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Real Willingness

Wednesday, December 4th, 2019

It’s exciting! In Masterful Living this week we’ve been talking about how we’ve had breakthroughs with our families over the holidays. Well, that’s not quite accurate. We’ve had breakthroughs in our thinking this year, and that’s led to the shifts and changes we’re seeing in our lives, in our families, in our bodies, and our finances.

What we’ve been talking about this week is that we can see that, because we have changed our energy, our vibration, our thinking and beliefs, the people around us are making different choices. It’s absolute proof that our choices make a BIG difference in the lives of others because our minds are joined.

This is powerful stuff!

SO MANY people I’ve spoken to in Masterful Living over the last 11 years have told me that they never thought it would work for them. They believed these spiritual practices and the healing they bring would work for others but not for them. And yet, if they’re willing, it does work for them. Because Spirit never fails.

When we put Spirit in charge, we can succeed.

Many times we think we have to change other people’s minds and make them understand something so that they’ll shift and change, but that’s not how it works. When we can hold folks in our lives with the higher and best thoughts, and then be the living demonstration of Peace, of Love, they will have healing, too.

A Course in Miracles says it this way: Seek not to change the world, but choose to change your mind about the world.

It takes ACTUAL willingness to actively choose change your mind about the world.

Many people SAY they’re willing, but when the moment comes for them to demonstrate their willingness they don’t even realize it. They’re not THAT interested in changing their mind and so they miss the opportunity. That was me.

We can say we’re willing, but that’s not willingness.

I so admire the beautiful folks who join us in Masterful Living. They are the living demonstrations of willingness and their lives demonstrate their actual willingness.

To experience miracles we must be miracle-minded.
To be miracle-minded, we must be willing to choose differently.
Willingness is not words, it’s choices.
Never forget that and you’ll see the difference in your life.
We are real people experiencing real miracles.

How was your Thanksgiving?
Did you see miraculous shifts and changes in your family, and relations?
Please share in the comments below and let me know!

Would you like to learn to have real trust and faith in the Spirit? If you feel inspired to join me, we’ll do it together! My “Undoing Unworthiness” class is this week, and the Masterful Living Course 2020 starts with a bonus class in 30 days on January 1st. It’s one of my favorite classes all year!

28 Days to January 1st – I share what I learned that shifted me out of my habits of spinning around in the same repeating upsets in my Masterful Living Course 2020. Registration is open NOW. I encourage you to commit now so that you have that to look forward to. At no charge, you can also book an Exploratory Call to speak with one of the Spiritual Counselors who has already done the program and they can help you be clear if this is right for you right now.

Click here now to book a free Exploratory Call about Masterful Living 2020.

NEW Class THIS WEEK: Undoing Unworthiness! Stop Self-Attack NOW! A belief in unworthiness and a habit of self-attack undermines your happiness every moment of every day.

With the work we’ll do in this class, you can end your year feeling spiritually successful and start your new year ready to have the best year ever. This is the perfect time to do this. Click here now to learn more.

A 3-part live video online class to support you in having a breakthrough and learning the REAL benefits of life when you feel worthy of Love, Abundance and ALL the good life has to offer.

What could be more important than your happiness?

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Outsider – When You Feel Like You Don’t Belong

Tuesday, December 3rd, 2019

You might be surprised to learn that most spiritual students feel like an outsider. Think of it: all these people who are connected in spiritual community and yet they still feel like an outsider.

At the A Course in Miracles conference this year in Boston, I offered an afternoon workshop about starting a Study Group that was SO powerful. Many there shared that they really desired to start an ACIM Study Group, but they were afraid for people they knew to know what they were up to. In that experience, in that life, there’s a sense of not belonging and being different. It’s a projection of our sense of separation.

For a long time I felt that I didn’t belong in so many different ways.

I remember when I was a kid that I started school earlier than some – my birthday is at the end of November, and so I started school early – and I wasn’t really as mature as the other kids. I’m not complaining, but I do sense that I felt different.

Then, as I got older, there was talk of me skipping a grade but my parents didn’t do it because I was already younger than others in the class. The reason for me skipping a grade is that they knew I was bored. The compromise was for me to do extra book reports.

I know that in junior high school I was really beginning to feel like I didn’t fit in, but I managed to find my crowd of misfits to feel comfortable enough. In high school I was with a different group of misfits, and at least we were all misfits and so that made us fit together.

For my teens and twenties, I particularly felt that I didn’t belong but I made the best of it. The main thing I felt was that I didn’t belong on this Earth. As my mind began to clear as a result of my spiritual practice, I went through another period of feeling that I just didn’t fit into this existence – that there was another dimension where I was supposed to be and where I’d feel comfortable.

There are many of us who are here to help lead humanity into the next Golden Age of Enlightenment. We’re in this in-between the ages stage. The Piscean Age isn’t quite finished and the Aquarian Age is just getting started. We’re here to help be the bridge to the Golden Age of Enlightenment.

Think of a bridge – it is a structure between two places – and that’s what we are – a bridge between worlds.

I also had NO idea that support was the key to friendship.

So, let’s have it be okay that we don’t belong to the ego structures of this world – we belong to Spirit. We belong to the Light and that’s an absolutely wonderful thing to realize!

Do you feel like you don’t belong? Please share in the comments below and let me know!

Would you like to learn to have real trust and faith in the Spirit? If you feel inspired to join me, we’ll do it together! My “Undoing Unworthiness” class is this week, and the Masterful Living Course 2020 starts with a bonus class in 30 days on January 1st. It’s one of my favorite classes all year!

29 Days to January 1st – I share what I learned that shifted me out of my habits of spinning around in the same repeating upsets in my Masterful Living Course 2020. Registration is open NOW. I encourage you to commit now so that you have that to look forward to. At no charge, you can also book an Exploratory Call to speak with one of the Spiritual Counselors who has already done the program and they can help you be clear if this is right for you right now.

Click here now to book a free Exploratory Call about Masterful Living 2020.

NEW Class THIS WEEK: Undoing Unworthiness! Stop Self-Attack NOW! A belief in unworthiness and a habit of self-attack undermines your happiness every moment of every day.

With the work we’ll do in this class, you can end your year feeling spiritually successful and start your new year ready to have the best year ever. This is the perfect time to do this. Click here now to learn more.

A 3-part live video online class to support you in having a breakthrough and learning the REAL benefits of life when you feel worthy of Love, Abundance and ALL the good life has to offer.

What could be more important than your happiness?

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Holy Friendships

Monday, December 2nd, 2019

I’ve been blessed to share my birthday and Thanksgiving with some very dear friends I’ve known for decades and we have a good time together! There’s no fighting, no annoyances, no problems, only the pleasure of each other’s company.

What’s the secret to our friendship success?

We support each other. We actively love and support each other.

There’s no competition because there’s only love and support.

There’s no criticism because we’re focused on Love and support.It doesn’t matter that we don’t 100% agree on everything.

I used to have friends that I felt obligated to be with and to stay in touch with. I don’t have those kinds of friendships anymore. I used to organize my friendships by a set of ideas that I thought were what I should do instead of what I felt like doing.

I’m so glad I got the ego out of my friendships and put Spirit in charge!

We can have holy relationships in all of our relationships if we’re willing. I only wish that someone had told me that a very long time ago!

I also had NO idea that support was the key to friendship.

I really used to think it was more about spending time together and shared interests, but it doesn’t have to be that at all.

Another aspect of successful friendship is being able to RECEIVE support. And that does involve trust.

In my Masterful Living Course, I have the great privilege of meeting 1-on-1 with the participants, and the majority of them tell me that trust is a major issue. Anyone who has studied A Course in Miracles knows that trust is the number one characteristic of God’s Teachers. Trust is required. Trust builds faith.

It’s not so much that we trust each other – we trust Spirit IN each other.

When we decide to love and cherish the people in our lives, then the holy relationship emerges and that’s healing to everyone, most particularly those in that relationship and others nearby. Each holy relationship is a demonstration of God’s Love, and that’s healing to us all.

When we request the holy relationship, the Higher Holy Spirit Self will provide the means for us to attain it and only our willingness to BE in it is required. We cannot have a holy relationship without a willingness to offer Love and support, and life with relationships in which we’re not willing to give and receive Love and support is a life of suffering.

Being in the flow of Love and support is what we’re designed for.We are designed to be the perfect givers and receivers of Love, and that’s what friends are for.

Would you like to learn to have real trust and faith in the Spirit? If you feel inspired to join me, we’ll do it together! My “Undoing Unworthiness” class is this week, and the Masterful Living Course 2020 starts with a bonus class in 30 days on January 1st. It’s one of my favorite classes all year!

30 Days to January 1st – I share what I learned that shifted me out of my habits of spinning around in the same repeating upsets in my Masterful Living Course 2020. Registration is open NOW. I encourage you to commit now so that you have that to look forward to. At no charge, you can also book an Exploratory Call to speak with one of the Spiritual Counselors who has already done the program and they can help you be clear if this is right for you right now.

Click here now to book a free Exploratory Call about Masterful Living 2020.

NEW Class THIS WEEK: Undoing Unworthiness! Stop Self-Attack NOW! A belief in unworthiness and a habit of self-attack undermines your happiness every moment of every day.

With the work we’ll do in this class, you can end your year feeling spiritually successful and start your new year ready to have the best year ever. This is the perfect time to do this. Click here now to learn more.

A 3-part live video online class to support you in having a breakthrough and learning the REAL benefits of life when you feel worthy of Love, Abundance and ALL the good life has to offer.

What could be more important than your happiness?

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Family Forgiveness & Relationship Healing

Sunday, November 10th, 2019

For me, the hardest thing to let go of was the thing I made. It was the image of myself as being less than lovable. It’s so crazy that, in this world, the things we cling to the very most are the things that are

A. Not true
B. Painful

How dang crazy is that?

Yet, I’ve seen there’s a method to the madness of it!

In A Course in Miracles, the Manual for Teachers it talks about the development of trust is a process we must all go through in order to release from suffering.

First, they must go through what might be called ‘a period of undoing.’ This need not be painful, but it usually is so experienced. It seems as if things are being taken away, and it is rarely understood initially that their lack of value is merely being recognized. How can lack of value be perceived unless the perceiver is in a position where he must see things in a different light?

One of the hardest things for me to give up was all the painful patterns in my family relationships and most intimate relationships – these were also the things that bothered me the most.

I loathed repeating the same arguments, but I couldn’t seem to stop it.
I despaired over the same hurts and upsets, but I didn’t know how to rise above it.
I was crushed and demoralized by the same meltdowns, again and again, but I was convinced it was all happening TO me instead of by me.

I wasn’t willing to make the changes necessary to have healing. I lived that way for a VERY long time.

And now that I’ve learned how forgiveness works to heal ALL of it, I have to share every day of my life because it’s so freakin’ valuable!

If we don’t give up the things that we’re using to hurt ourselves, it may seem as though they’re being taken away. Releasing attachment to the things that stand in the way of our happiness may seem like the thing we’d want the most, but it’s not. And that’s why working together with other like-minded souls makes it so much easier to for us to see the Wisdom of letting go of our attachments to false beliefs, false identities, and the story we’re telling ourselves.

If we’re willing to give up the false idols and false images that we’ve grown so attached to, then there is a healing, a transformation, and revelation that is not only liberating it’s thrilling! The thrill comes from being willing to trade all that we’ve treasured for something of real value – the ability to see our perfection and the perfection of all.

It’s a question of motivation.

Many of us spend a very long time avoiding the release of the attachments and the pain builds and builds until the pain is so great we’re willing to do ANYTHING to make a change – but it doesn’t have to be that way.

After counseling people for 19 years, I’ve seen that many people have a habit of being unhappy, and they are more comfortable in their unhappiness than they would be in doing something new.

Some people are afraid of being happy because they don’t trust it, and I understand that. In order to be happy and stay happy (most of the time), we must give up being a victim and that means giving up complaining, and criticizing, and taking offense.

Sometimes it’s our anger and upset that gives us a feeling aliveness and power. It’s all false. Of course, it is. But if all we know is what’s false, then we’re going to cling to it. And that’s where a strong spiritual practice helps to break through the habit of playing small, self-attack, and attachment to negative habits.

Sometimes negative pleasure is all we’ve got, so how can we give it up? Negative pleasure is the thing that seems pleasurable, but actually it puts us on the “Pain Train” with a one-way ticket.

Spiritual practice is the thing that releases us from all of this. Making a commitment to and EFFECTIVE spiritual practice is where many people fall short. Their belief is so strong that they’ll fail that they don’t even try.

Only the ego fails.
Spirit cannot fail – it’s not even possible.

When we put our faith in Spirit, we’re strong and we cannot go wrong.

We’re always putting our faith in something.
We can choose ego or Spirit.
Placing my faith in Spirit is the thing that brought me Peace.

At first, it did seem like a period of undoing, and it was. It was a period of undoing all the attachments I had to do things the ego way.

I wasn’t sure I would happier trusting Spirit, but I was willing to try. That willingness got me through the difficulties. It raised me up and kept me headed in a higher direction.

I am so grateful for realizing I’d been placing my faith in my own opinion and that I could change my mind. This realization was a great blessing and a gift! I finally quit making myself unhappy! Phew!

Do you see where you’re placing your faith and trust in your own beliefs and perceptions rather than in Love, in Spirit, in truth? Being aware of this is a great opportunity to go the other way and make a new choice.

Let’s allow the Higher Holy Spirit Self to undo all attachments we have to the habits of unhappiness and discover our true identity and live from that place!

ENOUGH already with the repeating pain patterns! Now is the time of our liberation!

If you’d like support for that I’m offering a forgiveness workshop to support anyone who is willing to do the work with me. You can register now, my gift to all, click now to join me: FREE forgiveness class TODAY LIVE ONLINE video All are welcome!

Let me suggest some simple ways you can immediately feel more successful in your relationships. When you’re ready to stop and drop the same old patterns of upset in relationships, the tips and tools I offer in this free class will really support you. They’re SO simple, and yet they have a profound effect. You can learn to remember to Partner UP rather than struggling in your relationships, and that feels so good. You can stop playing small and live your calling by ALLOWING healing your relationships. Are you willing to make more loving choices to deepen your spiritual practice and accelerate your awakening by being a healing presence in your family? It’s easier than you think!

TODAY in my FREE CLASS – we’re going to focus on relationships and making a difference BEFORE the holidays!

Every day I offer “My Shot of Spiritual Espresso”.  I write spiritual inspiration and record a prayer for our healing.  Prayer is a power tool for our liberation.  Pray with me today.  The Prayer for Today is for Family Forgiveness Healing.  We use technology to transcend time and space and deepen our spiritual practice and connect with each other.  Our spiritual practice is our path of liberation.  And that’s beautiful to share!

When anyone of us has more happiness, we’re all lifted!

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Relationship Helper

Thursday, September 19th, 2019

Haven’t we had enough of feeling like a failure? I sure have!

One of the greatest relationship helpers I know of is patience. A Course in Miracles, as well as other spiritual paths, tell us that relationship is the fastest path to our waking up. That’s because all relationships require us to release attachments to how we like things and how we don’t like things. Our loved ones teach us to have compassion. Without compassion, relationship is impossible.

I remember that, for much of my life, my biggest problem was my attachments to my opinions about what was good and what was not. I let my attachments to those opinions poison some really valuable relationships. It caused a HUGE amount of drama in my life. I caused myself great pain and suffering, and I inflicted it on others as well.

The way out of all that suffering was to forgive myself. I had to let go of my self-attack thoughts and replace them with self-compassion.

It’s a great relationship helper to realize that giving up the attachments will bring the Peace.

Being right about our opinions will bring no Peace. Being right brings the smallest temporary satisfaction, followed by more guilt – even if we don’t realize it.

We can help our relationships be more loving and more intimate by practicing giving up attachments to our opinions on the littlest things. In this way, we can make every day a victory day. Any little victory I can have over the ego personality is a great victory. I am grateful for each and every one of them. They add up!!

This is how we can undo feeling like a failure all day long! Truly, it works!

When we have a victory over our opinions and attachments, we are lessening the sense of unworthiness that can keep us investing time, energy, and money in all kinds of things that aren’t worthwhile. It’s a RELIEF!

It’s also a blessing that we CAN be successful each day if we choose to take the opportunities that are there for us. Each victory is one we share with all beings. All boats rise on this tide of Love!

Can you think of an attachment you gave up that improved your relationship? Please tell us about it and share in the comments below! Let’s join together for our healing! Thank you!

 

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Testy Texting

Wednesday, September 18th, 2019

I was talking with a friend, one time, who was having a conversation by text with his sweetheart. They were texting about something that was a frustration for them both, and it was showing in their text messages. My friend read me the messages, and it was clear his boyfriend was annoyed with him. My friend was feeling annoyed by the messages and wanted to respond in kind, which is understandable.

Relationships are degraded by these kinds of annoying exchanges.

It’s really easy to wear down the beauty of a relationship with sarcasm. Sarcasm always interrupts intimacy because it makes us feel unsafe.

When we enter into to conversations with comments like: “You forgot to put out the trash AGAIN!” we need to know that what we’re doing is making an effort to make the other person feel bad, guilty, wrong, and shamed. It’s not truly helpful. And, it takes away the sweetness, as well as the safety and intimacy, of our connections.

Who would like to open themselves in deep intimacy with someone who sometimes lashes out at them with sarcasm? No one I know.

Let’s make it a safe space for all of our loved ones and make a commitment to not text or e-mail our annoyances. Let’s also completely stop blaming other people for our upsets.

We can only have holy relationships if we are willing to let them be wholly loving.

This is how we become a catalyst for healing.

Who’s willing to really commit to this? Please tell us about it and share in the comments below! Let’s join together for our healing! Thank you!

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Don’t Give Up On Your Relationship

Monday, July 8th, 2019

When we give up on other people, we’re also giving up on ourselves. And yet, when people are so disappointing and difficult, it’s so tempting to walk away from them. Giving up, quitting, that’s the easy thing to do in the short run. In the long run, it will become a weight that’s not worth carrying.

So, what to do? I get this question a lot.

Consider this: We’re all one with each other. And, we’re all eternal. Therefore, it stands to reason that our relationships are eternal, as well. So while we can certainly SEEM to walk away and end a relationship in this lifetime, it’s only temporary.

Why settle for a temporary solution that will only make things more challenging in the future? Why build into your future a challenge you’ll have to deal with that will be fermenting the entire time between now and then?

How to deal with it in the present moment? Well, you don’t have to keep talking with the person. You don’t have to connect and relate with them in the visible world. Seek not to change another person, but to change your mind about them.

Very few people are really willing to hold the vision of the highest and best in their difficult relationships. It takes a lot more effort than it does to complain.

Complaining never helps. Complaining makes you a crap magnet. Compassion makes you a LOVE magnet. Which would you rather be?

Hold the vision of a healed relationship, and then let Spirit do the healing. Sometimes this can be REALLY challenging. And, it’s also a way to heal your mind.

If you give up on the relationship, you’re giving up on yourself.

Instead of giving up on the relationship, give the relationship UP to the Higher Holy Spirit Self.

Give up your needing, wanting, craving,s and aversions about the relationship. Give up all forms of attachment to the person and the way the relationship “should” be and you’ll have a healing in your heart – but you have to really mean it.

Be willing to hold a vision of healing without an attachment to how it looks.

Focus on how you’d like that relationship to feel – would you like it to feel loving, harmonious, playful, respectful, prosperous, beautiful and more? Hold the vision of that, cultivate that feeling, and give up how you think it should look.

It may take a great willingness, and it may take a while, but then it won’t come back and bite you on the behind, and that’s great! We have other things to do besides recovering from being bitten on the behind!

If you were freaking out or in a rough place, would you wish for SOMEONE to hold the high watch for you? Of course you would. Be that person now!

Professional Trainings for Teachers, Counselors & Ministers

If you think you might like to explore a spiritual career then check out some of my programs like Finding Freedom From Fear and the trainings I offer. I am offering two trainings in October. They are each deeply healing and they are both part of larger professional programs, but anyone can take them.

Right now there are SUPER early bird specials on my “How to Lead & Create A Workshop” training which includes certification to lead my Forgive & Be Free workshop and then there’s my Spiritual Counseling Training Intensive, which is a great program for anyone interested in becoming a better listener, cultivating compassion or intuition.

If you’re a spiritual healer, counselor, or teacher, you might be interested in one of my professional programs. PLEASE TAKE A MINUTE to fill out my latest survey of your interests, please click here now! This way I’ll be sure to keep you informed.

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4th of July

Wednesday, July 3rd, 2019

My family moved from Ann Arbor, Michigan, where my parents met, to Barrington, RI when I was 9 years old. My dad had gotten a teaching position at Brown University. I didn’t like being far away from my grandparents and cousins, but I have to say I really fell in love with New England.

For the many people who read this “Daily Spiritual Espresso” who are not from the United States, you might not know that Rhode Island is the smallest state in the union. It’s just 48 miles long and 37 miles wide, but it has a huge bay in the middle so it can take a while to drive from one side to the other. I venture the longest drive you could make in Rhode Island from end-to-end might be an hour.

Roger Williams founded the first permanent white/European settlement at Providence in 1636 on land purchased from the Narragansett Indians. Williams was forced to flee Massachusetts because of persecution. He established a policy of religious and political freedom in his new settlement. For you trivia buffs, the actual name of the state is Rhode Island and Providence Plantations.

Another bit of trivia is that RI is the most catholic state in the Union. RI went from fleeing religious persecution of the protestants in Massachusetts to becoming mostly catholic because of all the immigrants. Rhode Island has just over a million people, and today 67% of them are still considering themselves catholic.

When I was growing up, the 4th of July holiday was a HUGE deal.

Rhode Island has the oldest Independence Day parade in the United States.

It started in 1785, more than 200 years ago! And when I was a kid, the whole day was one long festivity — getting to Bristol early enough to beat the unbearable traffic and get a good place along the parade route, then going to the beach for a swim and a picnic, going back home for a barbecue, and then back to Bristol in the evening for the fireworks. I love any day that is entirely spent out doors!

And, I love fireworks! Tonight I’ll be in Bristol, Vermont with friends, and we’ll go to the fireworks there. It’s not the same, but it’s still fun. Tomorrow there are parades and festivities, and Bristol has the biggest parade in the state of Vermont, even though it’s a tiny town.

In New England, patriotism is a real thing, and it feels old-fashioned to me.

When I was growing up, as a teenager, many of my friends were from the next town over. I met them through a job I had bussing tables at a restaurant in the next town over, the Wharf Tavern in Warren, RI. I didn’t work there long, but I made some great friends.

My friends were all first and second generation immigrants from Portugal, Poland, and Italy, as well as Canada. Their families were SO glad to be U.S. citizens. They learned the language. They contributed in mostly blue collar jobs, and sent their kids (my friends) to college so they could succeed in white collar jobs.

Rhode Island has fantastic Italian, Portuguese, and other “ethnic” foods, and I discovered the best of those foods at my friends family barbecues and dinner tables all summer long.

I had the best Greek food of my life in Rhode Island until I went to Greece. And still, I never had a doner kebab like I had in Rhode Island.

Columbus Day was a BIG holiday that included lots of Italian food and beer. Rhode Island has developed it’s own little culinary niche with foods like hot weenies, clam cakes (not at all like clam cakes in Maine), stuffed clams and quahogs (a large clam). Clams, clams, clams. Conch. And of course, Italian ice, Del’s was the best ever, and no one else’s compared. 4th of July required intense heat, desperate thirst, and a large Del’s, with real bits of lemon and zest in it. Not hard and frozen — soft and slushy, long before others were having slushy drinks. YUM!

A true patriot was here for freedom from oppression – religious, and political, and willing to fight for it. Many of my friends’ older brothers went to Viet Nam and Cambodia, and came home completely changed. Never to be the same. The happy carefree young men who came back were transformed, but not in a good way. The effects of that rippled through our community.

Families became conflicted about their patriotism after that terrible war and the reasons behind it. Immigrants often send their first generation sons into the military when they land in a new country. Immigrants worked hard to invest in the state, and then were devastated by the Savings and Loan debacle that was fostered by George W. Bush and friends.

Rhode Island’s families has such strong people who have been through so much as a people. They are rebuilding and blooming in many ways now. If you go to Rhode Island and get to Providence, go to Federal Hill to Caserta’s and have a Wimpy Skimpy for me! Best calzone EVER. Best spinach pie ever, too! YUM!

I’m not a xenophobe, but I’m a patriot. I believe in the principles of the founders. I believe that all people are created equal and entitled to certain unalienable rights. I don’t believe in winding back the clock to a time of segregation and discrimination. I believe in liberty and justice for all, and that we have the opportunity to welcome people from other countries.

My ancestors came from the Cherokee tribe and from European nations, and most recently from Ireland during the potato famine. When the Irish came, they were treated quite poorly and they were unwanted, similar to how some feel about the people taking refuge now.

I feel it’s our job to welcome each new wave of immigrants so they can help make America even more beautiful, and even more of a rainbow nation. We can make amends for the mentality that treated my ancestors so poorly and be a nation of global transformation through generosity rather than greed.

It takes a lot of effort to change our own hearts, but that is the only way to change the world. Sometimes sharing a meal with someone who has different food and customs, and getting to know their family and introducing yours to them, is the way the to make the world a better place.

In this world, food is a symbol of Love for many. Especially for immigrants. Food is a symbol of family, and home, and connection.

What are your holiday and family food favorites that you love to share? What are your plans for the 4th? Please comment in the comment section below!

Professional Trainings for Teachers, Counselors & Ministers

If you think you might like to explore a spiritual career then check out some of my programs like Finding Freedom From Fear and the trainings I offer. I am offering two trainings in October. They are each deeply healing and they are both part of larger professional programs, but anyone can take them.

Right now there are SUPER early bird specials on my How to Lead & Create A Workshop training which includes certification to lead my Forgive & Be Free workshop and then there’s my Spiritual Counseling Training Intensive which is a great program for anyone interested in becoming a better listener, cultivating compassion or intuition.

If you’re a spiritual healer, counselor, or teacher, you might be interested in one of my professional programs. PLEASE TAKE A MINUTE to fill out my latest survey of your interests, please click here now! This way I’ll be sure to keep you informed.

If you find my “Daily Spiritual Espresso” and “Prayer for Today” helpful, won’t you please share at Facebook and click the “LIKE” button? Also, please like and comment on posts on Facebook. This helps, as Facebook will let more people see it and become inspired, too! Thank you!

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Honoring My father

Sunday, June 16th, 2019

I’ve learned so much from my Father. Some of it I’ve had to unlearn, and some of it has been so helpful to me, beyond any measure. More than anything, I’ve learned about Love, devotion, dedication, commitment and the value of valuing these qualities.

When I was a teenager I had a chores and responsibilities in my family. One time I forgot to do wash the kitchen floor and my Father said “But you remembered to call your friends, didn’t you? You remembered what was important to you.” He was right.

My responsibilities in the family weren’t as important as my friends. To this day, my Father’s words help me to remember what is important is not always the thing that I most enjoy doing and that I always prefer to make a conscious choice. To this day, I am grateful for the lesson learned.

If I choose from what I’m “wanting,” then I’m always left wanting and never having because the wanting never ends. I prefer to be highly intentional with each choice. I AM training my mind to always see and choose the most loving choice.

This has helped me to develop a joyful attitude towards the things that support excellence in my life and in this way I deeply and truly honor my Father.

When I began a practice of daily prayer and meditation it felt like a chore. Very often I didn’t want to do it. My teachers said how much they loved to pray. I didn’t get it. For me it was a task, a burden. It was work to get myself to be still, to take the time. I wasn’t feeling the joy. I wasn’t really receiving the benefits. It was like when I was a teenager. Yes, I “wanted” a clean kitchen floor, a high consciousness, but I also wanted to put my attention elsewhere. If I had not been committed to seeing the higher choice for Love, I’d still be wanting, endlessly wanting.

I see this in so many spiritual seekers. They “want” to be more loving. And, again, wanting and having are two different things. The one who is wanting is not devoted to having and being. Wanting never ends. The one who awakens from the dream of separation is committed to seeking the Kingdom first. This becomes their joy, their devotion and their passion. Wanting is magical thinking. Wanting is thinking something is missing. Nothing’s missing. You must look where you can find it. And that requires devotion. True spiritual success is a living commitment to being loving, even when it’s deeply challenging.

Think of this – if the love of your life was “missing” would you be devoted to finding them? Or would you simply “want” to find them? Look in your heart for the answer. That’s where the love of YOUR life is waiting for YOU!

Ramakrishna taught us, “Work, apart from devotion or love of God, is helpless and cannot stand alone.” Over the years I’ve continued to pray, to meditate and, just like with my yoga practice, I’ve become stronger, more flexible. I’ve felt the cleansing effects of prayer and meditation. The healing has taken over my awareness. Now, I cannot imagine getting out of bed in the morning without praying. I cannot imagine not going back to prayer again and again throughout the day. My practice is the embrace of my Beloved, the One TRUE LOVE of my life. The One who never tires of me. The one who always loves me and offers me the very best without restriction.

Today I demonstrate what is important to me by my devotion, by my practice, by washing the kitchen floor, exercising, smiling, being kind and patient, keeping my appointment with my meditation chair, my prayer partner and my beloved. I show up! And in this way I honor my Father who brought me as well as the one who sent me. In countless small ways I devote myself to the daily practice of showing up with love and kindness. In this way I make a profound contribution to peace in the world, and I am grateful for every experience that brought me to this moment.

Today I’m so very grateful for my father, Danny Hadley. I’ve always felt his commitment to love, to being the best father he could be to me, to caring for me, protecting and providing for me. We’ve had very difficult times and we’ve had glorious times. We are having a journey of love together, and naturally it includes the peaks and valleys.

I know that with every passing year we’re both more interested in sharing with each other the very best of ourselves. The very best is our loving hearts, our kindness, our patience, and generosity. Year after year, we’re learning to be devoted to each other as father and daughter, to the best of our ability. This is cause for celebration.

Many, many times in the past it’s been so challenging, but it’s not challenging like that anymore and we’re grateful for that. My devotion to Love itself has been my healer. I’m grateful that my father was always willing to see the best of me, even when it wasn’t readily apparent to others and even if it took him a minute. That is the gift that we can all give to each other. It’s certainly the best gift a father could ever give a daughter. Today I celebrate my father and I give thanks for him.

I give thanks that my Dad never taught me anything about God and that I got to find that on my own. I’ve never had to undo any false beliefs about the Divine. I particularly give thanks that he taught me to be able to laugh and play, to love good food and great friends, to enjoy music and nature and so much of life. He also helped me learn, above all, that I intend to never miss an opportunity to love again! Thanks, Dad! I love you so much.

Professional Trainings for Teachers, Counselors & Ministers 

If you think you might like to explore a spiritual career, then check out some of my programs like Finding Freedom From Fear and the trainings I offer.  I am offering two trainings in October.  They are each deeply healing, and they are both part of larger professional programs, but anyone can take them.

Right now there are SUPER Early Bird specials on my How to Lead & Create A Workshop training which includes certification to lead my Forgive & Be Free workshop, and then there’s my Spiritual Counseling Training Intensive which is a great program for anyone interested in becoming a better listener, cultivating compassion or intuition.

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Mom

Sunday, May 12th, 2019

One of the greatest gifts I gave myself was to let go of the blocks to Love in my relationship with my precious mother. My experience taught me the value and power of true forgiveness. It improved the quality of every moment of my life since then.

Sometimes Love is a decision.
We decide to Love and stop withholding.
We can get there through Self-Forgiveness.

Love is constant. It doesn’t come and go like affection, or kindness, or willingness.

Our very nature is Love.
It’s our nature to be constant in loving, and I know that we are returning to that awareness and that way of living and it is what I practice each day.

What I didn’t know when I was growing up is that one of the reasons why I had so many issues with my mother was that she had so many issues with her self and with her own mother.

I had no idea that I could choose Love and be that fulcrum point of Love in our family. I didn’t know that I could heal the generations.

My journey with my mother helped me to really KNOW the power of Love. And forgiveness is a great act of Self-Love.

There is nothing to be guilty for.
Being guilty is withholding Self-Love.
Forgiveness is the only way out of that pain.

Forgiveness liberates us from withholding Love.
Forgiveness is like water to a seed laying on the surface of a desert. With water there is life and with Love there is life.

One person, one seed, can become an oasis.
That’s what I feel happened for me – all because I decided to do the very forgiveness work that I now share. If I hadn’t done my own forgiveness work, you wouldn’t be reading this right now. Don’t make anything more important. This is it! TRULY!

I became compelled to FORGIVE EVERYTHING when my Mom got a terminal cancer diagnosis.

My whole life has changed because of my practice of forgiveness.
I love what A Course in Miracles says:

“It is as sure that those who hold grievances will suffer guilt, as it is certain that those who forgive will find peace. 3 It is as sure that those who hold grievances will forget who they are, as it is certain that those who forgive will remember.” ~ Lesson 68, Love Holds No Grievances

I decided I was committed to remembering my TRUE identity and letting go of the false. That’s the best decision I ever made – and it still rings through my heart and mind today. I failed every day, but I stayed committed. When I failed, I started again.

My mom made her transition in 2008. I made this video in 2012 and I share it with you now with the intention that it might inspire you to a greater forgiveness. If you would like my support for forgiveness, please check out my free workshop How to Get Over It

It was a tremendous effort for me to let go of the ego’s grievances. And it was absolutely worth every bit of it.

No matter where you are in your relationship with your mother, (or anyone) even if they’ve passed on, you can still completely heal the relationship and experience a holy relationship. Truly, your willingness is all that’s required.

It’s your willingness to forgive yourself. Not them.
Forgive yourself for holding a grievance. Start there.
When we hold grievances, we lose our way in the world.
Fortunately, forgiveness is the way back.

There’s no greater gift that you can give to yourself, your family, and the world than to heal the grievances, of this I am certain. If you are truly willing, even a little bit, Spirit will make a way. The more willing we are, the faster and easier it is.

Ultimately we will choose to let the grievances go. That day WILL come, so why wait? Today is the day!

When I had such a healing with my mother, that’s when I got inspired, compelled even, to create a class to share what I learned that actually worked to heal my relationship with my Mom.

That class was originally called Family Freedom and now I call it Finding Freedom From Fear. People have such amazing results with this class. Have the courage to go for it!

Finding Freedom From Fear REGISTRATION OPENED YESTERDAY
I’m doing something different this year. I haven’t offered this class in 8 months – this is your chance, if you’d like to join me and GO FOR IT! Don’t put your healing and happiness off 1 more day. We will do the forgiveness work together in class.

My Finding Freedom From Fear spiritual boot camp isn’t for everyone – it’s for those who are ready and willing to dive in and live the Love. We’re doing it together!

1st Step is to sign up for a Goal Setting Group Session – these are a gift to you to help you see if you’re actually ready and willing to do this work. There’s no charge – sign up for one now. Finding Freedom From Fear starts June 6. Find out if it’s right for you now with a Goal Setting Group Session.

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Professional Trainings – SUPER Early Bird Special until May 22nd If you think you might like to explore a spiritual career then check out some of my programs like Finding Freedom From Fear and the trainings I offer. I am offering two trainings in October. They are each deeply healing and they are both part of larger professional programs, but anyone can take them.

Right now there are SUPER early bird specials on my How to Lead & Create A Workshop training which includes certification to lead my Forgive & Be Free workshop and then there’s my Spiritual Counseling Training Intensive which is a great program for anyone interested in becoming a better listener, cultivating compassion or intuition.

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Manifesting, Life Purpose and Relationships

Thursday, March 14th, 2019

When I first started counseling people, many people were asking for help living their life purpose, healing their relationships, and manifesting the life they desired. These are three main topics that people have in life.

Being successful at living our life purpose, having great relationships and manifesting even the most basic necessities can all seem like a big mystery. We don’t wish to manifest our heart’s desire only to have it slip through our fingers. We’d like to have the consciousness to hold on to it!

Everything in our life is a demonstration of our beliefs. Many times beliefs are hidden, and even though we believe life is abundant, we’re not experiencing it. We can believe that God is Love, but we’re not experiencing it. This can be intensely frustrating.

We feel like a failure, and we know that’s not helpful. We label “not spiritual” and it makes us feel like a fake, adding insult to injury. It doesn’t have to stay that way.

When you think of manifesting, do you think of:

  • Home, Car, Vacations, or
  • Paying the bills, Groceries, Needs of your family, or
  • Life Purpose and Career, Relationships with a partner and friends

If your answer is ONE or ALL of the Above, then I’d like to share with you an event I’m participating in that’s completely free.

Join me speaking with my colleague, Melissa Lilly Nelson, on New Three University’s Manifesting, Life Purpose and Relationships online event. This is my second time doing an event with Melissa, and it may call to you where you are right now.

I agree with Melissa when she shares that “manifesting an abundant life purpose and Supportive Relationships is our birthright!.” It’s our nature to be in the flow of Love, Abundance, Wisdom, and to live our true purpose.

You’re Invited, Click Here to Join Us.

This event is not overwhelming, because the interviews are only 20 minutes each, give great advice, and it’s a small group of teachers so you won’t get a ton of e-mails. And, you can always unsubscribe when you feel complete, but it’s definitely worth giving each person a listen. Enjoy!

If you’re willing to have the courage to heal – we’re going for it – come with us!

UPCOMING IN-PERSON EVENTS

Let’s have some fun with our healing! Spring Clearing Healing Retreat March 20 to 24 – with Lisa Natoli, Corinne Zupko, Jon Mundy, myself and more!

Ready for some healing? If you’re tired of playing small, and feeling like your stuck of blocked, or your just ready to make a leap in consciousness consider joining me this month in one of the great events we have plannedWe have payment plans if you need them.

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Full Moon Healing

Wednesday, February 20th, 2019

Have you noticed that there’s been some super intense energy in the last few days? I noticed it most intensely Monday and Tuesday morning. This often happens around the time of the full moon! The moon just went full last night and that usually helps bring some relief.

Full moon is a time of healing through releasing what no longer serves. Full moon is also a time of harvest – harvesting the wisdom from our experiences and then releasing any and all attachments – that’s what a full moon healing ceremony is for!

What a time of healing this is! Let’s call forth an amazing healing and release all blocks to Love!

Many believe that extraordinary spiritual growth and expansion are impossible. I used to feel that way. The growth I desired felt so elusive. I just concluded that it was because there was something wrong with me that made it impossible for me.

What’s so cool is that even though I believed it couldn’t work for me, I was willing to shift. My willingness has brought tremendous healing.

So many of the people who begin the year in Masterful Living feel that the healing, expansion and life they desire is not possible for them. They have doubt that what they desire could ever be theirs.

At the end of every year, I talk with folks who, at the beginning of the year, were unbelievers – but not anymore!

Let me just tell you how grateful I feel that I have followed my guidance even when it was REALLY hard for me. I am so grateful and here’s why:

It’s because of hearing people’s stories of what changed for them in our Masterful Living community.

Imagine starting the year feeling that this is the year you’re going to file for divorce. It’s clear, the writing is on the wall in every room of your house. You and your spouse just aren’t compatible and there’s nothing you can do about it – you’ve tried everything you can think of.

But then, you decided to really live a simple spiritual practice. You decided to give the relationship to the Higher Holy Spirit Self for healing and you made the effort to leave it on the altar and begin to hold the vision for a holy relationship. And your relationship began to improve and heal and become something really beautiful. I see it happen every year to many people in our community.

Year after year, I hear the beautiful and truly profound stories of people making the mental shifts that heal their life and relationships.

And the healing happens even though they don’t believe.

It’s life-changing.
When we experience these kinds of healing, then we’re changed forever.

I invite you to really go for it this coming year – focus on your willingness!

Cultivate a willingness to learn that the miracles will happen for you when you’re willing to practice and give Spirit a chance.

I have collected so many beautiful stories. Each one is a precious jewel.

It does take willingness. And that’s what spiritual community helps with. Together, we hold the light for each other so we don’t give up.

One time I spoke with someone who had decided to give up and drop out of class. She was so sure it couldn’t work for her that she was all set to withdraw.

And then she talked with someone in the community about it and changed her mind.

And now, she’s helping others to not give up, because where she was once constantly worried, she’s found peace. And she’s so grateful now she’s inspired to help others in achieving their goals with their spiritual practice. She was CONVINCED it couldn’t work for her, but it did.

We replace the old thought with the new thought and we’re on our way to a new experience of Peace and Harmony! It’s easier than you think to change everything in your mind and your life, if you’re willing.

Also – if you’re willing, come away with me for your healing!

Early bird special on NOW Spring Clearing Retreat March 20 to 24 – with Lisa Natoli, Corinne Zupko, Jon Mundy, myself and more! Plus, Jon Mundy and I are offering our Leading & Creating A Workshop training which includes certification to lead my Forgive & Be Free Workshop! March 14 to 20. Register for both and receive an additional discount. Click now for details!

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1 Goal

Friday, February 15th, 2019

There are many who are challenged with conversations right now because either they are upset and hurting or the people around them are upset and hurting. So much is getting stirred up right now that people are frightened and angry and taking it out on each other.

In A Course in Miracles it tells us so clearly, “The sole responsibility of the miracle worker is to accept the Atonement for himself.”

What does that mean? It means our one responsibility in our entire life is to accept that this world as an illusion and a projection and everything that we think we hate is a projection of self-hatred. Every upset is really self-upset projected outwards.

When we can have compassion for those who seem to bother us we are having Self-compassion and that is the way out of hell.

As people who Love the Light, we are here to be truly helpful and remember that everything in this world is an opportunity for us to Love ourselves free of any and all delusions and illusions and that is the one thing that everything is for. Let’s not make up stories about what things are for, let’s just accept what they are REALLY for and get on with it.

The time is now for waking up! Let’s give all the heavy lifting of figuring out HOW and learn to ALLOW the Higher Holy Spirit Self to guide us.

If we focus on our one goal, the Spirit WILL show us the way. The Light of Love within us WILL light the way! It’s much easier than we think. We can learn through joy rather than suffering! Now is OUR time!

ANNOUNCEMENTS: Two in-person events next month Early bird special on NOW Spring Clearing Retreat March 20 to 24 – with Lisa Natoli, Corinne Zupko, Jon Mundy, myself and more! Plus, Jon Mundy and I are offering our HOW TO CREATE & LEAD A WORKSHOP training which includes certification to lead my Forgive & Be Free Workshop! March 14 to 20. Register for both and receive an additional discount. Click now for details!

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Responsibility in Relationship

Tuesday, February 12th, 2019

Today on my radio show I’ll be sharing about responsibility in relationship. Being able to take responsibility for our feelings is the way out of most people’s experiences of relationship misery. It’s amazing how much gratitude we can have when realize we’ve been doing it to ourselves and we can stop!

Last night in Masterful Living, one of the things we were discussing was guilt. Many people feel guilty for a variety of reasons, and that guilt is like a wet, stinky blanket on their life and on their energy field. Let’s get rid of it!

Guilt is not really my thing. When I was a kid, my grandmother would often try to make me feel guilty in order to manipulate me, and I learned to throw that off. I developed a Teflon coating for guilt. It still comes up from time to time, and I’ve learned a lot about how to let guilt go.

The number one way to release the guilt is to not put guilt on anyone else. It’s like I say all the time:

the judger always feels judged
the attacker always feels attacked
the lover always feels beloved

Let’s add: the guilt-er always feels guilty (and secretly ashamed)

Which would you like to feel — Guilty or Beloved? You’re in charge of your choices, so why choose to feel guilty and ashamed when you could feel Beloved?

You may be trying to make people feel guilty and, perhaps, not even be aware of it. When you’re upset, if you feel in ANY WAY that it’s someone else’s fault, and you tell them you’re upset – you’re probably, perhaps unconsciously, trying to blame them and make them feel guilty and ashamed. This will only cause you to feel guilty and ashamed – perhaps unconsciously. Next thing you know, you’re depressed and self-medicating. Yuck – the wet, stinky blanket of despair has landed, self-inflicted. Ugh.

If you believe that you have the power to make other people happy, to fix their lives, to rescue them or heal them, and you withhold Love from them, you probably will feel guilty because you might also be punishing them, consciously or unconsciously.

If you feel upset, and you feel it will help you to tell other people about it, make sure you don’t feel they’re responsible. If you do feel they’re responsible for your feelings, then take ownership of it like this:

“I’m feeling upset and I know it’s not you’re fault. It’s my crazy thinking. I’d like to talk it through with you, so that I can take total responsibility for my thoughts and feelings and heal this crazy thinking. Are you willing to help me talk it through?”

However, if you have a secret desire to blame them and shame them for “making you” feel upset, then don’t go talk with them – unless they’re really skilled at being able to recognize you’re exposing your crazy secret desire to blame and shame. Responsibility is the way out. Taking TOTAL ownership of our feelings is the only way to have a truly healing and productive conversation.

Remember, the ego loves to pick a fight, to blame and to shame and that will only leave you feeling guilty and ashamed. There’s just no benefit to trying to make others responsible for your upset. Heal that habit, and your life will become more loving, more prosperous and more harmonious! Woo-hoo!

TODAY RADIO SHOW: my topic is Responsibility In Relationship. You can listen in LIVE on my radio show – click here for details – or you can click here to get the download later at iTunes or Stitcher for Android. All the previous episodes are free at iTunes & Stitcher right now! Transcripts and more are available here: LivingaCourseinMiracles.com  You can subscribe to the podcast and get the show every week automatically on your phone, iPod, iPad or computer. Check it out! And if you enjoy the radio show, will you please write a review so more people find the show? The more reviews, the more iTunes and Stitcher show it to people! Thank you!

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Perspective

Monday, January 28th, 2019

One of the most challenging things I know of is learning to honor other people’s perspectives in relationships. We all see the world differently. What is threatening to one person is inviting to another. What is exciting to this one is boring to that one. We’re all the same, but we don’t see things from the same perspective.

Honoring another’s viewpoint, even though we don’t agree with it, is a great skill to have. It makes relationship so much easier and healthier.

Some folks are very distrusting, and so they will be offended by an honest gesture of extending Love. That doesn’t mean we should withdraw or give up. It means we must be led and guided by the Spirit as to how. I’ve learned to remember that I can extend Love without saying a word or taking any visible action. I call this “working in the invisible”.

I really appreciate that I CAN work in the invisible. It’s easier, faster, and perfect every time. And just the fact that we don’t have to labor in the world – what I call “pushing density,” and that we have a more effective option give me so much relief.

Once we realize that we can do our healing and transformation at the level of the mind, and that it affects all of our relationships, it’s a HUGE relief. We can train ourselves to remember that the Higher Holy Spirit Self is reliable. We can begin to truly rely up on Spirit.

Of course, it doesn’t work if we’re just trying to manipulate the Universe to give us what we think we want and need. That’s not it.

So, when it comes to trying to change someone else’s perspective, it doesn’t work if we’re really just trying to manipulate them. What works is if we’re letting go and letting God.

And by “works” I mean, makes a miraculous shift. The miracle comes when we’re willing to have faith in the innate goodness of a person. The miracle is, when we can give up our conditioned view of ourselves and others, this allows us to invest in something new unfolding. It’s not a manipulation, it’s holding the higher view and allowing it to unfold.

When we change our perspective about others, then they tend to change.

I pray to see with God’s View and to release all perception. Perception isn’t truth. I’d rather see what’s true. I’d rather see each person as the precious Light Beings that they already are – including myself!

Who can you shift your perspective about today?
Who has a different perspective from yours that you can stop condemning and start loving?

Simple changes in our thinking change our whole lives – it’s the only thing that really works!

There is a great healing unfolding for us this springSpring Clearing Retreat with Jon Mundy, Lisa Natoli, Corinne Zupko and more. March 20 to 24 in the Catskills Mountains of NY. Also, just prior to that Jon and I will reprise our How to Create & Lead A Workshop back to back with the retreat – dates are March 14 to 20. This includes certification to lead my Forgive & Be Free workshop! Woo hoo! SUPER early bird pricing ends Saturday. And we have payment plans!

Let me know what you’re interested in – please take my latest survey – it’s only about 1 minute of your time or less!

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Challenging Relationships

Wednesday, October 17th, 2018

Challenging relationships have been the best tool to help me heal my mind of the things that disturb my peace. Who would’ve thunk it could possibly be true? Certainly, not me. There was a time when I thought relationship challenges would cause me to take my own life. Golly gee.

I’ve experienced some extraordinary relationship healing in my life, and I’m so very grateful. For me, there’s been nothing more upsetting to me than the difficulties in my relationships. They have challenged me to the core of my being. I’m so glad I learned that this is precisely what relationships are for.

I’ve learned not to walk away from a difficult relationship.
I’ve learned to never give up on myself or anyone else.

Instead, I’ve come to absolutely know that the thing to do is to give it UP to the Higher Holy Spirit Self for miraculous healing. This method works, but that doesn’t make it easy.

Relationship attachments can be like an alien parasite. It makes me think of the terrifying movie, Aliens with Sigourney Weaver (LOVE her!). Remember when the member of the crew was on the operating table, and the alien exploded out of his belly? I went through a period where I was undoing the ego at such a rapid rate that I felt that I was pregnant with an alien baby terrorist that was trying to eat me alive from the inside.

It’s that feeling when the third chakra is going through such an intense cleansing. The third chakra, at the solar plexus, is all about our self-perception. When we’re perceiving ourselves as the ego, the small, selfish self, then it’s a constant battle with an inner terrorist. We’ll project it outward into ALL of our relationships and never feel self.

When we’re willing to shift identification to the Higher Holy Spirit Self, then we can begin to see clearly what every relationship is for. Then, we can have holy relationships. It’s intensely challenging, but THANK GOD we don’t have to figure out HOW to make it all happen. We only have to allow.

This is the time where we’re all learning about Self-Love – Self with a capital “S”. This is the curriculum, and we can delay, we can avoid, but we’ll still have to do the curriculum, eventually. Let’s get to it! Heaven is at hand!

The best way to get to the healing we desire in our relationships is really focus on loving yourself IN all of your relationships. Let’s do it!

This is why I’m offering free Forgiveness Workshops online right now, so we can do this work together. If you missed the workshop last weekend – please register now, and I’ll let you know about the next one: click here to register for the next Forgive & Be Free Online Video Workshop.

Each year, I dedicate February to relationships on my weekly radio show. If relationship is an issue for you, you might find it supportive to listen to my radio show. There are more than 360 episodes in the podcast. All the previous episodes are free at iTunes & Stitcher right now! Transcripts, downloads, “listen now” links and podcast links are available here: LivingaCourseinMiracles.com

You can subscribe to the podcast and get the show every week, automatically, on your phone, iPod, iPad or computer. Check it out! And, if you enjoy the radio show, will you please write a review, so more people find the show? The more reviews, the more iTunes and Stitcher show it to people! Thank you!

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Relationship With Spirit

Sunday, October 14th, 2018

Consider this: Imagine that you’re single and you’d REALLY like to be in a committed intimate partnership with someone you adore and that you feel you’d be SO grateful to spend the rest of your life with. Let’s say that’s the deep desire of your heart.

You yearn for that clear connection with a soulmate.

And so, to get to that, you decide you’re going to read relationship books until you get there.

And you’re going to listen to relationship CD’s.
And you’ll watch videos on youtube.

But you’re not going to do anything towards actually meeting a potential mate, you’re just going to study up on it.

That seems pretty crazy, doesn’t it?

Yet, that’s precisely what many people have told me that they’ve done for most of their lives. They are learning about Spirit, but they don’t actually feel like they have an intimate relationship.

One of the most common things I hear from people in class with me is they are so grateful they stopped just studying spiritual books and started actually having an active practice and relationship with Spirit.

When you have a relationship with someone, a deep intimate relationship, you recognize their voice in a crowd. You know their vibration and you can feel them coming. That’s how it is with Spirit when we’re in a committed relationship.

Sometimes people are afraid that if they were in a committed relationship with Spirit, the demands would be too much. I used to feel that way, but consider what Jesus said according to the Gospel of Matthew:

Come unto me,
all ye that labour and are heavy laden,
and I will give you rest.
Take my yoke upon you,
and learn of me;
for I am meek and lowly in heart:
and ye shall find rest unto your souls.
For my yoke is easy,
and my burden is light. Matthew 11:28-30

My yoke is easy – the commitment is easy.
My burden is Light – as in the Light that lighteth up every man, woman and child in this world.

That sounds pretty darn good to me!
And, I must share that I have found this to be the truth of it.

The deeper I go, the greater the commitment, the lighter I feel, the easier it is.

A relationship is a relationship.
Whether it’s with Spirit or your family.
Sometimes it feels like a roller coaster ride.
Whether you’re screaming or laughing depends on your perspective.

Connecting from the heart.
Sharing time together.
That’s what strengthens a relationship.
Honesty. Transparency. Compassion.

Every day offers an opportunity.

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Healing Abusive Relationships

Tuesday, July 24th, 2018

As we all know, relationship abuse can happen on various levels – emotionally, mentally, physically and verbally. Sometimes people are in relationships that are quite abusive and they don’t even realize it because their own sense of themselves is so diminished. Often, it just seems normal. Many times, it even seems deserved.

When we’re in a relationship that doesn’t feel supportive and fulfilling, we can give the relationship to the Higher Holy Spirit Self for healing. We can call forth a holy relationship and move out of the abusive ego based relationship.

It does take real and focused willingness to break these patterns of abuse. I’ve worked with folks who couldn’t imagine life without their abuser. The connection is so strong and it’s definitely karmic, but that doesn’t mean it can’t be transformed.

Therapists might tell you differently, but as a spiritual counselor working with spiritual methods, I’ve seen extraordinary and miraculous healing take place in relationships because one person is willing to hold the belief that a healing can happen.

It’s so worth it.

It can be intensely challenging to hold the vision of a healed relationship with no attachments to what it actually will look like. It can take great focus to not fall into victim patterns when it’s been your pattern for a lifetime, but Spirit will carry you there if you’re willing to break with the habits of the past.

Having witnessed so many miracles and participated in so many healings, I cannot say enough about how amazing Spirit is. Don’t give up before your miracle. It surely awaits you!

TODAY RADIO SHOW: my topic is Healing Abusive Relationships

You can listen in LIVE on my radio show – click here for details – or you can click here to get the download later at iTunes or Stitcher for Android. All the previous episodes are free at iTunes & Stitcher right now! Transcripts and more are available here: LivingaCourseinMiracles.com.  You can subscribe to the podcast and get the show every week automatically on your phone, iPod, iPad or computer. Check it out! And if you enjoy the radio show, will you please write a review so more people find the show? The more reviews, the more iTunes and Stitcher show it to people! Thank you!

Jon Mundy and I are offering 3 new minister & teacher training retreats in August. If you’d like to learn about these trainings in inspirational writing, teaching and speaking see below for more info. These retreats are open to anyone who’d like to build their skills AND do some deep spiritual healing of patterns of unworthiness! We can even help you get CEU’s if that’s helpful.

NEW – Teacher Trainings!

Are you interested in stepping up your game and sharing your talents? Do you have self-doubt you’d like to transform so that you can share your gifts and inspire others?

Jon Mundy and I are offering minister & teacher training retreats in August. If you’d like to learn about these trainings in inspirational writing, teaching and speaking, click here for more information. These retreats are open to anyone who’d like to build their skills AND do some deep spiritual healing of patterns of unworthiness!

Would you like to share your gifts and talents with more authenticity and confidence? Are you ready to stop playing small and stop waiting for the perfect moment to shine your light?

Three new trainings co-led by me and Jon Mundy. There are Payment plans!

Training #1 – Inspirational Writing
Thursday August 16 to Sunday 19th – 3 nights

Training #2 – Leading/Creating A Workshop –
Includes how to lead my Forgive & Be Free Workshop
Sunday August 19th to Thursday 23rd – 4 nights

Training #3 – Inspired Speaking – Giving An Inspiring Talk
Thursday August 23 to Sunday 26th – 3 nights

All three consecutive events will be held at Scottsdale Plaza Resort, in Scottsdale Arizona, right next to Phoenix. Click here for more info and registration!

Come for 1, 2 or 3 of these professional trainings. Power of Love Ministry is developing a ministerial/teacher training and these are part of the curriculum for that training.

We’re an expanding global spiritual community of prayerful people willing to be co-workers with God. We’re waking up together and finding freedom in our hearts. I’m so grateful for this!

If you find what I’m sharing helpful, won’t you please LIKE this post and share at facebook and twitter to let others know? Thank you!

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Relinquishing Relationship Problems

Wednesday, July 11th, 2018

In the past, I invested A LOT of energy in going over and over and OVER AGAIN the problems in my relationships. When I look back, it’s amazing to me how much of my energy was invested in going around and around the same troubling loop.

I was so focused on what was threatening and troubling me that I didn’t realize I was magnifying and multiplying it. Sheesh! No wonder I felt guilt and ashamed.

I’ve learned to give ALL relationship issues to the Higher Holy Spirit Self for healing. Sometimes it seems as though people won’t call forth a healing in their relationships because they just wish to invest their energy in the drama. Some people seem to need the drama to feel alive and don’t trust that fully being loving is the kind of aliveness that’s really possible for them.

We can heal EVERYTHING. Giving our problems to the Higher Holy Spirit Self for healing is so helpful because we don’t have to figure out how to have a healing, we just call it forth and stand strong in the assurance that it IS occurring.

When we practice in this way we bring benefit to all beings.
When we have the strength to hold the vision of a healed relationship then we’re placing our faith in God to work it our and that’s a healing of our own doubt and limited beliefs.

Relationships are the best tool we have for healing our whole life. Let’s make the most of it and call forth a miraculous healing today, and then remember that we’ve given the problem to Spirit for healing and it’s not our problem anymore!

TODAY is my Sacred Circle day! This is my monthly membership program that gives you a weekly call of group spiritual counseling. Join my Sacred Circle and you can ask me any question you would like on the phone, on line or in writing! I love it! We have an awesome group of people who are doing the deep work! Try my Sacred Circle for a month and see! 4 spiritual counseling calls with me each month – ask me any question! Join me live or get the download later.

NEW – Teacher Trainings!

Are you interested in stepping up your game and sharing your talents? Do you have self-doubt you’d like to transform so that you can share your gifts and inspire others?

Jon Mundy and I are offering minister & teacher training retreats in August. If you’d like to learn about these trainings in inspirational writing, teaching and speaking, click here for more information. These retreats are open to anyone who’d like to build their skills AND do some deep spiritual healing of patterns of unworthiness!

Would you like to share your gifts and talents with more authenticity and confidence? Are you ready to stop playing small and stop waiting for the perfect moment to shine your light?

Three new trainings co-led by me and Jon Mundy. There are Payment plans!

Training #1 – Inspirational Writing
Thursday August 16 to Sunday 19th – 3 nights

Training #2 – Leading/Creating A Workshop –
Includes how to lead my Forgive & Be Free Workshop
Sunday August 19th to Thursday 23rd – 4 nights

Training #3 – Inspired Speaking – Giving An Inspiring Talk
Thursday August 23 to Sunday 26th – 3 nights

All three consecutive events will be held at Scottsdale Plaza Resort, in Scottsdale Arizona, right next to Phoenix. Click here for more info and registration!

Come for 1, 2 or 3 of these professional trainings. Power of Love Ministry is developing a ministerial/teacher training and these are part of the curriculum for that training.

We’re an expanding global spiritual community of prayerful people willing to be co-workers with God. We’re waking up together and finding freedom in our hearts. I’m so grateful for this!

If you find what I’m sharing helpful, won’t you please LIKE this post and share at facebook and twitter to let others know? Thank you!

 

If you’d like to hear more on this topic from A Course in Miracles perspective, click here now to listen to or download my radio show episode: Healing From Relationship Hell.  You can also get the transcript there.

For a searchable list of all my radio show episodes click here to go to LivingACourseinMiracles.com/radio.

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The Best

Saturday, June 16th, 2018

What’s the greatest feeling in the world? For me, it’s when I can feel that my experience of Love is true, honest and full-on. When I can feel that flow of unconditional Love, it’s the best.

What I notice is that the experience I’m having doesn’t have to be the most perfect looking. The people I’m extending Love to don’t have to be doing anything FOR me.

It’s absolutely wonderful when I can LOVE everything just as it is. That’s the BEST!
It’s so wonderful when we ALLOW ourselves to simply Love someone without condition, without opinion, without control and manipulation. It’s thrilling to be able to offer a gift of Love and have ZERO attachments, and to feel that gift is fully accepted in the way it was intended. That’s a pure experience of Love connection.

One of the things I used to notice all the time was that I would feel either reluctant to express Love, or resistant to receive Love. Many of us have frequent experiences of feeling that Love has strings attached, or that someone is giving us something with conditions. If we truly desire to have healthy relationships and move out of co-dependency then it can feel icky to be in a conditional, giving to get relationship situation.

Our true nature is to BE the Love that is available to be expressed and revealed, felt and shared NOW. It can take getting used to, and it’s SO worth it!

I invite you to practice noticing when you feel a resistance or reluctance to be in the free flow of Love and to open your awareness to the highest choice that is available to you. This is how we transform the old patterns of history and ancestry and move into the fullest experience of Love that’s available to us NOW. It takes a willingness to have a new experience and not know exactly how it’s going to go NOW.

In this way, we learn to trust LOVE itself. We learn how to BE the Loving expression of our Divinity, NOW.

Love reboots the circuits and purifies the inner pathways. Gratitude opens the flow of good. Forgiveness opens the flow of prosperity.

This year, let’s make the commitment to be willing to have a new experience every day – to cultivate a sense of security that comes from BEING our true selves, rather than being protective and defensive. I’m with you. Let’s do it together.

I’m grateful that I can have a new experience of Love and experience a healing. I share the benefits with all beings, so grateful to be One with ALL. That’s greatness!

I AM One with the One who Invented Love. My story is a Love story!

Would you like to share your gifts and talents with more authenticity and confidence? Ready to stop playing small and waiting for the perfect moment?

Three new trainings co-led by me and Jon Mundy. Registration is open now with Early Bird Pricing & Payment plans!

Training #1 – Inspirational Writing
Thursday August 16 to Sunday 19th
3 nights

Training #2 – Leading/Creating A Workshop –
Includes how to lead my Forgive & Be Free Workshop
Sunday August 19th to Thursday 23rd
4 nights

Training #3 – Inspired Speaking – Giving An Inspiring Talk
Thursday August 23 to Sunday 26th
3 nights

All three consecutive events will be held at Scottsdale Plaza Resort, in Scottsdale Arizona, right next to Phoenix. Click here for more info and registration!

Come for 1, 2 or 3 of these professional trainings. Power of Love Ministry is developing a ministerial/teacher training and these are part of the curriculum for that training.

We’re an expanding global spiritual community of prayerful people willing to be co-workers with God. We’re waking up together and finding freedom in our hearts. I’m so grateful for this!

If you find what I’m sharing helpful, won’t you please share at facebook and twitter to let others know? Thank you!

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Relationship Harmony

Sunday, June 3rd, 2018

I’ve experienced some extraordinary relationship healing in my life and I’m so very grateful. For me, there’s been nothing more upsetting to me than the difficulties in my relationships. They have challenged me to the core of my being. I’m so glad that I learned that this is precisely what relationships are for.

I’ve learned not to walk away from a difficult relationship.
I’ve learned to never give up on myself or anyone else.

Instead, I’ve come to absolutely know that the thing to do is to give it UP to the Higher Holy Spirit Self for miraculous healing. This method works, but that doesn’t make it easy.

Relationship attachments can be like an alien parasite. It makes me think of the terrifying movie, Aliens with Sigourney Weaver (LOVE her!). Remember when the member of the crew was on the operating table and the alien exploded out of his belly? I went through a period where I was undoing the ego at such a rapid rate that I felt that I was pregnant with an alien baby terrorist that was trying to eat me alive from the inside.

It’s that feeling when the third chakra is going through such an intense cleansing. The third chakra, at the solar plexis, is all about our self-perception. When we’re perceiving ourselves as the ego, the small, selfish self, then it’s a constant battle with an inner terrorist. We’ll project it outward into ALL of our relationships and never feel self.

When we’re willing to shift identification to the Higher Holy Spirit Self, then we can begin to see clearly what every relationship is for. Then, we can have holy relationships. It’s intensely challenging, but THANK GOD we don’t have to figure out HOW to make it all happen. We only have to allow.

This is the time where we’re all learning about Self-Love – Self with a capital S. This is the curriculum, and we can delay, and we can avoid, but we’ll still have to do the curriculum eventually. Let’s get to it! Heaven is at hand!

The best way to get to it is really focus on loving yourself IN all of your relationships.

I dedicate February to relationships on my weekly radio show. Many have told me those episodes have really helped them to have a new and healing perspective on their relationships. They are all free for the listening and downloading. Sign up for the podcast and you’ll have easy access to them all!

We’re almost there! I’m getting ready to announce three new trainings for those who are interested in professional training for your spiritual expansion. These three events are going to be co-led by Jon Mundy. Registration information is coming early next week!

Training #1 – Inspirational Writing
Thursday August 16 to Sunday 19th
3 nights

Training #2 – Leading/Creating A Workshop –
Includes how to lead my Forgive & Be Free Workshop
Sunday August 19th to Thursday 23rd
4 nights

Training #3 – Inspired Speaking – Giving An Inspiring Talk
Thursday August 23 to Sunday 26th
3 nights

All three consecutive events will be held at The Time Hotel in Nyack, NY, a mere 45 minutes from either midtown Manhattan or Laguardia airport. Click here for more info about The Time Hotel.

Come for 1, 2 or 3 of these professional trainings. Power of Love Ministry is developing a ministerial/teacher training and these are part of the curriculum for that training. Registration information is coming soon!

We’re an expanding global spiritual community of prayerful people willing to be co-workers with God. We’re waking up together and finding freedom in our hearts. I’m so grateful for this!

If you find what I’m sharing helpful, won’t you please share at facebook and twitter to let others know? Thank you!

 

If you’d like to hear more on this topic from A Course in Miracles perspective, click here now to listen to or download my radio show episode: Transforming Anger to Harmony. You can also get the transcript there.

For a searchable list of all my radio show episodes click here to go to LivingACourseinMiracles.com/radio.

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Time

Saturday, June 2nd, 2018

Yesterday, I had a good long talk with my precious friend Lisa Natoli. We were sharing that we were both getting the same intuitive guidance to slow down and take more time to be with Spirit. We’re both aware that the next steps, the healing, the inspiration and the deep sense of rightness that we are interested in come through the choice to be with the Presence.

One thing that I know bothers many people is the concept that there’s not enough time. It does feel like we’re bound by time and space, but if we’re willing, we can break those bonds and open our minds to see the truth of it.

We can say that we know that time and space are an illusion, but if we’re bothered by a sense of lack of time, then we don’t REALLY know it. We believe something else is true, and that’s the thing that bothers us. It’s an intellectual concept and we don’t actually know it.

I used to be so very bothered by not having enough time. I can tell you that I had a very strong belief that I was wasting time. I believed that I needed to be far more time efficient in order to be more productive and get more done.

I finally saw that all of that urgency around getting things done and being productive was to compensate for my belief in myself as being fundamentally wrong and bad. I felt SO bad that I needed to accomplish more to cover it up and compensate.

When I was younger I needed a lot more sleep than I do now. I found that when I started to put more energy into meditating, forgiving, letting the past go and being compassionate that my need for sleep sharply decreased.

I used to need nine hours a night to feel fully rested. Now, many nights spirit wakes me up after six hours and sometimes less. I rarely set a clock, so Spirit just wakes me when it’s time. I know that I used to need that time for processing things in dream time.

It bothered me greatly that I wasted so much time in sleeping. I tried some crazy things to try and reduce the amount of time that I slept each day, but it only ended up in an increase in caffeine intake and ultimately I got sick. I used to have all kinds of schemes to try and be smarter than life. I found they were all ways to learn through experience. Now, I prefer to re-cognize through direct knowing, experiential learning takes a lot of time, energy and resources and it can be quite unpleasant at times.

I used to have nightmares and stressful dreams frequently. Now, I cannot recall the last time I had a nightmare and stressful dreams are rare. I’m letting things go. Since I’m carrying less baggage, I don’t get so exhausted and I don’t need as much sleep. I wake up feel refreshed most days and I sleep quite soundly.

When I was in ministerial school I was overwhelmed by my experience of lack in the time department. I felt like I was always running to catch up. I truly believed there was never enough time. I felt like I was on a hamster wheel and no matter how fast I spun that wheel, always running, I couldn’t get enough done.

One day in contemplation I realized that I had been deluded. Of course I had enough time! I’m an eternal being of Love and Light. How could I not have an enough time? I’m an integral part of the Infinite?

Not enough time? Insanity!
From then on the belief in not enough time faded and now, there’s always about 500 hours of things that I could do and would like to have done each day, that don’t get done because I choose to do other things, but NOT because I don’t have enough time.

I definitely discovered that the greatest time-saver there is my spiritual practice. The more I practice being loving with myself and others, the more time that I have to invest in living an inspired life.

I even began to have experiences that showed me that time could be stretched, shortened and bent in ways that I had intuitively known were possible, but hadn’t experienced before then because of my limited beliefs. Now, I have interesting experiences with time and can feel it’s malleable illusory quality.

God will eliminate so many challenges if we’re willing to put our faith in God, in first cause rather than in the world of effects.

I have lived for more than a dozen years feeling no longer tortured by a belief in lack of time. I’m so grateful that Spirit showed me the truth that set me free!

BTW, I’ve done a number of episodes of my weekly A Course in Miracles weekly Radio Show on the topic of Time, Saving Time, and Maximizing Time that you might find interesting. You can search through the archive for episodes on whatever topic you’re interested in.

If you haven’t answered my survey about your interests and you think you might be interested in our teacher trainings and spiritual counselor trainings, please click here now and take 30 seconds to answer my survey.

We’re almost there! I’m getting ready to announce three new trainings for those who are interested in professional training for your spiritual expansion. These three events are going to be co-led by Jon Mundy. Registration information is coming early next week!

Training #1 – Inspirational Writing
Thursday August 16 to Sunday 19th
3 nights

Training #2 – Leading/Creating A Workshop –
Includes how to lead my Forgive & Be Free Workshop
Sunday August 19th to Thursday 23rd
4 nights

Training #3 – Inspired Speaking – Giving An Inspiring Talk
Thursday August 23 to Sunday 26th
3 nights

All three consecutive events will be held at The Time Hotel in Nyack, NY, a mere 45 minutes from either midtown Manhattan or Laguardia airport. Click here for more info about The Time Hotel.

Come for 1, 2 or 3 of these professional trainings. Power of Love Ministry is developing a ministerial/teacher training and these are part of the curriculum for that training. Registration information is coming soon!

We’re an expanding global spiritual community of prayerful people willing to be co-workers with God. We’re waking up together and finding freedom in our hearts. I’m so grateful for this!

If you find what I’m sharing helpful, won’t you please share at facebook and twitter to let others know? Thank you!

 

If you’d like to hear more on this topic from A Course in Miracles perspective, click here now to listen to or download my radio show episode: Time and Space Management. You can also get the transcript there.

For a searchable list of all my radio show episodes click here to go to LivingACourseinMiracles.com/radio.

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Miraculous Relationship Repair

Wednesday, May 23rd, 2018

I’ve experienced some extraordinary relationship healing in my life and I’m so very grateful. For me, there’s been nothing more upsetting to me than the difficulties in my relationships. They have challenged me to the core of my being. I’m so glad that I learned that this is precisely what relationships are for.

I’ve learned not to walk away from a difficult relationship.
I’ve learned to never give up on myself or anyone else.

Instead, I’ve come to absolutely know that the thing to do is to give it UP to the Higher Holy Spirit Self for miraculous healing. This method works, but that doesn’t make it easy. Whenever we’re triggered it’s challenging. Triggers help us to identify when it’s an opportunity to eliminate an old pain patterns

Relationship attachments can be like an alien parasite. It makes me think of the terrifying movie, Aliens with Sigourney Weaver (LOVE her!). Remember when the member of the crew was on the operating table and the alien exploded out of his belly? I went through a period where I was undoing the ego at such a rapid rate that I felt that I was pregnant with an alien baby terrorist that was trying to eat me alive from the inside.

It’s that feeling when the third chakra is going through such an intense cleansing. The third chakra, at the solar plexis, is all about our self-perception. When we’re perceiving ourselves as the ego, the small, selfish self, then it’s a constant battle with an inner terrorist. We’ll project it outward into ALL of our relationships and never feel self.

When we’re projecting it outward we’ll think someone else is the problem, but if we’re the one who is upset, it’s our thinking that is the problem. And that’s a GREAT thing and here’s why:

Wouldn’t you rather have your thought be the problem then thinking it’s YOU or THEM?
Thoughts aren’t people, they’re just thoughts.
How can we really be mad at a thought?
Thoughts have no power unless we choose to think them!
We have the power to decide not to think the thought that upsets us.
And we have the power to decide to let the Higher Holy Spirit Self take the errant thought out of our mind FOREVER.

Our willingness is required.
We choose the thoughts we think, whether we are aware of it or not.

When we’re willing to shift identification to the Higher Holy Spirit Self, then we can begin to see clearly what every relationship is for. Then, we can have holy relationships. It’s intensely challenging, but THANK GOD we don’t have to figure out HOW to make it all happen.

We only have to allow.

Now is the time we’re all learning about Self-Love – Self with a capital S. This is the curriculum, and we can delay, we can avoid, but we’ll still have to do the curriculum eventually. Let’s get to it! Heaven is at hand!

The best way to get to it is really focus on loving yourself IN all of your relationships.

If you’d like some relationship support – check out my A Course in Miracles radio show – there are SO MANY episodes on relationship! Act now, and you can have them all!

I also take relationship questions and offer counseling in my Sacred Circle Spiritual Counseling calls. Try it for a month and ask me any question that you’d like.

TODAY is my Sacred Circle day! This is my monthly membership program that gives you a weekly call of group spiritual counseling. Join my Sacred Circle and you can ask me any question you would like on the phone, on line or in writing! I love it! We have an awesome group of people who are doing the deep work! Try my Sacred Circle for a month and see! 4 spiritual counseling calls with me each month – ask me any question! Join me live or get the download later.

We’re an expanding global spiritual community of prayerful people willing to be co-workers with God. We’re waking up together and finding freedom in our hearts. I’m so grateful for this!

If you find what I’m sharing helpful, won’t you please share at facebook and twitter to let others know? Thank you!

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Mother’s Day Healing

Sunday, May 13th, 2018

We all have many mothers. There’s our birth mother and then there can sometimes be several women who help raise us plus grandmothers and aunties who feel like mothers. I have friends who are very maternal and are almost like a surrogate mother to me.

There’s Mom and then the Divine Mother. Each Mother has a role to play.

Sometimes we get a really great mother and sometimes our mother seems to be lacking. I know for many years I felt that my dear mother felt like a mixed bag to me. It took me a long, long time, to realize how completely perfect she was – for me. For a long time, I was ungrateful, and now I’m wholly grateful.

For a long time I blamed my mother for some of my “problems.” Now, I thank her for my opportunities. I’m so grateful for the teachings of A Course in Miracles which, through truly LIVING them, I’ve been able to transform my life, my perspective and, most importantly, my heart.

When my mother received a terminal illness diagnosis and was told she had a few months to live, I made the heart commitment that we would have a total healing in our relationship before she made her transition. I made it my top priority and I made it my total responsibility.

In self-help programs and in psychological therapy, I was told that I should only take 50% of the responsibility for the quality of my relationships. For me, it was a big shift to go from blaming the other person for ALL of my upset to taking 50% responsibility.

Through my spiritual practice, I came to realize that taking 100% responsibility with 0% blame is the way of healing. I did that with my Mom and I experienced a complete healing and transformation of our relationship before she made her transition.

I’d felt so much hurt, resentment and anger toward my mother, and a lot of it wasn’t even about her at all. It took me SO long to realize that I felt so GUILTY about being mean and unkind to mother, and I was projecting my guilt onto her and blaming her for that too – I didn’t even know it.

I will forever be grateful for the teachings of ACIM which helped me to have faith that the healing would happen. Fortunately, we had all the time we needed. She lived three years after that original diagnosis and about 2.5 years in, I had a total clearing of all the upset from the past. Yes, it was a miraculous and instantaneous experience that was 48 years in the making.

It was my commitment that brought it forth. The healing was so complete and so profound it propelled me to be even more dedicated to my healing, and to sharing with others.

Truly living A Course in Miracles has allowed me to hand over the resentment and regret that tortured me for decades. Making that shift from ungrateful to grateful in my relationship with my mother completely changed my life and my thinking. In a sense, it was the “making” of me.

In the Manual for Teachers, Chapter 4, Development of Trust, it says “It takes great learning to understand that ALL things events, encounters and circumstances are helpful.” It’s a giant breakthrough in awareness when one is willing to discover the Truth of that statement.

In my classes I say, Prove God in your life. Prove what’s true about God and you’ll never regret it. When we’re intent on the truth, that which is false easily falls away.

I was so completely dedicated to my opinions and yet I was still able to learn that the truth really does set you free. Are you willing to be free? Or do you in some way still blame others for your circumstances? Do you deny the learning in order to hold onto the judgment and then force yourself to repeat the lessons over and over? I did that so frequently.

If you’d like to give yourself a new relationship with your mother(s), you can. It’s easier than you think, but only if you’re truly willing to be loving – to be able to love without needing to get ANYTHING in return. Love is not a “give to get” experience, it’s your true nature revealed. Give the Higher Holy Spirit Self the heavy lifting – let Spirit undo all the consequences of your “wrong decisions” of the past.

BTW, I have done a couple of episodes about mothers on my weekly A Course in Miracles weekly Radio Show and you can search through the archive for episodes on whatever topic you’re interested in – there are so many on relationship and forgiveness.

I made this VIDEO a few years ago about my Mother’s Day Makeover and you can click below to watch it now.

 

And please pray with me! Prayer works! Joining together in prayer for our healing, for the active practice of joining with Spirit, and allowing my healing is precisely why every day I write inspiration and record a prayer to go with it. You can join me in cultivating the willingness that raises us ALL up so we can be truly helpful in this world.

If you haven’t answered my survey about your interests, please click here now and take 30 seconds to answer my survey.

We’re an expanding global spiritual community of prayerful people willing to be co-workers with God. We’re waking up together and finding freedom in our hearts. I’m so grateful for this!

If you find what I’m sharing, helpful won’t you please share at facebook and twitter to let others know? Thank you!

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Attachments to Plans

Monday, April 9th, 2018

In lesson 135 of A Course in Miracles it tells us that “a healed mind does not plan.” This can be quite confusing for many people. How do we live without plans?

As I write this, I’m in Poland and later today I travel to Germany and then tomorrow I fly back to New York and travel to New Jersey to stay with my brother. As soon as I arrive in New Jersey I have a class to teach. On Wednesday, I have two classes. And much more. Obviously, I have many plans.

I probably have more plans than the average person. And here’s how I’ve learned to apply the powerful teaching about having a healed mind and not planning so that I can be free in my mind every day:

It’s about not having attachments.

The key to the end of all suffering is to release all the mental attachments we have to how we believe things should be and how we believe they should not be. The shoulds get in the way. They are designed to get in the way of our happiness.

I make so many plans, and I find the constant release of attachment when plans must change to be a healing opportunity for my mind.

We may not realize it, but we have so many plans. Many times they are hidden, and many times they are the cause of a constant stream of upsets, big and small. For instance, sometimes I might be staying with my brother’s family and have a plan about some fresh raspberries I’ll have for breakfast. And when I go to eat them, someone has beat me to it.

I can be upset about not having what I’d planned, which shows my attachment, or I can release my plan and discover something new is best for me now. When I bought the raspberries that felt good to me, or maybe it was just my ego. I don’t really know what anything is for (ACIM Lesson 25).

What I do know is that any day I can be peaceful is a good day.
Any day I can release an attachment is a good day.
Any day I can feel my heart opening and my mind liberating is a very good day!

I’d rather have a good day than have raspberries!

I used to get upset every day, many times a day.
The release of my plans has been such a great gift to me.

Are you willing to watch your mind for your attachment to your plans?
Are you willing to Love yourself so much that you’d rather be peaceful than cling to your plan?

I cannot say enough about how beneficial it is to release the plans, to listen to the guidance, to practice a new way of living and being. Everyone in your life will benefit!

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