Archive for the ‘Inspiration’ Category

Calm

Thursday, May 7th, 2020

One of the things I’ve noticed about many people is that we often get upset when people we care about are upset. Sometimes we get upset when anyone around or near us is upset. We can be like dominos.

Have you ever made someone you love to feel bad because you were upset with their being upset? It sounds crazy, but it’s very common. It’s as though we’re punishing them for upsetting us with their upset. Yikes!

When someone we love is upset, we can actually make them wrong or bad, guilty, or ashamed for being upset, just because we feel threatened and we don’t like it. That’s so intense! I know I used to do this. I didn’t mean to. I wasn’t awake enough to pay attention to what I was doing. I was like a ping pong ball jumping all over the place.

One of the first spiritual strengths I developed was the ability to take a breath and calm down.

Then, I could learn to be patient.

I still don’t do it perfectly, but I am perfecting my ability to keep calm respond with kindness no matter what.

It’s a great goal.

There’s always some success.
And there’s always room for improvement.

One of the great things we can learn to do is to keep calm in challenging situations.

It’s not about denying how we feel. For me, staying calm is about having trust and faith that everything works together for good and there are no exceptions. So, even someone being upset can be for everyone’s good if we’re willing to allow Spirit to show us how that can be.

Cultivating the skill of staying loving even when things are upsetting is a wonderful ability to have. It really is life-changing. It’s transformative because it’s loving and Love is transformative!

Pay attention next time someone you Love is upset – and see if you make them wrong or offer compassion. Then see how you do when someone you don’t Love is upset! Can you have just as much compassion?

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Being of Service

Wednesday, May 6th, 2020

We’ve been encouraged to “dance as though no one is watching.” What about being of service as though no one is watching?

One of the ways that we truly know we’re free is when we’re no longer watching to see what anyone else thinks of what we’re doing. We’re feeling free when we can go about our business, following our heart’s desire, and not looking over our shoulder. We become good listeners.

Clearly receiving inspiration and insight from our Higher Holy Spirit Self.

If we love what we do, and we enjoy it and feel good about it, is that enough? Or do we need someone else to acknowledge it? Of course I appreciate all the appreciation I receive, but it’s not why I feel moved to share.

I greatly enjoy sharing. I enjoy making these prayers every day and writing my Spiritual Espresso. That’s why I do it. I enjoy feeling the connection with everyone who participates. I also enjoy being helpful, and being of service. It feels like my “home space.”

Energetically, I feel the giving and receiving of Love every single day by offering the prayers and receiving the connection of others. It’s lovely.

I’m so glad Spirit inspired me to begin this as part of my spiritual practice.

When we serve each other, we serve the Light in ALL.

There was a time in my life when I would be of service, volunteer and do many other things to go out of my way to get noticed and appreciated. Phew! It was exhausting, because I was trying to fill an endless need.

It always sucked the joy out of things for me. Giving in order to get something in return affirms our sense of lack and so it increase the feeling of lack. No matter how well people respond to us and give back, if we’re giving in order to get, it only digs the hole of needing, wanting, and craving even deeper.

I see one of the challenges many spiritual seekers have, Ministers and practitioners – is that sometimes we’re giving service to get noticed. Giving to get is always going to lead to suffering. Even ministers like to feel that they’re special.

Some might say that ministers like to feel special MORE than most. I get it.

I am so not interested in specialness anymore. I really see it as a path of misery.

I’m not interested in suffering anymore! I love the way it feels when I give and share like no one is watching and it’s just because I feel inspired! Let’s all serve as though no one is watching.

That’s such a sweet Spirit connection to live in! To have, give all to all!

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Healing Power of Prayer

Tuesday, May 5th, 2020

I love how a prayer shifts things so powerfully and so quickly. I’m grateful that I have prayer as a tool to use whenever I feel the need. It used to be that I would get into a bad mood or feel upset by things and I would let it go on and ON without thinking of stopping to pray. Crazy!

I started recording this daily prayer back in 2007 – 13 years ago – WOW!

I began offering the daily prayer because each day I was getting many calls for prayer from friends and counseling clients. Sometimes people would tell me that they really wished they could call me for prayer when they’re freaking out in the middle of the night.

I decided to find a way to make it possible for us to pray together any time of day, every day and, voila, the Prayer for Today was born.

I’m truly grateful that the technology we have these days supports our spiritual practice in so many ways. I’m grateful that we can use it to be Prayer Partners each day.

Prayer shifts the energy, it shifts the mood, it reboots us.

It’s so valuable to remember that we don’t have to suffer, we can refresh with a prayer. Prayer allows us to change our mind and change the channel that we’re tuned into. So much of our healing comes from our willingness to interrupt the patterns of fear. A prayer does it so well and so quickly!

I’ve learned the power of prayer from many miraculous experiences. I encourage you to pray on your own and to pray often. We don’t have to suffer, there are no extra points for suffering.

Let’s open ourselves EVEN MORE to the healing power of prayer anytime anywhere!

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Not A Victim

Monday, May 4th, 2020

We are ALL healing the belief in victimhood. We can call it “victim consciousness” or whatever else makes sense, we can even call it low self-esteem. We all can have experiences that push our victim buttons.

Each and every time that victim button gets pushed, it means that we are being given an opportunity to heal.

It seems like the theme of this past week or so has been for people to rise up to own their magnificence and recognize the power of their mind. Just because we “know” that our thoughts are manifesting as our experience, doesn’t mean we still don’t blame other people for how we feel.

When we blame other people for how we feel, then we’re saying we are victims of this world, and we’re not.

Believing that we’re the victims, is another way to say that I don’t wish to take responsibility. I’d rather make someone else responsible for my experience.

And when we’re doing that, we’re actually further affirming that this world is real and not an illusion.

If we truly knew and believed that this world is an illusion, we wouldn’t ever blame others for how we feel. We wouldn’t. We’d stop it.

For me, it’s been so helpful and so life-changing and relationship-changing to ELIMINATE the need to punish anyone who has behaved in an unkind or unloving way. Instead of getting angry and upset and telling people how I don’t like what they’ve done and blaming them for how I feel, I’ve been practicing taking responsibility and extending compassion.

In making this shift, I’ve really had to retrain and relearn, but thanks to the Higher Holy Spirit Self, it’s been miraculous and easier than I could ever have imagined – of course, having a true willingness makes the difference.

I woke up this morning thinking about the Responsibility For Sight section in the A Course in Miracles Text, it begins like this, “This is the only thing that you need do for vision, happiness, release from pain and the complete escape from sin, all to be given you.”

I remember reading that for the first time and thinking, “WOW!! THANK YOU!”

It goes on to say, “Say only this, but mean it with no reservations, for here the power of salvation lies:” And that was another OMG, Here it comes! And then, here is what we are to say:

“I am responsible for what I see. I choose the feelings I experience, and I decide upon the goal I would achieve. And everything that seems to happen to me I ask for, and receive as I have asked. Deceive yourself no longer that you are helpless in the face of what is done to you. Acknowledge but that you have been mistaken, and all effects of your mistakes will disappear.” T-21.II.2.

My shorthand for this became:

I am responsible for what I see,
And everything is just as I wish it to be.

I’ve said that to myself thousands of times and it’s helped me to snap out of the delusion of the illusion an into the power of loving choices. That’s no small thing.

Let’s take total responsibility.
Let’s eliminate blame.
Let’s rise above the battlefield of victimhood.
Let’s be truly helpful by being truly healed.

We don’t have to be the walking wounded.
We are designed to be teachers of God.
This is what we signed up for.

Now is the time of our liberation!
This IS the time we we have waited for.
It’s here now. Let us rejoice, because the Light has come!

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Spiritual Connection

Sunday, May 3rd, 2020

For so long, it was so easy for me to get completely turned around and confused. Even in quarantine our days can be a myriad of activities and interactions with people that seem overwhelming. Our feelings can be overwhelming too. Some of us are getting to have more quiet time and more spiritual connection, while others are finding it nearly impossible to have a minute to themselves.

Without some quiet, it can be challenging to recognize the still small voice. If we’re feeling overwhelmed, it can feel impossible to discern the difference between ego’s voice and Spirit’s inspiration. Without that clarity, it’s easy to go off in directions that we think are Spirit’s inspiration, but they’re just ego distractions and detours.

With all that’s going on in this world and in our lives, we can lose perspective on what’s important, and stay in a haze of meaningless activity for a very long time, just to avoid feeling our feelings.

What cuts through the haze is our spiritual practice.

A valuable spiritual practice is one that we can be consistent with, and that feels uplifting. I’ve learned that the best practice for me is one that I live ALL DAY LONG. It’s my walking the talk and living the Love all day long, to the best of my ability, that keeps me clear headed and grounded.

I used to have a focus on collecting spiritual information.

I thought if I knew more, it would help me to feel better and be happy. I never felt like I knew enough. I always felt that I was falling short.

In my pursuit of the “right” information, I read a lot of books and magazines and had lots of informative conversations. I was trying to pay attention to as many things in the world as I possibly could. It was tiring and I often felt that I wasn’t doing a good enough job. There was always so much information I didn’t have. I couldn’t easily quote Oscar Wilde or Helen Keller. There were always so many classics I still hadn’t read yet. I was driving more and more slowly on the information super highway of life, but not getting anywhere.

I was failing at collecting all the information I needed to have in case I was suddenly called to a dinner party with all the contributing writers for the New Yorker Magazine. I didn’t really read the New York Times thoroughly and I was caring about it less and less. I had a stack of spiritual books by my bed that was taller than my nightstand. All books I “should” read, but really didn’t want to.

I was investing money in things that really didn’t matter to me, but I thought would make me better. For a long time, I didn’t realize that by collecting books and information to make me better, I was affirming that there was something wrong with me, so even if I did read all the books cover to cover and had the ability to write a paper about them, it was all just affirmation of my “not enoughness.”

No wonder I didn’t want to read those darn books!

Fortunately, I started to realize that all that information collecting was a distraction to me and not that helpful. I cancelled all magazines and newspapers. I stopped watching the news. Through a series of events with my then landlord, my cable was disconnected so there went my tv watching. I started to read only the books I had a passion for and I read them very slowly and carefully.

A bonus was that I stopped having conversations about information. I began to recognize that the best reason to have a conversation was for the purpose of relating to people: living the Love and walking the talk.

I realized I could focus mostly on talking about our lives and leave the information super highway behind. I found an exit, and took it and I’ve been very glad that I did.

Information just isn’t satisfying to me anymore.
I find that it can really clutter the mind.

The bottom line: Information isn’t healing.
Being loving is healing.
Forgiveness is healing.

Clearing out the judgments, the opinions, the grudgers and greivances, as well as my complaints and criticisms made me realize that I’d rather focus on experiencing and expressing Love, that’s much more interesting than anything else! PLUS, it gives me the added bonus of contributing to a clear mind!

My invitation to you is to look at where you’re collecting information that’s just not truly helpful or satisfying. Information isn’t healing and it can have the effect of confusing and cluttering one’s mind. The focus on collecting information is a distraction of the ego. The ego analyzes to try to learn what it needs to be safe. The Spirit knows that being loving is our safety. No information is needed for that.

You can ask yourself, who really wants to read the book, me or the ego? The Spirit already knows everything. I find that spending time with Spirit is far more expansive and deeply satisfying. It’s healing. It’s also less expensive!

We can actively choose transformation for our liberation in each moment by staying alert to when the ego is presenting a distraction. We can choose transformation for our liberation all day, every day and leave the past behind. Let’s step up our game and put the collection of information behind us.

Let’s clear the mental clutter and make room for spiritual insights!

Get rid of those books you really don’t feel like reading but feel you “should.” Give them away. You’ll feel great about that!

TODAY, you can join me, Maureen Muldoon, Faith Rumor and more friends. We’ll have a spiritual celebration together with inspiration and music. If you can’t join us, you can catch the replay! Because we’re going to be live on video, you’ll have to register to get the details. All are welcome, there’s no charge, but you do have to register.

When you register, you’ll also get easy access to past services with Lisa Natoli and Jon Mundy.

You can join me in cultivating the willingness that raises us ALL up so we can be truly helpful in this world. Prayer is a power tool, and I am so grateful for having learned the power of it. Every day, part of my spiritual practice is to write inspiration and record a prayer to go with it.

If you’re interested, this week I’ll be announcing that I’m offering my Prayer Power class again, also I’m going to offer my Stop Playing Small Retreat online. People have asked for these things and I’m pulling it together. Stay tuned!

I look forward to our Sunday gathering today. It means so much that we can join together and love on each other!

May you and your family feel blessed today and every day!

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Let Prosperity Flow

Saturday, May 2nd, 2020

Very often I notice that people are willing to work so very hard to earn money when they’re feeling financially challenged, and they’ll keep working and working to earn more. Rather than focus any attention at all at eliminating the mental and emotional causes of lack and limitation, most people think that the answer is ONLY more money.

It took me a long time to see that having faith, placing my trust in Love (God) would open up my prosperity. The big shift came when I realized that since God is all that there is, EVERYTHING I receive, I receive from God. I had the shift in my awareness and then came the shift in my life.

Recognizing that EVERYTHING I had or would have came from the unlimited source (God) helped me to also understand that EVERYTHING I gave, I gave TO God.

There’s only one place to receive FROM and once place to give TO.

I realized that, since there’s just this one – I could stop keeping score. I could give wherever I felt called to give and not have a thought that anyone owed me anything – including a thank you.

I also realized could receive without thinking that I owed anyone. No strings attached anymore. God has no strings because God is not a manipulator.

God is unlimited and unprecedented source and supply – I could, if I chose, learn to receive without limits. How cool is that?

The flow starts in the mind and then shows up in your life. Even when it doesn’t look like that’s how it is, that’s how it is.

Would you like to open up the flow? Here’s a simple tip for you:

If you have strings attached to ANYTHING then you’re not in the flow.

Thinking someone owes you a thank you, or recognition or even any small amount of appreciation is giving to get. Let it GO and open up the FLOW.

Are there any people in your life that you think OWE you? If you KNEW that your experiences of lack and limitation were tied to that thought, would you be willing to give it up?

We have to relinquish the blocks in order to be in the flow.

The blocks are our thoughts of lack, limitation and owing, debting. I know it seems crazy that we can just change our mind and our experience will change, but it does work. As crazy as it seems. It does actually bring results. It’s not easy. It’s simple, but it aint easy unless we’re willing.

Let’s give up all the blocks to being in the flow and live in the flow of infinite Abundance.

It is our destiny.

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Inviting Insight

Friday, May 1st, 2020

How much easier would my life be if I always took the time to stop and consider before I took action or spoke? How often have I pushed and pushed trying to impose my will on a situation? How often have I disregarded the people’s feelings, including my own, and all manner of warning signs in order to accomplish my goal and then realized how misguided I was?

How often have I thought I knew best when I really haven’t stopped to examine things from a higher perspective?

One thing I know for certain is that my mind can either be my greatest asset or my biggest liability depending on whether I’m thinking with my heart/Higher Holy Spirit Self or with the ego. Over-thinking and getting into the analytical mind, for me, is usually a form of self-sabotage. The ego runs the analytical mind.

The Spirit has no need to analyze, it has direct knowing.

We can invite direct spiritual insight into our awareness and liberate from the intellect.

We can think our way into a disconnect from our heart, or we can use the mind that is in our heart – our “heart intelligence” brings us a profound connection with Spirit. Sometimes we can be distracted by becoming so analytical that we’re thinking about our thinking without getting into our Heart/Spirit connection at all and not even realizing it. It’s perfectly normal – AND, it’s not acceptable anymore.

What I’ve learned is that connecting to the heart is the way to tap into Divine Intelligence.

When I’m tuned into Divine Intelligence I move well beyond my ability to simply process information and into the flow – the true Freedom of the Spirit.

Eric Butterworth says, “In the face of delays and obstacles it is well to think twice before you willfully seek to force a solution according to your predetermined plan. The closed door may indicate that the divine law of adjustment is pointing to another door through which you can go to meet your greater good.”

Today let us examine our life for any areas where we might be trying to impose our will through over-thinking and analyzing from an ego perspective.

Today let’s allow ourselves to invite higher insight to be heard through connecting with the Divine Wisdom of the Higher Holy Spirit Self.

In this way, thinking takes on a new level of consciousness and awareness. In this, we can feel a deep and profound connection to all of life and be grateful.

Isn’t it wonderful to know that our personal spiritual practice moves the entire world in a direction of peace easily and gracefully! Yes!

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Self-Nurturing

Thursday, April 30th, 2020

I notice that many spiritual students appear to have a false belief that deprivation is somehow more spiritual. I’m pretty sure that Buddha’s whole life taught us that the middle way is the faster path to awakening.

In my family, my grandparents were young in the depression. Then they went through WWII and lack and limitation became a way of life in many ways. In my family we really have never felt comfortable with extravagance. It seems somehow shameful or wrong. I know this is a false belief.

In my family, we’re hard workers. We enjoy working and we enjoy playing too. What I don’t see a lot of is self-nurturing. Yet, that’s something I’ve learned is essential to my awakening to my divinity.

The more I walk this path of awakening, the more clear I am that we don’t have to crucify ourselves, and we don’t have to live deprived of Joy and enjoyment.

Self-nurturing isn’t something we’ve all had lots of great models for.

So, we’re the ones who can learn to be those models.

Self-nuturing is healing and it’s life-sustaining.

There’s a difference between being nurturing with ourselves and indulging our ego.

Self-nurturing can be an important part of our spiritual practice each and every day!

For me, eating healthy food, getting outdoors, taking time to connect with loved ones, enjoying the foods I like the most, are simple nurturing things I do every day in addition to prayer, meditation and a good night’s sleep.

While some spiritual students have a deep aversion to pleasure, due to a fear of be coming addicted to pleasure, that doesn’t mean that pleasure is bad. Let’s just not make it a false idol. Let’s not pursue pleasure for the sake of pleasure because that really is a huge distraction and detour.

We can enjoy the pleasure of stopping to smell the roses and other uplifting pleasures.

The greatest Joy comes from knowing ourselves as God. Since we ARE the Presence of God in our own life, let’s nurture and cherish ourselves into our remembrance of that fact.

Now is the time to leave the aversions behind and to step into the present moment victorious and free! Self-nurturing is caring for the Christ within. That’s something we can all celebrate!

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Racism

Wednesday, April 29th, 2020

I was listening to a news report about what appears to be efforts to have enforced racism in the United States and particularly a report of many things the President has done over the years that indicate he might be racist in his views. As the list, went on I suddenly started to cry which surprised me.

My tears were a sudden empathetic response to how it would feel, and how much energy it would take, to maintain those views. Higher Holy Spirit Self said “God is not a racist.” And I almost laughed. I remembered that everything I see on the screen of life, I have the power to know the truth about. That’s my job. I work for God, Inc.

The very idea that God could be racist is laughable.

It must take a HUGE amount of life-force energy to be ultra religious AND a racist.

There are false constructs, such as racism, sexism, agism, that people agree to.

The antidote is to value the truth and call for the truth to be revealed.

The truth is the same for all beings.
There are no personal versions of the truth.
Truth is constant and truth is healing.

As part of my spiritual practice, rather than be bothered or upset when people are actively perpetuating things that aren’t true, “false facts,” fake media, etc. I don’t put my energy into reacting to it because I cannot believe that it has any real power.

Instead, I call for the truth to be revealed. Heaven make it so!

ALL things work together for our good and there are no exceptions except in the opinion of the ego. This is the teaching of A Course in Miracles. This IS the teaching of Jesus, and I’m with Jesus.

He also said, what you do to the least of them, you do to me. What a beautiful way to teach the unity of all life!

The truth is our liberator, let us call for the truth to be revealed in our heart and our mind and let it ripple out across the mind of all.

Let’s start a tsunami of healing by calling for the truth to be revealed.

This is a mission of the heart.
Spirit will prevail.
Truth is being revealed.

The truth isn’t that someone is right and someone else is wrong, the truth is that we are one and inseparable. All joined in Love, this is the truth. The truth IS being revealed. We allow it and don’t declare that any other thing is occurring. We let it be revealed. Let it be. Let it be. Let it be!

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Self Image

Tuesday, April 28th, 2020

One of the things that’s most emotionally upsetting to us is when our sense of ourselves is threatened. For instance, if we see ourselves as a good and loving person, and something happens that makes it seem as if others think of us as a bad and unloving person, we can really freak out about it.

If we see ourselves as hardworking and someone else sees as lazy it can be very upsetting.

It can also be upsetting, strange as it seems, when we see ourselves as bad and ugly and someone else sees us as good and beautiful.

We get so attached to the image of ourselves that we’ve made.

We don’t even realize that we’ve made a false self that we’re in the process of undoing. And that’s normal, that’s life in this world.

However, now we can focus on cultivating a healthy sense of who we are, and what our TRUE identity is. It’s actually an incredible relief to realize we’re not the bad and ugly person we thought we were.

AND it does take GREAT willingness to see and know the truth and to give up the attachment to the thing that we’ve created – the Frankenstein monster version of ourselves that we both idolize and despise.

It’s such a crazy dichotomy and living inside of it is crazy making – so that’s why being able to open our awareness, expand our view and see with clarity is such a a relief.

We can rise above our false ideas and beliefs.
We can let the past go.
We can live life as free beings.

And it starts with our willingness to actually experience true Freedom.

Consider this – where in your life COULD you choose Freedom, but you don’t, because it would require too much of you. Is it a job? A relationship? An addiction?

We do have to be willing in order to have a healing. That’s why I’ve got this as my topic on my radio show today!

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Stress

Monday, April 27th, 2020

Many people are feeling stressed right now. Some are feeling SUPER stressed, and almost everyone is feeling some kind of tension, so here are some tips to help you eliminate stress.

This is something I talked about in our Sundays With Spirit yesterday:

Eliminate the idea that things are bad. Labeling things bad is really a judgment that just upsets us and doesn’t bring any benefit at all. None.

Labeling things bad will definitely IMMEDIATELY cause you to feel more stressed.

So what’s the benefit?

A Course in Miracles teaches us that everything works together for our good and there are no exceptions, so why label things bad?

We label things bad because that’s the ego-mind pattern for separation. The ego-mind is relentless in its labeling, sorting, and separating.

When we start labeling things bad, deep down, somewhere in our awareness, we know that we’re perpetuating separation thinking and we’re modeling the “benefits” of it for all to see.

It’s so common for spiritual students to label things bad. I was the most prolific labeler! And now, I can tell you that it made me miserable, but I didn’t realize that was the issue. I thought it was things OUTSIDE me that were upsetting me.

Whenever I choose to label things bad it’s going to bother me because there’s no love in labeling things bad.

ACIM Lesson #25: I do not know what ANYTHING is for.

If I don’t know what it’s for, how can I label it bad?

If everything works together for my good, how can I label bad unless I’d like to reject my good?

I’ve had enough of rejecting my good. Enough, I tell you!

So, if we’d REALLY like to reduce our stress, and we’re not just kidding ourselves, we’re going to have to stop labeling things bad.

That’s my story and I’m sticking to it.

May you have a less stressful day!

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Kind

Sunday, April 26th, 2020

I’m a sensitive person. Sometimes I’m so tuned into other people’s feelings that it’s too much for me. I’ve had to pay attention and learn not to get enmeshed with other people’s energy and feelings.

I’ve also learned that when I’m judging other people and their feelings and emotions, I’m just stirring the pot in a way that’s not helpful to anyone.

I’ve had MANY, MANY times when I started to have negative thoughts about people and realized that I was beginning to feel quite critical of them. When I wonder where all the negativity is coming from I’ve realized these aren’t even my thoughts!

I can tune into other people’s thoughts, especially if they’re feelings are also very strong, and I can lose track of what’s mine and what’s theirs. I’ve had to learn the discipline of realizing that while we share the same mind, it’s not helpful to become enmeshed with others.

For me, I always come back to my intention and what’s important to me.

What’s most important to me is to be loving.
I used to need to be right all the time.
It’s not so important anymore.
I’d rather be loving.

What good is being right, if I can’t be loving?

Like the song says: “War! What is it good for? Absolutely nothing!”

I still get triggered into old patterns of upset, but not like I used to. Now, every time there’s an upset, and I do mean EVERY time there’s an upset, I can use it for healing and transformation and that feels good to me.

I am grateful for every morsel of healing.

I ask that you join me in a vow, to the best of our ability, to not intentionally agitate people.

Let’s really make a commitment to being consistently kind.

And if we fail, in that moment of realizing that we failed, let us immediately begin again by being kind to ourselves. That’s Self-Love. When we love ourselves, we’re being helpful to others.

Life is ultra intense for most folks right now. And yet for some it’s calm and peaceful. We’re each having our own unique experience.

Some people are at home by themselves and feeling very isolated and lonely. Others have too many people in their house for comfort and can’t get any space.

Whatever your experience, however it’s going for you, you are most probably sensitive to how many people are feeling upset and traumatized right now. We’re all one with each other, and with so many people grieving, feeling sad and frightened, it’s hard to imagine that there could be anyone on this planet that isn’t noticing a rise in feeling vulnerable and sensitive.

I had to stop watching the news, because even a little bit of listening to the health care workers would have me in tears. I would cry simply because I tuned into the level of intensity they’re experiencing and it’s overwhelming for them. I feel so much empathy and compassion for them I just start crying.

So, if you’re not aware you’re feeling some of that, you may be. In your neighborhood, your apartment building, your family, there are most likely people who are going through a VERY difficult time. Whether we realize it or not, we feel the energy of it.

And, many of us are also up-leveling.

That’s what I feel is happening for myself and for many of the people who are maintaining their spiritual practice now.

When it’s really a tough time, it’s tough because we’re not being loving to ourselves by partnering UP with the Higher Holy Spirit Self.

Now is the time for us to focus on kindness.

Being kind to ourselves, and extending kindness to others is what’s going to help us get through this in a way that we’ll be better for it.

Being kind is a great way to be truly helpful.

Being kind feels like an expression of true Love – and, as Stevie Wonder sang in AS, “true Love asks for nothing.” We don’t need to get anything in return.

When we can be with someone who is upset, critical and attacking and respond with ACTUAL Love, then we’ve taken our power back and we are now helping them to do the same.

Someone who is attacking ANYONE is feeling powerless at the most basic level. Those who are tapped in to the ONLY power there is (Spirit) have no thought of attacking another, they’re only interested in being truly helpful.

Let’s turn to Spirit for our refuge so we can focus on being helpful.

Spirit has been guiding me to some powerful parts of A Course in Miracles in my podcast. This past week’s topic was Healing Hatred, and it was very powerful to look into the self-hatred and the ways we project it out onto others.

I just posted episode #444 of my radio show / podcast – and it seems hard to believe that many episodes since the first one with Gary Renard in 2011. I keep thinking I’ll run out of things to say about it, but it’s endlessly inspiring to me, for which I am SO grateful!

Speaking of gratitude, last Sunday we had our first Sundays With Spirit online Sunday Service and there was SUCH an outpouring of Love and gratitude afterward. How wonderful! We’re doin another service today.

Join me, Jon Mundy, Renee Stahl and more friends. We’ll have a spiritual celebration together and if you can’t join us, you can catch the replay! Because we’re going to be live on video, you’ll have to register to get the details. All are welcome, there’s no charge, but you do have to register.

When you register, you’ll also get easy access to last week’s service with Lisa Natoli and James Twyman.

You can join me in cultivating the willingness that raises us ALL up so we can be truly helpful in this world. Prayer is a power tool, and I am so grateful for having learned the power of it. Every day, part of my spiritual practice is to write inspiration and record a prayer to go with it.

Please share my daily prayer with anyone who would find it supportive.

If you’re interested, this week I’ll be announcing that I’m offering my Prayer Power class again, also I’m going to offer my Stop Playing Small Retreat online. People have asked for these things and I’m pulling it together. Stay tuned!

I look forward to our Sunday gathering today. It means so much that we can join together and love on each other!

May you and your family feel blessed today and every day!

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Eliminating the Pain Patterns

Saturday, April 25th, 2020

Now, more than ever, it’s so important to break the patterns of painful relationships and take a stand for Love. When we’re loving with others, we’re having a healing.

It may seem insane, but when we can Love our brother, we are loving ourselves, because we’re one with them.

One of the pain patterns that many people have is a lot like a see-saw or a pendulum.

For instance, let’s say you have an experience with a loved one where they disappoint you. The first thought you might have is: “they’re bad, wrong, out of integrity, unloving, inexcusable” or some other complaint.

Then, the next thought we have is the pendulum swinging back when we think “I must be bad, wrong, unworthy, unlovable, inappropriate.” What goes around comes around with a slap in the head. Yikes!

First there’s an attack thought, then a lack thought and the mind bounces back and forth between them.

The belief in lack actually proceeds the attack thought, but sometimes we notice the attack thought first before the lack thought. We each have our own unique way of subscribing to this particularly pervasive pattern of dysfunction and suffering.

It doesn’t matter which thought came first.
If we believe in lack, then we’ll feel attacked.
We’ll feel unworthy.
If we feel attacked then we’re justified in attacking back.
If we attack others then we feel guilty and ashamed.
And so it goes, the hamster wheel of misery.

The only thing that matters is HOW TO GET OFF the painful train of thought – get off the pain train.

A willingness to listen to Divine Guidance is the key to getting off the pain train.

It makes the healing SO MUCH faster. It’s beautiful and miraculous how much healing we can have when we’re willing!

Do you feel like you’re not getting guidance about when to let go of the pain train? Judgments block our perception of inspiration, intuition and divine guidance. Interrupt the patterns of pain and you’ll have more clarity about your intuition.

It may take a little while, but it’s worth every effort you can put into it. Now more than ever, let us be at Peace!

Be willing to go first. Sing that great song by Vince Gill

Let there be peace on earth
And let it begin with me
Let There Be Peace on Earth
The peace that was meant to be
With God as our Father
Brothers all are we
Let us walk with each other
In perfect harmony.
Let peace begin with me
Let this be the moment now.
With ev’ry step I take
Let this be my joyous vow
To take each moment and live
Each moment in peace eternally
Let there be peace on earth
And let it begin with me!

When there’s an argument in your home, decide to go first and offer the olive branch of Peace.

Enjoy and savor the moment where you let go of your grievance and choose perfect Love.

You are perfect. Perfect Love!

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True Forgiveness

Friday, April 24th, 2020

Who taught you how to forgive?
What did they teach you?
How did they teach you?

Most of us were taught forgiveness from our family. And many of those who taught us taught us that forgiveness means you’re tired of being upset, and you don’t want to torture yourself anymore, but you’re never going to forget what happened. But that’s not true forgiveness. That’s fantasy forgiveness. And without true forgiveness there’s no way you’ll ever feel free and be able to stop the suffering and move on.
In order to understand what true forgiveness is, it helps to understand what forgiveness is not.

Forgiveness isn’t saying “I forgive” and still holding onto your opinions about what happened the past.

Forgiveness isn’t saying that what happened is okay and you don’t mind that it happened.

Forgiveness isn’t opening yourself to further hurt and betrayal.

Forgiveness isn’t something you can do with your intellect.

Forgiveness isn’t pretending that what happened didn’t hurt, or bother you.

Forgiveness isn’t just keeping calm and carrying on.

And most especially, forgiveness isn’t looking at something devastating and destructive that happened, labeling it bad and horrible and then saying “I forgive.” That’s insanity. It’s false just like the little child who says “I hate you” to his parent, but doesn’t mean it for one second. They’re just upset with what happened, they feel attacked, and their interpretation of what happened (that they were were attacked) justifies their retaliation. That’s the immature, ignorant and painful way of the world.

True forgiveness isn’t labeling something bad and wrong and then saying “I forgive it.”

That’s self-delusion.

When you say “I forgive” and it still bothers you, then you know for sure that you are clinging to your interpretation of what occurred. We cling to our opinions and judgment, our labels of things because we made them. Again, this is what children do. They hold onto something so tightly and they project their interpretation onto every subsequent similar experience.

Like a child who goes to pet a strange dog and the dog snears, barks and frightens them. The child then makes the meaning that dogs are scary, they’re not safe, they can’t be trusted, and they can hurt you.

Here’s what true forgiveness is:

It’s letting go of the meaning you made of what happened.
It’s releasing your attachment to your interpretation of what occurred.
It’s saying that your opinions about the people, events, occurrences and everything related to this experience are not valuable to you anymore.

True forgiveness means I’m willing to say that your opinions and judgments about the past aren’t worth having.

That’s how I get free – by releasing your attachment to the past.

The only way to stop repeating the same thoughts, upsets and experiences is to let go of my mental and emotional attachment to the underlying beliefs that sustain those thoughts, upsets and experiences.

True forgiveness is my decision to make Love a greater priority than my judgments about the past.

It’s letting go of the past. I can’t let go of the meaning I made of the past until I realize that it’s not actually valuable to me.

Let me value what is TRULY valuable and let the past go!

True forgiveness is our liberation!

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Sweetness Amidst the Sorrow

Thursday, April 23rd, 2020

I was self-quarantined for four weeks by myself and this week I’m at my brother’s house with the family. It’s definitely a different dynamic. There are five of us and we’re all in separate rooms most of the day and working or going to school online.

My brother’s family has a new puppy – Bobbi. She’s as cute as it’s possible for a puppy to be.

All the parks are closed here in Montclair, NJ and this whole area, maybe even the whole state, I’m not sure. Yet every day when the weather is nice there are so many people out walking on the street and lots of people are with dogs like we are. Bobbi the puppy wants to play with every dog she meets.

Spring is springing here in the most beautiful ways. And there are amazing and unexpected signs that lift our hearts. Like these rocks that are around where we can see them. Inspiring and so touching. I so completely LOVE that people are shining their spirit and thinking of others in the sweetest ways. I’m hoping to do some “rock messages” myself this weekend!

Our family has been taking family walks when the weather is good.

It’s amazing how many people are out on the streets walking. Yesterday we were out for a walk together and we saw a line of cars forming.

About 20 cars formed a line. Many were decorated with signs and balloons and streamers. They were celebrating the 50th birthday of someone in the neighborhood. They all gathered and then made a procession honking and yelling from their car as the birthday girl stood out on the lawn and received her birthday wishes.

The whole episode made me teary-eyed. I am so moved by how people are learning to shine their light in the time of COVID. It’s quite interesting.

I can feel so strongly the intensity in the world and the sadness that so many people are feeling right now. It’s important that we can focus on ways to lift each other up.

I asked my brother what was the most interesting thing that he’d cooked (he’s the main cook in his household) during the lockdown and he said “hamburger buns.” They wanted to have hamburgers and they didn’t have any buns so he baked some! He’s also been making potato chips.

Cooking for the family, now more than ever is a way to lift each other up and surprise each other.

The other day my niece made sushi!

We’re all branching out, and discovering new ways of doing things. I’ve started to do Sunday services online – it’s a lot of fun and a big hit! We’re calling it Sundays with Spirit.

This weekend you can join me, Jon Mundy, Renee Stahl, and more friends. We’ll have a spiritual celebration together and if you can’t join us, you can catch the replay! Because we’re going to be live on video, you’ll have to register to get the details. All are welcome, there’s no charge.

When we did the service last Sunday with Lisa Natoli (you can watch the replay if you register for this week), I asked who was sheltering at home all by themselves and about half of the 350 people said they were on their own. WOW!

I know that many people are beginning to feel a bit buggy after all this time alone. And that’s one of the reasons that our Power of Love Ministry is getting ready to start live-streaming our prayer sessions on Facebook. We are developing a powerful prayer ministry during this time and we’re getting ready to share it beyond just our community.

Prayer is a power tool beyond what we can even imagine, but it’s not the begging, beseeching prayers that most people are familiar with, that’s not the power tool I’m talking about.

I’m a Science of Mind trained RScP Practitioner for 20 years. My license is from the Agape International Spiritual Center. I learned to pray in a way that is truly healing and I am so grateful for the power of prayer in my life. I’ve experienced profound and miraculous healing through prayer.

Every day, part of my spiritual practice is to write inspiration and record a prayer to go with it. I’ve been doing that for about 13 years. You can join me in cultivating the willingness that raises us ALL up so we can be truly helpful in this world.

You can get the podcast of my daily prayers and/or find them on YouTube.

Having trouble sleeping?
There are now 444 episodes of my radio show on podcast. And some people listen to me as they fall asleep. I don’t take it personally when folks tell me I put them to sleep. I’m glad my voice can be soothing. You can subscribe to my podcast and have that as a resource. Maybe I can help you fall asleep. I’d be happy to!

This week my topic in the podcast is Healing Hatred. Many people have self-hatred they project outwards. Some turn it inwards. I really loved this week’s episode – I always learn and grow through listening to what Spirit has me share. We can have SO MUCH healing in our minds – it blows me away again and again! I used to feel intense hatred at times and I still feel bursts of anger that are intense. I’m so grateful for the healing I’ve had and I am calling forth EVEN MORE!

I look forward to our Sunday gathering. It means so much that we can join together and love on each other!

May you and your family feel blessed today and every day!

Here’s my nephew Mikey having morning snuggles with his new puppy. Two cuties who make the world a better place. So sweet!

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Unblock the Flow of Love

Wednesday, April 22nd, 2020

It can be hard to imagine that changing one habit could transform your whole life, but I’m definitely living proof that it’s true. For me, the one habit that I changed that shifted my whole life was letting go of the habit of judging. I have had to really work at it. And I still work at it every day.

Each and every day, judgments and opinions come up that I see are blocking the flow of Love in my life.

I was grateful that I FINALLY saw that I was looking outside myself for ways to open up the flow of good, while simultaneously blocking it time after time.

It was my Homer Simpson moment – Doh!!

Rather than berate myself for not realizing what I didn’t realize, I was willing to just be grateful that I did finally realize my error and move on.

You see, I’ve been a very dedicate grudge holder in my life and so being able to move on is a MAJOR healing for me. Now, I can move on quite quickly and I’m SO, SO grateful for that. I invested so much of my precious life-energy in holding onto grievances. This is why Lesson #68 in the ACIM workbook is so valuable to me: Love holds no grievances.

When I think of Lesson 68 I say: Love holds no grievances, nor do I.

Can you think of something you did in the past that you now realize was an error in thinking and that you still berate yourself for?

If so, how much of your energy do you you feel that you’ve invested in that?

Would you be willing to forgive yourself, drop the judgment and move on?

It’s SO worth it to let these grievances go.

We do it by handing them over to Spirit.

It can help to have a God Jar on your altar where you can write these things down and physically place them in your God Jar and then let them go.

If you don’t have a God Jar or God Box on your altar, it’s easy enough to find something that will serve. If you don’t have an altar, that’s easy to.

Take a nice cloth, cover a table or a shelf, add a white candle, maybe a picture of a beloved teacher like Jesus or a statue of an angel, add your God Jar and you’re good to go.

Finding simple rituals to release the grievances and rely upon Spirit has changed my life and my feelings about myself and my life. I encourage you to go for it!

If you’ve been doing this already, let us know your results in the chat below! Thank you!

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Healing the Hatred

Tuesday, April 21st, 2020

Really and truly, all hatred that people feel towards others is self-hatred projected outwards. Please note how often, in this world, people seem to love each other so intensely and then they feel betrayed in some way and it flips to hatred.

That’s the essence of the special relationship in our lives. It’s like an malicious vermin, eating at us from the inside, devouring all chance of happiness.

Fortunately, we don’t have to have special relationships of any kind.

We don’t have to have special love relationships.

We don’t have to have special hate relationships.

We can have holy relationships.

The key is this: we give without needing anything in return.

To have a holy relationship we must be willing to stop all manipulation, all need to control. We must be willing to love because we love loving.

We love because it’s our nature.

We don’t need recognition or appreciation, because the opportunity to express our love and have it received is gift enough.

True love asks for nothing and is always satisfied.

Love is not an illusion. It is a fact. Where disillusionment is possible, there was not love but hate. For hate is an illusion, and what can change was never love.A Course in Miracles, T-16.IV.4.

This is the same as what Shakespeare wrote in his Sonnet 116, “Love is not love which alters when it alteration finds, nor bends with the remover to remove. It is an ever-fixed mark and looks upon tempests and is not shaken.

I love that Sonnet. It is an ode to unconditional love and the steadfastness of it.

Love is not an illusion.

It is a fact.

If we can change our mind about someone and decide they are no longer worth loving then we must admit we never did love in the first place, because love is not love which changes when the conditions change.

Hatred, on the other hand, can instantaneously dissolve and resolve because it is 100% conditional. Hence, hatred can be healed. It can be fully and miraculously healed. And that is our Father-Mother God’s business, and so it is our business.

Our business is to fully love now and always and to release the idea of hate completely.

I don’t like to say something like “I hate being late.” I’d rather not speak of myself hating anything even when I intensely dislike it.

I’d rather focus on Love and being loving.

As it has been said so wisely about so many things, I will now say about hatred and hating:

“Aint nobody got time for that.”

NOW is the time for Love!

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Lonely

Monday, April 20th, 2020

Yesterday’s Sunday with Spirit service was a hit! Thank you to all who attended and let me know that you enjoyed it. I thoroughly enjoyed it.

One of the things I asked the group about was to find out who was sheltering at home alone and we had a huge number of people who said yes to that. I’ve been home alone for a month and I’ve had so much extra work and extra classes as well as extra meetings that I have felt like I’m with people much of the time.

Lots of people are lonely in the best of times, but now there are lots of folks who are really challenged to manage by themselves. It’s one of the things we talked about yesterday.

Whether we’re living alone or not, it’s so valuable to always remember that we’re with Spirit.

In A Course in Miracles, Jesus reminds us that while we can feel alone and lonely, it’s not possible for us to actually BE alone. Only in our imagination can we be alone.

We FEEL alone when we separate ourselves from Spirit. That’s how it is.

As long as you perceive the body as your reality, so long will you perceive yourself as lonely and deprived.” T-15.XI.5.

It’s our choice. It may not seem like it, but it is our choice.

If you feel alone, invite Spirit to show you that your not.

Ask for a sign. Ask the angels to come and play with you. If we’re willing to be shown a new perspective, we will be.

Pain is a wrong perspective.

The angels love to show us something real, and something beautiful. They are SUCH good company!

Our willingness is ALL that’s required. Just that, and nothing else.

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Living in the Light of Truth

Sunday, April 19th, 2020

A Course in Miracles tells us that we cannot judge and still hope to learn. Our judgments actually block our learning. If we’re not learning then we’re doomed to keep suffering through the same experiences.

Right now, with so many of us self-quarantined or working under stressful conditions, it becomes even more apparent where we’re repeating the same painful experiences, and we can change that. Now.

If repeating the same painful experiences isn’t a motivation to give up judgement, I don’t know what is! Wowzer! It certainly has been a strong motivator for me.

It makes sense when you think about it. If we prefer to think we know what everything is for, are we open to any insights or learning?

No, we’re not, because we think we already know whatever is worth knowing. How can we be open to insight when we’ve already made up our mind what everything is for?

Maybe you’re like me and you’ve had the experience of repeating the same errors, the same unkindness, the same self-attack, again and again, like a hamster on a wheel. My repeating painful experiences seemed to “prove” to me that I wasn’t very smart, that I wasn’t really learning anything from all my spiritual studies.

I really did FEEL like a spiritual loser, yet nothing could be further from the truth.

My experience didn’t prove my beliefs were correct. Not at all.

In fact, my experience was simply proving to me that my beliefs are made manifest as my experience.

It is done unto me as I believe.

This was so important for me to understand – not intellectually, but in my heart, in my gut. It was life changing to really GET that.

Our unhappy experiences prove that we believe our false beliefs – the truth will set us free from repeating these unhappy experiences.

And forgiveness allows us to remember the truth.

In New Thought we say, “change your thinking, change your life.” And we talk about letting go of “false beliefs.”

Let’s be clear, and let’s not just talk.
Talking about healing isn’t the same as doing it.
Intending to be loving without following through is meaningless.

Talk is cheap.
REALLY working with your mind is rigorous. It’s relentless. It’s intense.

My willingness to really choose healing and not just talk about it came from my suffering.

My willingness to heal, opened my mind to where I was blocking the healing, not because I was a failure, but because I was failing to choose truth and Love and Light.

I’ve discovered that it’s more helpful to realize that ALL beliefs are false and truth is true.

How do you know the difference between a belief and a truth?

All beliefs are conditional.
Truth is true for everyone all the time.

Beliefs are constantly shifting and changing, like the sinking sands.
Like God itself, Truth is unchanging – it’s the rock we can safely build our house upon.

I encourage us all to look around our life and see where we might have been misled into thinking that our experiences are proving our beliefs, when, in fact, our experience is just proving the existence of our belief.

When we rid ourselves of the belief – we rid ourselves of the experience. Free at last!

Many, many times I’ve spoken with people who felt helpless and hopeless in their relationships. When they become willing to change their minds and actually make the effort, they experience miracles. It really works!

It’s so important to be willing to prove Spirit works because it does!

How do we rid ourselves of the false beliefs?
It’s actually incredibly simple, when we’re willing to make a change.
If we’re not willing to make a change then we just keep revisiting the same painful lessons.
We cannot judge and hope to learn.

To release the false beliefs, opinions and judgments we offer them to the Higher Holy Spirit Self for healing. We don’t have to figure out HOW to have a healing we simply ALLOW.

Sometimes we might have to release, let go and let God, 1000 or more times if we have a strong attachment to a belief. But if we do it a few times a day, then we’re sure to let it go before too long – ANYTHING is better than struggling with the same painful belief for years and decades and feeling like a failure most of the time.

NOW is the time for us to rise and shine and throw off these meaningless burdens of false beliefs! We have an important mission to be truly helpful to help all beings liberate from false beliefs. We are perfectly designed for this undoing.

NOW is the time for us to get to WORK.

I talk with so many light workers who have a strong desire to shine their light, and the main thing standing in their way is that they believe they’re not worthy because they haven’t completely healed their life yet.

People think they can’t be helpful to another because they’ve still got major challenges, but that’s not true. That’s a false belief. I’ve learned that Spirit will lead and guide to me those I can assist. My job is to be helpful, not to judge my worthiness or anyone else’s!

So many light workers are waiting for something magical to happen in order to feel qualified. We’re already pre-qualified. Why would Spirit direct someone to us that we’re not able to support? That would make God dysfunctional and that’s not even possible.

I’ve found that healing is usually MUCH easier than we might think if we’re willing to work at the level of the mind. No matter what the issue is, something miraculous can be revealed.

Our willingness to Partner UP with the Higher Holy Spirit Self to do the heavy lifting is the thing that works. I know, I’ve proved it and I’ve worked with thousands who have done the same. Let’s be willing to have a healing NOW!

I like to celebrate Spirit with friends and so this Sunday I’m starting live-stream Sunday services – open to all. Join me, Lisa Natoli, Jimmy Twyman and more friends. We’ll have a spiritual celebration together and if you can’t join us, you can catch the replay! Because we’re going to be live on video, you’ll have to register to get the details. All are welcome, there’s no charge.

Every day, part of my spiritual practice is to write inspiration and record a prayer to go with it. You can join me in cultivating the willingness that raises us ALL up so we can be truly helpful in this world. Please share my daily prayer with anyone who would find it helpful.

I look forward to our Sunday gathering. It means so much that we can join together and love on each other!

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Raising Our Vibration

Saturday, April 18th, 2020

I keep hearing from people who live alone that this quarantine time is really challenging. I can understand that. Especially if you’re not employed and working from home. And even more so if you’re health means that you feel it’s not safe for you to do things like go to the store, or go for a walk with a friend even with social distancing. I get it.

One of the things I’ve been thinking about this week, and talking about in classes, is the tendency we sometimes have to gravitate to the melancholy. I can remember when I used to like to listen to sad songs and feel sad, watch sad movies and think sad thoughts.

I used to like to feel sorry for myself and angry at the world.

I used to be a world-class complainer.

I could listen to sad songs for hours and sing along and listen to them all over again and sing along all over again, amplifying that low vibration and feeling so self-important at the same time.

For me, it was specialness.
My pain made me special.
Or so I thought.

A huge shift in my life happened when I began to focus on extending thoughts of Love and compassion to replace my focus on feeling like a victim, and the judgments I had about myself and others.

Eliminating judgments gave me a chance to focus on higher vibrational thoughts.

Now, when I hear one of those sad songs, without even thinking about it, I change the channel. I’m not a match for it anymore.

Happiness is a choice. It’s not a result of circumstances. It’s a result of choosing happiness.

It’s not possible to choose sad songs and angry tv shows while also extending compassion and Love.

We must choose one or the other.

If we’re watching things on television that bring us down and leave us feeling depleted, it’s time to turn off the TV and see what we can do to be helpful.

If we tell Spirit we’d rather be helpful, Spirit will lead, guide and direct us.

Our willingness is required.

I love that John Krasinski decided to start making these SOME GOOD NEWS videos and publishing them, just because he could. Here’s the first one for you to enjoy!

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The Strongest Hearts

Friday, April 17th, 2020

Peace to you, my friend! I’ve been in quarantine by myself now for over a month. I have much more work than normal offering extra support during this time and strengthening our community with additional offerings. I have no complaints.

In breaks, I like to catch up a bit while cooking and I watch youtube videos of the late-night hosts doing their shows from their homes. They have a lot of jokes about how they’ve seen everything on Netflix and are bored.

I get it. They’re used to commuting and having meetings all day long and getting dressed in hair and make-up, having rehearsals and all kinds of activities that they don’t have while doing the show from home.

Spiritual students who have the luxury to quarantine at home or who are forced to quarantine, have been laid off or fired due to the virus are having a different experience.

This is the time that we were born for and have been preparing for our entire lives. This is a time when we can do more spiritual practice and focus on being truly helpful in our community.

Now, more than ever, our brothers and sisters are turning to us for support.

It’s time for us to strengthen our hearts.

I was sharing in class yesterday that, at the beginning of this pandemic, I was watching an hour or so of news a day, while cooking and doing things around the house. I was learning about the whole virus situation, just like everyone else.

Now, I don’t feel a need to focus on virus news. I can read a few tweets, check the headlines in a few papers and that’ll do me.

My job is to be at Peace, and to know that, despite ALL appearances, everything is working together for our good. More people are becoming more compassionate than ever. They’re opening their hearts to those who are in service, and those who have lost loved ones.

Just think, each day in NYC, at 7pm, the entire city applauds their health care workers and those in service to help them get through this incredibly difficult time. I lived in New York for 10 years and people used to say that New Yorkers are tough, and they are. They are resilient. They are strong and they are also loving and appreciative.

The toughest people on earth are the ones with the biggest hearts. Or so it seems to me.

One of the things that helps us navigate this intensity is to be able to feel our feelings and let them pass on through. Rather than deny them or subvert them, we can learn to feel our feelings. That does take strength and courage. It also builds strength, courage and compassion that we can share with others.

When we have the capacity to honor our own feelings without drowning in them, then we can support others who are going through a tough time and not fear their emotional outbursts.

Many people are grieving now, and suddenly. There is the obvious grief for the loss of life, but many are grieving the loss of their lifestyle, their job, their plans for the future and a myriad of things that they’d thought would be theirs.

Think of the weddings delayed.
Think of the families with new babies that no one can come visit.

Having offered grief support to many people for decades, one thing I know is that many, MANY people don’t know how to handle grief, and they definitely aren’t very good at handling the grief of other people.

Many of the folks I’ve talked to have been intensely wounded by the thoughtless things people have said to them. People don’t have an intention to be unkind or disrespectful, they just don’t understand what the grieving person is going through.

One of the most intense things I’ve ever heard said to someone grieving was said to an 84 year old woman who had recently lost her husband of more than 60 years. After only a few months into her widowhood, some of her closest friends were telling her she had to “get over it.” I was shocked.

Of course, this woman’s friends didn’t wish to hurt her feelings or disrespect her. Not at all, they just wanted her to be happy again and move on.

When our loved ones pass away, we aren’t going to get over it.

And we’re not going to move on.

Those things aren’t ever going to happen.
They are unrealistic expectations.

When someone loses a child, a parent or a spouse, a dear friend, even a beloved dog, please don’t ever say anything about getting over it or moving on.

To the person who is grieving, it’s worse than saying to someone who just had both their arms amputated, “you have to get over it.” They’re not going to EVER get over it. What they WILL do is learn to live with it, but until that day comes, they’re going to grieve and that will include being in denial, being angry, and feeling like they wish they could just die too. These feelings are normal.

Even our most extreme feelings are often perfectly normal.

Please don’t tell people to get over it or move on.

And, when people tell YOU those things, just bless them. You may want to smack them or shake them, but they don’t know what they’re talking about. They are ignorant. Not stupid, just ignorant.

If they knew what they were talking about they would just be quiet, and say something like, “I’m so sorry for your loss. I can’t even imagine what you’re going through. This must be so hard for you. That is so rough. I don’t know how you can handle it.”

You really don’t need to say any more than that.

Sometimes it can be helpful to say, “I know you’ll get through this. It’s very intense, and I’m here to support you.” But no one really NEEDS to hear that.

Initially, it’s not a good idea to ask people how you can help them. I know that seems counter intuitive. But if they have to figure out how you can help them it just becomes more work for them. If you ask them how you can help, now they have one more thing to do. Now they have to help YOU.

Instead, just start helping.
That’s why people bring food.

Bring food that can be put in the freezer.
Cut their lawn.
Walk their dog.
Take out their trash, bring their cans to the curb, put them back.
Water the lawn.
Clean the kitchen.
Do the laundry.

Offer to wash their car, gas up their car, drive them places and don’t take no for an answer.

Do whatever you can do. Take care of their recycling.

Just do stuff. Everyone can use help. Especially now.

And let’s remember that our hearts, like our bones, can actually be stronger for having gone through the challenges.

We live to Love another day and with more compassion than ever.

I like to celebrate Spirit with friends and so this Sunday I’m starting live-stream Sunday services – open to all. Join me, Lisa Natoli, Jimmy Twyman and more friends. We’ll have a spiritual celebration together and if you can’t join us, you can catch the replay! Because we’re going to be live on video, you’ll have to register to get the details. All are welcome, there’s no charge.

Every day, part of my spiritual practice is to write inspiration and record a prayer to go with it. You can join me in cultivating the willingness that raises us ALL up so we can be truly helpful in this world. Please share my daily prayer with anyone who would find it helpful.

If you’d like extra support, you can subscribe to “My Daily Shot of Spiritual Espresso” if you haven’t already.

You can also get the podcast of my daily prayers and/or find them at YouTube.

Having trouble sleeping?

There are more than 444 episodes of my radio show on podcast. And some people listen to me as they fall asleep. I don’t take it personally when folks tell me I put them to sleep. I’m glad my voice can be soothing. You can subscribe to my podcast and have that as a resource. Maybe I can help you fall asleep.

All of this is free.

I look forward to our Sunday gathering. It means so much that we can join together and love on each other!

May you and your family feel blessed today and every day!

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Blessing

Thursday, April 16th, 2020

One of the most helpful lessons I’ve ever learned is that when I don’t feel good, it’s an opportunity to let off a thought, belief or idea that no longer serves me. Good riddance, I say!

It used to be that if I felt down about something or hurt or upset in some way I’d feel like something was wrong. Often, I’d feel that something was wrong with ME and that’s why I was upset.

I’d get so weighted down by a belief that there was something wrong with me and I’d spiral into a place of unhappiness and upset and avoidance. That doesn’t happen to me anymore. In fact, I can’t recall that last time I felt that way.

And here’s why: I started taking those upsets as an opportunity to have a healing and transformation.

Instead of a curse, they’re a blessing.

BUT, we do have to choose the healing in order to experience the greatest blessing. If we don’t choose healing, then the upset is just another bit of pain pushing us to choose healing.

The more we choose to extend Love and be loving, the less interested in pain we’ll be.

The more healing we have, the more happiness we have.

We are no longer a vibrational match for the pain.
The patterns of upset dissolve and we live life without them.

Extending Love and being loving is selfless.
There’s no expectation of getting ANYTHING in return, not even a smile or a thank you.

Anyone who’s feeling resentful because they believe they’re not getting the appreciation they deserve, is just manipulating people to give them something in return for their gift.

That’s not really a gift is it?

Now’s a great time for us to become great givers, and also great receivers of Love.

It’s also a great time to quit addictive tendencies.

Cravings are a cry for healing as well.

To get the healing we desire, we partner UP with the Higher Holy Spirit Self, affirm our willingness and welcome the healing. It might not be fun, but it’s definitely productive!

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Getting Ahead

Wednesday, April 15th, 2020

I don’t know about you, but I’m getting inspiration forwarded to me from people all day long. One of the things I really love came from my friend Renee Stahl forwarded me something forwarded to her. This is a note passed along by a preschool director. I’d love to attribute it to the person who wrote it, but I don’t know who that was as it’s been forwarded a few times.

I feel this message is a beautiful reminder for all of us.

“Schools have been out for weeks and if they go back May 4, they would be out for over seven weeks. If they cancel the rest of the school year, students would miss 2.5 months of education.

Many people are concerned about students falling behind because of this.

Yes, they may fall behind when it comes to classroom education…

But what if…

What if instead of falling “behind”, this group of kids are ADVANCED because of this?

What if they have more empathy, they enjoy family connection, they can be more creative and entertain themselves, they love to read, they love to express themselves in writing?

What if they enjoy the simple things, like their own backyard and sitting near a window in the quiet?

What if they notice the birds and the dates the different flowers emerge, and the calming renewal of a gentle rain shower?

What if this generation are the ones to learn to cook, organize their space, do their laundry, and keep a well run home?

What if they learn to stretch a dollar and to live with less? Economic education that is so lacking in the US.

What if they learn to plan shopping trips and meals at home.

What if they learn the value of eating together as a family and finding the good to share in the small delights of the everyday?

What if they are the ones to place great value on our teachers and educational professionals, librarians, public servants and the previously invisible essential support workers like truck drivers, grocers, cashiers, custodians, logistics, and health care workers and their supporting staff.

What if among these children, a great leader emerges who had the benefit of a slower pace and a simpler life to truly learn what really matters in this life?

What if they are, in reality, AHEAD?”

Please share your thoughts in the comments below!

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When We Feel Threatened

Tuesday, April 14th, 2020

When we feel threatened, our faith and trust is in our own discernment as well as in our own ability to defend and protect ourselves. When that happens, our faith is misplaced.

We can dread feeling fear. We can dislike feeling fear. We can medicate or distract ourselves so that we don’t feel the fear, but that would be just another way of affirming that our perspective, and our opinions are correct when they are not.

If what we believed was actually true, we’d be at Peace.

The very fact that we’re experiencing fear is the indicator that we’re not in our right mind. When fear is felt, it’s like a “Divine Alarm Clock” going off to let us know that we are misperceiving. Fear is the indicator that we’re believing something that’s not true, it’s our wake-up call, and our reminder to choose truth.

Truth is our liberator. Fear is the indicator that we can have a healing, right now, in this moment of fear, we can choose liberation from our false beliefs, and from illusions and delusions, if we’re willing.

Fear is the pain pushing us to choose healing. We don’t have to figure out HOW to have a healing. Our job is simply to Partner UP with Spirit and call for that healing. Our job is to ALLOW.

If we don’t choose healing, another opportunity will come.

If we love ourselves we’ll choose healing now without delay.

We can learn through pain or through Joy. Love or fear. Peace or pain.

Self-Love or self-torture.

Will we let go of we judgments and beliefs in order to have a healing and be at Peace, or will we manage and cope with the fear? This is the choice we’re offered. Circumstances don’t determine how we feel, our perspective does. The truly loving choice always brings relief of fear.

Fear has no power. Love is the only power.

I choose Love. I choose liberation today.

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Spiritual Progress

Monday, April 13th, 2020

One of the most valuable things I’ve learned on this spiritual path is how to breathe and stay calm. I used to be very hot-headed. I used to go from zero to sixty in anger and annoyance and it really kept me spinning around in repeating the same lessons.

It took me quite a while to realize that I was repeatedly being offered an opportunity to transcend and transmute my mental patterns (karma) and I was failing. Instead, I was digging in deeper and responding with more upset and intensity. I wasn’t learning, I wasn’t growing, I was (temporarily) stuck in a mud puddle of my own making.

I didn’t realize that the constantly repeating experience, my own personal Groundhog Day, was a blessing only intended for my good.

It was SUCH a great lesson to finally get the power of being kind, patient, present and calm NO MATTER WHAT. Now, I rarely become upset, and when I do, I recognize that I have the option to make that U-turn, go the other way, and calm down.

Out of Self-Love, I’ve learned to do just that.

I can say now, that being patient is a profoundly powerful spiritual practice available to all.

It may not be easy sometimes, but that’s only because we don’t realize the benefit of it. If we knew, we’d be so happy to make the winning choice.

Being calm no matter what is to stay open and receptive to blessings.

To be angry and upset and vengeful is to feel completely cut off from the blessings.

Which will YOU choose next time you’re upset?

We can boost our spiritual progress or we can delay it.

It’s our choice. It’s always our choice.

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