One of the great temptations of many spiritual students is to be alone with Spirit. In my experience, most of us, once we have begun to clear enough of the clutter in our heart, we yearn for more of that time alone in the secret place of the Most High. We yearn for communion.
Once we actively let go of the mountains of self-judgment through an active practice of self-forgiveness, we then have a capacity to be alone with Spirit. And that’s a very wonderful and nurturing practice. It’s deeply healing.
Sometimes, though, we can be hiding from people because being with people is so challenging. I can see in my own journey that it looks as though it’s been a process, although I’m certain that healing is not a process. Awakening is not a process. I can see now that healing is a decision.
Here are some of the major steps in my experience of healing and awakening to truth:
Step #1 – I made a decision to Love myself.
This was a true commitment that I actively practiced.
That decision started the ball rolling.
Next, began to take spiritual classes that taught me to pay and have active prayer partnerships.
Next, I decided to give up my judgments and opinions about everything and look for the truth. I made a commitment to off-load all the judgments and live without them.
Next, I furthered this commitment by deciding to forgive everything in my past, from this life or any other, whether I could remember it or not.
I did all of this so that I could focus on being loving in the present moment, in the NOW, where the Love actually is.
Along the way, I naturally stopped thinking about the past.
I stopped fantasizing.
I started thinking of myself as a servant in service to Love and Light.
I started to spend a lot more time in spiritual connection and community with others.
Along the way, I naturally stopped thinking about the past, because to judge is to be reliving the past. The more I give up judgment, the less I think about the past.
I stopped fantasizing. I realized that fantasy is like a drug to escape the present moment. When I’m not awake and aware in the present moment, then I cannot experience Love. I’m preventing myself from being healed when I fantasize, because Love is the healer and there’s no Love present in fantasy – not even in Love fantasies.
I started thinking of myself as a servant in service to Love and Light. I started to ask how I could be of higher service. I started to look for service opportunities – not to GET Love, but to share it.
I started to spend a lot more time in spiritual connection and community with others. More Prayer Partners. More spiritual connection with people who were like-minded.
In relationships, there’s so much learning.
Our relationships demand that we look at the effects of our thoughts, choices and actions. Relationships are the mirror that reflects back to us, continually.
I realized that when the mirror is reflecting back our self-attack and self-judgment, of course we want to run from the mirror.
I began to see that when other people are triggering me, and I think it’s because of their energy that I’m being brought low, I can realize that it’s not even possible.
Other people’s negativity doesn’t bring me down when I’m here to Love and teach only Love. In that case, their cry for Love lifts me up, because I can respond with Love.
Other people’s negativity only bothers me when I judge them for it. I had to learn how to discard my own negativity in order to be helpful. And that is how I proved that I will be healed as I let Spirit teach me to heal.
Through choosing to trust, I have proved that I don’t have to wonder worry what to say, where to go or what to do, because Spirit will direct and guide me.
I have discovered Peace through learning to live the teaching in what I call the My Purpose Prayer from A Course in Miracles:
I am here only to be truly helpful.
I am here to represent Him Who sent me.
I do not have to worry about what to say or what to do,
because He Who sent me will direct me.
I am content to be wherever He wishes,
knowing He goes there with me.
I will be healed as I let Him teach me to heal.
It’s challenging to believe that the life we’d really like to live can come from living this way, but it does. I see it over and over again with people in our classes.
I recognize that it’s challenging to believe that actually doing the work will bring the results that we’d like. That’s not the teaching of the world.
The teaching of the world is opposite to the teaching of Spirit. The world teaches us to look outside for the Kingdom, and Spirit tells us to look within.
ACIM tells us we’re afraid to look within because we judge ourselves as bad and unworthy.
It’s really way past time for us to still be hesitating to be the Light of the world because we don’t feel worthy. When we’re willing to be with others without judgment, we can easily see that all are worthy. It’s only our belief that some are not that keeps us from realizing that we, too, are worthy.
Gathering together with others is what my focus is. That’s why I don’t really do a lot of lecturing – I’d much rather be with others. That’s why I offer my weekly Sacred Circle, the Finding Freedom Boot Camp, Masterful Living yearlong course – all ways for us to gather together.
It’s why I stopped teaching my forgiveness workshop in person and started doing it online. It’s why I prefer to do retreats and trainings, rather than conferences.
I like to get into the work and do it together for maximum healing. In the Power of Love Ministry, we’re moving toward hosting more and more gatherings online, and maybe in person, offering opportunities for us to heal together.
One of the things that is the most wonderful for me is when I do retreats. There are always people who come up to me on the breaks and have so much excitement and tears of gratitude who tell me that they had long believed that “I was the only one.” There’s so much healing we can have when we join together.
I’d like to encourage you to find ways to join together and do the work with others as much as you can. Yes, you’ll have to get out of your comfort zone sometimes, and you’ll have to confront your own judgments – but is there really ANY comfort zone when we’re identified with the ego, with feeling bad and wrong?
In my experience, it’s much easier to look at what we perceive as darkness when we can go together and hold each others’ hands.
Linda Soto, one of our Spiritual Counselors, shared this wonderful quote with me in a conversation we were having about this the other day:
“The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.” ~Joseph Campbell
Our hearts are the cave we fear to enter, because we’ve stored so much regret, resentment, judgment, blame and shame in there. When I made the decision to learn to Love myself, I made a decision to enter that cave. I wish I could have had you with me then. We could have gone together – and that is why I now am such a fan of doing this really deep work – the work we resist, and put off, and fear – together. It’s just easier together. And, more fun.
“Yet you cannot make yourself unworthy because you are the treasure of God…” A Course in Miracles
Our Higher Holy Spirit Self will clear out the cave, if we are willing. We must be willing, and that means actually calling it forth, allowing it to happen. We must get out of the way and really say YES.
Today is the perfect day to say,m “Yes!” Let’s do it together!
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