Archive for the ‘Pain’ Category

Gain Without Pain

Saturday, October 17th, 2020

Pain can push us to stop settling for unhappiness.

It might seem counter intuitive or it might seem just plain insane, but pain is helpful.

At times it’s incredibly helpful.  I used to be a runner.  I ran the New York Marathon in 1986 with my Dad.  In preparing to run the marathon I did many long training runs – 10, 12, 15, 18 and even 20 mile runs to get ready for the big 26.  

People become inured to pain.  

It doesn’t happen over night, but it happens drip by drip.

I learned that if I had some aches and pains before a run I wouldn’t take any kind of pain killer, because that’s how people injure themselves.  If they’re numb to the pain then they don’t know when to stop, when to shift and change.  It’s true for athletes and it’s true for everyone.  

If we numb ourselves to the pain, the agitation and irritation, and all the other myriad of feelings and emotions then we’ll not be aware when to make a change.  

I’ve learned this:  

If I can feel it, Spirit can heal it – when I’m willing to let it go.

Pain often comes from blocking the flow of Love.

Even if we’re intentionally blocking the flow of Love, don’t we wish to have a wake-up call in order to know when we’re hurting ourselves?

I used to deceive myself into thinking I could block the pain and still have the Joy, but I ultimately had to face the fact that it’s not possible.  If I’m not willing to feel the emotions I don’t like, and the feelings that bother or confuse me, so I block them all, that’s not going to be the end of it.  

I cannot selectively block the suffering, but allow the happy to spread like wildfire.  If I shut part of my feelings down, I’m shutting them all down.  

I’ve learned to be grateful that I get the emotions and feelings that signal when my thinking is sticking.  I’m grateful that my feelings let me know when I’ve ridden the pain train to crazy town and it’s time for me to partner UP with the Higher Holy Spirit Self.

When we realize how much healing is available to us we can learn to become grateful for the indicators that we’ve lost track of what’s REALLY going on and it’s time to partner UP.

I’ve learned not to be distracted or deterred by trying to figure out or understand the ego perceptions, the causes of upset and other ego escapades.  

Bottom line:  the ego will never understand what the spirit already knows.  And that’s because ego is nothing.  Spirit is everything.

Why mess around with trying to figure out WHY we’re having a problem when we can go direct to the problem has been healed back to the root cause?

I’ve made so many trips to crazy town on the pain train and I don’t wish to make one more.  The things I learned that healed my life and led me to the happiness I have now are the gold and diamonds of my life.  And that’s what I share in my classes.

We can learn to transcend pain and heal the root causes.


Tipping Point

Sunday, October 4th, 2020

I used to go through cycles where I judged myself to be the worst of the worst. One of the most painful things in my life was repeating the same relationship experiences. I’d have the same arguments with the same people, and I’d be left feeling hopeless and helpless to dig out of the hole I was in.

Can you relate?

We all have our own particular ego vices and devices. When I was REALLY threatened, I’d find any kind of an attack thought to throw at people to let them know to stay away from me. I’d say unkind things and feel out of control. It was demoralizing.

My uncontrollable upset behavior was just the proof I needed to convince myself that I was a total loser and there was no cure for what I had. I’d feel so upset it would be like my whole being was on fire – it was. I was feeling the destructive burning of my attack thoughts. I was feeling the searing pain of my false beliefs being “proven” yet again.

I had a desperate need to be right ALL of the time, to mask my insecurities. I couldn’t handle any kind of judgment at all. When I’d start judging myself, I’d implode with desperation.

My life went on like that for decades.

Now, through my practice of forgiveness, I can see that I’ve almost completely eliminated all negative self-talk.

Even when I feel challenged or feel that I could have made a higher choice, there’s no self-judgment no matter how hard it is for me or how many times I seem to fail.

Negative self-talk is a rare thing for me these days.
I never thought it was possible for me.
This has been true for years now.

I crossed over a tipping point.

And that’s what inspires me to keep sharing – I’d like to make it easier for everyone to do the same.

Catch this: Because I now know it’s possible, I can help others believe it’s possible. Folks in my classes are healing so much faster than me because they believe it’s possible for them. It took me decades to get to that place. Now, folks in my classes get there in a fraction of the time.

I thought I could improve my situation, but healing didn’t actually seem fully possible for me. I was too far gone. I was so obviously on the outside of “good.” That’s what I believed, and because I believed it I felt it was true and I saw evidence of it EVERYWHERE.

I know that forgiveness is the key to my transformation. Forgiveness is still the key today.

Forgiveness is a miracle in the mind.

All healing happens at the level of the mind.
Then the healing makes its way to the rest of our lives, showing up in form.
And miracles show up in form too!

We resist doing the forgiveness because it feels so intimidating to look at the intensity of our thoughts and feelings.

I used to be convinced that these things work for others, but not for me. I’m special. Especially bad.

I was SOOO reluctant to do that deep inner work. What I see for most of us is that we resist until it becomes so painful we can no longer stand it.

Pain is a great motivator.
And I don’t wish to be motivated by pain any more.

I’d rather be pulled by a vision of healing relationships and enjoying every situation and feeling secure and safe ALL of the time.

One of the main things I’ve realized is that unforgiveness, resentments and regrets, are major blocks to our healing, our abundance, our relationship transformation and our physical healing. Not only that, but unforgiveness blocks our intuition.

Without the ability to listen to our intuition, the ego is in charge.
Without the ability to be truly guided and inspired throughout our days, we tend to repeat the past.

As a spiritual counselor, I often talk with people who have reached a point of no longer being able to tolerate the pain. We wait until things get so bad we can’t stand it anymore and then we are finally willing to look for a solution.

I did the same thing.

Now, I’m grateful for what I went through because I can really understand much of what people are going through and I can support them in breaking free of those painful patterns.

There’s a tipping point – and I’ve proved we can get there.

Healing the habits of fear isn’t easy, but it’s FAR EASIER than living in fear. But you wouldn’t know that if you’ve always lived in fear.

That’s why I’m offering you this class as a gift. My gift to you. Come and join me. Today.

7 Simple Steps to Interrupt the Patterns of Fear

We’ll go deeper into the practical tips and tools that worked for me, so you can interrupt those patterns of fear and attack and make new choices, creating new habits that support the life you desire.

It might seem impossible, but I’ve done it and helped many people learn to do this too.

Here’s the good news:
“No one can fail who seeks to reach the truth.”
That’s Lesson 131 in A Course in Miracles

You cannot fail if you’re sincerely willing to live a loving life
– you don’t have to be there already.
– start where you are.

All your previous failures are just evidence of your lack of sincerity.
Don’t be fooled by appearances.
If you’re sincerely willing to live without fear, you cannot fail.
It’s the Truth.
Now, will you prove it?
Once you prove it to yourself, there’s no going back!

If you’re coping with fear and you’d like to change that,
please register for my free class today.

If you’d like to have a major increase in your connection with Spirit and feeling PEACE of mind, you might like my Finding Freedom From Fear, Spiritual Bootcamp class with ACIM principles. We start Monday, October 12th.

Join me and you’ll be able to close out this year feeling like you had one of the best years ever! This is your chance, if you’d like to join me and GO FOR IT!

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If this is right for you right now, you’ll know it.

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Our Pain Becomes Our Power

Saturday, August 1st, 2020

There’s so much intensity in density.  And we can be helpful to those who suffer, if we’re willing.  In doing so, we’re uplifting ourselves too.

Many people seem to be experiencing a crucible right now. 

A crucible is a container that’s used to heat metals and other materials that require a very high temperature in order to melt.  Sometimes, that’s what our life seems to be: a container for us to melt within.

I notice that many people, if not all of us on this spiritual path, go through a crucible experience.

It really does seem as if no one is exempt from this crucible experience.

It also seems that it’s a great purification if we choose that.

If we don’t choose it, the crucible seems to come back for further opportunity to purify.

You may know Arthur Miller’s brilliant play The Crucible, (probably one of the best plays ever written by anyone anywhere) set in the time of the Salem witch hunts, it’s an allegory for what was happening with McCarthyism, the blacklists and the communist “witch” hunt of the 1950’s.  

Miller’s play is brilliant on every level and demonstrates what it’s like to be in the midst of a roiling boil of judgement, opinion, condemnation, fear, guilt, shame, blame and emotional overwhelm.  A 1996 movie version starts Daniel Day Lewis, Winona Ryder and Joan Allen – it’s worth watching especially if you’ve never seen the play on stage.

As a spiritual counselor and teacher since 2000, In my observation of people, pretty much everyone goes through at least one major crucible experience where it feels like you’re being attacked from all sides.  It seems like a punishment, but it’s actually come to help us.

We can take this experience as a nightmare that we’re trying to escape from or fix, but there’s another way to look at this hellish crucible in our lives that actually turns it into a golden, liberating experience for your heart and mind.  It is a profound spiritual alchemy opportunity.  It’s a path of liberation.  And it is for those who are more interested in living a life of Love than in looking good or being right.  

To be able to rise above the experience of purification, we have to realize that the challenge is for the purpose of training our mind to focus on what we’d like, rather than what we don’t like.  It’s a true challenge.

When we can stay focused, in faith, on what we’d like, then our life really does profoundly change, and forgiveness is the key to making this shift.

If you feel like you’re in a crucible, I invite you to practice gratitude for the purification and relax into willingness to let what doesn’t serve you go.  It’s challenging, but when we can do this, the crucible may not need to be repeated!  What a blessing that is.


Eliminating the Pain Patterns

Saturday, April 25th, 2020

Now, more than ever, it’s so important to break the patterns of painful relationships and take a stand for Love. When we’re loving with others, we’re having a healing.

It may seem insane, but when we can Love our brother, we are loving ourselves, because we’re one with them.

One of the pain patterns that many people have is a lot like a see-saw or a pendulum.

For instance, let’s say you have an experience with a loved one where they disappoint you. The first thought you might have is: “they’re bad, wrong, out of integrity, unloving, inexcusable” or some other complaint.

Then, the next thought we have is the pendulum swinging back when we think “I must be bad, wrong, unworthy, unlovable, inappropriate.” What goes around comes around with a slap in the head. Yikes!

First there’s an attack thought, then a lack thought and the mind bounces back and forth between them.

The belief in lack actually proceeds the attack thought, but sometimes we notice the attack thought first before the lack thought. We each have our own unique way of subscribing to this particularly pervasive pattern of dysfunction and suffering.

It doesn’t matter which thought came first.
If we believe in lack, then we’ll feel attacked.
We’ll feel unworthy.
If we feel attacked then we’re justified in attacking back.
If we attack others then we feel guilty and ashamed.
And so it goes, the hamster wheel of misery.

The only thing that matters is HOW TO GET OFF the painful train of thought – get off the pain train.

A willingness to listen to Divine Guidance is the key to getting off the pain train.

It makes the healing SO MUCH faster. It’s beautiful and miraculous how much healing we can have when we’re willing!

Do you feel like you’re not getting guidance about when to let go of the pain train? Judgments block our perception of inspiration, intuition and divine guidance. Interrupt the patterns of pain and you’ll have more clarity about your intuition.

It may take a little while, but it’s worth every effort you can put into it. Now more than ever, let us be at Peace!

Be willing to go first. Sing that great song by Vince Gill

Let there be peace on earth
And let it begin with me
Let There Be Peace on Earth
The peace that was meant to be
With God as our Father
Brothers all are we
Let us walk with each other
In perfect harmony.
Let peace begin with me
Let this be the moment now.
With ev’ry step I take
Let this be my joyous vow
To take each moment and live
Each moment in peace eternally
Let there be peace on earth
And let it begin with me!

When there’s an argument in your home, decide to go first and offer the olive branch of Peace.

Enjoy and savor the moment where you let go of your grievance and choose perfect Love.

You are perfect. Perfect Love!


Turn Pain into Prosperity

Monday, November 4th, 2019

Some people are so used to repeating the same painful experiences again and again that they really don’t realize that all suffering is optional. I get it. It’s because they think that life is happening TO them instead of BY them.

The hardest thing in the world for me was to take responsibility for my life and to stop blaming other people for my unhappiness and hardships. I resisted taking responsibility so much because I thought it would be an admission of my personal failure. What I didn’t realize was that I was failing every day that I wasn’t taking responsibility. Taking responsibility, giving up blame, and putting my Higher Holy Spirit Self in charge of my thoughts began to shift everything for me.

Healing can be a journey, and it can be an ever-increasingly joyful journey for which I am so grateful! Time and again, I see that sometimes there is a breakdown that precedes a breakthrough. I see this with folks in my classes and retreats, as well as in myself. Yes, tears are shed, but with Love there comes encouragement, inspiration, and great willingness. The shift happens.

Prosperity is in many things:

Being in the flow of Love,
Good digestion,
A good night’s sleep,
Ease in movements,
The ability to laugh,

Prosperity isn’t just abundance.

Prosperity is being able to heal from difficulties and find the good in them.

Prosperity is a direct result of being able to be grateful for everything. And that’s not easy, but it’s so worthwhile.

So much more healing is possible than any of us can even really conceive of.

Let’s claim it together and get out of repeating the pain patterns.

We CAN get free of the past at last. We can do this together.

Let’s choose Prosperity and share it with others.

Today’s the day, no delay!