Archive for the ‘Self-Healing’ Category

Undoing Ego Thinking

Tuesday, October 20th, 2020

In my podcast today, I’ll be sharing about Undoing the Ego Thinking.  This is the primary focus in my classes – so that we can feel more Peace, Love and Joy. The ego thought system is one that ensnares us, like a fly caught in a Venus trap.  We felt the attraction, we got caught, stuck and trapped.  We didn’t have the strength to get out.  

All of that can change.

Our willingness to get off the pain train and stay off is all that’s Required.

I’ve done a battle with pleasure and pain in a way that is familiar to any folks.  I’ve gone after pleasures of eating, exercising, drinking and even smoking to excess so that I am absolutely clear that I’m not helping myself, not enjoying myself and in some twisted way punishing myself.  It was demoralizing and I’m very glad I don’t feel compulsive about that kind of behavior any longer.

This experience of confusion between pleasure and pain could be something like a lovely dessert that becomes two or three portions and then a feeling of way too much sugar.  I don’t have much of a sweet tooth, but I used to do that with chips, popcorn and crackers.  I’d feel that I’d eaten too much and definitely too much salt.  

I notice now that I rarely overeat, and I rarely eat things that I regret and that’s HUGE for me.  I know now that it happened because of my willingness to do the self-forgiveness inner work.  This is why I feel compelled to keep offering opportunities to do this work in a group – so we don’t get overwhelmed by our resistance and reluctance.

Every year, folks in class with me tell me stories of how they did the class work and they naturally experienced losing a bunch of weight and keeping it off, having arthritis pain lesson dramatically and then needing fewer and fewer pain killers, as well as, of course, chronic pain disappearing entirely.

I think for some people the constant feeling of physical discomfort is what keeps them in the cycle of negative pleasure.  I can remember feeling that some form of self-medication was “all I had” that brought me pleasure.  It was “all I had” to take my mind off my unhappiness.

I used so many things that were enjoyable in small doses but became painful in larger doses.  They were all meant to distract me from my feelings, but they only led me into a deeper hole of feeling that I was a fake and a failure.

It’s so liberating to be able to enjoy the pleasures of life without feeling addicted or compulsive towards them.  I feel that my whole life is better because I’m not having to control my impulses, I’m naturally choosing the things that are self-loving.  It’s a whole different way of living.  It’s a MAJOR release of worry and guilt and shame.  YAY!

It’s because spiritual practice has eliminated the ROOT CAUSE of my negative pleasure habits.  DOUBLE YAY!

This healing has definitely brought me a constant feeling of higher vibration in my beingness.  

Living at a higher vibration, I notice that I naturally am less interested in lower vibrational choices, so I don’t have to struggle with behavior modification and trying to release those negative pleasure habits – they fell away gracefully.  HALLELUJAH.  I didn’t even IMAGINE that was possible for me.

The healing power and presence of God’s Love is REAL.

I know that now.  I also now know that it’s available for everyone.

I really didn’t think I’d be able to get to the place I am now.  The main turning point for me was when I made my spiritual life and practice the most important part of my life.  It was during that time that I shifted into the healing practices that became my Finding Freedom From Fear spiritual bootcamp and my life began change for the better – and it’s continued to this day.  

My whole orientation changed and I began to achieve lasting success and the healing took hold in my heart and mind.

I no longer have any days where I feel like I’m sliding back.  That feeling is gone and I am forever grateful!

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Healing Our Regrets

Tuesday, September 29th, 2020

When I was a teenager, in my twenties and beyond, I would sometimes say and do things that I’d later regret and wish to bury forever.  I’ve had all kinds of experiences that led me to be self-disgusted and even afraid of my own emotions and outbursts.

I’ve had times when I got really drunk and couldn’t remember half of what I said, and what I did – although I’m 100% certain I never I never was molested or attacked someone myself while under the influence.  

I used to have memories of things that would make me cringe.  Self-forgiveness freed me from all of them.  

Self-forgiveness gave me humility and common sense.

Self-forgiveness gave me the freedom to no longer beat myself up from the past.

Most people I know have strong regrets, some people are tortured by them and I pray they find self-forgiveness.

My life of mistakes, short comings, obnoxious and belligerent behavior and outbursts, and a million missed opportunities to extend Love has taught me to take responsibility for my choices and actions.  To learn from them and share what I learn.  

No blame.  

No shame.

As Thich Nhat Hath says, blaming never helps.

Everyone I know makes errors.

Life is a constant stream of tactical errors, missteps, freakouts, meltdowns and mayhem, and yet, we can rise above the battleground with self-forgiveness.  We can remember to laugh.  We can remember to have compassion.  We can set ourselves free with admitting the truth, and having the humility to take responsibility for  our choices and their effects.

One thing that helps me is the last paragraph at the end of Chapter V, the text of A Course in Miracles –  this one paragraph is a complete life-changer:

“Decision cannot be difficult.  This is obvious, if you realize that you must already have decided not to be wholly joyous if that is how you feel.  Therefore, the first step in the undoing is to recognize that you actively decided wrongly, but can as actively decide otherwise.  Be very firm with yourself in this, and keep yourself fully aware that the undoing process, which does not come from you, is nevertheless within you because God placed it there.  Your part is merely to return your thinking to the point at which the error was made, and give it over to the Atonement in peace.  Say this to yourself as sincerely as you can, remembering that the Holy Spirit will respond fully to your slightest invitation:  I must have decided wrongly, because I am not at peace.  I made the decision myself, but I can also decide otherwise.  I want to decide otherwise, because I want to be at peace.  I do not feel guilty, because the Holy Spirit will undo all the consequences of my wrong decision if I will let Him.  I choose to let Him, by allowing Him to decide for God for me.”  T-5.VII.6. 

Let’s give all the consequences to the Holy Spirit for healing and move the heck on in gratitude for the gift of God’s unerring grace!  Are you willing?

If you’d like to have a major increase in your connection with Spirit and feeling PEACE of mind, you might like my  Finding Freedom From Fear, spiritual bootcamp class with ACIM principles.  Join me and you will be able to close out this year feeling like you had one of the best years ever! This is your chance, if you’d like to join me and GO FOR IT!  

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Accepting Divine Support

Thursday, August 27th, 2020

I’m so glad that people CAN change. I’m so glad that I am a person who can change. Thank GOD!

I used to walk into every situation and start looking for what was wrong and bad. I would look for the thing to complain about. I was a chronic complainer, and it was ALWAYS easy to find something I didn’t like or thought should be different.

It took me decades to see that if I affirm there’s a problem that needs fixing then I’m firmly anchored in the thought that the Divine has disappeared, and now, I’m on my own. I have to deal with it all myself.

Fortunately, the only thing required for a healing is for me to see the situation rightly.

As long as I’d like to be a person with a problem, then I will see a problem and it will seem very real to me. As long as I affirm that things aren’t right I won’t be able to see them rightly.

The Infinite has no problems that elude its problem-solving abilities because there are no problems in Divine Mind.

It is I who saw the problem, affirmed the problem, identified the problem, and collected all the evidence to support the existence of my big, bad problem.

In each of these stages of problem identification, I would become increasingly convinced that the problem was real and threatening. It felt more and more like God had left the building and I needed to solve this problem that was eating my life!

Every problem is built on the often hidden belief that, as I like to put it, “God left the building.” It can be very tricky to see that the fear that God is gone is the only problem. Since the Divine never goes on a vacation or hides it’s Divinity, the whole problem I’m creating a library of evidence to support is, in truth, completely a fabrication of a fearful mind. It’s all based on the false premise of: “What if I were separate from God?”

Now, as good spiritual students, we can say that we know all that. We understand separation thinking is the real problem – but do we?

If we no longer believe we’re separate, but we persist in thinking we have problems, then we don’t actually KNOW what we say we believe – and there’s the rub.

Healing happens when I recognize every challenge has come to help me be more loving, more kind, more compassionate, more in line with my Divine nature, more aware of the unity of all life. End of story.

It’s so simple, and yet fear is pervasive unless I stand anchored in the truth of omnipresent Divinity. This is my job. This is my ONLY job. All else I give to the One who has never left and can never leave.

In my surrender, I discover that my only prayer request is for the faith to know the Divine in every part of my life and always will be. The Holy Presence cannot leave the building, it IS the building and everything that surrounds it, as well as everything it contains.

God cannot leave me, nor can I leave God. Phew! Problem solved!


Eliminating Victim Consciousness

Wednesday, August 26th, 2020

Some people are looking to feel hurt. They are actually hoping they’ll get wounded in their connections with people. I’ve been there. I actually have done that. I’ve entered into situations with people anticipating that I’d be disappointed, hurt and that I’d walk away feeling rejected. Many people, just like me, have an attraction to victimhood.

I find it deeply comforting that our true self, our Higher Holy Spirit Self, the Mighty I AM Presence of us cannot be hurt, and cannot be a victim.

I aspire to live in a way that I AM unhurt-able. I get closer every day.

To be unhurt-able not because I’ve put up some kind of wall or shield to protect me, but because I don’t ever take anything personally. Ponder this: we’re one with each other, all completely united and one, can we actually hurt each other, or are we making it up? Are we hurting ourselves? Or are we simply having experiences and choosing to take things as an offense?

What I absolutely know is that the safest emotional place for me to live in this world is with my heart so wide open that I can embrace everything and keep nothing out.

No judgments, no hurts. No expectations, no disappointments. And no victims, either.

It’s the hardening of the heart, the blocking and withholding of Love that causes pain, anger, upset, and hurt. It’s trying to avoid hurt that causes the pain. The pain comes from taking ourselves out of the flow of Love.

Feeling hurt is a choice I don’t intend to make anymore.

I’m interested in eliminating choosing to be hurt and offended, because being hurt is not a good use of my energy and I don’t enjoy it. I am much more interested in liberating from false beliefs and being of service.

I used to be angry much of the time.
Now, I feel peaceful most of the time – and I’m looking forward to the good that I absolutely know is unfolding. I like this so much better than “preparing for the worst.”

And I’m not a victim anymore.

Since I’m the one who decides how I will perceive something, I can take everything as an opportunity to extend Love or receive Love.

To have Love, give all Love to All. It’s simple. It’s not easy, but thank God it’s simple! At least it’s not confusing!

Doesn’t being open hearted and unhurt-able sound great? I’m pretty sure that’s our natural state. After all, we’re light beings. How do you damage light? You can’t. It’s not even possible, so I’ve decided to stop believing it’s possible. Instead, I’m calling forth miracles.

I’m going for it! How about you? Are you willing to open your heart so much that you’d be unhurt-able and give up feeling like a victim? We can do this!

We can rid ourselves of victim consciousness and share the benefits with everyone!

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End to Misery

Saturday, August 22nd, 2020

Every day, more than ever, I’m feeling more and more people are going through a really hard time.

Some of them are people I know and Love, but most are people I don’t know, still, I can feel them.

I know you’re probably already doing this, but I feel compelled to remind everyone to reach out to the people who are on the fringes of your life.  Connect with those people you don’t usually call or hang out with, but you have their email or their phone number.  Just see if they’re okay.

Many people are not okay.  

I got the nudge to connect with someone I see only occasionally and the message I got back is that they’re miserable.  

I used to speak at Agape’s Sunday night service once a month.  I did that for about 10 years.  And what I often saw was quite a few people who had too much time on their own over the weekend.  

There are many folks who implode if they have too much time alone.  If you’re one of them, I encourage you to find a way to be of service in your community.  There’s a lot that people need help with now.  

Maybe you like to bake, and you could just bake cookies for everyone in the neighborhood.

Maybe you can just determine who among the people you know is having a tough time and let them know you care.

My prayer partners and I have been meeting on the phone each week for about 14 years.  When the pandemic started our 30 minute phone call once a week became a 1 hour zoom.  And now we get together twice a week.  We need the extra connection and we’re enjoying it.  It’s precious to us.

It’s true that some people choose to look at things with so much judgment and negativity that they make themselves miserable, and still, we can have compassion for them, pray and know that there is that within them that can transcend even this desperate misery.

Praying brings benefit to everyone.  I’m so glad you’re praying with me today!  Thank you!

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Don’t Bring Me Down

Thursday, August 20th, 2020

I used to believe that other people could bring me down.

I truly believed that other people’s “energy” could bring me down. People talk about this as though it’s a real thing.  

Similarly, I’ve had many, many people come to me as a spiritual counselor because they are so bothered by someone they’re in a relationship with and they’re blaming the difficulty in the relationship entirely on the other person.

Blaming other people for bringing us down, or for ruining our relationships is an abdication of responsibility AND it’s also a guarantee that we will not find more than fleeting happiness.

A Course in Miracles is very clear on this subject in the section of the Text entitled, “Responsibility for Sight,” where it says: 

“This is the only thing that you need do for vision, happiness, release from pain and the complete escape from sin, all to be given you. 

Say only this, but mean it with no reservations, for here the power of salvation lies:

I am responsible for what I see.

I choose the feelings I experience, 

and I decide upon the goal I would achieve. 

And everything that seems to happen to me I ask for, 

and receive as I have asked.

Deceive yourself no longer that you are helpless in the face of what is done to you. Acknowledge but that you have been mistaken, and all effects of your mistakes will disappear.” 

When we’re saying that someone else can bring us down we’re deceiving ourselves.

And we’re not taking responsibility for how we feel.  

I’ve learned that in order to feel happy most of the time, I have to recognize that I am the one who chooses how I will feel, because I am the one who chooses how I will interpret what’s happening in my life.  

I choose to be happy.  It’s worth it.  I’m worth it.

We are not victims of life.  

We are the ones who are generating our life.

Life is not happening to us, but we can deceive ourselves into believing that it is.

I never would have believed that taking total responsibility, with zero blame, would be my path to happiness.  I blamed everyone else for every problem that I had.  I did that for many years and it never, ever made me happy.  There’s my proof.

I say, PROVE GOD in your life.

Prove the principles.

Prove the teachings.

Find out what’s true and what’s not.

When you’ve proved it, you KNOW the truth.

Knowing the truth is LIBERATION.

Today is our liberation day.  The moment is now!

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Not Waiting Anymore

Thursday, August 13th, 2020

My beautiful friend, Laurie Schur is a poet, filmmaker, therapist, and all-round beautiful woman and she often shares wonderful and inspiring things with me like this poem.  

Life at Midlife

I am no longer waiting for a special occasion; I burn the best candles on ordinary days.

I am no longer waiting for the house to be clean; I fill it with people who understand that even dust is Sacred.

I am no longer waiting for everyone to understand me; it’s just not their task.

I am no longer waiting for *the perfect children; my children have their own names that burn as brightly as any star.

I am no longer waiting for the other shoe to drop; It already did, and I survived.

I am no longer waiting for the time to be right; the time is always now.

I am no longer waiting for the mate who will complete me; I am grateful to be so warmly, tenderly held.

I am no longer waiting for a quiet moment; my heart can be stilled whenever it is called.

I am no longer waiting for the world to be at peace; I unclench my grasp and breathe peace in and out.

I am no longer waiting to do something great; being awake to carry my grain of sand is enough.

I am no longer waiting to be recognized; I know that I dance in a holy circle.

I am no longer waiting for Forgiveness.

I believe, I Believe. 

Mary Anne Perrone

In reading this beautiful poem, I’m so clear that I too am no longer waiting for things that I used to wait for when I was a younger woman.  

I like to use the good china even if it’s just me.  

I’m not waiting for a special occasion.

I can tell people I love them, without an excuse.   

I love you.

I am grateful!

I am choosing to remember that I’m already as holy as holy can be and I’m not waiting to get there!

I am choosing to realize that I am already free and to go there in my mind – no more waiting!

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Living in Alignment

Wednesday, August 12th, 2020

Have you ever felt that you’ve labored in vain? I have! It was only because I wasn’t living in LOVE.

STUDYING spiritual principle and LIVING spiritual principle are two different things with completely different results.

I’ve tried it both ways. Studying can actually be a great way that the ego distracts us from growing. Reading books, listening to audios, and studying many hours can be a great way to keep us preoccupied with thinking that we’re doing something fruitful, when actually we’re just spinning our wheels and very little healing is happening.

An active practice of being loving, patient, kind and generous is profoundly healing, AND it builds a solid foundation for your life.

This is one of the things I was sharing in detail about in my podcast yesterday.

Sometimes we act loving in order to get approval?
Do you ever do that? I’ve done it more times than I could count!

Do you have an intellectual understanding of God without taking it deep into the heart of your life and living FROM that source of all-knowing wisdom? That was me.

Think of Jesus and the Pharisees. The Pharisees were the political/religious leaders that were often confronting Jesus and questioning him. While Jesus was about God’s business, living and teaching spiritual Truth, the Pharisees were more focused on how other people saw them and policing people. They were looking to set an example while Jesus was the living example. While the Pharisees were busy judging and criticizing, Jesus attained the Christ Mind.

Studying spiritual Truth without applying it is what people have done for thousands of years. It feels like it’s getting closer and closer to being a thing of the past.

We’re leading humanity in the direction of spiritual Freedom which comes from walking the talk and living the Love.

Living in alignment with principle is deeply FULFILLING, studying principle is an intellectual pursuit that never brings Spirit into the heart for the true attainment. Let’s live it and be it and lead the way in Love! We can labor in vain or make life a labor of Love! Let Love rule and everybody wins!

We’re waking up together and I’m so grateful for that!

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Forgiving the Past

Tuesday, August 11th, 2020

There’s so much opportunity for healing right now if we’re willing to take it.  This came through in the healing meditation I did on Sunday in our Sundays With Spirit celebration with Lisa Natoli.  Every upset is a healing opportunity if we’ll take it.  

We do have to be willing to have the healing.  And true willingness means a willingness to change our mind.  It’s easier to change our minds and be kind when we join together.

One of the great benefits I see of the work that we do in our classes of Masterful Lliving and Finding Freedom, is that we join together. There’s a great joy in joining together when it’s for the purpose of being more open to giving and receiving love.  We have an opportunity to practice loving kindness together even when we’re intensely triggered.

There’s an old saying that it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.  This is certainly true. And yet, So often, many of us decide that love is too painful and we close our hearts.  

It’s also true that it’s better to have been kind and lost than never to have been kind at all.  

There’s a big mistake that we make. It is a mis – take.  Love is the only painful when we’re judging. But that’s not love.  Love and attack thoughts can’t coexist.   It seems like Love is painful when we’re actually pretending to love while trying to control, manage, and manipulate instead of being loving and kind.  

The ego interpretation of our pain is that love is the cause of it. 

But love is never the cause of pain. Never ever.

When we’re judging ourselves or the ones we say that we love, then love appears to be painful in the egos opinions, but that does not make it true.

If you’d like to have a healing about this, be willing to forgive yourself for having made that interpretation. Forgive yourself for having decided that love is painful, when in actuality it is your attack thoughts that are painful, and that’s what makes you run from Love – you do not feel worthy because of your attack thoughts.

We must all forgive ourselves for having attacked the one we say we love.

 We can forgive ourselves for shaming and blaming and criticizing and condemning the ones we love. We can forgive ourselves for trying to manipulate them to feel guilty so that they’ll do what we want them to do. Forgive, forgive, forgive.  

Self-Love is forgiving ourselves for our unkindnesses. 

Self-Love is being kind and compassionate with ourselves for having been unkind to others.

When I was growing up, my parents tried very hard to control me, and that infuriated me, we had a war and it wasn’t any fun.  Nobody won.

I experienced a deep sense of self hatred, and fortunately I made the decision to transform that self-hatred into love.

In doing so, I had to forgive myself.

And then, of course there was nothing else to forgive anyone for. It was all about me.  I discovered that I didn’t hate my Self.  I hated being identified with a false self, a small and selfish self.

In healing my own mind, and perceptions, about my self and life I freed my parents as well. Everyone lightened up in my whole family when I lightened up. I never could’ve known it would be so miraculous had I not decided to do it. There is  great power in our decisions. 

We can decide for love or for hate. This is our choice. We are not meant to struggle alone with the spiritual practice. Those days are over. Yes, it’s good to be contemplative and have time to be with spirit.  But that is so entirely different than isolating in order to avoid the pain of human contact.

In my classes people work in small groups and in prayer partnerships and they have an opportunity to practice unconditional love and non-judgment in a safe space. They are able to share their shame for having been so unloving and so unkind and a great healing occurs.  

Treasure the people you can join with who will give you the space to be transparent and authentic.  Offer them the same non-judgmental space too.  It will be deeply healing, and allow you to actively forgive the past.  It’s so worth it!

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Change It UP!

Friday, July 31st, 2020

For a couple of years, I’ve not had a home of my own and it’s been a continuous adventure in releasing attachments and living in the flow – which is so healing for my mind. I’ve had long periods of “homelessness” and I stopped calling it that because people would write to me with concern and invite me to come and stay with them. There’s the thought that being homeless is a “bad” thing and while it can definitely be challenging, it can also be liberating!

My having been “on the road” and without a home base challenges some people. I have the same conversation over and over:

Someone asks, “Where do you live?”
I say, “I live wherever I am.”

“So, you live here?”
“I do, for this week, day month.”

“Where’s your home?”
“I don’t have a home.”

“But where’s your home base?”
“I don’t have a home base.”

“Well, where’s your stuff?”
“I can tell you where my stuff is, but why do you need to know where my stuff is?”

And then they usually say something like “I’m just trying to understand.” For a lot of people, it’s challenging for them to wrap their mind around – and I understand that. It’s not usual.

People might wander for a time, but not usually for years. And since people don’t usually wander for years, they have a home base.

They wonder why I would choose this way of living OR they think it’s exciting and wonderful.

I don’t feel like I chose it. I feel like it was guidance and I’m following along.

Moving around and being in different places and environments, traveling with a little or a lot of stuff is a constant practice of non-attachment.

I feel my mind healing so rapidly through this higher intensity of practicing non-attachment because It’s harder to settle into routines and to get attached to how things are. It’s definitely easier to stay in one place and know exactly where everything is.

I don’t enjoy packing and unpacking.
I do enjoy the spiritual healing and growth.

We can practice non-attachment wherever we are and it’s deeply healing.

I HIGHLY recommend it. It’s so helpful to notice each day where the attachments to routine are and to make the effort to relax the mind and let them go and try new things.

Experimenting is a wonderful spiritual practice of discovery!

I encourage you to pay attention to the “should” that still dominate your thinking. Examine the patterns of behavior that you have a strong attachment to. Look for your attachments to how you like things to be and how you don’t like them to be and be willing to just do things differently for a day, a week, a month. You’ll discover things you cannot possibly discover any other way.

And the bonus is, you’ll be giving yourself the opportunity to release more attachments more rapidly! Nice!

2nd MAJOR bonus is that not doing the same things in the same way in the same place all the time keeps you present in the moment.

Sleep on a different side of the bed.
Use a different toothpaste.
Go to bed and wake up at a different time.
Try something different for breakfast.
Take a different route to or from work.
Listen to a different kind of music.

If it feels really challenging then know that your healing awaits you! What a relief to let go of attachments! It’s absolutely liberating!

What attachments from your daily living do you notice that you could let go and experience a greater Freedom? Please share in the comments section!

Do you have the willingness to change it UP?


Grudges and Grievances

Friday, July 24th, 2020

I was an epic grudge holder. I was a dedicated grievance monger. I was a chronic complainer. And as I write these words, I can feel the energy of war, attack, violence that is in each of those thought patterns.

It made sense to me that holding grudges, grievances and complaints was a good strategy in life – until I realized what it was costing me and then I began to look for the fastest path to unwind those patterns from my mind.

Right now, I can feel that there’s an extraordinary opportunity for anyone who’d like to surrender these patterns and relieve themselves of the accompanying suffering that attends them.

It feels to me as though right now there’s a truly golden opportunity for anyone interested in letting the past go. It’s like being in some kind of spiritual car wash with a POWER CLEAN setting.

Of course we must be willing.
We must desire to let the past go and see the benefit in it.
And then we must actually CHOOSE to let it go – meaning that we change the channel of our mind to gratitude, and healing, and something wonderful instead of the past.

Each time we do this we’re not only helping ourselves, our family and loved ones, we’re helping ALL humanity, and future generations.

There are no small miracles. There are no small acts of Love.

“All expressions of love are maximal.” A Course in Miracles

Let’s put the pedal to the metal here and focus on this work at hand. Nothing is more important. It WILL bring healing, Abundance, Prosperity, Clarity, Freedom, Joy and all good things.

Offering up our complaints, grudges and grievances is the great gift we can offer right now.

Time to focus and make this clearing out our priority!

Are you with me?


Outsider – When You Feel Like You Don’t Belong

Tuesday, December 3rd, 2019

You might be surprised to learn that most spiritual students feel like an outsider. Think of it: all these people who are connected in spiritual community and yet they still feel like an outsider.

At the A Course in Miracles conference this year in Boston, I offered an afternoon workshop about starting a Study Group that was SO powerful. Many there shared that they really desired to start an ACIM Study Group, but they were afraid for people they knew to know what they were up to. In that experience, in that life, there’s a sense of not belonging and being different. It’s a projection of our sense of separation.

For a long time I felt that I didn’t belong in so many different ways.

I remember when I was a kid that I started school earlier than some – my birthday is at the end of November, and so I started school early – and I wasn’t really as mature as the other kids. I’m not complaining, but I do sense that I felt different.

Then, as I got older, there was talk of me skipping a grade but my parents didn’t do it because I was already younger than others in the class. The reason for me skipping a grade is that they knew I was bored. The compromise was for me to do extra book reports.

I know that in junior high school I was really beginning to feel like I didn’t fit in, but I managed to find my crowd of misfits to feel comfortable enough. In high school I was with a different group of misfits, and at least we were all misfits and so that made us fit together.

For my teens and twenties, I particularly felt that I didn’t belong but I made the best of it. The main thing I felt was that I didn’t belong on this Earth. As my mind began to clear as a result of my spiritual practice, I went through another period of feeling that I just didn’t fit into this existence – that there was another dimension where I was supposed to be and where I’d feel comfortable.

There are many of us who are here to help lead humanity into the next Golden Age of Enlightenment. We’re in this in-between the ages stage. The Piscean Age isn’t quite finished and the Aquarian Age is just getting started. We’re here to help be the bridge to the Golden Age of Enlightenment.

Think of a bridge – it is a structure between two places – and that’s what we are – a bridge between worlds.

I also had NO idea that support was the key to friendship.

So, let’s have it be okay that we don’t belong to the ego structures of this world – we belong to Spirit. We belong to the Light and that’s an absolutely wonderful thing to realize!

Do you feel like you don’t belong? Please share in the comments below and let me know!

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Friday, November 8th, 2019

Self-abuse, and specifically abusing our bodies, is one of the most prevalent acts of violence I see people participating in around the world today.  There is hardly one of us that couldn’t take better care of ourselves in many little ways.  Aren’t all those little acts of abuse a form of self-sabotage?

And isn’t all self-sabotage really a way to slow down our spiritual growth and expansion so that we can try to manage it?

Something I’ve done, and I’ve seen other spiritual seekers do it, too, is we try to separate ourselves from our body.  Yes, we are not our bodies. And still, they are the vehicle we’ve chosen to make this human journey in.  The mind is such a powerful instrument that it actually has the ability to convince us that we are separate from our bodies in such a way as to feel dis-embodied and not responsible for our own self-care.

While we can transcend the body and it is not who we are, it IS the suit we wear to this human party.  I feel better when I appreciate my body and treat it with love and respect for all that it offers me.  It is an excellent tool for communication and Clarity, and we must respect that rather than create one more forgiveness episode.

How many times have I eaten things that I KNEW would make me feel bad? Is that not self-abuse? Would I feed a child something I knew would make them feel poorly just to give them a momentary pleasure? Hopefully not.

In THE SELF HEALING COOKBOOK, Kristina Turner writes “Everyone has minor symptoms. Aches and pains, tension, upset stomachs, headaches, skin eruptions, mood swings, occasional colds, and flu … A self-healing lifestyle starts with recognizing that minor symptoms don’t just happen TO us. We have an active hand in creating them, by the choices we make in our daily lives.

AND, let’s not make ourselves feel guilty for the choices of the past.  Let’s rise above and simply learn and grow.  

That was then, this is now.

Today, I take an honest look at where I am in terms of physical self-abuse vs self-healing.

My practice of nonviolence starts with the treatment of my own body.

I make a commitment to start the self-healing today.

Today I stop one abusive behavior and replace it with a loving one. I change my relationship to myself and I change my relationship to all life.

I love myself enough to be kind to myself today.  And that includes forgiving myself for ALL my unloving choices in the past.

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