Haven’t we had enough of feeling like a failure? I sure have!
One of the greatest relationship helpers I know of is patience. A Course in Miracles, as well as other spiritual paths, tell us that relationship is the fastest path to our waking up. That’s because all relationships require us to release attachments to how we like things and how we don’t like things. Our loved ones teach us to have compassion. Without compassion, relationship is impossible.
I remember that, for much of my life, my biggest problem was my attachments to my opinions about what was good and what was not. I let my attachments to those opinions poison some really valuable relationships. It caused a HUGE amount of drama in my life. I caused myself great pain and suffering, and I inflicted it on others as well.
The way out of all that suffering was to forgive myself. I had to let go of my self-attack thoughts and replace them with self-compassion.
It’s a great relationship helper to realize that giving up the attachments will bring the Peace.
Being right about our opinions will bring no Peace. Being right brings the smallest temporary satisfaction, followed by more guilt – even if we don’t realize it.
We can help our relationships be more loving and more intimate by practicing giving up attachments to our opinions on the littlest things. In this way, we can make every day a victory day. Any little victory I can have over the ego personality is a great victory. I am grateful for each and every one of them. They add up!!
This is how we can undo feeling like a failure all day long! Truly, it works!
When we have a victory over our opinions and attachments, we are lessening the sense of unworthiness that can keep us investing time, energy, and money in all kinds of things that aren’t worthwhile. It’s a RELIEF!
It’s also a blessing that we CAN be successful each day if we choose to take the opportunities that are there for us. Each victory is one we share with all beings. All boats rise on this tide of Love!
Can you think of an attachment you gave up that improved your relationship? Please tell us about it and share in the comments below! Let’s join together for our healing! Thank you!