Archive for the ‘Pain’ Category

Our Pain Becomes Our Power

Saturday, August 1st, 2020

There’s so much intensity in density.  And we can be helpful to those who suffer, if we’re willing.  In doing so, we’re uplifting ourselves too.

Many people seem to be experiencing a crucible right now. 

A crucible is a container that’s used to heat metals and other materials that require a very high temperature in order to melt.  Sometimes, that’s what our life seems to be: a container for us to melt within.

I notice that many people, if not all of us on this spiritual path, go through a crucible experience.

It really does seem as if no one is exempt from this crucible experience.

It also seems that it’s a great purification if we choose that.

If we don’t choose it, the crucible seems to come back for further opportunity to purify.

You may know Arthur Miller’s brilliant play The Crucible, (probably one of the best plays ever written by anyone anywhere) set in the time of the Salem witch hunts, it’s an allegory for what was happening with McCarthyism, the blacklists and the communist “witch” hunt of the 1950’s.  

Miller’s play is brilliant on every level and demonstrates what it’s like to be in the midst of a roiling boil of judgement, opinion, condemnation, fear, guilt, shame, blame and emotional overwhelm.  A 1996 movie version starts Daniel Day Lewis, Winona Ryder and Joan Allen – it’s worth watching especially if you’ve never seen the play on stage.

As a spiritual counselor and teacher since 2000, In my observation of people, pretty much everyone goes through at least one major crucible experience where it feels like you’re being attacked from all sides.  It seems like a punishment, but it’s actually come to help us.

We can take this experience as a nightmare that we’re trying to escape from or fix, but there’s another way to look at this hellish crucible in our lives that actually turns it into a golden, liberating experience for your heart and mind.  It is a profound spiritual alchemy opportunity.  It’s a path of liberation.  And it is for those who are more interested in living a life of Love than in looking good or being right.  

To be able to rise above the experience of purification, we have to realize that the challenge is for the purpose of training our mind to focus on what we’d like, rather than what we don’t like.  It’s a true challenge.

When we can stay focused, in faith, on what we’d like, then our life really does profoundly change, and forgiveness is the key to making this shift.

If you feel like you’re in a crucible, I invite you to practice gratitude for the purification and relax into willingness to let what doesn’t serve you go.  It’s challenging, but when we can do this, the crucible may not need to be repeated!  What a blessing that is.


Eliminating the Pain Patterns

Saturday, April 25th, 2020

Now, more than ever, it’s so important to break the patterns of painful relationships and take a stand for Love. When we’re loving with others, we’re having a healing.

It may seem insane, but when we can Love our brother, we are loving ourselves, because we’re one with them.

One of the pain patterns that many people have is a lot like a see-saw or a pendulum.

For instance, let’s say you have an experience with a loved one where they disappoint you. The first thought you might have is: “they’re bad, wrong, out of integrity, unloving, inexcusable” or some other complaint.

Then, the next thought we have is the pendulum swinging back when we think “I must be bad, wrong, unworthy, unlovable, inappropriate.” What goes around comes around with a slap in the head. Yikes!

First there’s an attack thought, then a lack thought and the mind bounces back and forth between them.

The belief in lack actually proceeds the attack thought, but sometimes we notice the attack thought first before the lack thought. We each have our own unique way of subscribing to this particularly pervasive pattern of dysfunction and suffering.

It doesn’t matter which thought came first.
If we believe in lack, then we’ll feel attacked.
We’ll feel unworthy.
If we feel attacked then we’re justified in attacking back.
If we attack others then we feel guilty and ashamed.
And so it goes, the hamster wheel of misery.

The only thing that matters is HOW TO GET OFF the painful train of thought – get off the pain train.

A willingness to listen to Divine Guidance is the key to getting off the pain train.

It makes the healing SO MUCH faster. It’s beautiful and miraculous how much healing we can have when we’re willing!

Do you feel like you’re not getting guidance about when to let go of the pain train? Judgments block our perception of inspiration, intuition and divine guidance. Interrupt the patterns of pain and you’ll have more clarity about your intuition.

It may take a little while, but it’s worth every effort you can put into it. Now more than ever, let us be at Peace!

Be willing to go first. Sing that great song by Vince Gill

Let there be peace on earth
And let it begin with me
Let There Be Peace on Earth
The peace that was meant to be
With God as our Father
Brothers all are we
Let us walk with each other
In perfect harmony.
Let peace begin with me
Let this be the moment now.
With ev’ry step I take
Let this be my joyous vow
To take each moment and live
Each moment in peace eternally
Let there be peace on earth
And let it begin with me!

When there’s an argument in your home, decide to go first and offer the olive branch of Peace.

Enjoy and savor the moment where you let go of your grievance and choose perfect Love.

You are perfect. Perfect Love!


Turn Pain into Prosperity

Monday, November 4th, 2019

Some people are so used to repeating the same painful experiences again and again that they really don’t realize that all suffering is optional. I get it. It’s because they think that life is happening TO them instead of BY them.

The hardest thing in the world for me was to take responsibility for my life and to stop blaming other people for my unhappiness and hardships. I resisted taking responsibility so much because I thought it would be an admission of my personal failure. What I didn’t realize was that I was failing every day that I wasn’t taking responsibility. Taking responsibility, giving up blame, and putting my Higher Holy Spirit Self in charge of my thoughts began to shift everything for me.

Healing can be a journey, and it can be an ever-increasingly joyful journey for which I am so grateful! Time and again, I see that sometimes there is a breakdown that precedes a breakthrough. I see this with folks in my classes and retreats, as well as in myself. Yes, tears are shed, but with Love there comes encouragement, inspiration, and great willingness. The shift happens.

Prosperity is in many things:

Being in the flow of Love,
Good digestion,
A good night’s sleep,
Ease in movements,
The ability to laugh,

Prosperity isn’t just abundance.

Prosperity is being able to heal from difficulties and find the good in them.

Prosperity is a direct result of being able to be grateful for everything. And that’s not easy, but it’s so worthwhile.

So much more healing is possible than any of us can even really conceive of.

Let’s claim it together and get out of repeating the pain patterns.

We CAN get free of the past at last. We can do this together.

Let’s choose Prosperity and share it with others.

Today’s the day, no delay!