so many days praying and meditating to be a loving, peaceful presence in this world. And then I would spend the rest of the day judging myself and my loved ones and anyone else who crossed my path. At the end of the day, I would feel like a hopeless loser, anxious, and afraid. At night I’d dream of arguing with my loved ones and endlessly seeking and never finding.

One of my recurring dreams was that I had an opportunity to do something really wonderful, something that I really, really wanted and would enjoy – often it was something like tickets to a Rolling Stones concert which was a teenage passion of mine – and for some reason or another, I could never get there.

In the dream, I would realize I didn’t have a film for my camera (pre-digital camera times), and I would decide to make a quick run to a nearby store and then never make it back to the concert. No matter how hard I tried to get back to the concert, I’d be delayed and thwarted. The longer my distraction took the more desperate and distressed I would become to get back to the concert. I’d feel panic because I was missing all the good parts! I would wake up in the distress of seeking but not finding. I had that dream again and again. It was the story of my life.

I now have eyes to see and a heart to know that the dream simply represented my spiritual life. Every day I was allowing myself to be distracted in my spiritual walk. I could talk about it, but I didn’t walk it with real dedication. I was constantly distracted. I stopped having that dream when I made the commitment to live the teachings all day long.

I was playing small with my spirituality and my whole life.

Of course, each and every day I am aware of the places where I fall short of the mark, but I am aware of my choices more than ever.

I choose Love more than ever.

I judge less and less and less. I’m firmly on the path and nothing can take me off it now. I no longer backslide and that is such a relief!

In my learning, I felt like a toddler learning to walk who falls down many times a day. Falling down a lot was part of the learning. Being wobbly was part of the learning. It’s not that I was doing something wrong when I fell down. I was learning.

Because I was aware that I was learning something that was new to me, I decided to make the easier loving and have compassion for myself. Compassion is loving understanding. It became the foundation of my spiritual practice.

Love is the healer.

I’ve learned true self-compassion through my experience of stumbling, falling and picking myself up.

Everyone sees me fall and stumble. Everyone also sees that I am dedicated to learning to walk this talk of Love. They see that I do not chastise myself or berate myself when I fall.

I keep my sight on the goal, my eyes on the prize.
I’m not playing small anymore.

Sometimes I cry, sometimes I laugh, but I always get up with more compassion than I had before I fell. And so the Love grows in my heart, in my awareness, and I bless myself and everyone else because I’m one with them.

And this is how I learn to walk my talk. The more I learn, the more I can give up learning and simply remember the truth that sets us all free. I am so grateful we walk together. Together we remember we are one and we bless the world!

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Divine Conflict, Divine Timing

Wednesday, June 10th, 2020

Obviously, there’s no such thing as divine conflict, but it does seem that the conflict we’re experiencing now could be heaven sent because it’s propelling us to change our minds and change the world.

Have you ever had an extraordinary opportunity placed in front of you that was almost too good to be true?  I think that’s where we are now.  This point in the human unfoldment that is so potent that it literally is beyond comprehension.

There is such an extraordinary confluence of currents, and layers, and dynamics and opportunities right now that it is mind boggling that we could boil up to this in just a few short years.

It HAS to be divine timing.

What else could it be?

Day after day, I’m witnessing all these different threads play out, and I’m not even watching that closely because it is overwhelming to even try to keep up.  I am so impressed with how the Higher Holy Spirit Self is orchestrating things for each of us according to our willingness.

We do not wish to miss this.

I’m excited to do everything in my power to further this cause of the end of separation thinking.

Right now events in the world are so intense that it gives us that pressure that we need to turn the lump of coal into the diamond.

The pressure is the conflict that we see in the world.

I feel it’s our job to do everything we can to be loving and kind to ourselves and each other, deepen our spiritual practice and really go for it because that’s what this pressure is for.  

Imagine going through all of this and still having coal when we could have had diamonds!

“Conflict is the root of all evil, for being blind it does not see whom it attacks.  Yet it always attacks the Son of God, and the Son of God is you.” T-11.III.1.

Conflict is when we say we’d like the Peace God, but we’re not willing to turn away from conflict and be loving in our heart.

More than ever, we’ve got opportunity to practice, practice, practice.  That’s what this time is for:  Liberation.  It’s at hand if we’re willing to work for it.  

Surprisingly, many aren’t willing to work for it because they don’t believe it’s possible for them.  They’ll see it when they believe it.

Let’s not be the one who misses the boat, watches on the side line, or has some other reason.  

I’m so excited to call for the maximum change for each one of us. Are you willing also?

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I am Grateful

Tuesday, June 9th, 2020

I’m over flowing with gratitude right now and here’s why:

I’m feeling so grateful for my life right now because I see that everything in my life has been training for this moment in our human history where we can reach the critical mass, the tipping point, that I talked about in my blog on Sunday entitled We Can Reach Critical Mass. If you haven’t read it, I feel you will be grateful to hear that message.

I am grateful right now because I’ve grown up knowing how important it is to end this belief in separation that shows up as EVERY problem that we think we have. As I’ve said many times, when I was a child my parents were activists and they were very involved in the civil rights movement. That’s actually an understatement. It deeply influenced me.

I am grateful I feel I can be TRULY helpful right now.

I am grateful that I can be part of this growth and healing movement that is swelling right now.

I feel so grateful for my friends.

I feel grateful we can have honest, authentic, transparent conversations and say how we REALLY feel and what we really think and no matter what it is, we can love and accept each other. None of us is trying to impress the other. We can just appreciate the connection. That’s so valuable.

I feel so grateful for little things like the ACIM text messages – I love getting them.

They always seem to come at the right time. (You can sign up for them too.)

I am grateful for the deepening conversations in this community and how we’re becoming so much closer.

I am grateful for the opportunities we have to grow right now and that we are welcoming them.

This is an amazing time. I am so glad to be here on this planet, now, with YOU, and to have the chance to change the future of human experience.

Just think – because of the choices we’re making RIGHT NOW – we can lay the groundwork for future generations to never have these issues. We really are bringing forth the golden age of enlightenment. It’s birthing right now.

No Joke:
We ARE the ones we’ve been waiting for!
Holy SHIFT!

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A Course In Miracles Community and Unexamined Racism

Monday, June 8th, 2020

Wow!  Yesterday’s Sundays With Spirit service was SO POWERFUL!  I felt so much healing for all of us and I encourage you to watch the replay if you didn’t get to see it.  (You can watch the replay in the member site – or watch it at facebook.)

My dear friend, Corinne Zupko, brought a powerful and heart-opening message about compassionate listening that was deeply healing. These services we’re doing are so nourishing to the Spirit.

We’re really looking at separation consciousness and how it affects us at every level.  We’re doing the deep work of truly living the ACIM Principles and working the lessons.  It’s so wonderful to be able to do it together.

One of the things Corinne talked about was her Open Letter to the A Course In Miracles Community About Unexamined Racism.  I feel what she has to say is really worth reading and pondering and so I’m sharing it here.  Please let me know your thoughts about it in the comments below!  

Greetings mighty companions,

It’s time to look at the lessons in our mind that “hurt and hinder you, and everyone around you.”

This letter is an invitation to open communication surrounding an issue that desperately needs our attention: the issue of racism in the world, and how it factors into the Course in Miracles community.

I’m specifically speaking to my companions who also appear to walk this world, like me, in a white body.

Before you read any further, please remember how important it is to be radically honest with yourself and with Holy Spirit about what is arising in your mind. As you read, watch your mind with vigilance and veracity because I’m going to likely say things that trigger the ego. Notice the faintest hint of defensiveness, guilt, or fear that arises in the mind as I bring up issues surrounding race. These feelings arising must be acknowledged and taken to Holy Spirit.

In addition, if you are already noticing resistance arise or an inclination to dismiss what I’m saying because this is an issue “of the world” or that “I’m making it real” I hope you will acknowledge that, take a breath, and keep reading.

I am not “making racism real” by talking about it. Racism is built into the fabric of the very dream we are dreaming. Those of us in white bodies simply have the privilege of being able to easily ignore it. Just as we have experienced many “aha” moments in our studies of A Course in Miracles, it’s time to start experiencing “aha” moments surrounding our own unchecked racism.

I started following black and brown anti-racism educators after two online racist incidents occurred with two separate popular, white, well-intentioned spiritual teachers a few years ago. Since then, my eyes have been opened as to how well-intentioned spiritual teachers and teachings can perpetuate racism, even in our beloved Course community.

It is time for students of A Course in Miracles in white bodies to take responsibility for our unexamined racism and supremacy.

You might immediately think, “Racism? Supremacy? That’s definitely not referring to me. I love everybody!”

Remember what I said about watching what is coming up in your mind and looking at it with Holy Spirit. There is going to be an immediate tendency to deny that I’m talking about anything that applies to you. If you are in a white body, this does apply to you. If you have the thought that there is no racism in you and you are certain that I am wrong, please keep reading.

By racism and supremacy, I am NOT referring to you having negative feelings or conscious hatred towards black or brown people. You can love black and brown people and still have unchecked racism and supremacy within your mind. You can be married to someone of a different race, or be the parent of children of a different race, but have overt and covert racism and supremacy within you.

Scott Woods says it best in his book, “New Framings on Anti-Racism and Resistance:”

“The problem is that white people see racism as conscious hate, when racism is bigger than that. Racism is a complex system of social and political levers and pulleys set up generations ago to continue working on the behalf of whites at other people’s expense, whether whites know/like it or not. Racism is an insidious cultural disease. It is so insidious that it doesn’t care if you are a white person who likes black people; it’s still going to find a way to infect how you deal with people who don’t look like you. Yes, racism looks like hate, but hate is just one manifestation. Privilege is another. Access is another. Ignorance is another. Apathy is another. And so on. So while I agree with people who say no one is born racist, it remains a powerful system that we’re immediately born into. It’s like being born into air: you take it in as soon as you breathe. It’s not a cold that you can get over. There is no anti-racist certification class. It’s a set of socioeconomic traps and cultural values that are fired up every time we interact with the world. It is a thing you have to keep scooping out of the boat of your life to keep from drowning in it. I know it’s hard work, but it’s the price you pay for owning everything.”

Unless we are actively engaged in lifelong, active anti-racist work, we are likely walking around with hidden biases, unacknowledged privilege, and unseen racism. And the fact that we don’t see these things actually makes us more likely to cause harm to people of color.

By the way, if you react against the word “anti-racism” because you don’t want to be “anti” anything and are only “for” peace, please take in these words:

Just as A Course in Miracles prompts us to be vigilant and take an active role in bringing our perceptions to the Holy Spirit in order to heal the mind, to heal racism requires taking an active (not a passive) stand. “Anti-racism” means being vigilant and wholly committed to healing the racism and supremacy within the mind so we stop hurting people of color.

Racism is in the air we breathe, and we uphold racism and supremacy when we don’t acknowledge it or take action to dismantle it.

Being in a white body means that we’ve been born into a system that favors white bodies at the expense of brown and black bodies, and has thus influenced our perceptions, our opportunities, most if not all aspects of our lives, and even our spiritual practice. And it is really hard to see our own racism without help. We can easily ignore it. You can easily ignore it.

As we know as students of A Course in Miracles, we must see how the ego hides out.

And I truly believe we are being called to look at our own racism and supremacy, an issue that is not discussed in A Course in Miracles, but that is playing a huge part in our lives.

The purpose of this letter is to address how we can mistakenly (and unknowingly) use the teachings of A Course in Miracles to actually keep racism and supremacy in place.

The purpose of this article is not to expose your hidden racism, but I do have recommendations for how you can begin anti-racism work at the end of this letter. It is work that requires a lifelong commitment and is not complete from just reading a book or article or affirming that you love everybody.

By shedding light on this, I hope that we, as a Course community, can take a “giant stride” in our efforts to heal the mind, and therefore heal the world.

My hope is that this letter will ignite a desire in you to move into action to deeply engage with anti-racism work and exhume these unseen blocks to love in your mind.

To begin, we can all relate to how A Course in Miracles states radical ideas. Rather than actively deny what the Course says, (e.g. “I don’t do that! I don’t attack my brother!”) we are asked instead to look carefully how we may, in fact, do what the Course says we do (e.g. “have hidden attack thoughts,” that we “attack God” etc.).

I invite you to use the same spirit of openness with this topic of racism. Rather than saying “I don’t have racism or supremacy in me” please consider that you actually DO have these things in you. I have these things in me. We just don’t see them. This is not a cause for guilt or shame. It is a call to get to work.

Anti-racism work is how you begin to expose and heal your racism.

I must immediately mention though, that Rachel Cargle, a black anti-racism educator says, “Anti-racism work is not self-improvement work for white people.” It doesn’t end when YOU feel better. “It ends when black people are staying alive and they have their liberation.”

If you don’t engage in anti-racism work, your own racism stays hidden, keeping a system of white supremacy in place, and your brothers and sisters of color who you claim to love, keep dying, suffering, and crying out for you to see them and to hear them.

So here is my first point:
 

1. WHEN BLACK PEOPLE, INDIGENOUS PEOPLE, AND PEOPLE OF COLOR ARE SYSTEMATICALLY OPPRESSED BY THE WHITE MAJORITY OF WHICH YOU ARE A PART, WHEN BLACK MEN AND WOMEN ARE MURDERED AT THE HANDS OF WHITE POLICE, SIMPLY REAFFIRMING THE TRUTH IN YOUR MIND (THAT WE HAVE NOT LEFT GOD, THAT WE ARE DREAMING, ETC.) WITH NO OTHER ACTION IS LIKELY A SPIRITUAL BYPASS AND AN EXCUSE TO DO NO FURTHER WORK.

By spiritual bypass, I am referring to using spiritual ideas to avoid doing inner (and outer) work.

Yes, only the Truth is True and nothing else is True. Yes, we have not left God. Yes, this world is not our Home.

But let me ask you this; If you were walking by a lake and saw someone drowning, would you yell to them and say, “Hey! Don’t worry, it’s not real!” Or would you throw them a life ring?

(Note: By the way, I didn’t come up with this life ring example but read it somewhere on Facebook some time ago. If you know who came up with this example, please let me know and I will gladly quote them).

We MUST be where we are. I’m sure you’d throw that person a life ring because we very much believe we are these bodies. Simply telling yourself “I am not a body” is not going to heal your belief in a body. To learn that you are not a body and have experiences of this teaching, you do your Course in Miracles work.

In the same fashion, because we believe we are bodies, telling yourself “I am not racist” doesn’t make racism go away. In fact, it keeps the problem in place because it goes unseen and stays in shadows. Instead, we need to look at our own internalized racism to clearly see it.

Similarly, simply stopping at “we are one” or “only the truth is true” with no other exhuming of hidden beliefs will keep racism in place. Yes, only the Truth is true. This makes YOU feel better. It restores YOUR peace. If you stop here, this is your white privilege in action, using Truth as an excuse to spiritually bypass the anti-racism work that we desperately need to do to heal racism.

The world is not external to you. It is in YOUR mind. We know this as Course students. So racism IS your problem, not “society’s problem” or someone else’s problem. It is a manifestation coming from within your mind. And you can help by engaging in anti-racism work.

The Course DOES teach that as we heal we do not heal alone, so your affirmation of Truth on some level must be helpful, but your own internal racism goes unseen and continues in the shadows of your mind. This needs to be exhumed.

True healing brings about a healing for ALL. All of us in the Course community have been engaging in our forgiveness work, and I truly believe we are now being asked to forgive our OWN internalized racism and supremacy. For this, we need to do additional work beyond our affirmation of truth. We must come to see how racism and supremacy are alive within us so we can begin to dismantle it.
 

2. BE WILLING TO ACKNOWLEDGE DIFFERENCES INSTEAD OF JUMPING TO OUR ONENESS.

I recently had an exchange with someone online who was troubled that an article highlighted a “black scientist.” They said, “why does it have to be highlighted that the scientist is black? This divides us when we are all one!”

I shared that if they had not highlighted that it was a black scientist, most white brains would have thought that the black man in the article’s photo was a model or an assistant. Not the lead scientist. This is just one example of internalized racism in action (and it is only one reason of many as to why it is important to highlight that the scientist is black).

When we jump to statements like, “we are all one” we are using our supremacy to deny that the day to day life of black people, indigenous people and people of color are very different than yours. For instance:

A dear friend of mine is a clinical psychologist. She obtained her Ph.D. in what I consider to be the most rigorous psychology program in existence. She makes great money, drives a nice car, and is one of the most brilliant women who I know. She is black.

On her drive home from a shopping trip to the mall, she got pulled over. The cop saw all of her shopping bags in the back seat. He made her show him every single receipt to prove she did not shoplift her items. This would never happen to me as a white woman.

And then there is this sign:

So, please, stop saying we are all one in the world. In Truth, YES, of course we are all one. But we are identified with bodies in this world, having vastly different experiences. And this needs to be acknowledged instead of dismissed. Please SEE that people of color are having very different experiences than you in this world.
 

3. BE WILLING TO GET UNCOMFORTABLE, VERY UNCOMFORTABLE, AND OFTEN.

It is a privilege for you as a white body to not have to think about race. It doesn’t seem to affect you so you may see yourself totally dissociated from the problem.

As I mentioned earlier, racism and supremacy are built into the fabric of the way the world works. White bodies benefit from systemic racism. We need to see this clearly.

As students of A Course in Miracles, we are asked to look at our blocks to love and hand over those blocks to Holy Spirit. As long as you deny that the blocks of racism and supremacy are yours and in your mind, and as long as you don’t see how racism and supremacy influences how you interact with the world, you can’t truly “hand it over.” Racism is not “out there” totally dissociated from you.

To do anti-racism work, it requires you to get uncomfortable. You are going to feel defensive, triggered and upset, all of the ego reactions that we don’t like experiencing.

To heal racism, we need to be willing to get uncomfortable and be willing to feel all of the feelings that are going to arise and not turn away from the work.
 

4. “NOT FEELING GUIDED” TO TAKE ACTION CAN BE AN EXCUSE FOR ACTUALLY BEING FEARFUL TO TAKE ACTION OR SIMPLY NOT KNOWING WHAT ACTION TO TAKE, OR FOR JUST BEING LAZY.

It is true that we must ask for guidance always. But what I’ve found in my own life is that if I don’t know how to take action, or if I’m afraid to take action, it is a very convenient excuse to simply say, “I don’t feel guided.”

“Not feeling guided” can also be a smokescreen for being lazy. And laziness in this area is white privilege, showing up yet again.

Watch your mind carefully in this area. Seeing this requires radical honesty with Spirit.
 

5. STOP SAYING ALL LIVES MATTER.

To quote my friend and fellow Course teacher, Joe Baker, “This sounds Course-like, but it co-opts the fact that people of color are disproportionately targeted.”

If you need more of an explanation as to why saying “all lives matter” is damaging and hurtful to black communities, read more about this topic here: https://www.vox.com/2016/7/11/12136140/black-all-lives-matter
 

6. STOP TALKING AND START LISTENING.

It is not a time to make YOURSELF feel better by simply reminding yourself that this “isn’t real” or that your part is simply to “love everybody.” One of the kindest things you can do is to listen and listen deeply. Making what is going on for black people and people of color about you or taking what they are going through and analyzing it under spiritual teachings is unkind. It is dismissive.
 

7. GET CURIOUS ABOUT WHY OUR COURSE COMMUNITY SEEMS TO BE MOSTLY COMPRISED OF WHITE BODIES.

I have not been to every study group on the planet, but by far and large, every Course in Miracles conference I’ve attended or spoken at, every event and gathering I’ve been to, and every study group I’ve attended predominately consists of white bodies.

A climate of safety is established when people in white bodies become aware of how they have caused harm to black people, indigenous people and people of color, either intentionally or unintentionally and take responsibility for it. And they talk openly about it.

We have caused hurt through what we thought were only loving words.

We have caused hurt by our silence.

We have caused hurt by our lack of understanding of (or refusal to understand) our own internalized racism.

We have caused hurt by making a racial issue about us.

A black friend told me that A Course in Miracles circles are not safe enough for brown and black people, and I agree. And for the people of color who stick around, I believe they are quite a demonstration of tolerance and forgiveness.

And please don’t approach the person(s) of color in your study group to try to make yourself feel better regarding the safeness of the group. Instead, it is important for white ACIM teachers and students to exhume racism and supremacy in the mind through actively engaging in anti-racism work. This must be done to make our community safe for brown and black people. Resources are below.
 

8. “SEEK NOT TO CHANGE THE WORLD BUT SEEK TO CHANGE YOUR MIND ABOUT THE WORLD.”

The Course teaches us that the entire world is a projection of our minds. And so the only way to heal the world is to heal the mind.

We are highly motivated to look at the beliefs in our mind that impact our day to day life. We are motivated to change our minds surrounding finances, lack vs. abundance, sickness, physical pain, our relationships with family members, friends, colleagues, etc.

If it is personal, we’re motivated to look at it.

Racism is personal to you, even if you don’t immediately see how. My hope is that you will feel motivated to look more deeply at what is buried in your mind surrounding supremacy and racism. A knee-jerk reaction of “this is not my problem” or “I don’t have a problem of white privilege or white supremacy” is a red flag that there is, in fact, more to be examined here.

It is true that to change the world we must change our minds, but this will remain a while off unless we take an active part in exhuming what is hidden.
 

9. PLEASE DON’T ASK YOUR BLACK OR BROWN COURSE IN MIRACLES FRIEND(S) OR STUDY GROUP PARTICIPANT(S) HOW YOU CAN BE AN ALLY.

They’ve been carrying the emotional weight of racism and supremacy far longer than you’ve been aware of it. Don’t ask them to educate you. Please check out a resource like this instead and do more internet research: https://sojo.net/articles/our-white-friends-desiring-be-allies
 

10. A COURSE IN MIRACLES IS UNCOMPROMISING ABOUT WHERE HEALING OCCURS BUT WE OFTEN MISS AN IMPORTANT POINT TO MAINTAIN WHITE BODY COMFORT.

A Course in Miracles teaches that healing occurs at the level of the mind. But if we stop with this thought we are missing something VERY important that is central to A Course in Miracles. Healing happens THROUGH OUR RELATIONSHIPS. This is what makes A Course in Miracles unique from other pathways.

You alone cannot heal the mind.

“The lamp lit in both of you for one another.” (ACIM CE T-20.III.11:6.)

You need your brother (note: by “brother” I am using Course language and am referring to ALL of us). You need your black and brown brothers. Healing takes TWO. You need to see the Truth in your brother. AND you need to see how you have caused harm to your brothers in black and brown bodies in order to fully release the guilt and fear in BOTH of your minds.
 

11. HARM HAPPENS WHEN WE USE THE TEACHINGS OF A COURSE IN MIRACLES TO GASLIGHT PEOPLE OF COLOR WHEN THEY TRY TO RAISE THESE ISSUES FOR US TO SEE. ONE OF THE MOST DAMAGING RESPONSES WE CAN SAY IS, “IF YOU ARE NOT HAPPY YOU ARE DOING THIS TO YOURSELF.”

This turns A Course in Miracles into a weapon.

White bodies play an active part in upholding racism and supremacy, but when we refuse to see this or learn how this is so, we are telling a brother of color that their suffering is totally their responsibility. It is time to stop doing this. It is time to take responsibility for the part we play in upholding racism and supremacy.

Instead, when black and brown people try to raise these issues for us to see, our job is to listen. And listen hard.

My white mighty companions, we have refused to see. Please let this be a true new beginning where we no longer deny our role in upholding racism, supremacy and harming our brothers of color.

You may respond by saying that a person of color is making a mistake by identifying with their body in the first place. But your brother cannot know their Christ Self until YOU release them by seeing that YOU had a part in maintaining their identification with their body through your unseen racism and supremacy.

It is time for those of us in white bodies to take responsibility, to listen, and to see.
 

12. AGAIN, REMEMBER THIS TEACHING FROM THE COURSE:

“You have one test, as sure as God, by which to recognize if what you learned is true. If you are wholly free of fear of any kind, and if all those who meet or even think of you share in your perfect peace, then you can be sure that you have learned God’s lesson, and not your own. Unless all this is true, there are dark lessons in your mind that hurt and hinder you, and everyone around you.”

Let us stay open to learning what we have refused to see. Let us exhume the racism and supremacy in our minds, which has gone unchecked for far too long. Let us do the important work of learning how to be anti-racist, so we can be truly helpful and truly extend love to our brothers. Please explore the resources below for next steps and for black educators to follow.
 

>>> If you resonated with this letter, if you are willing to commit to exhuming the ego’s hidden racism, supremacy, biases and assumptions within your mind to help the healing of the Sonship, PLEASE SHARE THIS LETTER on your platforms, with your communities, with fellow students of A Course in Miracles and with your teachers of A Course in Miracles. <<<

With love, open eyes, open ears, and an open heart,
Corinne Zupko

I encourage you to go to Corinne’s site and see the letter there.  She’s listed great resources that will really support you.  

Now is the time for us to educate ourselves and help each other to learn what we can do to undo systemic racism.  We continue to work at the level of the mind, that’s our primary focus.  And it’s time for us to do as Jesus tells us in the Course, “Listen, learn, and do.”  

After service yesterday, Corinne shared this portion of ACIM at facebook:

“Speaking at Jennifer Hadley‘s Sundays with Spirit was AMAZING!! I spoke about the Healing Power of Listening Deeply.

Here is the quote I ended my talk with for those who requested it. This is in the Complete and Annotated Edition of A Course in Miracles under Miracle Principle #26 (page 19):

“You now share my inability to tolerate lack of love in yourself and in everyone else, and must join the Great Crusade to correct it. The slogan for this Crusade is “Listen, learn, and do.” 

This means:

Listen to my voice,
learn to undo the error, and
do something to correct it.

The first two are not enough. The real members of my party are active workers.

The power to work miracles belongs to you. I will arrange the right opportunities for you to do them. But you must be ready and willing to do them, since you are already able to. Doing them will bring conviction in the ability. I repeat, “You will see miracles through your hands through mine.  Conviction really comes through accomplishment. Remember that ability is the potential, achievement is its expression, and Atonement is the purpose.”

This is not the time to wait and see.  Listen, learn and DO.  If we are coming from our hearts, following guidance and taking loving action without attachment we will be in service to God.

Let’s move forward in Love.

ONward, INward and UPward!

If you feel like you might be playing small because of your beliefs about yourself, if you think maybe those beliefs are false and could be eliminated, and if you have a willingness to do some inner work to make a real and lasting change then please consider joining me and some other folks just like you who are SO DONE WITH PLAYING SMALL and ready to let those patterns go.

My Stop Playing Small Retreat was going to be in UK this month, but now it’s being offered online, so all can join.  This online retreat is for folks who are frustrated with feeling stuck and fearful.  It’s designed for those who’d like to bring on a breakthrough so they can move forward with confidence toward their heart’s desire in any area of their life.  Click here for details.  If you aren’t sure if it’s right for you right now, book an Exploratory Call with one of the spiritual counselors.  The call is free and you’ll find benefit in addition to getting all your questions answered.  

TAKE ACTION!  If you’re interested in either the Stop Playing Small Retreat or Finding Freedom From Fear Spiritual Bootcamp, but you aren’t sure if it’s right for you right now, book an Exploratory Call with one of the spiritual counselors.  The call is free and you’ll find benefit in addition to getting all your questions answered.  Click here now to book an Exploratory Call with a Spiritual Counselor.  

Finding Freedom From Fear Bootcamp is 1 month away!  Let’s rock this summer with our spiritual practice that brings benefit and healing for all.  Now is the time for us to dive deep and eliminate the patterns of fear in our life.

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We Can Reach Critical Mass

Sunday, June 7th, 2020

On youtube, I was led to a video with a story about Dave Chapelle schooling a white woman about racism (which he did very Kindly, btw) – and in the story, he shares about a friend of his who was from South Africa who said that the end of apartheid came when there was a critical mass of people who would work for change and wanted change. We can have that now. For REAL. We can reach that critical mass, right now and change this world. We can end the isms of racism, sexism, ageism, and all the separation-ism.

My perception is, that underneath it all, it’s about economics. It’s about greed. The best way for a small number of people to gain wealth and power is to divide and conquer the others making them feel helpless, hopeless, and powerless. Our human strength comes from our awareness of our connections with each other. Love is our superpower. Hate is our kryptonite.

If we’re divided, we cannot experience the strength that comes from our connection. We lose our super power. We latch onto the “otherness” and get tricked into hate. United we stand, divided we fall.

Compassion is the way we move from division to unity. Compassion is loving understanding. The way many of us develop compassion is we have an experience where we walk a mile in another one’s moccasins as my teacher, Venerable Dhyani Ywahoo, a Native American Elder, would say.

And I invite you to do that with me now. I feel very fortunate to have seen that a friend of mine, some of you may know the brilliant Eisha Mason, commented on something her friend shared at facebook. It’s the writing of a man I’d never heard of who is an attorney, in Phoenix Arizona and who is sharing his insights in facebook posts inviting people to share them, and I feel compelled to share this with you now.

I share Garrick McFadden’s facebook post here recognizing that most of the people who will read this are white and are probably, like me, looking to educate myself so that we can make this critical mass shift with as much as ease and grace as possible. We’d like to be truly helpful. We cannot possibly walk a mile in the shoes of a person of another race, but we can educate ourselves about their experience and we can work for change. I feel strongly that Mr. McFadden is helping us to do that. Here are the powerful words from his heart. It’s a long piece, and it’s worth reading every word carefully:

“40% of all white people do not have any black friends. 55% of white people only have one black friend. The average black person has eight white friends. This is my lived experience. I personally know two white people, with more than one black friend. I have a number of close white friends, so close I would call them my family. These people would clothe me, feed me, shelter me, protect me, and fund me if I asked. I love them and they love me. Yet, if I am being honest…I am their only black friend. This is not an indictment on these people, whom I truly love, but it is a truthful statement said out of love. Many of you reading this are not proximate to the pain and experience of being black in America, until now.

I must confess that I have abdicated my duty to you, my new black friends. See, no one has told you, out of anger or in love, that all of you formally white people are now black.

See whiteness is a fickle and fleeting concept. Any groups’ grasp on it is tenuous. It is something that can be bestowed upon a people and can be removed. Many of you have heard the concept of white privilege, but white privilege is too small and clumsy to express and define our existence. White privilege is not rooted in history. It is a term that fails to adequately, appropriately, and accurately define what we are dealing with: whiteness.

The American experiment has worked for this long because of whiteness and niggers. You see I am a nigger, like my father, and his father, and his father, and so on. It is because of niggers that America is a place where someone can immigrate to and can escape being on the lowest rung of your nation’s social structure. Every group of immigrants who have come to this country has desperately fought to obtain whiteness and avoid the plight of being a nigger.

Do not believe me? Irish, were not white in this country until they were. You saw the signs, no Irish and no niggers allowed. Italians were not white in this country until they were. Signs that said no WOPs and no niggers were commonplace in this country a hundred years ago. Yet, the Irish had to prove to the others that they were worthy of whiteness. They had to be extra cruel, extra murderous, extra inhumane to substantiate why they deserve whiteness. Have you ever heard of the New York Draft Riots? The movie The Gangs of New York, whitewashes it completely. The Irish were worried that if the Union won the war they would have to compete with freed black folk for jobs (at that time their place in life was dependent on being elevated over niggers). They did not want to fight to free the people they thought would replace them, so the Irish went into the black neighborhoods and lynched black folk as an offering to white supremacy. Sometime after that, the Irish were granted whiteness. The fights between black and Italian teens are legendary in major cities. The turf wars that were waged to prove to everyone that Italians were better than niggers and worthy of whiteness raged on until the early 90s. Italians are now white.

Whiteness is a badge of protection, it allows its members access to housing, loans, better educational institutions, protection from the law, and more resources into their communities. Who would not love to obtain whiteness? Other ethnic groups vie for whiteness from Latinos to Arabs, Asians to Eastern Europeans, all have developed anti-black views and biases, which is the currency used to obtain whiteness.

Yet, whiteness can be mercurial. People attempt to strip whiteness away from various groups. Gay white men constantly have their whiteness questioned. Jews are always finding themselves in the crosshairs of those who want to remove their whiteness. Every hail Hitler, every Nazi salute, every desecrated Jewish cemetery is a constant reminder that whiteness is a fickle mistress.

Right now you have had your whiteness stripped away and you are living the black experience and, in love, you are not doing so well. This is new for all of you, and you do not have a black parent who will one day, awkwardly, explain to you what it means to be black in America. So that is where I have fallen short. I have failed to have that cumbersome conversation with you.

Don’t believe me that you are black, fine. Right now we are at unemployment levels that rival the Great Depression. White people are finding themselves without employment. For some of you this is the first time in your life that you are in this disorienting position. These furloughs and layoffs are not your fault, just like not being able to get a job because an employer can screen your application and identify that you are black because your name is DeMarcus, Devin, or Deon.

Your government has failed you and you have never experienced this before. Many white folk have never had to rely on the government to meet their needs until the past 14 weeks. White people are still waiting for their stimulus check to hit their back account or mailbox. They see their friends and family members receive their check, but nothing for them. Just like black folk have seen justice administered swiftly for when someone who looks like them is accused of a crime, but slow when a white person commits a crime against them. The betrayal of your own government is the kindling of the flame of disenfranchisement that is currently being stoked in your chest.

For the past 10 or so weeks your child’s school has been trash, because you are now your child’s teacher. This failure becomes more pronounced the younger your child is, because there is so much more for them to learn. Many of you have resorted to busy work and using the TV to pacify your child while you work, or search for work, or do your best to function under the crushing cocktail of anxiety, depression and fear. Yet, black folks’ schools have been under-resourced for centuries in this country. My own mother attended a one room school for all of the colored children K-12, with one teacher for all the students in Chandler, Arizona. It was not until she was rescued by Brown vs. the Board of Education and liberated to a functioning school that she truly understood the injustice that she had suffered her entire life. My mother entered high school not knowing what a noun or a verb was. Did your parents enter their freshman year not knowing what a noun or verb is? That is why she became the first person in her family to graduate from college and she became a teacher, so no other child would have suffer such an indignity.

The schools in black communities have been economically starved by a funding model that is designed to maximize the lower property values associated with black neighborhoods. If the property values are low as a result of past redlining, homes that were zoned in toxic waste areas by all white zoning boards, homes zoned in industrial areas by all white zoning boards, and neighborhoods adorned with bars and liquor stores, then how can the schools be appropriately funded?

When the pandemic first started your grocery stores became the fuel of your anxiety for all those who never lived in the path of a hurricane. The shelves became more and more bare. Staples were soon depleted. Some of you went on an odyssey worthy of Odysseus to find Lysol, hand-sanitizer and toilet-paper. Overnight your fertile grocery stores had been terraformed into a food desert like those that dot the ghettos that blacks are trapped in. Many black folk have to travel large distances to find fresh fruits and vegetables and avoid the fast-food restaurants that have burrowed their way into the neighborhoods.

For the first time in your life you have been denied a loan. It is not that you were denied a loan, your loan was not even submitted to the underwriter, because the business that you have built, inch-by-inch, was not requesting the amount of money that would make the banker the most money. You saw publicly traded companies get the money that was intended to keep your business afloat. You were not denied because you were not worthy of the loan, you were denied because of who you are: a small business owner. This is the same experience that black folk experience each day when trying to get capital to expand their business, create a business, or acquire a business. They are denied with all sorts of colorful euphemisms to escape from the banker having to say the quiet part out-loud: I can’t give you a loan, because you are black.

You no longer have childcare and the strain of raising your child(ren) while working is exhausting, like being black. Due to black workers being denied fair wages or even the same wages their white counterparts get paid, childcare is a barrier for many black families. For the median black family, childcare for two children amounts to 42% of their gross income.

Your neighborhoods are now subject to more and more chaos. You have police in riot gear marching through your streets barking orders and “light her up” when you do not comply. Heavy Armor rolling through your streets, like the ghettos when the war on drugs raged. Even though peer-reviewed-studies show that white folk use and sale drugs at higher rates than black folk, black folk were the targets on this war on drugs and our neighborhoods were deemed acceptable collateral damage.

You watched stores, police buildings, monuments, and everything else that has been in your community get defaced, destroyed, and desecrated. I know you fear if they will rebuild or replace those things to make your life more convenient. This is the entropy that slowly corrodes a healthy and vibrant community into a ghetto. Without these stores and malls to anchor your neighborhoods the value of your home starts to erode. Soon, pawn shops, title loans, and liquor stores will start to sprout up and accelerate the loss of value of your homes, like what happened to black folk.

You have been confined in your home for the past 14 weeks. A life of watching Netflix, playing video games, reading books, baking bread and despite all of your comforts and amenities it was not enough. You longed for freedom. You longed to have brunch. You longed to be free, like the tens-of-thousands of innocent black folk who have been forced to take pleas to crimes they did not commit, because no one in their family could afford $800.00 to bail them out.

You are now black and to be black in America is to know profound disappointment. Disappointment in our government, in our leaders, in our institutions, in our schools, in our police, in our employers, in our history, and in our collective failure to form a more perfect union. To be black in America is to be weary. That weight you feel on your chest, is what we call Tuesday, or Wednesday or any day of the week.

Now that you are black your relationship with police has changed. They are wildin’ on white folk. I have seen so many unprovoked acts of violence against ya’ll, that I am deeply concerned for those who look like me. You need to know that the whiteness that protected you before is gone. When you get pulled over, you need to put your head on the dash and stretch your arms out. So that way the Officer knows that at that moment you will not be a threat. You cannot play your music loud, because it will attract the police. You have to be inside your residence when the sun is down or else you are subject to being questioned about where you were and what you are doing. When questioned by police you must stay calm, any perceived agitation can cause them to fear for their life and justifiably kill you, because you caused them to be afraid.

I want you to survive your encounters with the police. In Phoenix we have an estimated 2,900 officers. 2,610 of those officers will never have any incidents of misconduct. 87 of those officers will be cleared of misconduct. 100 will have less than five credible misconduct complaints. 74 will have over 10 credible complaints of misconduct in their career and 29 will have over 100 credible instances of misconduct.

2,610 officers allow themselves to serve with 29 officers who terrorize this city and disgrace the oath and badge that they all wear. If I gave you a bag of 2,900 Skittles and told you that 2,697. of the Skittles were normal, but that 174 of the Skittles would make you very sick and 29 of the Skittles could kill you, would you trust eating the Skittles?

I want you to remember this feeling right now. I want you to take it all in. I want you to understand that this is what it means to be a nigger. Your whiteness might be restored, but I will still be a nigger and I cannot change that only you can change that.

I do not want you to talk to your family about politics, because I know that is divisive. People have strong and differing opinions on whether a regressive or progressive tax strategy is best for our Country. People of good faith can debate, in earnest, the importance of our Nato allies contributing at the same level as our country. People of good will can differ on the roles of charter schools in our country. That is politics and politics can be divisive.

I am asking you to discuss your values at the Thanksgiving table: why is the future of a young white man who is convicted of sexually assaulting a woman more important than the need for that woman and the community to have justice? Why is it acceptable for a white man to be paid $0.13 more than a black man for doing the same job at the same level. Why is it acceptable for a white man to be paid .22 cents more than a white woman? Why is it acceptable to incarcerate 12 black people for every 1 white person in the states of Iowa and Minnesota, but no where else in the world? Those are values. We do not have to be unified in thought and purpose, but we must be committed to one another if we expect to make any progress. Our values are what guide us and if you cannot not communicate your values to your loved ones, what hope do I have? What hope do we have? If you do not love your family or those closest to you to feel free to express your values, not your politics, then, I say in love, that you really do not love that person.

Love that thin is no type of love that can heal this nation and improve this world.

I love you that is why I will not provide you with absolution of your guilty or failure to know these things that have been deleterious on our body politic. I will not condone nor condemn, but only ask you, in love, what are you willing to lose for me to no longer be a nigger? Are you willing to be disinvited to Thanksgiving, because your family thinks that black lives do not matter? Are you willing to challenge your loved one when they make a remark that is not rooted in fact, but steeped in hate? What are you willing to do? Talking to black people about what you are feeling is not the best use of their time, but sharing your values and how they make you feel with those you love is appropriate and needed.

That is the reason I do not make some post sharable, like this one. I do not want to fight with your uncle, or the guy you went to high school with who has never left your hometown and wants to quote MLK to me, when his comprehension of MLK is shallow, self-congratulatory and fails to recognize that when he was alive white people viciously hated him so much he was killed in the name of white supremacy. That is why you have my permission to copy and paste this or anything I write and post it on your wall. Your friends and loved ones are not proximate to me, they do not know me, but they know you and love you and in love might we start to share our values so that you and your bloodline will stop being white and me and my bloodline will stop being niggers.

In the immortal words of Toni Morrison “Love is or it ain’t. Thin love ain’t love at all.”

In love,

Garrick A. McFadden, Esq.

I hope you found that reading Garrick’s feelings and insights was as helpful to you as it was to me. Thank you for taking the time to read this.

Many of us avoid doing is feeling our feelings. We avoid really listening to each other. We avoid sharing what we really think and feel. We avoid what confuses us and saddens us and frightens us and try to push it all under the carpet.

There’s no room under the carpet anymore.

We can only accomplish a revolution by working together and listening to each other with Love.

What I’m asking you to do and inviting you to do with me is to REALLY energize each day, many times a day, that the end of separation thinking, the end of racism, sexism, ageism and all separation manifestations is happening NOW. We must hold it in our minds and reach that critical mass together. We can do this.

Please share Garrick’s words with your friends and family and have a dialogue. Let’s do what he’s asking us to do and be willing to lovingly challenge someone in order to help change their mind. This is what we’re here to do. The end of racism depends upon us doing this.

We CAN do this. We ARE doing this. This is why we incarnated at this time – in order to do this particular work. I’m sure of it.

TODAY, you can join me and my dear friends, Corinne Zupko, Faith Rumer and more friends on zoom. Corinne is always an inspiration and I’m so glad we’ll get to be together on zoom today. This will be powerful! We’ll have a spiritual celebration together with inspiration and music – we call it Sundays With Spirit. Please invite your family! If you can’t join us, you can catch the replay! Because we’re going to be live on video, you’ll have to register to get the detail. All are welcome, there’s no charge, but you do have to register, unless you’ve already registered in the past.

When you register, you’ll also get easy access to past services with Lisa Natoli, Jon Mundy, David Hoffmeister, Maureen Muldoon and more. If you’ve already registered for a previous Sunday – you don’t need to register again, you’ll get a reminder with the details automatically.

Joining together in prayer for our healing, for the active practice of joining with Spirit, and allowing my healing is precisely why every day I write inspiration and record a prayer to go with it. Thank you for joining me in cultivating the willingness that raises us ALL up so we can be truly helpful in this world.

What I love about prayer as a power tool is that it assists us in QUICKLY liberating from a sense of helplessness. In times like these, when it seems like the whole world is on fire, our prayers support healing and transformation. When we learn that our prayers are powerful, we understand that there is one authority, and that is Spirit. We’re part of God. And the Power of God is the Power of Love within us.

My Stop Playing Small Retreat was going to be in the UK, but now it’s being offered online, so all can join. This online retreat is for folks who are frustrated with feeling stuck and fearful. It’s designed for those who’d like to bring on a breakthrough so they can move forward with confidence toward their heart’s desire in any area of their life. Click here for details. And if you’re really ready to make a change, stay tuned because tomorrow I’m going to make a super-duper special offer. Watch for that email!

I look forward to our Sunday gathering TODAY. It means so much that we can join together and love on each other!

May you and your family feel blessed today and every day!

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Represent

Saturday, June 6th, 2020

I sometimes get flak for my political activism and comments. I guess some people think that as an A Course in Miracles student I should have nothing to say about the world, but that’s not my way.

I find it challenging to balance the opinions and judgments that I have, which I’m interested in healing, along with my desire for healing, wholeness, and spiritual liberation for us all. And still, I share as honestly as I can, learning as I go.

The illusion is so thick with layers of deception, corruption, hatred, maliciousness, and many other forms of insanity. The more I wake up to it the more astonished I am at the layered complexity of it. I used to feel overwhelmed, but now I feel inspired to keep going and going and going no matter what. I choose Love and the power of Love to dissolve all the layers of ingrained separation thinking.

I choose Love AND I also choose to take action in the world, because that is what I am inspired to do.

Yes, I seek not to change the world but to change my mind about the world.

AND

I am here only to be truly helpful.
I am here to represent Him Who sent me.
I do not have to worry about what to say or what to do, because He Who sent me will direct me.
I am content to be wherever He wishes, knowing He goes there with me.
I will be healed as I let Him teach me to heal.
I feel directed to share, to speak up, to wake up, to dialogue, to listen, and to contemplate.

My teacher, Jesus was a FULL ON activist.

Let’s support each other in having the courage to follow through on what we’re directed to do. Go to Spirit for the strength to follow through.

I share these two videos with you because they may have a perspective you’re not aware of and you might be able to learn something. I did.

“We have to be the ones who pull the cop off his neck.”

We cannot go back to how it was 6 months ago.

We are here to represent the one who sent us.

We are here to be truly helpful.
The time is now.
What action can you take, from your heart, to make a difference now?
Please share in the comments below.

I love you.

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Freedom Full Moon

Friday, June 5th, 2020

In case you didn’t notice things are very intense right now.  There are so many influences converging upon us:

Death, suicide and fear of death

Politics

Depression and anxiety

Financial pressure

People not working, unemployed

AND on top of all this, there is a real intensity for people to let go of the blocks to Love.  Our opinions, judgments, fears and worries are the blocks to Love.   Now IS the appointed time for releasing.

Today starts is a full moon.  Which is GREAT!  It’s great because full moon is a time of release and harvest.

Release that which no longer serves you and harvest the wisdom of your learning.

It’s also challenging because the moon has a STRONG effect on folks, bringing up the patterns that no longer serve us so they can be released.

It’s obvious that this last month since the May full moon has been ALL about releasing the patterns of divisiveness, separation and self-hatred projected outwards as well as inwards.  Full moon energy can support us in our release of the blocks to Love through self-forgiveness and then we can reap the learning from our experiences.

Now’s the time!

If you noticed this past month was SUPER intense, you were right!  If you noticed you were holding onto old pain patterns that were coming up for healing and the pain was pushing you, then please know nothing’s wrong with you – it’s the way things are when we’re actively praying for healing, but still resisting.

Instead of hanging onto all that stuff, we can look for ways to be helpful.  It’s a lot more rewarding, fun and fruitful to be of service to ourselves and others.

It’s very important for all of us to know now that acting out of resentment, playing mind games, pretending, and living in denial – we’ve all done so much of it, we’ve learned all we can.  So, until we let it go, it’s just going to get more and more difficult.  We let it go by forgiving ourselves for having invested so much energy in it in the first place.

Total surrender really is the way to go.  We’re all ultimately going to surrender every last opinion, judgment, regret, resentment, jealousy, hurt, worry, doubt, shame and blame eventually, so why not let it all go now?  Why wait?

We’re living in the time of instant karma.  We’ve asked for assistance to let go of all the things we hurt ourselves with.  The intensity of density that people are feeling is the constant reminder to choose heaven instead.  It might feel really hard, but it’s actually so simple – but it does require a leap of faith, and that’s not something the ego will ever agree to, so you align with Spirit, make the leap and remember to laugh.

Despite of how it looks and feels, everything is aligning for us to feel more supported, held and carried in our spiritual awakening. Of course, if you’re experiencing a lot of resistance and reluctance to shift and change, you may still be feeling an intense amount of pressure to give up what no longer serves.

What we don’t surrender with grace, sometimes gets taken from us.

To relieve the pressure, release the attachment to your perspective and your belief.

Whether we like it or not, there’s no way around it, now is the time for us to give up what doesn’t serve and to get with the awakening program. If we’re not actively, and gratefully, accepting it, it will feel like an energetic pressure, pushing and prodding us. Fortunately, the blocks to Love don’t help us, so we can immediately begin to feel so much tangible benefit when we release them to Spirit for lifting and shifting.

If you’re feeling called to release things in the world of form, remember, the main thing we have to do is release the attachment to people, places and things. Once we release the attachment then things can naturally align in the most loving way.

Late yesterday we had a full moon on top of a lunar eclipse. This is a powerful alignment that supports our goal of awakening. Enjoy the energy boosts and make plans to do extra spiritual practice today!

I thought I’d share with you a really simple and, for me, powerful and healing ceremony you can do on your own or with friends. Do it today or tomorrow while we’re still in this full moon energy, before mid-Sunday afternoon eastern time if possible.

Even though it’s late spring where I am, it’s the perfect time to do a full moon wisdom harvest.  Full moon represents the time to harvest the learning we’ve had and be grateful for it. We can always harvest the learning we’ve rejected any time of year.

Anything we’ve been holding in resentment, regret, hurt, blame or shame can be brought to a harvest of the learning through our willingness. It may seem crazy, but the mental/emotional shift that turns the tide of upset is to be grateful for things as they are. Our gratitude raises our vibration so that we can see, hear, feel and know more clearly the learning and benefit that’s encoded into every single thing in our lives.

Let this be a time of harvest!  When we’re actively harvesting the learning from our experiences then we don’t have to repeat them! It’s just like when we learn how to do anything, we don’t have to keep repeating it once you get it. When we keep having the same repeat experiences then it’s a sure sign we’re rejecting the learning and believing that the meaning we’ve made of things – our interpretations – are correct. 

If we’re still upset about something that happened, we’re not correct. The upset is the Divine Alarm Clock going off to let us know that our thinking is incorrect and can be corrected. It’s that old “would you rather be right or happy?” It’s your life, you choose.

Full moon is also for releasing what is no longer desired and what no longer serves. Release the blocks to Love to harvest the wisdom as more Love flows in your life.  To me this is about purification. It’s about celebrating that I can let go of the burdens, the negative patterns and suffering of the past.  

We can put an end to our own personal crucifixion and begin our resurrection!

Here’s the moon where I am, rising over the Green Mountains of Vermont.

Full moon is a fun time to have a ceremony, and we could use some FUN!  Just because it’s hell for some people right now, doesn’t mean we cannot have fun if we’re not in hell.

Right now, when so much changing is going on – a ceremony can be something helpful to shift the energy and welcome the healing changes!  The full moon is now, so today or tomorrow, gather loved ones, friends and family to make it a Harvest & Release celebration!

I always begin with being clear about my intention and WHY I’m doing what I’m doing.

I appreciate starting with setting of intention.
I intend to release what doesn’t serve me and harvest the wisdom I’ve been blocking.

Light a white candle
Have a glass of water.
You can consecrate your space with offerings of smudge and prayer.

It’s powerful to write out what no longer serves and is being released. If you have friends with you, you may wish to share what you’ve written specifically or generally. No pressure on that. Make it a safe space.

It’s nice to have a fire to place the offerings of what you’ve written in – a fire puja is always lovely – offering prayers to the fire as well as any writing – release it all! You can do that in a backyard fire pit, fireplace or a burning bowl. I love that part!

Open your heart to what you’d like to call into your life. Set your intention for expansion and clarity, purity and joy – what you’d like to experience this season! I always focus on how I’d like to feel and am careful not to get attached to how things show up in form. Focus on what the feeling you’d like to have more of.

More prayer, chanting, dancing, having a meal – these are all wonderful. Dance to celebrate your willingness to have a healing! May your release be complete and your heart be cleared for lift-off in the Light!

Release the patterns of pain, the attachments to suffering, and feelings of victimhood – that’s a lot to celebrate!  Woo hoo!

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Lovers and Fighters

Thursday, June 4th, 2020

I am a lover, not a fighter.
I used to be a fighter.
I fought with almost everyone every day.
I fought with myself.
I even fought with people in my dreams.

I learned what it is to fight all the time and how it eats away at you and ruins your life.

Being angry a lot is a habit.
I’m certain that on a physical, chemical level it’s also an addiction.
We get conditioned and it’s hard to stop.

Anger is always a cry for Love that is going unanswered, and unmet.

When you see an angry person know that there is only one problem, they feel cut off from the source of all Love in their heart.

When you feel angry, Love is the healer.

No one can cut us off from Love, we have to do that ourselves.
Many of us have made the decision that Love hurts.
We decide that Love is too hard.
It’s too painful.
It’s not worth it.

It’s really just that we need help finding our way back.

In my spiritual journey, I’ve come to recognize that the safest place for me is in my loving heart.

When my heart is wide open, I cannot be hurt.
When I carry a shield to protect me, I can be attacked, wounded, brought down. Every time.
When I carry a sword and shield I invite aggressors.

Those who consistently choose Love become invulnerable and that is the path spiritual students are on.

At first, this path was so unfamiliar to me. I didn’t trust it.

But like Richard Gere’s character in the movie Officer and A Gentleman, I had nowhere else to go.

I couldn’t go down that angry, bitter, hurt path one more day. There was nothing new to see, only more carnage, more disappointment, more suffering. My heart felt like a bombed-out wreck of a place.

I had to turn and go in the other direction, toward the light.

I’ve never once regretted my decision, although I’ve been challenged to my core again and again.

Although I’ve fallen flat on my face and failed thousands of times, I didn’t turn back. I did get distracted thousands of times, but I kept coming back.

Being consistently loving is discipline. It is what Michael Beckwith calls a blissapline. It takes great willingness and I cultivate that every day.

I’m a political person.
I’m an activist.
I’m an action taker.

I believe we can make the world a better place when we’re dedicated to being truly helpful for ALL and not just our own self-interest. If we’re not working for the good of all, whatever we’re building will surely crumble and fall. Especially now, in the time of instant karma.

There seem to be many currents in this rising tide right now.
There seem to be many factions and many agendas.
Who is trustworthy?
Who has the good of all at heart?
Who is not motivated by their own self-interest?

It can be difficult to discern.
It can feel impossible.

So, I turn to myself and decide:
I am for the good of all.
I am trustworthy.
I am one with all.

And, I know this: I am not a fighter. I am a lover.

When I was a child I became obsessed with Harriet Tubman. She was the most amazing person I’d ever heard of. A liberator, they called her Moses because she led her people out of the wilderness of slavery. I still think she’s the most extraordinary person I’ve ever known of. What a strong-hearted being. To go back into slave territory again and again. To make that hard journey, hunted by dogs and chased by angry men so much bigger than her with gone, in order to be able to offer Freedom to her brothers and sisters. Extraordinary.

In the early 1980’s I read Mahatma Gandhi’s autobiography and fell in Love again. Another liberator who learned the power of Love, holding onto truth, satyagraha. He became profoundly inspired by Jesus’ Sermon on the Mount and the practice of nonviolence became the tool of liberation for the people of India.

Gandhi inspired Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., who traveled to India to study and learn about nonviolent powerful liberation tool of the heart. As we all know, his work and the work of those who stood beside him changed our world forever.

Rev. King had a mentor. Rev. James Lawson was his mentor and the teacher of many who led the civil rights movement in the 1960s. He has been teaching people to lead nonviolent protests ever since then. He was my teacher for several years in the late ’90s. The training I received from him has been invaluable to me.

I’ve had extraordinary blessings in my life. And no blessing has been as great as the blessing of my own awareness and ability to change my mind. The greatest blessing I have is my willingness to turn away from darkness and to choose Love.

In the years since the 2016 presidential election, I’ve become politically active again. The rise of hate speech, hate crimes, and racist rhetoric is intolerable to me. I cannot bear it. I cannot be silent.

Racism, sexism, ageism, classism, and economic injustice, are built into our culture and systems at every level. There is hypnotism that has been perpetrated and we have gone along with it. The whole thing must break apart in order for us to rise.

And I will never, ever advocate for violence.
Violence does not solve anything and it never will.

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness;
only light can do that.
Hate cannot drive out hate;
only LOVE can do that.”
~Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

We are Love. That is what we are.
It is always the perfect time for us to teach only Love,
because that is the truth of our being.
Everything else is false.

My way is to teach and practice an active loving.
I teach prayer.
I teach going to God for the healing.
I teach the end of separation thinking that is the foundation of all racism and inequality.
I teach unity of all life.

I am not a fighter. I am a lover.

In the last year, I was getting constant messaging from democratic political candidates, asking if I was willing to fight. I was on call lists because of my donations and my willingness to work for change.

Over and over again I got emails, texts, and calls, asking if I would fight for these causes I believed in.

My answer is and was NO. I will not fight for change.

Gandhi taught us so well that the ends are in the means.

If we think we can get to Peace and Harmony by means of fighting we’ve lost our minds.

I work for change.
I work for Peace and Harmony.
I don’t fight for them.

I’m a lover, not a fighter, in part, because I’ve seen that Love is the only thing that can bring permanent healing. Fighting won’t ever be able to do that and I’m interested in being truly productive. I’ve wasted enough of my life fighting and I just can’t do it anymore. It’s not helpful.

In my lifetime, I’ve seen the extraordinary results that nonviolent protest and revolution can bring. Just in recent years, we’ve seen the biggest peaceful protests in the history of the human race. Wow!

We can accomplish so much when we channel the upset in a productive way and work for the changes we’d like to see. It must start with our inner work of choosing to work FROM a loving heart.

If we feel enraged, we must do the inner work to heal that so we can be helpful to others.

Love is the power of King’s work and message that still lives today.
Love was the soul force that Gandhi taught us the power of.
Love is the reason that we still are so inspired by the teachings of Jesus.

We work from our heart with Love, in order to increase the flow of Love in our lives, and then we are profoundly productive, and the benefits are felt by all.

So much is possible when we are able to extend Love.

I know it’s not easy. I know that. I’m not living on a cloud somewhere in a magic castle with unicorns. (Although I’d like to have a vacation home there, for sure!)

Every day I work and speak intimately with people who are having the most profound challenges of their life. People who are stepping around bodies on their way home from work. People who are listening to sirens and helicopters all day. People who are ill or whose loved ones are ill. People who’ve lost loved ones to suicide, illness, accidents, and on and on.

And it’s all that experience with so many people, going through the very worst times of their entire lives, that has taught me that Love IS the way. There is no other way worth traveling.

This world is an amazing place.
I’ve hated it, I’ve loved it, I’ve felt tortured by it, I’ve felt confused by it.

It’s incredibly challenging and complex to be part of this human race on earth right now.

There are so many illusions, delusions, concepts, and perceptions that are all coming up for healing at once.

Our #1 priority is to choose Love.
That’s it.

Loving ourselves is #1.
When we love ourselves, then we have found the power within us to move the mountain outside us.

Each day, all day, we look for the most loving choices we can find and choose that. That’s our way. We teach ONLY Love, for that IS what we are. When we fall down or forget, we get up, we remember. We cultivate the willingness to be loving by forgiving ourselves for being unloving and we begin again, and again and again.

Most of us are playing small.
We shrink back from living our dreams.
We hesitate to go for it.
We play small in our relationships and in our workplace.
We avoid the challenges that will really stretch us.
We say we’d go for it if we had this or that but we don’t have it so we can’t go for it.
We make excuses.
Fear gets in the way.
We say we don’t have enough time, resources, whatever we believe we lack.

The truth is that we play small because we don’t really believe we can have a breakthrough. We feel unworthy and not good enough. We fear finding out that there’s something wrong with us and we don’t really have what it takes. We fear failure so we don’t try.

Every reason that we play small can be eliminated.
Every reason we play small is a false belief.

“Our greatest ability as humans is not to change the world, but to change ourselves.” Mahatma Gandhi

Changing our minds is our greatest ability and response-ability.

I played small for a long time and it was so painful.
I developed habits of managing and coping with my discomfort.

And then I had those habits to deal with and eliminate and it became like pushing a boulder up a mountain.

I support spiritual students to undo those patterns of playing small so they can live the life of Love that they desire. So they can be truly helpful in all areas of their life. So they can fulfill their heart’s desires and their destiny.

It does require a willingness to LOVE OURSELVES.

The answer is within us and it’s not outside of us.

We don’t play small because of the world, we play small because of our beliefs about ourselves in relationship to the world.

Watching people’s lives expand and grow because they do this inner work and stop playing small is a great joy.

Thank you for being on this journey with me. It’s a wild ride. I wouldn’t wish to miss it and I wouldn’t wish to do it without YOU!

If you feel like you might be playing small because of your beliefs about yourself, if you think maybe those beliefs are false and could be eliminated, and if you have a willingness to do some inner work to make a real and lasting change then please consider joining me and some other folks just like you who are SO DONE WITH PLAYING SMALL.

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God Is Not A Racist

Wednesday, June 3rd, 2020

A couple of years ago I was listening to a news report about what appears to be efforts to have enforced racism in the United States and particularly a report of many things the President has done over the years that indicate he might be racist in his views.  As the list went on I suddenly started to cry which surprised me.

My tears were a sudden empathetic response to how it would feel, and how much energy it would take, to maintain those views.  I had this very strong feeling sense of how exhausting it would be to be racist.

Higher Holy Spirit Self said “God is not a racist.”   And I almost laughed.

The very idea that God could be racist is laughable.  Although there are many who would preach racism in the name of God.

It must take a HUGE amount of life-force energy to be so committed to the only problem we have in this world: a belief in separation from God showing up as any interest in separation such as racism.

And sometimes I can’t help but think we all hold racist views whether we recognize it or not.  We are all learning of the pain and suffering caused by attachment to separation beliefs – they are exhausting, and so very limiting.

There are false constructs, such as racism, sexism, agism, that people agree to.  The antidote is to value the truth and call for the truth to be revealed.

The truth is the same for all beings.

There are no personal versions of the truth.

Truth is constant and truth is healing.

My mantra has become:

May truth be revealed and Love prevail!

As part of my spiritual practice, rather than be bothered or upset when people are actively perpetuating things that aren’t true, “false facts,” fake media, etc.  I don’t put my energy into reacting to it because I cannot believe that it has any real power.  Instead, I call for the truth to be revealed.  Heaven make it so!

ALL things work together for our good and there are no exceptions except in the opinion of the ego.  This is the teaching of A Course in Miracles.  This IS the teaching of Jesus and I’m with Jesus.

He also said, what you do to the least of them, you do to me.  What a beautiful way to teach the unity of all life!

The truth is our liberator, let us call for the truth to be revealed in our heart and our mind and let it ripple out across the mind of all.  Let’s start a tsunami of healing by calling for the truth to be revealed.

May truth be revealed and Love prevail!

The truth isn’t that someone is right and someone else is wrong, the truth is that we are one and inseparable.

All joined in Love, this is the truth.

Let it be revealed.  Let it be. Let it be.  Let it be!

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Aligned with Spirit

Tuesday, June 2nd, 2020

Love is a spiritual practice. It is the basis of any true spiritual practice.

The practice of nonviolence is a practice of Love. In the daily practice of nonviolence our own inner accuracy is required. It can be surprisingly easy to be persuaded to adapt to another’s point of view.

Sometimes all it takes is the sound of a car horn blaring at us for discord to prevail and our entire practice to be momentarily lost. Fortunately, our practice can just as easily be lovingly resumed.

We’re all seeking to get to a place within ourselves where we can experience any situation and be unmoved from our inner center of peace. When we can do that, then we can be of service to others. This is what it means to really walk the talk.

In order to be at Peace within ourselves and be a helpful presence, we must be willing to be loving and compassionate. Let’s be willing to be the fulcrum point of healing in any situation.

Let’s go first in making apologies.
Let’s go first in taking responsibility.

Herein lies the Peace that we seek.

The Peace we seek is seeking us.

In THE PRINCIPLES OF HEALING, H.B. Jeffery writes, “… let us suppose that there is only one singer in a whole choir who has the proper note and key, and that all the rest are off key. If that one will keep to the true key and tempo, ignoring all the rest and singing correctly, they will all swing into the right way and soon be together with that one. This will happen, not because the true singer has given any attention to their lack of musical accuracy, but because he has kept his own accuracy, because he has maintained his knowledge and his expression of the principle of music.”

And so it is with the practice of nonviolence. If we can but hold our own accuracy we can shift all of those around us. This has been proven by Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., Mahatma Gandhi, Jesus, Buddha and countless others.

Today I seek to add my own name to the list of those who stand firm in their practice of nonviolence by living from our own inner accuracy.

We are true to our Spirit and that is the alignment of accuracy.

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Healing the World

Monday, June 1st, 2020

Many are feeling a mix of emotions right now.  There’s so much intensity in the world.  SO MUCH!  We can’t ignore it and we cannot be swayed by it either.  Instead, I see it as a call for deeper spiritual practice.

When there’s a lot of upset in humanity, the weather intensifies.

The world of form is influenced by our emotions.  We know this.  We see it and we feel it.

There is something we can do that brings tremendous benefit and that is to meditate.  To pray, to deepen our spiritual practice.

Meditation has been scientifically proven to reduce crime and unrest.  It’s real and it works.

Anyone who has studied the most basic quantum physics knows that the observer affects the outcome of the experiment.

We’re constantly observing our life, our community, our family, our workplace, our relationships and our experience and our thoughts about it make a difference.  This is no joke, this is our reality.

If we’d like to change the world, and, let’s face it, most of us would REALLY like to change the world, then the way for us to do it IS to change our mind about it.

When we look at situations that are disturbing, this is when we most need to practice and to know and remember the truth – that everything works together for the good of all even if we cannot understand it in the moment.

This is a practice for the strong hearted.

It’s challenging and it brings up all kinds of doubt.

When we can hold the truth in our mind then its more quickly revealed in our experience.  This is the gift we can give to our brothers and sisters.  It helps when we don’t give up and give in to popular opinion.  Our spiritual sovereignty is truly critical to the healing of the human race consciousness.

Today, instead of judging and going to worry, see if you can hold the “high watch” and know that we ARE going to the mountain top and we WILL be reaching the promised land that Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. told us about.

Healing is happening.

It’s happening NOW.  This now.  Today.

In our hearts and minds.

It is done.

Amen.

Let there be Peace on earth and let it begin with us.

My Stop Playing Small Retreat was going to be in UK next month, but now it’s being offered online, so all can join.  This online retreat is for folks who are frustrated with feeling stuck and fearful.  It’s designed for those who’d like to bring on a breakthrough so they can move forward with confidence toward their heart’s desire in any area of their life.  Click here for details.

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